ADD ADHD and Marriage or Similar Relationships — ADD Tip O the Day 629

With ADD ADHD, Relationships Are Hard

In older couples, the divorce rate is twice that of vanillas.  According to Melissa Orlov, the major problem is undiagnosed and untreated ADD ADHD.

Quote O the Day:

“You have to be a superwoman to be married to a man with ADD.”

Martha Puryear, married to an ADDer

I wrote this down when she said it but I couldn’t find it til just now.  Know what I mean?

Problem O the Day

We have the cocktail hour every evening, together time.  It bugs my wife that I can’t sit still for it for very long.  But I do better if we’re outside or in a restaurant.   I think it’s the extra stimulation.


Sorry to say I haven’t really come up with one yet.  There’s gotta be a strategy for this.  Any suggestions?   The cork in my pocket helps sometimes.  I’m working on the problem.


5 things that can poison a relationship

adhd-doesnt-cause-divorce-denial-does from Melissa

20 things to remember if you love a person with ADHD.  from June

10 things not to do  from June

The ADHD Effect On Marriage  by Melissa Orlov



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Listening with ADD ADHD.

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The ADD ADHD listener in action. Think about it.


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ADD ADHD and reliability. I am responsible, I’m just not reliable.


About doug with ADHD

I am a psychiatric physician. I learned I have ADHD at age 64, and then wrote two ADHD books for adults, focusing on strategies for making your life better. I just published my first novel, Alma Means Soul. Your Life Can Be Better; strategies for adults with ADD/ADHD available at, or (for e books) Living Daily With Adult ADD or ADHD: 365 Tips O the Day ( e-book). This is one tip at a time, one page at a time, at your own pace. It's meant to last a year. As a child, I was a bully. Then there was a transformation. Now I am committed to helping people instead abusing them. The Bully was published in January, 2016. It's in print or e book, on Amazon.
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11 Responses to ADD ADHD and Marriage or Similar Relationships — ADD Tip O the Day 629

  1. Pingback: Marriage/Relationships? Part Two— ADHD Tip O the Day 986 | ADDadultstrategies

  2. betsydavenport says:

    It can also be the case that the person with ADD is the more functional. If you can imagine. And that is more inconvenient still, if you know that, deficits and all, yours is still the best brain in the house.

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  3. Martha’s right. It does take a superwoman or superman. My husband is a superman and he does exceptionally well. I know it’s hard for him sometimes (or maybe more than sometimes) because he’s kind of OCD about some things.

    I don’t have any trouble sitting for together time, though (we call it couch time – when the kids were little, we always had about 15 minutes of couch time when he first got home – it was just him and I and the kids weren’t allowed to interrupt. Once we were done, it was their turn with dad.) Maybe it has more to do with you being a man instead of having ADD.

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    • homey – could be a man thing. we tend to have trouble with intimacy. but it feels like ADD ADHD and i do better when at a restaurant or outside where theres stimulation. in any event, i’m still looking for a strategy
      ive known for a long time that your man is exceptional
      always thank you for commenting


  4. busydarling says:

    He loves my ADHD.

    That helps.

    Liked by 1 person

  5. Anonymous says:

    Oops! Love, M

    Liked by 1 person

  6. Martha Puryear says:

    I don’t remember saying that!

    Liked by 2 people

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