Arguing about ADHD with people who don’t know what they’re talking about — ADD Tip O the Day 694

Response to another good comment from Ram 

Ram – Yes, there are crusade and controversy opportunities all around us. I have a good strategy for dealing with some of those situations – ask questions, ask more questions, then summarize – “So if I understand, you’re telling me that the world is totally controlled, including all the governments and all the big companies, by six men in Switzerland, and you know this because you read it on a blog, but you don’t know who wrote the blog. Is that correct?”
Sometimes the more questions you ask them, the more your adversary unravels.

There are many ways to end this – “So, what do you plan to do tomorrow?” Or “Well, how has the skiing been this year?” Etc. Or you can say “Really???” Or “Well, I don’t agree.” But those keep the conversation open, which you don’t want. Unfortunately, I don’t remember to use this good strategy very often.

But the one I sometimes remember to use is a better strategy, “Goodbye.”

If you’re dealing with a conspiracy nut, they’ve done research, using confirmatory bias, and will present “facts” to prove their case. And they’re totally wedded to it, because being one of the few elite privileged to this secret knowledge makes them important. You’re not equipped with facts, because you haven’t spent time on the subject, and your opinion is based on commonsense, common knowledge, and your own confirmatory bias. Thus, you are at a disadvantage in an argument, which would be totally pointless and a waste of time anyway.

“You can’t win, you can’t break even, and you can’t get out of the game.”
But in fact, you can get out of the game.

Doug

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About doug with ADHD

I am a psychiatric physician. I learned I have ADHD at age 64, and then wrote two ADHD books for adults, focusing on strategies for making your life better. Your Life Can Be Better; strategies for adults with ADD/ADHD available at amazon.com, or smashwords.com (for e books) Living Daily With Adult ADD or ADHD: 365 Tips O the Day ( e-book). This is one tip at a time, one page at a time, at your own pace. It's meant to last a year. As a child, I was a bully. Then there was a transformation. Now I am committed to helping people instead abusing them. The Bully was published in January, 2016. It's in print or e book, on Amazon.
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6 Responses to Arguing about ADHD with people who don’t know what they’re talking about — ADD Tip O the Day 694

  1. Betsy Davenport says:

    Someone I know, faced with to-frequent unsolicited advice from her mother-in-law, finally hit on an effective strategy for not getting into a conversation or conflict about things she’d already thought through. When the advice began, she’d cock her head just a little as if she were considering, and when her mother-in-law was done, she’d say, “Hm. Well, that’s something to think about.” And then change the subject.

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    • The Bully says:

      betsy – you nailed it. i find unrequested advice is rarely appreciated, either when i give it or when i receive it. of course, if some one comments here, i always appreciate it and do claim the privilege of sometimes assuming they were requesting advice
      and as always, thank you for commentin
      doug

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  2. The Bully says:

    Lisa – it works pretty well, nothing is 100%
    thank you for commenting
    doug

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  3. The advice is spot on, Doug, but the dancing squirrel made me laugh out loud.

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  4. Lisa says:

    “ask questions, ask more questions, then summarize” I love this!! I will use this for sure.

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