Blurting with ADHD— ADHD Tip O the Day 915

People with ADHD tend to be impulsive and lacking in social skills.  Those may be related?  We tend to blurt out, to say inappropriate things.

Can you think of your most embarrassing moment?  Was it related to ADHD?  Mine was.

Think of a boy in junior high school.  What are those boys like?

It was our eighth grade graduation.  I was in the third row, with parents, other relatives, and teachers in the honor seats in front of us.  The dignitaries were up on the stage doing dignitarial things.  It was very boring.

They finally got to the awards part and they got to the Good Citizenship Award.  No one was holding their breath; it was a given that Nikki would win it.

So I was beyond shocked, startled, amazed and totally unprepared when they called my name.

I blurted out a short exclamation. 

Loudly.  

At the time that word was in common usage among me and my junior high peers and it also carried much more weight than it does these days.

I doubt if my exclamation carried much beyond the rows of adults in front of me and all the way up to the stage.  I hope not. No one ever said anything about it.

” I been f—–!” 

Then I went up to the stage to get my Good Citizenship Award.

As you may expect, that was not the last time I ever blurted out anything inappropriate, but it was the most outstanding. I have learned that occasionally a small voice in my head will say quietly, “Doug, maybe it would be better not to say that.” Sometimes.  And sometimes I listen to it.  That would be a good strategy.

(I hope you don’t think I’m bragging about my junior high school award.)

doug

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About doug with ADHD

I am a psychiatric physician. I learned I have ADHD at age 64, and then wrote two ADHD books for adults, focusing on strategies for making your life better. Your Life Can Be Better; strategies for adults with ADD/ADHD available at amazon.com, or smashwords.com (for e books) Living Daily With Adult ADD or ADHD: 365 Tips O the Day ( e-book). This is one tip at a time, one page at a time, at your own pace. It's meant to last a year. As a child, I was a bully. Then there was a transformation. Now I am committed to helping people instead abusing them. The Bully was published in January, 2016. It's in print or e book, on Amazon.
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4 Responses to Blurting with ADHD— ADHD Tip O the Day 915

  1. rammkatze says:

    At high school, I asked a classmate of she was wearing makeup. When she said yes and asked how I liked it, I replied “you look like you got punched in the eye”. This wasn’t me trying to be a mean girl. It was me blurting. I had been trying to figure out what looked wrong with her eye and I had only asked about the make up because she caught me staring at her with a strange look on my face.
    I later apologized and made the effort to notice and compliment her the next time I saw her wearing makeup.

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    • Ram- beautiful example of blurting. hope that was your worst one, cause it doesnt sound too bad. I know a great joke that fits that prefectly but it’s politically incorrect and if i used it would be a much worse example of blurting , so I’m biting my tongue, or my fingers in this case.
      I always appreciate your comments
      best wishes
      doug

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      • rammkatze says:

        I’ve had worse examples of blurting. Especially blurting in an agressive tone. But for some reason, that example I gave is the one that pains me the worst. Maybe because it sounds like a mean girl, which I hate and have never been. 🙂

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