Getting Diagnosed with ADHD – and Life Before the Diagnosis. Part 2— ADHD Tip O the Day 729

From Jeff – a comment on a previous post and on Ram’s comment on that post.              (The embolding is my doing.)

“Hi Doug. I have a different perspective from Ram’s that I thought I’d share. And my reaction to realizing I had ADD was more similar to yours. I learned I had ADD just a few years ago, when I was about 25 years older than Ram. I had been to see several neurologists in an attempt to learn the cause of my frequent migraines and memory problems. Unfortunately, these doctors only appeared interested in treating my migraines. I ended up self-diagnosing myself with ADD, although I don’t remember exactly when this was, or how it happened. I just remember that it was as though I had just solved a very difficult puzzle after the pieces just happened to come together and I had an eureka moment!

Realizing I had ADD, and learning many of the tips for living with ADD, has made my life much easier. I have many of the classic symptoms, quite a few of which you’ve described as having yourself, Doug. I didn’t get upset upon learning I had ADD, just happy that I finally knew what was causing many of my problems. And maybe it was for the best that I didn’t learn I had ADD when I was in school, because perhaps I would have thought I was unable to accomplish some of the things that I DID accomplish. I graduated from college, but had many difficulties caused by ADD. Not only was I a slow reader, but I found it difficult to study, etc. So, to combat these problems, I just worked harder than other students. Unfortunately, my social life suffered, as I had much less time to devote to having fun.

However, instead of being upset over the problems I’ve had due to my ADD, I try to focus on making my life better in the future. It’s a long process, but I find it a challenge to learn new tactics to combat the effects ADD has on me.”

Comment:  Many physicians don’t understand ADHD, but unfortunately, many don’t understand that they don’t understand. We have many tools to help self-diagnose, which is a good first step, but the diagnosis needs to be confirmed by a knowledgeable professional. There are other conditions that can mimic ADHD.  

Sometimes when we get the diagnosis, it is “Eureka” – everything suddenly makes sense. Then we can start identifying problems and using strategies which will make our life better. We can also try medication, which sometimes can be a miracle, and sometimes not.  There are a number of symptoms characteristic of ADHD and different ones of us may have different combinations, so we are each unique, but we all have a lot in common.

 Many of us have accomplished a lot, but with many difficulties and having to work harder than the vanillas.  

We need to learn to pay attention to the fact that we do have ADHD, and that we need to focus on coping and how to make our lives better.

Thanks, Jeff.


Relevant Links:     

Ram’s story

More on diagnosis

Evaluating a professional

#adhd #adultADHD #adhdstrategies @dougmkpdp @addadultstrats


Ram’s story

More on diagnosis

Evaluating a professional


@addstrategies  #adhd  #add  @dougmkpdp


About doug with ADHD

I am a psychiatric physician. I learned I have ADHD at age 64, and then wrote two ADHD books for adults, focusing on strategies for making your life better. I just published my first novel, Alma Means Soul. Your Life Can Be Better; strategies for adults with ADD/ADHD available at, or (for e books) Living Daily With Adult ADD or ADHD: 365 Tips O the Day ( e-book). This is one tip at a time, one page at a time, at your own pace. It's meant to last a year. As a child, I was a bully. Then there was a transformation. Now I am committed to helping people instead abusing them. The Bully was published in January, 2016. It's in print or e book, on Amazon.
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6 Responses to Getting Diagnosed with ADHD – and Life Before the Diagnosis. Part 2— ADHD Tip O the Day 729

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  3. That’s exactly how I felt, too. Relief at knowing what was going on and then working to fix it.

    I also agree that it takes much more effort to do the same things that non-ADHD folks can do.

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  4. Jeff says:

    Thank YOU, Doug. Your posts on ADHD strategies have helped not only me, but many others. With the use of these strategies, perseverance, and a good attitude most of us can find a way to improve our lives. As Thomas Edison famously said, “Your worth consists in what you are and not in what you have.” Unfortunately, one of the things we “have” is ADHD. Jeff

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