With ADHD, we need to be DOING
My very wise sister suggested that I need to do more “being” and less “doing.” She’s right.
That’s very hard for me to do. The internal flywheel keeps spinning. The to-do list keeps flashing in my head. The computer keeps calling. The clock keeps ticking.
Does anyone know what I’m talking about?
I have been able to “just be” for hours a time when on vacation. And sometimes, sometimes, I can linger over a meal in a restaurant. And occasionally, if the weather is nice, I can sit outdoors for a while and “just be.” Those are all wonderful times. But they do not come naturally to me.
Does anyone know what I’m talking about?
Doug
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I am trying address this in my quiet time. That’s a post that’s coming.
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The to do list – it never ends
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I’m not sure, Doug. Is sitting around daydreaming a Form oft “being”? My guess is ” no”. I do have spontaneous moments oft “mindfulness”, especially if the sunset is particularly beautiful or the clouds particularly threatening. But “being” comes hard to me too. I don’t have a long to-do list, but that’s probably vecause I procrastrinate doing even that 😉
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ram – yes, thats a form. good for you. the trick with the to do list is to make it very short – then its not intimidating. also to realize you probably wont get it all done today.
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ram – the way to read it is a little bit at a time. small steps. you could set a goal of one page a day, the first page will be the hardest. i think it could be helpful to you.
then you could consider the far out possibility of translating it, we could make a deal.
thanks for responding
doug
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sierra – indeed the struggle is real! how old are your children? worry is not helpful, but if there is currently a problem, you could do something about it. instead of being vs doing, that’s worrying vs doing.
thank you contributing.
best wishes
doug
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I worry so much that my own inattentiveness has harmed my children, who also have attention problems. The struggle is real 😞
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