“It Just Got Away From Me” — ADHD Tip O the Day 891

ADHD is a booger

Mon 2/17/2020 11:36 AM

What I’m about to tell you is true. This is the way it really happened. You can’t make this stuff up.

We were to leave for our trip on Thursday. We’d spend Friday night halfway. Valentine’s Day was Saturday, as you presumably knew. At least most of you did.

I did. Besides that, my wife happened to drop it into the conversation a couple of times earlier in the week. Just by coincidence.

But somehow, when we got here on Saturday  I had no present and no card. It had just gotten away from me.  I can’t explain it any other way A card would’ve been enough. I drew her something expressing my love and she seemed to like it OK, maybe. It made her laugh, which I thought was a good sign.  Maybe.

When you’ve been married as long as we have, you begin to be able to  sense  when a woman is not happy with you. Like, for instance, when she quits speaking to you. That’s a clue right there. Or when you go to hug her and she knocks your arm away. That’s another one.

However, my wife took it remarkably well, although I don’t think she fully accepted my abject apology. She mentioned that  a few years ago she might not have reacted as well, and I didn’t know whether it was prudent to agree with her or better to change the subject. I thought that whatever I did would probably just make things worse

So we spent Sunday afternoon driving around searching for roses, which were to be a belated valentine and a peace offering. We finally found some, but they were either dead or horribly expensive and my wife choose some other nice-looking flowers. Then we drove around some more looking for a flower vase, but we never did find one. My wife seemed to be getting a little frustrated. I, on the other hand, was exhausted and apprehensive.

We got home, and she beautifully arranged the flowers in a kind of bowl and seemed satisfied. She’s been very pleasant ever since. If you do have ADHD, as I happen to have, it’s very good to have a wife with a high level of tolerance, patience, and a good sense of humor.

But I can tell you one thing. I will never miss another Valentine’s Day. Never.

Quote O the Day:

“I’m very, very sorry.”

      Probably from some married man, quite possibly one with ADHD.


Beautiful Flower Arrangement in a Bowl.



Beautiful flower arrangement in a bowl.




@adhd #adhd Doug@adhd






About doug with ADHD

I am a psychiatric physician. I learned I have ADHD at age 64, and then wrote two ADHD books for adults, focusing on strategies for making your life better. I just published my first novel, Alma Means Soul. Your Life Can Be Better; strategies for adults with ADD/ADHD available at amazon.com, or smashwords.com (for e books) Living Daily With Adult ADD or ADHD: 365 Tips O the Day ( e-book). This is one tip at a time, one page at a time, at your own pace. It's meant to last a year. As a child, I was a bully. Then there was a transformation. Now I am committed to helping people instead abusing them. The Bully was published in January, 2016. It's in print or e book, on Amazon.
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4 Responses to “It Just Got Away From Me” — ADHD Tip O the Day 891

  1. Ken Powell says:

    Oh bless you Doug – I feel ya my friend. Been there, bought the T-shirt shop!


  2. hold
    you are right, and i have got a monthly calendar. necessary but not sufficient . need to look at it and to appreciate what it is showing me. it’s not just some vague set of numbers. with adhd, time is a booger.
    thank you for commmenting


  3. holdthatthought says:

    doug, we need to get you a monthly calendar my man


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