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Life With ADHD. Oh, My! — ADHD Tip O the Day 787

With ADHD, I need a wife, an iPhone, and strategies. I had an 8:30 breakfast appointment with my boss at an excellent restaurant. And he was paying. I set the alarm; it worked. I got up on time, got ready … Continue reading

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Back again with ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 769

 Does this really have anything to do with ADHD? I’m back.  Sorta.  Swamped.  So here’s some of my favorite clips.  I’m hoping that you will: 1. watch them. 2. enjoy them. 3.  leave a comment on the question, “What do … Continue reading

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ADHD and Relationships – A Followup— ADHD Tip O the Day 768

What are ADHDers like?  What is it like to live with ADHD? What is it like to live with someone with ADHD? And why are relationships so difficult for ADHDers?  If you would like to understand, this article from Attitude … Continue reading

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Myths and What It’s Like to Live with ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 767

  Some People Still Do Not Understand ADHD There are climate change deniers, and flat earthers, and anti-vacine conspiracy theorists, and there are still many people who just do not understand ADHD. It does no good to get mad at … Continue reading

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ADHD and Relationships. Is it possible? — ADHD Tip O the Day 766

My long suffering wife  (very, very long) still gets annoyed sometimes when I do ADHD stuff.  For one example, of many, calling her to come help and then doing something to get ready while she’s standing there waiting. I’m trying … Continue reading

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Five Disconcerting Facts, Relevant To But Not Limited To ADHD — ADD Tip O the Day 759

Disconcerting Facts: 1. Our decisions are made unconsciously, based on unconscious factors, mostly emotional.  After a decision is made, we think we “decide.”  Then we come up with “facts” to support our decision and make it appear to be rational. 2. … Continue reading

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It’s Christmas/Hanuka/Holiday Season -A challenge with ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 758

The Holidays are supposed to be Joyful But with ADHD, they can be just extra challenging. Did you procrastinate on getting the gifts or the cards? Does the prospect of  making choices and decisions terrify you? Are you having trouble … Continue reading

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Caring for Someone With ADHD (ambiguous title). Affection or caretaking?— ADHD Tip O the Day 742

Life Is Hard Life is hard.  Life with ADHD is harder.  Marriage is hard.  Marriage with ADHD is harder.  Being married to someone with ADHD is harder than I can even imagine. There are strategies that will make our life with … Continue reading

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Tips for Surviving with ADD ADHD — ADD Tip o the Day 730

What can we expect of ourselves, or of someone else, with ADHD? “Life can be hard, and with ADHD, it’s even harder.” “Some days, just surviving is a triumph.”             Doug Puryear The great cell … Continue reading

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ADHD Makes Me Irritable — ADHD Tip O the Day 722

Irritability is one of the many symptoms of ADHD. Trust me on this. From a big article on ADHD: Wender (1998) provided a list of adult behaviours linked to childhood ADHD (see also Weiss & Murray, 2003; Asherson, 2005). Motor … Continue reading

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Mother’s Day and ADHD, or, Living with an ADHDer —ADD Tip O the Day 715

With ADHD, Nothing Is Easy Hope you had a great Mother’s Day, whether you’re a mother or not.  You deserve it. I took Martha, the mother of my kids, and Laura, the mother of my grandson, to a nice restaurant.  … Continue reading

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Does ADHD get you bullied? Criticized? Misunderstood? —ADHD Tip O the Day 713

Who gets bullied? Kids who are different.  That would be us, ADHD. But also kids with autism spectrum disorder (autism, Asbergers), dyslexia and other learning disabilities, physical handicaps, or different physical appearance. And also, any minority, in any group. And also, … Continue reading

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ADD ADHD Symptoms and Some of the Many Ways They Can Mess Up Your Life — ADD Tip O the Day 674

Examples of various ADD ADHD symptoms and their bad effects One of our major symptoms is impulsiveness.  That leads to blurting out inappropriately.   It also leads to  making snap judgments of people, but that’s common with vanillas, too. And we have trouble controlling … Continue reading

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Too Much, Too Much, Too Much — ADD Tip O the Day 670

Sometimes with my ADD ADHD, I can’t think straight, or even walk straight.  Sometimes it’s all too much. I was going to the library. It was a nice day. I was going to walk. Since I was going out, my … Continue reading

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Rules Can Make Your Life Better with ADD ADHD — ADD Tip O the Day 649

Using Rules: A major principle for coping with ADD ADHD is:  identify a problem, design a strategy, make it a rule, make it a habit.  But with ADD ADHD there are other uses for rules . Some of us do … Continue reading

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Relationships, Including Marriage, and ADD ADHD — ADD Tip O the Day 636

For ease, I’ll talk about marriage  but this applies to all intimate relationships. Things they don’t tell you Marriage is hard work. Especially if one of you has ADD ADHD. Quote O the Day The only thing worse than being … Continue reading

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ADD ADHD and Marriage or Similar Relationships — ADD Tip O the Day 629

With ADD ADHD, Relationships Are Hard In older couples, the divorce rate is twice that of vanillas.  According to Melissa Orlov, the major problem is undiagnosed and untreated ADD ADHD. Quote O the Day: “You have to be a superwoman … Continue reading

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What Having ADD ADHD Is Like — ADD Tip O the Day 622

Living With ADD ADHD One of the painful things about having ADD ADHD is that people who don’t have it can’t understand what it’s like.  They may recognize some of the symptoms and problems and they may know what it’s … Continue reading

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ADD ADHD and Dyscoordination — ADD Tip O the Day 619

Clumsy, Clumsy, Clumsy – Is It ADD ADHD? I reached for the glass, and… – I reached too far and I knocked it over. – I didn’t notice the glass between it and me and I knocked it over. – … Continue reading

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ADD ADHD Poem —ADD Tip O the Day 593

Ode of an ADDer to a neat wife Please don’t put my stuff away. Please don’t move it, just let it lay. If I can’t see it, it doesn’t exist. I’ll forget to do something and we’ll both be pissed. … Continue reading

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Why Valentines Day Is important With ADD ADHD — ADD Tip O the Day 586

Valentines Day is February 14, this Saturday, that’s this coming Saturday, two days off, this Saturday, day after tomorrow. With ADD ADHD: 1. We forget all about it. 2. We think it’s a long way off and don’t buy a … Continue reading

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ADD ADHD and Marriage?- Is It Possible??? —ADD Tip o the Day 545

 Marriage Experts I am not The Expert on ADD ADHD and marriage, that would be Melissa Orlov and Martha Puryear.  I do have some years in the field, but only from one side.  My expertise would be in How to … Continue reading

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My Wife Complains – – – ADD Tip O the Day 530

My wife told me this morning that I’m very difficult to  live with.      I have no reason to doubt her.  She’s  unhappy because I got lost walking in the neighborhood the other day and she was concerned about me. … Continue reading

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Do You Know the Principles of Humanity? — ADD Tip o the Day 522

PRINCIPLES OF HUMANITY 1. If we struggle and struggle with a problem, and finally find something we can do that works, the next thing we will do is stop doing it. 2. People will choose up sides, and make it … Continue reading

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Blurting Out — ADD Tip o the Day 511

We with ADD or ADHD have problems with blurting out; for example, saying the wrong thing to the wrong person at the wrong time. “Aside from that, Mrs. Lincoln, how did you like the play?” Here’s some guidance on how … Continue reading

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Increase Self Control — ADD Tip o the Day 495

Ritalin May Increase Self Control If it does, this would presumably apply also to the other stimulants, Adderall, etc, as well as possibly to Straterra. This could be another hole poked in my belief that these medications do not help … Continue reading

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Happy Valentines Day, to Everyone Who Loves Someone with ADD or ADHD — ADD Tip o the Day 468

My wife has stuck with me with my ADD all these years.  OK, she has had some complaints sometimes, but she has been very helpful.  I couldn’t have made it without her. She picks up a lot of the slack, … Continue reading

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How to Use Cards, etc, for ADD ADHD — ADD Tip o the Day 460

Momma has suggested more details about using cards, lists, small steps and priorities for adult ADD ADHD.  And some other questions. This will take a few posts. CARDS: the red card, list of five, things to be attempted today. Limit … Continue reading

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ADD and relationships — ADD Tip o the Day 448

I am reminded almost daily how hard it is to live with someone with ADD ADHD.               Ok, daily. So i just asked my wife if she would do a guest post on the … Continue reading

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