“Science Says – – -” – – – ADD Tip O the Day 639

Some ADD ADHD Science

I’ve been collecting scientific tidbits.  Much of this is from Dr. Margolis, Dr. Mason and other articles:

ADD ADHD kids have a high risk of substance abuse.  The medications reduce that to about the normal average.   The same is true for adolescents and accidents and arrests.

Most people with ADD ADHD do not abuse the medications.

College kids with ADD ADHD do not abuse the stimulants but many share them or sell them.  Many non ADD ADHD kids use them inappropriately to help study. There is also misuse of other medications in colleges.

In most young adults without ADD ADHD stimulants make little improvement in performance but give people the illusion that they are doing better.  They can help college kids stay up all night but they won’t perform better.

Marijuana makes ADD ADHD worse.

Medications:

Alpha blockers (non stimulants – clonidine, guanfacine) can help with hyperactivity, not so much with other symptoms.

Vyvanse is the best selling ADD ADHD medication.

The percentage of adults using the medications has risen to be similar to children.

Diagnosis:

In states that held teachers and schools accountable for performance before No Child Left Behind (NCLB), the % of low income children diagnosed with ADD ADHD has not risen recently.  In states where they were not  held accountable before NCLB it has, except in states where schools and teachers are not allowed to recommend meds.  (I am no fan of NCLB.  These teachers are under tremendous pressure, often without any means of achieving required goals.  Don’t get me started.)

When diagnosing ADD ADHD, we must rule out vitamin and iron deficiency, hyperthyroidism, vision and hearing problems, central auditory processing disorder (often present with ADD ADHD but not part of it).

Many people with other disorders (depression, bipolar, anxiety, etc.) also have ADD ADHD.  People with ADD ADHD have a higher incidence of those disorders, as well as substance abuse and criminality.

All patients with Tourettes syndrome also have ADD ADHD ( I had no idea!).

Brain Imaging:

In children with ADD ADHD there is less cortex in brain areas related to control of attention.  These areas do not light up with tasks as they do in vanillas.  There is also less activation of areas associated with inhibiting responses, but in some there is increased activity (go figure).

About half of these kids improve around adolescence. Their cortex has normalized. Not in the rest of us.

doug

Bonus Links:

Science?

Science or hash?

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ADD ADHD and Decisions — ADD Tip O the Day 638

With ADD ADHD we have more trouble making decisions than vanillas do.  There may be many reasons for this.  We have shaky self esteem and maybe fear making another mistake.  Maybe there are just too many choices.  But part of the problem is our misconceptions about decisions.

We act as though there is a Right Answer engraved in stone somewhere and it’s up to us to figure it out.

If it’s that hard to decide, then probably there’s no right answer.  It’s a toss up.

If you’ve done a reasonable amount of homework and made a decision and it turns out badly, that doesn’t mean you made a mistake.  It just means you made a reasonable choice that didn’t turn out well.

You can’t ask every adviser, read every article, google every possibility.  You’ll just get more confused and you’ll never make a decision.  You’ll miss a lot of opportunities.

So do a reasonable amount of homework,taking a reasonable amount of time.  Not too much (obsessing, procrastinating ) nor too little (impulsive). If you still can’t decide, flip a coin.  Then stick with your decision.  No second guessing.

Homey has some good suggestions about this, including listing pros and cons (I love lists) and setting limits  Set a time limit, a research limit, a choices to  consider limit.

All of this applies to the many choices we have to make, large and small, including setting priorities.

doug

Quote O the Day:

“At some point you have to stop doing research and decide.”

Homey

Comment O the Day:

Every morning we wake up with a certain amount of psychic energy.  Every time we make a choice or decision or exercise any willpower, we burn some up.  Then there’s less available for the next challenge.  Aint that a booger?

from homey – on how to make decisions                              

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ADD ADHD work arounds.

Bonus Link:

Too many choices

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Some Days Are Just Like That When You Have ADD ADHD — ADD Tip O the Day 637

ADD ADHD Paralysis

Homey just wrote a good ADD ADHD post about having an unproductive day.  I’m bouncing off her post:

Some days I just can’t seem to get going, can’t get any traction.

Strategy 1:

Try to figure out what the problem is:

Do I have too much to do? Feeling overwhelmed? Something I don’t want to do? Didn’t get enough sleep?  Bad attitude?  I can use strategies (often small steps strategy) to deal with some of these.

That doesn’t always work.

Strategy 2:

Pick any very small very easy task and do it, just to break the deadlock and get moving.

That doesn’t always work.

Strategy 3:

“Screw it.”

Give up.  It ain’t gonna happen. Just let it go. Write the day off, goof off, relax, do nothing.  And be good to yourself, and no criticizing.  It’s OK.  Some days are just like that. 

Fortunately, not very many.

doug

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Accomplishments! Even with ADD ADHD.

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Relationships, Including Marriage, and ADD ADHD — ADD Tip O the Day 636

For ease, I’ll talk about marriage  but this applies to all intimate relationships.

Things they don’t tell you

Marriage is hard work.

Especially if one of you has ADD ADHD.

Quote O the Day

The only thing worse than being married is not being married.

Things I’ve Learned (Often the Hard Way)

Intimate relationships stir up our old stuff.  This give us the chance to work it out.  It also can lead to divorce.

The key to relationship is communication.  Easy to say.

A communication strategy- listen, ask questions, make sure you really understand the other’s point before responding.   Another:  be clear that feelings and perceptions are as important as fact.  Maybe more.

We each have different tolerances and desires about closeness/distance.  This underlies many relationship conflicts that may seem to be about something else.

We enter relationships with different expectations.  These are usually just assumed and unspoken and often unconscious.   The sooner they can be spelled out and negotiated the better.  There should be a law requiring premarital discussions of : how will we resolve disagreements, who does which chores, how will money be handled, how will children be raised, how will we deal with in-laws, what kind of sex life do we want.  Have you had these conversations yet?

You cannot make the other person happy, no matter how hard you try.  And that’s not your job.  But you  can make them unhappy.

Some things are not worth taking a stand or arguing about.  Some things are.  Strategy: let the little ones go.

Men and women are different. Learning about this can greatly improve your relationship.

The One Year Course On Marriage/Relationships

the ADHD effect on marriage – orlov
the dance of anger – lerner
men are from mars, women from venus – gray
love is never enough-beck
I dont want to talk about it – real
getting the love you want – hendricks
one of John Gottmans many books
disarming the past – lewis

ideally, read these together and discuss them as you go.

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Does ADD ADHD make it harder to listen?

doug

Bonus Links – these are worth checking out

5 things that can poison a relationship

adhd-doesnt-cause-divorce-denial-does from Melissa

20 things to remember if you love a person with ADHD.  from June

10 things not to do  from June

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ADD ADHD and Reading? or “Reading” — ADD Tip O the Day 635

Sometimes I read and sometimes I “read.”

Dyslexia

We ADDers have an increased incidence of dyslexia.  Both ADD ADHD and dyslexia result from faulty brain wiring.  Do I have dyslexia?  A lot of times I get numbers or letters transposed.  If I write down a phone number, I need a strategy – check again to see if I got it right, then check one more time to see if I can read it.

Also in my appointment book – I’m working on making sure that what I write is legible. Otherwise on Thursday I’ll spend half the day worrying about – 1:00 Ghdllsqs.  Unless my wife can figure it out for me.

But I’ve always read a lot and enjoy it.  I’m a good reader.  But sometimes I “read.”

“Reading”

Recently I wanted to buy a small edition of the new DSMV.  I looked it up on the net and found one – except the description didn’t sound quite right.  I was in a hurry and I was “reading” it, skimming over it. I do that a lot with things I’m not real interested in, especially if they’re long.   I just “read” it and  I didn’t listen to the little voice -“You need to check it again before you order it.”

“Clik”.

It came.  It wasn’t at all what I wanted.

I learn the same lesson over and over – “Listen to the little voice!”

doug

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Life with ADD ADHD

Joke O the Day:

Did you hear about the dyslexic who walked into a rab –

Bonus Links:

Homey on motivation

James Clear on exercise

ADD ADHD and Reading

ADD ADHD and Learning Disabilities

Reading or Not with ADD ADHD

 

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Better Sleeping Through Technology, with or without ADD ADHD – ADD Tip O the Day 634

Sleep is an essential part of ADD ADHD management

So Jerry Bair gave me this guest post.  He is a tech whiz, so his approach is a little different.   Here it is:

 

Top 10 Tech Hacks To Give Your Body The Sleep It Deserves
July 30, 2015 by J.J. Bair Leave a Comment

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Did you know that you can improve your ability to gain new insights into complex problems by 50% with 8 hours of quality sleep?
I had two immediate thoughts when I first read this statistic. The first was: “Who in the world gets 8 hours of quality sleep these days?” The second was that they specifically mention “quality” in front of the word “sleep.” For those that don’t know, “quality sleep” is basically referring to the amount of time spent in REM or deep sleep, the stages where your body recharges and consolidates.
That being said, many people don’t have the option to sleep eight hours a night, and for those that do, many prefer to use that time for other things. I’ll admit that I’m guilty of the latter sometimes.
So, it stands that if we can’t get enough sleep in terms of quantity, then we should focus instead on quality. There are many natural and supplementary ways to do this, but being the “techy” I am, I figured it would be nice to show people what’s out there from a technology perspective.
Here you go…

Top 10 Tech Hacks for Better Sleep
1 Sleep as Android
Top 10 Tech Hacks for Better Sleep | Sleep as Android

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Use this app to keep track of your sleep quality and wake up in a light sleep phase so you’re less groggy (for Android)

2 Sleep Cycle alarm clock
Top 10 Tech Hacks for Better Sleep | Sleep Cycle alarm clock

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This is another smart alarm clock that tracks your sleep and wakes you in your lightest phase of sleep, so you wake up feeling rested. (for iOS)

3 ResMed S+
Top 10 Tech Hacks for Better Sleep | ResMed S+

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The S+ is a non-contact sleep system including a bedside sleep sensor, smartphone app, and web-based app. It tracks and analyzes your sleep patterns, then gives you personalized feedback on how you can improve your sleep.

4 Withings Aura
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Withings Aura is similar to the S+ in that it’s also contactless and analyzes your sleep patterns to help you get the best sleep quality. This bundle comes with a sensor that slides under your mattress, a cool-looking bedside device with light/sound programs, and a smartphone app.

5 SleepRate
Top 10 Tech Hacks for Better Sleep | SleepRate

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The SleepRate Sleep Improvement Kit comes with a proprietary app (for iOS) and wireless heart rate sensor that goes across your chest. Wearing this sensor during your sleep helps assess your sleep patterns and possible sleep disruptions.

6 Hexoskin
Top 10 Tech Hacks for Better Sleep | Hexoskin

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Hexoskin’s biometric shirt tracks a multitude of health and fitness metrics. Plus, it looks like something a Navy Seal would wear. As far as sleep tracking goes, wearing this to bed allows you to monitor resting heart rate, breathing, and even sleep positions.

7 Somnus Sleep Shirt
Top 10 Tech Hacks for Better Sleep | Somnus Sleep Shirt

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Say hello to the Nyx Devices Somnus Sleep Shirt, a biometric shirt which was born from technology made at MIT. This shirt has sensors that, when paired with the SleepLogger app, allow you to track and optimize the quality and quantity of your sleep.

8 Basis Peak
Top 10 Tech Hacks for Better Sleep | Basis Peak

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Is the Basis Peak the Ultimate Sleep and Fitness Tracker? It’s definitely up there. This sweet-looking smart watch monitors a multitude of fitness and sleep metrics, keeps you socially connected, provides built-in coaching, and streams your data to various other iPhone and Android apps. As far as sleep goes, it tracks sleep duration, REM and deep sleep and sleep disruptions to help you optimize your sleep quality.

9 Bulletproof Sleep Induction Mat

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The Bulletproof Sleep Induction Mat claims to help you fall asleep faster, feel more refreshed, and improve overall energy levels. According to the site, It’s about the size of your pillowcase and can be rolled up when you need to take it on the road.

10 Low-Blue Nightlight
Top 10 Tech Hacks for Better Sleep | Low-Blue Nightlight

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Do you toss and turn, or wake up a lot in the middle of the night? The Low-Blue Night Light has a custom amber LED bulb that doesn’t emit any blue light which can trick your brain into thinking it’s still daytime. The F.lux desktop app works similarly in reducing blue light exposure in the evenings.
Better Sleep is awaiting…
Now that you’ve had a chance to go through the Top 10 tech hacks for better sleep, what were your favorites? Were there any missing that you think should’ve been on the list? Share your thoughts below.

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Thanks, Jerry.      

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A Typical Day With ADD ADHD: Where in the world does the time go? — ADD Tip O the Day 633

My Typical ADD ADHD Day
Sleeping 6 hrs      Trying to sleep 2 hrs
Quiet time   .5 hr
Exercise  1 hr
Shower shave dress teeth bathroom  1hr
Eating 3 hrs                                       Thinking about eating – all the time
Looking for something I just had in my hand  1 hr
Looking for things I put where I could easily find them  1 hr
Doctor’ s appointment  1.5 hr
Errands  1.5 hr
Getting lost going to appointment or errands  1 hr
Walking dog  1 hr.
Trying to figure out what to do  1 hr
Getting things done  2 hr
Cleaning up messes I made doing things 1hr
Making explanations and/or apologies to wife  1hr

Total 25.5 hrs – No wonder I feel so busy!

Strategy

It does help to do an occasional time analysis and see where our time is going.  Sometimes we realize some activities don’t have enough payoff to justify the time we’re giving them.   Also, if we make a list of our values, what’s important to us, then we can check to see if our time allotments are congruent with our values.

doug

Bonus Links:

Homey on time management

Time and ADD ADHD

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Eastern time, Central time, Mountain time, Western time, ADD ADHD time.

 

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Flyfishing with ADD ADHD, and LIfe As She Is — ADD Tip O the Day 632

Is fly fishing a metaphor for life with ADD ADHD?

I don’t think fly fishing is as hard as they say, but with ADD ADHD it sure can be harder.

When you are fly fishing, there are many things that could possibly happen.  You could catch fish.  Your could lose your fly in a tree, or weeds, or on rocks. Your line could get tangled up on itself, on your rod, on you.  You could hook a person. You could hook yourself.  In the hand, or the ear, or the face, or just your clothes or equipment.  You could break your rod. And you could fall in.

Do you see where I’m going with this?

Ain’t life just like that?

Strategies:

1. When I’m fishing I try to pay attention to everything I’m doing, all the time, not be off thinking about something else. Awareness, being present, being in the moment.

2. Do it right.  Every time. Not just kinda, not OK, but right.

3. Don’t get fancy.  That’s the other time, besides inattentive, that I tend to mess up.

4. Accept that untangling line and losing a fly now and then is just part of the process.  Revel in the time I actually catch some fish.  (Saturday, I caught 7, by the way, and five of them were BIG).

5. Remember that with patience you can usually untangle a tangled line.  Patience is not one of my strong points.  Sometimes you just have to cut the line and start over.

6. I try to be careful, but that’s not necessarily a good strategy for ADD ADHD.  Maybe it’s too general.

7. I talk to myself, talking my way through what I’m doing and through these strategies- “Ok, now do this right.

Application to real life (or, why am I telling you this?):

Can you think of any other situations in life where these strategies might apply? Would driving a car be an example? Any others?

Next post:

I have just read two posts that are so good I might just copy them.  Save me some time and trouble and I could do some more fishing.  Or would that not be following the strategies?  But I don’t think we need to be that compulsive all the time or in every situation.

One is Homey’s on motivation and the other is James Clear on The Rebound Effect. Really good!  And my wife just showed me another one- David Brooks on gratitude.  None of these are specifically about ADD ADHD but they all apply.  I will try to get them to you.

doug

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This is kind of like fly fishing with ADD ADHD.

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Your Genes and Your ADD ADHD — ADD Tip O the Day 631


 

Causes and Courses of ADD ADHD

Interesting article from JAMA Psychiatry July 2015 by Pingault, et al.  I don’t really understand the article, but here’s what I get out of it.

Genes and Environment and Their Interaction

Most psychiatric disorders have an environmental basis and a genetic basis.  The genetic basis usually consists of many genes, each adding only a small amount to the risk of developing the disorder.  In other words, if you don’t have some of these genes, you probably won’t get the disorder no matter what, and the more of them you have, the more likely you are to get it, depending on what happens in the environment. Scientists have spent a lot of time trying to find the single gene that causes a specific disorder and it’s generally not like that at all.

Epigenetics and Neurodevelopment

Some of the possible environmental factors for ADD ADHD (and other disorders) include pollution, alcohol, tobacco, toxins, medications, and stress.

This is epigenetics, where environmental factors affect the activity of the genes or even turn them on or off.

ADD ADHD is a neurodevelopmental disorder and studies show differences in our  brains compared to non ADD AHD brains.  So genes and environment affect the development of the developing brain and these factors continue to have effects after development is complete, except that it never really is.

The Course of ADD ADHD

Some ADD ADHD children get better or well, others persist or get worse.  One set of genes determines how severe the ADD ADHD will be at first and a different set determines what the longer term course will be.  Further, different sets of genes may be affecting the ADD ADHD at different times over development.  This is a new concept to me.

Hyperactive/impulsive symptoms tend to get better after early childhood.  Inattentive symptoms tend to get worse in early childhood and then persist or get slightly better. But these are just tendencies and the course can be quite different in different people.  The differences are thought to be correlated with different paths of development in the brain.  The thin cortex of ADD ADHD in certain areas tends to normalize with time in some people and not in others, and these latter are the ones with continuing symptoms.

Late Onset ADD ADHD?

Just to make it more complicated, another study by Moffitt indicates some adults develop ADD ADHD without having it in childhood and have a somewhat different course than the rest of us.  I am doubtful about this one.

New Concept

And I have just found a new concept. The genes continue to turn on and off (or get more or less active) throughout life, not just in earliest development.  So we are born with one set of genes and that doesn’t change, but the set of genes that are actually affecting you at 20 years old can be quite different from the ones affecting your brain development as a fetus, or at 5 or at 15.  Genetically, you could be like a whole different person.  Amazing!  Complicated!

doug

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We have some scientists out there.  Please offer corrections, clarifications and comments.  Thanks

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Genes and ADD ADHD: those pesky little boogers!

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Can we blame our chromosomes for our ADD ADHD?

 

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ADD ADHD and the Benefits of Fidgeting — ADD ADHD Tip O the Day 630

Can’t Concentrate With ADD ADHD

We were at a Wagner opera, which I love.  But I had a lot on my mind (what else is new?) and I wasn’t able to concentrate on the opera.  I was missing a lot of the enjoyment of it.  Then I started tapping my foot in time to the music or even tapping when there was no music.  Suddenly I was able to focus!

Fidget

I used to get all over our son Duane when he fidgeted at the dinner table.  Bugged me.  But was I fidgeting too?  I usually am.  Waiting at a restaurant, I play with the silverware until my wife tells me to stop.  Then I play with my water glass or jiggle my leg. Until she tells me to stop that.  Then I get the cork out of my pocket and squeeze it.  That doesn’t bother anybody.

Do you have some special fidgets to share?

The Science of Fidgeting

Recent posts describe an experiment with ADD ADHD children who were asked to do a difficult task. The  children who fidgeted more did better at the task than those who fidgeted less.

But with science, you have to be careful.  Did the fidgeting help with the concentration? I think so.  But what if the non-fidgeters were using up part of their concentration to sit still?

doug

Links:

Fidgeting Helps

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ADD ADHD medicine usually helps.

Longer Article On Fidgeting

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I know you have ÁDD ADHD, but could you stop that?

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With ADD ADHD, we’re gonna fidget!

 

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ADD ADHD and Marriage or Similar Relationships — ADD Tip O the Day 629

With ADD ADHD, Relationships Are Hard

In older couples, the divorce rate is twice that of vanillas.  According to Melissa Orlov, the major problem is undiagnosed and untreated ADD ADHD.

Quote O the Day:

“You have to be a superwoman to be married to a man with ADD.”

Martha Puryear, married to an ADDer

I wrote this down when she said it but I couldn’t find it til just now.  Know what I mean?

Problem O the Day

We have the cocktail hour every evening, together time.  It bugs my wife that I can’t sit still for it for very long.  But I do better if we’re outside or in a restaurant.   I think it’s the extra stimulation.

Strategy

Sorry to say I haven’t really come up with one yet.  There’s gotta be a strategy for this.  Any suggestions?   The cork in my pocket helps sometimes.  I’m working on the problem.

doug

5 things that can poison a relationship

adhd-doesnt-cause-divorce-denial-does from Melissa

20 things to remember if you love a person with ADHD.  from June

10 things not to do  from June

The ADHD Effect On Marriage  by Melissa Orlov

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Listening with ADD ADHD.

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The ADD ADHD listener in action. Think about it.

 

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ADD ADHD and reliability. I am responsible, I’m just not reliable.

 

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A Brilliant New ADD ADHD Strategy! — ADD Tip O the Day 628

With ADD ADHD We Need Strategies, But – There’s  Puryear’s Principles of Human Nature #1:

When you struggle and struggle with a problem and you finally find something that works, the next thing you do is stop doing it.

The Rule

I need to keep my to-do list, which is on my red index card, down to five things.  Otherwise I feel overwhelmed, can’t decide where to start, and procrastinate.

The Problem

But I started putting everything on the red card – to-do’s, people’s names or phone numbers, ideas for the blog – anything that I needed to jot down.  I tried to stop doing this but I couldn’t.  My rule wasn’t working.  The red card was the easiest one to pull out of my pocket and the one with the most empty space and the one that isn’t semi-permanent.

Stuck

So I thought of the strategy of getting a different colored card and using it  for writing things down.  Then later I could transfer them to the right card, or do them, or whatever.  But there are only so many colors and they were all assigned to some function.   Stuck!

The Strategy

Then I realized that my appointment book is always in my pocket also and it’s easy to find..  So I put a yellow sticky in the front of it.  Everything that needs jotting down goes on that. 

Brilliant!     

The Principles    

1. If you can identify something specific as a problem you can come up with a strategy to solve it.  

2, When what you’re doing isn’t working, do something different.         

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ADD ADHD Appointment book and cards. Essential tools.


doug 

Note: OK, you’re probably using tech for this.  How can you apply the strategy and keep your to- do list short?

Bonus Link:

from Pat- 10 things to do with your family – good understanding of people with ADD ADHD, and if your kid has it you may have it, too, and vice versa.  That’s genetics!

 

 

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Organizing with ADD ADHD, and Much Much More! by Homey— ADD Tip O the Day 627

Organizing with a planner for ADD ADHD

Homey is THE planner maven.  In her great blog about homemaking, cleaning, cooking, etc, she tells all about planners. 

Homey uses planners the way I use index cards, plus more.  A lot of her posts have  ADD ADHD application beyond what she’s writing about.  For example, her strategies for housecleaning are useful strategies for all kinds of things.

So I’m very pleased to have Homey’s guest post here.  See how you might apply this beyond just using a planner.

doug

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Homey, the ADD ADHD Planner Maven

Five Ways A Planner Helps My ADD/ADHD

 

Time management has always been a struggle for me, but never more so than after I quit my job to stay home and raise my children.  Taking care of only myself was doable, but adding two children and a husband “tipped me over” as Doug would say.

 

I quickly learned that I needed help in order to make life work, and that help came in the form of my planner.  Thinking back, I always thought I used my planner really well but when I actually looked at my archived pages (I have them from 1993 on), that wasn’t the case at all.  My planner use was inconsistent.  But you know what?  For me, inconsistent was better than nothing.  Inconsistent planning helped me way more than having no planner at all.

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Homey’s Planner for ADD ADHD

 

In case you’re wondering how my planner helped me cope with ADD/ADHD, here are 5 ways (and I have more!):

 

1.       My planner helps me plan more realistically.  As is the case with most folks with ADD, we think we can do way more than we actually can.  Keeping my planner up to date and using a daily page helps me see how much time I actually have.  That helps me plan realistically.

 

2.       Putting information on paper gets it out of my head.  My head is a very busy place.  I have SO much going on in there and sometimes it seems like it might explode.  But if I take the time to write things down as I think of them, I clear the way for more thoughts and ideas and my brain never gets overloaded.  I trust my planner so I know if I put the information in there, I can let it out of my head because it’s safe in my planner.

 

3.       My planner helps me focus.  Like most of us, I either focus too much or not enough.  Having a plan for the day, and having it written down in my planner, helps me remember what I should be doing.  It’s not magic – having it written down doesn’t guarantee I’ll do it, but there’s a greater chance if it’s written down than if I’m winging it.

 

4.       My planner helps me keep track of time.   Doug talked about how he has calendars in several locations in his house because he has a slippery grasp of time.  I do, too.  If I’m not looking at my calendar on a regular basis, I can lose track of what day it is, what month it is, what year it is and what’s going on that I need to pay attention to.  And an event that’s four months away sneaks up on me and I’m not prepared. Having a planner helps me keep track of what time it is and what’s going on.

 

5.       My planner helps me sleep.  I struggle with insomnia.  I can’t turn my brain off at night.  But I’ve noticed that if I’ve spent some quality time with my planner before I go to bed at night and made a plan for the next day, I have a better chance of sleeping.  I know everything’s covered for today and I have a plan for tomorrow and my brain can relax a bit and let me sleep.

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Inside Homey’s ADD ADHD Planner

 

These are 5 ways my planner helps me with my ADD/ADHD.  I’m sorry to say that every now and then I get tired of using it (bored, probably) and tell my family I’m going to stop using a planner.  They freak out!  They know that my world and theirs falls apart when I don’t use a planner.

 

I used to think I had a great memory but my son pointed out to me that I had a terrible memory but I had a great system.  And my system is one of the most important strategies I use for managing my ADHD. 

Patty 

http://homemakersdaily.com

Bonus Link:

Homey’s Hundred Helpful Housemaking Hints

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Homemaking with ADD ADHD
 
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Procrastination, Stigma, and Heroes — ADD Tip O the Day 626

ADD ADHD and Procrastination and Father’s Day has come and gone.

I meant to do a great post for Father’s Day, about genetics and ADD ADHD.   I probably got mine from my grandfather.  My father maybe had a touch.  My mother could blurt out some truly awful things but I didn’t see anything else to suggest ADD ADHD.

I meant to do a great post for Father’s Day.  Have you heard of procrastination?

I was on top of July 4th though.

Let’s honor the American heroes who risked all they had, including their lives, in the cause of liberty.  And let’s honor their wives and children who were also at risk.

While we’re at it, let’s honor all those who sacrificed so much in the cause of civil rights, especially  Goodman, Scherner, Chaney, Medgar Evers and all those others who gave their lives.

Let’s honor the gay rights and GLBT activists who have also sacrificed much and achieved  so much.

So what about ADD ADHD?

Well, there is still stigma, isn’t there?  And how do we fight stigma and ignorance?  By coming out, like the GLBTs.  None of us have the right to tell anyone else that they should come out – it can be at risk of job, relationships, ridicule.  Everyone has to make their own decision.

But it is by our coming out that the stigma is defeated.

doug

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Who do we tell about our ADD ADHD and when?

 

 

#stigma  #endthestigma  #add #adhd @dougmkpdp @addstrategies

 

 

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Help With ADD ADHD From Technology— ADD Tip O the Day 625

Technologically Challenged

As most of you know, I am technologically challenged.  Therefore I’m very pleased to have this guest blog from Jerry Bair.  Please comment on your experience with using his tech recommendations or any others.

doug

One Super Easy Tech Trick To Make Your To-Do Lists More Doable

Have you ever stared at a to-do list not knowing how you or when you were going to fit everything into your already-chaotic schedule? Are you burned out by constantly switching between your calendars, tasks, and to-do lists?

I’ll admit… Over the last six months, I’ve taken off a bit more than I can chew. I was really ambitious and took on several new adventures in my life, like martial arts, finishing my degree, and a revamp of my blog.

I felt confident that I could do it all, but quickly ran into some technical challenges – to-do lists in too many places, multiple calendars, missed meetings, tasks that seemed to disappear into a black hole… As a result, I was frequently stressed, irritable, and felt like I was always playing “catch-up”…

It’s no surprise. Having ADHD, I sometimes tend to be “too” positive and underestimate the amount of involvement or work required for new initiatives. However, being a techy, challenges like these often inspire me with ideas for potential solutions. With this particular problem, I realized I was racking up my to-do list, but not scheduling a time to do many of the tasks, which created tons of schedule conflicts and many things not even getting done. My most productive days, like most people, are when I create a task, and slot it to get done. This was an essential insight to the solution below.

My top time & task managers:
• Wunderlist – to-do list manager supported on multiple platforms   Wunderlist
• Google Calendar – my preferred calendar on-the-go  Google Calendar
• MS Outlook – my desktop calendar at work and home (synchronized with GCal)  GCal       MS Outlook

Keeping up with these seems like it would be pretty simple, but like any technology, when you focus too much on one, you tend to neglect the other. My solution: Send my Wunderlist tasks to my Google Calendar. I already have my Google Calendar visible within Outlook, so this step would essentially unify them. In short, it would let me see all to-do’s, tasks, and meetings in one single calendar view.

The benefits of this:
• instant visibility to important tasks
• easier planning at the start of your day
• a consistent view across all your personal and mobile devices
• faster prioritization of upcoming tasks and meetings

I do realize that there are some people who have twice the number of calendar feeds as I do, and therefore, may use a different approach to their workflow. However, if you’re looking for a way to bridge the gap, look no further!

Here is the specific link to synchronizing Wunderlist with Google Calendar, Outlook and/or iCal: link[Estimated time to complete: <5 minutes]

Important Note: As of June 2nd, 2015, Wunderlist has joined the Microsoft family, so expect to see a lot more functionality and feature integration in the near future!

What type of time and task management tools do you use? How do you bridge the gap and stay on top of both your meetings and to-do’s?

If you have trouble with procrastination, follow-through, or even basic time management, download the free Breaking Through Procrastination Workbook at jj-bair.com.

Comment;

I hope you liked this and will comment. @addstrategies  @dougmkpdp  #add #adhd

doug                    

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Another gift moment from ADD ADHD

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Attitudes in ADD ADHD – Warning: Intimate Material, Viewer Discretion Advised— ADD Tip O the Day 624

Warning – Intimate Material, Viewer Discretion Advised

We with ADD ADHD tend to say, and do, inappropriate things. This material may be inappropriate, but it’s such a good illustration of the effect of attitude that I have to share it.

Attitude

The new age theory is that we create our own reality. Here is an example.

Since I closed my practice I don’t take showers as often.  I don’t think frequent showers are good for our skin, especially in this dry climate. And I understand that the French don’t bathe daily.  But my main reason was my ADD ADHD obsession with time.  I dreaded and resented the loss of the time it took to  shower. The time loss is what I focused on.

But my wife was not entirely happy with my new approach.  So I’ve resumed  the daily shower.  But I changed my focus.  The warm water feels really good on my skin. I focus on that. So now, instead of resentment and dread, I enjoy the showers and look forward to them.

It’s about attitude.  And that is one of the things we have some control over.

doug

PS I hope this hasn’t offended anyone. We’re all adults, after all.

Bonus Link:

Jenna’s tips on coping with stress

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The ADD ADHD Trap of Expectations — ADD Tip O the Day 623

What Can I Expect?

With ADD ADHD we have so many things we’re interested in and it’s hard to say no to any of them.  It’s hard to say no to ourselves.

My daily routine includes brushing my teeth, quiet time, and exercise.  I was missing the quiet time occasionally but then my spiritual adviser told me it was “non-negotiable.” I’ve used “non-negotiable” as my motto ever since and rarely miss a day.

I actually can’t exercise every day either, but by having that as a goal I get in at least 4 times a week.

I had a goal of doing some guitar, Spanish, book marketing and writing every day.  At bedtime I would record in my notebook – E,G,Sp,Mkt,Wrt  – or whichever ones I had gotten done.

It’s taken me several years to realize that this is absolutely impossible.  My expectations were just unrealistic.

Duh!

With ADD ADHD we not only want to do everything, we also expect way too much of ourselves.

Strategies:

Goals need to be reasonable and achievable.  Otherwise we just set ourselves up for frustration and demoralization.

It works better to set goals too low rather than too high.  Then we can feel good about achieving them and maybe we can go on and do more –     “Wow! I not only got it done but I exceeded my goal!”

Instead of trying to do each one of those every day (guitar, Spanish, book marketing, and writing) I’m  scheduling one of them each day and trying to be sure that that one gets done at least.

Irrelevant Note:

I titled this “expectations” because that’s really the focus of it and I’ve written a lot on goals recently.

doug

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Multitasking – one of the ADD ADHD gifts?

A whole bunch of other posts on goals (or expectations).  Do you really expect to check them all out?

goals

Can we use goals?

goals and Self Abuse

goals and overdoing

Goals #2

Goals #3

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What Having ADD ADHD Is Like — ADD Tip O the Day 622

Living With ADD ADHD

One of the painful things about having ADD ADHD is that people who don’t have it can’t understand what it’s like.  They may recognize some of the symptoms and problems and they may know what it’s like to live with someone with ADD ADHD, but-

they can’t imagine what it’s like living with it.

“Sonny, I don’t have time to explain marriage to you, and even if I did, you wouldn’t understand. They tried to explain it to me and I didn’t understand it and if I tried to explain it to you, you wouldn’t understand it either.”

        One petty crook to another younger petty crook, a paraphrased quote from Friends of Eddie Coyle by George V Higgins.  Part played by Robert Mitchum in the movie.

So, I’m saying it’s kind of like that with ADD ADHD too.

But there are some pretty good descriptions we could share with them.  Worth a try?

      What having ADD ADHD is like

      Lisa On Life with ADD  – (First of Three Parts)

 

Denial of ADD ADHD

This problem of not understanding is related of course to the problem of those who deny the existence of ADD ADHD.  Part of the difference is that it’s hard for me to have any sympathy for those people.

doug

Bonus Link:

Nice collection of ADD ADHD Tips

Twitter?

#add #ADHD @addstrategies

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So you know all about so called ADD ADHD?

 

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ADD ADHD and Choices: What to do!? What to do!? – – – ADD Tip O the Day 621

Too Many Options:

There are so many ways to market ADD ADHD books.

I can:

1. do my ADD AHD blog posts Tuesday and Saturday.This is hard work but I enjoy it and I think it’s helping some people. I’m not sure that it’s selling books.

2. put my posts on Facebook.  This seems to attract a lot of hits to the blog. Is it selling books?

3. same thing for LinkedIn.

4. StumbleUpon doesn’t seem to do anything anymore. So I quit.

5.  try to learn how to use Twitter #add #adhd.  I have two addresses (?) but I’m not sure what they are #addadults #adhdadults #addstrategies #adhdstrategies.  And I’m not clear how this works.

So I’ve just ordered three books about Twitter.  Now I’ll have trouble deciding which one to start with and sticking with it.  Why three?  Because I’m not good at making choices and because anything I do I tend to overdo and because I don’t have the patience to just get one and then if I’m not happy with it to order another. Does that sound like maybe – oh, I don’t know – ADD ADHD or something?

Fish Or Cut Bait

The internet is filled with good posts with all kinds of marketing tips. I keep saving them into a folder.  I’ve also downloaded lots of  good free booklets into the folder. I just haven’t had time to read any of them.  That folder must be bulging now.

I’m like my friends who have a great collection of ADD ADHD books but haven’t read any of them.  (That’s why I wrote very short chapters and encouraged folks to read just a bit at a time.)

Maybe its time to fish or cut bait.  In other words, stop collecting information and start using the information I have.

I am not good at making choices or setting priorities.

But for the moment I’ve decided to focus on Twitter.  (Focus???) I’m committing to learning how to use it.

We’ll see.

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I couldn’t decide which ADD ADHD picture to use.

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Bonus Links:

So Many Choices

More On Choices

Even More On Choices Plus a Really Good Long Article on Choices and Willpower- a Bonus Bonus

Question O the Day:

So how did you choose about the links?

Extraneous Notes O the Day That I Chose Not to Include In This Post But Here They Are Anyway:

I also have three other websites that I think I need to do something with.  But lets just stick with Twitter for the moment, right?

I’ve done the same collecting of free guitar lesson posts.  When will I ever use them?

You’d be amazed at the number of books,with discs included, on blues guitar that I have.

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ADD ADHD and Inattention and Quite Natural Mistakes — ADD Tip O the Day 620

 Inattention and ADD ADHD

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This is the dishwasher.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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This is the trash can.


 

 

 

 

 

They’re both in the kitchen.

You open a door on both of them.

You put things in both of them.

Do you see where I’m going with this?

 

A Natural Mistake

They really do look a lot alike.  Don’t they?

So wouldn’t it be only natural that someone might ——–?

Or do you think maybe it has something to do with ADD ADHD?

Inattention

If we are boys, we  are more likely to have the mixed type of ADD ADHD.

As we pass adolescence, our hyperactivity diminishes, although it doesn’t vanish.  There is usually enough of it left to be annoying to other people.  But our inattention symptoms predominate and cause us the most trouble.

Girls are more likely to have the inattentive type from the beginning.  And they may get worse in young adulthood and even worse after menopause.  But let’s hope not.

The meds can help but we still need strategies, and even then we are unlikely to achieve perfection.

doug

Bonus Links:

The ADHD Brain – good

Jenna on Time Wasters – excellent!

Sad Note O the Day:

I’m sorry to see that Bryan plans to shut down Adderworld.

Its been a great site for ADD ADHD and Bryan has been very helpful to me.

Thanks Bryan.

Attempt to Use Twitter O the Day:

This #ADD #ADHD post is supposed to show up on #adhdadults and #adhdstrategies or #addstrategies.  I’m still a little confused.  Do you know something about Twitter?

 

 

 

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ADD ADHD and Dyscoordination — ADD Tip O the Day 619

Clumsy, Clumsy, Clumsy – Is It ADD ADHD?

I reached for the glass, and…

– I reached too far and I knocked it over.

– I didn’t notice the glass between it and me and I knocked it over.

– I picked it up and it slipped out of my hand.

– I picked it up and my hand jerked and the wine went all over the table.

– I started to drink but I missed my lips and the wine went all over my shirt.

etc. etc. etc.

Anybody know what I’m talking about?

The ADD ADHD Brain

Clumsy is not in the list of symptoms of ADD ADHD but they often run together.

If we understand the science that shows that ADD ADHD is related to problems with the cerebellum and the basal ganglia and the circuits between them, it makes sense.  Both the cerebellum and the basal ganglia have the job of coordinating our movements.

Also, doesn’t it make sense that if part of our brain is miss wired it might have other effects in addition to causing our ADD ADHD and other parts of our brain might be miss wired as well?

A Helpmate – That’s One Strategy

“Be careful, Doug!”

My wife has the task of watching over me and trying to avert disasters.

“Move your glass back from the edge of the table, Doug.”  “Better tuck your napkin round your neck, Doug.” “You’re dragging your sleeve through your food, Doug!”

“Oh! You did it again, Doug.”

God only knows what it would be like without the supervision.  On the other hand, I don’t always fully appreciate it.

doug

Quote the Day: 

(After I asked my wife to describe what it’s like being married to someone with ADD ADHD) –

“Its indescribable!”

Bonus Links:

Bryan’s book Ten Things I Hate About ADHD

Bryan’s important message, good news and bad news about ADD ADHD

Lots about ADD ADHD – seems like the arguers think it has to be either meds or strategies.  Why not both?

Dr. Goodwin said that the purpose of the meds is to help you focus enough to use the strategies.

Clumsy and ADD ADHD      an old post, I didn’t just get clumsy yesterday. @ADD @ADHD @ADDstrategies @ADHDadults

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Why did you move my stuff again!?  You know that I can’t find —.
Oh.
I did?
Sorry.

 

 

 

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Who’s the Expert On ADD ADHD? — ADD Tip O the Day 618

With ADD ADHD We Need Experts

Who would you nominate?

Long Definition of Expert:

An expert  is someone widely recognized as a reliable source of technique or skill whose faculty for judging or deciding rightly, justly, or wisely is accorded authority and status by peers or the public in a specific well-distinguished domain. An expert, more generally, is a person with extensive knowledge or ability based on research, experience, or occupation and in a particular area of study.

Short Definition of Expert:

a person who has special skill or knowledge in some particular field; specialist; authority.

(Would we have to define “widely” or “extensive” or “special”?)

My Expertise

I’ve studied ADD ADHD a lot and have worked with ADD ADHD patients.   Mainly though, I have lived with it. And lived with it. And lived with it.

I don’t consider myself a scientific expert although I make an effort to stay knowledgeable.  And I don’t know a lot about ADD ADHD in kids.  (When I was a kid I didn’t know I had it.)

Some scientific experts are Drs. Farone, Barkley, Parker,  Mason and  Levin.  They don’t always agree with each other but seem to know what they’re talking about, based on scientific studies and not just opinion.

And most certified  coaches know about ADD ADHD.

If I am an expert it would be on strategies.

Strategies:

If we have ADD AHD we need strategies to help us cope and make our life better.  But we need to know how to devise strategies  and tweak them to fit our unique selves and unique situations, and we need to know how to use them.  I think those are the things I know something about.  An expert!

Should be, after all this time.

So, Tip O the Day:

Try to be sure your “expert” knows what they’re talking about.

Tip O the Day Number Two

It is up to you to educate yourself about ADD ADHD and become an expert too.  So, you’re reading this blog right now. Good for you!

doug

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ADD ADHD Strategies don’t always work out well.

Quote O the Day From Homey: 

” I only like change when it’s my idea & I only like noise when I’m making it.”

Bonus Links:

From Homey’s collection of tips: May 2015 Tips, Tricks & Techniques | Homemakersdaily

Strategies for Using Strategies

Stupid Question O the Day:

Does this do anything  #ADD #ADHD ? 

I’m not an expert on Twitter. I have to wait until my grandson gets back in town.

Irrelevant Comment O the Day:

The blog just reached 70,000 hits!   I’m excited!

Thank you all!

doug

 
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ADD ADHD and Focus, Or Not — ADD Tip O the Day 617

Can’t Focus?

Sometimes it’s said that those of us with ADD ADHD can’t focus. I believe it’s more accurate to say we can’t control our focus.

Often I can’t focus on things that are important but I can hyperfocus on other things.

Hyperfocus

Hyperfocus can be very useful. I can get a lot done. But it can be a real problem because I can’t control it. I can’t choose what to hyperfocus on and I can’t un hyperfocus when I need to.

I may have trouble focusing on this post and getting it started and sticking with it once I start instead of getting distracted into several other directions. But I can hyperfocus on a computer game for hours even though I eventually realize it’s a total waste of time.

” But just one more game. I bet I can do better this time.”

 “Focus Center” – A Hypothetical Part Of Our Brain

Most people’s  focus center is turned on  if something is important. 

Ours is turned on if something is personally interesting, novel, challenging or has an immediate heavy deadline and consequence. It may or may not be important.

Important is not important to us.

Strategies and Medications

The purpose of the medications is to help us focus.

Many of our strategies are aimed at dealing with this focus problem.

doug

Bonus Links

On focus and hyper focus from carolyn

“10 surprising signs you might have ADHD”       Not so surprising to me, but a good article

Question O the Day:

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Signs Of ADD ADHD

 Am I an expert on ADD ADHD?

I hope to address this question soon.

I hope to address a lot of things.

If I can just focus.

 

or learn to use twitter?  #ADD #ADHD

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Leave of Absence — No ADD ADHD Tip O the Day

I’ll be doing prison ministry Thursday thru Sunday so my next post, God willing, will be next tuesday.

But here are some good links i’ve been saving.

Thank you for your support, interest, reviews, and comments.

doug

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Another gift moment from ADD ADHD

Links

Time management tip from Dana

From Homey – another way to look at the ADD ADHD strategy of small steps

Attitude magazine on ADHD and food –  I think most of the information here is not bad; healthy diet is good for anyone, but i think most of it is not supported by scientific evidence.  Still, everyone is different, and some of these things might make a difference for some people with ADD ADHD.

Tidying

The full food coloring report

Question O the Day

Do you think I’m  being just a wee tiny bit over compulsive posting this instead of just waiting til Tuesday?

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ADD ADHD Terms and Definitions Controversy – ADD Tip o the Day 616

my mind  Joe recently posted on the net:

   “ADD/ADHD is FICTION – NOT A REAL DISEASE

GratefulEnergy Health Guide September 09, 2013
  • Before His Death, Father of ADHD Admitted it Was An Over-Diagnosed Disease”

(well, anyway, i just came across it recently)

So, is it not an disease, or is it an over-diagnosed disease?

Starting from there, the article dives deeper into BS.  But what is a disease?  And what is ADD ADHD?

There’s a lot of confusion about terms.  There certainly is in my mind.  So I did a little research (a little).  Here are some of the results:

disease

 any deviation from or interruption of the normal structure or function of any body part, organ, or system that is manifested by a characteristic set of symptoms and signs and whose etiology, pathology, and prognosis may be known or unknown.

disorder

 a derangement or abnormality of function; a morbid physical or mental state.

abnormal

 not normal; contrary to the usual structure, position, condition, behavior, or rule.

treatment

 management and care of a patient or the combating of disease or disorder.

Comments:

I don’t find any of these definitions very satisfying.  How about you?

I don’t think medicine has any generally accepted definitions of these terms.  But most of us have our own favorite definitions; there’s just not a lot of agreement.

I think in order to be a disease or a disorder, it has to cause some kind of problem?

The DSM V calls it “Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder”.   That’s OK.  Personally I call it ADD ADHD and I call my personal version ADD.

The DSM V requires for the diagnosis that it “interferes with functioning or development.”  That’s good, tho I’m not sure what interferes with development means?

Then there are number of criteria that have to be present before the diagnosis can be made, including symptoms of hyperactivity and inattention.  Which cause problems.  You see what I’m saying?

A while back there were a bunch of posts about ADD ADHD being a “gift”.  Oh, my.  And of course there’s the group that says it’s just normal active kids.  Oh, my.  And the smaller group who say they have it but wouldn’t want the boring life of being normal. I have some good days, partly due to my Daytrana, and might get close to being “normal” for a little while.  I’ve never found it “boring”, just calm, productive and fulfilling.

But we’re all different, aren’t we?

I hope to address the issues of cause and treatment soon, if i can get a little more focused – a little closer to “normal”. “Boring” I think I could live with.

doug

Puzzled Note O the Day:

I forgot the hashtags.  Here we go: #ADD #ADHD #YourLifeCanBeBetter . I don’t like the way they look in the title.  The video helped some but I’m still confused.

Quiz O the Day:

Did you notice that I’m fishing for your comments on these issues? 

Links:

Joe’s post

Lynne on exercise – Genuine good stuff. Read the comments.  Question – is exercise “treatment”?

 

 

 

 

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How I Screwed Up A Perfectly Good ADD ADHD Strategy – – – ADD Tip O the Day 615 #ADD #ADHD

Puryear’s principles of human nature (this is number two or three or something)

We struggle with a problem until we find something that works. Then we quit doing it.    Or we screw it up.

That’s what I did.

Structure

I got off structure  on vacation. When I got back, I tried to put my Daily Priority Strategy back into effect but I’ve been having trouble doing it. It was working before vacation. I’ve just realized I screwed it up by putting too many things in each day.

Strategy

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The Post Vacation Schedule

The strategy is to have ONE priority each day and get that done before anything else. Then if I do nothing else, at least I’ll have that done, and by the end of the week I will have done something in each  major categories.

But, if I choose too many “priorities”, then they aren’t priorities at all.

ADD ADHD Problems

There’s too many things I want to do.

I have trouble setting priorities.

When a strategy is working, I often quit using it or screw it up.

Do you see where this is going?

Strategy

I made a new schedule and tried to put only one thing in each day. As you see, I only partly succeeded, but it’s an improvement, and I can rationalize why I have two on some days. (But it’s still a mistake. Oh, well.)

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The New Schedule

 

The Hope

Now if I can just stick to it!  The rule is that the priority(s) of the day gets done before I can do anything else.  (Frank commented that the problem is that we don’t keep commitments to ourselves – he’s onto something there.)

doug

Bonus Links:

From Homey – another way to look at the ADD ADHD strategy of small steps

Organizing

Experiment O the Day

I’m trying to learn about hashtags, but I don’t understand them.

Do I just put #ADD # ADHD #adultADD anywhere, like this?

And that does something????    Advice is welcomed.

 

 

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Shannon’s Approach to the ADD ADHD Time Problem — ADD Tip O the Day 614

-and Shannon’s comment was so good I’m just posting it here:

“Agreed. Time is a problem! And schedule what’s important!

What I’m trying out is putting those things in a non-scheduled category of my todo list until they are important enough to me to move to the scheduled part. I’m using the 5 categories published in “The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Adult ADHD” by EIleen Bailey & Donald Haupt, M.D.. First book I bought; Doug’s was the second. My time management system is a mix of tips from both, and of course it’s complicated so I’ll (try to!) just talk about the bits that are important for this topic – the categories I use and how I move things between them.

Categories are (paraphrasing), from highest priority to lowest:

Absolutely Urgent = Important to me, my family or my job (and thus things I want to do) and have a due date.
Urgent = Important to me, my family or my job (and thus things I want to do) and don’t have a due date.
Chores = Things I don’t necessarily want to do, but have to do anyway (if chores are important to me, my family or my job then they go on the Absolutely Urgent or Urgent list; if cyclical like housework they get repeating daily/weekly/monthly due dates)
Maybe = Things I would like to do, but they’re not really important, and it doesn’t matter when you do them
Dreams, Wishes & Ideas = Things I might like to do, not important, not time sensitive

I enter my todo items into Wunderlist, an app I like because it syncs across all of my devices and my laptop, and it does most of what I like in a todo app. I then use the “due today” view from Wunderlist each morning to create my 5 item working list. Anything due that day automatically pops up, and I don’t have to see (and worry about) stuff due later. It gets first priority on the working list. If there are spots left on the working list, or if I get through the working list early, next priority goes to Urgent items, and so on down the list.

Stuff like guitar lessons (I’d love to get back into and better at playing too!) start off in Maybe. Once they’re in that category, I tend not to think about them in “as soon as” terms anymore. They’re recorded, and I know that they will come up in my daily process when I have time for them.

If they start to feel more important to me (if I am more often feeling a lack in my life because I’m not doing them, if I find myself thinking about them more often, etc…) then they get moved up the category list to Urgent. If something important to me spends too much time on the Urgent list, I assign it a due date and move it to the Absolutely Urgent list. That’s the part that I’m still trying to work out – how much time on the Urgent list is too much time? For stuff that’s important to my family or job, I use Doug’s 3 day rule – if it’s on there for more than that people are waiting too long and a due date is assigned. But if it’s “just” important to me, like guitar lessons? I don’t know. I’m trying to go with how urgent it feels to me right now, but I’ve only been on my meds a couple of months and I’m still getting the hang of things in that context. Any suggestions are welcome!

So that kink’s not worked out yet, but I am finding this system is keeping me away from “as soon as” thinking, and once something like guitar lessons makes it onto my Absolutely Urgent list, it is scheduled and fiercely defended. So it’s working so far in that sense.”

Thank you, Shannon.

I especially like your comment about “scheduled and fiercely defended.”  We need to fiercely defend our schedules.  We need to learn to say “No”, to ourselves and to others.

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You have the whole day ahead of you. But, how can it go so fast!?

doug

Note O the Day:

If someone makes a request of you, and you say “No”, and they get upset, then it wasn’t a request, it was a demand.

Bonus Links:

On the usefulness of  “No”

Hurry! Hurry! Hurry!

Staying On Task

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I Don’t Have Enough Time! – – – ADD Tip O the Day 613

ADD ADHD and Time Pressure

Here I am “retired” and still feeling that same old sense of time pressure, the fly wheel constantly spinning inside.  And the damn old voice –“Hurry up!  Rush!  You have so much to do!  You’ll never get it all done!”

Know what I mean?

Even on vacation I was feeling the same urgency to get to the next stop, quickly! And there was absolutely no reason for it.

I think this is just part of ADD ADHD and has little basis in reality.  It’s an attitude. 

(But it also seems like a physical feeling.)

Three ADD ADHD Attitudes -Lies We Tell Ourselves:

1. Rush!

2. I don’t have enough time.

3. I have too much to do.

Strategies:

Wouldn’t it help if I set priorities? (Are you thinking, “Priorities, Yeah, right!” ?)

I can shorten my lists – “What would happen if I didn’t do this?”.  “What is the payoff for doing this?”

I can be sure to keep my short list to five max.  But in reality I only have one thing to do.  Right now, it’s writing this post.  When I finish, it will something else, some other one, but right now – I only have one thing to do. One!

I’m working on meditation and mindfulness.   Surely they will help, if my problem with time doesn’t sabotage me. (Is “working on” meditation and mindfulness a paradox?)

Comments:

I’m getting some really great comments.  Hope you read them.  Wish they would just show up at the bottom of the post.  Need to find out how to do that.  I’m going to just post some of them.  In the mean time,  see “recent comments”over to the right.  Clik on the name of the post and it will show you all the comments.

Or

you can clik on the “comments” down at the bottom of each post, lost at the end of all the other stuff :

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See , its here in red.

Check ’em out.

doug

Bonus Link:

A great story from Tired – many good points and lessons. Highly recommended.

Question O the Day:

How do I get the comments to show up right here?   Homey does it!

Gratitude O the Day:

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Isn’t ADD ADHD life interesting?

 

Thank you for making those great comments!

 

 

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“As Soon As —” – An ADD ADHD Time Problem — ADD Tip O the Day 612

“As Soon As—“

There are several things I want to do, “as soon as – — -”

                         I want to start Spanish lessons again.

                         I want to resume fishing.

                         I want to cleanup the disarray in my office.

These are on my “on-hold” to do list. They’re important to me but not urgent or imperative.

I was going to get to them “as soon as” –

           I got back from vacation.

     Then,

         as soon as – I finished the doctor’s appointments and procedures.

    Now,

         as soon as – I finish the prison ministry weekend.

But the spaces in my appointment book and calendar are already starting to fill up for even after all that. I don’t think “as soon as” will really ever come.  It’s like a fairy tale I’m telling myself.  Maybe this is part of the ADD ADHD problem with time?

Have  you noticed that we’re not good about time?

 I need to stop waiting for the “as soon as” and the empty calendar spaces. Ain’t gonna happen.

If I want to get those things done I’m going to have to just schedule them and do them.

doug

Quote O the Day:    

“It’s always something.”

Rosanna Rosannadana


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Where does all the time go?

 

Bonus Link O the Day:

Bonnie’s tips for packing for a trip – but this could apply to other things too

 

 

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Helpful Things for ADD ADHD – Meditation Light??? – – – ADD Tip O the Day 611

Three Helpful Things for ADD ADHD

Everyone agrees that certain things are helpful for anyone but especially helpful for those of us with ADD ADHD:

Exercise

Sleep

Meditation

And I would add, getting out-of-doors.

Meditation

I’ve been practicing a simple form of meditation for years. I find it helpful, but difficult.

On a good day, I can meditate for maybe 10 minutes, on a very good day.

Meditation helps me with the inner sense of  time pressure –“Rush, hurry, urgency, so much to do and so little time to do it in!”  This is an ADD ADHD symptom.

Meditation helps this.  But of course, this same time pressure gets in the way of meditating.

(I will probably write more about time pressure in the next post. Probably.)

Meditation Light

For now I’m continuing my short daily meditation but experimenting with meditation light.

In our new living situation, I need to walk the dog three times a day. I could see this is a burden. It takes up precious time. But it’s an opportunity. It gets me out-of-doors. There’s a bench where I sit for a minute and pet the dog. I’m going to count this time as meditation.

There’s also a Koi pond. I enjoy just looking at the fish. I’m getting to know some of them individually. I’m going to count this as meditation as well.

So I plan to continue the morning meditation but I’ll try to feel less pressured about it — –“I need to meditate. I don’t have time to meditate. I’m not meditating long enough.”

(These damn voices!)

Do you think this will work? Do you think it will count as “meditation light”?

doug

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Relax!  Just try harder to relax!

Bonus Links:

Meditating, sitting, willpower

Prayer, meditation, yoga, massage

Meditation and ADD ADHD

Meditation Techniques

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Learning From Experience with ADD ADHD — ADD Tip O the Day 610

We learn from experience

One  of the basic tricks to that learning is to remember the specific experiences.  And make rules from them. If we remember the experience, its easier to remember the rule and to follow it.

Losing the car

I remember spending 10 minutes looking for the car in the gym lot.  Rule – Say out loud where I parked it.

Ken pointed out that I need to say it every time I park the car, not just when I think I might lose it. That’s how you make a habit.

Losing the iPhone

I remember the result of sending my iPhone thru the washing machine.  Rule – search every pocket every time before I put anything in the wash.

And a positive experience

Here is Ram’s recent comment: “A couple of days ago, I was quite in a depressive mood and decided my ADHD wasn’t gonna get the best of me so I said “make two of the things in the list!” and after I did them, I said “well, the third one is so easy, you can do it even while watching netflix”. And I did!”

I hope he will review and remember that experience so he can use that strategy the next time he gets stuck.

The strategy

Hang onto that experience, keep it in the active file in your mind. You paid for it.

doug

Bonus link – another example of misinformation:

Melissa posts: “Poor diet or nutrition defeciency are often the cause of attention disorders as medical studies reveal. “

Melissa’s link

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Another Gift From ADD ADHD

 

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The Rule for ADD ADHD — ADD Tip O the Day 609

The ADD ADHD Problem

I keep losing my car in parking lots.

(Some of you might note that this problem is not limited to ADD ADHD)

The Strategy

 When I park the car, say OUT LOUD where it is -“3rd row from the street, in line with the A in the sign.”

The Rule

Say it out loud every time.  Every time. EVERY time!

The Slip 

I drove to the gym, parked the car, and did not follow the rule.  I didn’t say it out loud.

The Consequence

I couldn’t find the bleeding car!  Took about 10 minutes.  I was mostly looking where I’d parked the day before and it wasn’t near there.  Had the days mixed up. My key thing has a beeper but it didn’t carry far enough.

The Lesson

When I have a rule, I need to follow it every time, every time, so that it becomes a habit.  But for a while I will have slips, but I need to just keep doing it.  It will become a habit.

The Principle

Identify a SPECIFIC problem.  Make a strategy.  Make it a rule.  Stick with it, through the slips.  Make it a habit.

Another Principle

Only work on one or two things at a time.

doug

Bonus Tip

I will remember that ten minutes I spent searching for the lost car.  That will help me remember the rule.  The strategy – remember incidents, both of success and of failure.

Bonus Link

Memory Tricks

Request

If you haven’t already, a review of either of the ADD ADHD books will be much appreciated.  Remember to do that.  Even better, do it right now and save your memory for something else.

Amazon

Smashwords

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Memory needs help.

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Two Tips About Goals and ADD ADHD — ADD Tip O the Day 608

Achievable Goals
My wife asked me, as she often does, "What are you doing?"
"Trying to get organized," I replied.
"That's your motto", she said.
"No, that's my mantra."
What's the difference?
But then I had a small insight. Maybe getting organized is not a 
destination, but a journey? 
Maybe it is not a goal, but a process? 
The strategy is to only set achievable goals.
Maybe "getting organized" is not one of them.

Small Goals
This morning I used a related strategy - set small goals. 
I was doing my exercises. I set my goal for 20 reps. 
When I finished the 20 reps, I said, I can do six 
more. And I did, for a total of 26 reps. 
But I think if I had set my initial goal for 26 reps, I likely could not have done it. 
Then that would've been demoralizing, which I do not need. 
This way,if I'd only been able to do 20, that would have been a success.
I try to set small achievable goals.
Then if I overachieve, that's all to the good.

doug
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Maybe goals help us stay focused?


 

Bonus Links:
Goals and ADD ADHD

Goals

More On Goals


And Even More
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Here’s The Poop On Food, Diet, Dyes and ADD ADHD — ADD Tip O the Day 607

How Many Helped?  How much help?

There’s nothing wrong with a good healthy diet. I’m skeptical that it makes much difference for very many people with ADD ADHD.

Research shows that the food dyes do make a small difference for a small number of people and special diets do not.  However, I’m sure the special diet has helped some people somewhere.  The studies of course are talking about on average and there are always outliers.  And if you’re the one, its 100%.

Follow the links below.

doug

Good Links :

clik  dr Kinsella on foods and medicines

Dr. Farone on foods

One woman’s kids and diet

Dr. McNeal makes some sense here – some

Dr. Brezin doesn’t

Another ADD ADHD Denier

There are still those denying the existence of ADD ADHD.  You’d think that would have faded into the distant past by now.

This kind of nonsense doesn’t help. Is he just trying to get publicity? Is he really unaware of the research?  And he has good credentials?????

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Sometimes it drives me up the wall. Or beyond.

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Open Mind? or Naive? Or Old and Ignorant? About ADD ADHD — ADD Tip O The Day 606

Lots of input about different approaches to helping with (treating?) ADD ADHD.

Many different people have been helped by many different things.  Could this be because different people have different sets of genes?

Dr. K traces his ADD ADHD to a cascade of consequences initiated by a birth injury to his cervical spine, and exercises are helping, through improving the connections between the cerebellum, basal ganglia, and pre frontal cortex.

Dr. Parker’s book has a lot of information interesting to me tho sometimes hard to follow, but is he in the woo woo camp or on the cutting edge of the frontier, with SPECT imaging, bowel and allergy issues, and unusual lab testing? He’s ahead of me for sure, but some of the points i can use.

I think we all agree that sleep and exercise are essential, and diet and no food coloring are sometimes of some help for some people.

Isn’t life interesting?

doug

Bonus link:

Homey Likes Long Lists

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I like to make a list of all my lists. Smart? or just compulsive? You decide..

 

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Keeping An Open Mind About ADD ADHD — ADD Tip O the Day 605

New Information

I wrote about how hard it is for a person to change their opinion once it is formed.

But I am getting a lot of new information.

Dr. Charles Parker – I am reading his book- The New ADHD Medication Rules –  and it is very informative.  Three types of ADD ADHD – acting without thinking (impulsive), thinking without acting (paralyzed, indecisive), and not acting and not thinking.  So a lot of mis and missed diagnosis.  And lots of other new ideas for me.  I recommend it.

Dr. Kinsella – good description of neuroanatomy, cerebellum, basal ganglia, prefrontal cortex, and how his ADD ADHD came from a birth injury to his cervical vertebrae.  Honestly, at first I thought he was too woo woo for me, but he is teaching me a lot and I am starting to understand it, it’s making sense.

Angelique- is sending me information on the benefits of marital arts for ADD ADHD.  I suspect this will fit in with Dr. Kinsella’s info- exercise the cerebellum.  Angelique is also a fan of special ADD ADHD diets.

An  ADD ADHD expert who I can’t find now – ARGHHHH!!!- who has good results using brain training techniques.?

(Does anyone else find ADD ADHD sometimes frustrating?? This was good stuff which I planned to use.  )

Hey!! its Maya.  I found it.

Stephanie, who has offered me a  hypnosis session, to help me prioritize better,  but I just haven’t found time to follow up.  (Do you think if I could prioritize better, then I could find the time?)

 

Jonathon Marx and Dr. Farone have provided good information.  It is now clear that food dye does make some difference in some people.  But how many?  And how much?  Not as much as medication.

The Over Generalization Problem

Somebody finds something that helps them – maybe they just think it does, or maybe its placebo effect, or maybe something else is going on – but then they tend to think it is The Answer for every one. What we need is more studies – what per cent of people benefit from this?

This certainly does suggest that there are different causes and probably many different types of ADD ADHD, and therefore probably many different treatments – different ones for different people.  Its complicated, and often over my head.  But lets keep trying to muddle through.

I would like to be up on all the latest science and research, but honestly, my thing is strategies, whatever your cause and whatever else may help you.

Progress is being made and I am trying to keep an open mind – I don’t mean like a sieve.

doug

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Are we all in the same boat?

Links:

Dr. Parker

Read the comments from Dr. K and Angelique

Maya brain training

Note:

More to come – I hope.

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Committing With ADD ADHD — ADD Tip O the Day 604

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Why I have trouble keeping up with the blogs.

To Commit

No, I don’t mean to get someone locked up, unless its myself.  I do try to lock myself into things, where I can’t not do them.  If I walked to the end of the scary high dive, I could always chicken out and climb back down, humiliating tho it was.  But if I took a running start from the back, then I couldn’t stop and off I went.

When I sat down to write this post, I committed to finishing it before I got up again. Good strategy, but only if I follow it.  That requires willpower, which I’m short on, but its worth a try.  ………………..

Short Break

Well, didn’t make it.

Bathroom.  Couldn’t pass up the opportunity.

But the commitment helped me come right back and not go  off and do something else instead.

Strategy

So that’s the strategy.  When you start something, you can make a commitment to finish it.

Works sometimes.

doug

Bonus Link:

I don’t usually watch videos, have no patience. But this one is worthwhile:

What no ADDer says

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To Medicate Or Not To Medicate ADD ADHD. Is That The Question? — ADD Tip O The Day 603

 

Would you like medication with that?

Questions about strategies – are they enough?  Questions about medicines – are they enough?

My opinions:  

Some people just use strategies, and do OK. Some people, for various reasons, don’t like the idea of medicines.  They don’t work for everyone.

Some people just use medicines, and that’s enough. Some people for various reasons, don’t like the idea of strategies.  They can be hard to use. You have to pick a problem that bothers  you enough to make using the strategy worth the effort.  But if you stick with it, it will become a habit and then it takes no effort anymore.

For most of us, the combination of medicines and strategies works best.  One of the experts, Dr. Goodwin, says that the purpose of the medicines is to enable us to focus enough to use the strategies.

There are also alternatives to medicines.  Some of them apparently are helpful to some people.  I’m working on my lack of information (i.e. ignorance) about them.

doug

Note: I’m still working on trying to correct some of my previous misconceptions.  A mind is hard to change.  I looking at information from Maya, Dr. Parker, and others, and will get back to you.

Question: do you use medicine- ritalin, strattera, adderal, concerts, vyvanse?  Or strategies?  or both? or neither?  (this is like a survey!)

ADD ADHD medication?

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Life is hard. It’s harder with ADD ADHD.

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What Do You Believe About ADD ADHD? — ADD Tip O The Day 602

People are interesting.  Here’s how our minds work:
We form a belief or an opinion based on our emotional response to an idea.
Then we look for data to support it. This may be scientific evidence, Bible verses, or what someone else says.
Then we believe that we formed our opinion or belief through logic and reliable information, and that it is a fact.
From then on, any data that would support it aggregates to it.
Any data that doesn’t support it is either not noticed or is simply dismissed.
It becomes a cherished belief and is impermeable to new information.
If you try to argue with someone about their cherished belief, they bring up their arguments against you, and in doing so, their belief becomes stronger and more firmly entrenched.
Have you ever changed anyone’s mind about anything? I have – once.
Aren’t people interesting?
doug
Note:
In logic, this process is called “confirmatory bias”.   

Note 2:

There are still people who do not believe  ADD ADHD  exists, or in using medication to treat it, or in climate change.  I could go on, but won’t. Not today anyway.

Note 3:

I’m being provided with new information that goes against some of my beliefs.  I’m struggling to evaluate it with an open mind. Struggling. Maybe more on this later.

Note 4: Thank you and welcome to all the recent new followers. I hope you will find this blog interesting and useful and that you will make comments. I love comments.

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There’s still a little controversy.

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Ten Basic “Facts” About ADD ADHD — ADD Tip O the Day 601

I just did a guest post for Naill of Ireland.  Here it is:

“Ten” Basic “Facts” About ADD ADHD

  1. ADD ADHD exists. Our brains function differently than other peoples. This has been shown by brain imaging.
  2.  Our main difficulty is an inability to control our focus. We are either unfocused or him:hyperfocused. Most of our difficulties come from that.
  3.  Thus we tend to be distractible, impulsive, irritable and unreliable. We forget things and lose things. We procrastinate. We get eagerly involved in something and then quickly lose interest. We have trouble finishing things. And so on and so on. We each have our own individual pattern of problems.
  4.  This can make our lives very difficult, but there are things we can do to make our lives better.
  5. Medication helps many people who have ADD ADHD, but it is not for everyone. It primarily helps with focus.
  6. Strategies are very helpful. We identify a problem that causes us enough trouble to make it worth working on. We devise a strategy. We persist in that strategy until it becomes a habit. (The problem must be specific – for example, “I lose my keys.” not “I lose things.”)
  1. Many physicians, psychologists, and psychiatrists do not understand ADD ADHD. Many of them do not understand that they do not understand. Certified ADD ADHD coaches can be very helpful.
  1. We need to educate ourselves about our condition and how we can cope. There is a lot of good information on the net. There is a lot of garbage on the net.

        I recommend three books: Driven To DistractionThe ADHD Effect On Marriage,      and most humbly, my own, Your Life Can Be Better, primarily about using strategies. I recommend three websites: Naill’s, and ADDerworld.ning.com, and even more humbly, this one.

  1. The basic basics: You need an appointment book and a to do list, or their electronic equivalents, and you need to know how to use them. You needed sleep, structure, strategies, exercise, and outdoors.
  2. Every person is unique. You need to find what works for you.
  3. Your life can be better.

Note: Sometimes people confuse their opinions with facts. I call these ten “facts” because some of them are truly facts and some of them are more my opinion.

Note: There are three kinds of people, those who can count and those who can’t.

Note 2: There are two kinds of people in the world, those who can get Word and WordPress When my brain works at all.

When my brain works at all.

to lay out posts  the way they want, and the rest of us.

doug

Great Bonus Tip O the Day:

from Homey- how to schedule when life is unpredictable

 

 

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Where, Oh Where, Did All My Structure Go? – – – ADD Tip O the Day 600

With My ADD ADHD, Boy, Do I Need Structure

Structure is a basic part of coping with ADD ADHD. We need routine, schedule, organization. I always eat three meals a day. Go to bed  about the same time each night. Brush my teeth twice a day. Have a quiet time every morning.

Good, that’s structure.

So, What Happened?

Closed my practice, December 2013; the practice had structured most of my week.                2014 was interesting – illness, treatment,  moving. Upheaval, disruption, change. Chaos!  Started volunteer teaching on Mondays – that was structure, but disrupted the rest of my week.  That just ended.

So, What Now?

Well, obviously it’s time to get organized again. That’s easy for you to say.

I kept saying I’d  get organized once the treatment was over. Then, once we were moved in. Then, once the teaching ended.

Well, that’s now.

Drawing up a new weekly calendar. Not done yet. But for example:

Mon                Tues                 Wed                 Thur              Fri                 Sat             Sun

Spanish          blog                marketing         write             guitar          Spanish     church    

                         guitar                                                                                     blog         clean desk

The Strategy

Those are priorities.  I make sure to  get at least those  things done that day.                     Then  I can do more (theoretically), but I’ll have those things done anyway.

So have I been procrastinating, or just too disorganized to get organized, or can I blame it on circumstances? 

Anyway, it’s time to get with it.  Now!

Did you hear me?

doug

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Maybe tomorrow? Maybe.

James Clear on structure

Bonus Links:

Structure with ADD ADHD

More Structure

“I don’t need structure.”

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Talking To Yourself ??— ADD Tip O the Day 599

Is Talking To Yourself A Problem, A Symptom, or What?

Someone asked me if talking to yourself is okay. I said I certainly hope so, cause I do it all the time.

I don’t think it’s a symptom of ADD ADHD; it’s a coping strategy.

I say, “Right now I’m writing this post and when I finish, I’m gonna do the Spanish lesson.”

And I made a commitment to myself to finish the post before I let myself do anything else. When a tempting distraction pops up (don’t they always?) I write it down and keep going. And I’m coaching myself, “No, finish the post first!”

I coach myself through the day, often out loud.  So maybe it’s a little weird?  But it’s a lot better than the alternative.

Doug

Note: this is not exactly the same as what I call “self talk”.  More on that later.

Bonus Links:      

from Katy:  29 Things Only a Person with ADD ADHD Would Understand

How to Cope with Distraction

More On Distraction

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Spring has sprung,the grass is green,
I’ll go get my tambourine.
Spring has sprung, the grass is wet,
help me find my clarinet.

 

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Scattered, Distracted, and Too Many Options for ADD ADHD — ADD Tip O the Day 598

Isn’t Life Interesting!    So Many Shiny Things To Choose From!

I’m working on:

Executive dysfunction and EFD ( executive function disorder) and ADD ADHD

Food allergies and food coloring and ADD ADHD

New York Times says childhood trauma can mimic ADD ADHD

The neuro anatomy of ADD ADHD

Do you see where I’m going with this?

Me neither.

doug

Tip O the Day: Try to pick one thing and focus on it until it is done.

(Yeah.  Right.  If I can do that, maybe I don’t have ADD ADHD after all?!)

doug

Links: (Take your choice)             

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But isn’t hyperfocus a gift?

EFD

Food and food coloring

neuro circuitry

NYT

 

 

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Are Natural Substances Safe? — ADD Tip O the Day 597

Natural Substances

Many people with ADD AHD are helped by medicine – Ritalin, Adderall, Strattera, etc.- but many are concerned about medication side effects.  Some prefer “natural” substances but not all “natural” substances they use are safe.  Here’s a report on one with dangerous side effects:

“— increases intracranial pressure (ICP). It is this increase in pressure which leads to the first observable symptoms  —: headache, personality changes, changes in behavior, confusion, irritability, and drowsiness. These are sometimes followed by difficulty breathing during exertion, muscle weakness & pain, twitching, or cramping, nausea, vomiting, thirst, and a dulled ability to perceive and interpret sensory information. — The cells in the brain may swell to the point where blood flow is interrupted resulting in cerebral edema. Swollen brain cells may also apply pressure to the brain stem causing central nervous system dysfunction. Both cerebral edema and interference with the central nervous system are dangerous and could result in seizures, brain damage, coma or death.[11]

Other possible side effects include frequent urination, serious infections and increased risk of cancer. It also has the potential for abuse.

Side Effects

Soon I’ll post about side effects in general.  Oh, did you realize that the “natural” substance above is water?

doug

The Link

Bonus Link O the Day:

Dr. Hallowell on ADD ADHD medicines or alternatives

Quote O the Day:

“Moderation in all things, but don’t overdo it.”

Interesting Image

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Food Coloring And ADD ADHD and Doubts— ADD Tip O the Day 596

My Doubts:

that ADD ADHD is one thing

that food coloring has much effect on very many people

that “natural” substances are better than medicines

that stimulants are helpful to people who don’t have ADD ADHD

that medicines prevent kids from being themselves

that everything we read on the net is accurate

that people who don’t believe in ADD ADHD have any idea what they’re talking about

Ram’s good information on a food coloring study:

The Panel concludes that the McCann et al. study provides limited evidence that the two different mixtures of synthetic colours and sodium benzoate tested had a small and statistically significant effect on activity and attention in some children selected from the general population, although the effects were not observed for all children in all age groups and were not consistent for the two mixtures. The findings may thus be relevant for specific individuals within the population, showing sensitivity to food additives in general or to food colours in particular.

(” the target colours are more frequently used in sweets but also occur commonly in soft drinks and benzoate is frequently present in soft drinks.” – don’t soft drinks also often contain caffeine?)

Ram’s follow up on the study:

This study was very criticized for not being very scientific and not proving consistent results, but the comitee of the EU still passed a law in 2010, that these food coloring must have such a warning on the label.

Note: I may have finished the various treatments for ADD ADHD. Would love your suggestions about what I left out or  comments on what I put in.

doug

The full food coloring report     

                                                                                 

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We are creative!

 

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Alternatives to ADD ADHD Medicine Part 3 and Beware! -More Snake Oil– ADD Tip O the Day 595

Buyer and reader, Beware!- More ADD ADHD snake oil

Here’s the headline on a recent article:

New treatment for kids with ADHD retrains their brains, reduces symptoms

Here’s the report on the study that is being done:

Researchers hope that retraining the brain waves of children with ADHD will permanently increase the power of beta waves which control alertness, attention levels, and concentration. The power of theta waves that are associated with inattentiveness and drowsiness should also be reduced. Researchers speculate that once the brain is trained, children with ADHD may not need further treatment or medication.

(I added the bold.)

Herbal Supplements:

The New York Times reports that four out of five store brand supplements contained none of the herbs on the label…Walmart had the worst showing; only 4% of the products tested contained any of the herbs listed on the label…Supplements are exempt from the FDA approval process.  Some of the supplements and other natural/alternative/vitamins contained steroids or other dangerous substances.

I personally take a number of vitamins and supplements but am considering stopping or at least cutting down.  The only one with proven benefit, given a normal diet, is omega 3 fatty acid (fish oil) but some of the brands are no good.

 And now for something postitive – Biofeedback for ADD ADHD

Lawrence Klein reports on a 2013 study showing that biofeedback can improve attention and  the improvement is correlated with small changes in the brain shown on imaging.  Other studies suggest it may be as good as medication (I’m a little doubtful) and that it may have long term benefits.

doug                

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Can herbs help?

 

The article with the headline

NYT on supplements

Another one

Biofeedback, neurofeedback

More on biofeedback

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Alternatives to ADHD Medicines, part 2 —ADD Tip O the Day 594

There are lots of alternatives to cover, and recent studies show that the supplements don’t contain what they claim.  What are you supposed do to?

Omega-3 fatty acids (fish oil) for more than ADD ADHD

It helps ADD ADHD some. I take it for general health and recommend it to everyone. The ratio needs to be correct, 4 EPA to 3 DHA. Much that is sold is useless.

Consumer Reports top pick:

Research Verified (brand name) Premium Omega-3

Second choice:Life Extension Super Omega-3 EPA/DHA

Third choice: Nordic Naturals Ultimate Omega

Caffeine

I was addicted to caffeine before I knew I had ADD ADHD.  Studies show it can help some but may need excessive doses and thus  side effect problems – I sure did.

Food additives and coloring:

For children on high intake of food additives, decreasing them may help some – that has surprised me.

doug

Dr. Farone on foods

Caffeine

More on food and supplements

Even more

The rap on science – but it’s better than the alternatives

Consumer Reports on omega-3 fatty acids (fish oil)

Note: I never claimed that this  survey was going to be well organized, but I hope to cover all aspects.

Note 2: Your input on these topics will be much appreciated– I don’t think I can cover all aspects and there are different viewpoints from mine.

Bonus Link:

How to eat a mango.

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Healthy ( if you know how to eat them).

 

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ADD ADHD Poem —ADD Tip O the Day 593

Ode of an ADDer to a neat wife

Please don’t put my stuff away.
Please don’t move it, just let it lay.
If I can’t see it, it doesn’t exist.
I’ll forget to do something and we’ll both be pissed.

That library book is lying on the floor
so that I can’t miss it when I go out the door.
It’s already a week overdue
and if I don’t see it, it’s gonna be two.

You can’t stand clutter in your face
so I try to keep  it in my own space,
but sometimes it just kinda overflows;
how that happens God only knows.

I have a place for everything; where
it winds up isn’t always there.
If it gets too bad just tell me to move it.
If you do it yourself then I’m just gonna lose it.

I guess that’s all I’ve got to say
Except,
I love you,
and please don’t put my stuff away.

doug      

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Roses for you!

 

 

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Non-stimulant Medicines for ADD ADHD (plus other tips on medicines)— ADD Tip O the Day 592

Advantages of the non-stimulant medicines for adult ADD ADHD:
Don’t cause agitation or insomnia; not controlled and easier to obtain; not abusable or addictive; longer acting and smoother effect. Sometimes added to stimulants to improve symptoms or reduce side effects.

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Probably most commonly used are Strattera and guanfacine.

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Strattera (atomoxetine)- an antidepressant, works mostly on norepinephrine. No generic, capsules, expensive. Takes some weeks to work; must be taken consistently.

.
Possible side effects include: upset stomach, decreased appetite, nausea, dizziness, fatigue, mood swings.

.
Guanfacine generic (brand name Estulic, Tenex and the extended release Intuniv) –   a high blood pressure medicine, not officially approved for adults (may be less effective in adults?). Inexpensive, except for extended release.

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Possible side effects include: headache, fatigue, abdominal pain, sleepiness.

.
Other non-stimulant medicines for ADD ADHD:

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Clonidine generic (Kapvay)- a different high blood pressure medicine, inexpensive.

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Possible side effects include: drowsiness, dizziness; feeling tired or irritable;cold symptoms such as runny or stuffy nose, sneezing, cough, sore throat;mood changes;sleep problems (insomnia), nightmares; headache, ear pain; mild fever; feeling hot; constipation, diarrhea, pain in your upper stomach; dry mouth, increased thirst; loss of interest in sex, impotence, difficulty having an orgasm.
(I don’t think these are very common. If they were, would anybody use clonidine?)

.
Buproprion generic (Wellbutrin) -antidepressant, works on dopamine and norepinephrine. Not expensive.

.
Possible side effects include headache, dry mouth, insomnia, nausea, sore throat, dizziness, constipation, irritability, ringing in the ears.

.
Other antidepressants – less studied for ADD ADHD but reported to be helpful for some people. Probably have a higher frequency of side effects than the other medicines.

.
Important note for any medicines:
Always check for interactions with other medicines or other substances you are taking. Your doctors should do this but I can’t promise they will.

Next Note, on expense:.
You can usually save money for any medicine: buy larger quantity, get large doses and cut pills, get coupons online, shop different pharmacies, ask your doctor about samples or certificates. If you have a hardship, you can sometimes get a break – ask your pharmacy and/or the manufacturing company.

.
Next Note:
I haven’t personally used nor prescribed any of these medicines for ADD ADHD. I believe they tend to have a lower rate of effectiveness than the stimulants but every person is unique.

.
Advantages of the stimulants:
You can usually tell if they will help you with only a few doses and you can take them only when you want to.

.

Important link:

Check medication interactions

doug

He who knows not and knows he knows not, he is a child, teach him.                   He who knows and knows not he knows, he is asleep, wake him.                          He who knows and knows he knows, he is wise, follow him.                                   He who knows not, and knows not he knows not, he is a fool, shun him. .

ancient Persian proverb

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Taking Medicines, ADD ADHD or Any — ADD Tip O the Day 591

About taking any kind of medicine, not just ADD ADHD

I wanted to write about the non-stimulant ADHD ADHD medications, but thought this should come first.

Generics

Always ask about the generic. They should always be much cheaper (should).  Not all the generics are as good as the brand name but most are. Also, the generic brands are not always equivalent to each other, but most are.

Expense

If the medicine comes in a pill and it’s not timed or delayed release, you usually can cut the expense by getting the biggest dose they make and cutting the pills. (Pill cutters are inexpensive.)

Dose

I recommend starting with a very low dose and gradually increasing it.  This minimizes the chance of getting side effects. Increase until either you do get side effects or you have no symptoms (unlikely) or the increase doesn’t add any benefit. Then either stay at that dose or drop back one dose.

Possible Side Effects

If you do get side effects  they usually go away in about a week if you stay on that dose. I usually suggest not reading the list of possible side effects  – doing so seems to increase the frequency of getting them. Just pay attention to anything  that you think might be a side effect and ask your doctor.

That list was written by the company’s lawyers to protect them and includes any symptom that anybody anywhere at any dose ever had that might possibly have had anything to do with the medicine. The list can be useful when it gives the percentages of people who actually got that side effect, but those are hard to find.

Almost all side effects are reversible if you just stop the medicine. It is very rare that anyone should need to put up with any significant side effects.

Very Important Bonus Tip

Always check for interactions with other medicines or other substances you are taking. Your doctors should do this but I can’t promise they will.

Check medication interactions

Coming very very soon:

Non-stimulant ADD ADHD medicines!

doug                                     

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Just being normal active boys misdiagnosed as ADD ADHD

More on side effects

More on medicines

Buproprion (Wellbutrin) etc.

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Snake Oil for ADD ADHD — ADD Tip O the Day 590

Cures

In the 1960s  a new cure for schizophrenia popped up every couple of years.  Dr. Linus Pauling, a Nobel prize-winning chemist, discovered that massive doses of vitamin C would cure schizophrenia along with a host of other things.  But in 2015  we’re still looking for a cure.

Many things are advertised to “cure” or at least help ADD ADHD.

Cerebellar training, homeopathy, various alternative substances, special diets, etc. There is  little research to support them.  It’s possible that some really helpful approach is lost in the static. It’s  possible that somebody somewhere sometime was really helped by one of these approaches.

Selling

George is selling training for ADD ADHD and learning disabilities.  I hope it works.  If someone has a product for ADD ADHD that works, why would they need to spread false information about medicines?

Dr. Klein posted a long anti medicine article from Dr. Mercola, who it turns is selling natural substances and has been discredited. Dr.Klein retracted his statement.

BS

The web is full of fantastic claims and gross misinformation. This is unfortunate and a little scary. The misinformation about medication will scare off some people who could really benefit from it.

That’s a shame.    meetings-add funny

doug

the post from george

dr. mercola

Dr. Klein on Dr. Mercola

an example of lots of them

Coming Soon:

Non stimulant  ADD ADHD medications,

then alternatives to medication, hopefully without the BS.

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Amphetamines for ADD ADHD: Follow-up. Plus, Foundations — ADD Tip O the Day 589

Great Comment On Last  Meds Post From Dr. Boerboom. Summary:

Dexedrine is not very addictive/abusable.  It has a low incidence of side effects. They are different from methylphenidate.

Dextroamphetamine (Dexedrine) may cause side effects, but apparently not often.

  • restlessness
  • difficulty falling asleep or staying asleep
  • headache
  • uncontrollable shaking of a part of your body
  • dry mouth
  • unpleasant taste
  • diarrhea
  • constipation
  • loss of appetite
  • weight loss
  • changes in sex drive or ability

Seems to me similar to Ritalin (methylphenidate)

See Dr. Boerboom’s full comment

I disagree on one point – I have been called obnoxious, inappropriate, silly, but not boring. I think the medicine helps me focus and be more of myself, not less. It helps me focus enough to use strategies and my life is better.

doug

Bonus Links:

Dr Anahi Ortiz on Medicines  part 1    part 2

Foundations:

While we’re talking about medicines, let’s not forget the foundations:

Sleep, exercise, structure, strategies, outdoors, prayer or mediation or yoga

And the other faciliators: coaching, therapy, support groups, education about ADD ADHD

 

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Why, yes, sometimes I am a little hyper and socially inappropriate.  Screw you!

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Is It ADD ADHD or Executive Dysfunction? — ADD Tip O the Day 588

From a recent article:

“Is It Executive Function Disorder (EFD) or ADHD?

Children and adults with executive function disorder (EFD) have problems with organizing and schedules. They may also have ADHD and/or learning disabilities, but not always — it’s a common misdiagnosis for those who are actually living with EFD.”

This is new hot topic. At least luke warm.Some are saying that ADD ADHD is getting misdiagnosed when it’s really executive dysfunction.  But the symptoms of “Executive Function Disorder” listed below always seemed to me to just to be part of my ADD, although they’re not all part of the official definition and criteria.

” … deficiencies in planning, abstract thinking, flexibility and behavioral control”

Sound like anybody you know?

“In both children and adults with ADHD, an underlying executive dysfunction involving the prefrontal regions and other interconnected subcortical structures has been found.”

“Warning signs that a child may be having difficulty with executive function include trouble in:

  • planning projects
  • estimating how much time a project will take to complete
  • telling stories (verbally or in writing)
  • memorizing information
  • initiating activities or tasks
  • retaining information while doing something with it (for example, remembering a phone number while dialing)”

“…executive functions involve (at the very least):

  • planning for the future and strategic thinking
  • the ability to inhibit or delay responding
  • initiating behavior, and
  • shifting between activities flexibly”

Difficulty in being able to:

“Plan, Sequence, Prioritize, Organize, Initiate, Inhibit, Pace, Shift, Self-monitor, Emotional Control, Completing”

Sound like anybody you know?

Whichever of our brain networks and functions are off, they presumably produce all of these symptoms as well as the currently popular “benefits and gifts”.

My current best guess is that executive dysfunction is just another name for ADD AHD, maybe without the hyperactivity?  Maybe the inattentive type?

doug

Links:                                                                                   

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Did I mention that sometimes I’m socially inappropriate?

 

What is the difference? – I find this confusing.

Executive Dysfunction        

Which is it?

Part 2 of Which is it?

Irrelevant Irreverent Comment:

We also have auditory processing disorder, dyscoordination, dyslexia,learning disorders and dystechnologica.

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Stimulant Medicine for ADD ADHD and New Research — ADD Tip O the Day 587

 Medicines for ADD ADHD

Like everything else, this is going to be harder and take more time than I thought.

To repeat – everyone is unique. What works for one won’t for another. You need trial and error to find the right medicine at the right dose on the right schedule that works for you.  For some, these medicines work a miracle, for some, they are helpful, and for others, no.

The Stimulants:

Methylphenidate – Ritalin (plain, long-acting, sustained-release, in a skin patch), Concerta, Daytrana, Focalin, Focalin XR, Methylin, Medadate CD/ER.  Most common possible side effects are stomach upset, anxiety, loss of appetite; these can usually be managed and minimized if they do occur. Safe, but use carefully with heart problems or high blood pressure. Not very addictive but are being abused/misused by college students. Probably not helpful unless you have ADD ADHD. Very expensive brand-name, but generic is available for some.  An advantage is you can take them when you want and leave them off when you want.

Amphetamines – Adderall, Adderall XR, Dexedrine, Vyvanse (less abusable)- Probably not more effective than methylphenidate, although they will be for some people. Probably more addictive and more abused. Side effects, probably about the same. Again, use or not when you want to.

From Oren Mason MD based on newly published research:

  1. We are beginning to understand the causes of ADHD. ADHD is a condition that involves abnormal brain function.
  2. Specifically, normal folk have capabilities in their brains that ADHD folk don’t. So far, the reverse hasn’t been seen.
  3. Stimulant medications restore (at least some) normalcy to brain function. They are not–as they are sometimes described–giving ‘speed’ to normal brains. They bring normal brain function to people who were born without it.
  4. These findings have been so consistent across multiple studies, that they can be considered “scientifically proven”.

Notes:

I have no experience with the amphetamines. Medicines are not The Answer for most people. I recommend medicines, strategies (often with coaching) and therapy (to deal with the underlying shame, low self-esteem, depression, etc.). You need a careful evaluation to rule out other possible causes of the symptoms and comorbid conditions which are frequent.  I don’t think these medicines calm us down. I think they basically help us focus and then we can calm down. I haven’t been able to clarify the actions of stimulating release of norepinephrine and dopamine from the neurons versus blocking their reuptake, or both. I get conflicting stories.

Happy Valentine’s Day!

Doug

Bonus links:

Dr. Mason’s post is worth reading, shedding light not only on ADD ADHD but also on the scientific method, which is not widely understood.

Adderall versus Ritalin

Lots more, especially about Ritalin:

1     2         3         4        5         6

I am hoping to get some clarifying comments, as well as any questions you may have.

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My brain functions more normally with medicine.

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Why Valentines Day Is important With ADD ADHD — ADD Tip O the Day 586

Valentines Day is February 14, this Saturday, that’s this coming Saturday, two days off, this Saturday, day after tomorrow.

With ADD ADHD:

1. We forget all about it.

2. We think it’s a long way off and don’t buy a card until the last minute.

3. The card we impulsively at the last minute  is not very good.

– Or we didn’t really read it, and it is bad.

– Or we were captivated by a card that is really, really, really funny. funny.

Bad idea.

A Second Chance

If we really plan ahead (Ha!) and knock ourselves out on the card, and perhaps dinner, chocolate, roses, jewelry—

perhaps –

perhaps-

perhaps we can make up for some of our more recent screw ups.

It’s worth a try.

Good Luck

What’s your strategy for making sure you don’t forget?

doug

Bonus Nudge:

If you’re going to take them to a good restaurant, you’ll need reservations for Valentine’s Day, and it’s already a little late, don’t you think?

Remember last year?

Bonus Links:                                                                      

Valentines

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Talking About ADD ADHD Medicines — ADD Tip O the Day 585

Terminology

When, and why, did medicines begin to be called drugs?  That used to be the term for illegal substances of abuse. Were I a little more paranoid I’d be suspicious. I’m old-fashioned and prefer to say medicines.

Side Effects

Almost every medicine has side effects – potential side effects. That means you may not get them.  Water “has side effects”.  When you read that the side effects of this medicine are X,Yand Z, you’d like to know what percentage of people actually get them, how serious they are, and if they are reversible.

If someone does get side effects, they can usually be managed by adjusting dosing and scheduling, or the medicine can be changed.  A person should hardly ever need to put up with any significant side effects. Rarely are the benefits of a medicine so essential and the options so limited.

Some people are frightened about side effects, but if they try the medicine and do have side effects, they do have the option of immediately stopping it. In general, side effects, if any, will go away quickly.

Side effects are not a life sentence.

What is the best medicine for ADD ADHD?

There is no “best” medicine. Every person is unique and needs to find the medicine that works best for them. You might choose a medicine that worked for a relative, or has a lower percentage of side effects, or doesn’t have potential side effects that particularly concern you.  And cost is a factor; only some of them are available in generic.

For example, Daytrana, Ritalin in a skin patch, has a lower frequency of side effects than the pills and gives you more control over the dose and timing.  But it has a high incidence of skin irritation.  This was a minor annoyance, but apparently my skin has gotten used to it.  And I don’t get the mild side effects that I got from the pills. I take it off by 2:00 or I’ll have insomnia.  It is expensive.

doug

Side Comment

I am suspicious about how patients began to be called clients. I see patients.

Second Side Comment

Change of plan already. I wanted to get terminology and side effects done before getting into the medicines.

Coming up: executive dysfunction, opinions, stimulant medicines, medication or therapy?

Links:

ADD ADHD Medicines

Trying Medicine – Are we guinea pigs?

Ritalin and Daytrana

Side Effects

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About ADD ADHD Medications—ADD Tip O the Day 584

Review of ADD ADHD Medications, Alternatives, and Issues

Over the next couple of months I plan to review medications for ADD ADHD, including alternatives,  This will be too basic and repetitive for some of you, so it will be every other post or so and the posts will include some other interesting stuff. Hopefully we’ll get some comments, elaboration and discussion,  some agreeing and some not so much.

The Anti- medication Faction

Some people don’t like to take any medications, some people just not for ADD ADHD. Some people don’t want to take stimulant medications.  Some people don’t vaccinate their children.  This is all generally due to a combination of a lack of information, possession of wrong information, and misunderstanding of information.

XXXXXXX XXXXX XX XXXXXX. I would like to be able respect everyone’s right to their opinions  without getting sarcastic. That’s why I just blocked out that sentence.  Admirable for someone with the impulsivity and poor social judgment of ADD ADHD.

Everyone Is Unique

Medications are extremely helpful to some people, sometimes a life-changing miracle. They’re somewhat helpful to some.   For some people, they’re either ineffective or have troubling side effects. In my opinion, medication is certainly worth a try to see how it will work or not for you.

Every person is unique and there’s a trial and error calibrating process of finding the right medication, the right dose, and the right scheduling for each person.

Here’s the plan:

(I would appreciate your comments or suggestions about the plan and reserve the right to change it.)

1. Stimulant medications.-Ritalin  etc.

2. Non-stimulant medications.-Strattera, etc.

3. Alternatives to medications:

            A. Alternative substances. -fish oil, etc.

            B. Alternatives to any substances.-exercises, etc.

4. Side effects and other difficulties.-insomnia, etc.

                  (The ugly truth about side effects.)

5. Safety- cardiovascular risks, etc.

6. Myths, misconceptions, and misunderstandings.- Oh, my!, etc.

doug

Quote O the Day:

‘Anyone who thinks he knows something just hasn’t caught on yet.’

St Paul     1 Corinthians 8:1-3

Links:

Myths about ADD ADHD

Meds vs Structure?

You are unique

ADD ADHD Medications are like cocaine and crystal meth

Bonus Tip O The Day:

from Homey – on coping with Overwhelmed

(You know about overwhelmed, don’t you?)

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Is the insomnia from ADD ADHD or from the medicine?

 

 

 

 

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To do list – Foto -for Priorities— Addendum to ADD Tip O the Day 583

ADD ADHD Tip O the Day 583.5

I couldn’t get the darn thing to print the image when I was doing the post on priorities.     Think I’ve figured it out now, again.

Technologically challenged!

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Messed up again!

Doug

Note to myself, because I’ll forget again:

1. In Picassa, can export to My Pictures.

2. In WordPress, double-click on the image to get the option to edit,  which is the icon of the little stubby pencil.

Strategy:

Make notes to myself where I can find them when I have to. Maybe need to make a note about where to find the note?

Link

The post on priorities

Bryan’s book on confidence- today only

Bonus link:

homey on overdoing

Bonus Tip O the Day:

Sometimes good enough is good enough.

 

 

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Priorities and ADD ADHD: Incompatible? – – – ADD Tip O the Day 583

Dysprioritiologica?

Setting priorities is an executive function and with ADD ADHD we tend to not be very good at it.

I sit here looking at a long to do list. Where do I start?

Do you see how this can lead to procrastination? Maybe I’ll just give up and play some computer games.

Homey’s great strategy:

“If I could only do one thing today, what would I do? That is your priority!”

My Efforts:

One of my strategies is to make a list of three off the long list, but – that requires prioritizing.

I can number the items one to whatever down the left-hand side of the list, based on how important they are. i.e. prioritizing. – I ask: What is the payoff for doing this task or the penalty for not?  How does the payoff correlate with the time and effort that would be involved?

If I  do the numbering quickly, don’t get bogged down in thinking, maybe the numbers  aren’t accurate but at least I’m starting to do something.

But what if I also put numbers down the right-hand side, indicating how pressing the thing is, depending on deadlines?

If a task has  a one on both sides,  it’s important and urgent, so that’s  a priority. But what if the deadline is tomorrow, a one, but it doesn’t seem very important? If it’s really not important, what if I don’t do it at all? Just cross it off? There’s plenty of other things still on the list.

If I get too caught up in this, will I just wind up stuck, paralyzed,doing nothing? Or will I drive myself crazy?

Sometimes it’s more about how important the task is and sometimes more about how urgent. Getting my taxes done is really, really important, but right now doesn’t seem very urgent (sometimes we work better at the last minute).  Getting this blog done is moderately important, a little urgent. But it’s what I’m doing.

My usual strategy:

My strategy is to just  get a feeling of importance and urgency and make a short list and just do it. Sometimes I just guess,  almost close my eyes and pick a task at random, just so I can start moving.  Eventually things get done.

Maybe you can offer a good strategy for handling this?  Please.

doug

Bonus Tip O the Day:

If you open a bottle or jar, put the lid back on as soon as possible, preferably before trying to do anything else.

Bonus Tip O the Day # 2:

Do not set the bottle or jar down near the edge of a counter.

Note: these tips are from personal experience.

Bonus Links:

My Worst ADD ADHD Problem

Dr Marx ADD ADHD videos and posts

There's still a little controversy.

There’s still a little controversy.

 

 

 

 

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An Excess of Blessings From ADD ADHD – – – ADD Tip O the Day 582

Gifts, Benefits, and Blessings of ADD ADHD

Have exhausted this topic for a moment. Got lots of good comments on both sides of the question.  Thank you.

But –

I am overly blessed with the gifts of creativity and wide range of interests. There’s so much I want to do and I’m not good at setting priorities or saying no to myself.

I’m not feeling overwhelmed but overloaded.  Some sense of pressure, even since I “retired”. How did I ever find time to work?

To Do

Here’s what I’m trying to do, listed from daily to less often:

Quiet time (prayer, meditation, journaling, Bible), read the papers, exercise, emails, Spanish (duolingo), guitar,reading two books,cocktail hour with Martha, evening movie with Martha, helping teach AP psychology (lots of work, challenging, time-consuming, enjoyable), blog, write autobiography, marketing books, seeking locums jobs, church, errands and tasks and chores, Kairos prison ministry, Cruzada men’s group, PERA job,planning long trip, to say nothing of eating and trying to get enough sleep.

My days are only 24 hours long.

Give Something Up

That’s one strategy. I gave up chess several years ago. Now I’m giving up studying genetics. I’ve pared my email connections way down. There’s nothing else I want to drop, but then I didn’t really want to drop chess or genetics, either.

Strategies –Plug away, et. al.

Plug away is a strategy. I can only do what I can do. Try to watch priorities.

So much is attitude. If I can stay aware of what’s going on and just keep plugging away, it’s actually all fine.

Plans

I’m planning to do an intermittent series covering medications for ADD ADHD– to take them or not? stimulants. nonstimulants. alternatives.

Any suggestions are  very welcome.

Doug

Whine O the Day:

Some days it seems like half my time is spent trying to find things I’ve misplaced and the other half trying to find things someone has moved.

Bonus Links

Videos on ADD ADHD   I don’t watch  videos, but I would guess that these are good.

On the ADD ADHD gifts benefits controversy     one  two   three  four

On overloaded and overwhelmed    one   two three  four

Where does all the time go?
Where does all the time go?

 

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ADD ADHD As We Age: The Older Adult — ADD Tip O the Day 581

I didn’t discover I have ADD until I was 64.

Suddenly, a lot of things made sense – why I couldn’t make model airplanes as a kid, why I killed a pregnant Guppy fish, why I was always losing my keys, why I always carried a pocket full of index cards and an appointment book. I was using strategies that I didn’t realize were strategies cause I didn’t even realize there was a problem, but they made my life easier.

Medications, and the Elderly

I saw Dr. Evaldson,  the Santa Fe ADD ADHD expert. He confirmed my diagnosis but was a little reluctant to give me Ritalin because of my age.  But I was in good health so we tried a low dose.

The research doesn’t show any real danger of the stimulants – Ritalin (methylphenidate), Adderall, Vyvanse, Daytrana, amphetamines-especially in the absence of heart disease or hypertension. The antidepressants – Strattera, Wellbutrin- may be a little more problematic but we use them in the elderly.

Changes With Age

ADD ADHD by definition begins in childhood. Basically, we’re born with it, but it often doesn’t really show up in symptoms until we start school, or occasionally later.  8% of children have it. I was wrongly taught that we outgrow it in adolescence; we don’t. But due to some combination of maturing, learning strategies, and improved self-control,the symptoms become less noticeable, especially hyperactivity,and only 4% of adults meet the criteria for diagnosis, even though some of the brain abnormalities persist.

Does our ADD ADHD improve as we get older? Or does it become worse? How do we distinguish between the symptoms of normal aging versus ADD ADHD? I’m not sure there are good answers to these questions, but if the only symptoms are of memory or first appeared and old age, it is presumably not ADD ADHD.

In my little research of the net, there’s not a lot of information about this, and most of it comments that there’s not a lot of research about it.

Diagnosing

It is clear that in making the diagnosis other medical problems (hypothyroidism, vitamin deficiency, dementia, etc.) need to be ruled out, but that’s true for younger people also.

I hope our viewing doctors will make some clarifying comments.

doug

Definition of Old:                                                    

And it doesn't get better.  And tax season is going to sneak up on us.

And it doesn’t get better. And tax season is going to sneak up on us.

Anyone 10 years older than me.

Quote O the Day:

“White hair is a sign of wisdom, if you keep your mouth shut.”

Rant O the Day:

Actually, the stimulants may be less problematic for us than the benzodiazepines that so many of us are on.

Comment  O the Day – Three of the Bad Things About Getting Old:

1. Losing your vision

2. Losing your hearing

3. I can’t remember the third

The Links:

from Dr. Adler

Aging and ADHD

Attention Deficit Symptoms in Older People

Is It ADHD  Or  Aging?

ADHD in Older Adults

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Do We Really Need More Controversy About ADD ADHD Benefits and Gifts? — ADD ADHD Tip O the Day 580

Aaron Smith said it very well:

  • Aaron Smith

    Aaron Smith

    ADHD Achievement Strategist & Motivational Coach

    “Like everything else in life, it’s easy to paint ADHD with a broad brush. Saying it’s “all bad” or “all good,” if only life were that simple. ADHD can be your greatest asset and your Achilles heal. It’s not an “either or” question, it’s an “and both” way of being and relating to your various contextual environments. It’s what you do with your unique mind that makes all the difference, and how you perceive yourself. If we become overly negative, we lose sight of opportunities for growth. There are always ways to harness your ADHD and cultivate greater depths of insight into your mind. Let’s support each other and offer constructive narratives, uplifting strategies, helpful tips, etc. There’s already so much negative stuff out there in society, why not instead offer solutions. For every failure or scenario where someone has given up, there’s someone who has found improbable success through dedication, perseverance, and establishing a growth mindset. We need to learn from these individuals, and understand that their successes could be your own success with the right strategies, tools, systems of support, the right outlook, self-confidence, and persistence.”

    Right on, Aaron!

    May I proffer my opinions (Again)?

    1. Maybe there isn’t really a need for controversy. Clearly, ADD ADHD provides both benefits and detriments.

    2. What is the benefit in standing around shouting about the benefits? Maybe it helps sustain morale and encourages us to make the most of our strengths?

    3.What is the benefit of sitting around moaning about our deficiencies?   None.         And beating up on ourselves is destructive.

    4. But there is also no benefit in denying them. If we acknowledge our problems, then we can address them and come up with ways to cope with them, strategies that will make our lives better.

    5. Unfortunately, for me, the benefits, such as creativity, a wide range of interests, and the ability to hyperfocus (not under my control, sadly), are often overwhelmed by the detriments, such as distractibility, difficulty setting priorities, and procrastination.

    Conclusion: How to Live Well With ADD ADHD

    So, let’s be kind to ourselves, capitalize on our abilities, acknowledge our problems, and come up with strategies for them.

    doug

     

    Pete Quily’s wonderful list of 151 benefits of ADHD

    link for Aaron Smith

    Previous Posts on the Controversy:

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    Enjoying one of my ADD ADHD gifts!

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    three

 

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It’s In the Cards – Another ADD ADHD Strategy — ADD Tip O the Day 579

New Year, new strategies, maybe the novelty helps

You may know that I’m a big fan of index cards.  My system of  colored cards I keep in my shirt pocket. I call that half my brain. The other half of my brain, I call Martha.

Scott has given me another use of index cards, and I really like it.

I got this strategy from Scott:

… one thing I’m trying is I have a pile of 3X5 cards with quotes I have collected on them. Each day or so I take the card from the top and put it on the bottom, revealing a new quote for the day. When I find something that works (and remember to do this) I sometimes write it down as if it were a quote and put it in the pile so I will run into it some day in the future. Sometimes that gets me started doing it again. Also, I don’t always put the old card on the bottom of the pile. If it is something I want to run into again sooner I will put it somewhere in the middle of the pile.

Mottoes, Tips, Strategies, Prompts, Quotes?

I keep the cards on my desk where they’re easily seen. I’m not sure what to call them. Recently I had a week of feeling pressured, overloaded and over whelmed, and that’s when I started using the cards.  They have helped.

Sample Cards

Focus on the positive.

Take it easy.

What does it matter?

Plug away.

Prioritize.

We’ve learned that our brain can generate new brain cells. Yea! So maybe this is a third part of my brain.

doug

Bonus Spanish verb O the day:

zumbar – to buzz, hum, flutter around

That’s kind of what I was doing.

 

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A New Card Strategy

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Bonus links:

save one hour a day – from julie

The Colored Card System

Using the Colored card System

 

 

 

 

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ADD ADHD and Goals-Can We Use Them? — ADD Tip O the Day 578

Goals are important, whether we have ADD ADHD or not

In prison ministry, we notice that many of the men do not have the concept of goals other than short term “I want this now”.

Goals help us with focus, planning and setting priorities, and motivation, all of which are issues with ADD ADHD.

Very short-term goals would include the to do lists, and we feel satisfaction when we get something done, which gives us more motivation to move on to the next thing.

Steps

When I list longer term goals, it’s useful to write down the steps I need to do to move towards them. This is  the concept of “small steps”, and also motivates me and helps me get moving.

My goal is to become a better guitar player, but my immediate step is to learn to play a G chord using my little finger. It’s hard.

Values

My long-term goals need to be aligned with and reflect my values. I try to check them every six months and see if how I’m spending my time is congruent with those goals and if I’m making progress.  Again, under each goal. I list things I can do to move towards it.

Here is Scott’s great strategy from his comment:

I like to make a list of things that are important to me; Marriage, Work, Exercise, my Boat, dealing with ADD, etc., and then under each heading I write some things that I can do to help with that. Sometimes these are things I do once and they are done, like finishing a specific project. Sometimes they are ongoing things, like remembering to use specific strategies for dealing with my ADD. Then I put that list in a place, like on a wall, where I will see it on a regular basis, so it reminds me of those things that are important and what I can do to support those things in my life. Throughout the year I may update my list if I think of something appropriate, come up with a new strategy, or finish a project that is on the list. Sometimes I put a date next to a crossed out project and that allows me to see progress, but it isn’t a to-do list. It is more like a reminder of what I consider important and how I plan on achieving that.

Reasonable Goals

We ADDers tend to set goals that are impossible, always overestimating what we can do and being unable to assess how much time we have to do it in. This leads to demoralization, procrastination, stagnation, and inertia ( Is that a little repetitive?)

Strategy

Set goals a little under what you can achieve. When you reach one, you can always cross it off and set a new goal (Does this sound a little un-American? Or just un-ADD?).

Some of my current goals include losing weight (but I hate to think of the steps that are involved), being a better husband, and producing quality blog posts.  We’ll see how it goes.

Doug

Bonus Thought:

Writing this, I realize I also tend to set too many goals – prioritizing is another ADD ADHD issue.

Bonus Links:

Homey has a different viewpoint on goals for ADD ADHD

Goals 1

Goals 2

Goals 3

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Goals: More New Year’s Resolutions

 

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A New ADD ADHD Strategy for the New Year — ADD Tip O the Day 577

Why a New ADD ADHD Strategy?

One of Puryear’s Principles of Human Behavior:

Once we finally find something that works, we quit doing it.

I have strategies that work, and make my life better, but sometimes I drift away from them.

Do We Need Novelty?

So, do we need to keep changing our strategies? I’m taking a little different approach to my desktop used envelope immediate to – do list. ( my DUEITL)

I turn the envelope long wise and put a line down the middle. On the right, I list the next 5 to 10 things I need to do. On the left, I list the next two or three things I’m going to do. When I get one done, I cross it off, and pull one over from the right to the left and cross it off on the right.

Obviously, as life goes on, I can keep adding things to the right, but never let the list on the left get over three.

So far, it seems to be helping.

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                                          To Do List, New format,              To Do List, New Format

                                                          Close Up

Bonus New Strategy:

If you noticed the list on the bottom left, that’s my early morning schedule, what I need to do when I first get up. Since my life has gotten a little disarranged, I keep forgetting to do the basic things, and so I write down the schedule – walk the dog,eat breakfast, brush my teeth, etc.   It helps, but you probably don’t need that.

More Links:

Bonnie Mincu’s new course on being productive

I Can’t Use Lists

Pete Quily on To Do Lists

How to Make Lists Work

 

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ADD ADHD and “Auditory Processing Disorder” —ADD Tip O the Day 576

ADD ADHD and trouble hearing

A fellow ADDer recently asked me if his difficulties in hearing were part of his ADD ADHD. He particularly has trouble in a crowded restaurant, hearing the person across from him.

I’d never thought about it. I  thought my trouble hearing was age. In a restaurant, I like to sit with my back to the wall, but thought that was just paranoia. Maybe it’spart of ADD ADHD? I’m interested and curious and want to know what’s going on. But maybe it has something to do with hearing? Less noise from behind me?

Auditory Processing Disorder

So I did a little research and came up with  auditory processing disorder (APD).  Apparently, like dyslexia, there is a correlation with ADD ADHD  (see links below, once you get there).

Questions:

1. Do you have trouble with hearing? Do you think it’s part of your ADD ADHD?

2.  Are these things, like APD, a basic part of ADD ADHD, or do they just run together because we have various brain dysfunctions, not just one.

3. Currently, ADD ADHD is divided into three types, hyperactive, inattentive, combined. But are there actually many more varieties, coming from different genetic combinations and environmental exposures and manifesting different combinations of symptoms?

Requesting Your Comments:

Your opinions will be appreciated,valued and respected (even though I may totally disagree with them).

Doug

Quote O the Day:

“Old age is not a battle. Old age is a massacre.”

Philip Roth

Bonus Quote O the  Day:

“Respeto tu derecho de su opinions, aunque sonidos como los delerios de un hombre loco.”

My attempt at  an old Spanish saying

Totally Irrelevant  Thought O  the Day:

“APD also stands for Albuquerque Police Department.”

(- because I have the gift of creativity, which takes me off on all kinds of irrelevant nonproductive tangents, although it has some good effects also.)

Bonus Irrelevant Thought O the Day:

Couldn’t APD  as well be called CHS?

Oh, well.

Finally, Here Are the Links:

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clik

auditory processing disorder

auditory processing disorder 2

overlap     

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It’s not too late for yet more New Year resolutions!

 

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Free ADD ADHD Training from Bonnie Mincu

free training clik here– free video, and webinar is tomorrow jan 8

recommended

doug

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You Can Keep Your @#$##@@ Benefits! – – – ADD Tip O the Day 575

Different Opinions About the Benefits of ADD ADHD

Yes, we do have different opinions and viewpoints, not surprising, and I appreciate all the comments. And I respect all the opinions, but –

Here are my responses, from my viewpoint:

1. ADD ADHD gives us the gift of creativity

Yes, I believe we tend to be more creative, and I value my creativity. But it’s not that much of a benefit if I’m trying to create all kinds of things at one time and can’t get anything done.

2. ADD ADHD gives us a wide range of interests

Yes, but I’m interested in so many things that I find it hard to set priorities and learn anything in depth – “I know a little bit about a lot of things –” (song from before your time).  It’s hard to let anything go. Right now I’m into songwriting; and enjoying it, but think there will be very little return. And there are better uses of my time.

3. ADD ADHD helps us think outside the box.

Yes, that’s a gift, but sometimes I blurt out off-the-wall things, and often I find it hard to do things just the regular way, which might be the most efficient way,, which might be the reason that it’s the regular way.

4. ADD ADHD gives us compassion.

Well, maybe. Maybe any kind of chronic problem or handicap would give us compassion?  But I think if I’m too tied up and struggling to just get through the day, manage the hassles and sort out the problems I have caused for myself, I may not have much time, energy, or attention left over for compassion for anyone else’s problems; I may not notice them at all.

5. ADD ADHD gives us hyperfocus.

Yes, I love it when I can hyperfocus on something and be really productive – if it is on something that is in fact productive and not a tangent or waste of time, and if I can unconnect from it when necessary.

doug

Apology:

Sorry if the title was offensive.  Was that an example of impulsive blurting out poor judgement or a shrewd hyperfocused creative way to get your attention?

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Benefits?

 

 

 

 Review of ADD ADHD benefits posts and comments:

one two    

And here’s a copy of the discussion:

Responses to Benefits of ADD ADHD — ADD Tip O the Day 568

 

  1. I consider ADD a gift at least for me. It helps me see different perspectives, come up with twisty connections for things “Normal” people wouldn’t consider connected, helps me get interested in all sorts of cool things and see how other people can enjoy those things. I love it when I get hyperfocused on a project and dealing with ADD has helped me find yet one more reason I need to get regular exercise (that reason actually finally got me to exercise regularly!)
    Yes, dealing with the downside of ADD can be a pain. Going after every “shiny” thing keeps me from getting the things done that I care about. But I still manage to get a few things finished here and there and life goes on. I would never trade what I’ve been given with my ADD, problems and all, for being “normal”. I’m pretty spoiled though. I think my ADD helps in too many ways that the normal literature doesn’t seem to quantify.

  2. I agree – it’s not a gift. I’d much rather NOT have it or have the option, like you said, of returning it! But it is what it is. I guess thinking of it as a gift makes it less offensive and easier to swallow.

     

     
  3. The only time my ADHD is a gift is when I become microfocused on something that I actually need to get done! That rarely happens. Usually I microfocus on whatever shiny thing is most entertaining at the moment.

  4. D K Powell says:

    I can see both sides to this! I loved the quote at the end – that is so very me! The great thing about living in Bangladesh was that no one uses their given name – everyone is ‘brother’ or ‘aunty’ and so on. It made life very easy for me!

    I DO see my ADHD as a gift but that’s because it enables me to work at very high speed and have interests in many, many fascinating subject (several of which gave me a wonderfully varied career as a