With ADD ADHD we have more trouble making decisions than vanillas do. There may be many reasons for this. We have shaky self esteem and maybe fear making another mistake. Maybe there are just too many choices. But part of the problem is our misconceptions about decisions.
We act as though there is a Right Answer engraved in stone somewhere and it’s up to us to figure it out.
If it’s that hard to decide, then probably there’s no right answer. It’s a toss up.
If you’ve done a reasonable amount of homework and made a decision and it turns out badly, that doesn’t mean you made a mistake. It just means you made a reasonable choice that didn’t turn out well.
You can’t ask every adviser, read every article, google every possibility. You’ll just get more confused and you’ll never make a decision. You’ll miss a lot of opportunities.
So do a reasonable amount of homework,taking a reasonable amount of time. Not too much (obsessing, procrastinating ) nor too little (impulsive). If you still can’t decide, flip a coin. Then stick with your decision. No second guessing.
Homey has some good suggestions about this, including listing pros and cons (I love lists) and setting limits Set a time limit, a research limit, a choices to consider limit.
All of this applies to the many choices we have to make, large and small, including setting priorities.
Quote O the Day:
“At some point you have to stop doing research and decide.”
Comment O the Day:
Every morning we wake up with a certain amount of psychic energy. Every time we make a choice or decision or exercise any willpower, we burn some up. Then there’s less available for the next challenge. Aint that a booger?
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