With ADD ADHD, Relationships Are Hard
In older couples, the divorce rate is twice that of vanillas. According to Melissa Orlov, the major problem is undiagnosed and untreated ADD ADHD.
Quote O the Day:
“You have to be a superwoman to be married to a man with ADD.”
Martha Puryear, married to an ADDer
I wrote this down when she said it but I couldn’t find it til just now. Know what I mean?
Problem O the Day
We have the cocktail hour every evening, together time. It bugs my wife that I can’t sit still for it for very long. But I do better if we’re outside or in a restaurant. I think it’s the extra stimulation.
Strategy
Sorry to say I haven’t really come up with one yet. There’s gotta be a strategy for this. Any suggestions? The cork in my pocket helps sometimes. I’m working on the problem.
doug
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It can also be the case that the person with ADD is the more functional. If you can imagine. And that is more inconvenient still, if you know that, deficits and all, yours is still the best brain in the house.
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betsy – now that is a scary thought!
thanks for commenting
doug
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Martha’s right. It does take a superwoman or superman. My husband is a superman and he does exceptionally well. I know it’s hard for him sometimes (or maybe more than sometimes) because he’s kind of OCD about some things.
I don’t have any trouble sitting for together time, though (we call it couch time – when the kids were little, we always had about 15 minutes of couch time when he first got home – it was just him and I and the kids weren’t allowed to interrupt. Once we were done, it was their turn with dad.) Maybe it has more to do with you being a man instead of having ADD.
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homey – could be a man thing. we tend to have trouble with intimacy. but it feels like ADD ADHD and i do better when at a restaurant or outside where theres stimulation. in any event, i’m still looking for a strategy
ive known for a long time that your man is exceptional
always thank you for commenting
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He loves my ADHD.
That helps.
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busy-
thats spectacular
thanks
doug
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Oops! Love, M
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could happen to anybody
love
doug
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I don’t remember saying that!
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and I’m the one with ADD ADHD and the poor memory!
so i wrote it down.
love
doug
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