Stuck again – ADHD Tip O the Day 814

Well here I am again, writing about being stuck, because I’ve been stuck. Many reasons, will spare you the excuses.

In Mexico, on vacation, but still have a to do list of about six things that need doing pretty soon. Wasn’t doing any of them. One was this blog.

Made a list.  Made a four day calendar and spread them out across it. That helped a little bit.  Said I would do the first one. I didn’t. Ate some ice cream instead, which I’d said I wouldn’t do. But then I did one. Putting the reward before the achievement, probably a mistake.  But could be a new strategy?

Then I did another one, but not the next one high on the list. Trying to use my “do the hard part first“ strategy, but I’m not. The hard part can’t be broken into small steps. Well, actually, I haven’t tried that. It’s a good idea if it’s possible.  That’s my next strategy.

I have some links for you to make this post more useful than my dithering.

But at least I’ve done something now, which is better than nothing.




ADHD and Marriage



Note: I did have a lot of distractions while doing this blog, and I wasn’t quite hyperfocused, but I committed to finishing it and did not follow any of the distractions.  It wasn’t easy.


Oaxaca dinner


oaxaca art rhinocerantes


Oaxaca patio where I am typing this

Oaxaca breakfast





About doug with ADHD

I am a psychiatric physician. I learned I have ADHD at age 64, and then wrote two ADHD books for adults, focusing on strategies for making your life better. I just published my first novel, Alma Means Soul. Your Life Can Be Better; strategies for adults with ADD/ADHD available at, or (for e books) Living Daily With Adult ADD or ADHD: 365 Tips O the Day ( e-book). This is one tip at a time, one page at a time, at your own pace. It's meant to last a year. As a child, I was a bully. Then there was a transformation. Now I am committed to helping people instead abusing them. The Bully was published in January, 2016. It's in print or e book, on Amazon.
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7 Responses to Stuck again – ADHD Tip O the Day 814

  1. Pingback: Five Most Important ADHD Tips — ADHD Tip O the Day 941 | ADDadultstrategies

  2. rammkatze says:

    Hi, Doug! I’m so glad to hear from you again! 🙂

    I hardly have anything useful to say about the post – we all do know the feeling of being stuck, don’t we? Like you always say: it’s a booger.


  3. Hello Doug, just needed to say welcome back. I was about to put out an APB on your blog post. I am one of your “sleepers”, I would imagine you have quite a few. People who regularly read your posts, but hardly ever reply, because we never get around to it,… surprise, surprise! Why would that be, then?
    Anyway, glad you’re back and your posts are appreciated, so keep up the good work and if you do get terribly stuck, I can recommend a good book which can help, titled “Your Life Can Be Better: using strategies for adult ADD/ADHD”………… Worked for me! 😉
    P.S. I can certainly forgive the lay off, now that I have seen the pics of where you are staying. Wow, Oaxaca, looks fabulous, I can’t spell it, never mind pronounce it, but would love to visit one day. All the best S.


    • Dear blues. Thank you for your supportivecomment. I can always use encouragement to help me motivate to do the next post. If you would like to participate with replies and comments, you would be most welcome. One strategy for “getting around to it“ is “do it now“. If you read a post and want to blog, one thing that works for me is to just pull out my iPhone and write myself an email. Then I email that to myself and can copy and paste it at my convenience. But you are certainly very welcome to be a sleeper if you want to stay in that exalted category. Again, thank you


  4. Scott says:

    Hi Doug,
    Forward progress is still forward progress, even if it wasn’t the first thing on your list, especially when it shortens the list. Keep up the good work!
    I recently read on another ADD site about making one’s own owner’s manual, because the one that seems to work for “normal” people doesn’t seem to work for ADDers. I think that is what you have been doing and sharing and so much of it has helped the rest of us figure out what works. Just remembering the importance of visual space and tiny steps has been very helpful to me. Sometimes just picking up a project I’m working on and looking it over is enough to get me going on it again, (if I just remember to get out to the shop and look at it).
    All the best, Scott


    • Scott,
      as always thank you for your input. Your helpful encouragement gives me motivation to do another post. And helps me overcome the inertia and procrastination.
      I like your visualization technique. Not sure it is one for me but it is always good to learn of techniques that I don’t know or don’t use, because we indeed are all different.
      and I like the concept of the owners manual, specialized for our tribe.
      Thank you for keeping up and contributing.


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