Five Things You Will Never Do With ADHD— ADHD Tip O the Day 951

You will never:

  1. Catch up.
  2. Finish your to do list.
  3. Change the mind of an ADHD denier. 
  4.  Keep things uncluttered. 
  5.  Remember something you didn’t write down. 

Sorry, that’s just the way it is. Devise strategies, do the best you can, and learn to live with it.

Good luck.

doug

Links:

ADHD and food Unfortunately, I don’t think the foods make much difference, if any. Eating a reasonably balanced and healthy diet is always a good thing. I take a multivitamin, Vit D, and omega 3 anyway.

Food, Diet, Dyes, etc. and ADHD

To Do Lists

Question O the Day:

Does ADHD get worse with age?

I don’t think so, but the normal slippages of age can make it seem so, memory problems for example. BUT – this process is counter acted as we develop strategies and get better at coping.

Personal Note O the Day:

I’m 100% sure that few things in life are 100%.

Poem O the Day (from Notes On Aging):

I was really sleepy

Until I turned out the light.

 

 

Aging is a booger.
Aging is a booger.

 

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Parenting — ADHD Tip O the Day 950

Being a parent is not easy.

Parenting generally is  difficult and stressful, but it can also be extremely pleasant and rewarding. As they say, they grow up very fast. Look for every opportunity to spend quality time with your children because you won’t have too many opportunities.

There are no perfect parents. A reasonable goal is to be a better parent to your children than your parents were to you. Try your best and don’t feel guilty or like you’re a failure.  

Your parents did many things to you as a child that you swore you would never do to your children, but you will.

Do you need to forgive your parents?

Am I an expert on parenting?  I raised four children, all of whom turned out well anyway. I’ve seen many patients in therapy and observed some of the effects of parenting. Do I know the answers? I do not.

Some  things I do know:

1. Every child,  every parent, and every parent-child combo is different. There’s no one size fits all. If the personalities of the child and the parent mesh well,  good. If they don’t you have to make the best of it.

2. The three basic styles of  parenting:
A.  Authoritation: I’m the parent, the boss, and you’ll do what I say.  (See John Rosemond.  No, don’t.) This doesn’t work well with adolescents.
B. Collaborative: Let’s figure out the best way for us to handle this  situation, but I get the final say.
C. Permissive: Do whatever you want.

I believe the collaborative style usually is best,  but it may depend on the particular parent child combo.

3. The  reality with teenagers is you have as much authority as they are willing to give you.  The challenge is to give the support needed while gradually letting go.

4.  Your child will learn more from what you do than what you say.  This cliche is true.

5. Children need a chance to be children.  And be sure your expectations are age appropriate.

5. There are more important things in life than a orderly room or even  grades.  There are more important things to worry about. Try to avoid struggles, especially non essential ones. Pick your battles- Can I win? Is it worth the effort? You have a long rough road ahead. Conserve your energy. Take care of yourself.

6. Don’t make threats or establish rules that you aren’t prepared to follow through on.

7. I don’t advocate punishment. It’s often counter productive, especially long term.  If you are going to punish, never do it while you’re still angry.  Physical punishment is child abuse.

8. There are many different ways to judge someone  “successful.“ A kind,  honest, relatively happy adult is a huge success, no matter their financial, professional, or social status . Especially if they’re good parents if they have children.

Good luck

doug

Links:

Parents with ADHD

Treating Emotional Symptoms

Update on Marijuana

“Neurodivergent Girls”

Personal Notes O the Day:

  1. I’ve heard parents say I spank (etc.) my child to teach them respect.  I was spanked (etc.) a lot.  It taught me many things.  Respect was not one of them.
  2. This post is in response to many anguished questions I’ve answered on other sites.
  3.  I’m excited about the novel.  I keep doing another draft, always hoping to publish the next one.  On 23.  Maybe 24?
  4. Parenting is hard.  Parenting an ADHD child is much harder.  And if you have ADHD too?  Wow!

Quote O the Day:

“Guilt is a very useful emotion.  For about five minutes.”

An unknown guru.

 

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I’m Very Doubtful — ADHD Tip O the Day 949

Adult Onset ADHD?

Technically, adult onset ADHD isn’t possible, because it’s a neuro developmental disorder, meaning we’re born with it (or at least something interferes with the development of the nervous system early in life).

The DSM requires symptoms to be present before age twelve, but not necessarily fully meeting criteria for diagnosis. Of course, the DSM could  be wrong.

The studies supporting adult onset state these adults did not have ADHD in childhood. That means they didn’t have ADHD in the sense of meeting criteria for the diagnosis, but probably they had ADHD brains, they just didn’t show the full basket of symptoms until they reached the challenges of adulthood.

If they were diagnosed with ADHD as adults, using DSM criteria, that means they had several symptoms before age twelve.  That’s a criteria required for adult diagnosis.

I had many ADHD symptoms in childhood, primarily behavioral, but breezed through school until I hit the wall in college. Then, oh boy!

ADHD symptoms presumably reflect a delay in the maturation of the brain, a lagging behind normal. ( Possibly this is the cause in only some of us?) This explains why about half of children who meet criteria no longer meet criteria as adults, even though their brains still have not fully matured into “normal” brains and still show the abnormalities characteristic of ADHD.

At this time, if we say someone “has ADHD” we mean they meet DSM V criteria.

doug

Links:

Adult Onset?

Adult Onset???

Adult Onset??????DSM V Criteria for ADHD in Adults

DSM V Criteria for ADHD in Children

 

Questions O the Day:

If someone didn’t meet criteria for ADHD in childhood, and so couldn’t be diagnosed then, but now meets criteria as an adult, which means they had several ADHD symptoms as a child, didn’t they have ADHD brains all along? 

They had an ADHD brain but not ADHD?

So did they have ADHD as a child even if they didn’t meet criteria?

So should we say they have “Adult Onset ADHD?”

So do you find this as confusing as I do?

Quotes O the Day:

Me, trying to explain to my wife why her laptop isn’t working properly again:

“It’s technology. That’s the nature of technology.
Or
“It’s part of the innate perversity of inanimate matter.”
Or
“Probably the demons again.”

Oops! Yet again.

Our ADHD Brains Are Different. Surprise!

My ADHD Brain without meds

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ADHD Medications — ADHD Tips O the Day 948

This article is so good I’m offering it as the ADHD Tip O the Day 

ADHD Medications

Hope you’ll read and enjoy it.

doug

Poem O the Day:

    The Mail

Back in the day, when I was working,

in the days before I retired,

getting the mail was the High Point O the Day,

 or one of them, those were good days.

I got a lot of checks in the mail,

And  lots of other interesting things, too.

Nowadays, I still look forward to getting the mail,

habit I guess,

even though now

it’s all bills and catalogs.

Links:

ADHD Meds

Non medication treatment for ADHD -(Why??)

Webinar 3/25

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Personal Notes O the Day:

  1. Welcome to all the new tribe members.  I hope you enjoy the posts and that they’re useful.  And remember I love comments.
  2. The comments aren’t showing like they used to, so please click “comments” at the very end of the post.
  3. Otherwise, Word Press has added the option of using the old “classic” model instead of the “improved one”. Thank goodness! 

doug

Life with ADHD

 

 

Huh?

 

 

 

ADHD? Me??

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ADHD Excuses — ADHD Tip O the Day 947

We ADHDers are hard to live with.  We cause a lot of frustration.

A comment from T:

“I would love for you to address the issue with people with ADHD trying to justify behavior that is driven by the ADHD and not by necessity. I’m sure you know the “it’ll just take a minute”, the “I was right there so I figured I’d do it”, and the “It NEEDED to be done” excuses. You’ve probably made them yourself.”

Oh my, yes, I do recognize these statements.  But I think of them as explanations, not excuses. We do  need to avoid  using our ADHD as an excuse,  just to avoid doing something we don’t want to do, for example.  

An alcoholic is not responsible for being alcoholic, but they’re  responsible for doing something about it.  Same for ADHD.

T is addressing two issues: 1. not being ready to go on time. 2.  not showing up on time or at all.

 If something bothers your SO (significant other), you need to work on it.  Using a basic ADHD coping principle, identify the very specific problem that bothers your SO the most. Work on one thing at a time. Once the most annoying thing is mastered, go to the next one.

 For example, my wife doesn’t like me to keep her waiting if we’re going somewhere. I enlisted her help. Please be patient  while I’m working on the problem; it’ll take some time and I’ll have some lapses until my rules become habits.  Tell me the target time we need to leave.  I set my alarm for five minutes before.  Give me a five minute cushion. At the alarm, I do what I need to, often save something and shut down the computer, put away my guitar, put on my shoes, etc.   

Rule: When the alarm rings, I can’t start anything else, no ‘one more little thing’, etc.

Agreement: If I’m a less than five minutes late, she won’t get frustrated. 

This is working pretty well for us. Life is better when your SO isn’t frustrated with you.

 Not showing up at all is a different problem, and needs different strategies.

Tip:

If you’re working on making a habit, you need to do it every time, even the times you know you don’t really need to.

Personal Notes O the Day:

  1. I’m blessed with a wife who will work with me on ADHD problems.
  2. Not to brag, but yesterday I went nearly three hours without dropping or spilling anything (and I was awake).
  3. Red Flags: “Oh, I have plenty of time.”  “I’ll just do this.”
  4. I think my posts have been messed up.  I’m trying to catch up by reposting the old one.  Hope it’s working.

Quote O the Day:

“If Mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy.”

doug

 

 

Bonus Links:

ADHD Meds Webinar 3/17/21


ADHD Webinar 3/25/21 or later

 

The ADHD Effect on Marriage 

Sleep – or Not

Missed Appointments

 

 

ADHD Marriage

   

 

A Complaint

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I’m Also Doubtful About — ADHD Tip O the Day 946

  1. John Rosemond — writes syndicated newspaper columns and books on parenting. His style is about using the power differential to control children and seems out of the 40’s and  maybe a little sadistic at times.   He recently had a column denying the existence of ADHD. I wrote a letter to the editor:

John Rosemonds‘s column against ADHD is full of dangerous misinformation and bad advice. He denies the existence of a well proven serious disorder which usually responds well to treatment. An out of date far right conservative, Rosemond advertises himself as a psychologist, although he does not have a PhD. He is a licensed psychological advisor in North Carolina. Parents would do well to avoid his columns as would the New Mexican.

Douglas A Puryear MD
Psychiatrist, Santa Fe, New Mexico
ADHDer 

 Possibly Rosemond’s approach is good for a particular combination of  parent type and child type, but there is no excuse for his attack on ADHD.

2. Genetic Testing to Choose Medication 

This holds great promise, but my reading is that it is not ready for clinical use.  It will sometimes predict which medicines are most likely to cause a person side effects, but that alone isn’t  very useful.

 

Strategies:

1.Hold onto your wallet.

2. Write letters to the editor (within limits).

doug

Rosemond

Rosemond

genetic testing cost

genetic testing

genetic testing 2

Mayo on genetic testing

The FDA Warns Against the Use of Many Genetic Tests with Unapproved Claims to Predict Patient Response to Specific Medications: FDA Safety Communication | FDA

Notice that the links in favor of genetic testing are from companies selling the test, not scientific studies.

 

Personal Notes O the Day:

  1. In my opinion, there are a lot of people out there trying to get a hold of your money.
  2. Some parents say they spank children to teach them respect. I was spanked, a lot. It taught me some things. Respect was not one of them.
  3. Some people say that they were spanked and it didn’t harm them .  How would they know?
  4. My letter sparked several more letters complaining about Rosemond and a couple endorsing him, tho not his ADHD denial.
  5. Please always scroll all the way down to see the comments (I love the comments). And please check post 945, the previous one, and offer suggestions to Joan.  Thanks.

 

ADHD causes confusion

 

 

 

 

ADHD Meds

 

You think What about ADHD ?!?

 

 

 

 

 

 

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A Change in Plans— ADHD Tip O the Day 945

I had today’s blog ready to post, well almost. It’s great to stay ahead. Then I got these two inputs and I have to share them with you. The link needs to be read slowly and with thoughtfulness (With ADHD?-well, try. I’ve read it three time and am trying to absorb it.)

Dealing with it  https://captainscourageous.net/blog/lifechangingsituations

 

From Richard Rohr: This explains a lot about “them” — and us.

People can’t see what they can’t see. Their biases get in the way, surrounding them like a high wall, trapping them in ignorance, deception, and illusion. No amount of reasoning and argument will get through to them, unless we first learn how to break down the walls of bias. . . .

Confirmation Bias: We judge new ideas based on the ease with which they fit in with and confirm the only standard we have: old ideas, old information, and trusted authorities. As a result, our framing story, belief system, or paradigm excludes whatever doesn’t fit.

Complexity Bias: Our brains prefer a simple falsehood to a complex truth.

Community Bias: It’s almost impossible to see what our community doesn’t, can’t, or won’t see.

Complementarity Bias: If you are hostile to my ideas, I’ll be hostile to yours. If you are curious and respectful toward my ideas, I’ll respond in kind.

Competency Bias: We don’t know how much (or little) we know because we don’t know how much (or little) others know. In other words, incompetent people assume that most other people are about as incompetent as they are. As a result, they underestimate their [own] incompetence, and consider themselves at least of average competence.

Consciousness Bias: Some things simply can’t be seen from where I am right now. But if I keep growing, maturing, and developing, someday I will be able to see what is now inaccessible to me.

Comfort or Complacency Bias: I prefer not to have my comfort disturbed.

Conservative/Liberal Bias: I lean toward nurturing fairness and kindness, or towards strictly enforcing purity, loyalty, liberty, and authority, as an expression of my political identity.

Confidence Bias: I am attracted to confidence, even if it is false. I often prefer the bold lie to the hesitant truth.

Catastrophe or Normalcy Bias: I remember dramatic catastrophes but don’t notice gradual decline (or improvement).

Contact Bias: When I don’t have intense and sustained personal contact with “the other,” my prejudices and false assumptions go unchallenged.

Cash Bias: It’s hard for me to see something when my way of making a living requires me not to see it.

Conspiracy Bias: Under stress or shame, our brains are attracted to stories that relieve us, exonerate us, or portray us as innocent victims of malicious conspirators. [1]

Richard again: I don’t know any other way to be free of all these biases except through the contemplative mind. I see almost every one of them within myself–at least at some point in my life. I also believe there are enough good-willed people out there who, if presented with a list of these biases, have the freedom to investigate, “How can I let go of that? How can I move beyond that?” [2]

[1] Brian McLaren, Why Don’t They Get It? Overcoming Bias in Others (and Yourself) (Self-published: 2019), e-book. 

[2] Adapted from Brian McLaren, Jacqui Lewis, with Richard Rohr, “Why Can’t We See?,” October 5, 2020, in Learning How to See, episode 1 (Center for Action and Contemplation: 2020), podcast, MP3 audio.

doug

Quote O the Day:

“It is as it is.”

From The Art of Motorcycle Maintenance

 

Personal Notes O the Day:

  1. Not to brag, but yesterday I went nearly three hours without dropping anything. 
  2. I still plan to address more of my doubts, and T’s question about our making excuses, but I’ve been busy, and I have a sore finger, and my computer isn’t working right, and -.
  3.  Planning to is great, but it’s no substitute for doing.
  4. Doing lots of editing on the novel.  I’m amazed at how much I’m cutting out, unnecessary words especially. On draft twenty one, but it won’t be ready to publish.  Maybe twenty two??
  5.  The new ADHD book is on hold til the novel is done.
  6. I won an argument, once.
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I’m Doubtful About— ADHD Tip O the Day 944

I am doubtful About:

OPC  is being touted as “Miracle Antioxidents.” That alone should raise your suspicions. The supplements contain bilberry, grape seed, red wine, pine bark extract, citrus extract, and flavonoids. Hmmm.  I haven’t seen scientific studies supporting this concept.  I have seen ads for suppplements.  $$$$


Dr. Daniel Amen is an expert on ADHD, and surely knows more than I do.  He has clinics and TV shows.  Dr. Amen  specifies multiple subtypes and I expect is at least somewhat correct. He tailors treatments to the subtypes – I am doubtful, and uses brain imaging  $$$$ to determine the type – I am doubtful.  He sell his own brands of supplements. $$$$  –I am doubtful. His views are outside the professional mainstream (which doesn’t necessarily mean he’s wrong, but —).

The only supplement I’ve seen evidence for is omega 3 fatty acid (fish oil), somewhat helpful for some people.  I use it.  Not expensive. 

I am also doubtful about :

John Rosemond, advice columnist (not Dr. Rosemond)
Diet for ADHD (actually, any kind of diet for anything (except for certain rare genetic diseases)).
Genetic testing to select medication                                                                                            Brain imaging to diagnose ADHD                                                                                                  Adult onset ADHD                                                                                                                  Marijuana for ADHD

More on these later (“I plan”).

Various Notes O the Day:

  1. “The cost of an individual SPECT scan is about $1,300. Insurance companies don’t cover it because they categorize attention deficit as a behavior problem.” (Or because they don’t want to pay.)

2. A comment from T : 

“I would love for you to address the issue with people with ADHD trying to justify behavior that is driven by the ADHD and not by necessity. I’m sure you know the “it’ll just take a minute”, the “I was right there so I figured I’d do it”, and the “It NEEDED to be done” excuses. You’ve probably made them yourself.”

I’m not sure I understand the idea, but I think it means what I say when I’m late.  Plan to respond to this soon.  Thank you T, I love comments and suggestions.

3. Where else in the world could I publish my poems?

Poem O the Day:

A Romantic Encounter

I saw her clear across the room,
couldn’t miss her,
she was gorgeous.

She saw me looking
and she smiled at me.

I smiled back.
Then she pointed at me.

I waved and gave her a thumbs up.
I carefully made my way across the crowded room,

trying not to spill my drink.

When I reached her,
she gently took my hand                                                                                                                   and gazed into my eyes.
Then she leaned in close.
and whispered softly in my ear,
“Your fly is unzipped.”

Links:

Webinar March 2 – Drs. Hallowell and Ratey, genuine experts

OPC ???

OPC for ADHD – I am doubtful

Dr. Amen ???

Dr. Amen

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Images left over from last post, You think WHAT about ADHD?!

 

You think WHAT about ADHD ?!?

You think WHAT about ADHD?!?

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How to Respond to “I don’t believe in ADHD” — ADHD Tip O the Day 943

Many people ask how to deal with “I don’t believe in ADHD”, or with similar comments    (“We all have some of that.” or “That’s just an excuse for laziness.” etc etc).

How to respond?

Appropriate possible responses, choose one.
1. OK.
2. Really?!?!
3. Too bad.
4. What have you been doing with yourself lately?
5. You don’t have to.                                                                                                                                6. Been nice seeing you. 

Possible Appropriate Response, Maybe, Once

Make one small effort -“Maybe you could google it and get a little more information.”

But then return to possible responses number one.

Inappropriate response:
Trying to change their mind.

doug

Personal Notes O the Day:

  1. This dropping things is starting to get out of hand.
  2. I’ve come pretty close to finishing my current draft, draft 20 of Alma Means Soul, primarily focused on looking for unnecessary words that could be very easily done away with without any significant loss of anything of value.  I was extremely surprised at the very large number of those words that I was able to find.
    Or
    I’ve nearly completed draft 20 of Alma Means Soul,  eliminating a surprising number of unnecessary words.

  3. I have some plans. I always have some plans. Planning is easy; it’s doing that’s hard. I plan to do some posts on frequently asked questions – parenting, controversies including the  question of adult onset ADHD, who and when to tell about our ADHD, and others of course.

    Questions O the Day:    
  4. Do you have any suggestions/requests of topics you’d like addressed? I will  appreciate your input.
  5. Why can’t I get rid of the inappropriate numerals (4,5)?  Tech challenged.

Welcome to to the new members of the tribe.

Links:

Arguing and confirmatory bias

Several good Attitude articles

ADHD and Marriage (or relationships, since marriage seems less common these days.)

Arguing with people who don’t know what they’re talking about

 

I’m sorry, you believe what about ADHD?

 

 



Really??

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Miscellaneous ADHD Stuff — ADHD Tip O the Day 942.1

I keep forgetting to mention these underrecognized helps:

1 . Lavender oil – for anxiety. Put two drops on the inside of your wrist and sniff it occasionally.   Works for about 25% of people.  No side effects.  Also put two drops on your pillow for insomnia.

2. Helping someone else – for depression.  Just help somebody.

To Do Lists:

To do lists are key to my being able to function at all, but some people don’t not like them. They can add to the sense of pressure, or to the sense of failure if they don’t get completed, which they rarely do.
Language is a powerful tool and has a powerful effect on us. Maybe it would be good if those people gave up on the  to do list, and changed it to “The things I would like to get done today list.”
They would still need to limit the list five items max and check it often or it won’t work.

Addictions:

We’re more prone to addictions than vanillas are.  Our rate of addiction is lowered by treatment with stimulants.  I’ve been addicted to coffee and to computer games.  I recently had to delete a game off my phone because it was too good, too addictive.  I’m better off with no games but some seem safe. My strategy now is to do vocabulary apps instead of games.  Some fun but not too much. I have a long term addiction to food, and with this quarantine I’ve been lax and let my weight creep up.  Strategy:  Be more careful about what I eat and drink and exercise more, like I was doing before.

The hallmark of addiction is loss of control.

 

Personal Notes:

  1. About writing:  

I got the second edition of Your Life Can Be Better published.  The cover looks good, but Amazon  keeps shifting between showing the first edition or the second.   I finally contacted them today and I think it’s going to be fixed. We’ll see. The second edition is significantly improved over the first.


I just started draft 19 of my first novel, Alma Means Soul. From the 15th draft on I kept thinking I could publish the next draft. Surprise. Drafts 16 and even 17 still had  lot of errors to be fixed. Draft 18 had very few errors and a lot of opportunities for editing to make it better. There were an amazing number of words that were entirely unnecessary, and a few sections that could just be deleted. So maybe draft 20 can be published? Maybe.

Also kind of interesting, I’ve started to actually enjoy the editing, which I used to hate. But not nearly as much as the marketing.

2.  One of my mantras: “If I cant see it, it doesn’t exist.”  For example, things I’d looked forward to eating go bad in the back of the refrigerator because I don’t see them and don’t remember they’re there.  My wife says, “You can’t put everything in the front.”

Also, if it isn’t where I expect it or it doesn’t look like I expected, I cant see it, even if it is in front.  Strange.

3.  Got our second vaccine shot yesterday, arm a little sore, no problems.  Very grateful.


Quote of the day:


“This too will pass.
It may pass like a kidney stone, but it will pass.”

Welcome to the new members of our tribe.

Animated GIF

 

Question O the Day:

Who do we tell about our ADHD and when?

Links:

Addictions

Lavender Oil

Words

I eat when I’m hungry. I eat when I’m not.

 

ADHD makes it hard to prioritize, make decisions,choose, select, not over extend, edit, and some other things too

 

ADHD Trick

 

 

 

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Five Most Important ADHD Tips — ADHD Tip O the Day 941

With ADHD we’re not good at prioritizing or making choices or keeping list short, but here’s some of the most important tips/tools/strategies to help you make your life better:

1. Small steps – Don’t try to write the essay, try to write the first paragraph (or first sentence). Often if you take the first step, you’ll keep going, but that’s not the goal.

2. Specific small chunks  – Don’t try to improve your handwriting, try to improve your L’s.

3. One or at most two things at a time – If you’re trying to reduce your losing things, work on your car keys, but don’t be trying to stop losing your glasses and your phone and improve your forgetting and your handwriting all at the same time.

4. Do the hard part first – Do the hardest small step, then the rest will be easy.  Unless you’ are totally stuck, the do the easiest smallest step first to get unstuck.

5. Set reasonable goals – I’m nearly through the eighteenth draft of my first novel, Alma Means Soul.  My goal is to edit two pages a day.  But usually I do more.

The two pages a day is also an example of the strategy of Pecking Away.

Doug

Scientific Tidbit O the Day:   A recent study shows that the rate of significant problems from marijauna are related to the potency of the weed and the frequency of use, which are also related to each other.  The correlation with psychosis is not very strong, but it is with anxiety disorder.

The study itself is not very strong for a number of reasons.  Watch for the error of confusing correlation with cause – did high dose high frequency cause the anxiety problems or vice versa?  (Or neither?)

Still strong evidence of long lasting brain damage from pot to the developing brain up to about age 25.  I’m guessing the damage also correlates with dose and frequency.

During my years in the emergency room we saw some cases of new onset psychosis in people after smoking pot laced with a certain other substance (which I won’t name).  These cases were characterized by intractability – our treatment had no effect and they spent years in the hospital.  Again, caution in making assumptions- I have no idea how many other people smoked the same combo without that effect- none?  a lot?

Notes O the Day:

What is the difference between stuck, avoiding, and procrastination?

To me:

procrastination – I’ll do it, but certainly not today. And tomorrow doesn’t seem too likely either.  I’ve got all these other things to do.

avoidance – i know I really should do this. Maybe I will.  Someday.  I’ve got all these other things to do.

stuck – I’ve got all these things to do but  I can’t get started on anything except sitting here stewing in frustration. 

 

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Links:

Small Steps and Pecking Away

Stuck Again

Stuck Some More

Stuck, Stuck, Stuck

 

Procrastination?

 

ADHD Ain’t Easy
ADHD make it hard to prioritize, make decisions,choose, select, not over extend, and some other things too

 

Procrastination?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Failing with ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 940.1

“I am a failure.”

What a terrible thing to say about yourself.

I often read posts from mothers who say they’re failing, that they must be a bad mother. Often that means they can’t get their child to do what they want them to do. Sometimes their approach is wrong, or their goals are wrong, or what they are trying to do is impossible.

We all fail sometimes, don’t we?  We are not God, not even Angels, nor
Superheroes.

But failing at something does not mean we’re A Failure.  It means we’re human. With ADHD, we will fail more often than vanillas do.  Our ADHD interferes with all our efforts, we have trouble setting reasonable goals and expectations, we want to do everything, and we often have perfectionism(which is a recipe for both procrastination and failure.)

We need strategies to cope with our failures.

Strategies:
1. Reassess the goal. Is it reasonable? Is it worth the trouble?
2.Identify the specific thing that’s  blocking your success.  Then use a strategy.
3. For parents:

1. Take care of yourself first – 1. Get breaks, get help, etc.  2. Educate yourself thoroughly on the problem     3. Reassess:  Is your goal realistic? Can it be made smaller? 4. Pick your targets  carefully (battles?).  Can you win?  Is it worth it?

Puryear’s  First Principle of Human Behavior:

“When what we’re doing isn’t working, we’ll do more of it.”

Book O the Day:  The Spirituality of Imperfection

Old Quote O the Day:
“They said it couldn’t be done,
but with a smile, I went right to it.
I tackled that thing that ‘couldn’t be done’
and found that I couldn’t do it.”

Links:

Oppositional Defiant Disorder and ADHD— – (I think I had a touch of this.) (ODD)

Adult Onset ADHD? — (I don’t think so.)

More on Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria

ADHD and Frustration go together don’t they?

Other Notes O the Day:

40 % of children with ADHD are said to also have ODD- this looks too high to me?

ODD is extremely hard to parent or to treat.

8% of US children have ADHD.  50% of them “outgrow” it in adolescence.

Thus 4% of US adults have ADHD.

And I’m not good at it.

 

How are your New Years Resolutions Going?

 

Frustrating

 

 

 

 

 

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An Old ADHD Principle — ADHD Tip O the Day 939

For every problem, there’s a solution. The trick is to recognize that it’s a problem in the first place.

Problem: At night I put my glasses and my iphone (with the alarm set) on the bedside table and turn out the light.  The next morning I was fumbling for them in the dark and often knocked them off the table. Twice I stepped on the glasses.  This had been going on for quite a while before I realized – it was A Problem.

Solution: I always put the glasses in the nearest corner of the table and the iphone in the far corner.  Habit now.  No more problem.  But Duh!

Problem: I often needed to wrap tape around a round object.  It frequently got tangled up in itself before I got it on.  Argh!

Solution: Now I start wrapping the tape in the center instead of from one end.  Works great (usually).

Problem: I use a heating pad for my back in my computer chair.  I was always getting tangled up in the cord.

Solution: I used a bulldog clip to hold the cord around a table leg. It’s not pretty but it’s off the floor and out of my way.

Problem: Sometimes when I’ve written about this principle someone thought I was telling them where to put their glasses or how to use tape.  No, I’m using these examples to illustrate the principle, “Once you realize it’s a problem, you can find a solution and your life will get better.  These minor annoyances add up.”

Solution: I’ve just finished explaining it.

doug

Question O the Day:

Can you identify any frustrations in your life that you had not recognized as A Problem?

Obvious Note O the Day: 

Of course it’s not totally true that there’s always a solution, but it’s nearly true, and it’s more effective to believe it.  You’ll recognize more problems and find more soluti

Relevant Note O the Day: Please always scroll down and check the comments. They are very good. And please contribute your own comments. In case you missed it tho, here is my response to a lovely comment:

“ulana
thank you! your comment cheered my day. i hope you may contribute more in the future. i love comments. so pleased that the new book was helpful to you. by the way, i just learned that reviews are allowed on amazon even if you didnt buy the book there, but you must have spent at least $50 on anything on amazon in the past year. i love reviews too.
thank you again and best wishes
doug”

Totally Irrelevant Note O the Day:

At the store, I couldn’t find the butter.  I asked the grocer if he had any.

He said, “Yes, but it’s bitter.”

I said, “ I’ll take it.”

 He said, “Wait. I got a new order yesterday. It’s not quite as off.”

I said, “Well, give me that.”

He said, “It’s a small order.  I can’t give you much.”

I said, “ OK, just give me a bit of the batch of better bitter butter.”

Links:

More on Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria

ADHD and Overwhelmed – Bonnie Mincu

Another version of the same point about problems and solutions

Another ADHD Solution
An ADHD Solution?

Oh My, the problems!

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Venting — ADHD Tip O the Day 938

  1. It’s good for us to vent and get things off our chest occasionally. This works best of course if we have an audience. Thank you for being my audience today.

2. Word has decided to revolt and take control. It changes fonts and spacing at random, anytime it wishes, and often resists my efforts to get it back where it belongs.

3. Facebook blocked my post because someone reported some thing as “abusive”??

4. My printer works fine wirelessly off my phone but it won’t recognize my PC. Or vice versa? My PC also made my photo app vanish and it will not reinstall.


Some days I think technology hates me.

5. I have said this before, but it bears repeating. Our whirlpool refrigerator works fine. The only problem with it is the icemaker/dispenser. The only problem with the icemaker/dispenser is that it is a total piece of crap.

Strategy:

Vent when you need to.

doug

You can’t tell me what to do! (adolescent)
Frustration
frustration

 

 

 

Personal Notes O the Day:

  1. I feel a little guilty whining about these minor issues when so many people are suffering from real problems. For one example, I’m complaining about the ice system when many people have no water. Strategy: try to keep everything in perspective.
  2. I may be be learning how to work around the wordpress “improvements”. Maybe. Seems like sometimes the comments show up at the bottom of a post and sometimes they don’t, at random?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Simplistic Oversimplified Simple Version of the Whole Dadgum Thing — ADHD Tip O the Day 937.5

 

We’ve been reviewing the science of ADHD, so to start the New Year (it’s gotta be better), here’s a summary of the neurobiology (as I understand it).

(If this is old stuff to you, please  just scroll down to Personal Notes and below.)

The neurotransmitters (chemicals like dopamine, norepinephrine, serotonin and glutamate) are made in the cell body and carried down the tube to the end of the axon.

When the cell is stimulated by other cells an electrical impulse goes down the tube and the end of the axon releases the neurotransmitters that affect other cells to activate them or slow them down.

Each axon connects to many cells and each cell receives from many axons.

 The brain is organized into specific regions which seem to have specific functions, such as vision, balance, judgment,etc.  (no function is actually carried out by a single region alone).  These regions are connected to each other to form networks, and specific networks have specific functions, such as consciousness, movement, memory, etc. (again, not really solo).

So problems, symptoms, can be caused by a problem in any part of this system, in a networks, a regions, some neurons or a neurotransmitter, and a problem in any one of these generally affects all of these parts of the system.

The manufacture, location, connections and functioning of the different parts of the system are controlled by our genes.

Personal Notes O the Day:

2. For completeness of the science series, I may do posts on DSM and statistics. Whew!

3. Again please use the comment section to correct my errors or add information, ask questions, or for anything else you please.  I love the comments.

4. Welcome to the new member of the tribe.

Special Note O the Day:

doug

Links:

Neurobiology of ADHD– very comprehensive

Networks – a repeat, with other good links

Neurotransmission

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Update on ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 936.1

2021’s gotta be different!

A good way to start the new year will be to update your knowledge of ADHD.

A key strategy for managing our lives with ADHD is to educate ourselves. We can each become an ADHD expert and without too much effort we can know more about ADHD than most professionals.

I want to share three articles. Here’s the edited summary of the first but I encourage you to read the whole article from the link below (Yes, even if you have ADHD).

The next two articles will be in new posts.

Summary:

(aADHD means Adult ADHD)

Emerging evidence indicates there may be 2 subtypes of aADHD: the first arises in childhood and persists into adulthood and the other occurs only in adulthood. Individuals with aADHD have significant educational, social, and occupational impairments in addition to greater rates of morbidity and mortality. There also appears to be a genetic preponderance for aADHD with moderate heritability. Evidence indicates both neurochemical and neurofunctional impairments among individuals with aADHD involving the dopaminergic and noradrenergic systems and the frontal and parietal cortices. Unfortunately, aADHD is often underdiagnosed as this condition shares many clinical characteristics with common psychiatric illnesses including mood and anxiety disorders. Stimulant medications are the treatment of choice with similar efficacy for the amphetamine and methylphenidate groups. Atomoxetine is the only non-stimulant medication approved for aADHD. CBT has the best evidence among non-pharmacological treatments and is beneficial for those individuals who decline medications or have residual symptoms despite adequate medication trials.

 

Dr Tampi chairman, Department of Psychiatry & Behavioral Sciences, Cleveland Clinic Akron General, Akron, OH; Ms Tampi co-founder and managing principal, Behavioral Health Advisory Group, Princeton, NJ. Dr Elahi  program director, Psychiatry Residency Program, Cleveland Clinic Akron General, Akron, OH;

 

Personal Notes:

  1. I still doubt that adult onset ADHD (a neurodevelopmental disorder) exists, but I will follow the science and try to keep an open mind to any more evidence.
  2. I hope your new year will be so much better than this one.
  3. Your Life Can Be Better, second edition, is just published. In early 2021, I expect to publish another ADHD book , Living Well with ADHD, and my first novel, Alma Means Soul. I’m excited.
  4. I wonder why its a lot harder to find funny new year’s memes than Christmas ones? Makes you think.

doug

 

Link:

ADHD Update

Bonus Links:

Books

Overwhelmed Webinar – Bonnie Mincu

New Strategy – Melissa Melov – not just for marriage

So far.
yeah, right!

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Update on ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 936

A good way to start the new year will be to update your knowledge of ADHD.

A key strategy for managing our lives with ADHD is to educate ourselves. We can each become an ADHD expert and without too much effort we can know more about ADHD than most professionals.

I want to share three articles. Here’s the edited summary of the first but I encourage you to read the whole article from the link below (Yes, even if you have ADHD).

The next two articles will be in new posts.

Summary:

(aADHD means Adult ADHD)

Emerging evidence indicates there may be 2 subtypes of aADHD: the first arises in childhood and persists into adulthood and the other occurs only in adulthood. Individuals with aADHD have significant educational, social, and occupational impairments in addition to greater rates of morbidity and mortality. There also appears to be a genetic preponderance for aADHD with moderate heritability. Evidence indicates both neurochemical and neurofunctional impairments among individuals with aADHD involving the dopaminergic and noradrenergic systems and the frontal and parietal cortices. Unfortunately, aADHD is often underdiagnosed as this condition shares many clinical characteristics with common psychiatric illnesses including mood and anxiety disorders. Stimulant medications are the treatment of choice with similar efficacy for the amphetamine and methylphenidate groups. Atomoxetine is the only non-stimulant medication approved for aADHD. CBT has the best evidence among non-pharmacological treatments and is beneficial for those individuals who decline medications or have residual symptoms despite adequate medication trials.

 

Dr Tampi chairman, Department of Psychiatry & Behavioral Sciences, Cleveland Clinic Akron General, Akron, OH; Ms Tampi co-founder and managing principal, Behavioral Health Advisory Group, Princeton, NJ. Dr Elahi  program director, Psychiatry Residency Program, Cleveland Clinic Akron General, Akron, OH;

 

Personal Notes:

  1. I still doubt that adult onset ADHD (a neurodevelopmental disorder) exists, but I will follow the science and try to keep an open mind to any more evidence.
  2. I hope your new year will be so much better than this one.
  3. I wonder why its a lot harder to find funny new year’s memes than Christmas ones? Makes you think.

doug

Link:

Nearly Everything About ADHD

Bonus Links:

Overwhelmed webinar- Bonnie Mincu

New Strategy — Melissa Orlov (not just for marriage)

 

2021’s gotta be different!
So far.
yeah, right!

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Overindulge? With ADHD? — ADHD Tip O the Day 935

With ADHD, we are at risk.

I hope you don’t overindulge over the holidays. All you need to do is use your willpower, self-control, and judgment. Assuming you have some. Not all of us do.

My wife makes wonderful cookies.  And pies. Our friends and neighbors give us good eats.  Oh my.   And there’s parties.  And even with the virus, I’ll admit we have some booze at home and there still is a lot to celebrate.

If I can’t see it, it doesn’t exist.  If I can see it, I’ll eat it. (The first part doesn’t necessarily apply to sweets. If someone hides them I can usually find them.)

Strategies:
1. I tend to over drink at parties, especially if the booze is free. I make a rule before I go: one drink, water, one drink, water. Works pretty well, most of the time.

2. Keep reminding myself that it’s much easier to put weight on than it is to get it off.  This strategy rarely has any effect.

NOTICE: There has been a change for this year. The New Year, 2021, does not start until Jan 20. Please make a note of this change.

Jokes O the Day:

One margarita is never enough.
Two margaritas is too many.
Three margaritas is never enough.

       Courtesy of my late friend and mentor, Bo Kemp 

I said, “It doesn’t matter how many times you fall.  What matters is that you keep getting up.”
He said,“That’s not how a sobriety test works.”

She said, “You’re staggering.”
I said, “You’re pretty cute yourself.”
We laughed and laughed and laughed.
I need bail money.

Freak them out.
Too much?

Were you naughty?
Did you call the cops?

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An ADHD Christmas, et al — ADHD Tip O the Day 934

‘Tis the season to be jolly
Fa La La La La etc. etc.

Bah! Humbug. Even with ADHD?

The holiday season is very stressful for many if not most people (family? shopping?), but more so for us.  We’re supposed to be happy,  but if we’re not “jolly“, we may feel  there’s something wrong with us. Well, there isn’t, not about that anyway. Blame it on the culture.

I have a bad track record on Christmas presents for my wife. I’ve usually been able to get her a really nice present, but often the timing is off. “You mean it’s two days before Christmas already?”

This time I had one of my best ideas ever. My wife is from Louisville, likes horses and the Derby. I found I could buy a micro share in a racehorse very cheap.   But I needed to wait till Christmas morning so she could pick the horse. Unlike my usual foul up, I started this way early.

When I checked recently, suddenly they were sold out of horses and the prices had shot way up. Boogers.

Then  fortunately I checked later and found a place that would work. But for my wife to own  the (microshare) horse, I had to put it in her name, and they required all kinds of personal financial information. So I had to blow the secret and discuss it with her, and we decided it just wasn’t safe.

No horse.

So I got a couple other presents, in time.Trying to find where I hid them is near the top of my to do list now.

Strategies:

  1. Shop early, real early.  I use several calendars and my appointment book to try to stay located in time –  know what I mean?

     2. When you hide presents, make a note of where.

Personal Notes:

1. A big welcome to our new members.
2. Books make a wonderful Christmas or Hanukkah present, don’t they?  Just saying. 

3. Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah, Great Kwanza, etc.  to all the tribe.  

doug

 

Christmas is coming, even if you got ADHD.
Its hard to be good with ADHD. That’s my excuse.

Just forget it!
Good Riddance

Link to books

Have You Heard? Christmas Is Coming

Dates coming up- from Shannon

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An ADHD Christmas, et al — ADHD Tip O the Day 934.1

‘Tis the season to be jolly
Fa La La La La etc. etc.

Bah! Humbug. Even with ADHD?

The holiday season is very stressful for many if not most people (family? shopping?), but more so for us.  We’re supposed to be happy,  but if we’re not “jolly“, we may feel  there’s something wrong with us. Well, it’s not. Blame it on the culture.

I have a bad track record on Christmas presents for my wife. I’ve usually been able to get her a really nice present, but often the timing is off. “You mean it’s two days before Christmas already?”

This time I had one of my best ideas ever. My wife is from Louisville, likes horses and the Derby. I found I could buy a micro share in a racehorse very cheap.   But I needed to wait till Christmas morning so she could pick the horse. Unlike my usual Fowler, I started this way early.

When I checked recently, suddenly they were sold out of horses and and the prices had shot way up. Boogers.

Then  fortunately I checked later and found a place that would work. But for my wife to own it the (microshare) horse, I had to put it in her name, and they required all kinds of personal financial information. So I had to blow the secret and discuss it with her, and we decided it just wasn’t safe.

No horse.

So I got a couple other presents, in time.Trying to find where I hid them is near the top of my to do list now.

Strategies:

  1. Shop early, real early.  I use several calendars and my appointment book to try to stay located in time- know what I mean?

     2. When you hide presents, make a note of where.

Personal Notes:

1. A big welcome to our new members.
2. Books make a wonderful Christmas or Hanukkah present, don’t they?  Just saying.     3. Struggling with getting book covers right.  It ain’t easy.

4.  Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah, Great Kwanza, etc.  to all the tribe.  

doug

 

Christmas is coming, even if you got ADHD.
Its hard to be good with ADHD. That’s my excuse.

Just forget it!

Link to books

Have You Heard? Christmas Is Coming

Dates coming up- from Shannon

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“Science Says —” ADHD Tip O the Day 933

“Science says–.”

What does that even mean?

That means that there have been more than one or two studies supporting this hypothesis and the original findings have been replicated by other scientists in other places. The studies have been reviewed by experts in the field who agree that the studies were well designed and the results valid.  Then the  results have been published in reputable scientific journals.  Thus the findings are substantiated by data and evidence and the majority of scientists agree with the findings. 

So, “Science says —.”

 Notes O the Day:

  1. Most scientists have a PhD in their field and do research.
  2. Many MDs, not nearly the majority, are scientists, and some have a Phd also.
  3. I have done a little research and kind of think of myself a little as a scientist because I think in the scientific method.  I am not a researcher.
  4. There are some people without this education or experience  who believe that their opinions are more valid than those of the scientists.
  5. There is a cultural move towards anti science, anti intellectualism, anti experts, and  anti “elitism.”  This is often accompanied by bitterness and conspiracy theories and frequently by a sense of superiority.
  6. Science says that ADHD is a neurodevelopmental disorder. This is supported by brain imaging and other studies, ie by data and evidence.
  7. Science is not perfect.  That’s a topic for another post.

Strategies:

  1. If someone voices an opinion on something, see if they have evidence or data or a reliable source to base it on.
  2. It is rarely worth the time or effort to try to change someone’s mind about something.
  3. It is best to minimize time around toxic people.

doug

Quote O the Day:

“I respect your right to your opinions,

though they may sound like the ravings of a madman.”

Old Spanish saying

Links:

The Scientific Method

The Scientific Method- Extensive Article

Brain Imaging

Our ADHD Brains Are Different
You think WHAT about ADHD?
You can’t tell me what to do! (adolescent)
Really??

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“Science Says —” ADHD Tip O the Day 933.1

“Science says–.”

What does that even mean?

That means that there have been more than one or two studies supporting this hypothesis and the original findings have been replicated by other scientists in other places. The studies have been reviewed by experts in the field who agree that the studies were well designed and the results valid.  Then the  results have been published in reputable scientific journals.  Thus the findings are substantiated by data and evidence and the majority of scientists agree with the findings. 

So, “Science says —.”

 Notes O the Day:

  1. Most scientists have a PhD in their field and do research.
  2. Many MDs, not nearly the majority, are scientists, and some have a Phd also.
  3. I have done a little research and kind of think of myself a little as a scientist because I think in the scientific method.  I am not a researcher.
  4. There are some people without this education or experience  who believe that their opinions are more valid than those of the scientists.
  5. There is a cultural move towards anti science, anti intellectualism, anti experts, and  anti “elitism.”  This is often accompanied by bitterness and conspiracy theories and frequently by a sense of superiority.
  6. Science says that ADHD is a neurodevelopmental disorder. This is supported by brain imaging and other studies, ie by data and evidence.
  7. Science is not perfect.  That’s a topic for another post.

Strategies:

  1. If someone voices an opinion on something, see if they have evidence or data or a reliable source to base it on.
  2. It is rarely worth the time or effort to try to change someone’s mind about something.
  3. It is best to minimize time around toxic people.

doug

Quote O the Day:

“I respect your right to your opinions,

though they may sound like the ravings of a madman.”

Old Spanish saying

Links:

The Scientific Method

The Scientific Method- Extensive Article

Brain Imaging

 

Sorry about laughing at your ideas, but I actually know what ADHD is.
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Link to Books:

Amazon print or e book

Smashwords e books only

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Stress and ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 932.5

Stress and ADHD go together- a lot.

With our ADHD, we experience a lot of stress. Stress is damaging to our brains, our functioning and productivity, and our souls. When it interferes with our functioning, it creates more stress, a damaging feedback loop.

We screw up, make people mad at us, procrastinate, struggle with to do lists and deadlines, and on and on. And of course, this virus mess isn’t helping much.

So we need strategies to cope with stress:

Exercise. Get out of doors (at the moment, we’re on quarantine so this isn’t an option). Meditate (this is hard to do, but do a simple form and don’t judge how you do. Just do what you can and it will be worth it. You need to do it daily for it to work, probably takes a while.) Talk to someone. Music. Journal. Do something productive (just get something done, probably something small and easy. It’ll make you feel better.) Use relaxation tools (There are a multitude of these, and they do help. You need to know which ones work for you.)

I like breathing techniques and use several of them. Here’s the simplest:

Breathe in for a count of six, hold your breath for two, breath out for four, hold for two, breathe in for six, etc. Do this for as long as you wish. It doesn’t require a particular posture or anything and you can do it in any situation. (It’s really nice if someone is starting to annoy you).

More Complex Breathing Techniques I Use:

Same as the 6-2-4-2 above, but I breathe in what I want (compassion, equanimity, patience, for example) and expel what I want to get rid of ( irritation, impatience, resentment, for example).

I Use Also:

Alternate nostrils. Three deep breaths.

There are many other breathing techniques. Find what works for you.

doug

Quote O the Day:

“When I said it can’t get much worse, I didn’t mean it as a challenge.”

Extra Notes O the Day:

Diagnosable anxiety disorders are a frequent accompaniment of ADHD, but so is just plain anxiety, which of course is a traveling partner of stress and also further hampers our functioning.

Struggling with books: Your Life Can Be Better, Second edition I think is set up on Amazon and Smashwords, paperback and kindle. Looks a little funky. Alma is one third thru her fourteenth draft, and surprisingly will need a fifteenth since there were a lot more typos and editorial changes than I expected – amazing how messed up it can be even after thirteen drafts. It’s gonna be good. Working on getting The Bully up on Smashwords, difficult. Then, then will revise 365 Tips O the Day. Someday.

The Books Amazon The Books Smashwords

I’ve been asked how I manage to cope with the pandemic. Well, I prefer a blended scotch, but vodka will do.

Links:

Relaxation Tools

More Tools

A Few Breathing Techniques

Stress

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Stress and ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 932

Stress and ADHD go together.

With our ADHD, we experience a lot of stress. Stress is damaging to our brains, our functioning and productivity, and our souls. When it interferes with our functioning, it creates more stress, a damaging feedback loop.

We screw up, make people mad at us, procrastinate, struggle with to do lists and deadlines, and on and on. And of course, this virus mess isn’t helping much.

So we need strategies to cope with stress:

Exercise. Get out of doors (at the moment, we’re on quarantine so this isn’t an option). Meditate (this is hard to do, but do a simple form and don’t judge how you do. Just do what you can and it will be worth it. You need to do it daily for it to work, probably takes a while.) Talk to someone. Music. Journal. Do something productive (just get something done, probably something small and easy. It’ll make you feel better.) Use relaxation tools (There are a multitude of these, and they do help. You need to know which ones work for you.)

I like breathing techniques and use several of them. Here’s the simplest:

Breathe in for a count of six, hold your breath for two, breath out for four, hold for two, breathe in for six, etc. Do this for as long as you wish. It doesn’t require a particular posture or anything and you can do it in any situation. (It’s really nice if someone is starting to annoy you).

More Complex Breathing Techniques I Use:

Same as the 6-2-4-2 above, but I breathe in what I want (compassion, equanimity, patience, for example) and expel what I want to get rid of ( irritation, impatience, resentment, for example).

I Use Also:

Alternate nostrils. Three deep breaths.

There are many other breathing techniques. Find what works for you.

doug

Quote O the Day:

“When I said it can’t get much worse, I didn’t mean it as a challenge.”

Extra Notes O the Day:

Diagnosable anxiety disorders are a frequent accompaniment of ADHD, but so is just plain anxiety, which of course is a traveling partner of stress and also further hampers our functioning.

I’ve been asked how I’m managing to deal with the pandemic. Well, I prefer a blended scotch, but vodka will do.

Links:

Relaxation Tools

More Tools

A Few Breathing Techniques

Stress

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People are annoying.
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ADHD Clumsiness? — ADHD Tip O the Day 931

Are you clumsy?  I am. We have ADHD. 

Did you know that clumsy is a part of ADHD, even if it’s not in the criteria for diagnosis?  It’s not a criteria because the criteria are chosen to distinguish a diagnosis from other possible diagnoses, and clumsy does not do that, because it apparently can come from a number of other diagnoses. There are other symptoms that are similarly not in the criteria but that we ADHDers have more than our share of.  Irritability is one for example.

My view is that if the wiring between our cerebellum and our basal ganglia is screwed up, both of which are involved with coordination of movement, then guess what.  Dyscoordination, uncoordinated, klutzy, clumsy!

Our problems are more in fine motor movements than in large motor movements.  So in football, I could play in the line but never be a back or a receiver.  But we can have problems in large motor movements too; I was the second slowest guy on the team.

We also have problems with balance, related mostly to the cerebellum.

So my theory is that our cerebellums (cerebella?) and basal ganglia are screwed up themselves, and not just the connections between them.

Strategy:

With practice exercises we may be able to improve our coordination and our balance somewhat, and that might even improve our ADHD symptoms somewhat.  Maybe.

doug

Links:

ADHD Clumsiness    

Big study on this – 

More Clumsiness 

Quote O the Day:

“If I haven’t dropped it, spilled it, or knocked it over, it’s probably nailed down.”

             Me

Personal Notes O the Day:

The more I learn about ADHD, the more it explains about me and my experiences. 

I plan to discuss diagnosis, the DSM, and it’s criteria soon.  (“I plan to” – right!)

Your Life Can Be better, using strategies for adult ADHD, second edition, is now on Amazon and Smashwords.  The focus is on strategies to deal with ADHD problems, like procrastination, inertia, distraction, overwhelmed, disorganization, etc., with  special sections on studying and learning, ADHD medications, and others.

Getting this done has been a booger. I’m still struggling with the cover which isn’t quite right but I may have to live with it.  There’s been some sales but no reviews show yet.  Reviews are always appreciated.  Unfortunately, on Smashwords you have to buy the book to leave a review, but not on Amazon.  Fortunately, the eBook versions are inexpensive.

The second edition is improved, and many typos and other errors are corrected (at least I think so.)

The novel, Alma Means Soul, is on the 15th and I hope final draft.  I’m still fixing errors and a few editing issues.  I really like it.  The writing style is rather unique; some of the beta readers loved it and some didn’t.  The current problem is getting a cover.

I like writing, editing not so much, marketing even less.  Part of my ADHD problem is trying to do too much at the same time.  Still, I am getting it done.  I hope people will find the books useful and enjoyable.

Let’s see if we can’t do it all!

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ADHD Clumsiness — ADHD Tip O the Day 931

Are you clumsy?  I am. We have ADHD. 

Did you know that clumsy is a part of ADHD, even if it’s not in the criteria for diagnosis?  It’s not a criteria because the criteria are chosen to distinguish a diagnosis from other possible diagnoses, and clumsy does not do that, because it apparently can come from a number of other diagnoses. There are other symptoms that are similarly not in the criteria but that we ADHDers have more than our share of.  Irritability is one for example.

My view is that if the wiring between our cerebellum and our basal ganglia is screwed up, both of which are involved with coordination of movement, then guess what.  Dyscoordination, uncoordinated, klutzy, clumsy!

Our problems are more in fine motor movements than in large motor movements.  So in football, I could play in the line but never be a back or a receiver.  But we can have problems in large motor movements too; I was the second slowest guy on the team.

We also have problems with balance, related mostly to the cerebellum.

So my theory is that our cerebellums (cerebella?) and basal ganglia are screwed up themselves, and not just the connections between them.

Strategy:

With practice exercises we may be able to improve our coordination and our balance somewhat, and that might even improve our ADHD symptoms somewhat.  Maybe.

doug

Links:

ADHD Clumsiness    

Big study on this – 

More Clumsiness 

Quote O the Day:

“If I haven’t dropped it, spilled it, or knocked it over, it’s probably nailed down.”

me

Personal Notes O the Day:

The more I learn about ADHD, the more it explains about me and my experiences. 

I plan to discuss diagnosis, the DSM, and it’s criteria soon.  (“I plan to” – right!)

 

Pet Peeve Number Four:

When I finally learn how to use something like WordPress and it’s working fine and they decide to “improve” it and totally screw it up.

Grandkids are wonderful
Don’t forget the poor old cerebellum.

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ADHD Brain Net Works — ADHD Tip O the Day 930

Our ADHD Brains Are Different

Networks connect Regions which function using Neurotransmitters.

Because we ADHDer have problems in the neworks, downstream our regions are deficient in the neurotransmitters dopamine and norepinephrine. The stimulant medications work to correct and normalize this. We also have structural problems in the regions themselves, plus delayed maturity of the brain. It’s all a pretty heavy hit, and all supported by research, which heavily supports that ADHD is a real brain disorder and that it is discrete and not a spectrum issue.

Two ADHD Neworks:

“During performance of attention-demanding tasks, prefrontal and parietal structures that comprise the taskpositive network are characterized by increases in activation; in contrast, default mode network structures, including posterior cingulate and medial prefrontal cortices, are characterized by decreased activity.”

“One meta-analysis of 16 functional MRI studies of adults with and without ADHD demonstrated that the patterns of under- and over-activation differed significantly. — Networks under-activated in ADHD were almost exclusively located in the frontoparietal network, whereas over-activated regions were found in the visual, dorsal attention and default mode networks.14

Other Networks:

“Effects were located in brain regions associated with multiple neuronal systems including the default-mode network, the salience network, and the central executive system.”

“Notably, there is mounting evidence suggesting that ADHD could be regarded as a default mode network (DMN) disorder. In particular, failure in regulating the dynamics of activity and interactions of the DMN and cognitive control networks have been hypothesized as the main source of task interference causing attentional problems.”

Brain Regions in ADHD (My thinking in italics.)

The ADHD brain has impaired activity in four functional regions of the brain:

Frontal Lobe Cortex

This region controls high-level functions:

Attention

Executive Function

Organization

2. Limbic System

Limbic System (includes amygdala)

Regulates our emotions and attention.

Basal ganglia

The major relay system among the many pathways that enter & leave the brain. A deficiency here can cause inattention, impulsivity, or hyperactivity. And poor coordination because it is supposed to make movements smooth.

Reticular Activating System

A diffuse network of nerve pathways in the brainstem connecting the spinal cord, cerebrum, and cerebellum, and mediating the overall level of consciousness.

I also believe there is either a deficiency in the cerebellum, which also controls movement and has other functions, or it looks like a deficiency because of inadequate network connections.

Links:

The ADHD Brain  

Brain Networks

The Default Mode Network

Delayed maturation in the ADHD brain

Pet Peeve Number Three:

Representative on the phone: “What is your name, please?”

Me: ” Doug Puryear.”

Representative: “Can you spell that?”

Me: “Yes.”

Welcome O the Day: Susan

doug

Brain Regions-screwed up in ADHD

Our ADHD Brains Are Different. Surprise!
The ADHD Brain

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ADHD Hypersensitivity — ADHD Tip O the Day 929

The post on rejection sensitivity dysphoria (RSD) lead to the post on emotional hypersensitivity but we ADHDers are hypersensitive to many things, not just emotions.


I’m hypersensitive to noise in general, and certain noises in particular. Certain smells. Even my pet peeves could be an example of hypersensitivity, probably based on irritability, which could also be a part of hypersensitivity.


There are also positive examples of hypersensitivity. There are certain sounds that I really like, like my tapping in rhythms, or making a glass ring, and I can spend time just making them to enjoy them. A slight touch of autism?- I don’t think so, although there is an overlap of ADHD and autism genes.

We could be hypersensitive because our frontal lobes may not do a good job of tamping down our amygdala; controlling our emotions. Or of tuning out distractions, which I call the gating function, which I think is a big part of schizophrenia.


Our strategies can come from being aware of our hypersensitivities, like dealing with irritability for example

Pet Peeve Number Two:

Representative on the phone, after my long long wait: “Thank you for your patience.”

Me: “Who in the hell told you I have patience? I’ve never had any patience.”

Poem O the Day:


I’ve gained so much weight
It’s a terrible thing to see
I blame it all on the virus
What else could it possibly be?

Links:

Hypersensitivity

ADHD Irritability – Strategies

Many ADHD Topics

Welcome O the Day:

To Sharman, welcome to our tribe.

And to all of you.

And a special thanks to all who contribute comments. Love them!

doug

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Science and ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 928

If you know all about the bell shaped curve, please scroll down to ADHD and the Curve.

Many phenomena and most human attributes follow a bell shaped curve distribution. Height, for example. If you have a room of a hundred people, line them up by height; there will be a few very short ones and a few very tall, most in between. If you draw a graph of height versus number of people of that height, you get a bell shaped curve.

Bell Shaped Curve

number of people on left, Y axis. Height on bottom, X axis

This does not fit for discrete features, like eye color for example.

ADHD and the Curve:

One of the ADHD controversies is whether ADHD is part of a spectrum, for example, some people have very good attention and some have very poor and most are in the middle and we ADHDers on on the left –

The Spectrum Theory

Or, whether we are not on the curve, but have a discrete condition. This is what I believe.

The Discrete Condition Theory

More Science: Treatment:

80 percent of ADHDers will respond to either methylphenidate or amphetamine, maybe 5 percent will only respond to one of these and maybe 15 percent will not respond to either. And there’s a small percent that can’t tolerate the meds.

If the child is under six, start with a behavioral program. If six or older, behavioral program plus medication. The progam includes parent training and school intervention.

Links:

The ADHD Controversy

Dr. Barkley on ADHD in Adults – i don’t agree with all of his points, but it’s a good discussion.

treatment recommendations

Jokes O the Day:

  1. An ADHDer walk into a bar.

Of course.

2. A dyslexic walks into a rab.

Personal Note O the Day:

My plan is to do a broad survey of science, maybe in intermittent posts. That’s my plan anyway. (But remember that I have ADHD.)

Any thoughts about this?

You don’t understand ADHD?
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ADHD Emotions Number Whatever — ADHD Tip O the Day 927

Hypersensitivity is not included in the criteria for diagnosing ADHD, but it is a common feature.

So are irritability and rejection sensitivity dyphoria, which could just be part of hypersensitivity.

These three things aren’t included in the DSM diagnostic criteria, primarily because they don’t help discriminate between ADHD and some other problems.

Some years ago I learned about ADHD irritability, which explained a lot. Today I learned about ADHD hypersensitivity, which explained a lot more, including my RSD, which I recently posted about.

My Pet Peeves – Things I’ve wanted to say but surprisingly have been able to restrain myself (usually).

  1. Wait person at the restaurant,” No problem.”

Me: “You’re the the waiter. I’m the customer. Why in the world would it ever be a problem?”

Links:

Hypersensitivity

rejection sensitivity dyphoria

DSM criteria

Sensory Processing Disorder

Personal Notes O the Day:

  1. I just got Your Life Can Be Better, using strategies for adult ADHD, published on Amazon.com, e book and paper back and e book on Smashwords. I’ll try to send my wonderful volunteer reviewers drafts today.
  2. The next post on emotions will be number six. I could’ve spent the time to go back and find the right number but this time I think my common sense won out over my OCD (Strategy: Good enough is good enough.).
  3. I think Sensory Processing Disorder may also just be a part of ADHD, not a separate diagnosis.
  4. Geek – it’s mkpdp@livecom. thank you

New Scientific Finding:

The purpose of the little toe is so that we can make sure our furniture is in the right place in the dark.

Who knew?!

ADHD Emotions-hypersensitivity

Does that explain it?
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ADHD and Science part one— ADHD Tip O the Day 926

There’s a big anti-science movement today, with some people being born knowing all there is to know and not having to study or learn like the rest of us. I’m still a fan of science, as opposed to ignorance, conspiracy theory, gut feelings and unfounded opinion. Science is far from perfect, but it’s the best tool we have.


A lot of ADHD research is being done, but most of it seems to be plowing old ground, finding more information about our brain structures, networks, neurotransmitters, and the underlying genes for ADHD. This is a good thing, but it’s not very exciting.


The new data overwhelmingly shows that our ADHD is real and that our brains are different from vanilla’s. If you think this proof will help you in a discussion with doubters and nonbelievers, let me assure you that it will not.

Personal Note O the Day:

The second edition of Your Life Can Be Better will be published within the next two weeks, hopefully. I’d like to send you a final draft if you would post a review on amazon.com and any other book sites. I’ll notify you when it’s .
Thanking you in advance.

doug


Strategy of the day:


Minimize contact with toxic people.

Since I’ve been pushing laughing as a good practice, I’m including a

Joke O the Day:


I was at the swimming pool and suddenly I urgently had to pee. So I just peed in the deep end of the pool.

The lifeguard blew his whistle so loud, I nearly fell in.

Links O the Day:

ADHD Research

Alternative, or better, Supplemental Approaches

Med Effects on ADHD Brain

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More on ADHD Emotions — ADHD Tip O the Day 925

With ADHD, we have so many frustrations, disappointments, failures, and negative interactions that it’s no wonder we have a lot of episodes of feeling down. And then there’s RSD too. But there are strategies for dealing with feeling down.

Rachel Wise asked me to write about the strategies and she did an amazing job of turning my little blurb into a work of art for her website. So the link gives you today’s ADHD Tip O the Day today.

link

doug

Bonus Note O the Day:

We ADHDers also have a significant incidence of actual depression, but that’s another topic.

Poem O the Day:

I’ve gained eight ugly pounds
Right where anyone can see
I blame it all on the virus
Where else could any blame be?

Bonus ADHD Links:

ADHD Comorbidity

ADHD and Depression

Lament O the Day:

WordPress has “improved” it’s format for blogging. There are only two problems with the new system – it’s much much harder to use and there’s some things you can’t do anymore. I hate it.

ADHD Depression

  ADHD Depression

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Side Effects? — ADHD Tip O the Day 924

A conversation I often had about any medicine, including for ADHD

“What are the side effects of that medicine, Doc?”

“That’s the wrong question.”

“What do you mean?”

“You want to know what are the possible side effects and what are the chances you will get any of them.”

All medicines have possible side effects.  So does water, for that matter.  And so do all the alternatives, supplements, naturals, etc.  The drug companies are required to list all the effects that someone, somewhere, sometime had that might possibly have been due to the medicine.

That does not mean that you, or your child, will get them.

You want to know the percentages.  Did half the people who took this medicine get this side effect, or was it one in two million people?  So what are the chances you will get it? And how serious is it?

“I don’t want to take that medicine, Doctor.  I don’t want to gain weight.”

” You won’t gain weight on it.”

“But you said weight gain was one of the side effects!”

“No, I said weight gain was one of the possible side effects. There’s a 50% chance you would start to gain weight on it.  There’s a 50% chance you wouldn’t. If you start to gain weight, we’d stop the medicine.  So, either way, you won’t  gain weight.”

Common misconceptions about medicines and side effects:

  1. If a medicine has a side effect listed, that means if you take the medicine you will get the side effect. 
  2. If you get a side effect, you’re stuck with it forever.

Facts: 

1. “Side effects” are only possible side effects.  That does not mean you will get them.

2. If you do get side effects, often they will go away or improve in about 10 days with most psychiatric meds.  This is less true with stimulants.

3. If you get side effects, we can often manage them by changing the dose and/or the timing of the med.

3. If they are too bad, or if they don’t improve enough, we’ll stop the medicine. 

4.  If we stop the medicine, the side effects will soon go away. There are rare possible exceptions but none for ADHD meds.

Everyone is different and unique, and we don’t know how a medicine will work for you until we try it. I believe that everyone with ADHD deserves a try of medication.

doug

Quote O the Day:

“My short term memory is shot, and besides that, I can’t remember things.”

I don’t recall who this quote is from.

Personal Notes O the Day: 

Your Life Can Be Better, second edition, and Alma Means Soul are both in the hands of helpers now.  Hope both can be published within next two months.  Excited.

Thinking of doing series on ADHD science, meds, and emotions.  Maybe.  I’m running out of poems, maybe you’re just as glad.

For Scott:  Dinos recommends Google Keep.  See  Comment

Follow up O the Day:

Medical marijuana is legal for many conditions in New Mexico, but not for ADHD

Links:

ADHD Meds

ADHD Disorganization, Insomnia, etc.

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ADHD Emotions Part 3— ADHD Tip O the Day 923

Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria as a part of  ADHD

Do I have RSD?  I don’t know.  I reread the article, it says usually the crashes just last for hours, mine last a day or two. Still, I’m certainly overly sensitive and over reactive, although pretty it’s pretty much limited to my wife.

I’ve thought the overreaction was just due to so many failures and so much criticism which comes with our ADHD, such damage to our self esteem, that we were fragile, vulnerable and oversensitive to any negative input.  I hadn’t imagined it as a syndrome, a symptom, or a separate diagnosis.

Anyway, whatever, it’s a booger.

doug

Links O the Day:

ADHD Expo

More Dr. Dodson

Three good posts

Personal Note O the Day:

Finished two books last week! Your life Can Be Better, using strategies for adult ADHD, and Alma Means Soul, my first novel. Now comes the hard and dreaded work of publishing them. Will be looking for reviewers.

Poem O the Day:

Definitions

If I’m decrepit now,

What happened to my crepit?

Question O the Day:

Do the poems add or detract to the post?  please vote on the poems – just yes or no.  thanks

 

Follow up O the Day:

medical cannibis

New Mexico Medical Cannibis Law

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I AM CALM!!!!

 

I’m a little down.

 

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ADHD Emotions, Part Two — ADHD Tip O the Day 922

“Rejection sensitive dysphoria is not a formal diagnosis, but rather one of the most common and disruptive manifestations of emotional dysregulation — a common but under-researched and oft-misunderstood symptom of ADHD, particularly in adults.”

I read this article and dismissed it. I hadn’t seen Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria in my patients nor in myself nor read about it elsewhere.  And I’ve learned that not everything I read on the net is true, you know what I mean? Then I noticed that the article was by William Dodson, MD.  He’s an ADHD guru that I respect.  So I read it again.

Guess what?  I have it.

My wife occasionally gets mad at me or frustrated with me, often with good reason (I’ll not try to define “occasionally” nor “often.”)  She usually gets over it in half an hour or an hour.  I’m deeply wounded for a day or two.  Sounds like an example of —– Rejection sensitive dysphoria.

Please clk the link and read the article.  There’s a lot more to it.

Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria – Dodson

doug

Bonus Links:

ADHD and Irritability, Anger

emotions

Questions O the Day:

  1. Anyone else have Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria?

2. Can someone help Scott with Android apps for ADHD?   Dinos?

See Scott’s comment:

Thank you for this blog and for your book! I recently got my first smartphone and it is very “Shiny”, as in way to interesting for this ADDer, but I am hoping to use it to help me, as well as be the distraction that it is.
I am wondering if you or any of your readers have any recommendations for an app for an android phone that I can use to make my lists, like the cards in your book with the various lists? I don’t have any real experience with phones like this yet and I figured someone else might have already figured out a good system.

Poem O the Day:

I Was Old for a While

I was old for a while,

And it wasn’t too bad,

then I became old and decrepit.

Decrepit, I don’t care for so much.

 

Personal notes of the day:

Finished the final draft of Your Life Can Be Better, second edition!!! Whew!  Now it’s with Jo for publishing work.  Have started again on Alma Means Soul, which I really like.

ADHD Emotions

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What can I say?

 

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ADHD and Emotions — ADHD Tip O the Day 921

There is some interesting new research on emotions in ADHD.         

I plan to do a series on the topic, interspersed with other subjects.

Spoiler Alert: It’s possible this will a little disorganized.  You think?

Definitions:(excerpts from Your Life Can Be Better, 2nd edition):

self esteem – how we feel about ourselves, especially our sense of worth.

self image – the picture of ourselves we carry in our head; who we think we are, what we think we’re like

shame- the emotion we feel when we aren’t measuring  up to our standards, or those of others, and we feel exposed, feeling that others can or soon will see our failure and our flaws. A deep seated basic internal feeling. A common result of ADHD.

We all want to be OK (self image). Related to this is perfectionism.  We tend to move to perfectionism because we mess up so often and we get get so much  criticism, very damaging to our self esteem.  But if I can do this perfectly, then no one can criticize me, and it’ll  prove to them, and to me, that I’m not a total screw up and loser (self image).

Unfortunately, perfectionism only make things worse, because we never can achieve perfect,   so we’ve failed again, and it also fosters procrastination, because the task is impossible.

This stuff is all connected, isn’t it.  A lot of things in life work in feedback loops.

Quotes O the Day:

 “I’m crazy. You’re crazy.  We’re all crazy.”

“I’m not OK.  I’m not not OK. I’m just me.”

       De Mello

Links :

Self Esteem

“Proactivity” – Why we choose the less important task

Extra notes of the day:

Morwen Edhelwen kindly pointed out that “vanilla” is a term widely used in the BDSM community with a specific meaning.  So I’ve  considered not using it anymore, but  it’s widely used for non ADHDers in the ADHD community  and I assume that the ADHD community is larger than the BDSM community (beware of assumptions) so I’ve decided to keep using it.  Besides, I like it.  I will consider any disagreements?

The novel Alma Means Soul and the other ADHD book are on hold while I struggle with the second edition of Your Life Can Be Better.  Making some progress. Some.  Thanks  to Jo for much help and to Dinos for gracious help offer.

Please note Scott’s comment below and see if you can help him.  Android phone?  Tech?  Dinos?

Poem O the Day:

The Plants

Some of the plants in the aquarium
I lifted (borrowed? stole?)from our little pond.

There’s so much foliage there
They certainly won’t be missed.

In my small aquarium, they stand out,

unique, special,

striving upwards towards the light

As I’m sure we all do

Is it ADHD? Or crazy? Or both?

Self Esteem with ADHD

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James Clear on Habits – ADHD Tip O the Day 920

James Clear’s excellent book, Atomic Habits, covers the same material I’ve been writing about for years; how you can make good habits and get rid of bad ones. However, since his focus is solely on habits and mine just includes habits in writing about ADHD, he goes into much greater depth.  You may recognize that I frequently include good tips from Clear’s posts here.
I was pleased and surprised to see that his principles are the same that I’ve been promoting, he simply uses different terms.
I highly recommend this book for ADHDer ‘s, as well as for anyone else who would like to improve their life.

Some of the tools for changing habits: spotting, small steps, anchors,  are previously posted.

doug

Links:

On Habits

Atomic Habits on Amazon

Quotes O the Day:

“How stupid can they be!?”

       my wife, reading a newspaper headline

“I don’t know.  Maybe there’s no limit?”

        me, in reply

Personal Notes O the Day:

  1. I hope you won’t mind, but I’m going to post some of my poems here. I know it’s irrelevant to AHDD, but where the hell else can I post them?
  2. I’m about through the final draft of Your Life Can Be Better, second edition, and then I can get back to the novel, Alma Means Soul, and then, and t h e n,  and t   h   e   n, the new redo of 365 Days.  Maybe we could have a lottery on guessing the publication dates?  I anticipate all three for this year (!!!!???)
  3.  Maybe the relevance is that it is possible to get things done, even with ADHD, even if it’s not easy, and that one of the common “benefits” of ADHD is creativity?

Poem O the Day:

Our Last Dog

Since we lost Emma, our last dog,

I’ve been reduced to an aquarium.

We’ve firmly decided, once again,

but finally, this time, finally,

not to get another dog,

and we’ve rejected various options,

parakeets, gerbils, hamsters, guinea pigs, cats.

That’s about it.

We never even considered  reptiles.

So now I’m responsible for the lives of two small fish,

two large snails,

and two small cherry red shrimp.

It’s a little like being God.

A very little.

A small catfish I recently purchased abruptly vanished.

That’s one of the mysteries that comes with aquariums.

I refrain from trying to pet the fish.

 

White Cloud Mountain Fish

 

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Why Use Strategies and Habits for ADHD? — ADHD Tip O the Day 919

Insights on living with ADHD:

I finished another retreat and again gained some insights, some of which I’ll share with you.

The purpose of the ADHD strategies and the habits is to make your life easier, to decrease pressure and busyness, and to decrease frustration.   And maybe even the big internal flywheel can slow down. Or maybe even stop? 

The purpose of the strategies and habits approach is  not to make us more productive,  to accomplish more, to get even busier. It’s to make us more efficient, so that we’ll have time to relax, to enjoy life, to practice being  and not just doing.

Books I recommend:

Present Over Perfect -Niequist  (Spiritual, but if you are not, you could still get a lot out of it.)

Atomic Habits  -Jame Clear – I write about habits a lot, but Clear has a whole book about them with great detail.

Maybe You Should Talk with Someone – Lori Gottlieb – about therapy, one particular form. 

doug

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Busy with ADHD

Too Busy with ADHD?

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Marijuana and ADHD? — ADHD Tip O the Day 918

Does Marijauna help with ADHD?

I recently answered this question about marijuana (weed, pot) on another website. My answer stimulated a lot of controversy. 

My answer began, “I don’t recommend marijuana. “

Apparently some people took this as my being against marijuana, against marijuana users, and against themselves personally. Some were quite passionate. Several said weed really helped them with ADHD.  That’s personal experience and I have no reason to disbelieve them, although I’ve never heard, seen, or read of this anywhere else.

What I meant was, ‘I do not recommend marijuana for ADHD.’

It’s possible that some of the responders are involved in the marijuana business. If so, they’d be more knowledgeable than I am, but is it possible that they might also be a little bit biased?

My view:
1. Marijuana can be helpful for a number of things, chronic pain, for example, where it’s approved for medical use.

2.  I’ve seen no research supporting use of marijuana for ADHD nor any patients who it helped with ADHD. I’ve seen some research against it.  Research reports are based on averages. There are always some exceptions, people at one end or the other of the bell shaped curve.

3.  Research shows that marijuana is harmful to the developing brain, up to around age 25. This is slightly controversial.  Marijuana can cause various problems, can be addictive, can precipitate psychosis in susceptible adolescents. It’s probably not as bad as alcohol. Both are damaging with heavy chronic use.

4. I support legalization of marijuana, for several reasons.

5. I think CBD oil can supply many of the same benefits as marijuana without the drawbacks (and without the high.) I use it to help with leg cramps and sometimes with insomnia. 

6. There are many ways to use marijuana without smoking it. Smoking any substance is bad for your health.

7. Research shows that it can be difficult to know what strain of marijuana you’re buying, and that there may not be much difference between the various strains. This is controversial also.

8. If you’re using pot for ADHD and it helps, great, as long as it’s not causing you problems (check this with someone who knows you well, preferably a non-user) and if you’re not smoking it.  Still, I’d worry about long term effects if you’re a heavy daily user.  Have you tried CBD?  A few people who use CBD for other medical reasons say it works best if there’s a  little THC with it.

Comments?

doug

 

Links:

About marijuana

Cannabis use disorder

Recreational Use

CBD and med interactions  I haven’t read this anywhere else.

Song O the Day  link

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Does pot help ADHD?

 

 

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ADHD and Changing — Tip O the Day 916

Puryear’s Principles of Human Behavior #1

After we struggle and struggle with a problem and finally find some effective way to cope with it, the next thing we do is stop doing it.

Maybe one of the reasons is that the novelty wears off eventually, even tho it’s working? 

I imagined that when I retired, life would be much different.  No more pressure, “too busy,” “too much to do,” not enough time.  The giant flywheel inside constantly turning and saying, “Hurry!  Hurry! ”

But what do you think?  Surprise, surprise!  There wasn’t much difference.

So I started to make some changes:

  1. I no longer record in my evening gratitude booklet the things I got done for the day: guitar, gym, writing, etc.
  2. I’m no longer use my beloved index cards, at least not in the same way. I put my five  to-do list items on a small whiteboard on my desk and I note things like to- do’s, to remembers, on a yellow sticky inside the appointment book that’s always in my pocket.
  3. I’m no longer require myself to do a post every Tuesday. If Tuesday isn’t convenient, I do it some other day.
  4. I no longer require myself to always fix the way wordpress screws my posts up, like these #%%^^$ extra numbers.
  5. And others.

So I’m more flexible and I’m less demanding of myself.

But I think this approach wouldn’t have worked for me before I retired.  I needed the structure, organization, and rules.  I still do, just not so much.

I’m working on spending more time being and less time doing.  I wonder if I could’ve done that before retirement?  I think maybe so.  It certainly would’ve been worth trying.

So my recommendation to you, if you are not retired, is to keep using the tools and strategies that help you get through the day, but try to see if you can schedule in some time for just being.  If you can do that, your life will be better.  You can try it.

Good luck.

doug

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Links:

Misunderstandings about ADHD and some new ideas

Books

From Tom Woodard:

snuck up on me!

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The (used to be ) whiteboard

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Blurting with ADHD— ADHD Tip O the Day 915

People with ADHD tend to be impulsive and lacking in social skills.  Those may be related?  We tend to blurt out, to say inappropriate things.

Can you think of your most embarrassing moment?  Was it related to ADHD?  Mine was.

Think of a boy in junior high school.  What are those boys like?

It was our eighth grade graduation.  I was in the third row, with parents, other relatives, and teachers in the honor seats in front of us.  The dignitaries were up on the stage doing dignitarial things.  It was very boring.

They finally got to the awards part and they got to the Good Citizenship Award.  No one was holding their breath; it was a given that Nikki would win it.

So I was beyond shocked, startled, amazed and totally unprepared when they called my name.

I blurted out a short exclamation. 

Loudly.  

At the time that word was in common usage among me and my junior high peers and it also carried much more weight than it does these days.

I doubt if my exclamation carried much beyond the rows of adults in front of me and all the way up to the stage.  I hope not. No one ever said anything about it.

” I been f—–!” 

Then I went up to the stage to get my Good Citizenship Award.

As you may expect, that was not the last time I ever blurted out anything inappropriate, but it was the most outstanding. I have learned that occasionally a small voice in my head will say quietly, “Doug, maybe it would be better not to say that.” Sometimes.  And sometimes I listen to it.  That would be a good strategy.

(I hope you don’t think I’m bragging about my junior high school award.)

doug

Links:

Inappropriate Again?

blurt

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Misdiagnosed ADHD? — ADHD Tip O the Day 914

Misdiagnosed ADHD?

A friend asked if his bipolar diagnosis could actually be misdiagnosed ADHD.

ADHD has many comorbidities,  other problems that frequently occur with it.
Bipolar (used to be manic depressive) is a major one.

In US adults, 1 to 4% have bipolar; about 4% have ADHD.

Over half of people with bipolar also have ADHD; about 20 % of people with ADHD  also have bipolar. I assume there’s some commonality in genes, miswiring, and brain chemistry.

Some of the symptoms of ADHD and hypomania (mild mania) appear somewhat similar but a good history should make misdiagnosis rare. 

Bipolar usually onsets in the early 20s; ADHD in childhood. ADHD moods fluctuate rapidly with events; bipolar moods last days to months and often have no identifiable precipitant. Bipolar symptoms occur in episodes, with periods of normal in between; ADHD symptoms are always present, although they may wax and wane somewhat. 

Full mania has such severe symptoms that it would be hard to mistake it for ADHD. Bipolar always has depressive episodes; people with ADHD often get a depression. The diagnosis is a little more difficult in someone who’s depressed who might also have ADHD.

If you’re unsure about diagnosis, get a good evaluation from a psychiatrist or psychologist who knows about ADHD; not all do. And take someone with you who knows you, preferably from childhood.  We don’t always see ourselves accurately.

doug

Bonus: from Comments: ADHD app, from Dinos, the tech guy:

“Doug, if you’re curious about using cell phones to maintaining lists check out an app called Microsoft To Do. it’s really simple and doesn’t overwhelm you with features but has this really neat feature/concept called My Day. Check out this lady’s blog post where she talks about it a little more in-depth
https://www.amandasterner.com/post/starting-with-microsoft-to-do

I hope you all read the comments; they’re very good.

Question O the Day:

Do you read the comments?

Personal Comments O the Day:

I’m pretty sure we’re not supposed to use three colons in the same sentence.

The ADHD book and the novel are on hold while I’m correcting errors, mostly typos, in Your Life Can Be Better  and publishing a second edition What appeared to be a simple project has turned into a nightmare.  I’m enormously grateful for help from Jo and my son in law or I might’ve given up.

Quote O the Day:

“Nothing is ever easy.”

           doug puryear

More on Bipolar If You Wanted:

Bipolar, used to be manic depressive, has two forms:

Bipolar I has recurrent episodes of mania and depression, usually with periods of normality in between.

Bipolar II is the same except the mania never reaches full mania, just “hypomania.”

books link

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Our ADHD Brains Are Different

 

 

 

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ADHD Changes — ADHD Tip O the Day 913

Puryear’s Principles of Human Nature – Number One:

“If we struggle and struggle with a problem, and we  finally find a solution that works, the next thing we do is to stop using it.”

One of my favorite strategies is the index cards in my pocket, especially the red one for the list of five.  This has been extremely helpful to me.  But I don’t use it anymore.

Since I’ve retired, most of my time is at home.  So it’s convenient to use a small White Board on my desk and keep my list of five on that.  For jotting things down, I keep ayellow sticky in the front of my appointment book.  This is easily replaced when it’s full, and my appointment book is always with me wherever I am.

It is easy to attribute this change to my retirement, but it’s more complicated.  There are other strategies that I’ve dropped.  Some of them are replaced with something better; others, I just forget to use, at least until some problem blindsides me again.

Maybe even when something works, the novelty wears off and we eventually get bored with it?

What do you think?

doug

Extra Note O the Day:

I still have two index cards, a list of all the passwords and another for the list of principles I’m trying to follow.  I keep these in my appointment book.

Quote O the Day:

“Nothing ever stays the same.”

Questions O the Day:

  1. Do normal people, “vanillas,” just automatically never set things on the edge of the counter or the table?  Or do they do it but somehow don’t knock them off?

2. Can you put vodka in a humidifier? — asking for a friend.

3. Don’t most people use their cell phones for lists and everything?  I still don’t.

Links:

Lists

Index Cards

Tips for Managing ADHD

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Dystechnologia and ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 912

Dystechnologia is not an official part of ADHD. 

But I sure have it, and I think it’s one of the frequently occurring comorbidities.  Could result from our symptoms, lack of focus, etc., or could be related to the same brain miswiring. 

Anyone else have it?

Technology:

Pros: Supposed make our lives easier (but does it?)

We can do things we couldn’t do without it.

Some things we can do in much less time.

Cons: Can cause major frustration (I never can get a wordpress post to come out just like I want. And my mouse isn’t working right.)

Can be a major time waster.

Gives us many more things to do, so we’re busier.

And so many choices, uses up psychic energy and reduces willpower.

doug

Personal Note O the Day: The saga continues:

Review of previous episode:

Amazon shows errors on Your Life Can Be Better. Finally decide to fix them.  Can’t find manuscript file. Call KDP.  They email manuscript. Fix Amazon’s eight errors. Find over 100 more.  Fix those.  Decide I need to do a second edition.

New episode:

  1. For second edition, need new cover. Can’t find cover file. Call KDP.  Krishna, very knowledgeable, says they will fix it for me.  Long discussion, clear agreement about what’s needed.
    2. They totally screw up cover.
    3. Call KDP.  Lady says there’s nothing they can do, they can’t make changes, I will have to start all over from scratch. I say they can make changes, they screwed it up.  She says can’t help.
    4. Call son-in-law, knowledgeable, says he will redo cover.  Waiting and hoping.             5. Woke up this morning, computer totally screwed up. “We cannot open your account“
    6. Followed their instruction. Doesn’t work.
    7. Googled this error. Many instructions.  They don’t work.  They say try safe mode.
    8 Can’t get into safe mode.  Googled safe mode, got instructions. They don’t work.
    9. Stumble into safe mode. Follow previous instructions for correcting error. They don’t work
    10. Return to save mode. Try system restore. It freezes. Against instructions, fearfully and reluctantly shut down computer. Restart.                                                                        11. It works! For the moment.  Get message that restore was successful (?).      12.Working on this post. Morning shot to hell.

Relevant comments on technology:

from tina:  What you have gone through is absurd. I find technology and the lack of real support obnoxious. i suspect you are fairly young compared to me because you are ok with all of this nonsense. i am in my early 70’s-technology today has nearly forced me to stop using my laptop-it is completely absurd . 9 million steps-everything should be able to be handled with one direct phone call). We need new technology-

(for the sake of honesty I needed to inform Tina that actually I’m a teensy weeny bit older than her, but otherwise she’s right on.)

from ken: The joys of publishing! Doing it for a living, and I know the pain 😊

from anon: It is definitely a learning curve. When Amazon took over from CreateSpace it took me a long and terrifying time to figure out that there’s no actual help from them. You have to get the dimensions exact and locked in for the paperback cover. Good luck with it! If you don’t win soon I’ll be happy to place the text and size it for you to upload.

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Me and my computer – a strange love affair.

Dinos does not have technologia

More Dinos does not have dystechnologia

 

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Strategy: Call someone for help that doesn’t have this problem.

BTW O the Day: Yes, by the way, my Alexa isn’t working either.

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Letting Things Slide — ADHD Tip O the Day 911

It’s a long ADHD story, sad but true, and instructional.

I publish my books on KDP, a subsidiary of Amazon. Their authors’ page lists all the books and their status. I looked at it several times, but not carefully. It looked complicated and daunting, especially to someone technologically challenged. I let it slide.

After several years, some of the books weren’t selling well. I forced myself to check again.  Some of the books had never actually been published. I did manage to fix that.

A few years after Your Life Can Be Better was published, Amazon put little yellow warning signs on it, because it had typos. They sent me an email about eight errors. I didn’t know what to do about this, so I let it slide.

I finally decided to do something about it. I couldn’t find their email, so I let it slide.

Then I found a place to clik that would list the errors, so I didn’t need the email. But I couldn’t find the manuscript file.  So I let it slide.

Months later, I realized I could ask for help, not one of my strong points. I called KDP and  a very helpful lady emailed me a copy of the manuscript. KDP listed the error location numbers, but the manuscript didn’t have location numbers. But I was able to use search and find and correct the errors anyway. 

The little yellow signs went away. Yay!

Then I saw many errors in the manuscript that they hadn’t noted. I used Grammarly and went through the whole script and corrected well over 100 other errors.

Now I need to replace the manuscript. That doesn’t look hard. I’ll try not to let it slide.

Then I need to make it a second edition. This involves, among many other steps, changing the book cover. That seems very complicated. I hope I don’t let it slide.

Strategy:  Don’t let things slide.  You’ll regret it.

doug

Personal Notes O the Day:

Got hyperfocused on the novel. Now I’m ready to pick up the new ADHD book again.  I’ve weeded out the duplicate tips; that was a booger. Now draft twelve will be filling in the holes. Hope that’s easier.

The story above drags out over at least five years. Just so you know.

Thank you,  Annette, for your great help on the novel. One or two more drafts and I can publish it. Excited about it.

Laura, did you have some questions?

Questions O the Day:

  1. Anybody understand how to edit a Kindle book cover easily?  I need to change the title and take out ADD/ADHD; it’s just ADHD now.
  2. I’ve been urged to do audiobooks, but my impression is that it’s too complicated, time consuming, and expensive.  Any thoughts?
  3. Anyone have experiences with letting things slide, or is it just me?

Links:

Relationships and ADHD

Avoiding

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How do I even start?

Does that explain it?

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ADHD Time — ADHD Tip O the Day 910

How I spend my time; a typical 24 hours:

Screwing around on the computer.              2.5 hours

Sleeping?                                                              ???

Looking for my cell phone, repeatedly.        1.5 hours

Looking for my glasses.                                      .5

Looking for something else that I just had in my hand.          .75 hours

Asking my wife to find the thing that I couldn’t find, several times.      1 hour

Doing something important that I needed to spend 4 hours on.                             1 hour

Doing something that came up unexpectedly and screwed up my whole schedule.   2 hours

Piddling, accomplishing nothing.                     2 hours

Normal basic activities of life.                          2 hours

Time I cannot account for; God only knows where it went.     3- 6 hours

doug

 

Novel Idea of the Day:

There are many different kinds of time, for example, regular time, ADHD time, and New Mexico Time.

Quote O the Day:

Time is a booger.

me, ADHDer

 

Quiz O the Day:

What does mañana mean in Santa Fe?

(Answer below)

The Whole Time Article

James Clear

ADHD Medications

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Answer:  No, in Santa Fe, mañana does not mean tomorrow.  It means ” not today.”

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What Is Your Time Style?

 

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Does ADHD Medication Help With —? — ADHD Tip O the Day 909

ADHD Medication Helps with Focus, Motivation, Inertia

The medication can be a miracle for some, but it doesn’t seem to help with:

irritability

losing things

memory

patience

time management

sleep

 

Too bad; sorry.  But what it does help with is invaluable.

This is my opinion and experience.  If you have different views I would love to hear them.

doug

Extra Note O the Day:

New research show that sleep problems are a part of ADHD, presumably sharing some of the same gene mutations and miswiring.  If we don’t sleep well, our ADHD symptoms are worse the next day, but paradoxically, it’s important not to worry about the insomnia, as that will only make it worse.  So if I don’t sleep well one night, I’ll just accept it, knowing I’ll sleep better the next night.

Bonus Links:

James Clear

Sleep

Bonnie Mincu

Is your Spouse Always Late?

Book Link

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There are many alternatives to sleep.

 

 

 

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ADHD Meds

Sleep??

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The Brake and the Accelerator — ADHD Tip O the Day 908

A Little ADHD Science:

We have one amygdala deep in each side of the brain, a small group of nerve cells very involved with emotions.   The frontal lobe is a whole section of the brain, guess where?

Basically, the amygdala is the accelerator.  It’s always on, saying, “Go, go, go! Do it, do it, do it!”

The amygdala is connected to the frontal lobe, the brake, which is not always on, but when it is it says, “Hey, calm down, slow down.  Wait a minute.  Let’s think about this. What are the consequences, the pros and cons of this?” (Note the absence of !’s.)

Ideally, there’s a good connection and a balance between these two, but as we’ve been reading, not all of our ADHD connections, our networks, are in good shape.  This helps understand our impulsiveness.

ADHD Genes:

Recent research says ADHD is about seventy percent heritable. Most cases come from a compilation of a large number of genes with common mutations; the more of these gene mutations  you have the more likely you’ll have ADHD and the more severe it’s likely to be.  Many of these genes are involved in regulating the early development of the brain, including the networks.

To better identify which genes are ADHD involved, the researchers looked at genes involved in the many different types of intellectual impairment (retardation), each of which is usually caused by a rare mutation in a single gene, very different from ADHD.

They found that many of the retardation genes are among those which (with common mutations) are involved in ADHD, and are especially involved in sleep disturbance and hyperactivity.

I think the significance of the gene study is that it specifically identified some of the many genes that contribute to ADHD and opened the door to studying their specific effects on the brain and thus on symptoms.

doug

Personal Notes O the Day:

  1. I’m not sure that I correctly understand anything I’ve said above and I welcome any comments about it.
  2. I’m making progress on both the novel and the ADHD book, creeping along.
  3. Retirement is a lot harder than I’d imagined; I haven’t adjusted to it yet.  I don’t miss the travel, the stress, the burden of responsibility, but I do miss the work itself.  This freedom is what I’d always imagined as heaven, nirvana, bliss, but the time has a tendency to fill up, to get just as busy as before.  It’s hard to balance being and doing, which is my goal now. And it feels like something is missing: zest, color, purpose, significance. Life seems a little bland now; maybe the amygdala is understimulated?  Maybe it’s been somewhat like this for people who’ve been out of work due to the virus?

Possibly Irrelevant Points O the Day:

  1. Sleep problems may be a specific symptom of ADHD. And if we do not get adequate sleep our symptoms get worse.
  2. Some researchers, not these, are using a new definition of intellectual impairment, which includes problems with things like focus and problem solving.  This could lead to interesting effects on research findings and particularly on ADHD.
  3. Many people with intellectual impairment ( the old definition) also have ADHD.  (Life is not fair.)

Coming Up:

I plan to do posts on sleep problems and on which ADHD symptoms are not helped by medication. Any other requests or suggestions?

ADHD Emotions

See in ADHD web sitemany ADHD articles

Ritalin – on, off, on, off

Nature therapy and more

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