Those of us with ADD or ADHD struggle with both of these, avoidance and procrastination. I’ve wondered about the difference between them, but put off doing anything about it. I had an idea but wasn’t sure; it seemed a little vague. Finally I broke down and quit evading the question – I looked in the dictionary (what a novel idea!). Turns out I was right (isn’t it nice when that happens?) – procrastinating means putting it off until later (while it keeps hanging over your head -ugh!); avoiding means putting it off but you may never actually do it. Still it is lurking in the back of your mind and it’s also hanging over your head.
Strategies for avoiding include making a list (surprise, surprise) of all the things I’m avoiding. Then at least I’m clearly aware of what I’m doing, and that may motivate me. I also try to think clearly about whether they really need to be done, and if so, why I’m avoiding – usually some kind of fear, sometimes perfectionism. Then some of the things may get moved to the to do list.
There are many strategies for procrastination, the main one probably is breaking it into small steps.
“If a man tells you he will do something, he will do it. You don’t have to keep asking him about it every few months.”
I am a psychiatric physician.
I learned I have ADHD at age 64, and then wrote two ADHD books for adults, focusing on strategies for making your life better.
Your Life Can Be Better; strategies for adults with ADD/ADHD
available at amazon.com, or smashwords.com (for e books)
Living Daily With Adult ADD or ADHD: 365 Tips O the Day ( e-book).
This is one tip at a time, one page at a time, at your own pace. It's meant to last a year.
As a child, I was a bully. Then there was a transformation.
Now I am committed to helping people instead abusing them.
The Bully was published in January, 2016.
It's in print or e book, on Amazon.