This just in from my sister, Lucy, who does not have ADD or ADHD, but has been supportive of my struggles and was one of the courageous reviewers of the terrible early drafts of the book:
“A hint for the overwhelmed/compelled – The Have Done List –
On the days that The to Do List (3,5, whatever)- or just the thought of making The TD List is too depressing; just start your day,..- then in a few hours make a list of those what you have accomplished so far (got up, brushed my teeth, petted the dog). You might be surprised to find that is a great motivator to do more. Works for me! (for who like variety, it helps: maybe not so much for the OCD). I have even gone so far as not granting it the title of List (-so there, take that you taskmaster)”
This incorporates a lot of the strategies -rewards, do something! , get started ( I often pick up the dog poop first thing, and feel good -” well, that’s behind me, and I’ve already gotten something done”). And it’s good to give ourself credit for what we do, and quit beating ourself up for what we haven’t (that’s also a good child-rearing strategy), and if we are using a TD list it feels good to cross something off.
Thank you, Lucy!
This post also illustrates another good strategy – take things as easy as you can. Lucy just handed me a ready made post, so I don’t need to think one up for today.
I appreciate all comments, hope each of you will feel called to contribute
“you have to show up to see the miracles” Scott