ADD and Relationships — ADD Tip o the day 378

It is hard to live with someone with ADHD or ADD.  We let down and disappoint -when I said I would do it, I meant it, but I just forget.  We are late for engagements or don’t show up at all.  We lose things, break things, mess things up.  We cause social embarrassment with inappropriate behavior. We do a poor job of handling money and credit cards and so on.

We need strategies to cope with these things, and our partners need strategies to help us do better.  But when they nudge us or remind us or do it themselves instead of asking us, we feel criticized and resentful. It make us think that they see us as inadequate, which we are, in certain areas.  There are ways to work on this.

None of this justifies anyone abusing us, emotionally or physically.

repeat – None of this justifies anyone abusing us, emotionally or physically.


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we are all worthy of respect

Anahi Ortiz’s excellent post on this clik here

orlov  the adhd effect on marriage    clik

lerner the dance of anger           clik

About doug with ADHD

I am a psychiatric physician. I learned I have ADHD at age 64, and then wrote two ADHD books for adults, focusing on strategies for making your life better. I just published my first novel, Alma Means Soul. Your Life Can Be Better; strategies for adults with ADD/ADHD available at, or (for e books) Living Daily With Adult ADD or ADHD: 365 Tips O the Day ( e-book). This is one tip at a time, one page at a time, at your own pace. It's meant to last a year. As a child, I was a bully. Then there was a transformation. Now I am committed to helping people instead abusing them. The Bully was published in January, 2016. It's in print or e book, on Amazon.
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