I Put Off Doing This Post But Here It Is

I’d been putting off patching my waders for months. Why?  I thought it would be too hard and take too much time. And I wasn’t sure I could actually do it.


That’s “pro-crastination“, and I am indeed a pro at it.


Finally, I just jumped in and got myself to do it so it wouldn’t keep hanging uncomfortably over my head. It was pretty easy and took about five minutes.


When we put something off because we think it’s going to be too hard, it often turns out to be easy.


Often, but not always.

Point

If you let something keep hanging over your head, it seems to grow bigger and bigger and harder and harder to do.  And it hangs there and drains energy from you.  So just do it.  Do it now.  Get it over with.

Easy to say.

StrategySmall steps

I used a strategy to finally get started. I said that I need to just start. I don’t have to finish right away; I can spread it out over several days.  That lightened the size of the perceived burden.  But once I was able to start, I pushed myself and finished.

doug

Quote O the Day:


Life seemed so much easier back when I was simply whelmed.

Lament O the Day:

The portion of my time I spend looking for something I just had has increased to 110%.        (Don’t bother telling this is impossible; I’m just telling you what’s happening.)

Links:

Another Example

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Just for Fun

enjoy

doug

Quote O the Day:

“some days, you just don’t have it.”

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Distraction or ADHD? Huh??

A recent interesting article on distraction, link below:

It specifies three types of distraction: external, intrusive thoughts, and wandering mind. Nice.  I know I’m always distracted by thinking of the next forty-three things I must do.  That’s why the lists of five and one are so helpful.  The study notes that hyper focus is also linked with these types.

But I can’t tell if this is a breakthrough – it may lead to some more specific, genetic finding for example –, or if it is a “Duh”.
If you study a group of ADHD traits, is it surprising to find that they correlate with ADHD?

I’m a fan of science, well-designed studies replicated, peer-reviewed, and findings modified if new data is found. Some conspiracy theories say all science is funded by the corporations and only finds the results they want- – and like many conspiracy theories that may contain a grain of truth- see the history of tobacco for example (but not the totally disproven link between vaccines and autism). 

Science is certainly not perfect, it can be corrupt or just wrong, and occasionally I just don’t believe some results, but I prefer the science to some theory dreamed up by some nut and then viralized on the net.

Of course, everyone is entitled to their opinion, and having a high school education isn’t everything.

I would value your comments on the article.

doug

The Link:

Unlocking the “D Factor”: A New Measure for General Distractibility in ADHD – Neuroscience News

Quotes O the Day:

“ I know it’s true because my cousin’s barber said his girlfriend said she saw it on TV.”

“What we learn from history is that we don’t learn from history.”

“Remember, if your IQ is 100, half of the population is dumber than you.”

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OK, So I Was Wrong

ADHD Errors in 2023

At the end of the year, it’s useful to reflect on what we’ve learned. I’m reflecting on what ADHD things I was wrong about. Of course, I was wrong about a lot of other things, too, but we won’t go into that.   

1. Psychedelics – this has been a breakthrough, which is unusual these days. Ketamine clearly can be helpful for depression, and possibly other things, although we’re still learning how to use it. This breakthrough has been followed by the use of other psychedelics, and I was very doubtful about that, but they have turned out to be quite useful, sometimes, for some things.   


When a new psychiatric medication proves helpful, it’s usually tried for a lot of other conditions just in case it might help them too. Sometimes it does.  


2. Microdosing – I’ve been very doubtful about this, but I’m seeing more and more anecdotes posted about how it helped people with different things, including ADHD. Sometimes someone posts their anecdotal endorsement on my post. Those usually read like a scam, too good to be true, and promoting someone who sells them. I usually delete them. However, now some studies suggest that they might actually help. “The evidence for microdosing psychedelics is currently mixed and inconclusive.” ( see below. Way way below)      


3. I didn’t know a generic form was available for my expensive Daytrana (methylphenidate) patch, but that’s what they just sent me. It seems just as effective but a little harder to use. With shortages of various ADHD medications, this might be something to check into.

4. I thought I knew how to do links. Hah! This is a heck of a way to start the new year (see below)  

Anyway, have a great new year. Or at least try to do the best you can. To be honest, I’m not optimistic.

doug 

Links:

Generic methylphenidate patches - another way I was wrong, thought I knew how to link. See the whole thing all the way down, after the memes. Boogers! 

Microdosing see at the end 

  

Generic methylphenidate patches

No, there is no generic brand of Daytrana (methylphenidate transdermal system) as of December 2023. Mylan holds the exclusive marketing rights to Daytrana in the United States until 2029. This means that only Mylan can sell Daytrana under that brand name. 

However, there are generic versions of methylphenidate transdermal system available. These generics contain the same active ingredient as Daytrana but may be sold under different brand names. Here are some examples:  

Opens in a new windowwww.padagis.com 

Methylphenidate transdermal system 

  • Methylphenidate transdermal system, USP 
  • CADD-Methylphenidate 
  • FocusPatch 

Generic versions of medications are usually much cheaper than brand-name medications. If you are concerned about the cost of Daytrana, you may want to talk to your doctor about switching to a generic methylphenidate transdermal system. 

Here are some things to keep in mind if you are considering switching to a generic methylphenidate transdermal system: 

  1. Not all generic medications are created equal. Most generics are just as effective as the brand-name medication, but some are not. 
  2. You may need to try a few different generic methylphenidate transdermal systems before you find one that works for you. 
  3. Your doctor may need to adjust your dosage if you switch to a generic methylphenidate transdermal system. 
  4. ask your pharmacist for help

Microdosing

The evidence for microdosing psychedelics is currently mixed and inconclusive. There are promising findings, but significant limitations require caution before drawing definitive conclusions about its effectiveness:

Positive findings:

  • Some studies: Reports from smaller controlled studies and surveys suggest potential benefits for various conditions, including:
    • Mental health: Improved mood, reduced anxiety and depression symptoms, increased focus and creativity.
    • Pain perception: Studies showed reduced pain sensitivity in healthy participants and those with chronic pain.
    • Other potential benefits: Improved sleep, increased energy, enhanced empathy, and better social interactions.

Limitations of existing research:

  • Methodological issues: Many studies are small, lack placebo controls, and rely on subjective self-reported experiences, making it difficult to draw solid conclusions.
  • Placebo effect: The positive effects reported could be due to the placebo effect, as participants might expect benefits and experience them simply because they are taking something.
  • Uncontrolled settings: Much of the existing research comes from anecdotal reports and uncontrolled settings, making it difficult to assess the true impact of microdosing.

Safety concerns:

  • Uncertain long-term effects: The long-term effects of microdosing are still unknown, and potential risks remain unaddressed.
  • Interactions with other medications: Psychedelics, even in small doses, can interact with other medications, leading to unpredictable consequences.
  • Psychological vulnerability: Individuals with specific mental health conditions might be more susceptible to adverse effects from psychedelics, even in microdoses.

Current state of microdosing:

Overall, microdosing research is in its early stages. While some promising findings exist, more rigorous and controlled studies are needed to definitively assess its effectiveness and safety.

Recommendations:

Before considering microdosing, it’s important to:

  • Discuss it with a doctor: Understand the potential risks and benefits, and ensure it’s safe in your specific case.
  • Be aware of limitations: Don’t expect guaranteed results, as the evidence is inconclusive.
  • Practice caution: Only use reputable sources for information and exercise extreme caution in obtaining substances.

Microdosing remains a complex and developing topic. Stay informed, approach it with caution, and prioritize your health and safety above all else.

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An ADHD Christmas

It’s one week until Christmas, and aren’t you glad you have all your shopping and wrapping done? Don’t you?


Here’s the strategy, for next year anyway:

Pretend that November is December, and get everything done by the end of November.

Otherwise, you’ll be thinking.“Oh, it’s just early December. I’ll still have plenty of time. ”

You won’t.


Bonus tip of the day:

Even now, it’s not too late to order books. Just saying.



A Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to all of you.

Find more ways to make your life better in 2024.


doug.

Quotes O the Day:

Them: “You’re only as old as you feel.”

Me: “About 101?”

“My brain is like three fireworks factory exploding on a very dark night.”

guess who

Links:

Holiday Stress

More Holiday Stress

More Great Christmas Memes

How long did it take you to realize this is a spoof?

#ADHD #adultadhd #adult ADHD

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Gee, I Wish I’d Known –

I just learned after many years that Facebook often doesn’t share many posts and many people aren’t seeing them.

Facebook shows a post to a small sample and if it doesn’t get enough likes, shares, or comments, that’s it.

When I finally learned this I thought I’d ask you to help by hitting LIKE after you read a post, but then I learned that that’s not a good idea because Facebook doesn’t like it, so I won’t.  Sheesssshhh!

Of course, I love comments and I love questions and I try to answer them promptly. Comments and questions are very useful to other members of the tribe. 


Just saying.

Doug

More Wishes:  

  1. I wish I’d known about ADHD and how to manage it before I was 64.
  • I wish I’d known as much about fly fishing years ago as I’ve recently learned.
  • I wish you had a great Thanksgiving, didn’t overeat or overdrink too much, and avoided getting entangled in the family fights.

Quote O the Day:

“Wisdom is the comb you get after you’re bald.”

Links:

On Blogging and Living with ADHD

Dystechnologica and ADHD

How Facebook posts -or doesn’t.

Question O the Day:

Can you find the like button?

#adhd #adultadhd

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Understanding ADHD

                    

Some things you can’t really explain to anybody else;

some things you just have to experience for yourself:

1) Marriage

2) Childbirth

3) ADHD

Some people don’t believe ADHD exists. Some people think we can just try harder, or drink lots of cabbage juice, or watch where we put our feet, or or or—

The supply of advice and opinions about ADHD from people who don’t have ADHD is enormous; the demand is quite small.

 Trying to convince someone whose mind is made up is like trying to give medicine to a dead man.

STRATEGIES: Learn all you can about ADHD. Become an expert. Keep your BS indicator set on high sensitivity. Keep identifying problems and making strategies. Be kind to yourself. Avoid toxic people.

QUOTE O THE DAY: “Being a grown-up is not all it’s cracked up to be.”

CONFESSIONS O THE DAY:

This is (more or less) a page from my latest ADHD book, “Managing Your ADHD” which has one Tip O the Day per page, to make it easy for ADHDers to read. It’s available on Amazon in paperback and E-book and on Smashwords in E book.

I was wrong about some of the “alternatives.” I’ll try to clear that up next time (at least that’s the plan.)

I realize that some administrators will choose to not allow this post. That is their right and I appreciate the hard work they do. No hard feelings.

doug

Links:

podcast  excellent review by Dr. Farone

Many many ADHD links

#ADHD

#adultADHD

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A New ADHD Medication

Viloxazine (trade name Qelbree) is a new non-stimulant ADHD medication. It’s an anti-depressant, like atomoxetine (Straterra), which it will probably replace because it is more effective (it affects more neurotransmitters) and has a lower frequency of side effects. That’s all good. It may even replace some of the stimulants, which are the most effective meds, but aren’t the best for some people for various reasons. It’s  presumably non-addictive and nonabusable. It may be a great resource in this time of shortage of the stimulants.

Now for the bad news; it seems to currently cost about $10 a pill.

My Comment O the Day:


The article announcing this was a little biased, over emphasizing the possible side effects of stimulants. While I know there have been problems, I have never personally seen one. The non-stimulants also have their own problems. However, this new medication appears very promising.

Question O the Day:

If I did all the things I’m supposed to do for my health, would I have time to do anything else?

(and would I have to eat Brussel sprouts, kale, and broccoli?)

doug

#ADHD #adultADHD

ADHDMEds

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It’s Always Something with ADHD


This is a long, complicated story, but that’s life, isn’t it?


I always try to find strategies to make my life better, to make it easier. That doesn’t always work.


I wanted to play an old song, “It’s A Man Everytime”.  I  was able to find a recording on the net, but I couldn’t find the lyrics. I knew there had to be a way to get speech to text so I could easily print out the lyrics from the recording. I spent three hours on it and couldn’t do it, so I used a good strategy and went to a friend for help.

He couldn’t do it either.

Finally, I gave in and decided to do it the hard way. I started playing the recording on my PC and paused at the end of every line and dictated the words into my iPhone. I knew this would be slow and laborious, but the easy way didn’t work.

It took me five minutes.

Strategies O the Day

When what you’re doing isn’t working, try something different.

Sometime you need to just grit your teeth, hitch up your pants, and grind it out.

Links:

Biases– Prof Amanda Kirby- very interesting

About Strategies – my best tool for ADHD

Doing the Easy Thing – Is this task really necessary?

Personal Notes O the Day:

This isn’t the post I intended.  I wanted to post an excellent comment one of you made; I think it was Jeff?  Couldn’t find it.  If it was you, please resend it.

They hid the comments over in the right hand margin or way way at the bottom.  I recommend checking out the comments; they add a lot.

I love comments.  Thank you.

Doug

#ADHD #AdultADHD #ADHD strategies

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ADHD and Bipolar

  

“The percentage of people with bipolar disorder who also have ADHD is estimated to be between 10% and 20%. This means that about 1 in 10 people with bipolar disorder also have ADHD, and about 1 in 6 people with ADHD also have bipolar disorder.

The percentage of people with either bipolar disorder or ADHD who have both is estimated to be between 5% and 15%. This means that about 1 in 20 people with bipolar disorder or ADHD also has both disorders.”

I have doubts about these figures; from my reading, I think the percent of bipolar people with ADHD is higher than bipolar in ADHD, but these figures are probably roughly in the ballpark.

Treatment for people with both is more difficult, but basically you just treat both.  In people with both, the stimulants do not make the bipolar problems worse. 

Many professionals say it is difficult to differentiate between ADHD and Bipolar.  I don’t think so.  A good history will usually sort it out.  To oversimplify, ADHD is all the time and bipolar is off and on.

Of course, we ADHDers have a higher frequency of many comorbid problems than vanillas.  That’s just the way it is.  But we need to get them all diagnosed and treated.

Ain’t it a booger?

Personal Notes O the Day:

  1. The source of these numbers is Bard, an artificial intelligence app.  It’s impressive, and I think heralds significant changes in our lives.

I received several nice compliments recently on various things They made me feel good, uplifted me, and encouraged me to keep going.


The problem is, now I feel like I need to try to live up to them.

2.I’m very grateful for my friend Tom.  He’s the only person I can send the really obscene memes and jokes to.  (But the rest of you all don’t know what you’re missing.)

Doug

Links:

Comorbidity

Also Comorbidity

Does anybody else have this dream frequently? Or worse, it’s often in only underwear and trying to nonchalantly act as though that’s normal.

#ADHD #adult ADHD @dougadhd

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Memory. With ADHD?

This is a requested topic. I wish I remembered who requested it, but thank you. I love requests and comments.

The two links below are excellent, and I have only a little to add.

DSM V lists forgetfulness as one of the criteria for ADHD:

is often forgetful in daily activitiesi. Is often forgetful in daily activities (e.g., doing chores, running errands; for older adolescents and adults, returning calls, paying bills, keeping appointments).

I wrote recently that I don’t think ADHD gets worse with aging. But when aging symptoms are piled on top of ADHD symptoms, it’s a booger.

Strategy: write everything down. “Oh, I’ll remember it.”

No, you won’t.

Links:

All About ADHD and Memory

Normal Lapses- not to worry

doug

Quote O the Day:

As we get older, we lose three things.

First, our hearing. Then, our vision. I can’t recall the third thing.

Personal Note O the Day:

I’ve recently recieved three very nice compliments. Each one made me feel very good. The problem is, now I need to try to live up to them.

Strategy: Compliment people when you can. It can have good effects.

#adhd #adultadhd #adhdstrategies

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The Chronology of ADHD


If you have ADHD you were born with the genes. Maybe for some people the genes are silent unless turned on by environmental factors, such as pollution or trauma for example. I think this is uncommon.


Some ADHDers show signs at birth; others have symptoms that develop early. Some may not achieve diagnostic criteria until older and facing challenges.  I didn’t until fourth grade.


Eight percent of US children have ADHD; that means they meet criteria.


Half of children with ADHD outgrow it in adolescence, leaving four percent of US adults with ADHD (like me).


Those who no longer meet criteria still have brain abnormalities and likely some symptoms.

Many women with inattentive type don’t show full symptoms until challenged by responsibility for jobs or families or households as adults.

A common question: “Does adult ADHD get worse with age?”
I don’t think so, but functioning can worsen with the added development of aging symptoms.

Another question: “Is there such a thing as adult onset ADHD?”

I don’t think so but it depends on semantics; either we say you were born with it or we say you didn’t have ADHD until the time you met full criteria.

A repetition: There are many symptoms of ADHD that are not included in the criteria, which are not designed to list all of the possible symptoms but those which will  differentiate ADHD from any other disorder.

Personal Notes O the Day:

All or nothing thinking causes problems.  The strategy is to recognize and correct it.  I was struggling with the decision of whether to try to keep posting once a week (which is the best way) or to stop posting.  It took me awhile to realize I can just post whenever I feel like it and have something to say.  That’s the plan.

Comments are always very welcome and appreciated.  Maybe you would contribute something about the timing of your ADHD journey?

thanks

doug

Links:

Shortage of medications

Genetics of ADHD

All About Adult ADHD

#ADHD #adultADHD @addadultstrategies @mkpdpADHD

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Personal Notes on Living with ADHD

Getting my ADHD diagnosed at age 64 is one of the best things that ever happened to me.  Suddenly so much of my life made sense. And I could learn about ADHD and develop strategies and start medication.  I could make my life better.                 What a difference!

Some days the glass is not half full. It’s not half empty either. It’s 9/10 empty. And it’s gonna get knocked off the table. And it’ll be broken glass all over the floor. And you’ll step on it and cut your foot. You’ll have to go to the emergency room and you’ll have to wait six hours. And they’ll sew it up wrong and you’ll forever have a big knot on your foot and it’ll be very hard to walk.

So just forget the damn glass.

Yes, I’ve made a lot of mistakes. And I’ve done some bad things. But when I step back and look at my life, I was damn good, especially when I think of what I had to work with. Damn good. It is of no benefit to ruminate about the errors of the past.

 My bucket list. Three things:


1. Solo an airplane. Check.
 2. Publish a novel. Check
 3. Run a marathon. As time goes by, the chance of accomplishing this one seems increasingly unlikely.


Two out of three ain’t bad.

I’m still trying to get reviews for the latest ADHD book, Managing Your ADHD.

“You can’t get reviews if you don’t sell books, and you can’t sell books if you don’t have reviews.”

 I think this is my last book; I like writing but the rest is just too much trouble.

Tips O the Day:

  1. Don’t write a book unless you have to.
  2. Don’t ruminate or brood over the past. Count your blessings and give yourself credit.
  3. Spend some time out of doors relaxing.

Best wishes

doug

#ADHD #adultADHD

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Reduce ADHD Clutter

This is a photo of my desk. It may look like a mess to you, but not to me. You should’ve seen it before.

This is my new desk organizer. I love it. Before, everything in there was on my desktop. Talk about clutter! This organizer makes it much less cluttered. And actually that helps me function a little better. And I’m not bragging, but I put it together all by myself, with a minimum of cursing.


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This is the little rabbit that came with it as a bonus and I use it for my inspirational index cards.



Most of us to function better with less clutter. And I’ll just mention that this cost only $15.

Question of the Day:


Why do the days go so damn fast?

Quote O the Day:

Anything worth doing, is probably going to be extremely difficult.

   me

Links:

Declutter

The cost of clutter

In favor of clutter

Bonus Foto and Tip:

This is a picture of my pullout shelf with keyboard and very handy stickies with all kinds of passwords, phone numbers, e mails and regular addresses.  (The stickies looked better before I spilled the coffee.) Joyce RN taught me this tip.

Make your life better

doug

#ADHD #adultADHD #ADHDtips

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ADHD and Some Other Stuff

Tips O the Day:

If you have ADHD or if you’re old, or if you’re old and have ADHD, never ever place your phone on the restaurant table. Just saying.

I was to give a talk on aging.  I spent an afternoon doing a lot of research and got a lot of information on a lot of pages.  I spent the next afternoon editing it down to only 84 pages. The next day I found two websites that covered everything I needed in three pages.

Strategy: 

Step back and take a look from a distance before you plunge into a project.

Personal Notes O the Day:

The talk went quite well although I forgot three important things.

I don’t have any energy anymore so I don’t go to the gym anymore so I don’t have any energy anymore.

Just as I’ve gotten to where I can write legible cursive, no one reads cursive anymore.

I hate to see anything wasted.  I save things that I might use some day. I call this “saving.” My wife refers to it as “hoarding.”

I thought once I got the book published, I’d have lots of free time. Hah!  There are so many loose ends. 

 Maybe I am slipping?
I just punched my phone number into the microwave keyboard.

Links:  

 Neurostimulation for ADHD

 ADHD Genes

Projects and Hyperfocus

Quote O the Day:
“Sometimes all you need for exceptional results is average effort repeated for an above-average amount of time.”

          James Clear

@addadultstrategies #ADHD #adultADHD #ADHDsupport

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ADHD and Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria


Sometimes you don’t see something that’s right in front of your eyes; at least I don’t.

Rejection sensitivity dysphoria is a hot topic. It’s been found as another part of ADHD, like irritability (not in DSM, not part of the diagnostic criteria).  RSD means we tend to overreact when we feel rejected by someone. We get extra deeply hurt, and it lasts longer, and sometimes we see rejection when it’s not even there.


One of my issues has been that when some people get mad, they tend to blow up, and then they’re over it. When some people blow up at me, I get deeply wounded. A part of my heart is damaged, and it used to take me up to a week to get over it. Now, it doesn’t happen as often and it’s not as bad, and I usually get over it in an hour or two. But only recently did I realize that this was RSD!   


Strategies:

  1. I realize that they’re over it and it doesn’t really mean that they hate me forever.


2. I realize that it’s RSD and I don’t have to keep feeling wounded forever.


3. I can reach out to reestablish the connection, which they never even realized was damaged.


Questions of the Day:

  1. Anyone else share RSD?


2.  Do you recognize the process where you know about something, the definition or description of something, and yet you haven’t recognized it when it’s there? Weird.

Personal Notes of the Day:

  1. I was cussing too much and I didn’t like it, so I began cussing only in Japanese, which at least was an improvement. But now, I’m using Japanese for many things, not just cussing. It just seems to fit sometimes.



         2. I don’t know a single word of Japanese.

3.A lot of my cussing has been at Smashwords, which insists I put a table of contents in the new book, Managing Your ADHD. This is ridiculous since it contains almost four hundred tips, one page per tip.  A TOC would take over three pages and make no sense.  I’ve tried a number of work arounds and they haven’t accepted any.

 Shono hah fu nis he! Washa he wa he niho! Hahh!!

4. But Word get a little cussing too, because it won’t let me number and indent like I want.

Links: (clk)

ADHD  and Relationships? (Any relationship. Marriage seems increasingly rare.

RSD– (I do not recommend MAOIs for ADHD and I do recommend therapy, especially for RSD.)

“I Don’t Believe in ADHD”  etc.

ADHD, Genes, and Relationships – Melissa Orlvov

@dougADHD #ADHD #ADHD #rejection

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ADHD Beyond DSM


From an article by Thomas E Brown, PhD, a credible ADHD expert.  He points out that the DSM does not cover all the aspects of ADHD

But it is not intended to.  DSM sets of criteria are only designed to have aspects that will sort out one disorder from  all others. They work like a sieve.

Dr. Brown  (slightly edited):

–which include “a complex syndrome of impairment of brain functions essential for self management; the executive functions of the brain. Impacting motivation and prioritizing for task, focusing and shifting focus as needed, managing sleep and alertness, sustaining effort, modulating emotions, self monitoring actions, regulating processing speed, and utilizing working memory to keep information in mind while attending to multiple tasks.

Whew! I fear he is correct about this.  It’s amazing that we can function at all.

ADHD is highly heritable. ADHDers typically have delays of two or more years in development of specific areas of the brain that support executive function. There is also weakness of connection between regions of the brain and different patterns of cortical thinning. ADHD may appear in childhood, but for some the symptoms are not apparent until they encounter higher education, employment, or other challenges of adult life.


There’s new focus on difficulty in monitoring and managing emotions, with impulsive      and/or excessive reactions to frustration, anger, discouragement, anxiety, rejection, and other emotions. (Especially new focus on rejection- RSD. I’m highly sensitive to it.)

ADHDers are less likely to complete high school or higher education or to have skilled occupations.  We are more likely to have substance abuse and difficulty staying in a job.

 Here are some other findings (not Dr. Brown’s):

ADHD children should not be started in school too early.

Stimulant medication tends to move the brain findings towards normal and are helpful in over 70% of ADHDers. It is recommended after age five.

We have a high frequency of comorbid conditions.

Oh, well. 

The good news is that with medications, strategies, coaching, and therapy, many of us do quite well, thank you (Your Life Can Be Better).

doug

Conversation O the Day:

Me: (a little levity)

Wife: (her reaction; not entirely positive.)

Me: Well, I thought it was funny.

Wife:  Well, no one else would.

Me: Weird!

Wife: Exactly.  Weird.

Lament O the Day:

I understand that my spellcheck can’t be expected to get every word right, but why is its default usually profanity?

Personal Notes O the Day:

After a long hard struggle, I finally got the book published on Amazon/KDP. I couldn’t get any help from them.  After it was published, they sent congratulations and a phone number I could call if I needed any help.

Quotes O the Day:

  1. Ain’t that just life?
  • Experience is the comb you get after you’re bald.

Links:

DSM Criteria for ADHD (and some pet peeves)

ADHD Hypersensitivity

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Persistence, Not Willpower, with ADHD

Persistence requires some willpower, which we ADHDers tend to be a little short on. (Hah!) But strategies help: committing, locking yourself in, small steps. And a dash of stubbornness helps too.

It took me two years to write the book, which is about average for me.
Then comes the hard part, formatting and getting a cover. I’ve tried to do those things before and it was a close call between finishing or winding up in a padded cell. So I found some good helpers who wouldn’t break the bank.

Once formatted and with a cover, I turned to Amazon’s KDP program to publish. I knew this would be difficult, but it was way beyond my expectations. Argggghhh!!!!


One challenge after another. Finally, I got stuck.  KDP people used to help.  Not anymore! Most of the responses to my cries for help resulted in what looked like AI picking a keyword and sending a canned response that had nothing to do with my question.


Fortunately, my formatter has been helping with this, and although he’s also had difficulty, we’re getting close. This publishing process may be a weeklong project.  I’m getting a headache.

 
Still, we will persist, it will get published, and it will be good. And my headache will go away.

Quotes O the Day:

Anything worth doing is probably going to be a lot harder than you expected.”

          Me

“If you’re happy and you know it, you’re probably not paying attention.”

          A cynic

Strategies:  Make sure your project is worth doing, commit and don’t look back, lock yourself in and use all your strategies. Get help. And persist.

PS: BUT WAIT!  THERE’S MORE!  I wrote this lament yesterday.  Today it was published on Amazon KDP!!!!! Whoooopeeee!!!!!  Took just three days.  Headache gone!

Doug

Links:

Previous Saga (You’d think I’d learn!)

How to Write A Book (or maybe do any project?)

Committing

Just Do A Little

Do A Big Project

Be Productive Even with ADHD

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ADHD Questions

Some questions I get:

“If I talk to myself, does that mean I’m crazy?”


Answer: I certainly hope not.  I do it all the time.



“ What is the long-term effect of stimulant medication on the brain?”


Answer: It changes the brain towards normal.



“What is a natural product that will really help with my ADHD.”


Answer: Probably none.



“Will the medicine change my child’s personality or change him into a zombie?


Answer: Where did you get these strange ideas?  Be careful of conspiracy theories, too.


“Is it OK if I double my medication dose?”


Answer: Why in the world are you asking total strangers on the net instead of your doctor?

“What is the cure for ADHD?”

Answer: Are you kidding?

Links:

The ADHD Brain

The ADHD Brain 2

Myths Of ADHD

Recommendation O the Day:

Take the time to learn all you can about ADHD, but keep your BS meter on high.

Personal Notes O the Day:

Maybe I’ll post more about the BS?

The book may actually be actually published this actual month.        (Today is April 4, not April’s fool.)

I plan to lay off writing for a while and see what life is like with that extra time.

doug

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A New Treatment for ADHD, Finally


For years, research on ADHD has been only confirming things we already knew. Some new medications are on the market, mostly variations on the old ones so they can get a new patent. Meanwhile, we’ve had a shortage of stimulant medications.


But now there’s something new, TMS. This is not actually new; it was first approved by the FDA in 2008 for treating depression and is increasingly used for many different conditions, including adult ADHD. TMS consists of applying magnetic coils to the outside of the head to induce electrical currents at certain spots in the brain.


The following are my impressions.  I haven’t researched this deeply. I’ll spare you my excuses and provide links you can follow as deeply as you wish.


Treatment takes 5 sessions a week of 30 to 60 minutes for 2 to 6 weeks. Results are positive in at least over 60%, with minimal side effects. Costs range from $6000 to $12000 per course. There is good insurance coverage for depression but it’s less likely for ADHD.

I would love comments from anyone who’s tried TMS or knows more about it.

Doug

Personal Notes O the Day

If you have forgotten your password, no problem, you can just reset it. All you have to do is enter your old password (the one you’ve forgotten) and then your new one and you’re good to go. Oh well.”

My spellcheck doesn’t work well.  OK, but why are most default values obscenities?  My last goof though was saying, “New line, thanks, doug.”  Spell check wrote “You are dumb.”   Fortunately, I read it before hitting send, a good strategy.

While I was writing this, my lovely wife graciously brought me a delicious cup of coffee.  I promptly spilled it all on my desk. Could Apple somehow be behind this, like revenge for the above?

Links:

TMS

TMS 2

TMS 3 Possible Side Effects

rTMS-the same thing as TMS?

Deep TMS

Home Stimulator – Warning: sound a little fishy to me

Stimulant Shortage Adderal

Stimulant Shortage   Ritalin, et al

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An Almost Truism For ADHD

I’ve written this before but today I have new examples and the principle is so important it’s worth repeating.(And I’m proud of myself for solving these problems.)

If you can identify something as A Problem and not just life, you can find a solution.  This isn’t one hundred percent true, but it’s an extremely useful belief.   There is no shortage of Problems, and we can make our lives better.

I need to remove my Daytrana skin patch (Ritalin) by two PM or I’ll have trouble sleeping. I tried all kinds of tricks to remember to take it off and none of them worked well.  If I set my alarm for two pm, my mind would say, “Oh, I need to turn off the alarm” and nothing about the patch.  Then I discovered that Alexa not only will tell me when it’s time to “Take off your patch”  but also sends that text to the alarm when I turn it off.  Problem: Solution.

My wading suit has built-in stocking feet. Then the boots go on over them.  It used to take me 45 minutes to get the suit and boots on and often I had to call for help.  Then I discovered that if I pulled the suit on by grabbing it lower on the leg and used a long-handled shoe horn for the boots, I could do it all without help in less than ten minutes.   Problem:  Solution.

I place my glasses and phone on my bedside table at night but I had trouble finding them in the dark and I’d noisily knock things over. Then I realized that if I put them in the same places near the front of the table every time, it was easy to get them, even in the dark.  Duh!  Problem: Solution.

Personal Notes O the Day:

One: I was so excited by the first 75 pages of the book, Coming Alive, by Michels and  Stutz, that I impulsively recommended it.  The Part X concept was immediately very helpful to me and has continued to be.  Then it had a weird imaging tool to cope with Part X.  This was a little helpful, but you need practice to make it work well. I have been practicing a little.

Further on, the book gets increasingly weird.  But the first part helped, so I intend to go further but not until I master the first part.

Two: I thought that when I finished writing Managing Your ADHD I’d have lots of free time   Hah!

The book is now in the hands of the formatter and the cover person.

Three: Some people start each morning with a mantra, like “ I’ll be happy today” or “I’ll be kind to someone today.”

My morning mantra is, “ I’m finally going to get organized. Tomorrow.”

Links:

https://10percenthappier.app.link/lJm0stM91xb     My new enthusiasm, meditating

Did it again!

ADHD Meds Are Hard to Find

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Five Truisms

These are not all 100% true, but your life will go better if you act as though they are.

  1. It will always take longer than you thought.
  2. Anything that can go wrong, will.
  3.  If they didn’t ask for your advice, they don’t want it.
  4.  Write it down. You will not remember it.
  5. Every problem has a solution.

Alert of the week:

Many of our generic and over the counter medications are manufactured in India.  There are reports of unsanitary labs and contaminants there and apparently a few deaths.  I don’t think this is a hoax.  So read the label.

Personal Notes O the Day:

  1. I think Word would be very useful if I could just get rid of the demons.
  1. I think the new ADHD book will be published at the end of March.        I think.    Maybe.  I hope.
  1. I’m reading Coming Alive based on a totally different approach to therapy, from a unique psychiatrist, Phil Stutz. I made a commitment to fully try the techniques (very unusual for me to do this) and by page 75 I’ve already made some significant change.  Wow!

Quote O the Day

Trust everyone, and always shuffle the deck.

Links: 

Solutions

Coming Alive  the book

Tech Challenged

More Tech Challenged

Murphy’s Law

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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ADHD and Meditation? Really??


Stress and ADHD feed each other in a typical feedback loop. Meditation can reduce the stress and possibly help directly with ADHD symptoms. With ADHD, meditation is not easy.


I practice a simple form. I sit comfortably, preferably quietly, and pay attention to my bodily sensations and thoughts, and then turn my focus to my breathing. As my mind jumps again to other things, I notice them but don’t follow them and then I return my attention to my breathing.


Before I start, I guess how much time I can spend meditating and set my timer for that. If I fall short or run over, either is fine, but my mind is not wondering about the time while I’m trying to meditate.

I try to meditate daily, at a regular time, and I’m getting better at it although part of the trick is to not judge how I’m doing.

If you try it and stick with it, without judging, you will find it helpful although difficult. 

doug

Personal Notes O the Day:

My wife and I are two different people, and therefore its not surprising that we have some different standards. She, for example, believes that beds should be made every single day  and  she does not like to eat off of plates that are not clean.

The new book, Managing Your ADHD, is probably coming out in April. Probably. Maybe. Hopefully. Who knows?

Links:

Dali Lama, etc.

Coping with Stress

been there, done that. not good

ADHD @ADHD #ADHD
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Word vs ADHD



Microsoft Word is a wonderful application and a royal pain in the neck. It has many tricks, both good and bad, many traps and many benefits. The learning curve for me has been very steep, and continues to be.


I made a rule to write at least five pages when I first turn on my computer in the morning, and this is becoming a habit. And once I start, I usually go ahead and do more pages. So every day, no matter what, I have at least gotten that much done.


The more important part is I don’t have to keep relearning the intricacies of Word when I miss a few days. So the book is coming along. I am hopefully looking to publish at the end of March. Hooray!

I hope.

Strategies:

Identify a problem- I’m struggling with Word

Make a strategy- use it every day

Make that a rule – first thing every morning

Make that a habit – first thing every morning, automatically.  The anchor is turning on the computer.

Also- plug away in small steps and you eventually get there.

Personal Note O the Day:

I’m also struggling with Facebook and WordPress, more steep learning curves, but let’s focus on one problem at a time – the Rule of One.

Second Personal Note O the Day:

I had scheduled to do this blog tomorrow, but here it is now! I am a day ahead of schedule. A rare and wonderous thing. Feels good!

doug

Links:

Dystechnologica

Using Technology to Outsmart ADHD

Really??
Off my med.
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A Woodworker’s Approach to ADHD (mostly)

My wife said I should write about the most recent disaster, but no, I’m not going to describe the incident where I merely sat down on the sofa next to the bowl of popcorn and somehow it ‘exploded’ and the popcorn went, as my wife says “everywhere.” We sure had a good time trying to get it all up, not.

Strategy: 

Don’t sit down next to popcorn?

That seems just too trivial; I want to share something profound from James Clear:

Charles Hayward, a cabinet maker and editor of The Woodworker magazine, offers some advice on how to succeed in woodworking (and in life):

“One thing is certain: that, even though the craft is a lifetime’s study, the application of a few simple principles will assuredly bring success in woodworking. In the first place, never start a job until you know precisely how you are going to do it. Pass its construction step by step through your mind, so that you may hit upon the snags and mentally smooth them out.

Don’t work hurriedly. Your very keenness may prompt you to rush, but to do so is fatal. Curb your desire to see the thing finished, and always concentrate intently upon the particular bit of the job you have in hand.

In all you do be accurate. No measurement, no cut, no squaring, should be “near enough.” It must be right. For often one inaccuracy becomes the seed of others, and reproduces trouble as the work proceeds.

Finally, don’t worry about an honest mistake. Ponder the reason for it and so learn from it. Progress at your own speed from simple job to something more difficult, but never force the pace. At the same time, be just as ambitious as your previous work warrants.”

Source: The Woodworker 

Note: This quote lightly edited for clarity.

Think about how we can apply this (it won’t be easy).

Doug

Links:

Various Articles

My Crusades

Personal Note O the Day:

My wife says that things happen when I’m around.  

Karma? Or ADHD?

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error correction

last post Cindy’s Comment

it should read that diagnosis of ADHD should NOT take more than one or two sessions.

I’ve tried to correct the post, but it didn’t work everywhere.

doug

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A Comment from Cindy

This is a different perspective, helping people understand that maybe they don’t have ADHD.

doug

Doug,You nailed it. I’ve found others just can’t comprehend what it means unless they have ADHD as well. I’m kind of sick of friends saying (with sincerity) they must also have it because of whatever. Not saying they don’t but I explain to them that being overwhelmed with life can also cause a person (who doesn’t have ADHD) to have a few ADHD symptoms until they get their life back in balance. No one believes me, though. So, I then encourage them to see a specialist (stressing that they should pick a mental health professional that specializes in ADHD) to assess and diagnose them. It’s in their best interest and it helps them understand what all this really means. I suspect some are just convinced if they got a prescription, they’re life would revert back to normal for them. This is another thing they never believe me on (when they ask me about meds) – truth is meds are a tool but not a solution. It’s a lifelong condition due to (basically) the way our brains are wired. We have periods in our lives where the symptoms become mild and years when they get unmanageable. Usually because our brain is overwhelmed by chronic pain, major life stressors, or just trying to exist in today’s world. But it never just disappears forever. Thank you for those strategies.

Advisory Note O the Day:

Diagnosis should not take more than one or two sessions, and does not require imaging, genetic testing, or neuropsychological testing, and should not be extremely expensive.

Personal Notes O the Day:

Managing Your ADHD is coming along.  And I got a good cover from Phyllis Ngo.  Working on formatting.  Maybe the end of March?

Quote O the Day;

If 100 is the average IQ, then half of the population is below that. Think about it.

Links:

Diagnosis

Diagnosis – more

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Happy New Year, even with ADHD

Welcome to the new year, to you and to your ADHD, which certainly came along with you.

If you can, read the NY Times opinion piece from

Nicholas Kristof  12/31/2022: Summary:  The world is in terrible shape.  The world is improving – there are advances in clean energy, the troublesome essential batteries, vaccines for various diseases, treatments for cancer, and childhood mortality.  The world desperately needs to continue to improve.

I’ve been reading lots about New Year’s resolutions and why we can’t keep them. There are many reasons:  we expect it to be easy to change, distractions, our situation changes after we make them, and many more.  The strategies suggested are the same as the ones I recommend:  make sure you really want to do it, think small and realistically, small steps, turn it into a contest or a game, make it fun, use rewards, etc.


Question O the Day: Are you sure you really need to improve?  Maybe you’re good enough just the way you are.

Personal Note O the Day:

I’ve made a habit of editing five pages early every morning.  This is easy, doesn’t take long, and leaves the work up on my computer screen where it’s easy to resume later.  Plus I often do more than five pages once I get started.  So Managing Your ADHD is coming along. Now I’m searching for a formatter. 

doug

Recent Washington Post Headline:

“How to Cure and Prevent a Hangover”

My Response:

How to Cure:  very difficult

How to Prevent: Duh!

Self Esteem with ADHD
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A New Year with ADHD – What could go wrong?

There’s not a lot new from 2022, other than transcranial magnetic stimulation. This treatment is done by placing electrodes on the scalp. It takes treatments 5 times a week, for 4-8 weeks and is at least somewhat effective for ADHD.  I don’t know the cost or if it is covered by insurance, but it can be done at home. (see Links below)

 2022 studies confirm previous ones:

Methylphenidate ( Ritalin) does not improve performance for vanillas (non ADHDers).

“But with no significant improvement in overall performance, all drugs were associated with a significant reduction in efficiency.” (David Cogill, MD, PhD)  This study included modafinail, a “wakefulness-promoting drug.”

80% – 87% of adults with ADHD have at least one comorbid psychiatric condition:

depression 60%, substance abuse 57%, anxiety 56%.

28% respond best to amphetamines, 16% best to methylphenidate, and 41% an equal response to either stimulant.  Thus in the Adderal shortage, 57% will do fine on methylphenadte (Ritalin).

Best Strategy for Making New Years Resolutions: 

Don’t.

A Compliment for 2022 As It Exits: 

Well, it wasn’t as bad as 21.

Personal Note O the Day: 

I hate to see anything wasted.  I save things that I might use some day.

I call this “saving.”

My wife refers to it as “hoarding.”

Links: 

Tms   

deepTMS 

Resolutions

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ADHD and the Holidays – A bad mix?

Happy holidays!

Happy holidays????

Happy holidays!  Arghhhhhhh!!!!!

OK, are you clear now that it’s pretty normal not to enjoy the holidays, and probably more so with ADHD.  It’s just all too much.

There are so many blog posts on how to handle the stress that I won’t really go into that and I’ll just post some links below.  They all seem pretty much the same.

My Holiday Tip O the Day:

Make taking care of yourself your top priority and don’t feel pressured to do things that are gonna mess you up.  Well, you will feel pressured, but just don’t do them.  Do things the easy way, not the great way or the expected way.

My gift to you:

Extra memes – enjoy

Personal Notes o the Day:

        I find the holidays pretty stressful.

        Managing Your ADHD  is in  the nineth draft.  I think the tenth will get published.  But when?  Just be patient please.

Best wishes

doug

Links:

Holidays

Relationships can be especially stressed during the holidays

Holidays and stress

Even more stress

Oh, Well.

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Living with ADHD

I appreciate the great comments.  They motivate me to keep posting.  In case you missed it, I’m using Cindy’s comment for this post.

Cindy Bahl says:

November 8, 2022 at 8:22 pm (Edit)

Doug,
You nailed it. I’ve found others just can’t comprehend what it means unless they have ADHD as well. I’m kind of sick of friends saying (with sincerity) they must also have it because of whatever. Not saying they don’t but I explain to them that being overwhelmed with life can also cause a person (who doesn’t have ADHD) to have a few ADHD symptoms until they get their life back in balance. No one believes me, though. So, I then encourage them to see a specialist (stressing that they should pick a mental health professional that specializes in ADHD) to assess and diagnose them. It’s in their best interest and it helps them understand what all this really means. I suspect some are just convinced if they got a prescription, they’re life would revert back to normal for them. This is another thing they never believe me on (when they ask me about meds) – truth is meds are a tool but not a solution. It’s a lifelong condition due to (basically) the way our brains are wired. We have periods in our lives where the symptoms become mild and years when they get unmanageable. Usually because our brain is overwhelmed by chronic pain, major life stressors, or just trying to exist in today’s world. But it never just disappears forever.
Thank you for those strategies. Very well articulated and I’ll sure to pass them along to others.
Doug, thanks again for an amazing blog.

ADHD film – this is what it’s like

Thank you, Cindy!

Quote O the Day:

Marriage, childbirth, ADHD – you had to have been there.

Doug

More Links:

A Typical ADHD Day

ADHD and the Holidays

“ADHD Does Not Exist”

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Merry Christmas and Happy Hannukah, etc. (even with ADHD)

Please don’t feel sorry for me, but I have had better days.

I had my day pretty well organized for a change, but:


I had to try to clear up a unauthorized charge on my credit card.


Martha‘s laptop was infected with a repeating scam message.


Documents from my job were messed up.


Martha was struggling with very hard daily crossword puzzle.

Strategy:  expect the unexpected.

Message on the doctor’s answering machine:

“If this is an emergency call 911.
Otherwise, suck it up.”

Quote O the Day


“It’s always something.”


Rosanna Rosannadanna (Gilda Radner)

Personal Note O the Day:

I think I have all my Christmas shopping done.

I think.

doug

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ADHD Medicines – A Warning!

Warning: in this situation of Adderall shortage, some pharmacists are filling prescriptions with formulations of the medication other than that prescribed, and sometimes without notifying the doctor or the patient. The patient may begin to get new side effects or less efficiency without understanding why. Always check the label on your prescription.

At least 57 % of adult ADHDers will respond as well to methylphenadite (Ritalin et al) as to the amphetamines (Adderal et al), so maybe you can just try switching.

Added Information O the Day:

Checking the label and the pills is a good idea for any prescription.

Generic forms of any medication are almost always cheaper than the brand names (methylphenidate, Ritalin).  They are supposed to be just as good and usually are, but not always.  For example, they may contain the same medication but a different filler which can affect the rate of absorption.  Further, the generic versions may be different from different companies.  Pharmacies often change the company they are dispensing from to obtain the lowest price, and you may have problems from that change.  Fortunately, these various difficulties are uncommon.

doug

Quotes O the Day:

If I did all the things I’m supposed to do for my health I wouldn’t have time to do anything else.

Doug (tired and in a negative mood)

“It’s always something.”
Rosanna Rosanna Danna

Questions O the Day:

Or was it Rosanna Rosannadana?

Or Roseanne Roseannadanna

Or does it matter?  How much time do I need to spend researching this question?

Links:

Adderall Shortage

ADHD Medicines

More Adderall Shortage

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Understanding ADHD

You just have to experience it for yourself:
   1. Marriage
   2. Childbirth
   3. ADHD

Some people don’t believe ADHD exists.  Some people think we can just try harder, or drink lots of cabbage juice, or watch where we put our feet, or or or —.

The supply of advice and opinions about ADHD from people who don’t have it is enormous;    the demand is quite small.

Trying to convince someone whose mind is made up is like trying to give medicine to a dead man.

Some people are toxic.

Strategies:

  1. Learn all you can about ADHD.  Become an expert.
  2. Keep your BS indicator set on high sensitivity.
  3. Keep identifying problems and making strategies.
  4. Be kind to yourself
  5. Avoid toxic people.

Quote O the Day:

Being a grown-up is not all it’s cracked up to be.

            An ADHDer

Where was I when the executive functions were being passed out?

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An ADHD Melange

I hope you’re reading the comments; they are often better than the post. They make my day, inform me,  and encourage me to keep posting.  I love the comments.

Observation O the Day:

Some days just come unraveled.

Conversation O the Day:

Q: How ever did you manage to drop your phone into the toilet?

A: Well, it requires a certain amount of skill and a good bit of luck.

Quote O the Day:

I’m so far behind that I’m about to catch up with myself and it could look like I’m ahead.

Definition O the Day:

melange

a mixture; a medley:

“a melange of tender vegetables and herbs”

synonyms:

mixture · medley · blend · variety · mixed bag · mix · miscellany · diversity · collection · selection · assortment · assemblage · combination · motley collection · pot-pourri · conglomeration · jumble · mess · confusion · mishmash · 

Book Note O the Day:

I just signed up to get a professional cover.  This was way premature but I was concerned and eager and have no patience.  I’m excitedly waiting to see it.  The new working title is Managing ADHD.  Do you like this or is Managing Your ADHD better or do you have another suggestion?  Comments will be most appreciated.

Links O the Day:

Impatience

Free Program

Doug

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Screwed Up Again

OK, I did it again and my wife says my excuse of not thinking and then apologizing is getting old.

I scheduled something on top of something routine I’m supposed to do with her, and it was going to be hard to reschedule it.

I said I’d try to be more careful.  She wasn’t impressed.

Suddenly the light bulb went on!!!  We’re scheduled to take groceries to the church on the 2nd  and 4th Friday every month and I’d just scheduled taking our priest fishing on the 4th Friday.  I hadn’t noticed the conflict.  But!! – I suddenly realized the strategy – put it in my appointment book for each of those dates!  All the way thru December.  No more problem.

The thing is, I used to do that and somehow I’d stopped.

The principle:  once we find something that works, the next thing we do is stop doing it.

Quotes O the Day:

“If I can’t see it, it doesn’t exist.”
One of my favorite quotes.

“It can’t all be in the front.”
One of my wife’s favorite quotes, regarding the refrigerator.

Links:

Executive functioning

Delusional Optomism

Next apology O the Day:

Last post I put a link to a great post from James Clear and later saw that it didn’t work and I couldn’t find it to replace it and now I can’t figure out how to correct something once it’s posted anymore.  Working on that.  I tested these two links and think they work ( I hope.)

doug

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Just Do a Little


 I’m on the eighth draft of the new book, doing grammar and spell checking with Grammarly, the grammar and spell checking app. Tedious. Grammarly keeps wanting me to put commas in. I see no point in adding a comma unless it helps make the sentence clearer so I rebel. But overall Grammarly is very helpful. I wish I’d used it on my previous books.  It’s amazing that you can read the same sentence ten times and not see the error.

My guess is it’s the 10th draft that will get published, but I’m not guessing when. I think I have a really good idea for the cover, and I need to start working on that.
Strategy:
Keep plugging away. Try to do some every day, and usually once I get started I keep going for a while. No pressure, no rush, but I would like to get it finished. (You realize that this is a good strategy for lots of tasks? Just commit to doing a little and then see what happens.)

Note:

Grammarly is also much more fond of hyphens than I am. 

Links:

Wisdom from James Clear

Small Steps

 

 

 

ADHD is not easy.
ADHD is not easy.
I really meant to post this post in time.
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ADHD and Clumsy

 

I’ve always been clumsy, uncoordinated.

When I’m putting a clean dish up on the shelf, I often hit the edge of the dish on the shelf. It’s the same if I’m taking a dish off the shelf; I’ll hit it on the shelf or on another dish.

When I reach for a glass, I often nearly knock it over rather than grasping it.

This seems to be a difficulty with spatial perception. It could be that with the bad eye I have no depth perception, but also with ADHD miswiring, and the basal ganglia and cerebellum are involved in making smooth movements. Clumsiness is often associated with ADHD.

It’s always something.

Strategy: be aware of these specific problems, the dish, the glass, and learn to be extra cautious at that time. This is not the same as “be more careful!“ , but needs to be aimed at small specific problems in order to have any effect.

Personal Notes O the Day:

I’m still trying to remember how to do the images on these posts.

Obviously.

doug

 

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Weight Control? Control??

I have reached a goal!
I’ve wanted to get my weight down to 166 pounds for years and only occasionally came close. Now, I got it.
The trick of course, is to keep it off. Weight is easy to put on,  very hard to lose and much much harder to keep off. I will try to stick to my program but that hasn’t been that effective so far.
For this accomplishment, I have to give credit to Covid. I haven’t lost my sense of taste thank goodness, but I’ve had no appetite at all. So that’s a side benefit of Covid. It’s effective for weight loss, but I do not recommend it.
It will be interesting to see if I can keep it off now.

Links:

Weight 1

Weight 2

Weight 3

Weight 4

       Notes:

I’m way out of practice on this posting thing.  It’s complicated.  Hopefully, it’ll come back to me.

Nearly done on draft seven of the new book.  Starting to worry about getting a good cover.

Quote O the Day:

Nothing’s every easy.

me

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ADHD Doesn’t Stop

In case you’re wondering, yes, I do still have ADHD. Recent examples:I knocked the laptop off the table top. It didn’t break, but the plug for the adapter did.

I needed to order a new adapter. When it came, it was the wrong size.  I blame the ad..I need to order the right size, and send in the wrong one for a refund. More hassle.

I am editing draft seven of the new ADHD book, intermittently. Each time I restart, I need to relearn the tricks for making word to work right. More about that later

Strategies: listen to the little voice.If it’s important, read it carefully instead of skimming.If you will need to remember it, write it down.

doug

 

 

Maybe I could use a little help?
ADHD at work

ADHD is not easy.
ADHD is not easy.
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An Update

My friends – I hope you’re still my friends. I miss you.

I gave up the blog, and poker, chess, and Spanish because I just didn’t have enough time and my life felt over pressured and out of control. And I gave up writing on the new book. I became obsessed with fishing, and I’ve learned a lot about new techniques and I started catching more fish. That was great.

Then the New Mexico fires came and fishing has been almost impossible, nowhere to fish within a reasonable distance. I was grieving; still am.

But, I now have time available that I’d been spending fishing and I’ve restarted the book and Spanish.

I plan to post an occasional blog here, not on any schedule so I won’t feel any pressure.

There are several ADHD strategies implied in this posst if you want to dig them out.

best wishes, and keep living well

hasta luego

doug

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ADHD Key Points — ADHD Tip O the Day 1000

Just a few of the key ADHD points.  There are so many, so many ways to make our lives better, so that we are managing our ADHD and it’s not in control.Sadly, this is my last post. I want to leave you all with some key points to remember that will be helpful to you.Science:

  1. Science is not perfect, but it’s better than anything else.
  2. Correlation is not causation.
  3. Unproven is not proven not.
  4.  One scientific study does not prove anything.

ADHD:

  1. Your ADHD is not your fault. It is not a weakness or a moral flaw.ADHD is a neurodevelopmental disorder that you were born with.
  2. But you are responsible for educating yourself about ADHD, seeking appropriate help, and learning how to cope.
  3. If it is expensive or promises a cure, avoid it.
  4.  Many professionals do not understand ADHD, and many of them do not know they do not understand.
  5. Everyone deserves a trial of medication, which works for 80% of people with ADHD. If you get any side effects, they can usually be managed; if not, they will go away when you stop it.
  6. Genetic testing to decide on medication and brain imaging to diagnose ADHD are not yet ready for clinical use.
  7. Living Well with ADHD should be coming out in about a year (“should be”).
  8. Your Life Can Be Better.I will occasionally post something about ADHD on my Facebook page,      and probably will post there and here about the new book as it gets ready     I appreciate your comments and support over the years and wish you the best of luck.

doug

Grumble O the Day:

For some reason, it seems you now need to clik the view button to see the full comments.  Technology- ugh!  But it’s worth it.

Links:

All about ADHD

You don’t believe in AHD.  Really???

First Tip O the Day

 

Bye bye, now.

 

Your Life Can Be Better

Untreated ADHD

The End.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Decrease the Pressure – ADHD Tip O the Day 999

With my ADHD, I tend to feel pressured all the time.  I don’t like that. I work to avoid that feeling.

1. Limit your to-do list to five items.

2. Cut everything into small steps.

3. Spread your tasks out.

4. Ask “Is this necessary?”  If so, is it urgent?

Additional Tidbits O the Day:

20% of ADHDers hoard.

Other comorbidities:

depression, anxiety, dyslexia, dyspraxia (clumsiness), insomnia,bipolar,dyscalcula, dystechnologica, rejection sensitive dysphoria. Just to name a few.

(meaning, I think, these occur often along with ADHD, and more often than in vanillas.)

A miswired brain is a miswired brain.

 

Writer Doris Lessing on how to choose what to read:

“There is only one way to read, which is to browse in libraries and bookshops, picking up books that attract you, reading only those, dropping them when they bore you, skipping the parts that drag – and never, never reading anything because you feel you ought, or because it is part of a trend or a movement. Remember that the book which bores you when you are twenty or thirty will open doors for you when you are forty or fifty-and vise versa. Don’t read a book out of its right time for you.”

Source: The Golden Notebook

Links:

How to change a habit

Strategies and habits

Pressure

 

 

Quotes O the Day:

“You can’t go wrong with flowers, gold, or diamonds.”

my wife

“Bigger pile, smaller shovel.”

Someone who is getting older.

Personal note O the Day:

This is my next to last post.  I’m trying to think of what to post for Tip number 1000.  It ought to be special, spectacular.  I considered posting a nude selfie but my wife said she didn’t think it would go over well.

Too Much Pressure!

 

Ha ha ha!

 

Short Term Goals

 

The ADHD Mind

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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More ADHD Research and Etc.— ADHD Tip O the Day 998

On ADHD and relationships, medications, comorbidity, statistics, and etc.: 

My wife said I should post about the most recent disaster, but no, I’m not going to describe the incident where I merely sat down on the sofa next to the bowl of popcorn and somehow it ‘exploded’ and the popcorn went, as my wife says “everywhere.” We sure had a good time trying to get it all up, not.

Tip:  Don’t sit down next to popcorn?

More Damn Statistics:

8% of children have ADHD. Half of those no longer meet criteria after adolescence, but will still have some symptoms and some brain abnormalities, which have moved towards normalized. So 4% of adults have ADHD, ie.  meet criteria.

8% of people with ADHD have bipolar. 16% of people with bipolar also have ADHD (fortunately and surprisingly, treating these people with stimulants does not appear to be unstabilizing for their bipolar). Can we calculate how many ADHDers have both? Can we calculate what percentage of the population have both? (Actually, not “we,” but “you”.  I can’t.  Plus, note that these percents vary in different studies.)

40% of ADHDers do well on either methylphenidate or amphetamines. 40% will do well on one but not on the other. 20% will not do well on either but might respond to a non-stimulant medication, which tend to be less effective than the stimulants. (If someone does not do well on stimulants, I always want to recheck the diagnosis.)

To illustrate combinations, as discussed in the previous post:
You have an apple, a pear, and an orange. You say I may have any two of them.
I could choose an apple and a pear, or an apple and an orange, or a pear and an orange. Three possible combinations out of a group of three.

OK, we’re all clear on that now. Right?

doug

Personal Note O the Day:

I always wanted to be on the fast track, and now, finally, I am.
I just never realized that the fast track runs downhill.

My wife says that things happen when I’m around.  ADHD?  Karma?

From James Clear:

“Marrying well makes everything easier.”

“Charity can be a lifestyle, not merely a gift.

Read charitably. Give the author your most favorable interpretation.

Listen charitably. Donate your undivided attention.

Work charitably. Be generous with your expertise.

In this way, you make charity a daily habit.”

Links:

https://www.additudemag.com/adhd-diagnosis-treatment-guidelines/

 ADHD and Marriage (adhdmarriage.com)

ADHD and Comorbidity

Note O the Day:  I first published this with the title of 988 instead of 998.  More of the same?

 

And another year passed.

ADHD Ain’t Easy

Aging is a booger.

Aging is a booger.

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Combinations and ADHD Symptoms — ADHD Tip O the Day 997

I’ve been “putting off” doing this post for years now because it’s confusing to me.  But it’s time, now or never.

Ever wonder why we ADHDers look so much alike?-Procrastination, distraction, impulsive, etc, but also we can look so different.

Well, we can blame it on genetics; so many different genes can contribute to ADHD so there are many different possible combinations of different genes with somewhat different effects.

Or we can blame it on the DSM, which says we can one of three different types, and combinations of different symptoms, that will qualify us for the official diagnosis- out of 16 possible symptoms, 5 of hyperactive or 5 of inattentive required for adults (6 for children)(you  have the mixed type if you qualify for both types. We all have some hyperactive or some inattentive symptoms, and most of us have some of both)

Or we can blame it on statistics.  Statistics are a booger.

Combinations

Below is the formula for calculating the number of possible different combinations of a number of items (such as the symptoms in a list.)

For either the hyper active or inattentive types, there are 4368 possible combinations  (IF I did it right)

C = n!/r! (n-r)!

n =total number   r = number of each group  ! means factorial   (4! = 1 x 2 x 3 x 4)

n = 16  r = 5  for our diagnosis

To summarize, there are 4368 different groups of symptoms that can meet the criteria for ADHD diagnosis.

I am so glad to finally get this post done.  I welcome any corrections or other comments.

doug

Links:

Wisdom from James Clear

DSM V

combinations and permutations

Personal Notes O the Day:

Just a few more of these blogs; ADHD Tip O the Day1000 will be the last.  I’m pulling the best of them together in the next ADHD book and I might occasionally post a tip on my facebook page.

It’s hard to cut out things I like to do so I can have some free time, and it’s hard not to immediately find new ways to fill up the free time.  Working 0n it.

Quote O the Day:

There are three kinds of people, those who can count and those who can’t.

 

Who, me?

yep!

I just retired!

See, math isn’t so hard.

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Taking It Easy? — ADHD Tip O the Day 996

An ADHD Strategy:

When you need to get something done but can’t dig up the energy, see if you can find an easy way out.

Here’s a bunch of quotes for today.

“Your first step is just that: the first of many steps. For so long I would stand still, afraid to move in any direction because I wasn’t sure which was the course I wanted to follow for the rest of my life. Finally, someone explained to me that my first steps did not necessarily determine one path for all my tomorrows. There would be more decisions, and more opportunities to make a shift should I need to do so.”

Writer Ashley C. Ford

 

“It is important to remember that the viciousness and wrongs of life stick out very plainly but that even at the worst times there is a great deal of goodness, kindness, and day-to-day decency that goes unnoticed and makes no headlines.”

 

I’m not gonna worry about it.

 

-and before I decided to slow down.

I’m taking it easy.

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Pain and ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 995

We ADHDers tend to be hypersensitive. For example, to certain noises, to feelings of rejection, etc. So it makes sense that we might be hypersensitive to pain. I just wasn’t aware of this before. But I have had struggles with pain.

I’ve found the following helpful:

Alternating heat and cold.

CBD creams – very effective

tylenol plus ibuprofin.  (Cox 2 selective NSAIDs have lower 

 incidence of side effects, but expensive)

Bengay, Icey Hot, or other heating salves.  (caprision reported to have good effect)

Lidocaine patches

I was extremely reluctant to have back surgery but it was extremely successful. 

Epidural steroid injections, but only when I was younger.

Try to avoid narcotics except short term after surgery or injury.

doug

 

Long study – we have more pain and more fatigue

Hypersensitivity

Personal Notes O the Day:

I took a break after publishing Alma Means Soul, my first novel.   I’ve started writing again, partly because many days it’s too cold to fish.  My working title is Living Well with ADHD.  Suggestions are welcome.

I reluctantly and sadly plan to make Tip 1000 the last on this website.  I do not have the time and am pruning several activities.  I probably will post an occasional tip on my face book page.  I’m grateful for your support and participation over the years.

OUCH!!

 

People are incredible.

 

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Who’s in charge here?

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Marriage/relationships and ADHD follow up — ADHD Tip O the Day 994

Relationships are very complicated, especially if someone has ADHD

I love pens.
I have a lot of pens.
My wife says I hoard pens.

She says I should go through all of my pens and throw away the ones that don’t work.

I have two to do lists, the short one of five, and the long one at 24.

Testing all of my pens and throwing out those that don’t work has not yet reached the level of importance to make it onto a to do list. For example, it can’t compete with the need to pay the taxes, to clean the aquarium, to set up my new fishing rod, to do my blog for the week, to write one of my children, or to vote.

But maybe someday.

My wife finds this hard to understand.

doug

 

Strategies Of the Day:

  1. Set priorities
  2. Marry someone with patience, tolerance, and flexibility
  3. Share The ADHD Effect on Marriage, by Melov       Link

Quotes O the Day:

Marriage is one of the chief causes of divorce (which has a very high rate if there’s ADHD).

Unknown Cynic

Love is state of temporary insanity, easily cured by marriage.

Mencken

Links:  (clik on title, then on address)

Webinar on motivation Feb 9      

From Melov – emotions

Relationships and ADHD

ADHD and Other Kind of Relationships

The Challenge of Relationships

 

True Love Can Be Complicated by ADHD

 

 

A Complaint

 

From Secrets of a Successful Marriage

 

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New Year’s Resolutions — ADHD Tip O the Day 993

Belated Happy New Year to each of you (happy in spite of our ADHD).

I don’t like making resolutions; they just set me up for disappointment and shame.

But this year I made some:

  1. Lose weight (right, sure) and this time, keep it off (uh huh).
  2. Keep my blog posts short (but I have so much to say).
  3. Be nicer and more attentive to my wife ( I hope she doesn’t throw this back at me later).
  4. Relax more.  I don’t need pressure.

Personal Note O the Day:

I may have procrastinated a little on this one.

Links:

Goals and Failing

ADHD and Goals

ADHD and Self Esteem

Declutter Your Brain – free class

 

It’s Gotta Be Better!

More resolutions

And because you never know what’s going to happen.

 

 

I really meant to post this post in time.

 

 

 

 

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An Important ADHD Strategy — ADHD Tip O the Day 992

 

Small steps explained ( I don’t think the recent review was adequate)

We have A Project to do.

We feel overwhelmed, not up to it, defeated before we start, and we procrastinate.

The strategy is Small Steps.  Break the project or task into small steps and focus on one at a time – basically forget about the project, just focus on the one step.  If it’s still too much, break that step into smaller steps and start over again.

Start with the logical first step, or with the hardest.  Once the hardest one is done, it won’t seem overwhelming anymore.

Any time you finish a small step, you feel empowered, successful, capable, and it’s easier to go on to the next step.

Success breeds success.

doug

Links:

One step at a time

Get unstuck

Overwhelmed

 

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Overwhelmed

 

Just adjust.

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Three Most Important ADHD Principles —ADHD Tip O the Day 991

Enough Already!

New Year: time for a brief review

Three most important ADHD Principles:

  1. Identify a Problem, devise a strategy, make it a habit.

  2. Small steps.

  3. Do it now, do it right, do the hard part first. (After you break it into small steps.)

Have a great New Year – it’s gotta be better.

doug

Links:

Identify A Problem

Small steps

Do the hard part first      

Free program- help to manage your time  Jan 3

Free Webinar – overwhelmed?  Jan 6 and Jan 8

Webinar on inattentive type ADHD   Jan 10

 

Note: A new Facebook ad says, “ADHD is hard to diagnose.”  I comment, ” ADHD is not hard to diagnose.”  They keep deleting my comment.  I missed a lot of ADHD diagnoses because I wasn’t looking for it, not because it’s hard to diagnose.

Enough already!

Let’s forget the past two years anyway.

 

Starting fresh

 

And another year passed.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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Constructive Arguing— ADHD Tip O Day 990

Constructive Arguing:

Arguments are a normal and unavoidable part of almost all marriages (intimate relationships).  The trick is to make them productive instead of destructive, and to have them not too often nor too intensively, and to get over them fairly rapidly.  These principles will help achieve that.  They’re not easy to apply but with determined effort can become new habits.

The very best arguments start, “We have a problem that we need to work on so that we can find a solution that will work for both of us.” At best, this doesn’t ever actually become an argument.

  1. Keep on the topic, one topic at a time. – if your SO (significant other) says, “But you’re so selfish.”—, you might reply, “That may be so and we may need to discuss it, but right now we’re discussing —-.”
  2. Keep the focus on the present instance — not “You always—”, or “For years you have –”, but “When you did x this morning, —–“, instead of bringing up a list of past offenses.
  3. That is a good formula for bringing up issues : “I feel x when you y, because z”.  This is a bit artificial but well worth it.
  4. Avoid bringing up you SO’s family, unless that is the issue under consideration (Yes: “I do not want to go visit your mother with you this weekend.”  No: “You are acting just like your mother.”       No: “Your mother is a x, y, and z, and she’s ugly, too.”  In general, it’s best to avoid saying anything negative about any of your SO’s family; that’s your SO’s prerogative.
  5. Avoid name calling or labeling –lazy, stubborn, etc. instead, “I don’t like it when you—“ versus labeling it.
  6. Speak in paragraphs and not chapters. Try not to interrupt.
  7. Do not psychoanalyze your SO.
  8. Have an agreed upon safe word, to temporarily disengage if the discussion is getting too hot.  Use it before it gets too hot.

Relationships are difficult, and of course, more so with AHD.  Hope this helps.

doug

Note of the Day:  The holidays stress relationships, so this may be good timing.  Hope you all had a great christmas or whatever and wish you the best of a new year- honestly, it looks shaky I fear.

Quotes O the Day:

I’d agree with you, but then we’d both be wrong.

I’m not arguing with you, I’m just trying to help you see why you’re wrong.

Links:

Living together with ADHD

How to Stop Losing Things with ADHD: 6 Expert Tips (additudemag.com) – this will reduce stress in your life and in your relationship

Perfectionism – is common with ADHD and also adds to the stress

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Marriage and ADHD. Even Possible?

Marital Conversations

An ADHD Marriage

 

Having a good argument

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messed up web site

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Marriage- Part Three — ADHD Tip O the Day 988

I need ADHD help! Now!

With ADHD , everything is much harder, especially relationships.

We disappoint, forget, let down. We get preoccupied, don’t finish, don’t get started.  We blurt out, do and say socially inappropriate things.  We run into things, knock things over, drop things. Whew!

Do you think we might be hard to live with? 

Out of date stero types:  man brings home the bacon, woman takes care of the house and raises the children, (all by herself).  This is changing and the men in recent generations do much better.  (Way to go, Will!)

If you got along well before marriage, that doesn’t mean you’ll get along well after marriage.  If you didn’t get along well before marriage, it’s highly unlikely you’ll get along well after.  If you marry thinking the person will change you may be right, but it’s unlikely to be for the better.

Once we end a marriage or relationship, we often find someone else who turns out to be pretty much like the one we just left, and we have the same problems.

If it bothers your partner, it is a problem even if it doesn’t make sense. You do not want your partner to be bothered.Try to remember to treat your partner with kindness and respect. Even when it is difficult.

Get counseling. A neutral third-party can be can make the difference.

doug

Story O the Day:

TV show years ago: Host interviewing couple with many years of marriage, “What’s your secret?”

Husband:  “When we first married, we agreed that I would make the big decisions and she’d make the small decisions. We haven’t had any big decisions yet.”

Constructive arguing rules – very important.  “Plan” to post next time.

Three Quotes O the Day:

We’re all crazy, except me and you, and sometimes I’m not so sure about you.

The main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing.

       Ann LamottThe only thing worse than being married is not being married.

Personal Notes O the Day:

It was actually my wife who suggested my first strategy, “Always put your keys on the front table,” which started off my understanding of and devising of strategies. She was tired of finding them for me.

If I did all the things I’m supposed to do for my health I’d have no time to do anything else.

Help!  Mrs. P is requesting suggestions for funny books, movies, etc.  Any suggestions would be welcome.

Links:

If you love me,–

“How RSD affects my marriage”

Is it possible?

Relationship

 

Shhhhh!

 

The ADHD Mind

 

 

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Adult ADHD Revisited — ADHD Tip O the Day 987

My ADHD Brain at Rest

A break from the relationship posts, but more to come.

The Am. Psychiatric Assoc. is revising the DSM V, including the criteria for diagnosing ADHD.  Many changes are recommended.  The current criteria were written for children and tweaked to apply to adults.  The new edition, DSM V TR, is scheduled for release in March, 2022.

Using current criteria, research still shows about 8% of children have ADHD, half of whom no longer meet criteria after adolescence, but still have some symptoms and abnormal brain imaging and neurochemistry.  So we members are the tribe are different, but there are a lot of us, 4 % of the population.  If the criteria are changed, these numbers will probably change but I doubt if by much. 

The link below addresses the inadequacy of current criteria for adults and suggested changes.

 Link:

Suggestions for  ADHD Criteria

Welcome to the new members to the tribe!

doug

Other Links:

Diagnosis 

Adult ADHD

Comprehensive Review of ADHD in Adults

 

“No, I don’t like to put medicines into my body.”

-and before my ADHD medication.

Untreated ADHD

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Marriage/Relationships? Part Two— ADHD Tip O the Day 986

Marriage part two

Throughout this series, I use “marriage” “to stand for “marriage and/or relationships.” I understand that marriage is becoming increasingly rare.

ADHD and marriage: 

Marriage is hard.  With ADHD it’s much harder, especially for the non ADHD partner.  Read Orlov’s book, The ADHD Effect On Marriage, and discuss it together.  How can your partner help you?  Problem solve and devise strategies together.

Effects of Marrying (or committing I guess?):

It’s amazing how many couples do well until they get married.

People are on their best behavior before marriage, then boom! Expectations and behaviors dramatically change.

In love, we project our image of the ideal mate onto the other, like putting a suit of clothes on a dummy.  When later we see the real person, we feel swindled, cheated, and resentful.,

We marry with expectations, and when they’re not met, we immediately think of divorce.  We did not expect that marriage would be hard work or that there would be conflicts.

An intimate relationship stirs up our old issues and gives us the opportunity to work them out. Or causes us to bail if we don’t know how to deal with conflicts.

Marriage counseling can be very helpful, and sometimes leads to individual therapy, which can be very helpful.  So can an ADHD coach.

Men and women are different. The stereotypes have variable accuracy but tend to be true.  If your partner doesn’t fit the stereotype, learn their style.

Understanding the different styles  gives you a foundation for learning how to have successful relationships.

Men tend to work on logic, competition, and problem-solving.  They retreat and think until they think they have a solution.Women tend to work on emotions and relationships. They express their thoughts to try them out.

Emotions are as valid as logic or facts. “I don’t want to” is a legitimate reason.  Do not try to refute emotions with facts. If she says, “You always do X,” don’t point out that you’ve only done it twice in the last ten years; she is expressing her reality.

She probably didn’t want advice; she just wanted you to listen. If you want advice, specifically ask for it before you tell him the problem.

Women usually have to teach a man how to be married, don’t expect him to know.

Safe Word:

This from Ram:  It is useful to agree on a safe word, and either person can use it to temporarily pause a conversation that is getting too hot.  But you need to agree to return to the conversation when things are cooler.

Surprise O the Day:

Marriage is hard work.  Most people expect automatic marital bliss.  Ha!

A Course in Relationships: these books will give you a huge advantage in having successful relationships.

Real: I Don’t Want to Talk About It – explains men. It’s about abused men, but he says all men in our culture are abused.

Lerner: The Dance of Anger – addressed to women, but appropriate for us all. Lerner has several other helpful books.

Tannen: You Just Don’t Understand – explains the differences in how men and women communicate.

Gray: Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus – explains the differences and how they cause many of our relationship problems.

again: Orlov: The ADHD Effect On Marriage

Link:

Marriage, relationships, and ADHD

Coming Next:

How to argue constructively

doug

Quote O the Day:

The only thing worse than being married is not being married.

 

You’re getting married!!

Oh my!

A Complaint

ADHD Marriage

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Marriage and Other Strange Relationships, Part 1 — ADHD Tip O the Day 985

Relationships are so complicated, even without ADHD, that this will take two or more posts.  And with ADHD – Whew!!

We marry with expectations of what our marriage will be like.  Generally, we expect our marriage to either be like our parents’ marriage or very unlike it.  These expectations need to be examined before the marriage, because they are likely very different for each partner..

I recommend the essential discussion before marriage, covering money, spare time, relatives, children, religion,  and sex.

Also, discuss how  decisions will be made and disagreements handled. Avoid the  zero sum game, where there’s a winner and a loser.  Instead, use a problem solving model – ‘How can we make this work for both of us?’

When it’s hot, stop.  Agree we will talk about this later, but just not right now.  Give it time to cool off, and then discuss it rather than just letting it go.

Many conflicts and arguments are simply a problem of communication.  Often a word doesn’t mean the same thing to us.  Ex: “Yes, I’m ready to go now” means something very different to my wife than to me. 

Another common source of conflict is both parties being sure their memories are accurate, although our memories are notoriously inaccurate.

It is common for a woman to marry a man, expecting to change him. Not a good idea.  It is common for a man to marry a woman, expecting to be pampered.  Not a good idea.

Quote O the Day:

“You can’t be married and be right.”

Frank Pitman MD

Note: In this series, I’m using “marriage” to mean both marriage and other relationships.  I’m aware that traditional marriage is becoming obsolete.

Follow up on How to Be Happy:

Never expect someone else to do what they’re supposed to do, should do, or said they would do. This will save you a lot of disappointment and yield  you an occasional happy surprise

Bonus Quote O the Day:

“Love is a state of temporary psychosis, easily cured by marriage.”

Mencken

Links:

Orlov on Detachment

ADHD and Relationships

The Challenge of ADHD Relationships

Dr. Wm. Dodson on ADHD and Relationships

Personal Notes O the Day:

  1. Thank you to all the subscribers, and especially to those of you who contribute your comments.  So helpful.
  2. Thank you to Martha for sticking with me all these years in spite of my ADHD.

 

The wedding is only the beginning.

An ADHD Marriage

Marriage and ADHD. Even Possible?

Marital Conversations

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How to Be Happy — ADHD Tip O the Day 983

It can be hard to be happy, especially these days, and harder with ADHD.  But-

Affirmations:  Every morning, state, “I choose to be happy today.”

Learn  to cope with your ADHD.

Minimize contact with toxic people.

Help someone else.

Get outdoors.

Laugh a lot, even if you have to force it.

If you work, find a job that you enjoy.  This may take some time.  The pay, if adequate, may be less important.

If you have an actual depression, get treatment.  It is quite effective.

Practice basic self care: sleep, exercise, healthy eating, meditation.

Ask for help when you need it.

Counter negative self talk.

Set reasonable goals.

There are many other tips in the links below.  Try them. Find the ones that work for you.

doug

Personal Notes O the Day:

  1. My father was a very simple man, with very simple wants.  All he wanted was a whole lot of money.
  2. FYI, I am happy.  Hope you are too.
  3. My spiritual life is an important happiness factor for me.
  4. Perception is an important tool.  You have some control over how you label or define a situation (see reframing.)

Links:

Be Happy – free course

25 Tips to be happy

10 Scientifically Proven Tips

Goals

 

Be happy even with ADHD.

I need ADHD help! Now!

Sometimes ADHD confuses me?

Shame and ADHD

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How to Make Decisions — ADHD Tip O the Day 982

With ADHD we have trouble making choices and decisions.

  1. Do I really need to make this decision?
  2. Does it matter?- is it worth the the time and effort?
  3. Does it have to be me?
  4. Gather data
  5. List pros and cons
  6.  Consult with others- not to follow their advice, but ask them their reasoning, to get another viewpoint
  7. If you still don’t know, then there is no right answer.  Flip a coin.

doug

Note: if things turn out badly, it doesn’t mean you were wrong (if you followed the steps).  It means there was no way to know.

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Shhhhh!

Why I can’t sleep

An ADHD question – What????

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Many ADHD Links, Many Choices — ADHD Tip O the 981

 

We ADHD ers have difficulty making choices.

I’ve collected too many links, so I’m going to dump them now.  You pick and choose.  It’s up to you now.

Doug

Links:

 

Outgrow ADHD?

 

Ages and stages of ADHD

 

Struggles of ADHD

 

Breathing

 

Math anxiety and dyscalcula

 

Touch when words won’t come

 

More ADHD struggles

 

ADHD Impulsitivity

5 Most Important ADHD Tips

 

Personal Notes O the Day:

  1. I was 64 years old when I realized that I have ADHD, and of course, had had it all my life. That explained so many things. I also realized that many of the things I did out of habit or routine were actually strategies to help me cope with my ADHD. Since then, I’ve focused on making new strategies and refining the old ones. It’s a continuing process and  has made my life much better. Also, after trying Ritalin and having some mild side effects, I switched to Daytrana, Ritalin in a skin patch, and it works very well for me.

I’m a big fan of strategies and have written two ADHD books: Your Life Can Be Better, using strategies for adult ADHD, and Living Daily With Adult ADD or ADHD: 365 Tips O the Day

An ADHD expert, Dr. William Dodson, says that the purpose of the medication is to help us focus enough to use the strategies.

2. I’ve said it  before, multiple times in fact, but it bears repeating:

Our whirlpool refrigerator works fine.  The only thing wrong with it is the ice system.  The only thing wrong with the ice system is that it’s a total piece of crap.

3. Ventilating is said to be helpful in dealing with frustration.

Question O the Day:

Do any members want an explanation about DSM?

Helpful Note O the Day:

The memes are all there below the big DSM ad.  You can just scroll down.

 

Bonus Note O the Day:

Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition, Text Revision (DSM-5-TR™)

The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition, Text Revision (DSM-5-TR), is the most comprehensive, current, and critical resource for clinical practice available to today’s mental health clinicians and researchers. DSM-5-TR includes the fully revised text and references, updated diagnostic criteria and ICD-10-CM codes since DSM-5 was published in 2013. It features a new disorder, Prolonged Grief Disorder, as well as codes for suicidal behavior available to all clinicians of any discipline without the requirement of any other diagnosis.

With contributions from over 200 subject matter experts, this updated volume boasts the most current text updates based on the scientific literature. Now in four-color and with the ability to authenticate each printed copy, DSM-5-TR provides a cohesive, updated presentation of criteria, diagnostic codes, and text. This latest volume offers a common language for clinicians involved in the diagnosis and study of mental disorders and facilitates an objective assessment of symptom presentations across a variety of clinical settings—inpatient, outpatient, partial hospital, consultation-liaison, clinical, private practice, and primary care.

Stay current with these important updates in DSM-5-TR:


  • Fully revised text for each disorder with updated sections on associated features, prevalence, development and course, risk and prognostic factors, culture, diagnostic markers, suicide, differential diagnosis, and more.
  • Addition of Prolonged Grief Disorder (PGD) to Section II—a new disorder for diagnosis
  • Over 70 modified criteria sets with helpful clarifications since publication of DSM-5
  • Fully updated Introduction and Use of the Manual to guide usage and provide context for important terminology
  • Considerations of the impact of racism and discrimination on mental disorders integrated into the text
  • New codes to flag and monitor suicidal behavior, available to all clinicians of any discipline and without the requirement of any other diagnosis
  • Fully updated ICD-10-CM codes implemented since 2013, including over 50 coding updates new to DSM-5-TR for substance intoxication and withdrawal and other disorders
  • Updated and redesigned Diagnostic Classification

This manual is a valuable resource for other physicians and health professionals, including psychologists, counselors, nurses, and occupational and rehabilitation therapists, as well as social workers and forensic and legal specialists. The new DSM-5-TR is the most definitive resource for the diagnosis and classification of mental disorders.

Coming March 2022!

 


My ADHD mind

 

 

 

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Non Stimulant ADHD Meds — ADHD Tip O the Day 980

While stimulants are  the first choice of medication used to treat attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), there are many non-stimulant medications that may be used.

Statistically, stimulants are more effective, 85 % of ADHD ers. Straterra (atomoxetine), has the best response rate of the non-stimulants, 50%.  In my opinion, the non-stimulants have a higher rate of side effects than the stimulants (this is controversial).

Non-stimulants may be used if:

  • You do not respond to stimulants
  • Side effects of stimulants are too great.
  • You have a history of drug abuse. (Some lists include heart conditions and Bipolar, but this is not supported by the evidence. The anti depressant non-stimulants are contraindicated in Bipolar.)

Non-stimulant medications include antidepressants -Strattera, tricyclic antidepressants (TCAs), Effexor, Wellbutrin – and some high blood pressure medicines. Of these, Strattera has been studied most extensively. The antidepressants can improve overall concentration and impulse control, but must be taken daily and may take 3-6 weeks to notice effectiveness. Some also have a problem with withdrawal, sometimes even if a dose is missed.

In 2021, the FDA approved another non-stimulant for the treatment of ADHD in children and adolescents called Qelbree (viloxazine). 

Qelbree and Strattera are both antidepressants, selective norepinephrine reuptake inhibitors.

In my opinion, the anti-hypertensives work mostly by reducing anxiety, which can make ADHD symptoms worse.

Notes: 

  1. Every person is unique, and may respond differently to any medication or other treatment.
  2. The non medication treatments, including supplements, have very low response rates for ADHD, are not regulated in their manufacture and therefore can be dangerous, and help some people somewhat. They can supplement the more effective medications.
  3. A  list of “side effects” for any medication is actually a list of possible side effects.  You probably won’t get them with most medications, and if you do, they can be managed or you can simply stop the medication.

Below is detailed information on the various non-stimulants. But first, the cartoons.

 

-and before my ADHD medication.

 

“No, I don’t like to put medicines into my body.”

 

I do better on my meds. Somewhat.

Strattera

Strattera (atomoxetine) is the first non-stimulant medication to be approved by the FDA for the treatment of ADHD in adults and children over the age of 6. Studies have found that this drug improves symptoms of ADHD and reduces oppositional and defiant behavior and anxiety. Strattera differs from stimulant medications in several ways:

 
  • It’s not classified as a controlled substance. It does not seem to have a potential for abuse and thus is not classified as a controlled substance.
  • It takes longer to start working. It also appears to have a longer onset of action as compared to stimulants, which work on the day they are taken. Therefore, the therapeutic effect of stimulants may be noticed more quickly than Strattera.
  • It must be taken daily. Strattera must be taken every day, whereas doses of stimulants may be skipped—over the weekend, for example.
  • and it’s very expensive.

Side effects of atomoxetine may include:

  • Stomachaches
  • Weight loss due to decreased appetite
  • Nausea
  • Vomiting
  • Dizziness
  • Fatigue
  • Dry mouth
  • Increased heart rate and blood pressure
  • Agitation
  • Irritability

Tricyclic Antidepressants

Tricyclic antidepressants may be used off-label in the treatment of ADHD. The most frequently used for this are:

 
  • Norpramin (desipramine)
  • Tofranil (imipramine)
  • Pamelor (nortriptyline)
  • Amitriptyline

These antidepressants  may also be prescribed if you have symptoms of depression or anxiety in addition to ADHD.  They have a higher incidence of side effects.

TCAs, like stimulants, are thought to increase the amount of norepinephrine in the brain. Unlike stimulants, it may take several days or even weeks to see the therapeutic benefits of TCAs.

Tricyclic antidepressants need to be taken daily. Missing a dose or stopping the medicine abruptly may cause aches and flu-like symptoms, so if you’re going to go off the medication, you should be tapered off gradually over a period of time.

Common side effects of TCAs may include:

  • Drowsiness
  • Dry mouth
  • Constipation
  • Blurred vision
  • Stomachaches
  • Headaches
  • Vivid dreams
  • Insomnia
 

More serious side effects of tricyclic antidepressants may include problems with heartbeat or heart rhythm and  may also increase the risk of seizures in patients with a history of seizure disorder.

Anti-Hypertensive Drugs

In addition to the above drugs, Catapres (clonidine) and Tenex (guanfacine) are sometimes used to help manage ADHD symptoms. While these short-acting forms of each drug are not FDA-approved to treat ADHD, the long-acting versions, Kapvay (clonidine) and Intuniv (guanfacine) are. Both these medicines were originally used to treat high blood pressure, but they have also been found to be helpful in reducing hyperactivity and impulsive symptoms. These medicines do not appear to be as effective in improving symptoms of inattention. 

Side effects of clonidine and/or guanfacine may include:

 
  • Drowsiness
  • Fatigue
  • Dizziness
  • Nausea
  • Decreased blood pressure
  • Stomach pain
  • Insomnia
  • Dry mouth 

Qelbree

Common side effects of Qelbree include:

 
  • Somnolence, or tiredness
  • Decreased appetite
  • Fatigue
  • Nausea
  • Vomiting
  • Insomnia
  • Irritability
 

Wellbutrin

Wellbutrin (bupropion) is a different type of antidepressant that has been found to reduce symptoms of ADHD and depression in many patients. Wellbutrin is not approved by the FDA to treat ADHD but may be prescribed off-label. It’s considered a third-line option. Unlike the other antidepressants, it also affects dopamine.

Side effects of Wellbutrin may include:

 
  • Irritability
  • Weight loss due to decreased appetite
  • Insomnia
  • Worsening of existing tics
  • May make some individuals more prone to seizures
 
 

Effexor

Effexor (venlafaxine) is an antidepressant sometimes used off-label to treat ADHD.10 It helps with concentration and mood.  It has a high incidence of side effects and a more serious withdrawal problem.

Side effects of Effexor can include:

  • Tremor
  • Sleep issues
  • Dry mouth
  • Sexual problems 
  • Nausea
  • Anxiety

 

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“New” ADHD Science — ADHD Tip O the Day 979

ADHD research continues. That’s good. 

There’s actually not much that’s very new, but:

The new DSM V Tr is due out March 2022.  I’ll try to find out what it will change about ADHD diagnosis, but that’s probably not available yet.

New Research:

Do children outgrow ADHD?  

A lot depends on your definitions of “have” and “outgrow”.  I don’t agree with everything in the above article, but most of it.

About 8% of US kids have ADHD, about half of those will no longer meet the criteria for the diagnosis after adolescence, but many of those adults will still have some symptoms, and their brains have become more normal but not entirely so.

Can we predict the best choice of treatment for a given person?

41% respond to both amphetamines (Adderall and others), 28 % respond better to amphetamines, 16% better to methylphenidate (Ritalin and others), and 15% to neither (which suggests the diagnosis needs to be reaffirmed). We can’t yet predict who will respond best to what. Methylphenidate has better acceptability and is the first choice. The stimulants statistically work better than the non stimulants (atomoxetine, guanfacine, clonidine, viloxazine) although every person is different.

The recommendations are before age six, use behavioral therapy and family counseling, then add medications at or after age six, with Ritalin being the best choice.  I believe that every child (and every person) with ADHD deserves a trial of medications.  It can make a huge difference.

White Matter   White Matter #2

White matter (the connecting “wires” in the brain) abnormalities were similar in ADHD and in autism.  Variation in these abnormalities were thought to explain the variation in symptoms among us.

Certain networks (areas of the brain all connected by white matter) become more normal with stimulant treatment.  The less abnormal they were, the better the chance of a good response.

Sluggish cognitive tempo

I never heard of this before.

Personal Notes O the Day:

  1. Welcome to the new members of our tribe.
  2. That’s enough for today.  There’s more to come.
  3. Also, I keep planning to do a post on the non-stimulant medications.
  4. I don’t always wind up doing what I plan to.

doug

The ADHD Mind

ADHD Brain

Off my med.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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What to do about my forgetfulness and absentmindfullness? — ADHD Tip O the Day 975

Answering this question about ADHD:

This is an example of accepting that you can’t change something, but you can make strategies to help you cope with it. (But medication might help somewhat.)

1. Write everything down on a card, folded paper, or notebook, that you have with you at all times, and never leave it in another place. Or put it in your smartphone.                  (Write legibly.)

2. Use smartphone apps – calendar, alarms,etc.

3. Post colored stickeys on mirror, cabinet, refrigerator, etc. Move them often.

4. For very important things, also ask someone to remind you. (Someone without ADHD.)

good luck.

Links:

Productivity

Get Organized (??)

ADHD Toolbox

ADHD and Self Talk

 

Personal Note O the Day:

“Oh, I’ll remember that.”

ha, ha, ha, ha, ha.

 

Poem of the day:

I stopped what I was doing

and stood and looked out the window.

That’s when I saw the hummingbird.

 

Being Productive with ADHD

Focus??

I forgot!!!!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Frustrated and Overwhelmed — ADHD Tip O the Day 974

A couple of weeks ago, I just gave up, just for the week.  I didn’t post, and lots of other things I let go.  Some weeks are like that with ADHD, although fortunately, it’s usually just a day, not a week.

My wife’s i phone stopped working.  Then the internet connections on her i pad and mine got all mixed up together.  

I tried to fix them, in spite of my dystechnologica.  I finally did. After lots of time and frustration.

Then my pc and my laptop went kerfluey, both at the same time. After a lot of time and frustration, I gave up and took them to the shop ($$$).  Two days later they said the lap top was irreparable and the PC problem was a microsoft glitch that was being fixed.  I was four days without a connection – it was hard.

Spent twice as much on a new laptop as I  intended, good saleswoman.

Now the xfinity tv programming isn’t working right.  Haven’t been able to fix it.

My novel, Alma Means Soul, isn’t selling well.  I wasn’t expecting a runaway bestseller, but still –.  Then I noticed that Amazon shows it with the categories of children’s books and religious books.  Arggghh!!  I’ve been bouncing back and forth for a week between Amazon support and KDP support – guess what.  Time and frustration and they tell me it can’t be fixed.

Took a break and went fishing.  Not a single hit, just a lot of algae on my hook with every cast.

Poor me. But when I stop and think about it, we don’t have covid, we’re not trapped in Afghanistan, I can pay for the laptop.  It’s not so bad.

Tips:

  1. It’s important to know when to give up.
  2. Sometimes you need to just take a break.

doug

 

It’s all wrong!

 

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Me and my computer – a strange love affair.

 

Personal Note O the Day:  I cleaned the river 9/2 2021!  Yea, me! 

 

Clean River

 

Links:

ADHD Song    (start at :50, i don’t have the patience for 50 seconds of crap).

Good summary of ADHD, maybe share with the uninformed.  by thomas perth.

Bad ADHD Day

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Procrastinating or Pushing Ahead? — ADHD Tip O the Day 971

Overwhelmed is common with ADHD but strategies can help.

The same is true for procrastination.

I took on the task of clearing the trash in our stretch of the Santa Fe “river“ (even calling it a creek is an exaggeration but I love it).  Every week or two I put on my big rubber boots and go down there and fill up  a trash bag.

Last week this was on my to do list, but I was feeling overwhelmed. There’s no deadline, requirement, or obligation for this task so I just pushed it ahead. I haven’t gotten to it yet, but it looks like I can soon. This helped with the overwhelmed feeling. It’s not procrastination, because I don’t dread doing it and I’m not avoiding it, I just don’t have the time for it right now.

Sometimes there are things to do that just don’t need to be done right now.

doug

Personal Notes O the Day:

1. You maybe noticed that I didn’t do a post last week either. Or maybe you didn’t.  Same issue.

  1.  If you scroll all the way down there’s a big bonus post about procrastination from somebody who deserves credit, but I can’t remember who.

3. Last week was a booger.  We need to take care of ourselves.

Links:

An expert with ADHD

Helping Children with ADHD webinar 

Avoidance or Procrastination?

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Let’s actually do it! Now!

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Truths About ADHD Medications — ADHD Tip O the Day 970

There are many misconceptions about ADHD medications.

The two classes of ADHD meds are the stimulants and the others.  The following truths primarily apply to the stimulants:  methylphenidate – Ritalin, et al, and amphetamine – Adderall, et al.  70% of ADHDers will respond well to either type of stimulant, 20% will respond to one but not the other, and 10% either won’t respond (which indicates the diagnosis needs to be reevaluated to be sure it’s accurate) or are bothered by side effects even after adjustments.

True:

These meds are not addictive (possibly very rarely?) in people who have ADHD.

They are misused at times, especially in colleges.  Patients may be pressured to share them or may sell them.

They don’t help students to study or perform on tests unless they have ADHD.

Thus, they have a different effect on people with ADHD and people without.

They work quickly.  Unless you’re started on a low dose, you’ll probably know in twenty four hours whether they’ll be helpful to you and if you’ll get any of the possible side effects.

You are statistically unlikely to get side effects.  If you do, they can be managed or you can just change meds or stop altogether.

It may take a while to get the best med, best dose, and best schedule for you. It probably won’t.

The stimulant meds will not make anyone a zombie nor change anyone’s personality.

They should help with focus, motivation, inertia, and many other ADHD symptoms, but not all. They are unlikely to help with irritability, losing things, memory, patience, or sleep.  However, Dr. Goodwin states that the purpose of the medication is to help you focus enough to use strategies, and strategies can help with each of those problems.

The meds are not medically dangerous; even people with heart or problems can use them, though  I would  with low doses and monitor carefully.

I believe that anyone with ADHD aged six or over deserves a trial of medication.  They can sometimes have miraculous benefit, sometimes help somewhat, and sometimes don’t help (ten %).  I see no rational reason to not try medication.

doug

Quote O the Day:

They told me, “When you get older, you’ll understand.”

They lied.

Bonus Tip O the Day, from James Clear

“When choosing a new habit many people seem to ask themselves, ‘What can I do on my best days?’

The trick is to ask, “What can I stick to even on my worst days?”

Start small. Master the art of showing up. Scale up when you have the time, energy, and interest.”

Links:

Understand Side Effects

Trying ADHD Medication

Meds in other words and more links

Bonus Links  O the Day:

Math Phobia

Upcoming ADHD Conference

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Could use a little med?

I need ADHD help! Now!

Untreated ADHD

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ADHD and ODD, REVISED— ADHD Tip O the Day 969.1

Morwen made an excellent comment on my original ODD post which leads me to revise the  post and also add new links: 


Hello Doug, I feel as though the information you presented above lacks critical engagement with diagnosis or disorder. There are many important critiques of ODD, particularly in it’s overuse as a label for children of color. There is serious concern that ODD diagnoses also hide other struggles, such as trauma and neurodevelopmental conditions, making the focus behaviour rather than situation or neurology.

Your line about feeling as though you should just say “May god bless you” and move on also plays into the narrative that these children (again disproportionately children of color) aren’t savable, and that they are inherently and irrevocably destined for violence or anti-social behaviour. Considering that less than 30% of diagnosed ODD children progress to having a conduct disorder, and only a minority of diagnosed CD children progress to APD, your glum, hopeless tone of your post is distressing to me.

Note: CD conduct disorder; APD antisocial personality disorder

Revised Post:

“About forty percent of kids with ADHD have or will develop ODD, Oppositional Defiant Disorder. “

I think 40% is too high.

What is ODD?

“A disorder in a child marked by defiant and disobedient behavior to authority figures. The cause of oppositional defiant disorder is unknown but likely involves a combination of genetic and environmental factors. Symptoms generally begin before a child is eight years old. They include irritable mood, argumentative and defiant behavior, aggression, and vindictiveness that last more than six months and cause significant problems at home or school. Treatment involves individual and family therapy.”

When I see a post that starts, ” My son is diagnosed with ADHD and ODD, and —“, my heart sinks.  The parents are having a hard time, as is the child, and I don’t have good advice to give and so I feel inadequate and helpless and unhelpful and pessimistic.  I’m trying to get more information.

There is a support group, and the parents do need support.   The parents need knowledgeable professional help, and to be consistent with a good behavior management program , and to stick with it for a while even when it doesn’t seem to be working.  (This is different from most situations, where if what you’re doing isn’t working, try something else.)

There are successes, but these kids tend to develop serious problems – school drop out,  drugs, incarcerations.  The parents need to learn to protect themselves, and to  avoid enabling. The worst outcomes I’ve seen were where parents kept bailing the kid out of the trouble they were in.

The main point from Morwen is that if  the diagnosis of ODD is being considered, there needs to be a careful look at what else might be going on – truama, dyslexia, depression, etc.  Also that we cannot just give up one these kids and write them off.

doug

Stimulants for ODD

“For co-occurring ODD and ADHD, clinicians often prescribe stimulants to treat ADHD first. Typically, the ADHD stimulant medications greatly reduce ODD symptom severity and frequency. One study also found that patients with ADHD who consistently took medication significantly lowered their risk of developing ODD or CD in later life compared to patients with lower drug adherence3. In practice, clinicians often use liquid formulations to avoid having the patient potentially dispose of tablets.”

Personal Notes O the Day:

  1. Did I have ODD too?  Only a touch.  I was too afraid of consequences, but I tended to automatically  disobey any rule or direct order if I could, even when I realized it was in my best interest.  But, I was a “bad kid.” A bully, lots of fights, and convicted of a serious offense I hadn’t done.
  2. Sometimes parents are, or were, fined if their kid was too much truant. But what if they were just not able to  force the kid to go to school?

Quote O the Day:

“If you tell me I can’t do something, I’ll do it twice, video tape it, and post it on all the social media.”

ODDer?  That was me.

Question O the Day:

Did you have ODD?

Links:

Support group for parents

Comorbid ADHD and ODD

Outcome

From NIMH

Webinar on ADHD kids

ADHD and ODD

Parenting

Mightier – commercial program for ODD?

 

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ADHD Meds

You are stressing me.

 

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The Giant ADHD Flywheel and More — ADHD Tip O the Day 968

With my ADHD, I’m driven.  The pressure is constant. Here is a viewpoint from Creatieve.  I love your comments.

  1. I definitely recognise myself in the “not being able to keep the house clean & tidy” bit. I live in creative chaos. And when things get out of sight, they get out of mind. So books I’m reading and want to read, are piled everywhere. Projects and notebooks are always close by, too 😅

    But I also want to reply about the hyperactive bit. Because that’s something I had a discussion about with my psychiatrist back when I got diagnosed with ADHD (and Autism). And I asked him : “don’t you mean I have ADD? Because I’m not hyperactive”. And he pointed out, that hyperactivity doesn’t necessarily have to be shown Outwards. You can also be Hyperactive inside (mind & body). Feeling restless, have a racing mind. Which I found a very interesting argument. Because my biggest ADHD problem might just be my insanely busy brain. There is no brake or stop button. It just goes, full time and non stop 🙈🤷🏼‍♀️😅

    In reply to doug with ADHD.

    I recognise what you mean with the flywheel, I think. It mostly shouts a list of tasks and projects I should be doing, and a list of things I really shouldn’t forget. Which makes sitting still very hard. Like you said, meditation has also helped me in the past. But for some reason I can just never stick with it. Even though I know it helps, I just can’t get myself to sit down and do it. Because *makes chaotic and dramatic arm gestures* “The things! All the things that need to be done!” xD

    I also find it hard to finish things. Especially books or projects. Sometimes I can enjoy something so much, my Hyperfocus takes over (I have ADHD & Autism. My hyperfocus can be strong xD), and I finish it in no time. But a lot of the times I get bored, or something new distracts me. Which leads to reading 20 books at once, with usually about 3 or 4 actively (in turns), and about 20 craft projects. Also a few active ones. I struggle with it more, now that I’m trying to start up a small business. And having projects finished frequently (and on time) is kind of a must. So I hope I can work on it, by challenging myself (setting goals to make it interesting), and by taking my meds on time – every time.
    Do you struggle with this too?

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    i also share “If I can’t see it, it doesn’t exist.”

    doug

    Links: –

    A Follow Up – How to recognize ADHD in girls

    James Clear

    I just started on meds, and—

    Deficient Emotional Self-Regulation: ADHD Webinar

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    ADHD makes it hard to prioritize, make decisions, choose, select, not over extend, edit, and some other things too

    Getting a lot done. with ADHD???

     

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    ADHD Frantic!

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Self Abuse Makes ADHD Worse — ADHD Tip O the Day 967

(Not that kind)

With ADHD, we have many opportunities to feel shame.  And we often contribute to that be being harshly critical of ourselves.  And we often were subjected to shaming criticism as we were growing up  (and after), so we learned how to do it.

But, if we watch out for it (spotting), we can learn to stop this damaging self abuse.

Instead of saying ‘that wasn’t very smart’, you can say ‘that wasn’t  a good idea.’
A subtle difference, but belittling yourself is destructive.

Self esteem – how we value ourself

Self  image – how we see ourself

Ideal self – how we think we ‘ought to be’

One source and measure of our shame is the distance between our ideal self and our self image.

Sometimes when I see someone playing the guitar well, I think I should just give it up.  But wait, that professional practices or plays eight hours a day, six or seven days a week.  Should I be comparing myself to them?

Question O the Day:

Should any of us be comparing ourself to anyone about anything?  What is the benefit of that?

Tips O the Day:

  1. Be gentle and kind to yourself.
  2. Do not call yourself names.  Dumb, stupid, etc. are words that should never be used about anyone (so is ‘should’).
  3.  Some people think that the harsh approach helps drive them, or others, to do better.  It doesn’t; it causes damage and impairment.
  4. If you are a parent, be careful how you correct your child.  Label the behavior, not the child.
  5. Consider this – what is your ideal self?  Is it realistic?

Links:

A Summary of Helping Yourself with ADHD  from Vanida

ADHD and Marriage

Shame

 

 

Shame and ADHD

SHAME and ADHD

 

Unrealistic goals with ADHD???

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Women and ADHD part two — ADHD Tip O the Day 966

In reply to Denise Dion’s comment:.

denise – the ADHD symptoms of the inattentive type, which most ADHD women have, are the same as in men but without the hyperactivity, distractability, procrastinating, for sure. And probably without the impulsivity, blurting out, poor judgement. etc.

And like men, often with comorbid anxiety, depression, and maybe substance abuse. etc.


Specifically: difficulty getting to work on time, keeping house or room clean and uncluttered, keeping appointments, meeting deadlines, impulse buying. etc.

It’s a booger.


Thank you for bringing this up; think i’ll use it in a post. and thank you for commenting and for all your support.
best wishes
doug

Parenthetical note of the day:

Because of societal expectations, some women have problems because they are “supposed to be” nice, sweet, loving, understanding, helpful, etc.  Well, that can be very nice, but it can be overdone.  We all need to be able to protect ourselves and to set limits.

 

About Comments – I get wonderful, interesting, informative comments and I love them.  BUT- WordPress no longer automatically shows them at the bottom of the post.  You need to scroll down to :

 

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or

scroll down and find this on the right hand side:

 

I encourage you to check out the comments and to add your own. We’re all in this together.

doug

 

Links:

The previous post on ADHD in women

ADHD is different in women

Bonus Link:

Conquering procrastination

 

T Shirt Quote O the Day:

“You don’t always have to be nice.

Slash their tires”

 

Life with ADHD

We need to learn to say no.

 

Questions can be stressful with ADHD

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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ADHD Handwriting — ADHD Tip O the Day 965

Can you read my ADHD note?

It’s called dysgraphia, another ADHD comorbidity.

This might be related to dyscoordination (basal ganglia, cerebellum), being in a hurry, and trying to get a flood of ideas down on paper before we lose them.

My handwriting caused me lots of trouble.  It’s only in recent years I’ve been able to improve it at all.

Finally I saw that if I wrote an L slanting  over to the right, much more than seemed reasonable, it would actually look like it was supposed to. Then I found that paying extra attention to the L’s slowed me down and that improved it all.  Then I found that I need to draw an R, not write it, and then the same for an S.  So now my handwriting is semi legible (most of the time).

Principles of making your life better even with ADHD:

Recognize that something is problem, not just life as it is.

Assume that every problem has a solution.

doug

Personal Note O the Day:

Now that the handwriting problem is “solved,” I use the computer all the time instead.  If only I could get it to work!  Traded dysgraphia for dytechnologica.

Links:

Clutter

Impulsivity

Habits

Handwriting?

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Sometimes ADHD confuses me?

Sure!

I need ADHD help! Now!

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ADHD in Women is Different — ADHD Tip O the Day 964

 

ADHD in Women is Different (usually)

Most women and girls with ADHD have the inattentive type, ADHD without the hyperactivity.  The result is that as children they are less often diagnosed because they simply underperform instead of causing trouble, unlike the boys, who tend to have the mixed type, including hyperactivity.

Many women do not have symptoms that get attention until adulthood, when a change in the nature of responsibilities – jobs, motherhood, managing a household -begins to highlight their ADHD.

The treatment approaches to both male and female ADHD are  about the same.

Medical research, including on ADHD, has tended to be male focused for several reasons, some misogynistic and some practical.  Thus women have been short changed in getting the proper medical attention and treatment they deserve. (I will not object if this statement provokes some outraged comments.)

doug

Links:

ADHD, Inattentive Type

ADHD in women

RSD is worse in women

Webinar July 8 Inattentive ADHD

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Life with ADHD ain’t easy.

Undiagnosed ADHD

 

ADHD in Women

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 Demons and ADHD —  ADHD Tip O the Day 963

Demons are worse for ADHDers. This explains a lot.

 

You don’t believe in demons?  Really?!?! 

 

How about this: 

 

  1. If you fly fish, how about when you lay your fly rod aside for a minute and turn your back and when you turn around the lines are irretrievably snarled? 

 

  1. Who keeps hiding my cell phone and my eyeglasses if not demons? 

 

  1. I need to put a safety pin in my sweats (don’t ask). When I go to take it out, the head is still on the outside but somehow the tail is on the inside and there is no hole. How does that happen? 

 

  1. And in computers? The demons must be Legion.  Don’t even get me started. 

 

  1. Do demons really like to build a collection of single socks or do they take them just to frustrate us? Do they compete to see who can collect the most socks? 

 

Do demons attack everybody equally or are they particularly attracted to people with ADHD because we’re so vulnerable? 

 doug

Quote O the Day:  

“From ghoulies and ghosties and long-leggedy beasties and things that go bump in the night, Good Lord deliver us.” 

— Scottish prayer 

Links:

ADHD and Moods

Clinician’s View on ADHD

Journaling

ADHD and Messes

 

Let’s see if we can’t do it all!

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Breaks and ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 962

Everyone needs breaks, probably more so with ADHD, but they can be difficult.

Breaks throughout the day, week, and year can be very beneficial, even necessary.  That’s why we have vacations, and why it’s best not to work during them.  We need time to recharge our mental batteries, to let the gunk clear out of our brains, to see things from a distance and in perspective.

Breaks help prevent burnout and increase efficiency.

Most people have an attention span of around an hour and then mental function begins to decline.  We need a break. Speeches, sermons, or lectures longer than an hour lose interest, attention, and effectiveness.  With ADHD our attention span may be shorter, so it’s useful to determine yours and plan your day based on that.

During the day:  Have several breaks for 10 minutes or more where you do nothing, or take a walk, or talk to a friend.  Have mini-breaks , 2 minutes long, every hour. Just stop what you’re doing, pause.  You can practice awareness or not.

We may need strategies to make sure we get back on task and not off on a distraction.  One is to realize what the dangerous break activities might be, perhaps playing a computer game or getting on the internet, and avoid them.

During the week: You need a  minimum of one day off, really more, not filled up with other chores.

During the year: At least one vacation, and one week is not enough.

Personal Notes O the Day:

Working in the psychiatric emergency room was stressful.  I knew I needed time off whenever I changed from “I wonder how we can help this poor soul” to ” I wonder what this SOB wants” whenever a new patient came in.

I had to learn how to take vacations.  For years I would get antsy by the end of a week, but I learned how to do two weeks. It takes me the first week to unwind and begin to relax.

Various reasons breaks can be difficult include the inner flywheel which constantly drives us, the pressure of the long to-do list, and the awareness that many tasks take us longer to do than they do for vanillas.

Now that I’m retired, I’m still busy, especially when I’m working on a book.  I try to take three day “retreats” at home where I don’t use the computer or watch TV or do any tasks.

The next book, another on ADHD, is about 70% done but I’m taking a break from writing for while, now that the novel, Alma Means Soul, is finally published.

doug

 

Links:

Breaks Benefits

Omega 3 Fatty Acid  EPA is the good stuff, DEA not so much.  Be cautious about buying supplements; you don’t really know what they contain.

James Clear

He needs a break.

 

 

 

We need a break NOW!

Oh My, the problems!

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Coping with ADHD Stress — ADHD Tip O the Day 961

Living with ADHD is stressful.

(So is living with someone with ADHD.)

Meditation, breaks, getting outdoors, exercise, are all helpful.

Some of my favorite tools for stress or anxiety  are breathing tools.

Here’s my latest favorite.   Think what you  want to have and what you want to get rid of.  My lists:

Breathe In: Love, Compassion, Equanimity, Patience, Empathy, Peace

Breathe Out: pressure, anxiety, impatience, irritability, resentment, grudges

Do this three times.

I do this early every morning, and it helps.

There are many breathing tools. I also use:

6 in, rest two, 8 out, rest two. Three times.

and – the alternate nostril – in on right, out on left, in on left, out on right.

and – breathe in thru nose, hold it as long as comfortable, breathe out thru mouth very very s l o w l y.  Three times.

Find which one or ones work for you.  They get increasingly better with practice.

doug

Personal Notes O the Day: 

  1. Gripe – The novel was published May 25. I ordered ten copies to my address in Santa Fe. Over the next several days I ordered copies for others.  They began getting them, while I sat anxiously waiting and watching the tracking report:

    Shipped with UPS   Tracking ID: 1ZA288930364013359

    Sunday, June 6  5:29 PM
    Package arrived at a carrier facility.West Columbia, SC US
    Monday, June 7  10:00 AM
    Package arrived at a carrier facility. Hodgkins, IL US
    9:25 PM
    Package has left the carrier facility.
    Hodgkins, IL US
    Mine finally arrived  Wednesday June 9. 
    2. Gripe: Politics – The system is broken.
    3. Gripe: WordPress – it’s free, so what can I say?  But they stuck ads on my posts.  On the other hand, after they screwed up the input system, they fixed an option to use the old one.
  2. Gripe: I didn’t want this numeral two here or the three and four below, but WordPress won’t let me get rid of them.  Ignore them.
  3. Welcome to the new members of the tribe.  Hope you enjoy the posts and find them useful and that you will comment.
    Research  Note O the Day -A recent study in the Journal of Pediatrics found that spanking young children had effects similar to adverse childhood events such as physical or emotional abuse, neglect, parental mental illness or substance abuse, and others.  One result was aggressive and violent behavior.
    Don’t I know it.  The Bully

Links:

Journaling

A Model of the ADHD Brain

Pause

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                                                      Stressed?

Short Term Goals

You are stressing me.

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Ten Cynical Aphorisms O the Day — ADHD Tip O the Day 960

It’s not just about ADHD. Over the years, I have learned these things, often the hard way:

1. Anything involving humans will eventually get screwed up.
2. If you don’t know why a person, institution, or country did something, your best guess is money.
3. It will usually take longer than you expected.
4. The real purpose of any institution is to grow and to protect its turf.
5. Technology tends to not work.
6. Humans are hardwired to divide the world into us and them.
7. People have an innate need to have someone to look down on.
8. No matter how much money someone has it’s not enough.
9. If someone says, “To tell you the truth,” they won’t.
10. “It’s a great life, if you don’t weaken.”

Hope these tips from a lifetime of experience are helpful to you.

doug

 

Nasty Poem O the Day:

Whenever you’re feeling down,

discouraged, less than,

just remember that there’s someone, somewhere,

thinking of you,

of how wonderful you are,

how marvelous,

what a fine person. 

(It won’t be me.)

Links:

ADHD Disorganization, Insomnia, etc.

Pot law

Live Healthy

There’s no ADHD

 

Life with ADHD ain’t easy.

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    ADHD Judgement

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ADHD and Time – ADHD Tip O the Day 959

If you have ADHD, time is a booger.

  1. We underestimate how long a task will take. It always takes longer.  And if its fixing or maintenance, it’ll take at least two trips to the hardware store.

Strategy: Estimate the time and add fifty per cent.  I can’t find my link to the great post on this.  How long will this take to do?

2. We’re late for appointments and meetings (when we arrive at all.)   

Strategy: Set at time to go and don’t do anything else after that. Set a time to get ready thirty minutes before the time to go.   Getting ready.

3. We think events are further off than they are, so we’re late on getting presents, tickets, reservations, etc.   

Strategy:   Have multiple calendars and a red sharpie.   Do it Way Early.  It’s when ?!?

doug

Links:

Time management

Make your life better and be happy

Keep Healthy Habits webinar

 

Poem O the Day:

I get very very sleepy at night

Until I lay down and turn out the light.

I’m So Excited

 

Getting a lot done. with ADHD???

Planning with ADHD

Remember when —

ADHD challenge

 

 

 

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Novel Published (in spite of ADHD)

Doug Puryear has just published his first novel (seventh book).  Alma Means Soul is the story of an extraordinary woman overcoming her childhood and of her journey towards wholeness.  A spiritual thread runs throughout.  Includes a section on El Camino Real, Santa Fe, and convertidos, You might enjoy the unusual writing style.  Available on Amazon and on Smashwords.  Doug would appreciate any reviews.

New novel, in spite of ADHD

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FAQ about ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 958

I get many AHD questions from various web sites.

Here are some answers (ie my opinions) with links.

What can cure ADHD?  –  Only God.

Does ADHD get worse with aging? – No, age just adds more problems.

Am I a bad mother? – Probably not, if you’re asking that question.

Can someone’s handwriting be improved? – Yes.

What are the side effects of this medicine? – Wrong question.

How should I discipline my ADHD child? – Maybe you shouldn’t?

I don’t want to take medicine.   What naturals will work? – Why on earth not?

What supplements help with ADHD?  – Be careful.

Can you have a relationship if you have ADHD? – If you both work on it.

What causes ADHD? – Genes plus environment, like everything else.

Is ADHD just an excuse, or just made up by doctors and drug companies? – No.

Strategy:  Educate yourself.

Cynical Answer O the Day:

Q: What is the difference between ignorance and apathy?

A: I don’t know and I don’t care.

Second Cynical Answer O the Day:

Q: How can I —?

A: You can’t.

Personal Note O the Day:

Just published my first novel, Alma Means Soul, after two years and 25 drafts.

Strategy:  Persevere.

 

Shoelaces?

ADHD Warning

ADHD Meds

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Some Links For ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 956

These are some good ADHD links for you and that’s about it for today. I’m taking a break. And I plan to do the next post on breaks (“I plan–“).

Enjoy.

doug

Links:

ADHD Brain Differences

ADHD Brain (download)

Shame

ADHD Hereditary?

ADHD and Breaks

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ADHD makes it hard to prioritize, make decisions,choose, select, not over extend, edit, and some other things too

 

Always finish what yo

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Keep It Short — ADHD Tip O the Day 955

My astute wife said the last ADHD post was too long.  So this one will be short.

Strategy O the Day:

Listen to your wife.

doug

Links:

ADHD and Relationships

ADHD and Relationships more

Webinars

Quotes O the Day:

“The only thing worse than being married is not being married.”

“You can’t be married and be right.”

From a married person.

 

 

Marriage and ADHD. Even Possible?

 

 

 

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Assumptions, Premises, and Illusions — ADHD Tip O the Day 954

Now for something different

This will be a philosophical discussion today, not limited to ADHD.   (Had you assumed there would be a Poem O the Day?  Sorry to disappoint you. I hope you’re not heart broken. )

General Strategy O the Day:

Be careful what you think, what your premises and assumptions are, what words are used that could have some other meaning.  And of course, read the small print, which is carefully designed to make sure no one will ever read it. Check what you are thinking and what you are doing, both before and after.

The human mind wants answers, explanations, whys, cause and effect. And we are always seeing patterns, even when they are not there.  This is how our brains are wired, even ADHD brains.

This is good as long as you realize when you are making an assumption.

Example One:

I assumed I knew how to use my granddaughter’s coffee press.  I got a cup of coffee grounds.  When I stopped and looked at the press, the correct way was totally obvious.  Made good coffee.

Example Two:

I put a potato in the microwave and pushed the button marked pizza, but when the bell went off and I opened the door, it was still a potato.

Examples Three and Four:

Modern technology is amazing and fantastic, but we tend to assume it will work. 

My wife just spent over two hours on hold with Southwest trying to make reservations.  I assumed something was wrong and she would never get it but she did (those of us with ADHD tend to be short on patience).

I spent the morning online trying to get CME credits.  I would take a course, take the test, enter the assessment and then half the time the site would tell me something was wrong.   I couldn’t proceed to get the certificate and all of the work was wasted.  

Example Six:

I assumed that the printer ink cartridge I was throwing away was the old dry one and not the new one.

Example Seven:

One of our journalists writes of coming to New Mexico and starting to work with three Hispanic brothers. He said to them, “You’re Mexican but you have no accents.” They all laughed uproariously. “Mexican? Hell, we were here before the Puritans.”

Explanation O the Day (to set up the next section):

A set is a collection of certain things and of nothing else.  The set of all cows is non self- containing because it is not a cow, it is a group of cows. So it can’t be in the set of all cows.  The set of all abstract ideas is an abstract idea, so it is self-containing.  It has to be in there.  The set of all puzzles that make Doug’s head spin is not a puzzle, so it’s non self-containing.  So :

Paradox O the Day:

Premise: (which seems totally logical and obvious) any set is either self-containing or non self -containing.

Let R be the set of all sets that are not members of themselves (non -self-containing, like the set of all cows).

If R is a member of itself, then it is  a self-containing set and thus can’t belong in R, the set of all non self- containing sets, so it cannot be a member of itself.   R cannot be self- containing. 

If R is not a member of itself, then  it belongs in the set R of all non self-containing sets and thus must be a member of itself. So R cannot be non self-containing. 

The contradiction is called Russell’s paradox. 

Conclusion: R, the set of all non self -contained sets cannot exist, since it can be neither self-contained nor nonself contained.

Questions: Does this mean the premise was incorrect? Or the conclusion?

Hunh??

doug

Bonus Links O The Day:

Balls – test your assumptions.  (Don’t assume what I meant by this title.)

Seeing Patterns

Biases

 

Personal Note O the Day:  

The novel is coming along nicely.  It contains a section on illusions, which is closely related to the concepts in this post.  For example, we sustain ourselves with the illusion that we will not die; that’s something that keeps happening to other people.

If you can’t trust your eyes (or your memory), what can you trust?

 

But it ain’t there!

 

Beauty or crone?

 

The dice are loaded. Or is it me?

 

 

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Supplements and Diet for ADHD —ADHD Tip O the Day 953

The research findings have not changed.


1. The only supplement shown to be helpful for ADHD is omega-3 fatty acid (Fish Oil). Zinc and magnesium are somewhat suggested?


2. Nearly half of American adults are deficient in vitamin D, which affects cognitive functioning among other things.


3. Caution is advised in purchasing supplements. You don’t know what you’re getting and some of them contain harmful things.


4. Anyone with a fairly normal diet does not need any supplements. However, I take vitamin D and omega-3. And a multivitamin.

5. You may have noticed some contradiction in the above. That’s life, isn’t it?

6. A special diet may help a few people somewhat. They are hard to stick to.

doug

Personal Notes O the Day:

  1. A relative of mine took large amounts of supplements for his ADHD for years. He has renounced them, saying it was a waste of money, and that Adderall is significantly helping him now.
  2. I hate colds., I hate being passive. I actively fight a cold, taking all kinds of things. Sometimes I wonder if all the stuff I’m taking to fight the cold is making me feel worse than the cold itself would.

Poem O the Day:

This is ridiculous.

Links:

James Clear

Vitamin D Deficiency

Dangers of Supplements

Omega 3 Fatty Acid

Diets

Diet??
Diet??
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ADHD and Estrogen — ADHD Tip O the Day 952

ADHD is Different for Women

Two contributors brought this up and it was a new area for me.  Thank you to Susan and Eva.  You can see their comments on Post 950.  

I knew that typically, girls have Inattentive type ADHD, and quietly underachieve, cause nobody any problems and don’t get diagnosed.  Then in adulthood, they run into new and different demands and start having problems.  

But these articles say that many girls have difficulty in adolescence, which is probably related to hormones and may or may not have anything to do with ADHD.

Then women may have fluctuating symptoms related to their menstrual cycles.  

Then with perimenopause and menopause, there may be a flare of symptoms, again maybe mimicking or exacerbating ADHD.

I think the picture is confusing and the articles say that it is not clear because there has not been much research on this.  Until recently, women have tended not to be included in scientific research.

doug

Links:

“Estrogen and the Prefrontal Cortex: Towards A New Understanding of Estrogen’s Effects on Executive Functions in the Menopause Transition” from Eva

ADHD and Hormones

Hormones and ADHD

 

An ADHD Brain

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Yes, that’s right, ADHD.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Five Things You Will Never Do With ADHD— ADHD Tip O the Day 951

You will never:

  1. Catch up.
  2. Finish your to do list.
  3. Change the mind of an ADHD denier. 
  4.  Keep things uncluttered. 
  5.  Remember something you didn’t write down. 

Sorry, that’s just the way it is. Devise strategies, do the best you can, and learn to live with it.

Good luck.

doug

Links:

ADHD and food Unfortunately, I don’t think the foods make much difference, if any. Eating a reasonably balanced and healthy diet is always a good thing. I take a multivitamin, Vit D, and omega 3 anyway.

Food, Diet, Dyes, etc. and ADHD

To Do Lists

Question O the Day:

Does ADHD get worse with age?

I don’t think so, but the normal slippages of age can make it seem so, memory problems for example. BUT – this process is counter acted as we develop strategies and get better at coping.

Personal Note O the Day:

I’m 100% sure that few things in life are 100%.

Poem O the Day (from Notes On Aging):

I was really sleepy

Until I turned out the light.

 

 

Aging is a booger.
Aging is a booger.

 

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Parenting — ADHD Tip O the Day 950

Being a parent is not easy.

Parenting generally is  difficult and stressful, but it can also be extremely pleasant and rewarding. As they say, they grow up very fast. Look for every opportunity to spend quality time with your children because you won’t have too many opportunities.

There are no perfect parents. A reasonable goal is to be a better parent to your children than your parents were to you. Try your best and don’t feel guilty or like you’re a failure.  

Your parents did many things to you as a child that you swore you would never do to your children, but you will.

Do you need to forgive your parents?

Am I an expert on parenting?  I raised four children, all of whom turned out well anyway. I’ve seen many patients in therapy and observed some of the effects of parenting. Do I know the answers? I do not.

Some  things I do know:

1. Every child,  every parent, and every parent-child combo is different. There’s no one size fits all. If the personalities of the child and the parent mesh well,  good. If they don’t you have to make the best of it.

2. The three basic styles of  parenting:
A.  Authoritation: I’m the parent, the boss, and you’ll do what I say.  (See John Rosemond.  No, don’t.) This doesn’t work well with adolescents.
B. Collaborative: Let’s figure out the best way for us to handle this  situation, but I get the final say.
C. Permissive: Do whatever you want.

I believe the collaborative style usually is best,  but it may depend on the particular parent child combo.

3. The  reality with teenagers is you have as much authority as they are willing to give you.  The challenge is to give the support needed while gradually letting go.

4.  Your child will learn more from what you do than what you say.  This cliche is true.

5. Children need a chance to be children.  And be sure your expectations are age appropriate.

5. There are more important things in life than a orderly room or even  grades.  There are more important things to worry about. Try to avoid struggles, especially non essential ones. Pick your battles- Can I win? Is it worth the effort? You have a long rough road ahead. Conserve your energy. Take care of yourself.

6. Don’t make threats or establish rules that you aren’t prepared to follow through on.

7. I don’t advocate punishment. It’s often counter productive, especially long term.  If you are going to punish, never do it while you’re still angry.  Physical punishment is child abuse.

8. There are many different ways to judge someone  “successful.“ A kind,  honest, relatively happy adult is a huge success, no matter their financial, professional, or social status . Especially if they’re good parents if they have children.

Good luck

doug

Links:

Parents with ADHD

Treating Emotional Symptoms

Update on Marijuana

“Neurodivergent Girls”

Personal Notes O the Day:

  1. I’ve heard parents say I spank (etc.) my child to teach them respect.  I was spanked (etc.) a lot.  It taught me many things.  Respect was not one of them.
  2. This post is in response to many anguished questions I’ve answered on other sites.
  3.  I’m excited about the novel.  I keep doing another draft, always hoping to publish the next one.  On 23.  Maybe 24?
  4. Parenting is hard.  Parenting an ADHD child is much harder.  And if you have ADHD too?  Wow!

Quote O the Day:

“Guilt is a very useful emotion.  For about five minutes.”

An unknown guru.

 

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I’m Very Doubtful — ADHD Tip O the Day 949

Adult Onset ADHD?

Technically, adult onset ADHD isn’t possible, because it’s a neuro developmental disorder, meaning we’re born with it (or at least something interferes with the development of the nervous system early in life).

The DSM requires symptoms to be present before age twelve, but not necessarily fully meeting criteria for diagnosis. Of course, the DSM could  be wrong.

The studies supporting adult onset state these adults did not have ADHD in childhood. That means they didn’t have ADHD in the sense of meeting criteria for the diagnosis, but probably they had ADHD brains, they just didn’t show the full basket of symptoms until they reached the challenges of adulthood.

If they were diagnosed with ADHD as adults, using DSM criteria, that means they had several symptoms before age twelve.  That’s a criteria required for adult diagnosis.

I had many ADHD symptoms in childhood, primarily behavioral, but breezed through school until I hit the wall in college. Then, oh boy!

ADHD symptoms presumably reflect a delay in the maturation of the brain, a lagging behind normal. ( Possibly this is the cause in only some of us?) This explains why about half of children who meet criteria no longer meet criteria as adults, even though their brains still have not fully matured into “normal” brains and still show the abnormalities characteristic of ADHD.

At this time, if we say someone “has ADHD” we mean they meet DSM V criteria.

doug

Links:

Adult Onset?

Adult Onset???

Adult Onset??????DSM V Criteria for ADHD in Adults

DSM V Criteria for ADHD in Children

 

Questions O the Day:

If someone didn’t meet criteria for ADHD in childhood, and so couldn’t be diagnosed then, but now meets criteria as an adult, which means they had several ADHD symptoms as a child, didn’t they have ADHD brains all along? 

They had an ADHD brain but not ADHD?

So did they have ADHD as a child even if they didn’t meet criteria?

So should we say they have “Adult Onset ADHD?”

So do you find this as confusing as I do?

Quotes O the Day:

Me, trying to explain to my wife why her laptop isn’t working properly again:

“It’s technology. That’s the nature of technology.
Or
“It’s part of the innate perversity of inanimate matter.”
Or
“Probably the demons again.”

Oops! Yet again.

Our ADHD Brains Are Different. Surprise!

My ADHD Brain without meds

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I don’t have ADHD!

 
 
 
 
 
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ADHD Medications — ADHD Tips O the Day 948

This article is so good I’m offering it as the ADHD Tip O the Day 

ADHD Medications

Hope you’ll read and enjoy it.

doug

Poem O the Day:

    The Mail

Back in the day, when I was working,

in the days before I retired,

getting the mail was the High Point O the Day,

 or one of them, those were good days.

I got a lot of checks in the mail,

And  lots of other interesting things, too.

Nowadays, I still look forward to getting the mail,

habit I guess,

even though now

it’s all bills and catalogs.

Links:

ADHD Meds

Non medication treatment for ADHD -(Why??)

Webinar 3/25

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Personal Notes O the Day:

  1. Welcome to all the new tribe members.  I hope you enjoy the posts and that they’re useful.  And remember I love comments.
  2. The comments aren’t showing like they used to, so please click “comments” at the very end of the post.
  3. Otherwise, Word Press has added the option of using the old “classic” model instead of the “improved one”. Thank goodness! 

doug

Life with ADHD

 

 

Huh?

 

 

 

ADHD? Me??

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ADHD Excuses — ADHD Tip O the Day 947

We ADHDers are hard to live with.  We cause a lot of frustration.

A comment from T:

“I would love for you to address the issue with people with ADHD trying to justify behavior that is driven by the ADHD and not by necessity. I’m sure you know the “it’ll just take a minute”, the “I was right there so I figured I’d do it”, and the “It NEEDED to be done” excuses. You’ve probably made them yourself.”

Oh my, yes, I do recognize these statements.  But I think of them as explanations, not excuses. We do  need to avoid  using our ADHD as an excuse,  just to avoid doing something we don’t want to do, for example.  

An alcoholic is not responsible for being alcoholic, but they’re  responsible for doing something about it.  Same for ADHD.

T is addressing two issues: 1. not being ready to go on time. 2.  not showing up on time or at all.

 If something bothers your SO (significant other), you need to work on it.  Using a basic ADHD coping principle, identify the very specific problem that bothers your SO the most. Work on one thing at a time. Once the most annoying thing is mastered, go to the next one.

 For example, my wife doesn’t like me to keep her waiting if we’re going somewhere. I enlisted her help. Please be patient  while I’m working on the problem; it’ll take some time and I’ll have some lapses until my rules become habits.  Tell me the target time we need to leave.  I set my alarm for five minutes before.  Give me a five minute cushion. At the alarm, I do what I need to, often save something and shut down the computer, put away my guitar, put on my shoes, etc.   

Rule: When the alarm rings, I can’t start anything else, no ‘one more little thing’, etc.

Agreement: If I’m a less than five minutes late, she won’t get frustrated. 

This is working pretty well for us. Life is better when your SO isn’t frustrated with you.

 Not showing up at all is a different problem, and needs different strategies.

Tip:

If you’re working on making a habit, you need to do it every time, even the times you know you don’t really need to.

Personal Notes O the Day:

  1. I’m blessed with a wife who will work with me on ADHD problems.
  2. Not to brag, but yesterday I went nearly three hours without dropping or spilling anything (and I was awake).
  3. Red Flags: “Oh, I have plenty of time.”  “I’ll just do this.”
  4. I think my posts have been messed up.  I’m trying to catch up by reposting the old one.  Hope it’s working.

Quote O the Day:

“If Mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy.”

doug

 

 

Bonus Links:

ADHD Meds Webinar 3/17/21


ADHD Webinar 3/25/21 or later

 

The ADHD Effect on Marriage 

Sleep – or Not

Missed Appointments

 

 

ADHD Marriage

   

 

A Complaint

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I’m Also Doubtful About — ADHD Tip O the Day 946

  1. John Rosemond — writes syndicated newspaper columns and books on parenting. His style is about using the power differential to control children and seems out of the 40’s and  maybe a little sadistic at times.   He recently had a column denying the existence of ADHD. I wrote a letter to the editor:

John Rosemonds‘s column against ADHD is full of dangerous misinformation and bad advice. He denies the existence of a well proven serious disorder which usually responds well to treatment. An out of date far right conservative, Rosemond advertises himself as a psychologist, although he does not have a PhD. He is a licensed psychological advisor in North Carolina. Parents would do well to avoid his columns as would the New Mexican.

Douglas A Puryear MD
Psychiatrist, Santa Fe, New Mexico
ADHDer 

 Possibly Rosemond’s approach is good for a particular combination of  parent type and child type, but there is no excuse for his attack on ADHD.

2. Genetic Testing to Choose Medication 

This holds great promise, but my reading is that it is not ready for clinical use.  It will sometimes predict which medicines are most likely to cause a person side effects, but that alone isn’t  very useful.

 

Strategies:

1.Hold onto your wallet.

2. Write letters to the editor (within limits).

doug

Rosemond

Rosemond

genetic testing cost

genetic testing

genetic testing 2

Mayo on genetic testing

The FDA Warns Against the Use of Many Genetic Tests with Unapproved Claims to Predict Patient Response to Specific Medications: FDA Safety Communication | FDA

Notice that the links in favor of genetic testing are from companies selling the test, not scientific studies.

 

Personal Notes O the Day:

  1. In my opinion, there are a lot of people out there trying to get a hold of your money.
  2. Some parents say they spank children to teach them respect. I was spanked, a lot. It taught me some things. Respect was not one of them.
  3. Some people say that they were spanked and it didn’t harm them .  How would they know?
  4. My letter sparked several more letters complaining about Rosemond and a couple endorsing him, tho not his ADHD denial.
  5. Please always scroll all the way down to see the comments (I love the comments). And please check post 945, the previous one, and offer suggestions to Joan.  Thanks.

 

ADHD causes confusion

 

 

 

 

ADHD Meds

 

You think What about ADHD ?!?

 

 

 

 

 

 

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A Change in Plans— ADHD Tip O the Day 945

I had today’s blog ready to post, well almost. It’s great to stay ahead. Then I got these two inputs and I have to share them with you. The link needs to be read slowly and with thoughtfulness (With ADHD?-well, try. I’ve read it three time and am trying to absorb it.)

Dealing with it  https://captainscourageous.net/blog/lifechangingsituations

 

From Richard Rohr: This explains a lot about “them” — and us.

People can’t see what they can’t see. Their biases get in the way, surrounding them like a high wall, trapping them in ignorance, deception, and illusion. No amount of reasoning and argument will get through to them, unless we first learn how to break down the walls of bias. . . .

Confirmation Bias: We judge new ideas based on the ease with which they fit in with and confirm the only standard we have: old ideas, old information, and trusted authorities. As a result, our framing story, belief system, or paradigm excludes whatever doesn’t fit.

Complexity Bias: Our brains prefer a simple falsehood to a complex truth.

Community Bias: It’s almost impossible to see what our community doesn’t, can’t, or won’t see.

Complementarity Bias: If you are hostile to my ideas, I’ll be hostile to yours. If you are curious and respectful toward my ideas, I’ll respond in kind.

Competency Bias: We don’t know how much (or little) we know because we don’t know how much (or little) others know. In other words, incompetent people assume that most other people are about as incompetent as they are. As a result, they underestimate their [own] incompetence, and consider themselves at least of average competence.

Consciousness Bias: Some things simply can’t be seen from where I am right now. But if I keep growing, maturing, and developing, someday I will be able to see what is now inaccessible to me.

Comfort or Complacency Bias: I prefer not to have my comfort disturbed.

Conservative/Liberal Bias: I lean toward nurturing fairness and kindness, or towards strictly enforcing purity, loyalty, liberty, and authority, as an expression of my political identity.

Confidence Bias: I am attracted to confidence, even if it is false. I often prefer the bold lie to the hesitant truth.

Catastrophe or Normalcy Bias: I remember dramatic catastrophes but don’t notice gradual decline (or improvement).

Contact Bias: When I don’t have intense and sustained personal contact with “the other,” my prejudices and false assumptions go unchallenged.

Cash Bias: It’s hard for me to see something when my way of making a living requires me not to see it.

Conspiracy Bias: Under stress or shame, our brains are attracted to stories that relieve us, exonerate us, or portray us as innocent victims of malicious conspirators. [1]

Richard again: I don’t know any other way to be free of all these biases except through the contemplative mind. I see almost every one of them within myself–at least at some point in my life. I also believe there are enough good-willed people out there who, if presented with a list of these biases, have the freedom to investigate, “How can I let go of that? How can I move beyond that?” [2]

[1] Brian McLaren, Why Don’t They Get It? Overcoming Bias in Others (and Yourself) (Self-published: 2019), e-book. 

[2] Adapted from Brian McLaren, Jacqui Lewis, with Richard Rohr, “Why Can’t We See?,” October 5, 2020, in Learning How to See, episode 1 (Center for Action and Contemplation: 2020), podcast, MP3 audio.

doug

Quote O the Day:

“It is as it is.”

From The Art of Motorcycle Maintenance

 

Personal Notes O the Day:

  1. Not to brag, but yesterday I went nearly three hours without dropping anything. 
  2. I still plan to address more of my doubts, and T’s question about our making excuses, but I’ve been busy, and I have a sore finger, and my computer isn’t working right, and -.
  3.  Planning to is great, but it’s no substitute for doing.
  4. Doing lots of editing on the novel.  I’m amazed at how much I’m cutting out, unnecessary words especially. On draft twenty one, but it won’t be ready to publish.  Maybe twenty two??
  5.  The new ADHD book is on hold til the novel is done.
  6. I won an argument, once.
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I’m Doubtful About— ADHD Tip O the Day 944

I am doubtful About:

OPC  is being touted as “Miracle Antioxidents.” That alone should raise your suspicions. The supplements contain bilberry, grape seed, red wine, pine bark extract, citrus extract, and flavonoids. Hmmm.  I haven’t seen scientific studies supporting this concept.  I have seen ads for suppplements.  $$$$


Dr. Daniel Amen is an expert on ADHD, and surely knows more than I do.  He has clinics and TV shows.  Dr. Amen  specifies multiple subtypes and I expect is at least somewhat correct. He tailors treatments to the subtypes – I am doubtful, and uses brain imaging  $$$$ to determine the type – I am doubtful.  He sell his own brands of supplements. $$$$  –I am doubtful. His views are outside the professional mainstream (which doesn’t necessarily mean he’s wrong, but —).

The only supplement I’ve seen evidence for is omega 3 fatty acid (fish oil), somewhat helpful for some people.  I use it.  Not expensive. 

I am also doubtful about :

John Rosemond, advice columnist (not Dr. Rosemond)
Diet for ADHD (actually, any kind of diet for anything (except for certain rare genetic diseases)).
Genetic testing to select medication                                                                                            Brain imaging to diagnose ADHD                                                                                                  Adult onset ADHD                                                                                                                  Marijuana for ADHD

More on these later (“I plan”).

Various Notes O the Day:

  1. “The cost of an individual SPECT scan is about $1,300. Insurance companies don’t cover it because they categorize attention deficit as a behavior problem.” (Or because they don’t want to pay.)

2. A comment from T : 

“I would love for you to address the issue with people with ADHD trying to justify behavior that is driven by the ADHD and not by necessity. I’m sure you know the “it’ll just take a minute”, the “I was right there so I figured I’d do it”, and the “It NEEDED to be done” excuses. You’ve probably made them yourself.”

I’m not sure I understand the idea, but I think it means what I say when I’m late.  Plan to respond to this soon.  Thank you T, I love comments and suggestions.

3. Where else in the world could I publish my poems?

Poem O the Day:

A Romantic Encounter

I saw her clear across the room,
couldn’t miss her,
she was gorgeous.

She saw me looking
and she smiled at me.

I smiled back.
Then she pointed at me.

I waved and gave her a thumbs up.
I carefully made my way across the crowded room,

trying not to spill my drink.

When I reached her,
she gently took my hand                                                                                                                   and gazed into my eyes.
Then she leaned in close.
and whispered softly in my ear,
“Your fly is unzipped.”

Links:

Webinar March 2 – Drs. Hallowell and Ratey, genuine experts

OPC ???

OPC for ADHD – I am doubtful

Dr. Amen ???

Dr. Amen

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Images left over from last post, You think WHAT about ADHD?!

 

You think WHAT about ADHD ?!?

You think WHAT about ADHD?!?

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How to Respond to “I don’t believe in ADHD” — ADHD Tip O the Day 943

Many people ask how to deal with “I don’t believe in ADHD”, or with similar comments    (“We all have some of that.” or “That’s just an excuse for laziness.” etc etc).

How to respond?

Appropriate possible responses, choose one.
1. OK.
2. Really?!?!
3. Too bad.
4. What have you been doing with yourself lately?
5. You don’t have to.                                                                                                                                6. Been nice seeing you. 

Possible Appropriate Response, Maybe, Once

Make one small effort -“Maybe you could google it and get a little more information.”

But then return to possible responses number one.

Inappropriate response:
Trying to change their mind.

doug

Personal Notes O the Day:

  1. This dropping things is starting to get out of hand.
  2. I’ve come pretty close to finishing my current draft, draft 20 of Alma Means Soul, primarily focused on looking for unnecessary words that could be very easily done away with without any significant loss of anything of value.  I was extremely surprised at the very large number of those words that I was able to find.
    Or
    I’ve nearly completed draft 20 of Alma Means Soul,  eliminating a surprising number of unnecessary words.

  3. I have some plans. I always have some plans. Planning is easy; it’s doing that’s hard. I plan to do some posts on frequently asked questions – parenting, controversies including the  question of adult onset ADHD, who and when to tell about our ADHD, and others of course.

    Questions O the Day:    
  4. Do you have any suggestions/requests of topics you’d like addressed? I will  appreciate your input.
  5. Why can’t I get rid of the inappropriate numerals (4,5)?  Tech challenged.

Welcome to to the new members of the tribe.

Links:

Arguing and confirmatory bias

Several good Attitude articles

ADHD and Marriage (or relationships, since marriage seems less common these days.)

Arguing with people who don’t know what they’re talking about

 

I’m sorry, you believe what about ADHD?

 

 



Really??

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Miscellaneous ADHD Stuff — ADHD Tip O the Day 942.1

I keep forgetting to mention these underrecognized helps:

1 . Lavender oil – for anxiety. Put two drops on the inside of your wrist and sniff it occasionally.   Works for about 25% of people.  No side effects.  Also put two drops on your pillow for insomnia.

2. Helping someone else – for depression.  Just help somebody.

To Do Lists:

To do lists are key to my being able to function at all, but some people don’t not like them. They can add to the sense of pressure, or to the sense of failure if they don’t get completed, which they rarely do.
Language is a powerful tool and has a powerful effect on us. Maybe it would be good if those people gave up on the  to do list, and changed it to “The things I would like to get done today list.”
They would still need to limit the list five items max and check it often or it won’t work.

Addictions:

We’re more prone to addictions than vanillas are.  Our rate of addiction is lowered by treatment with stimulants.  I’ve been addicted to coffee and to computer games.  I recently had to delete a game off my phone because it was too good, too addictive.  I’m better off with no games but some seem safe. My strategy now is to do vocabulary apps instead of games.  Some fun but not too much. I have a long term addiction to food, and with this quarantine I’ve been lax and let my weight creep up.  Strategy:  Be more careful about what I eat and drink and exercise more, like I was doing before.

The hallmark of addiction is loss of control.

 

Personal Notes:

  1. About writing:  

I got the second edition of Your Life Can Be Better published.  The cover looks good, but Amazon  keeps shifting between showing the first edition or the second.   I finally contacted them today and I think it’s going to be fixed. We’ll see. The second edition is significantly improved over the first.


I just started draft 19 of my first novel, Alma Means Soul. From the 15th draft on I kept thinking I could publish the next draft. Surprise. Drafts 16 and even 17 still had  lot of errors to be fixed. Draft 18 had very few errors and a lot of opportunities for editing to make it better. There were an amazing number of words that were entirely unnecessary, and a few sections that could just be deleted. So maybe draft 20 can be published? Maybe.

Also kind of interesting, I’ve started to actually enjoy the editing, which I used to hate. But not nearly as much as the marketing.

2.  One of my mantras: “If I cant see it, it doesn’t exist.”  For example, things I’d looked forward to eating go bad in the back of the refrigerator because I don’t see them and don’t remember they’re there.  My wife says, “You can’t put everything in the front.”

Also, if it isn’t where I expect it or it doesn’t look like I expected, I cant see it, even if it is in front.  Strange.

3.  Got our second vaccine shot yesterday, arm a little sore, no problems.  Very grateful.


Quote of the day:


“This too will pass.
It may pass like a kidney stone, but it will pass.”

Welcome to the new members of our tribe.

Animated GIF

 

Question O the Day:

Who do we tell about our ADHD and when?

Links:

Addictions

Lavender Oil

Words

I eat when I’m hungry. I eat when I’m not.

 

ADHD makes it hard to prioritize, make decisions,choose, select, not over extend, edit, and some other things too

 

ADHD Trick

 

 

 

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Five Most Important ADHD Tips — ADHD Tip O the Day 941

With ADHD we’re not good at prioritizing or making choices or keeping list short, but here’s some of the most important tips/tools/strategies to help you make your life better:

1. Small steps – Don’t try to write the essay, try to write the first paragraph (or first sentence). Often if you take the first step, you’ll keep going, but that’s not the goal.

2. Specific small chunks  – Don’t try to improve your handwriting, try to improve your L’s.

3. One or at most two things at a time – If you’re trying to reduce your losing things, work on your car keys, but don’t be trying to stop losing your glasses and your phone and improve your forgetting and your handwriting all at the same time.

4. Do the hard part first – Do the hardest small step, then the rest will be easy.  Unless you’ are totally stuck, the do the easiest smallest step first to get unstuck.

5. Set reasonable goals – I’m nearly through the eighteenth draft of my first novel, Alma Means Soul.  My goal is to edit two pages a day.  But usually I do more.

The two pages a day is also an example of the strategy of Pecking Away.

Doug

Scientific Tidbit O the Day:   A recent study shows that the rate of significant problems from marijauna are related to the potency of the weed and the frequency of use, which are also related to each other.  The correlation with psychosis is not very strong, but it is with anxiety disorder.

The study itself is not very strong for a number of reasons.  Watch for the error of confusing correlation with cause – did high dose high frequency cause the anxiety problems or vice versa?  (Or neither?)

Still strong evidence of long lasting brain damage from pot to the developing brain up to about age 25.  I’m guessing the damage also correlates with dose and frequency.

During my years in the emergency room we saw some cases of new onset psychosis in people after smoking pot laced with a certain other substance (which I won’t name).  These cases were characterized by intractability – our treatment had no effect and they spent years in the hospital.  Again, caution in making assumptions- I have no idea how many other people smoked the same combo without that effect- none?  a lot?

Notes O the Day:

What is the difference between stuck, avoiding, and procrastination?

To me:

procrastination – I’ll do it, but certainly not today. And tomorrow doesn’t seem too likely either.  I’ve got all these other things to do.

avoidance – i know I really should do this. Maybe I will.  Someday.  I’ve got all these other things to do.

stuck – I’ve got all these things to do but  I can’t get started on anything except sitting here stewing in frustration. 

 

Welcome to the new members of our tribe. 

 

Links:

Small Steps and Pecking Away

Stuck Again

Stuck Some More

Stuck, Stuck, Stuck

 

Procrastination?

 

ADHD Ain’t Easy
ADHD make it hard to prioritize, make decisions,choose, select, not over extend, and some other things too

 

Procrastination?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Failing with ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 940.1

“I am a failure.”

What a terrible thing to say about yourself.

I often read posts from mothers who say they’re failing, that they must be a bad mother. Often that means they can’t get their child to do what they want them to do. Sometimes their approach is wrong, or their goals are wrong, or what they are trying to do is impossible.

We all fail sometimes, don’t we?  We are not God, not even Angels, nor
Superheroes.

But failing at something does not mean we’re A Failure.  It means we’re human. With ADHD, we will fail more often than vanillas do.  Our ADHD interferes with all our efforts, we have trouble setting reasonable goals and expectations, we want to do everything, and we often have perfectionism(which is a recipe for both procrastination and failure.)

We need strategies to cope with our failures.

Strategies:
1. Reassess the goal. Is it reasonable? Is it worth the trouble?
2.Identify the specific thing that’s  blocking your success.  Then use a strategy.
3. For parents:

1. Take care of yourself first – 1. Get breaks, get help, etc.  2. Educate yourself thoroughly on the problem     3. Reassess:  Is your goal realistic? Can it be made smaller? 4. Pick your targets  carefully (battles?).  Can you win?  Is it worth it?

Puryear’s  First Principle of Human Behavior:

“When what we’re doing isn’t working, we’ll do more of it.”

Book O the Day:  The Spirituality of Imperfection

Old Quote O the Day:
“They said it couldn’t be done,
but with a smile, I went right to it.
I tackled that thing that ‘couldn’t be done’
and found that I couldn’t do it.”

Links:

Oppositional Defiant Disorder and ADHD— – (I think I had a touch of this.) (ODD)

Adult Onset ADHD? — (I don’t think so.)

More on Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria

ADHD and Frustration go together don’t they?

Other Notes O the Day:

40 % of children with ADHD are said to also have ODD- this looks too high to me?

ODD is extremely hard to parent or to treat.

8% of US children have ADHD.  50% of them “outgrow” it in adolescence.

Thus 4% of US adults have ADHD.

And I’m not good at it.

 

How are your New Years Resolutions Going?

 

Frustrating

 

 

 

 

 

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An Old ADHD Principle — ADHD Tip O the Day 939

For every problem, there’s a solution. The trick is to recognize that it’s a problem in the first place.

Problem: At night I put my glasses and my iphone (with the alarm set) on the bedside table and turn out the light.  The next morning I was fumbling for them in the dark and often knocked them off the table. Twice I stepped on the glasses.  This had been going on for quite a while before I realized – it was A Problem.

Solution: I always put the glasses in the nearest corner of the table and the iphone in the far corner.  Habit now.  No more problem.  But Duh!

Problem: I often needed to wrap tape around a round object.  It frequently got tangled up in itself before I got it on.  Argh!

Solution: Now I start wrapping the tape in the center instead of from one end.  Works great (usually).

Problem: I use a heating pad for my back in my computer chair.  I was always getting tangled up in the cord.

Solution: I used a bulldog clip to hold the cord around a table leg. It’s not pretty but it’s off the floor and out of my way.

Problem: Sometimes when I’ve written about this principle someone thought I was telling them where to put their glasses or how to use tape.  No, I’m using these examples to illustrate the principle, “Once you realize it’s a problem, you can find a solution and your life will get better.  These minor annoyances add up.”

Solution: I’ve just finished explaining it.

doug

Question O the Day:

Can you identify any frustrations in your life that you had not recognized as A Problem?

Obvious Note O the Day: 

Of course it’s not totally true that there’s always a solution, but it’s nearly true, and it’s more effective to believe it.  You’ll recognize more problems and find more soluti

Relevant Note O the Day: Please always scroll down and check the comments. They are very good. And please contribute your own comments. In case you missed it tho, here is my response to a lovely comment:

“ulana
thank you! your comment cheered my day. i hope you may contribute more in the future. i love comments. so pleased that the new book was helpful to you. by the way, i just learned that reviews are allowed on amazon even if you didnt buy the book there, but you must have spent at least $50 on anything on amazon in the past year. i love reviews too.
thank you again and best wishes
doug”

Totally Irrelevant Note O the Day:

At the store, I couldn’t find the butter.  I asked the grocer if he had any.

He said, “Yes, but it’s bitter.”

I said, “ I’ll take it.”

 He said, “Wait. I got a new order yesterday. It’s not quite as off.”

I said, “Well, give me that.”

He said, “It’s a small order.  I can’t give you much.”

I said, “ OK, just give me a bit of the batch of better bitter butter.”

Links:

More on Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria

ADHD and Overwhelmed – Bonnie Mincu

Another version of the same point about problems and solutions

Another ADHD Solution
An ADHD Solution?

Oh My, the problems!

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Venting — ADHD Tip O the Day 938

  1. It’s good for us to vent and get things off our chest occasionally. This works best of course if we have an audience. Thank you for being my audience today.

2. Word has decided to revolt and take control. It changes fonts and spacing at random, anytime it wishes, and often resists my efforts to get it back where it belongs.

3. Facebook blocked my post because someone reported some thing as “abusive”??

4. My printer works fine wirelessly off my phone but it won’t recognize my PC. Or vice versa? My PC also made my photo app vanish and it will not reinstall.


Some days I think technology hates me.

5. I have said this before, but it bears repeating. Our whirlpool refrigerator works fine. The only problem with it is the icemaker/dispenser. The only problem with the icemaker/dispenser is that it is a total piece of crap.

Strategy:

Vent when you need to.

doug

You can’t tell me what to do! (adolescent)
Frustration
frustration

 

 

 

Personal Notes O the Day:

  1. I feel a little guilty whining about these minor issues when so many people are suffering from real problems. For one example, I’m complaining about the ice system when many people have no water. Strategy: try to keep everything in perspective.
  2. I may be be learning how to work around the wordpress “improvements”. Maybe. Seems like sometimes the comments show up at the bottom of a post and sometimes they don’t, at random?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Simplistic Oversimplified Simple Version of the Whole Dadgum Thing — ADHD Tip O the Day 937.5

 

We’ve been reviewing the science of ADHD, so to start the New Year (it’s gotta be better), here’s a summary of the neurobiology (as I understand it).

(If this is old stuff to you, please  just scroll down to Personal Notes and below.)

The neurotransmitters (chemicals like dopamine, norepinephrine, serotonin and glutamate) are made in the cell body and carried down the tube to the end of the axon.

When the cell is stimulated by other cells an electrical impulse goes down the tube and the end of the axon releases the neurotransmitters that affect other cells to activate them or slow them down.

Each axon connects to many cells and each cell receives from many axons.

 The brain is organized into specific regions which seem to have specific functions, such as vision, balance, judgment,etc.  (no function is actually carried out by a single region alone).  These regions are connected to each other to form networks, and specific networks have specific functions, such as consciousness, movement, memory, etc. (again, not really solo).

So problems, symptoms, can be caused by a problem in any part of this system, in a networks, a regions, some neurons or a neurotransmitter, and a problem in any one of these generally affects all of these parts of the system.

The manufacture, location, connections and functioning of the different parts of the system are controlled by our genes.

Personal Notes O the Day:

2. For completeness of the science series, I may do posts on DSM and statistics. Whew!

3. Again please use the comment section to correct my errors or add information, ask questions, or for anything else you please.  I love the comments.

4. Welcome to the new member of the tribe.

Special Note O the Day:

doug

Links:

Neurobiology of ADHD– very comprehensive

Networks – a repeat, with other good links

Neurotransmission

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Update on ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 936.1

2021’s gotta be different!

A good way to start the new year will be to update your knowledge of ADHD.

A key strategy for managing our lives with ADHD is to educate ourselves. We can each become an ADHD expert and without too much effort we can know more about ADHD than most professionals.

I want to share three articles. Here’s the edited summary of the first but I encourage you to read the whole article from the link below (Yes, even if you have ADHD).

The next two articles will be in new posts.

Summary:

(aADHD means Adult ADHD)

Emerging evidence indicates there may be 2 subtypes of aADHD: the first arises in childhood and persists into adulthood and the other occurs only in adulthood. Individuals with aADHD have significant educational, social, and occupational impairments in addition to greater rates of morbidity and mortality. There also appears to be a genetic preponderance for aADHD with moderate heritability. Evidence indicates both neurochemical and neurofunctional impairments among individuals with aADHD involving the dopaminergic and noradrenergic systems and the frontal and parietal cortices. Unfortunately, aADHD is often underdiagnosed as this condition shares many clinical characteristics with common psychiatric illnesses including mood and anxiety disorders. Stimulant medications are the treatment of choice with similar efficacy for the amphetamine and methylphenidate groups. Atomoxetine is the only non-stimulant medication approved for aADHD. CBT has the best evidence among non-pharmacological treatments and is beneficial for those individuals who decline medications or have residual symptoms despite adequate medication trials.

 

Dr Tampi chairman, Department of Psychiatry & Behavioral Sciences, Cleveland Clinic Akron General, Akron, OH; Ms Tampi co-founder and managing principal, Behavioral Health Advisory Group, Princeton, NJ. Dr Elahi  program director, Psychiatry Residency Program, Cleveland Clinic Akron General, Akron, OH;

 

Personal Notes:

  1. I still doubt that adult onset ADHD (a neurodevelopmental disorder) exists, but I will follow the science and try to keep an open mind to any more evidence.
  2. I hope your new year will be so much better than this one.
  3. Your Life Can Be Better, second edition, is just published. In early 2021, I expect to publish another ADHD book , Living Well with ADHD, and my first novel, Alma Means Soul. I’m excited.
  4. I wonder why its a lot harder to find funny new year’s memes than Christmas ones? Makes you think.

doug

 

Link:

ADHD Update

Bonus Links:

Books

Overwhelmed Webinar – Bonnie Mincu

New Strategy – Melissa Melov – not just for marriage

So far.
yeah, right!

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Update on ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 936

A good way to start the new year will be to update your knowledge of ADHD.

A key strategy for managing our lives with ADHD is to educate ourselves. We can each become an ADHD expert and without too much effort we can know more about ADHD than most professionals.

I want to share three articles. Here’s the edited summary of the first but I encourage you to read the whole article from the link below (Yes, even if you have ADHD).

The next two articles will be in new posts.

Summary:

(aADHD means Adult ADHD)

Emerging evidence indicates there may be 2 subtypes of aADHD: the first arises in childhood and persists into adulthood and the other occurs only in adulthood. Individuals with aADHD have significant educational, social, and occupational impairments in addition to greater rates of morbidity and mortality. There also appears to be a genetic preponderance for aADHD with moderate heritability. Evidence indicates both neurochemical and neurofunctional impairments among individuals with aADHD involving the dopaminergic and noradrenergic systems and the frontal and parietal cortices. Unfortunately, aADHD is often underdiagnosed as this condition shares many clinical characteristics with common psychiatric illnesses including mood and anxiety disorders. Stimulant medications are the treatment of choice with similar efficacy for the amphetamine and methylphenidate groups. Atomoxetine is the only non-stimulant medication approved for aADHD. CBT has the best evidence among non-pharmacological treatments and is beneficial for those individuals who decline medications or have residual symptoms despite adequate medication trials.

 

Dr Tampi chairman, Department of Psychiatry & Behavioral Sciences, Cleveland Clinic Akron General, Akron, OH; Ms Tampi co-founder and managing principal, Behavioral Health Advisory Group, Princeton, NJ. Dr Elahi  program director, Psychiatry Residency Program, Cleveland Clinic Akron General, Akron, OH;

 

Personal Notes:

  1. I still doubt that adult onset ADHD (a neurodevelopmental disorder) exists, but I will follow the science and try to keep an open mind to any more evidence.
  2. I hope your new year will be so much better than this one.
  3. I wonder why its a lot harder to find funny new year’s memes than Christmas ones? Makes you think.

doug

Link:

Nearly Everything About ADHD

Bonus Links:

Overwhelmed webinar- Bonnie Mincu

New Strategy — Melissa Orlov (not just for marriage)

 

2021’s gotta be different!
So far.
yeah, right!

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Overindulge? With ADHD? — ADHD Tip O the Day 935

With ADHD, we are at risk.

I hope you don’t overindulge over the holidays. All you need to do is use your willpower, self-control, and judgment. Assuming you have some. Not all of us do.

My wife makes wonderful cookies.  And pies. Our friends and neighbors give us good eats.  Oh my.   And there’s parties.  And even with the virus, I’ll admit we have some booze at home and there still is a lot to celebrate.

If I can’t see it, it doesn’t exist.  If I can see it, I’ll eat it. (The first part doesn’t necessarily apply to sweets. If someone hides them I can usually find them.)

Strategies:
1. I tend to over drink at parties, especially if the booze is free. I make a rule before I go: one drink, water, one drink, water. Works pretty well, most of the time.

2. Keep reminding myself that it’s much easier to put weight on than it is to get it off.  This strategy rarely has any effect.

NOTICE: There has been a change for this year. The New Year, 2021, does not start until Jan 20. Please make a note of this change.

Jokes O the Day:

One margarita is never enough.
Two margaritas is too many.
Three margaritas is never enough.

       Courtesy of my late friend and mentor, Bo Kemp 

I said, “It doesn’t matter how many times you fall.  What matters is that you keep getting up.”
He said,“That’s not how a sobriety test works.”

She said, “You’re staggering.”
I said, “You’re pretty cute yourself.”
We laughed and laughed and laughed.
I need bail money.

Freak them out.
Too much?

Were you naughty?
Did you call the cops?

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An ADHD Christmas, et al — ADHD Tip O the Day 934

‘Tis the season to be jolly
Fa La La La La etc. etc.

Bah! Humbug. Even with ADHD?

The holiday season is very stressful for many if not most people (family? shopping?), but more so for us.  We’re supposed to be happy,  but if we’re not “jolly“, we may feel  there’s something wrong with us. Well, there isn’t, not about that anyway. Blame it on the culture.

I have a bad track record on Christmas presents for my wife. I’ve usually been able to get her a really nice present, but often the timing is off. “You mean it’s two days before Christmas already?”

This time I had one of my best ideas ever. My wife is from Louisville, likes horses and the Derby. I found I could buy a micro share in a racehorse very cheap.   But I needed to wait till Christmas morning so she could pick the horse. Unlike my usual foul up, I started this way early.

When I checked recently, suddenly they were sold out of horses and the prices had shot way up. Boogers.

Then  fortunately I checked later and found a place that would work. But for my wife to own  the (microshare) horse, I had to put it in her name, and they required all kinds of personal financial information. So I had to blow the secret and discuss it with her, and we decided it just wasn’t safe.

No horse.

So I got a couple other presents, in time.Trying to find where I hid them is near the top of my to do list now.

Strategies:

  1. Shop early, real early.  I use several calendars and my appointment book to try to stay located in time –  know what I mean?

     2. When you hide presents, make a note of where.

Personal Notes:

1. A big welcome to our new members.
2. Books make a wonderful Christmas or Hanukkah present, don’t they?  Just saying. 

3. Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah, Great Kwanza, etc.  to all the tribe.  

doug

 

Christmas is coming, even if you got ADHD.
Its hard to be good with ADHD. That’s my excuse.

Just forget it!
Good Riddance

Link to books

Have You Heard? Christmas Is Coming

Dates coming up- from Shannon

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An ADHD Christmas, et al — ADHD Tip O the Day 934.1

‘Tis the season to be jolly
Fa La La La La etc. etc.

Bah! Humbug. Even with ADHD?

The holiday season is very stressful for many if not most people (family? shopping?), but more so for us.  We’re supposed to be happy,  but if we’re not “jolly“, we may feel  there’s something wrong with us. Well, it’s not. Blame it on the culture.

I have a bad track record on Christmas presents for my wife. I’ve usually been able to get her a really nice present, but often the timing is off. “You mean it’s two days before Christmas already?”

This time I had one of my best ideas ever. My wife is from Louisville, likes horses and the Derby. I found I could buy a micro share in a racehorse very cheap.   But I needed to wait till Christmas morning so she could pick the horse. Unlike my usual Fowler, I started this way early.

When I checked recently, suddenly they were sold out of horses and and the prices had shot way up. Boogers.

Then  fortunately I checked later and found a place that would work. But for my wife to own it the (microshare) horse, I had to put it in her name, and they required all kinds of personal financial information. So I had to blow the secret and discuss it with her, and we decided it just wasn’t safe.

No horse.

So I got a couple other presents, in time.Trying to find where I hid them is near the top of my to do list now.

Strategies:

  1. Shop early, real early.  I use several calendars and my appointment book to try to stay located in time- know what I mean?

     2. When you hide presents, make a note of where.

Personal Notes:

1. A big welcome to our new members.
2. Books make a wonderful Christmas or Hanukkah present, don’t they?  Just saying.     3. Struggling with getting book covers right.  It ain’t easy.

4.  Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah, Great Kwanza, etc.  to all the tribe.  

doug

 

Christmas is coming, even if you got ADHD.
Its hard to be good with ADHD. That’s my excuse.

Just forget it!

Link to books

Have You Heard? Christmas Is Coming

Dates coming up- from Shannon

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“Science Says —” ADHD Tip O the Day 933

“Science says–.”

What does that even mean?

That means that there have been more than one or two studies supporting this hypothesis and the original findings have been replicated by other scientists in other places. The studies have been reviewed by experts in the field who agree that the studies were well designed and the results valid.  Then the  results have been published in reputable scientific journals.  Thus the findings are substantiated by data and evidence and the majority of scientists agree with the findings. 

So, “Science says —.”

 Notes O the Day:

  1. Most scientists have a PhD in their field and do research.
  2. Many MDs, not nearly the majority, are scientists, and some have a Phd also.
  3. I have done a little research and kind of think of myself a little as a scientist because I think in the scientific method.  I am not a researcher.
  4. There are some people without this education or experience  who believe that their opinions are more valid than those of the scientists.
  5. There is a cultural move towards anti science, anti intellectualism, anti experts, and  anti “elitism.”  This is often accompanied by bitterness and conspiracy theories and frequently by a sense of superiority.
  6. Science says that ADHD is a neurodevelopmental disorder. This is supported by brain imaging and other studies, ie by data and evidence.
  7. Science is not perfect.  That’s a topic for another post.

Strategies:

  1. If someone voices an opinion on something, see if they have evidence or data or a reliable source to base it on.
  2. It is rarely worth the time or effort to try to change someone’s mind about something.
  3. It is best to minimize time around toxic people.

doug

Quote O the Day:

“I respect your right to your opinions,

though they may sound like the ravings of a madman.”

Old Spanish saying

Links:

The Scientific Method

The Scientific Method- Extensive Article

Brain Imaging

Our ADHD Brains Are Different
You think WHAT about ADHD?
You can’t tell me what to do! (adolescent)
Really??

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“Science Says —” ADHD Tip O the Day 933.1

“Science says–.”

What does that even mean?

That means that there have been more than one or two studies supporting this hypothesis and the original findings have been replicated by other scientists in other places. The studies have been reviewed by experts in the field who agree that the studies were well designed and the results valid.  Then the  results have been published in reputable scientific journals.  Thus the findings are substantiated by data and evidence and the majority of scientists agree with the findings. 

So, “Science says —.”

 Notes O the Day:

  1. Most scientists have a PhD in their field and do research.
  2. Many MDs, not nearly the majority, are scientists, and some have a Phd also.
  3. I have done a little research and kind of think of myself a little as a scientist because I think in the scientific method.  I am not a researcher.
  4. There are some people without this education or experience  who believe that their opinions are more valid than those of the scientists.
  5. There is a cultural move towards anti science, anti intellectualism, anti experts, and  anti “elitism.”  This is often accompanied by bitterness and conspiracy theories and frequently by a sense of superiority.
  6. Science says that ADHD is a neurodevelopmental disorder. This is supported by brain imaging and other studies, ie by data and evidence.
  7. Science is not perfect.  That’s a topic for another post.

Strategies:

  1. If someone voices an opinion on something, see if they have evidence or data or a reliable source to base it on.
  2. It is rarely worth the time or effort to try to change someone’s mind about something.
  3. It is best to minimize time around toxic people.

doug

Quote O the Day:

“I respect your right to your opinions,

though they may sound like the ravings of a madman.”

Old Spanish saying

Links:

The Scientific Method

The Scientific Method- Extensive Article

Brain Imaging

 

Sorry about laughing at your ideas, but I actually know what ADHD is.
Controversies,research,science,theories,causes,dysfunctions, symptoms,causes of ADHD,symptoms of ADHD,denial of ADHD
What is it really, ADHD?

Our ADHD Brains Are Different. Surprise!

#ADHD, @addstrategies, @adhdstrategies, @dougmkpdp

   

Link to Books:

Amazon print or e book

Smashwords e books only

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Stress and ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 932.5

Stress and ADHD go together- a lot.

With our ADHD, we experience a lot of stress. Stress is damaging to our brains, our functioning and productivity, and our souls. When it interferes with our functioning, it creates more stress, a damaging feedback loop.

We screw up, make people mad at us, procrastinate, struggle with to do lists and deadlines, and on and on. And of course, this virus mess isn’t helping much.

So we need strategies to cope with stress:

Exercise. Get out of doors (at the moment, we’re on quarantine so this isn’t an option). Meditate (this is hard to do, but do a simple form and don’t judge how you do. Just do what you can and it will be worth it. You need to do it daily for it to work, probably takes a while.) Talk to someone. Music. Journal. Do something productive (just get something done, probably something small and easy. It’ll make you feel better.) Use relaxation tools (There are a multitude of these, and they do help. You need to know which ones work for you.)

I like breathing techniques and use several of them. Here’s the simplest:

Breathe in for a count of six, hold your breath for two, breath out for four, hold for two, breathe in for six, etc. Do this for as long as you wish. It doesn’t require a particular posture or anything and you can do it in any situation. (It’s really nice if someone is starting to annoy you).

More Complex Breathing Techniques I Use:

Same as the 6-2-4-2 above, but I breathe in what I want (compassion, equanimity, patience, for example) and expel what I want to get rid of ( irritation, impatience, resentment, for example).

I Use Also:

Alternate nostrils. Three deep breaths.

There are many other breathing techniques. Find what works for you.

doug

Quote O the Day:

“When I said it can’t get much worse, I didn’t mean it as a challenge.”

Extra Notes O the Day:

Diagnosable anxiety disorders are a frequent accompaniment of ADHD, but so is just plain anxiety, which of course is a traveling partner of stress and also further hampers our functioning.

Struggling with books: Your Life Can Be Better, Second edition I think is set up on Amazon and Smashwords, paperback and kindle. Looks a little funky. Alma is one third thru her fourteenth draft, and surprisingly will need a fifteenth since there were a lot more typos and editorial changes than I expected – amazing how messed up it can be even after thirteen drafts. It’s gonna be good. Working on getting The Bully up on Smashwords, difficult. Then, then will revise 365 Tips O the Day. Someday.

The Books Amazon The Books Smashwords

I’ve been asked how I manage to cope with the pandemic. Well, I prefer a blended scotch, but vodka will do.

Links:

Relaxation Tools

More Tools

A Few Breathing Techniques

Stress

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Sometimes its too much
People are annoying.
People!!

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Stress and ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 932

Stress and ADHD go together.

With our ADHD, we experience a lot of stress. Stress is damaging to our brains, our functioning and productivity, and our souls. When it interferes with our functioning, it creates more stress, a damaging feedback loop.

We screw up, make people mad at us, procrastinate, struggle with to do lists and deadlines, and on and on. And of course, this virus mess isn’t helping much.

So we need strategies to cope with stress:

Exercise. Get out of doors (at the moment, we’re on quarantine so this isn’t an option). Meditate (this is hard to do, but do a simple form and don’t judge how you do. Just do what you can and it will be worth it. You need to do it daily for it to work, probably takes a while.) Talk to someone. Music. Journal. Do something productive (just get something done, probably something small and easy. It’ll make you feel better.) Use relaxation tools (There are a multitude of these, and they do help. You need to know which ones work for you.)

I like breathing techniques and use several of them. Here’s the simplest:

Breathe in for a count of six, hold your breath for two, breath out for four, hold for two, breathe in for six, etc. Do this for as long as you wish. It doesn’t require a particular posture or anything and you can do it in any situation. (It’s really nice if someone is starting to annoy you).

More Complex Breathing Techniques I Use:

Same as the 6-2-4-2 above, but I breathe in what I want (compassion, equanimity, patience, for example) and expel what I want to get rid of ( irritation, impatience, resentment, for example).

I Use Also:

Alternate nostrils. Three deep breaths.

There are many other breathing techniques. Find what works for you.

doug

Quote O the Day:

“When I said it can’t get much worse, I didn’t mean it as a challenge.”

Extra Notes O the Day:

Diagnosable anxiety disorders are a frequent accompaniment of ADHD, but so is just plain anxiety, which of course is a traveling partner of stress and also further hampers our functioning.

I’ve been asked how I’m managing to deal with the pandemic. Well, I prefer a blended scotch, but vodka will do.

Links:

Relaxation Tools

More Tools

A Few Breathing Techniques

Stress

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Sometimes its too much
People are annoying.
People!!

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ADHD Clumsiness? — ADHD Tip O the Day 931

Are you clumsy?  I am. We have ADHD. 

Did you know that clumsy is a part of ADHD, even if it’s not in the criteria for diagnosis?  It’s not a criteria because the criteria are chosen to distinguish a diagnosis from other possible diagnoses, and clumsy does not do that, because it apparently can come from a number of other diagnoses. There are other symptoms that are similarly not in the criteria but that we ADHDers have more than our share of.  Irritability is one for example.

My view is that if the wiring between our cerebellum and our basal ganglia is screwed up, both of which are involved with coordination of movement, then guess what.  Dyscoordination, uncoordinated, klutzy, clumsy!

Our problems are more in fine motor movements than in large motor movements.  So in football, I could play in the line but never be a back or a receiver.  But we can have problems in large motor movements too; I was the second slowest guy on the team.

We also have problems with balance, related mostly to the cerebellum.

So my theory is that our cerebellums (cerebella?) and basal ganglia are screwed up themselves, and not just the connections between them.

Strategy:

With practice exercises we may be able to improve our coordination and our balance somewhat, and that might even improve our ADHD symptoms somewhat.  Maybe.

doug

Links:

ADHD Clumsiness    

Big study on this – 

More Clumsiness 

Quote O the Day:

“If I haven’t dropped it, spilled it, or knocked it over, it’s probably nailed down.”

             Me

Personal Notes O the Day:

The more I learn about ADHD, the more it explains about me and my experiences. 

I plan to discuss diagnosis, the DSM, and it’s criteria soon.  (“I plan to” – right!)

Your Life Can Be better, using strategies for adult ADHD, second edition, is now on Amazon and Smashwords.  The focus is on strategies to deal with ADHD problems, like procrastination, inertia, distraction, overwhelmed, disorganization, etc., with  special sections on studying and learning, ADHD medications, and others.

Getting this done has been a booger. I’m still struggling with the cover which isn’t quite right but I may have to live with it.  There’s been some sales but no reviews show yet.  Reviews are always appreciated.  Unfortunately, on Smashwords you have to buy the book to leave a review, but not on Amazon.  Fortunately, the eBook versions are inexpensive.

The second edition is improved, and many typos and other errors are corrected (at least I think so.)

The novel, Alma Means Soul, is on the 15th and I hope final draft.  I’m still fixing errors and a few editing issues.  I really like it.  The writing style is rather unique; some of the beta readers loved it and some didn’t.  The current problem is getting a cover.

I like writing, editing not so much, marketing even less.  Part of my ADHD problem is trying to do too much at the same time.  Still, I am getting it done.  I hope people will find the books useful and enjoyable.

Let’s see if we can’t do it all!

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ADHD Clumsiness — ADHD Tip O the Day 931

Are you clumsy?  I am. We have ADHD. 

Did you know that clumsy is a part of ADHD, even if it’s not in the criteria for diagnosis?  It’s not a criteria because the criteria are chosen to distinguish a diagnosis from other possible diagnoses, and clumsy does not do that, because it apparently can come from a number of other diagnoses. There are other symptoms that are similarly not in the criteria but that we ADHDers have more than our share of.  Irritability is one for example.

My view is that if the wiring between our cerebellum and our basal ganglia is screwed up, both of which are involved with coordination of movement, then guess what.  Dyscoordination, uncoordinated, klutzy, clumsy!

Our problems are more in fine motor movements than in large motor movements.  So in football, I could play in the line but never be a back or a receiver.  But we can have problems in large motor movements too; I was the second slowest guy on the team.

We also have problems with balance, related mostly to the cerebellum.

So my theory is that our cerebellums (cerebella?) and basal ganglia are screwed up themselves, and not just the connections between them.

Strategy:

With practice exercises we may be able to improve our coordination and our balance somewhat, and that might even improve our ADHD symptoms somewhat.  Maybe.

doug

Links:

ADHD Clumsiness    

Big study on this – 

More Clumsiness 

Quote O the Day:

“If I haven’t dropped it, spilled it, or knocked it over, it’s probably nailed down.”

me

Personal Notes O the Day:

The more I learn about ADHD, the more it explains about me and my experiences. 

I plan to discuss diagnosis, the DSM, and it’s criteria soon.  (“I plan to” – right!)

 

Pet Peeve Number Four:

When I finally learn how to use something like WordPress and it’s working fine and they decide to “improve” it and totally screw it up.

Grandkids are wonderful
Don’t forget the poor old cerebellum.

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ADHD Brain Net Works — ADHD Tip O the Day 930

Our ADHD Brains Are Different

Networks connect Regions which function using Neurotransmitters.

Because we ADHDer have problems in the neworks, downstream our regions are deficient in the neurotransmitters dopamine and norepinephrine. The stimulant medications work to correct and normalize this. We also have structural problems in the regions themselves, plus delayed maturity of the brain. It’s all a pretty heavy hit, and all supported by research, which heavily supports that ADHD is a real brain disorder and that it is discrete and not a spectrum issue.

Two ADHD Neworks:

“During performance of attention-demanding tasks, prefrontal and parietal structures that comprise the taskpositive network are characterized by increases in activation; in contrast, default mode network structures, including posterior cingulate and medial prefrontal cortices, are characterized by decreased activity.”

“One meta-analysis of 16 functional MRI studies of adults with and without ADHD demonstrated that the patterns of under- and over-activation differed significantly. — Networks under-activated in ADHD were almost exclusively located in the frontoparietal network, whereas over-activated regions were found in the visual, dorsal attention and default mode networks.14

Other Networks:

“Effects were located in brain regions associated with multiple neuronal systems including the default-mode network, the salience network, and the central executive system.”

“Notably, there is mounting evidence suggesting that ADHD could be regarded as a default mode network (DMN) disorder. In particular, failure in regulating the dynamics of activity and interactions of the DMN and cognitive control networks have been hypothesized as the main source of task interference causing attentional problems.”

Brain Regions in ADHD (My thinking in italics.)

The ADHD brain has impaired activity in four functional regions of the brain:

Frontal Lobe Cortex

This region controls high-level functions:

Attention

Executive Function

Organization

2. Limbic System

Limbic System (includes amygdala)

Regulates our emotions and attention.

Basal ganglia

The major relay system among the many pathways that enter & leave the brain. A deficiency here can cause inattention, impulsivity, or hyperactivity. And poor coordination because it is supposed to make movements smooth.

Reticular Activating System

A diffuse network of nerve pathways in the brainstem connecting the spinal cord, cerebrum, and cerebellum, and mediating the overall level of consciousness.

I also believe there is either a deficiency in the cerebellum, which also controls movement and has other functions, or it looks like a deficiency because of inadequate network connections.

Links:

The ADHD Brain  

Brain Networks

The Default Mode Network

Delayed maturation in the ADHD brain

Pet Peeve Number Three:

Representative on the phone: “What is your name, please?”

Me: ” Doug Puryear.”

Representative: “Can you spell that?”

Me: “Yes.”

Welcome O the Day: Susan

doug

Brain Regions-screwed up in ADHD

Our ADHD Brains Are Different. Surprise!
The ADHD Brain

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ADHD Hypersensitivity — ADHD Tip O the Day 929

The post on rejection sensitivity dysphoria (RSD) lead to the post on emotional hypersensitivity but we ADHDers are hypersensitive to many things, not just emotions.


I’m hypersensitive to noise in general, and certain noises in particular. Certain smells. Even my pet peeves could be an example of hypersensitivity, probably based on irritability, which could also be a part of hypersensitivity.


There are also positive examples of hypersensitivity. There are certain sounds that I really like, like my tapping in rhythms, or making a glass ring, and I can spend time just making them to enjoy them. A slight touch of autism?- I don’t think so, although there is an overlap of ADHD and autism genes.

We could be hypersensitive because our frontal lobes may not do a good job of tamping down our amygdala; controlling our emotions. Or of tuning out distractions, which I call the gating function, which I think is a big part of schizophrenia.


Our strategies can come from being aware of our hypersensitivities, like dealing with irritability for example

Pet Peeve Number Two:

Representative on the phone, after my long long wait: “Thank you for your patience.”

Me: “Who in the hell told you I have patience? I’ve never had any patience.”

Poem O the Day:


I’ve gained so much weight
It’s a terrible thing to see
I blame it all on the virus
What else could it possibly be?

Links:

Hypersensitivity

ADHD Irritability – Strategies

Many ADHD Topics

Welcome O the Day:

To Sharman, welcome to our tribe.

And to all of you.

And a special thanks to all who contribute comments. Love them!

doug

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Science and ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 928

If you know all about the bell shaped curve, please scroll down to ADHD and the Curve.

Many phenomena and most human attributes follow a bell shaped curve distribution. Height, for example. If you have a room of a hundred people, line them up by height; there will be a few very short ones and a few very tall, most in between. If you draw a graph of height versus number of people of that height, you get a bell shaped curve.

Bell Shaped Curve

number of people on left, Y axis. Height on bottom, X axis

This does not fit for discrete features, like eye color for example.

ADHD and the Curve:

One of the ADHD controversies is whether ADHD is part of a spectrum, for example, some people have very good attention and some have very poor and most are in the middle and we ADHDers on on the left –

The Spectrum Theory

Or, whether we are not on the curve, but have a discrete condition. This is what I believe.

The Discrete Condition Theory

More Science: Treatment:

80 percent of ADHDers will respond to either methylphenidate or amphetamine, maybe 5 percent will only respond to one of these and maybe 15 percent will not respond to either. And there’s a small percent that can’t tolerate the meds.

If the child is under six, start with a behavioral program. If six or older, behavioral program plus medication. The progam includes parent training and school intervention.

Links:

The ADHD Controversy

Dr. Barkley on ADHD in Adults – i don’t agree with all of his points, but it’s a good discussion.

treatment recommendations

Jokes O the Day:

  1. An ADHDer walk into a bar.

Of course.

2. A dyslexic walks into a rab.

Personal Note O the Day:

My plan is to do a broad survey of science, maybe in intermittent posts. That’s my plan anyway. (But remember that I have ADHD.)

Any thoughts about this?

You don’t understand ADHD?
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We need a change.

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ADHD Emotions Number Whatever — ADHD Tip O the Day 927

Hypersensitivity is not included in the criteria for diagnosing ADHD, but it is a common feature.

So are irritability and rejection sensitivity dyphoria, which could just be part of hypersensitivity.

These three things aren’t included in the DSM diagnostic criteria, primarily because they don’t help discriminate between ADHD and some other problems.

Some years ago I learned about ADHD irritability, which explained a lot. Today I learned about ADHD hypersensitivity, which explained a lot more, including my RSD, which I recently posted about.

My Pet Peeves – Things I’ve wanted to say but surprisingly have been able to restrain myself (usually).

  1. Wait person at the restaurant,” No problem.”

Me: “You’re the the waiter. I’m the customer. Why in the world would it ever be a problem?”

Links:

Hypersensitivity

rejection sensitivity dyphoria

DSM criteria

Sensory Processing Disorder

Personal Notes O the Day:

  1. I just got Your Life Can Be Better, using strategies for adult ADHD, published on Amazon.com, e book and paper back and e book on Smashwords. I’ll try to send my wonderful volunteer reviewers drafts today.
  2. The next post on emotions will be number six. I could’ve spent the time to go back and find the right number but this time I think my common sense won out over my OCD (Strategy: Good enough is good enough.).
  3. I think Sensory Processing Disorder may also just be a part of ADHD, not a separate diagnosis.
  4. Geek – it’s mkpdp@livecom. thank you

New Scientific Finding:

The purpose of the little toe is so that we can make sure our furniture is in the right place in the dark.

Who knew?!

ADHD Emotions-hypersensitivity

Does that explain it?
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ADHD and Science part one— ADHD Tip O the Day 926

There’s a big anti-science movement today, with some people being born knowing all there is to know and not having to study or learn like the rest of us. I’m still a fan of science, as opposed to ignorance, conspiracy theory, gut feelings and unfounded opinion. Science is far from perfect, but it’s the best tool we have.


A lot of ADHD research is being done, but most of it seems to be plowing old ground, finding more information about our brain structures, networks, neurotransmitters, and the underlying genes for ADHD. This is a good thing, but it’s not very exciting.


The new data overwhelmingly shows that our ADHD is real and that our brains are different from vanilla’s. If you think this proof will help you in a discussion with doubters and nonbelievers, let me assure you that it will not.

Personal Note O the Day:

The second edition of Your Life Can Be Better will be published within the next two weeks, hopefully. I’d like to send you a final draft if you would post a review on amazon.com and any other book sites. I’ll notify you when it’s .
Thanking you in advance.

doug


Strategy of the day:


Minimize contact with toxic people.

Since I’ve been pushing laughing as a good practice, I’m including a

Joke O the Day:


I was at the swimming pool and suddenly I urgently had to pee. So I just peed in the deep end of the pool.

The lifeguard blew his whistle so loud, I nearly fell in.

Links O the Day:

ADHD Research

Alternative, or better, Supplemental Approaches

Med Effects on ADHD Brain

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What is it really, ADHD?
Really??
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More on ADHD Emotions — ADHD Tip O the Day 925

With ADHD, we have so many frustrations, disappointments, failures, and negative interactions that it’s no wonder we have a lot of episodes of feeling down. And then there’s RSD too. But there are strategies for dealing with feeling down.

Rachel Wise asked me to write about the strategies and she did an amazing job of turning my little blurb into a work of art for her website. So the link gives you today’s ADHD Tip O the Day today.

link

doug

Bonus Note O the Day:

We ADHDers also have a significant incidence of actual depression, but that’s another topic.

Poem O the Day:

I’ve gained eight ugly pounds
Right where anyone can see
I blame it all on the virus
Where else could any blame be?

Bonus ADHD Links:

ADHD Comorbidity

ADHD and Depression

Lament O the Day:

WordPress has “improved” it’s format for blogging. There are only two problems with the new system – it’s much much harder to use and there’s some things you can’t do anymore. I hate it.

ADHD Depression

  ADHD Depression

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Side Effects? — ADHD Tip O the Day 924

A conversation I often had about any medicine, including for ADHD

“What are the side effects of that medicine, Doc?”

“That’s the wrong question.”

“What do you mean?”

“You want to know what are the possible side effects and what are the chances you will get any of them.”

All medicines have possible side effects.  So does water, for that matter.  And so do all the alternatives, supplements, naturals, etc.  The drug companies are required to list all the effects that someone, somewhere, sometime had that might possibly have been due to the medicine.

That does not mean that you, or your child, will get them.

You want to know the percentages.  Did half the people who took this medicine get this side effect, or was it one in two million people?  So what are the chances you will get it? And how serious is it?

“I don’t want to take that medicine, Doctor.  I don’t want to gain weight.”

” You won’t gain weight on it.”

“But you said weight gain was one of the side effects!”

“No, I said weight gain was one of the possible side effects. There’s a 50% chance you would start to gain weight on it.  There’s a 50% chance you wouldn’t. If you start to gain weight, we’d stop the medicine.  So, either way, you won’t  gain weight.”

Common misconceptions about medicines and side effects:

  1. If a medicine has a side effect listed, that means if you take the medicine you will get the side effect. 
  2. If you get a side effect, you’re stuck with it forever.

Facts: 

1. “Side effects” are only possible side effects.  That does not mean you will get them.

2. If you do get side effects, often they will go away or improve in about 10 days with most psychiatric meds.  This is less true with stimulants.

3. If you get side effects, we can often manage them by changing the dose and/or the timing of the med.

3. If they are too bad, or if they don’t improve enough, we’ll stop the medicine. 

4.  If we stop the medicine, the side effects will soon go away. There are rare possible exceptions but none for ADHD meds.

Everyone is different and unique, and we don’t know how a medicine will work for you until we try it. I believe that everyone with ADHD deserves a try of medication.

doug

Quote O the Day:

“My short term memory is shot, and besides that, I can’t remember things.”

I don’t recall who this quote is from.

Personal Notes O the Day: 

Your Life Can Be Better, second edition, and Alma Means Soul are both in the hands of helpers now.  Hope both can be published within next two months.  Excited.

Thinking of doing series on ADHD science, meds, and emotions.  Maybe.  I’m running out of poems, maybe you’re just as glad.

For Scott:  Dinos recommends Google Keep.  See  Comment

Follow up O the Day:

Medical marijuana is legal for many conditions in New Mexico, but not for ADHD

Links:

ADHD Meds

ADHD Disorganization, Insomnia, etc.

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ADHD Emotions Part 3— ADHD Tip O the Day 923

Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria as a part of  ADHD

Do I have RSD?  I don’t know.  I reread the article, it says usually the crashes just last for hours, mine last a day or two. Still, I’m certainly overly sensitive and over reactive, although pretty it’s pretty much limited to my wife.

I’ve thought the overreaction was just due to so many failures and so much criticism which comes with our ADHD, such damage to our self esteem, that we were fragile, vulnerable and oversensitive to any negative input.  I hadn’t imagined it as a syndrome, a symptom, or a separate diagnosis.

Anyway, whatever, it’s a booger.

doug

Links O the Day:

ADHD Expo

More Dr. Dodson

Three good posts

Personal Note O the Day:

Finished two books last week! Your life Can Be Better, using strategies for adult ADHD, and Alma Means Soul, my first novel. Now comes the hard and dreaded work of publishing them. Will be looking for reviewers.

Poem O the Day:

Definitions

If I’m decrepit now,

What happened to my crepit?

Question O the Day:

Do the poems add or detract to the post?  please vote on the poems – just yes or no.  thanks

 

Follow up O the Day:

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New Mexico Medical Cannibis Law

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I AM CALM!!!!

 

I’m a little down.

 

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ADHD Emotions, Part Two — ADHD Tip O the Day 922

“Rejection sensitive dysphoria is not a formal diagnosis, but rather one of the most common and disruptive manifestations of emotional dysregulation — a common but under-researched and oft-misunderstood symptom of ADHD, particularly in adults.”

I read this article and dismissed it. I hadn’t seen Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria in my patients nor in myself nor read about it elsewhere.  And I’ve learned that not everything I read on the net is true, you know what I mean? Then I noticed that the article was by William Dodson, MD.  He’s an ADHD guru that I respect.  So I read it again.

Guess what?  I have it.

My wife occasionally gets mad at me or frustrated with me, often with good reason (I’ll not try to define “occasionally” nor “often.”)  She usually gets over it in half an hour or an hour.  I’m deeply wounded for a day or two.  Sounds like an example of —– Rejection sensitive dysphoria.

Please clk the link and read the article.  There’s a lot more to it.

Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria – Dodson

doug

Bonus Links:

ADHD and Irritability, Anger

emotions

Questions O the Day:

  1. Anyone else have Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria?

2. Can someone help Scott with Android apps for ADHD?   Dinos?

See Scott’s comment:

Thank you for this blog and for your book! I recently got my first smartphone and it is very “Shiny”, as in way to interesting for this ADDer, but I am hoping to use it to help me, as well as be the distraction that it is.
I am wondering if you or any of your readers have any recommendations for an app for an android phone that I can use to make my lists, like the cards in your book with the various lists? I don’t have any real experience with phones like this yet and I figured someone else might have already figured out a good system.

Poem O the Day:

I Was Old for a While

I was old for a while,

And it wasn’t too bad,

then I became old and decrepit.

Decrepit, I don’t care for so much.

 

Personal notes of the day:

Finished the final draft of Your Life Can Be Better, second edition!!! Whew!  Now it’s with Jo for publishing work.  Have started again on Alma Means Soul, which I really like.

ADHD Emotions

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What can I say?

 

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ADHD and Emotions — ADHD Tip O the Day 921

There is some interesting new research on emotions in ADHD.         

I plan to do a series on the topic, interspersed with other subjects.

Spoiler Alert: It’s possible this will a little disorganized.  You think?

Definitions:(excerpts from Your Life Can Be Better, 2nd edition):

self esteem – how we feel about ourselves, especially our sense of worth.

self image – the picture of ourselves we carry in our head; who we think we are, what we think we’re like

shame- the emotion we feel when we aren’t measuring  up to our standards, or those of others, and we feel exposed, feeling that others can or soon will see our failure and our flaws. A deep seated basic internal feeling. A common result of ADHD.

We all want to be OK (self image). Related to this is perfectionism.  We tend to move to perfectionism because we mess up so often and we get get so much  criticism, very damaging to our self esteem.  But if I can do this perfectly, then no one can criticize me, and it’ll  prove to them, and to me, that I’m not a total screw up and loser (self image).

Unfortunately, perfectionism only make things worse, because we never can achieve perfect,   so we’ve failed again, and it also fosters procrastination, because the task is impossible.

This stuff is all connected, isn’t it.  A lot of things in life work in feedback loops.

Quotes O the Day:

 “I’m crazy. You’re crazy.  We’re all crazy.”

“I’m not OK.  I’m not not OK. I’m just me.”

       De Mello

Links :

Self Esteem

“Proactivity” – Why we choose the less important task

Extra notes of the day:

Morwen Edhelwen kindly pointed out that “vanilla” is a term widely used in the BDSM community with a specific meaning.  So I’ve  considered not using it anymore, but  it’s widely used for non ADHDers in the ADHD community  and I assume that the ADHD community is larger than the BDSM community (beware of assumptions) so I’ve decided to keep using it.  Besides, I like it.  I will consider any disagreements?

The novel Alma Means Soul and the other ADHD book are on hold while I struggle with the second edition of Your Life Can Be Better.  Making some progress. Some.  Thanks  to Jo for much help and to Dinos for gracious help offer.

Please note Scott’s comment below and see if you can help him.  Android phone?  Tech?  Dinos?

Poem O the Day:

The Plants

Some of the plants in the aquarium
I lifted (borrowed? stole?)from our little pond.

There’s so much foliage there
They certainly won’t be missed.

In my small aquarium, they stand out,

unique, special,

striving upwards towards the light

As I’m sure we all do

Is it ADHD? Or crazy? Or both?

Self Esteem with ADHD

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James Clear on Habits – ADHD Tip O the Day 920

James Clear’s excellent book, Atomic Habits, covers the same material I’ve been writing about for years; how you can make good habits and get rid of bad ones. However, since his focus is solely on habits and mine just includes habits in writing about ADHD, he goes into much greater depth.  You may recognize that I frequently include good tips from Clear’s posts here.
I was pleased and surprised to see that his principles are the same that I’ve been promoting, he simply uses different terms.
I highly recommend this book for ADHDer ‘s, as well as for anyone else who would like to improve their life.

Some of the tools for changing habits: spotting, small steps, anchors,  are previously posted.

doug

Links:

On Habits

Atomic Habits on Amazon

Quotes O the Day:

“How stupid can they be!?”

       my wife, reading a newspaper headline

“I don’t know.  Maybe there’s no limit?”

        me, in reply

Personal Notes O the Day:

  1. I hope you won’t mind, but I’m going to post some of my poems here. I know it’s irrelevant to AHDD, but where the hell else can I post them?
  2. I’m about through the final draft of Your Life Can Be Better, second edition, and then I can get back to the novel, Alma Means Soul, and then, and t h e n,  and t   h   e   n, the new redo of 365 Days.  Maybe we could have a lottery on guessing the publication dates?  I anticipate all three for this year (!!!!???)
  3.  Maybe the relevance is that it is possible to get things done, even with ADHD, even if it’s not easy, and that one of the common “benefits” of ADHD is creativity?

Poem O the Day:

Our Last Dog

Since we lost Emma, our last dog,

I’ve been reduced to an aquarium.

We’ve firmly decided, once again,

but finally, this time, finally,

not to get another dog,

and we’ve rejected various options,

parakeets, gerbils, hamsters, guinea pigs, cats.

That’s about it.

We never even considered  reptiles.

So now I’m responsible for the lives of two small fish,

two large snails,

and two small cherry red shrimp.

It’s a little like being God.

A very little.

A small catfish I recently purchased abruptly vanished.

That’s one of the mysteries that comes with aquariums.

I refrain from trying to pet the fish.

 

White Cloud Mountain Fish

 

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Why Use Strategies and Habits for ADHD? — ADHD Tip O the Day 919

Insights on living with ADHD:

I finished another retreat and again gained some insights, some of which I’ll share with you.

The purpose of the ADHD strategies and the habits is to make your life easier, to decrease pressure and busyness, and to decrease frustration.   And maybe even the big internal flywheel can slow down. Or maybe even stop? 

The purpose of the strategies and habits approach is  not to make us more productive,  to accomplish more, to get even busier. It’s to make us more efficient, so that we’ll have time to relax, to enjoy life, to practice being  and not just doing.

Books I recommend:

Present Over Perfect -Niequist  (Spiritual, but if you are not, you could still get a lot out of it.)

Atomic Habits  -Jame Clear – I write about habits a lot, but Clear has a whole book about them with great detail.

Maybe You Should Talk with Someone – Lori Gottlieb – about therapy, one particular form. 

doug

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Busy with ADHD

Too Busy with ADHD?

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Marijuana and ADHD? — ADHD Tip O the Day 918

Does Marijauna help with ADHD?

I recently answered this question about marijuana (weed, pot) on another website. My answer stimulated a lot of controversy. 

My answer began, “I don’t recommend marijuana. “

Apparently some people took this as my being against marijuana, against marijuana users, and against themselves personally. Some were quite passionate. Several said weed really helped them with ADHD.  That’s personal experience and I have no reason to disbelieve them, although I’ve never heard, seen, or read of this anywhere else.

What I meant was, ‘I do not recommend marijuana for ADHD.’

It’s possible that some of the responders are involved in the marijuana business. If so, they’d be more knowledgeable than I am, but is it possible that they might also be a little bit biased?

My view:
1. Marijuana can be helpful for a number of things, chronic pain, for example, where it’s approved for medical use.

2.  I’ve seen no research supporting use of marijuana for ADHD nor any patients who it helped with ADHD. I’ve seen some research against it.  Research reports are based on averages. There are always some exceptions, people at one end or the other of the bell shaped curve.

3.  Research shows that marijuana is harmful to the developing brain, up to around age 25. This is slightly controversial.  Marijuana can cause various problems, can be addictive, can precipitate psychosis in susceptible adolescents. It’s probably not as bad as alcohol. Both are damaging with heavy chronic use.

4. I support legalization of marijuana, for several reasons.

5. I think CBD oil can supply many of the same benefits as marijuana without the drawbacks (and without the high.) I use it to help with leg cramps and sometimes with insomnia. 

6. There are many ways to use marijuana without smoking it. Smoking any substance is bad for your health.

7. Research shows that it can be difficult to know what strain of marijuana you’re buying, and that there may not be much difference between the various strains. This is controversial also.

8. If you’re using pot for ADHD and it helps, great, as long as it’s not causing you problems (check this with someone who knows you well, preferably a non-user) and if you’re not smoking it.  Still, I’d worry about long term effects if you’re a heavy daily user.  Have you tried CBD?  A few people who use CBD for other medical reasons say it works best if there’s a  little THC with it.

Comments?

doug

 

Links:

About marijuana

Cannabis use disorder

Recreational Use

CBD and med interactions  I haven’t read this anywhere else.

Song O the Day  link

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Does pot help ADHD?

 

 

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ADHD and Changing — Tip O the Day 916

Puryear’s Principles of Human Behavior #1

After we struggle and struggle with a problem and finally find some effective way to cope with it, the next thing we do is stop doing it.

Maybe one of the reasons is that the novelty wears off eventually, even tho it’s working? 

I imagined that when I retired, life would be much different.  No more pressure, “too busy,” “too much to do,” not enough time.  The giant flywheel inside constantly turning and saying, “Hurry!  Hurry! ”

But what do you think?  Surprise, surprise!  There wasn’t much difference.

So I started to make some changes:

  1. I no longer record in my evening gratitude booklet the things I got done for the day: guitar, gym, writing, etc.
  2. I’m no longer use my beloved index cards, at least not in the same way. I put my five  to-do list items on a small whiteboard on my desk and I note things like to- do’s, to remembers, on a yellow sticky inside the appointment book that’s always in my pocket.
  3. I’m no longer require myself to do a post every Tuesday. If Tuesday isn’t convenient, I do it some other day.
  4. I no longer require myself to always fix the way wordpress screws my posts up, like these #%%^^$ extra numbers.
  5. And others.

So I’m more flexible and I’m less demanding of myself.

But I think this approach wouldn’t have worked for me before I retired.  I needed the structure, organization, and rules.  I still do, just not so much.

I’m working on spending more time being and less time doing.  I wonder if I could’ve done that before retirement?  I think maybe so.  It certainly would’ve been worth trying.

So my recommendation to you, if you are not retired, is to keep using the tools and strategies that help you get through the day, but try to see if you can schedule in some time for just being.  If you can do that, your life will be better.  You can try it.

Good luck.

doug

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Links:

Misunderstandings about ADHD and some new ideas

Books

From Tom Woodard:

snuck up on me!

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The (used to be ) whiteboard

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Blurting with ADHD— ADHD Tip O the Day 915

People with ADHD tend to be impulsive and lacking in social skills.  Those may be related?  We tend to blurt out, to say inappropriate things.

Can you think of your most embarrassing moment?  Was it related to ADHD?  Mine was.

Think of a boy in junior high school.  What are those boys like?

It was our eighth grade graduation.  I was in the third row, with parents, other relatives, and teachers in the honor seats in front of us.  The dignitaries were up on the stage doing dignitarial things.  It was very boring.

They finally got to the awards part and they got to the Good Citizenship Award.  No one was holding their breath; it was a given that Nikki would win it.

So I was beyond shocked, startled, amazed and totally unprepared when they called my name.

I blurted out a short exclamation. 

Loudly.  

At the time that word was in common usage among me and my junior high peers and it also carried much more weight than it does these days.

I doubt if my exclamation carried much beyond the rows of adults in front of me and all the way up to the stage.  I hope not. No one ever said anything about it.

” I been f—–!” 

Then I went up to the stage to get my Good Citizenship Award.

As you may expect, that was not the last time I ever blurted out anything inappropriate, but it was the most outstanding. I have learned that occasionally a small voice in my head will say quietly, “Doug, maybe it would be better not to say that.” Sometimes.  And sometimes I listen to it.  That would be a good strategy.

(I hope you don’t think I’m bragging about my junior high school award.)

doug

Links:

Inappropriate Again?

blurt

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Misdiagnosed ADHD? — ADHD Tip O the Day 914

Misdiagnosed ADHD?

A friend asked if his bipolar diagnosis could actually be misdiagnosed ADHD.

ADHD has many comorbidities,  other problems that frequently occur with it.
Bipolar (used to be manic depressive) is a major one.

In US adults, 1 to 4% have bipolar; about 4% have ADHD.

Over half of people with bipolar also have ADHD; about 20 % of people with ADHD  also have bipolar. I assume there’s some commonality in genes, miswiring, and brain chemistry.

Some of the symptoms of ADHD and hypomania (mild mania) appear somewhat similar but a good history should make misdiagnosis rare. 

Bipolar usually onsets in the early 20s; ADHD in childhood. ADHD moods fluctuate rapidly with events; bipolar moods last days to months and often have no identifiable precipitant. Bipolar symptoms occur in episodes, with periods of normal in between; ADHD symptoms are always present, although they may wax and wane somewhat. 

Full mania has such severe symptoms that it would be hard to mistake it for ADHD. Bipolar always has depressive episodes; people with ADHD often get a depression. The diagnosis is a little more difficult in someone who’s depressed who might also have ADHD.

If you’re unsure about diagnosis, get a good evaluation from a psychiatrist or psychologist who knows about ADHD; not all do. And take someone with you who knows you, preferably from childhood.  We don’t always see ourselves accurately.

doug

Bonus: from Comments: ADHD app, from Dinos, the tech guy:

“Doug, if you’re curious about using cell phones to maintaining lists check out an app called Microsoft To Do. it’s really simple and doesn’t overwhelm you with features but has this really neat feature/concept called My Day. Check out this lady’s blog post where she talks about it a little more in-depth
https://www.amandasterner.com/post/starting-with-microsoft-to-do

I hope you all read the comments; they’re very good.

Question O the Day:

Do you read the comments?

Personal Comments O the Day:

I’m pretty sure we’re not supposed to use three colons in the same sentence.

The ADHD book and the novel are on hold while I’m correcting errors, mostly typos, in Your Life Can Be Better  and publishing a second edition What appeared to be a simple project has turned into a nightmare.  I’m enormously grateful for help from Jo and my son in law or I might’ve given up.

Quote O the Day:

“Nothing is ever easy.”

           doug puryear

More on Bipolar If You Wanted:

Bipolar, used to be manic depressive, has two forms:

Bipolar I has recurrent episodes of mania and depression, usually with periods of normality in between.

Bipolar II is the same except the mania never reaches full mania, just “hypomania.”

books link

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Our ADHD Brains Are Different

 

 

 

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ADHD Changes — ADHD Tip O the Day 913

Puryear’s Principles of Human Nature – Number One:

“If we struggle and struggle with a problem, and we  finally find a solution that works, the next thing we do is to stop using it.”

One of my favorite strategies is the index cards in my pocket, especially the red one for the list of five.  This has been extremely helpful to me.  But I don’t use it anymore.

Since I’ve retired, most of my time is at home.  So it’s convenient to use a small White Board on my desk and keep my list of five on that.  For jotting things down, I keep ayellow sticky in the front of my appointment book.  This is easily replaced when it’s full, and my appointment book is always with me wherever I am.

It is easy to attribute this change to my retirement, but it’s more complicated.  There are other strategies that I’ve dropped.  Some of them are replaced with something better; others, I just forget to use, at least until some problem blindsides me again.

Maybe even when something works, the novelty wears off and we eventually get bored with it?

What do you think?

doug

Extra Note O the Day:

I still have two index cards, a list of all the passwords and another for the list of principles I’m trying to follow.  I keep these in my appointment book.

Quote O the Day:

“Nothing ever stays the same.”

Questions O the Day:

  1. Do normal people, “vanillas,” just automatically never set things on the edge of the counter or the table?  Or do they do it but somehow don’t knock them off?

2. Can you put vodka in a humidifier? — asking for a friend.

3. Don’t most people use their cell phones for lists and everything?  I still don’t.

Links:

Lists

Index Cards

Tips for Managing ADHD

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Creativity, an ADHD Gift?

 

 

 

 

 

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Dystechnologia and ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 912

Dystechnologia is not an official part of ADHD. 

But I sure have it, and I think it’s one of the frequently occurring comorbidities.  Could result from our symptoms, lack of focus, etc., or could be related to the same brain miswiring. 

Anyone else have it?

Technology:

Pros: Supposed make our lives easier (but does it?)

We can do things we couldn’t do without it.

Some things we can do in much less time.

Cons: Can cause major frustration (I never can get a wordpress post to come out just like I want. And my mouse isn’t working right.)

Can be a major time waster.

Gives us many more things to do, so we’re busier.

And so many choices, uses up psychic energy and reduces willpower.

doug

Personal Note O the Day: The saga continues:

Review of previous episode:

Amazon shows errors on Your Life Can Be Better. Finally decide to fix them.  Can’t find manuscript file. Call KDP.  They email manuscript. Fix Amazon’s eight errors. Find over 100 more.  Fix those.  Decide I need to do a second edition.

New episode:

  1. For second edition, need new cover. Can’t find cover file. Call KDP.  Krishna, very knowledgeable, says they will fix it for me.  Long discussion, clear agreement about what’s needed.
    2. They totally screw up cover.
    3. Call KDP.  Lady says there’s nothing they can do, they can’t make changes, I will have to start all over from scratch. I say they can make changes, they screwed it up.  She says can’t help.
    4. Call son-in-law, knowledgeable, says he will redo cover.  Waiting and hoping.             5. Woke up this morning, computer totally screwed up. “We cannot open your account“
    6. Followed their instruction. Doesn’t work.
    7. Googled this error. Many instructions.  They don’t work.  They say try safe mode.
    8 Can’t get into safe mode.  Googled safe mode, got instructions. They don’t work.
    9. Stumble into safe mode. Follow previous instructions for correcting error. They don’t work
    10. Return to save mode. Try system restore. It freezes. Against instructions, fearfully and reluctantly shut down computer. Restart.                                                                        11. It works! For the moment.  Get message that restore was successful (?).      12.Working on this post. Morning shot to hell.

Relevant comments on technology:

from tina:  What you have gone through is absurd. I find technology and the lack of real support obnoxious. i suspect you are fairly young compared to me because you are ok with all of this nonsense. i am in my early 70’s-technology today has nearly forced me to stop using my laptop-it is completely absurd . 9 million steps-everything should be able to be handled with one direct phone call). We need new technology-

(for the sake of honesty I needed to inform Tina that actually I’m a teensy weeny bit older than her, but otherwise she’s right on.)

from ken: The joys of publishing! Doing it for a living, and I know the pain 😊

from anon: It is definitely a learning curve. When Amazon took over from CreateSpace it took me a long and terrifying time to figure out that there’s no actual help from them. You have to get the dimensions exact and locked in for the paperback cover. Good luck with it! If you don’t win soon I’ll be happy to place the text and size it for you to upload.

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Me and my computer – a strange love affair.

Dinos does not have technologia

More Dinos does not have dystechnologia

 

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Strategy: Call someone for help that doesn’t have this problem.

BTW O the Day: Yes, by the way, my Alexa isn’t working either.

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Letting Things Slide — ADHD Tip O the Day 911

It’s a long ADHD story, sad but true, and instructional.

I publish my books on KDP, a subsidiary of Amazon. Their authors’ page lists all the books and their status. I looked at it several times, but not carefully. It looked complicated and daunting, especially to someone technologically challenged. I let it slide.

After several years, some of the books weren’t selling well. I forced myself to check again.  Some of the books had never actually been published. I did manage to fix that.

A few years after Your Life Can Be Better was published, Amazon put little yellow warning signs on it, because it had typos. They sent me an email about eight errors. I didn’t know what to do about this, so I let it slide.

I finally decided to do something about it. I couldn’t find their email, so I let it slide.

Then I found a place to clik that would list the errors, so I didn’t need the email. But I couldn’t find the manuscript file.  So I let it slide.

Months later, I realized I could ask for help, not one of my strong points. I called KDP and  a very helpful lady emailed me a copy of the manuscript. KDP listed the error location numbers, but the manuscript didn’t have location numbers. But I was able to use search and find and correct the errors anyway. 

The little yellow signs went away. Yay!

Then I saw many errors in the manuscript that they hadn’t noted. I used Grammarly and went through the whole script and corrected well over 100 other errors.

Now I need to replace the manuscript. That doesn’t look hard. I’ll try not to let it slide.

Then I need to make it a second edition. This involves, among many other steps, changing the book cover. That seems very complicated. I hope I don’t let it slide.

Strategy:  Don’t let things slide.  You’ll regret it.

doug

Personal Notes O the Day:

Got hyperfocused on the novel. Now I’m ready to pick up the new ADHD book again.  I’ve weeded out the duplicate tips; that was a booger. Now draft twelve will be filling in the holes. Hope that’s easier.

The story above drags out over at least five years. Just so you know.

Thank you,  Annette, for your great help on the novel. One or two more drafts and I can publish it. Excited about it.

Laura, did you have some questions?

Questions O the Day:

  1. Anybody understand how to edit a Kindle book cover easily?  I need to change the title and take out ADD/ADHD; it’s just ADHD now.
  2. I’ve been urged to do audiobooks, but my impression is that it’s too complicated, time consuming, and expensive.  Any thoughts?
  3. Anyone have experiences with letting things slide, or is it just me?

Links:

Relationships and ADHD

Avoiding

books link

How do I even start?

Does that explain it?

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ADHD Time — ADHD Tip O the Day 910

How I spend my time; a typical 24 hours:

Screwing around on the computer.              2.5 hours

Sleeping?                                                              ???

Looking for my cell phone, repeatedly.        1.5 hours

Looking for my glasses.                                      .5

Looking for something else that I just had in my hand.          .75 hours

Asking my wife to find the thing that I couldn’t find, several times.      1 hour

Doing something important that I needed to spend 4 hours on.                             1 hour

Doing something that came up unexpectedly and screwed up my whole schedule.   2 hours

Piddling, accomplishing nothing.                     2 hours

Normal basic activities of life.                          2 hours

Time I cannot account for; God only knows where it went.     3- 6 hours

doug

 

Novel Idea of the Day:

There are many different kinds of time, for example, regular time, ADHD time, and New Mexico Time.

Quote O the Day:

Time is a booger.

me, ADHDer

 

Quiz O the Day:

What does mañana mean in Santa Fe?

(Answer below)

The Whole Time Article

James Clear

ADHD Medications

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Answer:  No, in Santa Fe, mañana does not mean tomorrow.  It means ” not today.”

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What Is Your Time Style?

 

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Does ADHD Medication Help With —? — ADHD Tip O the Day 909

ADHD Medication Helps with Focus, Motivation, Inertia

The medication can be a miracle for some, but it doesn’t seem to help with:

irritability

losing things

memory

patience

time management

sleep

 

Too bad; sorry.  But what it does help with is invaluable.

This is my opinion and experience.  If you have different views I would love to hear them.

doug

Extra Note O the Day:

New research show that sleep problems are a part of ADHD, presumably sharing some of the same gene mutations and miswiring.  If we don’t sleep well, our ADHD symptoms are worse the next day, but paradoxically, it’s important not to worry about the insomnia, as that will only make it worse.  So if I don’t sleep well one night, I’ll just accept it, knowing I’ll sleep better the next night.

Bonus Links:

James Clear

Sleep

Bonnie Mincu

Is your Spouse Always Late?

Book Link

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The Brake and the Accelerator — ADHD Tip O the Day 908

A Little ADHD Science:

We have one amygdala deep in each side of the brain, a small group of nerve cells very involved with emotions.   The frontal lobe is a whole section of the brain, guess where?

Basically, the amygdala is the accelerator.  It’s always on, saying, “Go, go, go! Do it, do it, do it!”

The amygdala is connected to the frontal lobe, the brake, which is not always on, but when it is it says, “Hey, calm down, slow down.  Wait a minute.  Let’s think about this. What are the consequences, the pros and cons of this?” (Note the absence of !’s.)

Ideally, there’s a good connection and a balance between these two, but as we’ve been reading, not all of our ADHD connections, our networks, are in good shape.  This helps understand our impulsiveness.

ADHD Genes:

Recent research says ADHD is about seventy percent heritable. Most cases come from a compilation of a large number of genes with common mutations; the more of these gene mutations  you have the more likely you’ll have ADHD and the more severe it’s likely to be.  Many of these genes are involved in regulating the early development of the brain, including the networks.

To better identify which genes are ADHD involved, the researchers looked at genes involved in the many different types of intellectual impairment (retardation), each of which is usually caused by a rare mutation in a single gene, very different from ADHD.

They found that many of the retardation genes are among those which (with common mutations) are involved in ADHD, and are especially involved in sleep disturbance and hyperactivity.

I think the significance of the gene study is that it specifically identified some of the many genes that contribute to ADHD and opened the door to studying their specific effects on the brain and thus on symptoms.

doug

Personal Notes O the Day:

  1. I’m not sure that I correctly understand anything I’ve said above and I welcome any comments about it.
  2. I’m making progress on both the novel and the ADHD book, creeping along.
  3. Retirement is a lot harder than I’d imagined; I haven’t adjusted to it yet.  I don’t miss the travel, the stress, the burden of responsibility, but I do miss the work itself.  This freedom is what I’d always imagined as heaven, nirvana, bliss, but the time has a tendency to fill up, to get just as busy as before.  It’s hard to balance being and doing, which is my goal now. And it feels like something is missing: zest, color, purpose, significance. Life seems a little bland now; maybe the amygdala is understimulated?  Maybe it’s been somewhat like this for people who’ve been out of work due to the virus?

Possibly Irrelevant Points O the Day:

  1. Sleep problems may be a specific symptom of ADHD. And if we do not get adequate sleep our symptoms get worse.
  2. Some researchers, not these, are using a new definition of intellectual impairment, which includes problems with things like focus and problem solving.  This could lead to interesting effects on research findings and particularly on ADHD.
  3. Many people with intellectual impairment ( the old definition) also have ADHD.  (Life is not fair.)

Coming Up:

I plan to do posts on sleep problems and on which ADHD symptoms are not helped by medication. Any other requests or suggestions?

ADHD Emotions

See in ADHD web sitemany ADHD articles

Ritalin – on, off, on, off

Nature therapy and more

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Clumsy with ADHD? — ADHD Tip O the Day 907

If ADHD is related to abnormalities of the basal ganglia and the cerebellum, and the circuits connecting them, then what would you expect?  Clumsy.

I pull a cereal bowl off the third shelf and on the way down manage to hit it against a plate on the first shelf and chip it.  Now that takes a special skill.  My wife was not happy.

I reach for my water glass and on the way knock over the wine glass.  MWWNH.

I’m carrying a bowl of beans from the kitchen over to the table.  Suddenly I’m not holding it anymore. MWWNH.

I bump into things, trip over things, stub my toes. This concerns my wife, but doesn’t annoy her as much.

I’m in bed about to go to sleep and my leg starts jerking (Paroxysmal Abnormal Leg Movements, PALM.) MWWNH.

Strategies:

My strategy for the PALM is CBD oil when needed; I haven’t found anything else that helps.  I think that stopping NSAIDS and antihistamines helped my leg problems some, maybe.

The only strategy for the others is to “be more careful.”  Not a very good strategy, but being alert to the problem is a little helpful. I don’t believe there are any medications that help with these.

doug

Questions O the Day:

Anybody know what I’m talking about? 

Any suggestions?

Personal Note O the Day:
I’ve managed to pull away from the siren song of the novel and get back to work on the ADHD book, eliminating the duplicates. This is much more difficult than I’d anticipated so it’s slow going. My strategy is to try to do one duplicate a day.

Quotes O the Day:

  1. Studies show that there is a high prevalence of confirmatory bias, just as I’ve been saying all along.
  2. How old am I? Fifty-five.  Unless, of course, you’re talking about chronological years.
  3. “Reached for the knob, missed the whole damn door.”   from Drunk, a blues song.

Link:

ADHD and Dyscoordination

Bonus Links:

Symptom checker

Secrets of the ADHD Brain, Dr. Dodson

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The ADHD Brain — ADHD Tip O the Day 906

An Excellent Article from Dr. Nigg on the ADHD Brain (link is below)

The new focus is on networks, not just the neurotransmitters on which they work.  The networks link different discrete areas of the brain.  I suspect there may also be networks, especially for memory, that link some neurons that are not so specifically in an area?

Warning O the Day: Dr. Nigg uses the term spectrum in a different way, I think meaning that we ADHDers can have different constellations of symptoms (depending on which networks are most impaired.)  The more usual use is to describe the bell shaped curve where some brains are slower in maturing and some faster compared to average, and some people think ADHD is simply the slower end of that curve.  Not me, I think we are on a different curve, off to the left of the normal one.  Research shows that even when our brains reach maturity, they do not reach “normal.”

I generally agree with his ideas, especially that there are many varieties of the ADHD syndrome.

I recommend you read the article:

Nigg ADHD Brain

doug

Bonus Links

Good Links from ADDitude

ADHD and Brain Maturity

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Genes and ADHD: those pesky little boogers!

 

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ADHD Medication — Tip O the Day 905

The Question Was, “What should I expect when I start ADHD medication?”

Between two hours and two days you should notice more focus and more motivation and more follow through.

You probably won’t get any side effects, but if you do, the most likely are insomnia, jitteriness, or indigestion. These might get better in a week or two if you stay on the medication, but they probably won’t.  You would need to adjust the dose and/or the timing. If that doesn’t work, you would need to change the medication. But, you probably won’t get any side effects .

You may start the medication at a low dose and plan to gradually raise it as needed, but if you don’t notice benefit pretty soon, I would question the diagnosis.

doug

Bonus Links:

Bob Clear good stuff

Marriage and ADHD

To overcome a bad mood

Mostly Irrelevant Private Note:

ADHD does have some benefits, including creativity and thinking outside the box.

I just completed my first art piece.  I like it.  Since I have a creative urge but no artistic talent, I needed to find an alternative way to do art. I said I like it; I never said it was any good.

 

New Mexico Landscape Found Objects Festival 

 Question O the Day:

So was this piece an example of thinking outside the box, or inside the box?

 

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Report on My Retreat —ADHD Tip O the Day 904

I finished my five day spiritual retreat, a success.  I got off track some on day five, next time I’ll do four days.  It wasn’t as difficult as I’d expected. I had a little struggle about how to use my iphone, if at all.  Decided to check messages, emails and phone calls and not use it for anything else.

I got some good insights, some of which I’ll share with you:

  1. I’ve been constantly doing and almost no being. Need to balance.  One strategy is to spread out my to do list.  I’ll keep my basic structure of the things I need to do on a regular basis, usually just one a day, like the gym for example, and try to add only one task to each day.

 

  1. The importance of the practices of:  sitting, not thinking, breathing tool, awareness, getting out of doors (in addition to my daily quiet time with prayer, meditation, reading, and journaling.)

 

  1. A lot of things really don’t matter very much.

 

  1. “You fill up my senses,” song by John Denver, came to me. I’ve been filling up my senses with tasks, reading, music, and even prayer.  All these are good, but I was leaving no space for anything else, such as feelings, certain ideas, insights, etc.  Space and silence are important.

 

Personal Notes O the Day:

  1. It’s been six days now and it’s working well so far.  A big change for me.
  1. I read excellent books which were very helpful:

Make me an instrument of your peace  – kent nerburn

Hallelujah anyway: rediscovering mercy – Anne Lamott

The name of God is mercy – Pope Francis

The naked now – Richard Rohr

Present over perfect – shauna niequist

I chose these books simply because they were available.  By interesting “coincidence,” they were highly synchronistic.  Whether you are of a spiritual bent or not, I highly recommend the Niequist.

3. With ADHD, we need structure and schedule and strategies to get things done, but we need to make time to be.  And I think just being, and the practices that help, are especially hard with ADHD.  But maybe especially important.

doug

Links:

Being – my sister suggested this before.  I’m only now getting it.

Super Comments

Not Thinking – I don’t understand this; need to read it again, slowly.

Not Thinking- This is more clear

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Living with ADHD and Corona Virus — ADHD Tip O the Day 903

ADHD and Corona Virus, wouldn’t either one be enough?  

I hope you are safe and well and finding some way to make use of this strange time.  Although we’re all waiting for things to return to normal,  I fear that this may be the new normal.

The links below can be helpful to you.

Personal Notes O the Day:

  1. I’m starting on draft 11 of the new ADHD book. This is the one to replace the excess duplicate tips (I think one duplication may be OK; that’s how we learn.) I’ll need a draft 12 to clean up errors from the changes, and maybe a 13 to make sure.  It’s gonna be a while.

         I was procrastinating on this because I hadn’t figured out how to do it; now I have and I’m ready to start.

 

  1. I just found out that my print books weren’t selling on Amazon – because they were never published on Amazon! I managed to fix that.  (Don’t buy the 365 book there, the new book will replace it.)

 

  1. I’m going to take a 5 day spiritual retreat (in house) starting Sunday. No computer, iphone, or TV. Will still do things with my wife, and maybe still play guitar.  I think it’s going to be difficult but rewarding.

doug

Links:

Procrastination and more

At home and married during virus, or anytime

Growth

Jennie – Help Your PWADHD (Person with ADHD)

ADHD Relationships, Not So Easy

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Organize? With ADHD? — ADHD Tip O the Day 902

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An Autobiography

One of my long-term goals is to get organized. After sixty years or so  I have to admit it is either:                                 1. Hopeless or   2. Not really a goal but a process, like controlling my weight.

I’ll never achieve this goal, but if I don’t keep trying, I’ll actually head in the opposite direction.

Strategy:

Set goals, keep them reasonable, don’t expect too much.

doug

Goals

Goals 2 – Special Tip

Get Organized

DeClutter

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Writing with ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 901

We ADHDers are not very good at:  making choices, setting priorities, sticking with a task, saying no to certain wants.

I’m currently “ writing” five books: a novel and an ADHD book, writing both at the same time; a book on gun violence, currently stalled; a book on personal health, only in outline form for now; and a book on marriage, just in the back of my mind.

Currently, the novel has captured me.  I’m a third of the way through on the tenth draft.  I expect at least four more drafts, and wouldn’t be surprised by eight more.

I’m currently on pause on the ADHD book and I’d like to get moving again.  I just finished the tenth draft and hoped there would only be one more, but I see too many similar tips, more or less duplicates, and I need to replace some of them.  Repetition is okay, as that’s how we learn, but there’s too much.  I’m not sure how to go about finding and replacing the duplicates; none of the approaches I can think of seem very efficient nor pleasant, and therefore I’m procrastinating and just working on the novel.

I need a strategy.  I hereby commit to starting work on the duplicates tomorrow.  Possibly even today.  And I can continue with the novel at the same time.

doug

Personal Note O the Day :

I find writing very easy.  I’m flooded with ideas; this is ADHD.  Writing is easy; editing is a booger, and marketing is horrible.

Opportunity O the Day:

If anyone would like to be a beta reader for a draft of either book, I’d be grateful.  I’ll           e-mail you a draft and you can send back your comments, which will be very valuable.  You don’t need to finish it if you don’t like it; just let me know why.

Links:

Overdoing with ADHD

Setting Priorities

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Living with ADHD and the Virus: Frustrating — ADHD Tip O the Day 900

ADHD causes many frustrations, and also makes it harder to cope with frustration.  It’s a booger.

These last few days have been frustrating,  and it’s not getting any better. Of course, the main issue is this virus situation, with diminished quality of life, which has lowered my already low frustration tolerance for these other problems, most of which are related to my dystechnologica:

1. It suddenly takes three steps to sign into Outlook.

2.  OneDrive is full, causing red X’s all over my screen, and I can’t find the menu to increase it.

3.  The chronic issue of getting the image the right size for Facebook; Dino’s helped with this but it’s still a problem. And I can’t get in touch with him for more help.

4. Genealogy – I’m addicted again which is a problem, and I’ve found errors and dead ends in what I’ve have done.

5. Can’t get Zoom to work right.

6. I can’t get wordpress to set up this post like I want it.

Strategies:

1. I’ve googled all these things and found various solutions, which look complicated, above my pay grade, and when I tried some,  they didn’t work. 

 2. Wait. I think the one drive menu will show up on its own eventually.

3. Ventilate here.

4. Cope with the virus situation: Order takeout croissants from our French restaurant. See Dr.  Battaglia’s link below.  Count my many blessings: None of us are sick. I live with a good companion. Our residence serves good food. We still can walk daily and the weather is nice.  We get a lot of support from our church. I think I’ve mostly solved the spam problem  (but now I can’t welcome newcomers individually.) We can still go to the gym, although limited.

I could go on, but you get the picture.

Actually, when I look at the big picture, I have no problems.

I pray all is well with you.

doug

Quote O the Day:

ADHD causes problems in focusing, impulse control, persistence,  and motivation.

The things I need to cope with these problems are focus, self control, persistence, and motivation.

Links:

Dr. Battaglia

Mixed

I can hyper focus. i can even do tech stuff. Sometimes.

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Me and my computer – a strange love affair.

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Procrastinating?

Welcome to newcomers:

Because of my spam flood, I didn’t get the message of your joining us.  So, welcome to the tribe. I hope you find the posts useful and enjoyable, and that you’ll contribute comments.  Love the comments.

best wishes

doug

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Genes and ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 899

New ADHD Research

This study is over my head, but I’m trying to summarize it as best I can.  For the many of you more astute than me, the link for the whole study is below.

A new very large genetic study looked at eight psychiatric disorders:

A gene related to the development of the nervous system is a risk factor for all eight. Another gene that regulates splicing is a risk factor in seven.

Some genetic risk factors for psychiatric problems are common in the general population; ADHD and depression share 44% of those genes, which helps understand why we ADHDers have depression more often than vanillas, although clearly there are other reasons also. (We’re talking about gene variants, abnormal or ‘bad ‘ or mutated genes.  We all share the same genes, but sometimes in different flavors.)

This is new scientific evidence that ADHD can persist over life and be present in adults (If there has been any question about that?)

These genes are usually active in the second trimester of pregnancy, a crucial stage in the development of the nervous system. (ADHD is a neurodevelopmental disorder, which begins in the uterus. I don’t believe in adult onset ADHD.)

Strangely, some of the genetic variations that are risk factors in one disorder can be protective in other disorders. (ie: If gene A increases your risk of disorder X, you may be less likely to get disorder Y. Bewildering.)

Alteration in a single DNA nucleotide (SNP) explains less than a third of the genetic effect, the other 2/3 may correspond to other uncommon genetic changes (such as abnormal number of copies, et al.)

ADHD has a 75% genetic load and the other 25% is due to environmental factors. (These genes cause someone to be at increased risk for ADHD, but they might not develop it without being exposed to certain things in the environment, or they might anyway. This relates to epigenetics, where the activity of certain genes is regulated.  Almost all psychiatric disorders are related to a host of genetic risk factors; the chance of developing it increases with the number of those you have. It is a rare psychiatric disorder that is caused by one specific gene, or probably even by just a few.)

doug

Personal Comments O the Day:

All this complicated science is making my brain hurt.

I’m plugging away at the ADHD book, but the novel keeps pulling me away from it, and then I got addicted to doing genealogy again. Still, making progress.

Confused Comments O the Day:

Brain research seems to be shifting away from specific brain regions, over to networks. I may try to explain networks soon.  The concept would be easier to explain if I understood it.

If you have a different opinion than me, or can correct my understanding, or can explain something, please comment and help us out.

doug

Links:

Dr. John Battaglia – coping with the quarantine  – excellent.

Gene Article

The ADHD Brain in Crisis

Epigenetics

 

What was I saying?

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ADHD and Legs — ADHD Tip O the Day 898

Continuing with Sleep, Science, and ADHD:

As if we didn’t have enough problems, we ADHDers often have leg problems. These include restless legs syndrome (RLS), paroxysmal abnormal leg movements (PALM, aka ‘the jerks’) and leg cramps.

The book says these happen during sleep, and my wife confirms that for the first two, but I also have them as I’m trying to go to sleep.  They do not help.  I also have them if sitting a long time watching TV or at a restaurant.

But I  have them under fairly good control.

1. RLS: one hour before bedtime, two calcium magnesium zinc pills. At bedtime, Achilles tendon stretches. If RLS  during the night,  CALM, a magnesium powder preparation, and any time I wake up, more stretches.

2.PALM: one hour before bedtime,  a quarter of a glass of tonic water, which contains quinine, which is off the market otherwise. If I have the jerks later, CBS oil.

3. Leg Cramps: when I stopped taking ibuprofen, they markedly improved. I happened to find this association on the net.  For cramps during the night,  magnesium lotion.  Stretches may or may not help.

4. For sleep in general: one hour before bedtime,  5  mg melatonin dissolvable and 5 mg delayed release. This usually works. I vary this depending on whatever. (The book says 2 or 3 mgm – I’ve never seen this work.)

If I can’t get to sleep in 20 minutes, either initially or after I wake in the middle of the night, I get out of bed and piddle until I’m sleepy.

Using all of these approaches, I get a good night’s sleep about three out of four nights.

One strategy is to not get upset if I’m having a sleep problem; I know it’ll be better the next night.

I’d be delighted to hear your issues and approaches and nocturnal adventures  (I mean regarding sleep.)

doug           

Sleep??

     

Links:

In Kids, Probably Same in Adults 

Legs and ADHD

Techy for ADHD Sleep, from Jerry Bair

Sleep Hygiene

Personal Notes O the Day:

  1. I  highly recommend the general sleep hygiene tips.  

2. I’m a third of the way through draft 10 of Living Well With ADHD, which I thought I would publish. However, although I’ve found only a few errors, I’ve found many places for improvement. With so many changes, I will need a draft 11, which I hope to be the one to publish.  Oh, well.

Maybe I could run a contest to see who guesses closest to the actual date of publication.  I don’t think I’d win even if I were eligible.

3.  Probably wind up this science section on the next ADHD post.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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More ADHD Science —ADHD Tip O the Day 897

We’re all tired of the virus thing. I just ask that you pay attention to the scientific experts, especially those willing to admit they don’t really know, and ignore the blathering and BS.

Here’s more ADHD science:
1. Sleep problems are the most common comorbidities with ADHD. ADHD and sleep problems make each other worse. ‘ADHD is a disorder of self-regulation, circadian rhythm, overstimulation, and motor activity, which manifest both day and  night.’
We have initial insomnia, circadian rhythm disturbance, restless legs syndrome, and periodic limb movement disorder. I think the next blog will be about my problems with sleep and legs.
Many people with ADHD actually require less sleep than vanillas.   Which would be reassuring, except I don’t think I’m one of them.
Consistent bedtimes and wake times are very helpful. I try, but —

2. There’s question about ADHD medications increasing the risk of psychosis in teens and young adults. There is a risk, but the rate is very low; it’s is higher with amphetamines than with methylphenidate ( Ritalin, et al).

3. Many studies suggest things that may be helpful, but most of these studies so far are flawed and only give weak evidence one way or the other: An elimination  diet may help 1/3 of hyperactive children.   It’s difficult to stay on these diets. Biofeedback might be helpful, but expensive. Fatty acids (fish oil) may be helpful, but less so than regular medication.  It’s probably more effective in people who have low blood levels of the fatty acids and the test is probably not expensive. There is some correlation with ADHD and low blood levels of zinc. There may be some benefit from L carnitine in inattentive type, and from saffron, various herbs and vitamins, special kinds of acupuncture, yoga et al, massage. 

Many things show possible benefit, but none of them have received adequate scientific testing. Generally they were possibly helpful when combined with the medications. You might want to try something that is inexpensive and has no side effects. Remember that the supplements are produced without regulations and you can’t be sure what’s in them and they can have side effects and interaction.

Make use of the science and keep safe.

doug

Personal Notes O the Day:

1. Draft nine of the new ADHD book is and I’m ready to start on draft 10. I think it will be the one that gets published. When?

2. I take omega 3 and think it helps some.  Yoga, Tai Chi etc, probably help but I don’t use them. I do try to meditate; it’s hard but inexpensive.

Links:

Omega – 3 FA

More FA

Beware!

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Virus, Science, and ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 896

Virus, virus, virus and ADHD

What else is there to talk about?

We are blessed with leadership from someone who was born with innate understanding of science so that, despite his being apparently illiterate, he knows more about scientific things than any of the scientific experts. Thus he is able to discount, refute, and disregard their statements, warnings, and advice.

I, on the other hand, was not born with the blessing of such knowledge; possibly it was displaced by the blessings of ADHD. I prefer to put my bets on the scientific experts, imperfect though they are. I consider myself a semi-expert on ADHD and I hope that my statements don’t sound like the disjointed rantings of an idiot.  I want to share with you some information from the real experts, with my comments in italics:

There appears to be a correlation, dose related, with a pregnant woman’s use of acetaminophen  (Tylenol, etc.) and increased risk of ADHD and AST (autism spectrum disorder), especially in the last six months of the pregnancy. This appears to be a good study, and previous studies had similar findings.  It doesn’t say why the women were taking the medicine, which could be a factor.  Presumably the effect is due to epigenetics, with underlying genetic risk.

A Danish study reported 5.1% of boys had combined type ADHD and  1.1% inattentive; for girls it was 2.4% and 0.9%. ADHD was by far the most common psychiatric diagnosis for boys, and the second highest for girls, far behind anxiety disorders. Interestingly, the number for anxiety disorders in girls was about equal to the number for ADHD in boys.  The Danes keep excellent extensive records of all kinds of things.

More research studies next time, probably, and hopefully, less virus.

Personal notes:
1. I previously reported my entanglement in writing a novel, which has grabbed a lot of my attention, so I’m behind on the ADHD book, Living Well with ADHD. My strategy is to do 10 pages a day on the ADHD book, so maybe I’ll finish draft nine next week.   I’d hoped to publish draft nine in April, but I’ve found so many little changes – typos, errors and opportunities for improvement- that I see the need for a draft ten . So it probably won’t be published in April, but it’ll be better.

2. There’s a flood of new sign ups for the blog which is wonderful! Welcome to all of you.  Until I remembered the same thing happened a few years ago and they all turned out to be spam. But if any of you are not spam, welcome again and thank you for joining.

3. We’re doing well here, with lots of help. mostly confined to home, but able to take daily walks which have been very helpful. Everything’s pretty much shut down, canceled, closed. We’ll see. Take care.

doug

Links:

Science or Hash?

Writing with ADHD

Authors with ADHD

Question O the Day:

What is the purpose of the spam????    

Answer O the Day:

Thanks to Irene

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Virus and ADHD, Science, and a Brilliant New Insight — ADHD Tip O the Day 895

Living with ADHD

What was I saying?

The virus and ADHD

It would be strange not to write about the virus today, but I think I mostly said it last time.  How could I connect the virus with the topic of ADHD?

Well, maybe.  We’re under semi quarantine, and everything is pretty much closed, shut down, canceled.  We’ve have been spending a lot of time together in our small apartment and not seeing much of other people.  I haven’t checked with my wife about this, but I thought I detected the beginning of possibly a teensy weensy slight bit of tension and irritability here this morning.  Maybe it’s just me.  I’m an irritable person, which I tend to blame on my ADHD, although that doesn’t really help  much.

Anyway, the weather has been warm for three days and we’ve been able to take an afternoon walk, which we just completed, and I think the negativity has abated.  Hopefully this post won’t cause any offense.  Unfortunately, the prediction for the next three days is a return to below freezing.  Boogers.

A brilliant insight

This occurred on the walk today.  After all these years, I may have gained some understanding of mindfulness, being present in the moment, and living in my head.  I noticed that I was thinking about lots of things: this blog, our finances (OMG!), other things I needed to do, and as almost always, the song running through the back up my mind.  Isn’t thinking about lots of things what we ADHDers do? So what was I missing, unless something striking caught my attention?  The sights, sounds, smells, bodily feelings.  I was able to shift my attention and stop thinking and just notice the sounds: traffic, my wife’s arm rubbing against her jacket, my feet hitting the pavement, the birds, the breeze in the trees; and the different colors of the houses, the interesting signs on various houses, the clouds, the pain in my lower back, the slight breeze on my face, etc. etc. etc.  I wasn’t in my head; I was in the present moment. That’s a very different experience and one that I’d like to keep having.  I’ll see how it goes.

Irrelevant Note O the Day:

I’ve given up on DragonSpeak, sorry Dino, thanks for your efforts, and I’m using the Microsoft word app.  However, it just doesn’t work on WordPress, so I still need to do this on Word and then transfer it.

Quote O the Day:

“ Nothing is ever easy.”

Strategies:

If you’re not sick, see if you can take a walk.  Both exercise and getting outdoors are helpful with ADHD.

Doug

Stay well.

Extra Note O the Day

I meant to connect ADHD and the virus by writing about science.  I meant to do a lot of things.  Probably next time.

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Sleep and ADHD, and Now, the Virus — ADHD Tip O the Day 894

Virus

I meant this post to be solely about sleep and ADHD.  After all, what does the virus have to do with ADHD? Well, not much, except we’re impulsive and impatient, and prone to take risks.  So, wash your hands often with soap and warm water for at least 2o seconds, which seems like a long time to impatient us.  It’s the time it takes to sing Happy Birthday to You twice, or say one Hail Mary or one Our Father, whatever works for you.

Avoid unnecessary risks.

Sleep

Latest research increasingly shows the importance of sleep for everyone. Quantity and quality. Poor sleep impairs memory and cognition and mood among other things. I haven’t seen recent specific research about sleep and ADHD but since we already have problems in those areas, it seems that sleep would be especially important for us.

Comments, opinions, and personal notes:

Most Americans are sleep deprived, especially adolescents, who have different sleep cycles and sleep needs than adults or children, and should never be required to start school before 9 AM. Sleep deprivation is a significant cause of accidents. We are each unique and have different sleep requirements and different effective strategies for sleep.  Most medications used for sleep eventually lead to tolerance.  I advise using sleep hygiene principles and ruling out adverse practices before turning to meds.  I use melatonin, which has minimal if any side effects, tolerance, or addictive risk; it is “natural.” The book advises 2 -3 mgm of melatonin.  That’s rarely been effective for my patients or for me.  I  usually take 10 mgm an hour before bedtime. I also need to treat my restless leg syndrome and leg jerks, which are common with ADHD, and leg cramps, which probably aren’t. Daylight savings time stinks and the changes cause many problems, which are unnecessary.

Stay Safe.

doug

Links:

Sleep Hygiene

ADHD and Sleep: comprehensive article

Healthy living

Sleep and health and ADHD

Protection from the Virus

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There are many alternatives to sleep.

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Adhd and sleep- are you kidding me?

 

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Changes. ADHD in Transition — ADHD Tip O The Day 893

I thought that once I retired, life would get easier.  Hah!

“There’s been a change in the weather and a change in the sea

From now on, there’ll be a change in me.

My walk will be different, my talk and my name.

Nothing about me’s gonna be the same.”

From the popular song “There’ll be some changes made” of 1921, by Overstreet and Higgins

I’m tired of always feeling busy and pressured. That’s a part of ADHD.  I’m realizing what I couldn’t see before; there are things I can cut out to simplify my life.  Here’s what I’d been trying to do:

Essentials:

  1. Time with wife
  2. Gym
  3. Quiet time
  4. Clean up desktop
  5. CME (Continuing medical education.  required only if I keep my little job)
  6. Taxes (less work if I give up job)
  7. Take out garbage
  8. Walk the dog

Optional but desirable:

  1. Spanish
  2. Guitar, includes writing music and performing
  3. Memorizing Psalms
  4. Marketing books
  5. Writing books
  6. Little job (two half days a month)
  7. Church
  8. ADHD blog
  9. Gun violence blog
  10.  Men’s group
  11. Fishing

Decisions:

I’ve already given up the stock market and Facebook.

I’m giving up Spanish, Psalms, and book-marketing.  I’ve enjoyed them but it’s time.

I’ll consider giving up the small job, fishing, the men’s group and the blogs, but not any time soon I hope.

I’m being helped by a book, The Way of Transitions.  I’m in a transition period. I’m developing a new life and a new identity.  It is not horribly painful, but it is difficult, and just a little bit exciting.

We’ll see.

Are there things you’re doing that it would helpful to give up, to save time and stress?

doug

Quote O the Day:

“My parents told me that once I got older, I’d understand.

They were wrong.”

Snuck up on me!

 

 

 

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Too Busy? — ADHD Tip O the Day 892

With ADHD, I’m Always “Too Busy”

Since I retired, I figured I wouldn’t feel too busy all the time anymore.

Wrong.

I suddenly had a brilliant insight. Maybe if I didn’t try to do so many things all the time, I wouldn’t feel too busy all the time?

I remade my schedule. Some things that I was doing every week, I could do every other week. Some things I was doing every day, I could do just two days a month. I could schedule only had one main task a day and I could even keep Thursday empty of tasks (except for fishing once a month in season). An empty day. Wow!

I’ve just started this. So far it’s working.

OK, some days I have two things, because gym is three times a week and because I do something extra with my wife on Saturdays, but I’m not counting those things as tasks.

I resigned from Facebook, except for this blog and the gun violence blog.  I hired a money manager for my stocks. It should be easy for him to do better than me and so pay for himself.

I was trying to do the blog every Tuesday, down from twice a week some years ago. But I have a meeting on the second Tuesday of every month so I’m not trying to do a blog on that day anymore. I hope you’ll miss it, but not too much.

Right now I’m not feeling too busy. Wow! Life without this feeling may require a big adjustment on my part.

Strategy:

If you’re trying to do too much, cut down on how much you’re trying to do.

Duh.

doug

Personal Notes O the Day:

1. I’ve long said that “too busy“ is a state of mind,  not a reality. I promote thinking of only one thing to do at a time and not feeling overloaded by everything else on your list. Maybe  “too busy“ was just a feeling telling me I was trying to do too many things? It took a while for me to get the message.   Maybe “too busy” and “trying to do too many things” are not exactly the same thing?

2. I’m working on three books, have a fourth outlined, and a fifth in the back of my mind. Wanting time to do writing contributed to the feeling. I hope to have more time now. I’m still thinking the ADHD book might get published in April. Maybe.

Links:

ADHD Brain

The Revised Schedule

The Too Busy Booger

Living with ADHD

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“It Just Got Away From Me” — ADHD Tip O the Day 891

ADHD is a booger

Mon 2/17/2020 11:36 AM

What I’m about to tell you is true. This is the way it really happened. You can’t make this stuff up.

We were to leave for our trip on Thursday. We’d spend Friday night halfway. Valentine’s Day was Saturday, as you presumably knew. At least most of you did.

I did. Besides that, my wife happened to drop it into the conversation a couple of times earlier in the week. Just by coincidence.

But somehow, when we got here on Saturday  I had no present and no card. It had just gotten away from me.  I can’t explain it any other way A card would’ve been enough. I drew her something expressing my love and she seemed to like it OK, maybe. It made her laugh, which I thought was a good sign.  Maybe.

 
When you’ve been married as long as we have, you begin to be able to  sense  when a woman is not happy with you. Like, for instance, when she quits speaking to you. That’s a clue right there. Or when you go to hug her and she knocks your arm away. That’s another one.

However, my wife took it remarkably well, although I don’t think she fully accepted my abject apology. She mentioned that  a few years ago she might not have reacted as well, and I didn’t know whether it was prudent to agree with her or better to change the subject. I thought that whatever I did would probably just make things worse

So we spent Sunday afternoon driving around searching for roses, which were to be a belated valentine and a peace offering. We finally found some, but they were either dead or horribly expensive and my wife choose some other nice-looking flowers. Then we drove around some more looking for a flower vase, but we never did find one. My wife seemed to be getting a little frustrated. I, on the other hand, was exhausted and apprehensive.

We got home, and she beautifully arranged the flowers in a kind of bowl and seemed satisfied. She’s been very pleasant ever since. If you do have ADHD, as I happen to have, it’s very good to have a wife with a high level of tolerance, patience, and a good sense of humor.

But I can tell you one thing. I will never miss another Valentine’s Day. Never.

Quote O the Day:

“I’m very, very sorry.”

      Probably from some married man, quite possibly one with ADHD.

doug

Beautiful Flower Arrangement in a Bowl.

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Beautiful flower arrangement in a bowl.

 

 

 

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Another ADHD Moment—ADHD Tip O the Day 890

“I can’t find it.” Living with ADHD

My wife asked me to bring her some pistachios from the cupboard. I was happy to do so. But I couldn’t find them. I looked all through the cupboard. I was pretty sure they were in there, but I could not find them. Finally, I realized that they were in my right hand. I had moved the bag of pistachios out of the way so that I could look for the pistachios.

Quote O the Day:

“I’m very good at looking for things; I’m just not good at finding them.”

doug puryear

Question O the Day:

What else have I lost today?   answer below

The link below is by Dr. Dodson, who I consider one of the real experts on ADHD:

The ADHD Brain etc.

Link for the download (In case I screwed up and the link above doesn’t work.)

Old Link on Lost Keys and stuff, FOFA

FOFA – Find one, find all

doug

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Answer O the Day:

I had three very good highly relevant images to put in here.  They have vanished.  Maybe the demon in the computer ate them?

Here’s the best I can do for now:

losing it

Argghhh! ADHD!

 

 

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Pause — ADHD Tip O the Day 889

Pause – a help with ADHD

Pause is a simple strategy I’m trying to turn into a habit.  I haven’t figured out what rule to make yet.  But the strategy is just to pause several times a day, or even more.  The simple part is that is all there is to it. you don’t need to try to control your thoughts or focus on your breathing or relax your muscles or pray do anything except pause.

In fact, I’m going to try it right now.

 

 

 

That was 11.61 seconds ( I used the stopwatch).  It felt good.  Maybe it cleared my brain a little?

Reasons to pause:

Pausing stops the giant internal flywheel, the pressure, the “hurry, hurry,” at least for a little while.  And sometimes it gives me the ability to be more aware of what I’m doing, what state of mind and emotion I’m in, and to reassess.  After the pause, not during.

 

Possible rules to use:

Set alarms, maybe once an hour, for pausing.  Seems awkward and inconvenient.

Pick another anchor, like pause every time I open or close a door.

But right now, I’m just pausing when I feel like it, and that’s working for the time being.  Maybe I won’t need a rule.  We’ll see.

doug

Note O the Day:

You may recall I was practicing sitting for a while, which was a form of pausing. Not right now cause it only seems to work outside, and it’s colder than a booger here, 23 degrees F and snowing at the moment.  I’ll probably pick it up again in the spring.  The only difference from pausing is that sitting takes longer.

Quote O the Day:

My parents kept telling me, “When you’re older, you’ll understand.”

They were wrong.

Link

 

link

Who, me?

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ADHD Pathology — ADHD Tip O the Day 887

Here is a long article again documenting the reality of the ADHD diagnosis. I was slightly surprised to see in the final paragraph how much traumatic brain injury can mimic ADHD. Or, does it in fact, produce ADHD? I think not; it is a different disorder with similar symptoms.

I’ve had many blows to the head, but only one real concussion. That was due to a sucker punch. The real fight was only after I recovered some hours later. It was payback time. However, this is all irrelevant, because I clearly exhibited ADHD symptoms starting at least in the fourth grade and had few if any blows to the head before that and none serious.

I believe ADHD is not just one end of a spectrum, but is separate and distinct. I also believe that at least for some of us there’s delayed maturation of the developing brain, which can be partly corrected with time and improved by medication, which apparently can do more than just treat symptoms. However, I can’t tell if this article supports or refute that idea.

I think this is a good article, but it is too long, too detailed, and too complicated for me to easily read or to fully understand. I was very tempted to just scan it. In fact, I did.

For the scientific minded, the article: (Or skip it. Just scroll down for some more good stuff.)

“Pathophysiology

The pathology of ADHD is not clear. Psychostimulants (which facilitate dopamine release) and noradrenergic tricyclics used to treat this condition have led to speculation that certain brain areas related to attention are deficient in neural transmission. PET scan imaging indicates that methylphenidate acts to increase dopamine. [2The neurotransmitters dopamine and norepinephrine have been associated with ADHD.

The underlying brain regions predominantly thought to be involved are frontal and prefrontal; the parietal lobe and cerebellum may also be involved. In one functional MRI study, children with ADHD who performed response-inhibition tasks were reported to have differing activation in frontostriatal areas compared with healthy controls. A 2010 study again indicated the presence of frontostriatal malfunctioning in the etiology of ADHD. [3Although ADHD has been associated with structural and functional alterations in the frontostriatal circuitry, recent studies have further demonstrated changes just outside that region and more specifically in the cerebellum and the parietal lobes. [4Another study using proton magnetic spectroscopy demonstrated right prefrontal neurochemical changes in adolescents with ADHD. [5]

Work by Sobel et al has demonstrated deformations in the basal ganglia nuclei (caudate, putamen, globus pallidus) in children with ADHD. The more prominent the deformations, the greater the severity of symptoms. Furthermore, Sobel et al have shown that stimulants may normalize the deformations. [6]

Adults with ADHD also have been reported to have deficits in anterior cingulate activation while performing similar tasks.

In a longitudinal analysis, Shaw et al used 389 neuroanatomic MRI images to compare 193 typically developing children with varying levels of symptoms of hyperactivity and impulsivity (measured with the Conners’ Parent Rating Scale) with 197 children with ADHD (using 337 imaging scans). [7Children with higher levels of hyperactivity/impulsivity had a slower rate of cortical thinning. This was most notable in prefrontal cortical regions, bilaterally in the middle frontal/premotor gyri, extending down the medial prefrontal wall to the anterior cingulate. It was also noted in the orbitofrontal cortex and the right inferior frontal gyrus. Slower cortical thinning during adolescence is characteristic of ADHD and provides neurobiological evidence for dimensionality.

A PET scan study by Volkow et al revealed that in adults with ADHD, depressed dopamine activity in caudate and preliminary evidence in limbic regions was associated with inattention and enhanced reinforcing responses to intravenous methylphenidate. This concludes that dopamine dysfunction may be involved with symptoms of inattention but may also contribute to substance abuse comorbidity. [8]

Individuals with ADHD have inhibition impairment, which is difficulty stopping their responses. [9]

According to a study of young children, there is evidence of early brain structural chages in pre-schoolers with ADHD. Researchers used high resolution anatomical (MPRAGE) images and cognitive and behavioral measures in a cohort of 90 medication-naïve preschoolers, aged 4–5 years (52 with ADHD, 38 controls; 64.4% boys). Results show reductions in bilateral frontal, parietal, and temporal lobe gray matter volumes in children with ADHD relative to typically developing children. The largest effect sizes were noted for right frontal and left temporal lobe volumes. Examination of frontal lobe sub-regions revelated that the largest between group effect sizes were evident in the left orbitofrontal cortex, left primary motor cortex (M1), and left supplementary motor complex (SMC). ADHD-related reductions in specific sub-regions (left prefrontal, left premotor, left frontal eye field, left M1, and right SMC) were significantly correlated with symptom severity, such that higher ratings of hyperactive/impulsive symptoms were associated with reduced cortical volumes. [10]

Narad et al. explored the relationship between traumatic brain injury (TBI) in children and development of secondary attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (SADHD). [11They looked at concurrent cohort/prospective studies of children aged 3 to 7 years who were hospitalized overnight for TBI or orthopedic injury (OI; used as control group). A total of 187 children and adolescents were included in the analyses: 81 in the TBI group and 106 in the OI group. According to the results, early childhood TBI was associated with increased risk for SADHD. This finding supports the need for post-injury monitoring for attention problems. Consideration of factors that may interact with injury characteristics, such as family functioning, will be important in planning clinical follow-up of children with TBI.”

doug

Quote O the Day:

“Happiness is clear nasal passages.”

from a man who had a cold.

Links:

ADHD Medication

Science or Hash?

ADHD and Marriage

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What is it really, ADHD?

Really??

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Ramblings and Ruminations — ADHD Tip O the Day 886

Life with ADHD

I wanted to be sure that the tube was the right length, so I measured it carefully before I cut it. It looked too short.  I measured it again to be sure; it was correct, so I cut it.

It was too short.

I should’ve (I hate to use that word) should’ve listened to the little voice.

And Also Life with ADHD

I am way too busy.  I’ve written that “too busy” is just a state of mind, and I believe it.  But I am too busy.  There are so many things to do; so many things that I want to do.  Life was harder are in the old days.  We did not have so many labor-saving devices, so many effective medical treatments: the lifespan was much shorter and more painful. We also did not have all these options to choose from.  What you needed to do was pretty obvious, and you just did it.

Labor saving devices – dish washers, clothes washers and driers, for example.  Computers.  Computers are wonderful.  We can do so many things that we couldn’t have done before.  Like writing an ADHD blog. Of course, this gives us more options.  All of which take time.  Which I am short of.  And how much time am I spending on computer maintenance?  Dino, I appreciate your help with Dragon, a time saving device which isn’t working- my warranty has expired so I don’t think they’ll help; I haven’t called them yet.  I have tried system restore and reinstall.  Do you notice that doing all of these things to fix Dragon takes time which is what I’m trying to save by using Dragon?

Dystechnologica can accompany ADHD; it sure does for me.

I just finished draft six of the new ADHD book. It’s nearly done;  I  hope to publish in April, and just finished draft seven of my first novel, which still has lots more work to go.  Novels are harder. This is exciting. But in my experience, publishing on Create Space is a very frustrating time-consuming experience. I’m working on a third book, on gun violence, and have a fourth one on health on the back burner. And I have one on marriage, or on relationships anyway, since marriage seems to be going out of style, in the back of my mind.  It’s crowded back there.

All this might keep me busy and off the street corners for a while.

Maybe I could cut back on the writing?  But that doesn’t feel like an option; I need to write.

With ADHD, We Tend to Have Many Interests

I wish I had more time for reading, poker, ping pong, chess, guitar, Spanish, relaxing, fishing.

Spending time with my wife is a big priority, although she may not entirely see it that way.  And time with her keeps me from drowning in all the other things.

So I need strategies, time management, priority setting, organization, and breaks and relaxation; not just work.  I’m working on it.

doug

Links:

Where is the Time?

Big Research on ADHD and Time

Time

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Frustrated— ADHD Tip O the Day 885

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ADHD Frustration. I give up!

ADHD is a Natural Recipe for Frustration

Yesterday I fixed my iPhone, got the library book for Martha she’s been waiting for, learned a little bit of guitar, and  lost almost two pounds. I “should’ve” been happy.

But –

OK, here’s more frustration.  I started this post a couple of weeks ago and was saving it.  Now I can’t remember what I was frustrated about that day.  That’s frustrating.

Ken just made a good comment on scheduling strategies.  A good schedule is a big help, but part of his trick is to be gentle with himself, lower expectations; if he gets 80% done, it’s a good day.  This approach will lower frustration.

Today I am pleased that after two days of trying, I finally got the Grammarly app to work again.  But I cannot get my Dagonspeak to work; it will not recognize my microphone, even though Microsoft’s speech recognition does, but is not working well at all. I think I need to reinstall Dragonspeak but I’m not sure I know how or have the right disc or codes or whatever and am afraid I will lose it forever.  Can you see that this could be a little frustrating?

Any suggestions from you less technologically challenged folks will be appreciated, as will just sympathy from the rest of you.

More Personal Note:

I’m still working on the new ADHD book and I think now maybe April would be a realistic target date.  But I’m also working on the novel, which has captured my interest and sidetracked me, and also on a gun violence book, using posts from a blog. And then I have a health book on the back burner.  Maybe it’s a little much??

And I dread the actual process of publishing the book on create space. It’s a booger.

That’s life with ADHD.

Strategies for Dealing with Frustration:

  1. complain and whine, as I’m doing here.
  2. try to be more reasonable, expect less – not doing well at this
  3. take a break and relax – OK, as soon as I finish this post.
  4. Focus on the positives- OK, Grammarly is working.

doug

Links:

Get Out of a Bad Mood

Frustration

Frustration and other emotions that are difficult for us with ADHD to handle.  Who would’ve guessed?

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Natural Treatments for ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 884

Treat ADHD without medicines?

I’ve done several posts on this. I use supplements and Daytrana and strive for a healthy life style, a good idea for everyone.  But I do believe the healthy things do specifically help with ADHD : sleep, exercise, meditation, avoiding illegal drugs, and other things.

I’m recommending the links below.  Educate yourself.

doug

Naturarelief – a “natural” treatment

nootropicwatchdog.comCheck anything “natural” out on this site before using.

Bonus Links:

Are Natural Substances Safe?

Medication for ADHD?

Non-Medication Treatment for ADHD- looks reasonable

Living Healthy Helps with ADHD

Quote O the Day:

Exercise nearly every day,

or at least think about it.

 

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Is exercise a dirty word? 

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Is exercise a dirty word?

 

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Happy New Year Even with ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 883

I hope you have had a good 2019 and that 2020 will be even better for you.  It will as you learn new ADHD strategies and improve your coping.

One of the problems we ADHD folk struggle with is time.  Did Christmas sneak on you again?  Are your days a few hours short of the time you need?  Are you trying to go without sleep so you can get more done? (Hint: That won’t work.)

The new year is a good time to look at what your typical day is like, an evaluation.  Mine, for example:

bathroom, including extensive tooth brushing and taking of many pills — 1.25 hours

quiet/prayer time — .5 hours

walking dog, three times a day — 1 hour

eating — 2 hours

exercise — 1 hour

trying to find the thing I just had in my hand — .75 hour

getting my wife to help me find something — .5 hour

doing things I need to do — 1.5 hours

doing things that have no real point — 1.5 hours

trying to figure out which things I really really need to do — 1 hour

making lists and schedules — .25 hour

time with my wife — 3.5 hours

errands — 1.5 hours

writing books — 2.25 hours

paper work — 1.5 hours

trying to decide what to work on on guitar – .25 hours

practicing guitar — .5 hours

studying spanish — .5 hours

reading books, newpaper, magazines — 1.5 hours

facebook — .5 hours

sleeping — 8.5 hours

(non daily — church, fishing,  writing blog, cleaning up desktop)

You may have noticed that this adds up to more than 24 hours.  That’s part of the problem, isn’t it.

I may need to spend more time on organizing and planning the day.  Where would I get that time?

Have a good new year.

doug

Ed started to plan his day. Eight hours slipped by.

Quote O the Day:

“ADHD: The energy to accomplish anything, the focus to accomplish nothing.”

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An ADHD Christmas — ADHD Tip O the Day 882

 

Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah, and a blessed whatever.

Since Christmas, and everything else, sneaks up on me – “Wait!  That can’t be this week can it?”

But this year i was on top of it.  i ordered my wife’s gift way early. It was only after I submitted the order that they told me it would be delivered mid january. Well, that means they’re behind so it must mean its a very popular gift so it must mean i got the right thing.  Doesn’t it?

OK, but today, the time snuck up on me, and I need to get this out now, so that’s it.

(Living in ADHD time – it’s different.)

Thank you all for following

doug

 

Link O the Day

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Happy Hanukka

Merry Christmas

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The Scientific Method and ADHD Research — ADHD Tip O the Day 881

Statistics can be confusing.

This is from a report on research  showing that exposure to antibiotics early in childhood did not lead to ADHD (although there is a “but” at the end.):

“Risk of developing ADHD was estimated using Cox proportional hazards regression in a high-dimensional propensity score–matched cohort (n = 69,738) and a sibling cohort (n = 67,671). ADHD risk was not associated with antibiotic exposure in the matched-cohort (hazard ratio = 1.02, 95% confidence interval: 0.97, 1.08) or in the sibling cohort (hazard ratio = 0.96, 95% confidence interval: 0.89, 1.03). In secondary analyses of the matched cohort, ADHD risk increase was observed in those exposed to 4 or more antibiotic courses or a duration longer than 3 weeks. These associations were not observed in the sibling cohort. We concluded that antibiotic exposure in the first year of life does not pose an ADHD risk on a population level.”

Huh?

A recent journal column questioned the use of the traditional p-value, saying that a low p-value does not mean that the findings are valid, but only that the research was well done.  I could not understand the discussion of this either.

Science can be confusing:

I continue to see, even among scientists, some confusion:

  1. Correlation is not the same as cause.  The incidence of diagnosed ADHD in US children has risen in the past twenty years.  So has the US military budget. It seems unlikely that one caused the other, but there is a correlation.
  2. When there is correlation and it does seem related, it can be difficult to distinguish cause and effect. The US is involved in long term wars; the military budget has been rising.  Which one caused the other?  Think about it.
  3.  Not proven is not the same as proven not.  The new fad for evidence based medicine is a good thing, but it is not the only thing. ( The insurance companies like to use this to deny claims.)
  4. There can be a confusion about objective and subjective conclusions.  Years ago I was bothered by a scientific paper titled “Schizophrenia Has A Poor Prognosis.” I wrote a letter to the editor, and the researchers responded that they were ‘sorry if Dr. Puryear was bothered by our findings.’ I wasn’t bothered by their findings. They had published their data, which was whatever it was – ‘after x years, y percent of patients are still psychotic’.  Then they had made a subjective leap to state their conclusion, in their title.

Sometimes this stuff gives me a headache, but the scientific community is working to correct the problems outlined in these two articles.  Science is better than nonsense.

doug

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My ADHD Brain

 

 

 

 

 

Links:

James Clear – good thoughts

p value – more articles

Bonus Suggestion O the Day:

If you are going to get a massage, you may want to avoid eating a lot of prunes or drinking a lot of coffee beforehand.  Just saying.

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The Scientific Method — ADHD Tip O the Day 880

If you’re very familiar with the scientific method, skip down to part two.

Many of us are interested in research on ADHD. It’s important to understand what’s going on.

Part One: The Scientific Method

1. A researcher states a hypothesis, which could be proven not true.
(For example, “There is no God,” or, “There is a God;” neither statement could be proven not true and therefore scientific research cannot address them. “Medication A gives better results than placebo” could be proven false and so is testable.)

2. The researcher records the plan of the research,  the outcomes are to be measured and the statistics to be used. (Sometimes researchers go back after-the-fact come up with different questions or approaches using the same data  This is a very questionable practice.)

3.  The research is done. For testing medicines, the gold standard is the randomized double-blind placebo-controlled trial, meaning a group of control subjects get a placebo and the experimental group receives the medicine to be tested. Double-blind means that neither the researchers nor the subjects know which the subject is receiving.

Randomized means the subjects are assigned to either the control or active group at random. In good studies, after this is done, the two groups are compared with each other to see that their characteristics are about the same, that no big differences in the groups, like ages, for example, had occurred by chance.

The gold standard is not always possible. For example, one study of school children at risk for dropping out compared a group  who received one hour a week help from a mentor with a control group who did not. Couldn’t be double-blind, but the researchers who measured the results could be unaware of which group each child was in. The hypothesis that the mentored group would do better was proven.

4. For good studies, to reduce the chance of getting a result purely by chance and not a true result, large groups are needed. When using statistics, the larger the group, the more powerful the statistics will be. 

4. The statistical method is chosen before the research is done. There are many different statistical approaches and different ones are more appropriate for different kinds of studies. The most common is the p-value, which indicates the chance that the result could’ve been totally due to chance. If the p  is less than .05,  the result can be called “statistically significant,” but most people prefer less than .01, which means that less than once out of a hundred times the results could have been due to chance.   The smaller the p-value, the more likely the findings are to be valid.

Again, there are many different ways of calculating results, such as “number needed to treat, “meaning the number of patients who would need to receive the medicine before one patient would do better than someone on placebo. Obviously, you want a small number.

5. The paper is written with a description of the research method, the statistics used, and the findings. It is submitted to a reputable scientific journal and then peer-reviewed, reviewed by several experts in the field who indicate if it is valid, worth publishing,  or needs improving.

6. If published, the research or experiments need to be repeated by different researchers in different laboratories using the same approach to see if they come out with the same results.

6.  If the results are duplicated then “science” generally will accept the findings as accurate – “science says'” or “research shows.” We don’t put much stock in a single study finding, not duplicated.

Part Two: Problems with the scientific approach

There are many ways science can go wrong, as illustrated by the varying year-by-year changes in dietary recommendations. Experiments need to be properly designed, properly run, honestly reported, peer-reviewed and duplicated.

  1. In many medication trials, the average benefit for all the experimental group is not significant enough and the medication is dropped, but there may be a small group of people who did benefit but usually these are not tested further.
  2. Doing studies is expensive, and many are funded by drug companies, which seems to risk some bias in the designing, the interpretation and possibly even in the results and in which studies are published.
  3.  For many studies the results are negative, meaning not statistically significant, and these are rarely published although they could be scientifically useful.
  4. Statistically significant does not always mean clinically significant.
  5. In recent years, the number of people who respond to placebo has risen, making it harder to prove a medication effective, and some that might be are dropped.  The reasons for this are not clear.  Could it relate to #6? (The placebo effect is powerful, but benefits tend not to last. )
  6. Some people fake their information to get into studies for the money or other benefits.
  7. For many trials, it is difficult to recruit enough subjects to get good results.  
  8. Some studies use a placebo group in problems, like schizophrenia, where this can be harmful to the subjects.  I think this is unethical.
  9. All of these problems are being addressed in recent years, and the science is improving.

 

Part Three: Comments

I have mostly used medication testing as the example in this post, but the scientific method applies to all research.

I find the statistics complicated and confusing, I don’t understand them, and some of what I have just told you may be wrong, but the general idea is correct anyway.

I view most scientific results with a certain degree of skepticism, and some of them I don’t believe even if they seem to have gone through this process properly. This is presumably an example of confirmatory bias, the logical fallacy where we collect data that agree with our preconceived notions and reject those that go against them. It is hard to avoid or to shake.

Overall, I think it is much wiser and safer to go with properly done scientific findings, even though they may turn out to be wrong, rather than intuition, hunches, prejudices, biases, or conspiracy theories. The odds are in favor of the science.

In my posts, I try to make clear when I’m stating my opinion versus when I’m stating accepted scientific findings or fact. Please catch me and comment when I fail to do this.

doug

Heads Up O the Day:

I plan for the next post to expand on this, but this one is already too long (right, Martha?)

I think it will be interesting.

Request O the Day:

Some of you surely know more about this, especially statistics, than I do.  Please comment, correct me, or argue.

Links:

The Scientific Method

Opinion

Confirmatory Bias

Mr Bean

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ADHD and OCD?

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Too Busy with ADHD — Tip O the Day 879

Why Am I “Too Busy?”

Ram is on a roll; this comes from comments and discussion:

Too Busy, part one:

With ADHD –
1. It’s hard to set priorities.
2. I want to do it all.
3. I set good rules but it’s hard to follow them.
4. Life is complicated.

Report O the Day:

I had a good list today and was gonna make a lot of progress. Yeah, right. So of course, my printer broke down. It won’t recognize the network.  It’s a stubborn son of a gun and I think it has a mean streak.  After I’ve spent most of the day messing with it, I called my son in law for help.  He’s on his way.  The universe seems to be working against me.  And it’s bigger than I am.

Too Busy, part two:

I still contend that “too busy” is a state of mind, not a reality.  In fact, I only have one thing to do now.  Do this post.  And post it, of course. Oh, yeah, and wait for my son in law. But if I get this post done, and posted, and my printer fixed, I can call the day a success and save the rest of the list for tomorrow.  Nothing is that urgent or critical.  Urgent and critical are mostly ADHD feelings, rarely a valid picture.

Strategy:

Focus on doing this post and take my own advice from above; nothing is urgent and critical.

doug

Links:

Way Too Busy

Priorities

Teaser O the Day:

I do have a little bit of new ADHD research and I’ve decided to do a post on the scientific method just in case a few of you are not entirely familiar with it.  Of course, science has fallen out of favor in some quarters as some people are sure that their gut instincts are more valid than the results of research in spite of their lack of education and knowledge but since I am not, like them, a genius, I still pretty much go with the science, although with caution and a little bit of skepticism.

Yikes! O the Day:

My son in law just called. He took the dogs for a walk prior to coming here and they were attacked and two are at the animal hospital.  The wounds don’t look critical.  I don’t think the printer will get fixed today.  Glad the son in law and the dogs are OK.  See, I told you.

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I need all the help I can get.

 

Arghhh!!!

 

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Ram’s Comment —ADHD Tip O the Day 878

Ram makes good comments, and this one raises issues about structure and routine, skimming instead of reading, and our ADHD difficulty of picking one thing.

Great post! I laughed out loud at your “skimming” comment. I did read your whole list, but only because I forced myself to. I was skimming and I forced myself to start from the top when I caught myself skimming, thinking “No, you might miss something important! This is Doug’s blog and you came here deliberately”. Then I reached your comment about skimming. HA! :p   (I had commented that I would not have read my whole list; it was too long and I skim.)

My personal insight: I’m a person who thrives on routine. For example: once I went to work in Spain for 14 days, and I had to create a morning routine for myself for breakfast. Luckily there was a nice café in front of the hostel, so I quickly settled into dropping in at the same hour every day for the same breakfast meal and a quick chat in broken Spanish with the waitress. 🙂
My routines do tend to change a lot. I wish I could set things in stone, but sometimes a routine stops working for me (for whatever reason), so I change it and quickly set into a new routine. But I DEFENITELY need routine and, as I mentioned, thrive on it.

On a side note: I think it’s cool you play the guitar. I don’t know if I ever mentioned it, but I picked up guitar playing about 2,5 years ago with a teacher – a great dude who is VERY patient – and I enjoy it. But I sometimes find myself not practicing enough. I think it’s a settled deep and inconscious fear of failing – affraid of getting frustrated and losing interest… :/ It’s such a weirdly counter-productive take on it…

 

In reply to rammkatze.

Ram- as always, thank you for your contributions. I appreciate your endorsing the skimming and the routines. I think we change routines, and strategies, even if they’re working, because they are no longer novel and we lose interest or get bored?
you are a good writer. if you ever are ready to write another post, doubtful since your ordeal, just pretend you are writing a comment and it should be easy.
the guitar, i dont practice enough, but its important not to make it a chore. i am struggling to settle down on what i want to do – learn ONE song or technique and then move on. hard to choose one, easier to just piddle and do what i already know. that’s enjoyable but i would like to improve and learn new things.
i might make this a post, maybe.
best wishes,
doug

Links:

James Clear on Picking One and other ADHD Matters

Setting Priorities : Hard to do with ADHD

Too Busy- Partly because it’s hard to set priorities

Complaint O the Day:

If you say yes to one thing that means you are saying no to something else.  But I want to do it all.  Nobody told me that life would be fair.

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That’s ADHD

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ADHD Research — ADHD Tip O the Day 877

 

There is new ADHD research, but nothing that new.

The stimulants sometimes cause insomnia. (This can usually be fixed by changing dose, schedule, or medication. I need to get my Daytrana patch off by 5:10 PM and I usually do.  I need two different alarms, 5:10 and 5:20, to manage it.  If I have insomnia, the first thing I do is check to see if the patch is still on.)

Adolescents with ADHD sometimes stop taking their medication (Surprising, because it should be helping them.  Not sure why they do this, but then, they are adolescents.)

The stimulants are abused in college, generally not by kids who actually have ADHD, but kids with ADHD  may share them or  sell them and may get pressured to do so.

The idea that the stimulants will help with study or grades is generally a myth.

There is not one specific ADHD gene, but a number of (single nucleotide) mutations, each with small effect but additive. (Copy variants or deletions might have a more powerful effect?)  ADHD runs in families, especially on the male side.

Our ADHD brains mature more slowly than vanillas’ and some parts are smaller. And adults who have “outgrown” their ADHD ( 50% of us, not me) still show the brain abnormalities. The basal ganglia still seem central to the relevant brain networks.

Pollutants, during  pregnancy or early childhood, may contribute somewhat to developing ADHD (presumably through epigenetics, altering the activity of genes without altering the gene.)

doug

Personal Comments O the Day:

Some studies suggest that ADHD is just one end of a spectrum, and while I tend to respect the science, although with caution, I don’t believe this.  I think that we are different, a different tribe (not just one end of a bell shaped curve.) I do not pretend to understand the genetics; please feel free to correct my errors on those.  There are still some people who do not believe in ADHD in spite of all the evidence; I do not find it useful to try to convince them but just allow them to wallow in their ignorance and wrongness -“My, that IS an interesting viewpoint.  So, do you think it might rain tomorrow?”

Link:

Great link from Dinos

Personal Note O the Day:

Last Sunday I courteously held the door open for a very elderly couple to exit the church. I felt quite good about myself, being so gentlemanly,  until they turned to thank me.  They were both younger than me.

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Snuck up on me!

 

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Structure, Schedule – The Secret to ADHD?— ADHD Tip O the Day 876

Flopping around with ADHD

Retired.  Again. Haven’t found my groove yet. Too busy.

Writing two books, one on ADHD, Living Well with ADHD, and a novel, Alma Means Soul, both about ready to publish, which I dread;  Create Space has not been that user-friendly for me.  Studying guitar and Spanish, writing songs, a little performing, gym three times a week, more time going places with my wife – lots to do in Santa Fe and in New Mexico, traveling to see three new great-grandchildren (lots of fun!), and the usual bills and incorrect charges, and the blog, and facebook, and stocks (I’m getting out of that soon.), walking the dog, men’s group, working against gun violence (lots of research, very illuminating), more spiritual quiet time. And I still have a small job, although it’s only a few hours twice a month.

Did you read all that long list?  I wouldn’t have; I tend to skim.

I am making schedules, one for the typical week and one for this week.  It’s hard to follow them but I’m trying. Obviously, I’m too busy, although I claim that is a state of mind more than a reality.  Still, we with ADHD are blessed and cursed with a wide variety of interests and we have trouble setting priorities or saying No to anything.

And the church and gym are set in stone, so no decision to make and that is structure.  I think I need more structure in each day.  Get up and bedtime and mealtimes at the same time would help.  And starting to make a morning routine: breakfast, walk the dog, quiet time, every morning before I do anything else.

With ADHD, structure and schedule reduce the number of choices and decisions to make and help us stay organized and be more effective.  Life is good.

doug

 

Bonus Links:

Schedule from Amy

Orluv on Marriage – take time to enjoy

I Don’t Need Structure

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A New Use for Index Cards — ADHD Tip O the Day 875

ADHD index card

Index Cards and Manila Folders (and smartphones?)   God’s Gifts to ADHDers

I keep the stack of index cards on my desktop just to the right of center, where I can’t miss it.  Each one has a “Saying O the Day” on it, although I don’t change them daily.  When one saying has outlived its timeliness, I shuffle through the stack until I find another one that fits the occasion.  It took a while to make this many; I can make a new one whenever needed, but that’s rarely now. The same issues keep coming up.

Since they do change frequently, I don’t get the usual habituation where you don’t see something after its been there a while.

It helps.

doug

ADHD index cards

 

 

 

Personal Note O the Day: 

Bonus Links: A Smorgasborg

James Clear Good Ideas

Finances

Married with ADHD: an oxymoron?

 

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Ram’s Saga-Writing with ADHD — ADHD Tip o the Day 874

I asked for volunteers to write posts for the ADHD blog and Ram stepped up. This started a journey with a long period of correspondence, some of which is lost, which looks like the makings of a novel. I’ve recreated our journey together as best I could. Great appreciation to Ram for courage, perseverance, and contribution.           Score: Ram 1, ADHD 0

2019/06/06 at 9:00 am

ram –
eagerly awaiting some posts from you. your comments are so good.
send to(email address). 
appreciate it
doug

True, I’m not a blogger. And I still insinuated myself as an option: maybe because I like the idea of being a blogger and keep putting it off, so it’d be a nice chance for me. Maybe because I have ADHD and before we use a strategy to learn how to delegate, we get sidetracked by the next new shiny thing and overreach. It would definitely make a good post. :p

Also: while I have your attention, I’m dying to share something with you (unrelated). I could show you the fotos, if you want. 🙂 Or a make a post about it! 😀  [Here ram gave a thorough description of the game. This would’ve been a fine post if we had just stopped there and posted it.  Would’ve saved a lot of distress.I could show you the fotos, if you want. 🙂 Or a make a post about it! 😀Ram

ram – you’re not a blogger, but your comments often make a good post, like this one. if you would like to expand on it, and maybe add an example, maybe this if you’d like. best wishes
doug

Sure thing! I’m pretty busy with work now (half the people on vacation, the other half on sick leave), but I’m off work on Monday evening, and I’ll mock a couple of posts up. Just tell me where to send it.
Cheers
Ram

[Unfortunately, Ram ran into some kind of writer’s block and sounded like she was suffering, struggling and getting down on herself.  I kept trying to help.]

ram-thank you for contributing, and for your forthcoming post. strategies will help. can you identify the block?
do you think it needs to be perfect? do you not have enough information? something else?
if you just get something down i could help you with it if you’d like?
doug

ram – good for you , coming up with a strategy. you might want to consider deciding how much time you want to devote to this. one hour? two hours? certainly no more than four. if its not done by then, you could just send it to me or just forget it.
are you trying to make it too good? if you just get something done, anything, I can do any editing needed.
are you trying to edit as you go? most writers recommend just getting something down on the paper, and then editing. the great writer, Ann Lamott says, “the first draft is always crap.”
thank you for your efforts – remember, the perfect is the enemy of the good, ‘always do your best’ is nonsense, and some things are not worth the trouble. and think about how good you will feel when you either get it done or say to hell with it, either one.
 

Ram -welcome back.
congrats on the vacation. we all need breaks
again, any thing you can send i’ll be happy to edit if it needs it.

doug

2019/09/23 at 8:31 pm     ram – please no shame. if its that hard you can let it go, the benefit is not worth it. or you can keep working on it if you want, there is no hurry.
is it possible you are being a little bit perfectionistic?
but please, no shame. some things are hard for us.
best wishes
doug

On Oct 14, 2019, at 1:49 AMHello, Doug!
I did it! I wrote it! I decided I was afraid of writing too much and too unnecessary stuff, and that I’d just write it as I pleased and leave all editing to your discretion. I hope you have fun reading it. 🙂
Don’t feel pressured to publish it, though. It is entirely up to you. I just really wanted to share it with at least one person who has ADHD and it would be too long for a reply on the blog. 😉   Warm regards
ram

Mon, Oct 14, 2019 at 3:15 PM    Boogers. I can’t open it in this form. Please resend. I am so glad you are done. I hope you didn’t misunderstand. I was hoping you dropped it because it seemed to be torturing you. I am eager to read it.  That was a good strategy to just get it out there and let me worry about editing
Doug

I was afraid that might happen… I saved it as a PDF, let me know if it works!   ram

Mon, Oct 14, 2019 at 4:00 PM  Great! Got it.  It’s good.

Two editing things. I would like to move the paragraph about anecdotal evidence to the end. If you wanted, I could edit it to make it shorter, but I think that would leave out some things you’d like in and it is good as it is.  I think it may need a final summarizing sentence, which I will do myself as a comment from me. Thank you so much

Doug

Great! Good to know! Please, edit it as you see fit 🙂 Warm regards

Ram

Thank you so much for sharing! I hope it’s of interest for your followers. 🙂
And congratulations on posting the fotos I included so nicely fitting! I know you sometimes struggle to get it right. They’re spot on!

ram

Follow up:  Ram’s post has 51 likes so far on Facebook Psychiatry and Clinical Psychology, not to mention others.  Ram’s post

doug

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Ram’s Mindball Post — ADHD Tip O the Day 873

This Post Is  Gift From Ram on One Aspect of ADHD

Last Spring I took a trip to Portugal to visit my family. While we were there, one of my sisters (a pharmacist with a college degree and a deep interest in all things health-related) took the opportunity to finally go see an exhibit about the human brain and dragged me along.

We had lots of fun in that interesting exhibit, that was actually quite interactive, but the best part was the one-on-one competition they had available for anyone who was willing to give it a try. (Note: I’m in no way associated with Mindball(registered mark) )
I had to sit around for a while because there was a school class of little kids, eagerly taking each other on under supervision of an exhibition guide, challenging among themselves and challenging their teachers. The goal of the game: two people sit in front of each other at two ends of a table and in the middle of the table, there is a ball. This ball is connected to a magnet under the table that responds to the EEG readings of the meters connected to each of the players’ heads. When a player is more focused and calm than the other player, the ball moves away from him. Whoever manages to push the ball away from himself and all the way to the other player, wins. During the whole game, two graphs on a big screen display the level of focus of each player.

Because I have ADHD and my sister is a “vanilla”, I was eager to take her on, desperate to see how my graph would compare to hers. While watching two of the teachers of the field-trip taking each other on, I noticed how high their levels of focus were (I don’t have pictures of their graphs, sadly).They both kept their eyes closed and they were almost flatlining on top of the graph, the ball between them barely moving: an exciting mental tug of war.

My sister, who had been still wandering elsewhere in the exhibit, finally joined me and I told her to wait until the kids were gone – which would prove to be a test of my patience, because the kids were having so much fun and wouldn’t let go. Eventually, two kids were playing and while one of them had a more or less constant graph-line of focus, the other one showed big spikes of focus that almost immediately let down. I quietly told my sister “Look at those focus spikes and how they drop! I’d bet you anything that kid has ADHD…”

Finally, the exhibition guide – who had noticed me a while back – told the little kids it was time to move on, because “there’s a couple of ladies here who also want to give it a go”. They frowned but moved on, my sister and I were finally ushered to the table and I gave the guide my cell phone and asked him to take pictures – which he gladly did at all the right moments. I decided to not close my eyes. I was afraid my mind would start wandering and decided to focus my gaze on the ball. The ball was still on my side – from the last pair who played the game – and started resetting by moving towards the middle of the table. Suddenly I was unsure of myself: was the game already on? It looked as if the ball was moving farther away from me than the center of the table would be? I had to ask and, after getting an affirmative answer, I stared at the ball. The ball was jerkily but steadily moving in the direction of my sister – meaning I was winning – so that for a
moment, I was unsure and looked at her in disbelief.

Ram and Sister

She was starting to break down in laughter and saying “I’m gonna lose!”. It startled me so much that, for a second, I lost focus and the ball took a big leap at me. I intently focused my eyes on the ball and gave my best. All the while thinking “focus, focus on the ball, deep breaths, be calm, focus on the ball” almost like a mantra. In a matter of seconds, I won.

The guide took a snapshot of the comparing graphs in the end, I thanked him and then we checked and analyzed the graphs.

Now, this is what you’d call anecdotal evidence, of course. But as I predicted, my brain focus worked in big jerks that constantly dropped if I wasn’t careful. To add further information: I had taken my meds (a compound like the one you’d find in Ritalin but under a different name in Europe) about 3h previously, so I was at the peak of my performance. Which makes sense: I could force myself to focus, but it was a conscious effort, and a jagged one at that.

My sister, being a vanilla, had a constant focus, though she didn’t focus very well because she felt put on the spot and unsure of herself.

Mindball Graphs

It really gave me a tickle to see the difference of our brains displayed in graphs and I wanted to share it with other ADHD fellows, so I offered myself to write a guest post for Doug, although I’m no blogger myself. I do hope it is of interest for all of you!

Doug’s Comments:

I only edited a few typos.  Ram struggled to get this done.  She deserves a lot a credit. More about that later.  Thank you, Ram.

It show that we can surprise ourselves with what we can do.

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ADHD Strikes Again! — ADHD Tip O the Day 872

ADHD continues its devious works to screw up our lives.

You all know my friend Tom, who missed three straight appointments with me? The good news is that this stimulated him to look at how he was managing his calendar and to make new strategies, which seem to be working.

He emailed me an apology and I used it as a post, Number 870. I asked him, as a penance, to make a comment on post 871 or 872. Tom has ADHD. We ADHDers do not always read everything  c  a  r  e  f  u  l  l  y.  So Tom wrote a comment, and put it on 870, where it was somewhat redundant.

However, since he has been so helpful with my books, I am not asking him to post another comment, not unless he really really wants to.  But if he does, not on this one please, where it again would be redundant. Save it for 873 or 874.

One step forward, one step back.

Strategy: We need to slow down, and when we are reading something, actually read it. I always feel in a rush and I generally skim things instead of reading them.  And if it is long and/or has multiple points to make, well, forget it.

Bonus Strategy: As a corollary, when I write a note to myself, I always need to stop and read it, to be sure that it’s legible and that it’ll make sense to me later. Especially in my appointment book; I hate it when I have an appointment noted in my book on a certain date but have no idea what it is.

doug

Note O the Day: Amazingly, the new book, proposed title, Living with ADHD: Tips to make your life better, is almost ready to publish. I’m not looking forward to that part. Getting it correctly on the page can be very frustrating.  But I am eager to get it done.  Tom has been a huge help editing it.  Using strategies to avoid procrastinating.  One is to post this here.

Question O the Day: Do you have any suggestions about the book title?  They would be very welcome.  Thanks.

Links:

Struggling with Appointments

Natural treatments for ADHD 

I do have some questions about this one. Fish oil (omega 3 fatty acid) has been proven to be somewhat helpful sometimes.

October is ADHD Awareness Month!

I wasn’t aware of this.

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Distracted, Derailed, Off the Track — ADHD Tip O the Day 871

Distractable = ADHD

I’ve been working on a revision of the 365 Tips O the Day book and I got about 65% finished on the final draft, number 11.  When it’s done I can publish it.

Well, writing is the easy part, editing is hard, and the publishing is a booger.   A set up for procrastination.

We went on a lovely two week vacation and a novel popped into my head.  That had never happened before.  I had no intention of writing a novel. But these characters were suddenly living in my head and I was recording their lives and adventures.   I finished the first draft in two weeks.

My wife read part of it and didn’t like it.  A friend read it and also didn’t like it because she didn’t like the main character, Alma.  I can see that Alma is not all that likeable although I like her.  My friend also said I needed more dialogue  so I’m putting that into the second draft.  The characters are allowing me to hear their conversations.  Putting the conversations in  follows the writing principle of showing, not telling.

I wonder, “Is this the best use of my time?”  I think not, but – “Why do writers write?”  “Because they have to.”

Since we got back the El Paso shooting happened and I’ve been very involved in a program about gun violence. (You can check us out on facebook, Too Many Deaths. We’re trying to get organized.)

Strategy:

I haven’t really come up with one but I’ve decided not to worry about it.  I’ll probably finish the novel first because it has a stronger motivation right now. I’ll finish them both anyway, so what difference does it make?

Tip:

Double check to see if what you’re concerned about really needs that concern. 

doug

Quote O the Day:

“Don’t worry; be happy.”

Bonus Quote O the Day:

BREAKING NEWS!! Man adjusts to society after two decades of being raised by family!

Personal Note O the Day:

I’m retiring at the end of the month. I hope to finish the books, maybe start another one, or not; do a blog a week, fish more, learn more guitar and more spanish, and especially spend more time doing things with my wife.

Links:

Marriage and other similar relationships

Bonus Tip O the Day:

Ram on finding the lost i phone using a tracker:

“Hi Doug! I use a Garmin Vivofit. I just checked: it works even if the phone is set to silent + Do Not Disturb mode. 🙂”

My ADHD Mind

Snuck up on me!

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Missed Appoinments – – – ADHD Tip O the Day 870

 My ADHD friend (still) Tom and his missed appointments:

Tue 9/10/2019 12:07 PM

Doug,
    I am mad at myself and embarrassed at missing breakfast with you this morning.
    Going back over this morning and when this happened last month or the month before I think a particular coping mechanism might work for me — a separate calendar for me located where I can’t miss it. This morning I knew that it was going to be an unusually busy day for Ann with all of it scribbled on our calendar, so I didn’t check yesterday or today (I had decided not to go to clergy conference so I could be here for a couple of times later today when she will need my help).
     I have now created my own calendar, located right above the silverware drawer where I unload the dishwasher every morning. So, in a way, my screw up has been balanced by a victory for you, as it is your insistence in your book over and over to create coping mechanisms. Even so, they don’t balance out and I remain pissed that I missed the time with you.
Tom

Tues 9/10/19 3:10 PM

Reply:

Tom
1.I believe it was last month and the month before, not “or.” Therefore I am taking the liberty of making this a post.

2. I’m glad you’ve decided on a coping mechanism and that you reference the book. If you wish to review, it says that it’s essential to have an appointment book, or I guess, a calendar, but it will be worthless unless you make a habit of checking it several times a day. A habit. One way to do this would be the strategy of using an anchor; for example: make a habit of checking it at each meal. Also, I have found it necessary to be sure that I write legibly when I enter something, not my scribbling. Otherwise it’s useless.

3. Your making a strategy now is an example of something good coming out of something bad. Or stated more graphically, a flower rising from the fertilizer. Or stated even more graphically – well, let’s  not go there.
4. If you miss wish to make  penance you could commit yourself to making a comment on post 871 or 872 when they appear. You’ll need to note this commitment in your appointment book or your calendar. Legibly.

5. I need to make a new strategy too. In the future when we make an appointment, I’ll will  you in time for you to leave. What would be the best time to call?

6. ADHD is a booger.

7.  You have been a big help to me and I  still owe you. (Tom helps edit my books.)

with love

doug

 

PS O the Day:

I didn’t ask him, but if Tom missed three appointments in a row with me, do you think maybe he’s missing other appointments too?

Bonus PS  O the Day:

Tom and I had a great breakfast together this AM and he was only three minutes late. His strategy to set it on his alarm worked and he didn’t want me to call him, so he’s taking responsibility for dealing with his ADHD. Be like Tom.

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Link:

Forgiving

Bonus Links:

Funny

ADDA info

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A Day with ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 869

What is a typical day with ADHD like?

Here’s an example of how I spend my time:

Trying to find my glasses:  20 minutes

Trying to find my i phone, twice: 45 minutes

Trying to find the thing that was just in my hand, three times: 45 minutes

Trying to apologize and fix a misunderstanding with my wife, three times: 1 hour

Trying to get the job done that needed to be done yesterday: 1 hour

Trying to get the job done that needed to be done day before yesterday that needs to be done before yesterday’s job can be started: 2.5 hours

Trying to get today’s job done:  O

Normal human functions and miscellaneous: 2 hours

Can’t be accounted for:  ??? the rest of the time

Oh, well.

doug

Tip O the Day:

Don’t spend your time like this.

Better Tip O the Day:

Use strategies.  Example: if you can’t find your glasses, look on your head first.                    Or your face.

Probably Best Tip O  the Day:

recommended by Dino

Links:

A Different ADHD Perspective

ADHD and marriage

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Pause – An ADHD Strategy — ADHD Tip O the Day 868

Trying a new strategy to help with my ADHD.

Maybe it’s not so new; I may have tried it before? Maybe it’s a form of mindfulness?

Anyway, it’s pretty simple.

I occasionally stop whatever I’m doing wherever I am and pause.

I don’t do anything, just pause. Five  or ten seconds.

No schedule, no trigger, no anchor.  Just whenever.

I like it. It helps me slow down and helps me focus.

Now the trick is to remember to keep doing it so it will become a habit.

Couldn’t be simpler.

doug

PS O the Day:

I’m trying to think of a strategy to help me remember to do it until it’s a habit.  I don’t want to use an anchor. Is there another way?

Links:

Attitude’s ADHD Planner

ADHD and Marriage (or relationship)

Quote O the Day

My parents kept telling me, “Late on you’ll understand.”

They were wrong.

 

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Medication Side Effects? – ADHD Tip O the Day 867

Dino asked about handling side effects of ADHD stimulant medication, especially sleep. (comment on ADHD Tip O the Day 865)

For insomnia, you would take the medication earlier in the day and possibly lower the dose. Of course, you want to make sure you’re practicing good sleep hygiene.  Very few of us do and most people just want a pill to fix their insomnia but sleep hygiene works and is needed even if you do take a pill.

Still, you might also take something to help you sleep; my first choice is always melatonin, which works for 70% of people if you get the dose up high enough. Try 5 mgm, 10, 15. You will know in two nights if that dose will work for you.  If 15 doesn’t, forget it.  Melatonin has few if any possible side effects and a very low chance of getting any.

This question illustrates some of the points about side effects which I will repeat again:
All medications have  possible side effects  as do all natural substances and alternatives. The questions  are, what are the possible side effects, are any of them serious, and what percentage of people who take this medicine get them?

For example, lithium is a wonderful medication for bipolar, for 50% of patients, whereas 50% get enough side effects that they can’t take it. One possible side effect is upset stomach. If someone gets that, they  can switch to the delayed release type of lithium, which usually takes care of that problem, but lithium is unusual in its  high rate of side effect problems.

Another example is Zoloft (Sertraline), a good antidepressant as well as helpful with PTSD. 10% of people will gain weight on it, usually in the second or third year. 90% of people will not gain weight on it.

One of the frustrating issues is that all  medications list their “side effects” rather than their “possible side effects.” Most people then assume that if they take this medicine they will get the side effects and will be expected to just put up with them indefinitely and so they are reluctant to take the medicine. Quite naturally.

In general, if someone gets one of the possible side effects of any medication, if they can tolerate it for 10 days, it will usually get better. Or they can reduce the dose. If it doesn’t get better, they can stop it and almost always any side effects will go away.

Me: “One of the possible side effects of this medicine is weight gain.”

Patient: “Oh, then I don’t want to take it.“

“Neither of us want you to gain weight. If you try the medicine, there’s only a 10% chance of that and a 90% chance it won’t happen.   But we can watch your weight and if you gain two pounds we’ll  stop the medicine and you’ll  stop gaining weight.  How does that sound?”

“No. I don’t want to take that medicine. I don’t want to gain weight.“

“OK, let’s try another medicine that doesn’t have weight gain  even as a slight possible side effect. We’ll talk about the other possible side effects of this other medicine, which again , you probably won’t get any of.”

See the problem here?

The fact is, most people won’t get any side effects and  if they do they can usually be managed, and if not , they can stop taking medicine and the side effects will go away.

ADHD Tip:  Try the medication. If you don’t like it, you can stop it. You don’t need to be stuck with side effects.

doug

Bonus Repetition O the Day, In Other Words:

Consider medicine A.  Its for people with a serious illness that hasn’t responded to anything else. It works well for 50 % of them. It has a serious possible side effect which occurs in one out of 100,000 patients;   999,999 do not get the side effect.

Consider medication B. It has a mild possible side effect  which doesn’t bother most people who get it but there is a 30% chance of getting it. Most don’t and  for those who do, its generally not a big deal.

So these two medicines are very different – 30% chance of mild side effect vs .001% chance of serious side effect.

Links:

ADHD Medication Side Effects

Bonus Link O the Day:

Sleep Hygiene

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Vitamin D for ADHD? — ADHD Tip O the Day 866

From the National Institutes of Health:

“The diagnosis of vitamin D deficiency was significantly greater in children with ADHD compared with the control group ( P < 0.05). Children with ADHD had significantly ( P = 0.0009) lower values of serum vitamin D (17.23 ± 8.98) than the control group(31.47 ± 14.42). The group receiving vitamin D supplementation demonstrated improvement in cognitive function in the conceptual level, inattention, opposition, hyperactivity, and impulsivity domains.

CONCLUSION:

Vitamin D supplementation in children with ADHD may improve cognitive function.”

My Comments:

I think this is important information. I’m not sure what it means. 

Vitamin D improves ADHD symptoms? Low vitamin D symptoms mimic ADHD?

I think everyone in New Mexico should be taking vitamin D; statistics show that we tend to be low, especially if we have dark skin.  A blood level test cost $65. You can buy a lot of vitamin D for $65.

I emphasize to patients that they won’t notice a difference when they start taking D but it will very gradually improve their health and functioning in many areas.

Recent studies show that if we have a halfway decent diet, we don’t need to take vitamins, that they are a waste of money. I am not entirely convinced. Especially if we are older. And especially vitamin D. But of course, studies  also show that a lot of the supplements we buy are fake.

It is a puzzlement.

I take vitamin D and a multivitamin. Not too expensive and presumably couldn’t hurt.  If not overdone.

doug

Snuck up on me!

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I don’t know if this link will work.  Seems worth a try.

Lots about Vitamin D:2019

Lots about ADHD

Clutter

Vitamin and Other Supplements: Caution

Vitamin D Does Help ADHD

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Lexi’s Question about Medication for ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 865

My response to Lexi’s question about taking medication for ADHD:  

First, recognize that everyone is different and someone else’s experience with some medicine may or may not have any bearing on how you will respond.

Second, how you reacted to some particular medication in the past may or may not have any bearing on how you would react to some other medicine now.

Third, finding the right medicine, right dose, and right timing for you or for anyone can be a challenging and frustrating experience, but when it all falls into place it can be fantastic. It’s  important to give each medication a good try before rejecting it unless you are having significant side effects. Be clear what your targets are, what you specifically want it to do.  Understand that some medicines,the stimulants, work quickly, but others, the antidepressants, take time.

Four, If I read your note correctly, your diagnosis is not clear. Do you have ADHD? Depression is a common partner with it. Do you have both? The best thing you can do right now would be to get a very clear  diagnosis and go from there.

Hope this may be of some help to you. Good luck.

doug

Notes O the Day:  Every medicine has possible side effects; that doesn’t mean you will get them. With very rare exceptions any side effect will get better with time or will stop when you stop the medicine. The medicines don’t work for everyone but when they don’t it raises a question about the diagnosis. There is a lot of crap on the net.

Bonus Note O the Day: You need to be taking vitamin D, especially if you live in New Mexico. I plan to do a whole post on this but you can go ahead and start now.

Link:

ADHD medicines: the mythology

ADHD medicines: the problem is they list “side effects” instead of “possible side effects.”

My ADHD Brain without meds

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ADHD and meds

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ADHD Mantras — ADHD Tip o the Day 864

Using Mantras for ADHD

I don’t know about you, but I don’t wake up and leap out of bed bright and ready to go anymore.  I stumble into the bathroom, answer the pressing physical demand that has my attention and then wonder what in the heck to do next.

That’s where the mantra comes in.

“Eyes, nose, patch.”  I’m awake enough to remember to say the mantra, out loud.

“Eyes, nose, patch.”

So I put the drops in my eyes.

Then I spray the stuff into my nose.

Then I clean off an area on my belly and apply the Daytrana patch that I  prepared the night before.

Then I’m ready to go.

Without the mantra, I’d still be standing there confused.

It’s about structure and habit.  And it works.

doug

Question O the Day:

Do you have any mantras to share?

Links:

Another ADHD forum, but please consider contributing to this blog first.

Structure and Routine with ADHD:

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Were you waiting on me?

 

Personal Notes O the Day:

I’ve been fishing for six straight days and haven’t had a bite but I persevere. The new ADHD book is about to come out. I started writing a novel for some reason.  It was just there and needed to come out, but I wonder if it’s a waste of time. It has nothing to do with ADHD, not as far as I can see.

Living with ADHD

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Defective — ADHD Tip O the Day 863

Who’s defective??!

My patient sat with her head down, looking morose. I asked her why. “I’m defective,” she answered.” Just defective.”

“What do you mean?”

“Well, I have anxiety disorder and phobias. I’m just defective.

I tried reassurance. “You’re not defective; you just have some problems.”

“Well, those are psychiatric problems. They’re diagnoses. So I’m defective.”

I took a chance. “Well, I have ADHD. Does that mean I’m defective?”

She thought a moment. “No, you’re not defective.”

“Why not?”

“Because you’ve mastered it.”

“No, I don’t think I’ve mastered it. I think I’ve just learned to cope with it.”

“Well, you’re a lot more successful than I am.”

“I guess that’s true. At least so far. But if I’m not defective, neither are you.”

She sat and looked at the floor, morose as ever.

Later, I reflected.  I hadn’t come up with any brilliant answers. It didn’t seem like I’d been any help.  Then I realized, she is defective. And so am I. And if you’ll pardon me for saying, so are you, aren’t you?

Who is perfect? Isn’t that what defective means, not perfect? I’ll  try this line next time we meet. Although to be honest, I’m not that optimistic. It’s not easy to change peoples’ thinking.

But ADHD is an official disorder. A psychiatric diagnosis. A malfunction of our brains. Not just a difference, but since it so much interferes with our  functioning in life, a malfunction.

We are all defective. We need to learn how to cope. Strategies. And for most of us, medication helps. So let’s just embrace our defectiveness and move on.

doug

Medication for Children (or Adults)?

Quote O the Day:

You pee on a jellyfish sting, not on a jelly stain.

My apologies to the the waitress the Waffle House.

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Really??!!

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Dinos On ADHD and Technology part 2 — ADHD Tip O the Day 862

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What?

Dinos is a high tech person.  I’m not.  He’s contributing some good tips.

“A Smart Home Makes A Smarter You

Have you ever found yourself doing something like cooking or washing dishes and wish you could tell somebody something like, “remind me to buy more paper towels,” “remind me in twenty minutes to turn off the oven,” or “remind me to pay the rent tomorrow” and actually get reminded of it later?

In my apartment, I’ve always got somebody to remind me to do stuff. I have a Google Home. Actually, I have two—one in my bedroom and one in my living room within earshot of the kitchen. When I’m in the middle of tasks where breaking my already-fragile concentration would be annoying, I just say, “Hey Google, remind me to…..”

It works for almost anything, really. I use it all the time to add stuff to my to-do list and multiple shopping lists as I think of them on the spot (without having to find a notepad to write it down or type it in my phone), it’ll start timers for when I’m in the kitchen (I’m a terrible cook already as it is, so I need all the help I can get), set reminders for later in the day/week/month, play music or podcasts to make tasks like laundry and dishes more tolerable, I could go on. Adding things on my to-do list on-the-fly is a big one—I only think of things I need to do or should’ve done while I’m working on something else that should’ve been done already.

Another cool thing about it is I get to ask it questions like, “What’s traffic like on my way to work?” It’ll let me know how screwed I am while I’m getting ready in the morning or to let me know if I’ve got a small chance to knock something out quickly off my to-do list before I need to head out to an appointment.

 

It’s great. It’s another way of externalizing those little, difficult-to-keep-track-of executive functioning tasks that don’t feel like a big deal in the moment but can add up throughout the day.

You know, like suddenly remembering that this Sunday is be Father’s Day but you’re right in the middle of something right now and can’t go off-script again or you’ll never finish this task and you just have to hope that you’ll remember again later at a better time when you can actually do something it and not forget to pick up a card like last year. Or the year before.

It doesn’t have to be that way anymore. Google’s got my back.

Alternatives to Google Home are Amazon’s Alexa or Apple’s Siri.

For me, just being able to say, “Hey Google,” “Hey Siri,” or “Hey Alexa,” out-loud and then say what’s on my mind without losing track of what I’m doing makes a huge difference in how many tasks get accomplished when I’m at home.”

Thanks, Dinos

I’ve started using my Alexa for to do reminders. And I’m pretty sure she can do more helpful things that I’m not using.  I use her for music, which is an amazing function. And as a timer. And she gives me weather forecasts and reports, and occasionally a sports score. But she’s underutilized.  I am tech challenged – dystechnologia.

doug

I can hyper focus. i can even do tech stuff. Sometimes.

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Goals and ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 861

Is It Good To Set Goals If You Have ADHD?

I’m a big fan of setting goals, but it’s hard for us ADHDers.  We always overestimate what we can do and underestimate how long it will take, don’t we?  And setting unreasonable goals just sets us up for failure which is demoralizing and makes it harder to get ourself to start things, a typical ADHD symptom.

I’ve shifted gears. Trying to take it easy now.

At the gym, I’ve stopped trying to raise the weight on the machines every time.  If I just show up and do what’s already set that’s good enough. This has made the work out much more pleasant and its easier to motivate myself to get to the gym. I still occasionally do raise a weight but its not required.

You may have noticed I’m not posting as often.  That’s partly due to work and travel, but I started with a goal of two posts a week.  I kept it up for a while, but it wasn’t a reasonable goal. I would still like to have a new post weekly, but it’s not really a goal.  No pressure.

I’m about to finish the redo of the 365 Tips book, but I have no deadline set.  Just keep plugging away and it’ll get done.

I’m trying to break the habit of rating my performance in general. Good enough is good enough.

But I still think goals are good. They just need to be reasonable.

doug

PS O the Day:

Reducing your goals just might reduce your anxiety or your depression.

ADHD Telesummit

Link to funnies

Just keep on keeping on.

 

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Using Technology To Outsmart ADHD —ADHD Tip O the Day 860

Dinos has helped me with technology before, one of my many weak spots.  He has generously agreed to contribute some posts.  Enjoy!

doug

Using Technology To Outsmart ADHD

I’m not sure how many other people can relate to this, but when I think of myself as an individual struggling with ADHD, I think of it something along the lines of this:

There’s the “me” I want to be

and…

There’s the other me. The guy with ADHD. The guy who’s impulsive, forgetful, frequently unmotivated, unreliable, etc. You know. ADHD-me.

Most of my life has been a constant struggle trying to control the other, “ADHD me” and oh man it’s been a mess. That guy has NO boundaries. Or respect for other people’s time.

 

So instead of trying to control ADHD-me, I’ve instead tried to adopt another strategy: trying to outsmart him.

How?

With technology.

Specifically, I’ve been using technology to shape my external environment to better facilitate desirable behaviors and outcomes. I’m literally modifying my behavior by externalizing behavioral and environmental cues! (Yay behavioral sciences!) The ideal is that I’m more able to rely on my environment to tell me what I need to do instead of relying on my executive functioning/will power.

Here is one example.

  1. Problem:
    My brain and body don’t do sleepy-time well. OR wakey-time, for that matter. This is a problem because sleep debt is not conducive to my day-to-day executive functioning and emotional well-being. What I think happens is that I get so focused on tasks at night (e.g. video games, researching random things on the internet, etc.), I literally forget that I’m supposed to be asleep. And because I’m so focused on the task, I don’t care. As you can imagine, waking up is even worse than trying to fall asleep with a mind that won’t stop chasing its tail.

Solution:

Stop relying on your brain/executive functioning/circadian rhythm to tell you when you should be going to sleep and waking up. Your ADHD brain is going to fail you. Instead, externalize the responsibility by using your environment as behavioral cues that it’s bedtime and you’re getting sleepy—and that it’s morning and the sun’s out. Stop forcing yourself through sheer willpower to try and go to bed or wake up.

 

Execution:

Smart light bulbs! These things are awesome.

So here’s what happens in the morning: at a time that I specify (say, 5:00am), the smart light bulbs installed in my ceiling come on at 1%. They’re super dim. As the morning progresses to a set time (say, 5:30am), the lights gradually get brighter and brighter until they’re at 100% brightness. THE POWER OF THE SUN IS IN MY BEDROOM and that’s really hard to ignore, unlike my phone’s many alarm clocks. But here’s the magic: because the bulbs are gradually and slowly getting brighter, my body’s given a chance to finish up its last REM cycle phases so I don’t wake up angry and groggy.

At nighttime, at a specified time (say, 9:00pm) the light bulbs in my apartment dim a little—from 100% to 99%. And then they slowly get dimmer and dimmer until it’s 9:30 and then they all shut off. Bedtime.

The dimming of the light bulbs is sub-consciously working as an environmental cue to start wrapping up my night without requiring me to utilize my already-spent willpower to make myself to go to bed. And believe it or not, the dimming of the bulbs actually does make me pretty sleepy as those 30 minutes progress.

These are the lightbulbs that I bought: https://www2.meethue.com/en-us/get-started

Note that there are cheaper alternatives out there but in my research these have been the easiest and most pleasant to set up.

Bonus: regarding good sleep hygiene, technology isn’t all that great. The blue light emitted by the screens we’re looking at all day/night suppress melatonin suppression (cite)—not great when trying to go to sleep.

The good news: there’s a strategy for that. There are programs that you can download on your computer (PC/Mac) that make the color of your computer’s display adapt to filter out this blue light, depending on the time of day. My favorite piece of software to do this is currently f.lux—it even tracks when the sun rises and sets to optimize this transition.

Extra Bonus: The newest versions of our mobile devices (Android/iOS) also have something similar built-in called “Night Mode” or “Night Shift” that will also filter out some of this blue light. If you’re using an older phone that doesn’t have it, there are a couple different apps you can download—hit the comments and let me know what you have.

Note O the Day:

I‘ll welcome other guest posts if you’d also like to contribute.  They don’t need to be perfect; I will do editing if needed.  And of course, your comments are always very welcome.

Bonus Link:Dystechnologica

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Child to Adult ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 859

About 8% of US children have ADHD.

About 50% outgrow it during adolescence. For the rest of us it changes somewhat. We usually get less impulsive and less hyperactive.  For example, at a business meeting, we don’t keep leaping from our chair and running around the room or yelling inappropriate things; we just fidget and occasionally say something inappropriate. And maybe knock over our water glass or forget to bring the essential notes.

Some of the improvement is due to maturation of our brains. But even if we are in the fortunate 50 and no longer have enough symptoms  for an ADHD diagnosis, our brains are still different from vanillas and we probably  have  mild ADHD problems.

Another reason for the positive change is that we’ve learned some strategies and we cope better.  So maybe we won’t forget the notes.

My experience of ADHD in children is  limited.  Of course, I experienced  my own childhood, plus my son Duane’s. I’ve heard a lot of others’ childhoods, and I follow the literature.  I haven’t evaluated nor treated children for ADHD.

If you read the comments on these posts, which I highly recommend, you’ve read the discussion  Ken initiated (Post 857).  We have somewhat different views on the use of medication for children with ADHD. Ken’s comes from his experience with his son and his experience as a teacher.  I’m hoping Ken will continue the discussion a bit further.

Kens’ comments stimulated this post and a few to follow, addressing medication and other interventions for children, many of which apply to adults.

Just to give you a preview: colored manila folders are wonderful!

Feel free to share your childhood experiences.  (Or your opinions, or almost anything else  you wish. Almost.)

doug

Hopeful Note O the Day:

I think we have some guest posts lined up.  I’m eagerly awaiting those.  Feel free to contribute one. Or more.

Book Notes O the Day:

The Your Life Can Be Better book would be useful for teens, but I don’t know about children.  Certainly the principle of how to formulate and apply strategies would. The 365 Tips book is on the 11th draft and is being edited by Tom. Thank you, Tom.  Progress in a long slow process.

Irrelevant Note O the Day:

I have a miniscule amount of experience of teaching kids with ADHD and was able to help some. That was very gratifying.

ADHD Links:

Helping ADHD Kids Focus

Improving Adult ADHD Without Medicines

(Or I might say, in addition to medicines.)

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“Why not just let boys be boys?” Because with ADHD, they can’t function.

 

 

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A Radical Change — ADHD Tip O the Day 858

Maybe ADHD Pushes Us Too Hard?

I started school when I was five and started working when I was eleven. I’ve always liked working. And I was always competing, with myself and others.

Now I’ve reached a certain age, and I’m shifting gears, entering a new phase of life.  I call it  coasting. All my life I’ve been striving, trying hard to do better, to improve. I don’t think I’m gonna get much better, and I’m tired of striving and competing.

At the gym, I lowered the weights on the leg machines by 5 pounds, and I’m no longer pushing to increase the weight every day.

In my job, I am no longer trying to do excellent work, just good enough. We have so many patients to take care of that good enough is  all that’s reasonably possible, and my striving for excellence was messing things up.

I am still trying some things: trying to relax, take it easy, sit more often, do mindfulness more often. But generally, I’m trying not to try.  This doesn’t come naturally, but it feels good.

I don’t regret the past, but it’s time to change.

Are there areas of your life where you don’t need to try so hard? Then would you maybe function better in the other areas?

doug

Snide Comment O the Day:

Well, we’ll see.

Thought Experiment o the Day:

In how many ways does ADHD make you try harder?

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Really??!!

 

Just keep on keeping on.

Snuck up on me!

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Medicine for ADHD? — ADHD Tip O the Day 857

Some people are on too much medicine and too many meds and some on not enough. Meds are helpful to some people and not to others. For some people meds are miracles and for some not helpful at all, or worse. We are each unique. Meds are mostly helpful and certainly worth trying. 

ADHDer “I don’t want to take that medicine; I read the side effects.”

Me  “What side effects are you afraid of and what do you think the chances are that you will get them and if you do, how long do you think you would need to put up with them?

Some people are afraid of side effects, not understanding that side effects are only possible side effects; some people get them and some don’t. If you get them you stop the medicine. Nothing to be afraid of.

You won’t know until you try it.

Sometime the first medicine works fine. Sometimes it takes a while, trial and error, to find the right medicine, the right dose, and the right time to take it.

I need my Daytrana.

doug

Semi-relevant Story O the Day:

I told my wife I was going fishing.  The water is running high right now.  Too high to go really, but I need to get out.

She asked, “Isn’t it dangerous?”

I said, “Yes.”

It is dangerous.  I’m also going to walk to the library. That’s dangerous, too.  I could get hit by a car, fall and hurt myself, get mugged. But walking would be safer than driving.  Flying would be safest of all, but that’s not feasible.

If I wanted to be safe, I’d stay at home in bed.  But then I’m in danger of developing blood clots, falling out of bed, getting injured by a fire or a tornado. Fairly safe from flooding here, though. 

Life is not safe; everything is a gamble.  Figure the odds.

Links:

I Don’t Need Any Medicine

Previous Comments

Ritalin?

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Efficient with ADHD. Huh??—ADHD Tip O the Day 856

I’m trying to get more done in less time and with less effort.  Tthat sounds like trying to be more efficient, not one of my strong points. So I asked for advice from my son-in-law, Bruce, who is sharp and knowledgeable.

Bruce  recommended that I tie these posts together with a theme and include quotes from the book.  I’m trying to follow his advice but Ineed to ask him to clarify what tie them together means.  Are they tied together  already by the theme of ADHD, and specifically, how to live with adult ADHD  and make your life better using strategies?  The tips are to give you help with that, but maybe they need to be more focused on the theme?

In the interest of efficiency, I’m sending Bruce this post instead of calling him.

The Tip for Today is to try to save time when you can, and sometimes you can make one thing serve two purposes.

Chapter 31 of the book is about trying to avoid being rushed and pressured.  Not only are these states of mind unpleasant, but they increase our rate of making errors.  Which  will lead to feeling more rushed and more pressured.

So think about ways to be efficient.

Your comments, critiques, concepts, conclusions, criticisms, and contributions would all be enthusiastically welcomed.

doug

Definition O the Day:

efficiency

noun

  1. the state or quality of being efficient.”greater energy efficiency”

    synonyms:

    organizationorder, orderliness, planningregulation, logicality, coherenceproductivityeffectivenesscost-effectiveness

I can hyper focus. Sometimes.

Links:

Habits of highly efficient people (easy for you to say.)

How to be efficient

Stay Ahead

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Best ADHD Blogs of 2019 — ADHD Tip O the Day 855

The Link: I can’t swear these are the best blogs, they may have left out some (snicker, snicker), but I’ll admit these are  darn good.

I’m not posting often enough for one thing.  I can give several reasons.

I’m not getting enough guest bloggers.  There are some really good ones out there, but they’re busy.

Well, I’ll try to do better.  I try to do a lot of things.

Question O the Day:

How can you tell an explanation from an excuse?

Answer: If I say it, it’s an explanation.  If you say it, –.

Quote O the Day:

You know that little voice that says, “Oh no, you can’t say that.”?

Well, I have one of those.  It’s just that it runs about eight seconds behind.

Second Question O the Day:

Who out there would like to do a guest blog?  How about you?

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ADHD and Screens — ADHD Tip O the Day 854

            1 .0  out of 5 stars     Why isn’t this book available in paperback?!

Format: Kindle Edition

Bonus Links O the Day:

ADHD and Reading

 

Good ADDitude Posts

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Momma Tried Meds— ADHD Tip O the Day 853

Should you give medication to your ADHD child, or take it your self?

Diane Yvonne shared her post on another site.

“Just wanting to share my experience. My 11 year old son has ADD. We opted not to try medication for some time, just personal preference and fears of the unknown stopped us. Now I feel like such a terrible Mom as we put our son on medication for the first time in January and he is doing GREAT! He just brought home his first report card and he has a 3.0 GPA. That is a first! He describes ADD unmedicated as a big bright room full of distractions and he describes being on medication as being in a room big room with light shining on the task he needs to focus on. This was how he describes a classroom setting. He is getting class work done now, so happy I let go of my fears and finally tried a medication for him.”

There are a lot of people afraid or unwilling to try ADHD medication for a number of different reasons.  It is important to educate yourself and deal with facts and not fears and unfounded opinions. I believe that every child with ADHD deserves a trial of medication.  Ritalin would be my first choice However, the current medical guidelines recommend trying other behavioral approaches first, so apparently sometimes they work.

I’ve said before: for some people the medications don’t work; for some people, like me, they help some; for some people, like Diane’s son, they’re a miracle.

Diane, thank you for sharing.  I applaud your courage.

doug

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Meds can help ADHD.

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Meds for ADHD kids

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Gift O the Day:

I’m going to try to send a free E booklet to all new subscribers. Six Basic Strategies for Coping with Adult ADD/ADHD.

If you have already subscribed and would like one, get me your email address and I’ll send it.

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Some Little Things that Help — ADHD Tip O the Day 852

Little Things Can Make a Difference with ADHD

One of the keys of living well in spite of ADHD is making habits. With a habit, you don’t have to remember, think, or make a decision; you just do it.

Here are some little things I’ve made habits for.

  1. Whenever I use my credit card, I put it back into my billfold. Then I stop and check that it is in my billfold. Even though I just put it there.

If this seems like silly nonsense to you, a waste of time, too much effort, then you have never spent a day looking for your credit card, calling to cancel it, and having to call  to update your automatic payments (and then find it in your shirt pocket, where you never looked because you never put it there.).

  1. Before I leave home, I tap my left pocket to be sure my billfold is there, and my right pocket to be sure my iPhone is there. I’ve found it is better to have them with me than to have forgotten them.                                                                                                                     
  2. As I’ve mentioned before, before I drive away from the pump, I always check to make sure the nozzle is not still in the gas tank. This can save some hassle.

These are small things, but they can prevent some big things.

Doug

PS O the Day

In her book about compulsions, Can’t Just Stop,  Begley says that many of our minor compulsions are not problems or mental illness, but necessary and useful ways we cope with the anxiety from the chaos of our lives. We need to have some areas where we feel we are in control (even though that may also be an illusion.)

My little habits are not compulsions. I don’t have to do them. I don’t get anxious if I don’t. But they reduce the level of chaos in my life and my life is better.

Quote O the Day:

And O the day before, and O the day before that, and O —

“Well, I won’t do that again!”

Links:

Habits

How to form a habit

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Make a new habit – your life can be better.

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Life with ADHD

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Bad Words — ADHD Tip O the Day 851

Don’t Use These Words If You Have ADHD
or maybe even if you don’t.

Ram recently stated that “Stupidly, I fell off the bike– .”  I suggested that that wasn’t a good word to apply to herself, but she explained that she didn’t, she was applying it to the situation.

OK.

But

I’m recommending that we eliminate “stupid,” and all variations from our vocabularies. We ADHDers tend to suffer from low esteem, tend to get abused by others, and we don’t need to compound it. You wouldn’t call your child “stupid,” so why would you do that to yourself? It may be okay to call someone else that, but I don’t recommend it. Instead, I recommend you eliminate it.

Another Bad Word- “Should,” and also, “Have To.” 

These words stimulate our unconscious resistance. “You can’t tell me what to do!” They actually make it harder for us to do whatever task we were applying “should” or “have to” to. I recommend you eliminate them from your vocabulary also. You can say “I need to,” or “It would be good if I -,” or even “I’d like to-,” if you can believe it. Form a habit of using alternative statements.

Words have power. Let’s use them wisely.

doug

“Stupid” ( I think made a mistake about the Spanish here.  Was that stupid?)

“Have To” – Alternatives

The Power of Words

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Our inner child has ADHD

 

 

 

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JADE and ADHD —- ADHD Tip O the Day 850

Ram, who is a great contributor to the ADHD blog, has written about the difficulties of dealing with family.  I couldn’t refrain from offering some advice:

“Ram
Families are truly difficult. Ignorance makes it even worse. You need to manage your way. you know them and you know you, and I don’t. One alternative way it could be handled is, when you feel there is reason to say that you have ADHD, say it. Then if they come back with crap,  you can just say, “That’s an interesting viewpoint.“ And then do not engage further on the subject. If they keep saying crap, just keep saying, “You have an interesting viewpoint there. “You don’t have to answer any questions or explain or defend.”

Principle O the Day, from AA:

JADE:  You don’t have to justify, explain or defend.

Confession O the Day:

I am biased towards encouraging people to come out about their ADHD when possible.  The more of us who come out, the less stigma there will be.

Wise Saying O the Day:

The best thing about good advice is that it does so little harm, because no one ever follows it.

Analogy O the Day:

Trying to educate someone about ADHD when their mind is already made up is like trying to teach a pig to sing.  You will just get frustrated and it annoys the pig.

doug

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“I love hearing your opinion about ADHD!”

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You don’t have ADHD!

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Outgrow ADHD? — ADHD Tip O the Day 849

Questions Abound About ADHD

A follower asked if  children outgrow ADHD. Research shows that 50% of children with ADHD will “grow out of  it” by late adolescence.  This means that they might still have some symptoms but the symptoms are  fewer and mild enough that they would no longer meet criteria for an ADHD diagnosis. 
The research also shows that  their brains do not change to normal but do  improve in that direction.  Those who have been treated with stimulants show more brain improvement, but still don’t attain “normal.”
For the 50% of us who continue to have the full syndrome, our brains did not change but our  symptoms do moderate somewhat. This is presumably due to some brain maturation and to our learning how to cope, getting strategies. For example, hyperactivity usually becomes less and manifests more as fidgeting.

Controversy O the Day:

There are some reports of adult onset ADHD but I have found no substantiating data and I do not believe it.  Almost by definition, we are born with ADHD.

Doug

 

Irrelevant Note O the Day:

I’m experimenting with different ways to post an image to facebook.  Maybe one of these will work.  I think perhaps demonic forces are working against me.

 

 

Link to specific data about ADHD brain

About brain imaging

Video on ADHD brain.

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There Is a Solution to the Problem— ADHD Tip O the Day 848

My job put me up in a beautiful big old house. When I come in in the evening, and when I  leave in the morning, there are no lights. It is dark.  Very dark.  It is a big beautiful old house with a big beautiful staircase, which is dark as the pit. I’ve been very nervous going up and down the staircase in the dark, carrying two heavy bags.

Strategy: I suddenly realized I can just turn on my iPhone. Not even the flashlight, just the iPhone.That is already a habit, or maybe not even a habit. My anxiety on the dark staircase is the anchor, or the cue, for automatically using the iPhone

Problem solved.  

But this is really kind of silly, because once I realized it was A Problem, I could have easily just carried a small flashlight in my brief case.  That’s the real trick, acknowledging that it’s A Problem, not just one of the inevitable many small annoyances of life.

It would’ve been A Real Problem if I’d broken my leg.  Or my neck.

doug                               

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Odd Note O the Day:  You may be wondering why this is printed in such a strange format.  So am I.

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ADHD decisions.

 

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Another Way to Look At ADHD—ADHD Tip 0 the Day 847

There are many different ways to look at ADHD:

Some people deny that it exists. The fact that they have no idea what they are talking about does not deter them.

Some people say it is an executive dysfunction problem. I think that is one part of ADHD.

Some focus on the neurotransmitters (norepinephrine, dopamine), some on structure (basal ganglia, cerebellum), and some on networks (connecting amygdala, hippocampus, frontal cortex, cerebellum). I think it is all of these.

Some see it as a disease or disorder. Some see it as a variation of normal. Others see it as a gift. I am not one of those. I see it as a difference which, since it causes so many problems, is a disorder. I also believe there is an abrupt significant difference between us ADHDers and the vanillas, not just a gradual change on a curve.

Dr. William Dodson, an expert on ADHD who I highly respect, has a different view from mine, regarding the basic symptoms and dysfunctions:

“three defining features of ADHD emerge that explain every aspect of the condition:
1. an interest-based nervous system
2. emotional 
hyperarousal
3. 
rejection sensitivity”

from dr dodson  on the three main features of ADHD

More good Dr. Dodson links

I see ADHD is a neurodevelopmental disorder, highly genetic, present from conception, with differences in the networks, structures, and neurotransmitters. To me, the main issue is lack of control of focus, and that our “focus center” is not turned on in the same way as the vanillas. This basic feature causes a number of problems, which themselves cause other problems or symptoms, such as rejection sensitivity due to shame and low self-esteem, for example, which is caused by our frequent screwing up and the resulting criticism from others and from ourselves.

doug

 

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Sometimes it drives me up the wall. Or beyond.

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Can a Month Cause ADHD? — ADHD Tip O the Day 846

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ADHD Strategies Work, Eventually — ADHD Tip O the Day 845

ADHD Medication Side Effects

I didn’t get much sleep tonight. Took a long time to realize I still had my Daytrana patch on.

One of the two side effects of the patch is that if I don’t take it off early enough I’ll have trouble sleeping. I’ve been working on this problem.

I’ve been using the strategy of setting my iPhone alarm for 5:10. Unfortunately, this hasn’t worked very well. When the alarm rings, instead of thinking, “Oh,  I have to take my patch off.“ I think “Oh, I have to turn the alarm off.“

But I improved the strategy. I set the alarm now for 5:10 and also for 5:15. Now when the 5:10 goe off, I’m somehow that the 5:15 is coming and that I need to take off the patch. That’s working.

Usually.

The Point: If you can identify that something is a problem, you can come up with a strategy.  If your first strategy doesn’t work, you can come up with another one.  Your life can be better.

Related Note:  The second side effect of the Daytrana patch is red welt where it was when you take it off.  Goes away in a day or two, doesn’t hurt, itch or burn, no problem.

doug

 

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As I was saying -. What was I saying?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Ram’s Comment—ADHD Tip O the Day 844

Repeating a good comment from Ram.  I do love the comments.

“I guess we’re all guilty of thinking about what could have been. I certainly am, as I dropped out of college to take the hard road of becoming a poorly paid pastry baker.
But then I think of what might have been, had I discovered my ADHD when I was in college – and had I stuck with it. I might’ve graduated and never have moved away from my homelandm to Germany, which would almost certainly make me end up with a dead-end job (which is so much the case in Portugal)
Instead I came to Germany. I suffered many years until I was diagnosed (jumped from job to job because I couldn’t stand people, went from one bad situation to the next one) but then I was diagnosed. I got a handle on me more than ever before and although I’m not 100% happy with my life, I got a grip on myself enough to try and change the things I can change.
My life might’ve been great. It might also have been worse. This is my reality now, the reality I have to live. And I strive to make the best of it. It’s all anyone can do. 🙂
As always, thanks for a lovely post.
Confession: I’m a bit tipsy. I had a strong beer with my dinner (don’t have to work tomorrow) and I’m enjoying my tipsyness. It usally makes want to hug the world! (more so than usual, anyway) 🙂”

Ram  is on a good path, making her life better. We grieve what we think could’ve been, but who knows? Occasional tipsy may be a good thing, recharging the brain if it doesn’t kill too many cells – I don’t know for sure.  If it makes you want to hug the world it’s probably good.

doug

Sad Story O the Day:

You may have read where I went  to get my car to drive to work and my battery was dead. I think I had shut the door on the seat belt.  So I had to take my wife’s car. That worked fine for me, not so good for her. So I drove to work, had a good day, came out to drive home. Got in my wife’s car.  The battery was dead.

I was unfamiliar with her car’s control system and possibly I’d left the lights on. But knowing I have ADHD, I’d done the smart thing and after I got out, I’d turned around and looked at the car to make sure none of the lights were on. Still, it’s possible.

Two dead batteries in one day. That may be some kind of record, even with ADHD.

Quote O the Day:

Oh, crap!

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Bee Gee, on Older with ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 843

Bee Gee Diagnosed at 68! Wow! I feel I’d love to talk to this person… being 51 and eagerly awaiting diagnosis it occurs to me that perhaps there are a few positives with late diagnosis. Sure we have all heard about the grief over lost opportunity “what I could have been if someone had recognised this in me”.. but a distinct positive has started to crystallise for me…. perhaps not being diagnosed meant that we clumsily found our own expert solutions to help us navigate the world without having the label of ‘broken’…

two and a half weeks ago I read something about adult ADHD in women… I’ve been reading ever since… talking to people and learning so much about myself… I felt at first elated, then broken, then confused over recent weeks. … so ‘broken’ is part of being self identified as ADHD.. and I imagine is a big part of it for many people… so perhaps those of us who are diagnosed late in life have a special role in communicating how it feels to be an ADHD person… because we now have the comparison of “what I thought I was” vs “what I have realised I am like”… and perhaps with that experiential distinction as an adult we are better equipped to point to strengths and solutions rather than labels and deficits …    

Doug Puryear bee gee – you have many good points here. we do need to grieve the lost possibilities, but not spend much time or energy on it. I don’t think it as broken, but different in a way that makes life harder. and yes, I had many strategies before I ever knew I had ADHD or that they were strategies. and I think getting the right diagnosis, even if its ‘at last’ is a great thing.

Bee Gee For me it has meant that I have a reason..when I do those little things which I know are rude.. drifting off, interrupting etc. a few years back when I thought my cognitive difficulties were due to inflammation from auto immune stuff I turned up to have my hearing tested. I had made the appointment that morning and had been given the address and directions over the phone. The address was in a street I know very well in a suburb I have lived in for most of my life. when I arrived there was no record of the appointment. There was discussion about ringing and booking so she phoned her bookings person and they said they hadn’t spoken to me or booked me in. I was feeling really like I was in the twilight zone.She asked to see my referral.. the referral was for a different place … when I was given instructions about where the place was my mind leapt to ‘know already, don’t need to listen’ and told me that it was the place my dad went to to get his hearing aid… it wasn’t. Silly me.

Anyway those mind thwarting moments of being sure but being wrong which I had gotten used to continued and always seemed worse when having an RA flare. it is only since a friend told me she had just been diagnosed with adult ADHD and she explained how it is often missed in girls and why that I started to really go through my life and look at it through this lens. I recognised so much of myself. Every new bit of information seemed to colour in the detail of my vague life. I’ve now realised that what happened was I built some very successful skills to mask and deal with the ADHD but when I got sick those tricks and work around started to fail. I know this because these same little things used to happen a lot when I was little and right up until my teens… but I guess I just thought I was really misunderstood and/or teachers, parents, other kids were just being mean.

Doug Puryear bee gee. that sounds just right. would it be ok with you if I posted these comments on the ADHD blog? they would be good.

Bee Gee  sure

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Thanks, Bee Gee.

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Quote O the Day:

“Where is my phone?
Oh, there it is. Thank you, honey.
Now, where is my wallet?
Ah, I found it!
Now, where’s my phone?”

 

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An ADHD Christmas — ADHD Tip O the Day 841

I wish you each a very Merry Christmas, happy Hanukkah, and whatever else you may wish to celebrate, and a very blessed, joyous, productive, low stress new year.

People ask me, “Are you ready for Christmas?”  I always reply, “I am never ready for Christmas.”

But actually, I am ready this year. No more shopping on December 24.

I suggest next year you buy your Christmas presents in November.

And that when you unwrap your presents, carefully keep notes of who sent what so you can thank them, and also so that you may return the things you want to return.

And try to use moderation in your eating and drinking. I have noticed that moderation in my drinking is essential to keeping moderation in my eating.

I am hoping to keep my weight gain to 6 pounds. I can lose 6 pounds in two months. I can gain 6 pounds in one evening.

Thank you for your support this year and keep the comments coming.

Best wishes

Doug

Bonus Link for Christmas

Procrastination

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Santa’s addicted. too.

 

 

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Technologically challenged. Isn’t that part of ADHD? – – – ADHD Tip O the Day 840

With ADHD comes a lot of challenges – geographical, legibility , technology,—.

I had an iPhone 6. The screen was cracked, but I was used to that. Charging was slow and it didn’t hold a charge well, especially with my music, although the readout said the battery was 85% healthy.

I indulged myself and got a new 8. I soon had a problem. It wouldn’t ring when someone called me and wouldn’t give the swoosh sound when I sent a message.

I spent a long time last night trying to fix this. I googled the problem and found some solutions. I made adjustments in notifications  and in sounds and in the mail folder. I finally got it to vibrate.

That was not good enough, so I called Verizon tech today. The gentleman spent a lot of time patiently going through all the different settings with me. The result of this was that it not only didn’t ring or swoosh, it also no longer vibrated. No indication that I was getting a call or sending an email.

I was either going to have to follow his suggestion and call back and get a higher ranked tech, or was going to have to drive to the Verizon store and try to find an associate who could fix it for me. Either seemed a time-consuming hassle.

There is a sound control switch on the side of the phone. It silences the ringers and other sounds and you just get vibration as a signal. This is good for when you’re in church or at the movies, for example. You push it down to silence the phone and there is a little orange patch that shows you it’s on silent. You push it up to get the sound back on when you leave the church or the movies, if you can remember to.

In my spare time, I googled again, putting in a different phrase.

Well, turns out, that’s the way it was on the 6. On the 8, just the opposite. And no color indicator of which setting it’s in. I had it turned off.

Wish I had found that out sooner. Anyway, it’s working now.

And that, folks, is life with ADHD and technological challenge.

Doug

PS: The volume buttons on the 8 are hard to use. And it has no jack for headphones. You have to buy a separate attachment for headphones, and then you can’t charge it and use headphones at the same time. That’s what I used to do while driving when I had my 6.  But it charges fast and holds a charge longer. There is no other benefit I’ve found yet. Well, the screen is not cracked, yet.

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yes, that’s right, ADHD.

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Traveling with ADHD. Oh, My. — ADHD Tip O the Day 839

This ADHD post is too long. As you’ll see, that’s kind of the point.

We flew from Santa Fe to Dallas to visit our new foster great-grandchild. Yay!

But:

Checking in, I left one of our bags at the security checkpoint. We nearly left without it except I thought maybe I heard my name called.  But when I went over, they were calling  “ Burger. Burger,” so I told them the bag wasn’t ours. They couldn’t read my printing on the tag. It was Puryear, not Burger. But we got the bag.

The flight was OK. We got turned around in the Dallas airport and couldn’t find baggage claim. By the time we got there, all the passengers and bags were gone. Then I saw our bag sitting in the airline office. I went in and said, “This is ours,“ and walked off with it. No questions, no ID. Nothing.

Then we had a long cold walk with our bags, outside the building, to the pick up area for the rental car shuttle.  Then we waited. Then the shuttle took us on a very long ride to the office. No problems there. We had a  very very very long ride to get out of the airport, which is huge. Then a long slow drive target to our granddaughter’s house, partly because it was raining.  Bumper to bumper. Slow.

Trip back was similar in reverse, but less so.

Now to get to the point. We’d flown from Santa Fe because it’s more convenient. It saves the hour’s drive to Albuquerque to get Southwestern and fly into Love Field, which is close to our granddaughter’s house. And the hour back to Santa Fe. As it turned out, it probably took us over two hours extra doing it this way, and a lot more frustration.

Long trip, long post.

Strategies:
1. Always count all of your bags at every transition.
2. Always research your travel plans and see that they make sense, that you have chosen the best options.
3. Consider trying to avoid flying in the first place. With all the hassles, with security and lines, it’s clear that bin Laden won.

4. Oh, and make sure your bags have a tag with your name legible.

Doug

Link: What Living with ADHD is Like

 

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ADHD decisions.

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It’s Always Something – – – ADHD Tip O the Day 838

It’s Always Something – Especially with ADHD
I made today’s today to do list last night:
Breakfast. Quiet time. Walk dog. Gym. Shower. Lunch. Library. Work on 365 book. This blog. Fill in December calendar. Practice guitar. Refresh aquarium. Figure out what two thumb drives are.
I knew that was more than possible, but thought I could probably do most of it, and I was determined not to push myself, pressure myself, or get in a hurry.
Slogan: You can only do what you can do.
Then my wife bumped a post in the parking space and showed me a hand sized piece of black plastic off her car. She didn’t know where from.
Nothing on the piece looked broken, so we thought maybe I could fix it (Me? “Thumbs” Puryear?) So I bundled up and went out to the car.
Of course, I couldn’t find where it came from. Everything looked intact. Both sides looked the same. Got down on my hands and knees and checked everywhere with my flashlight.  All intact. But finally I found it, on the underside of the big right hand outside rearview mirror.
I took a couple of minutes to see how it fit in there. I took a lot more minutes to finally get this son of a gun to click into place. It took a little bit of brute force, but more finesse, not one of my strong points. But I got it. I was pleased and even my wife was pleased. Saved a trip to the shop. Sometimes I am so good I surprise myself.
But of course, my list is shot to hell.
Strategies (some of which I did not use.)
1. Keep the to-do list short and not more than you can reasonably expect to do.
2. If you don’t follow number one, accept that you’re not going to get it all done and don’t worry about it.
3. When you’re making your to-do list or schedule, figure in time for the unexpected. You can expect it.
This all worked out OK. I’m getting the blog done, as we speak. I scored points with my wife and I was pleased with myself for being able to fix the car.
It’s always something.
doug
Follow-up Note O the Day:
 While I was in the middle of this blog, my wife urgently called me to the living room. She said it couldn’t wait. Found she needed help with the crossword puzzle. It was a hard one, but we got it done. Again, I was pleased with myself. But my coffee was cold when I got back.
Quote O the Day:
“It’s always something.”
Rosanna Rosanna Danna

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Which one is ADHD?

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It would sure help.

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Link O the Day: To do list

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Apologies and a Plan — ADHD Tip O the Day 837

Living with ADHD can be a challenge.

OK, I’m a little behind on my blogs. OK, I’m a lot behind.
I have a new job and that takes up some time even though it’s part time.

Strangely, I haven’t been making the big screw ups that I’ve been posting about in the past and so haven’t been developing new strategies, and therefore have less to write about. Also, although I’m trying to keep up with the ADHD science and the ADHD medications, there doesn’t seem to be any real breakthrough in recent years.

Oh, wait.  I did run over my suitcase.  Have only done that once, so far.

Also busy updating the 365 Tips O the Day book. Or at least thinking about it. It will be in both ebook and print editions, not just an e-book like now. I have a list of the posts that I want to replace and a list of the new posts I want to replace them with, but I’m stuck. Procrastinating. Primarily because I’m not confident that I can do it or do it well. And it seems like a lot of work. Those are the usual causes of my procrastination.

I do have some strategies.

First, I’m going to pick a date (you may notice that I haven’t done that yet) to do just one of the posts and I know that will break the log jam and I can get moving on it.

Secondly, I ’m lining up some outstanding people to do some guest blogs. That will lighten my load and give my loyal readers a change of pace.

doug

Wish O the Day:  Hope you all had a great Thanksgiving (although I know that family can be a bit challenging at times. Even without ADHD.)

Link O the Day: Brian’s old now extinct blog with lots of good stuff still on it.

Bonus Link O the Day:  Brian now has a new blog, for writers.

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And I’ll get to them soon.

 

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New Research on ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 836

ADHD Research

I try to keep current on the ADHD research and to keep you current.

1. Some of the latest research just confirms previous findings. ADHD diagnosed in childhood persists in up to 65% of adolescents and up to 50% of adults. Hyperactivity and impulsivity become less with time, but inattention symptoms remain stable. Still, we do jiggle our foot or tap our pencil.
Many factors increase the risk that symptoms will continue into adolescence but only a few of those predict continuation into adulthood: symptom severity, psychiatric comorbidity and parental mental health.
Some adults no longer meet criteria for the diagnosis and yet have continuing problems related to ADHD.
Those of us who still have diagnosable ADHD do worse than those who no longer meet criteria but still have symptoms, and we all do worse than adults who never had the diagnosis.
We have poorer educational and occupational success, more depression and anxiety,  and use more marijuana and more public assistance. However, this study, in contrast to previous ones, found no significant difference in other substance use disorders or legal outcomes. I’m doubtful about this. For example, I know that a high percentage of people in prison have ADHD.

Finally, this study raised some interesting questions. How much were the poor outcomes directly caused by ADHD symptoms, versus by the effects of the consequences of the symptoms, such as doing poorly in school, early substance abuse or legal problems, getting involved with the wrong crowd? Interesting, but maybe not highly relevant.

Note that replication is the way research works. One study is not very important until its findings are replicated by other studies done by other people.

2. A disturbing article suggests that high levels of prenatal fluoride can contribute to children developing ADHD. They emphasize that this is only one study and it would have to be replicated and that genetics still play a large role.

I’m still a fan of fluoridation but if you’re pregnant or going to be, you need to be aware of the levels of fluoride in your drinking water. These vary widely among communities. And be careful about your toothpaste.

3. In 8% of children, elimination of certain foods, additives, and coloring improved ADHD symptoms. However, results were not confirmed by teachers and outside observers and applying these measures can be difficult and expensive.
A meta-study, a study of studies, showed that an elimination diet, taking away almost all foods and then restarting them one by one, can give over 40% symptom reduction in about 1/3 of children with ADHD. However, it was noted that these studies were not well done and should be viewed with caution.
Fish oil (omega-3 fatty acid, with EPA percent greater than DHEA percent) and micronutrients have been found to be slightly helpful in general.
Overall, the studies suggest that difficult major dietary interventions can have moderate benefit in a small minority of children with ADHD.  I suspect that these findings would apply to adults, but I’ve found no studies of this yet, just a lot of suggestions.

  • Micronutrients: boron (B), chlorine (Cl), copper (Cu), iron (Fe), manganese (Mn), molybdenum (Mo), and zinc (Zn).

4. There is increasing misuse of stimulants among college students, primarily for improving cognition. Again, studies show that this does not actually work for people without ADHD, although it gives them the impression that they’re doing better than they are. Stimulant misuse is correlated with poor academic functioning.

Well, that’s the update.

doug

Question O the Day: Does anyone know of studies of these things applying to adults?  I haven’t researched it thoroughly. Your help would be appreciated.

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When will I grow up?

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Adulthood, anyone?

Links:

Diet

Sugar

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Pay Attention—ADHD Month- ADHD Tip O the Day 835

October is ADHD recognition month.

We have two tasks: To learn as much as we can about ADHD, and to try to educate the general public. You may have noticed that the general public is not clamoring for more knowledge about ADHD. They already have their opinions and know all they want to know, even when it is wrong.

Here are links about things going on in the ADHD world this month:

ADHD

ADHD

ADHD

ADHD

ADHD

ADHD

doug

Quote o the Day:

If ignorance is bliss, why are there so many unhappy people?

Strategy: Trying to convince someone whose mind is already made up is like trying to give medicine to a person who is already dead.

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ADHD is the explanation.

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Sucess At Last, Even with ADHD? — ADHD Tip O the Day 834

Problem: ADHD images on the post weren’t coming out right on Facebook.

Solution:  Dinos very generously showed me how to fix them, but the process was very complicated.  I kept avoiding the job. For a very long time.

But — then I committed to getting it done this week.

Outcome:

OK, so I said I would finally get to the images.  And I did it. And the process is not as hard as I thought.  I was putting extra unnecessary steps into it.

So I have run one test picture on facebook and it seemed to work, although not quite the way I expected.

I plan to run all images thru this process as I go, so it won’t be a such a huge job.

Let’s see how this post turns out.

The strategy: Make a commitment to do something at a specific time, make it public, don’t let yourself do anything else instead.  Get it done.

doug

Back up strategy: If this doesn’t work, I plan to scream, bang my head against the wall since I have no hair to tear out, and start the cocktail hour early today.  It’s always good to have a backup strategy.

 

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Huh?

 

 

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I don’t have ADHD!

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This Is Embarrassing — ADHD Tip O the Day 833

With ADHD We Get Embarrassed a Lot (Plus I often embarrass my wife)

I’ve written frequently that I was going to fix my images so that they showed up properly on Facebook.  And a very kind follower showed me how to fix them.

It’s very embarrassing that I don’t remember my rescuer’s name and I can’t find it. Anyway, I am appreciative.

Posting that I was going to do it was a strategy.  So that it would be embarrassing if I didn’t.

Well, I haven’t and it is.

I definitely want them done.  That is not the same as wanting to do them, though.

Reasons for Procrastinating:

  1. I’m not actually sure that I can do them.  I tried to use the method.  Sometimes it worked.  Sometimes it didn’t

2 The method is complicated so that it takes time and effort.  I feel like I don’t have the time. Obviously, that’s just an issue of priorities.  With ADHD we are not good at prioritizing.

3. Since it’s complicated, I always feel like there has to be a simpler way, and that I’m wasting time doing it this way.  I hate wasting time.

But I’m tired of having this hanging over my head, and I do want the images to be right.

Strategy:

I have Wednesday afternoon, and all day Thursday, Friday and Saturday off next week.  I am committing to not do any other tasks until I get this one done.

The ADHD strategy of one.

Plus, I think once I get into it and get familiar with the process it won’t be nearly so hard.  Hoping.

We’ll see.

doug

Strategy: The basic strategy for procrastination is small steps, but I don’t see how to apply that here.  Maybe plan to do just one picture, but that isn’t the issue; the issue is using the technique.

Link:

Procrastination

Procrastination 2

Bonus Links:

Trouble Making Decisions? from Attitude Magazine

What Does This Link Have To Do With ADHD?  Nothing, it’s just my favorite Song O the Day.  Maybe of all time.  And it’s worth reading the comments.  Enjoy!

The Power of One

Update O the day:

Dinos very generously got in touch after this post and again offered his help.

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Maybe later?

 

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Working with ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 832

I love my new job, but I’m struggling with the EHR, electronic health record system, on the computer. This is the sixth different I’ve have had to use. They’ve ranged from horrible to bad. This one is the least bad.

The two main problems are, first, using an EHR, and second, limited time.

The EHR requires me to gather all the data and fill in all the boxes on the forms on the computer. (Plus several paper forms to fill out.)  So I need to be typing during the patient’s appointment. There’s no other time to do it.

Sometimes I feel like I’m treating the computer and not the patient, or that the computer is more important than the patient. I do not care for this.

What does this have to do with ADHD?  As difficult as this is, ADHD only makes it harder. I’m using several strategies:

  1. I need to keep my desk organized. I need the same types of papers in the same pile all of the time. Otherwise my desktop becomes a cluttered mess and I waste a lot of time trying to find the paper I want.

2. I use colored clips. For example, I put a red clip on the top of my daily schedule. That way, I don’t lose it in the papers.

 

  1. I try to complete everything about each case before moving to the next, even if I’m behind. This can work hardship on patients that are waiting, but it reduces the stress on me and therefore lets me work more efficiently, and I don’t have to try to rely on my memory later.

 

  1. If they’re just isn’t enough time to deal with an issue, I can reschedule the patient to return and can request more time for the second appointment if necessary. This also may be a hardship on the patient, but they will be getting better care.

 

  1. I review all the records before I see the patient. This may put me behind, but it makes me more efficient.

You’ll recognize these strategies: organize, reduce stress, use colors, the rule of one, and the principle that every problem has a solution.

doug

ADHD Pearl O the Day:

With ADHD, we need a job that is interesting, has structure but always has something different.  So this job, with a schedule and so many different patients is perfect for me.

 

Confessions O the Day:

  1. I do feel guilty when I find myself praying that some patient won’t show up so that I can catch up.
  2. I must admit I’ve found something addictive about waiting for an order from Amazon to arrive.

Link:

How to Be Successful

Best ADHD Jobs, the full discussion

List of Good ADHD Jobs

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I do better without a “boss.”

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ADHD Jokes — ADHD Tip O the Day 831

ADHD Jokes O the Day:

1. A guy with ADHD walks into a bar – – –

Oops, I forgot the punch line.

 2. A guy with ADHD and dyslexia walks into a rab.

3. An uncoordinated guy with ADHD walks into a bar.

Of course.

doug

Strategy  O the Day:

If we don’t laugh, we’ll cry.  Start off each day with a laugh and you’ll feel better.

Irrelevant Note O the Day

My doctor told me to eat more protein, and I’ve been doing very well at that.  But I just realized that she meant instead of, not in addition to.

Links:

If your brain was a bus, who would be driving?

coaching site

 

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Life with ADHD

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Surviving with ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 830

ADHD has many clever ways to get you.

With ADHD, it isn’t hard to get stuck, or paralyzed, or stagnant, or overwhelmed, or demoralized.  Or some combination of those boogers.  But there are many good strategies that usually work to get us out of those pits.

But some days, we aren’t in a pit, we just don’t have it.  Some days are like that. There are many things that can cause that, or sometimes, seemingly nothing.

One strategy is, give yourself a break.  OK, this a day where I’m gonna coast and try to just get through.  Yes, there are things I need to get done, and yes, the pile will be higher tomorrow, but I just don’t have it today, so that’s just the way it’s gonna be.

Second strategy: So quit pushing the wall, beating yourself up, fretting.  If the day is gonna be like that, then just relax and make the best of it.

Quote O the Day
“Some days just surviving is a triumph.”
I just made that up

Question O the Day:  Does that seem like surrendering, giving up, being a weak wimp?  Or is it one way of coping and facing reality?

Poem O the Day
The desert never tastes quite as good
as you had imagined it would.

Link:

On coping with ADHD – cause that’s what it’s all about, isn’t it?

Inane Comment O the Day: I really do need to find the time to work on images and get them where they fit into facebook correctly.  Well, not today.

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Moderate OCD actually helps in ADHD

 

 

 

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A Bad Habit — ADHD Tip O the Day 829

I have a bad habit. No, it’s not sexual, no matter what you may have been imagining. Still, it’s too embarrassing to tell you. It’s just a bad habit which causes me some discomfort. I don’t like it.

I’ve tried many strategies to stop it. None of them have worked.

Recently, I realize that there’s an antecedent. There was something I did every time just before I did the bad habit, and I never did bad habit without doing the antecedent first. I started spotting the antecedent. Every time the antecedent began, I said, “Antecedent!”  Then I stopped doing it.

I have stopped the bad habit. Pretty much.

The Tip:  When one strategy doesn’t work, try another one.

doug

Links:

Using spotting to change a habit. 

Changing habits

The 21 day habit myth

Bonus Link:

ADHD and marriage, or relationship.  (Is anyone getting married anymore?)

 

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Anyone can make a mistake, we just do it more often.

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ADHD Solutions— ADHD Tip O the Day 828

ADHD causes us many problems.  Life can be hard.

I believe that every problem has a solution. I know this isn’t  100% true, but it’s very useful to act as though it were. I’ve come up with some new examples.

ADHD Problems:
1. I often find myself without a pen, and that’s really frustrating. I make a lot of notes. If I have a pen.

  1. I still carry my appointment book and my cards in my shirt pocket, always. Yes, I do have an iPhone. I love it, and use it for many things, but not for my appointments or my to-do list. I’m just old-fashioned.

But two of my shirts have large pockets. When I bend over, my book and cards fall out. That is unpleasant.

  1. In my new job, I often need to carry confidential papers down the hall. There’s a bathroom halfway down and sometimes it’s convenient to stop in there.  If I’m carrying papers, I put them on the counter. Of course, I frequently forget to take them with me when I leave. Leaving confidential papers on the counter where anyone could get them is not good.

Solutions:
1. and 2.  If I clip a pen into the front of my shirt pocket instead of behind the card and appointment book, I’ll be aware of whether I have one or not. And it stops things from falling out. One solution to two problems! Great!

  1. When I go into the bathroom, I put whatever I’m carrying on the floor just in front of the door. There’s no way I can miss it when I go out. Simple.

Note the difference between using the strategy and just trying harder to not forget the papers. In fact, I did that.  It didn’t work.

The ADHD principle:

Problem, strategy, rule, habit.

So I need to keep doing these things until they do become habit. Then I don’t have to think about them, don’t have to remember them, and the problem is solved.

First, of course, we have to recognize that something is a problem, not just the way life is. Then our life can be better. 

doug

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Bonus Link:

Just for a laugh

Many, many ADHD links

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True, even without ADHD.

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Ways To Live With ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 827

I find that I don’t have new tips and strategies recently, because somehow, I’m not screwing up.
I find that I am, without a plan, strategy, or intention, doublechecking everything.

I ask:
How could this go wrong? Did I really do it right? Will I be able to read it later? Do they really have our reservation?
How could it fall off or get knocked off?
Check and question, and then check it again. But then here’s the trick, I’m checking again, the third time. This seems to be working pretty well.
However, it seems to me very much a sign of aging. Young people just don’t have the time or energy or inclination to live like this. They just blaze ahead full speed.
But I think I’m  probably more effective this way.  The time spent checking and rechecking is less than the time it would take to do it over or to clean up the mess.  And it’s just nice to not be always screwing up.
Anyway, that’s what I’m doing, and it seems to be working.

Still, I need to see what my wife will comment on this.

doug

Bonus Link

The Wisdom of Rick Green – Living with ADHD

Irrelevant Note O the Day:

My doctor told me to eat more protein, and I’ve been doing very well at that.  But I just realized that she meant instead of, not in addition to.

Personal Note O the Day:

I’m considering making a new agenda:  Don’t make any more agendas.

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Or is it ADHD?

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This should work.

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Can I Relax, with ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 826

On vacation again, but I haven’t relaxed yet.  Travel arrangements, glitches to fix, reservations to make, finding my way around the city.  Hard work.

I recently wrote about vacation in Oaxaca, but didn’t post it.  Kept getting lost there, in spite of GPS and maps and compass.  Usually I do OK with those, in spite of having no sense of direction at all.  But the map was “wrong” and the compass and the GPS seemed at odds.  Very tiring wandering around in circles in a strange city, especially with your wife getting increasingly frustrated with you.

Now doing much better in Halifax on this vacation.  The maps seem correct.  But the main thing is I can keep track of where the river is and work off that.  It’s like in Santa Fe, where you can usually see the mountains, and they are always to the east.

That’s my main strategy, to have a visible landmark to work from.

Wish I could relax, but the flywheel and the to do list keep going, as well as the added travel stuff above.  Strategy is to find a good place to just sit for a while, but I both haven’t been able to find a place and haven’t been able to get myself to really try yet.

Part of the problem is I haven’t been able to resolve the conflict between vacation as a time to relax vs vacation as time to catch up so life will be easier when I get back.

Maybe I’ll just sit here at this desk when I finish this post and cross it off the to do list.

But I’m in the middle of a good book.  That’s not working, but it’s not really relaxing either.

We’ll see.

doug

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ADHD Author??? Getting It Done— ADHD Tip O the Day 825

When I published the second ADHD book, the 365 tips of the day, it was only as an e-book. This was partly because each page had wonderful links to other good site. However, with time, many of those links are no longer operable. That certainly detracts from the book. Besides, I’ve wanted to have a print edition as well. So I’m re-doing it. I’ve finished the first total review, I’ve done editing and identified the pages that are weak. I’ve deleted all the links. My next review will insert better tips for the weak pages.  Then I’ll do a third review, editing everything again. Hopefully, that will be enough.

Tip number one: organize. Break the project into parts, don’t think of it as the whole or try to do it all at once.

Tip number two: remember, nothing is permanent, everything changes. For example, do not buy stocks in a buggy whip company.

The book is meant to be read one page a day, for 365 days. But, I have more good tips than that and so I am adding extras.

Tip number three: do not accept unnecessary limitations.

Just before this, I finally finished my autobiography. Many, many drafts. But I ran out of gas and I just quit and published it. The point is, it’s  really only for my descendants, not to make sales. Therefore, the many errors that remain don’t matter much. And it’s finally published and not hanging over my head anymore.

Tip number four: Sometimes, good enough is good enough.

My fourth book, The Bully, I also got fed up with and published before it was ready. It needed another draft, or two, or three. But I was tired of it. I may go back and revise it, some day. Or not. But it was for the general public, to educate people about bullies. And so that may be worth doing.

Tip number five: Sometimes, you do need to push for improvement, although never for perfection.

Tip number six: Even with ADHD, it is possible to be an author. It’s just not very easy.

Doug

Bonus Tip O the Day:

It’s hard to get myself to write these posts when I’m on vacation, but I do try to keep up. It’s easier if I dictate them into my phone and email them to myself. I’m able to fool myself into feeling that it’s not as much work.

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Sometimes it feels like this.

 

 

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I thought I couldn’t get any pictures off my lap top

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Lessons learned while living with ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 824

Lessons Learned- and relearned

If I can’t find my glasses, look on my face first.

If I can’t sleep, check to make sure I took off my Daytrana patch.

It always takes longer than you expected.

There is no easy way to write a book.

Finances

Addendum to finances cut up all your credit cards.

doug

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Living with ADHD

Bonus Link:  A great strategy for not breaking wine glasses.

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Jennie on Understanding People with ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 823

I asked Jennie to do a guest ADHD post and she really came through:

If Only You Could See in ADHD

I began ADHD Coaching after learning of my sister’s diagnosis. Let me start by explaining that indeed, she and I have not been the closest of siblings, much to our mother’s chagrin.

Until I was 10, she and I had matching outfits and were always given the same presents at Christmas. If I got the red one, Sis got the blue one. Actually, I always got blue and she got red, but I digress.

Mom tried everything she could to keep us close, but I think, as many a big sister, I rebelled and wanted to be my own person. Plus, having to have her always tag along was a drag.

Why? Because she was SO different from me.

She would talk incessantly. In fact, her nick name growing up was “Molly-Motor-Mouth.” It was as if every thought in her head had to come out, even if no one cared to listen.

She also used to kiss my parents’ butt, which drove me insane! To call her a people pleaser is an enormous understatement. Of course, you can imagine her telling on me would drive me nuts, and that happened a lot. Nothing unusual about that. But it was also her trying to please me when all I wanted was to be left alone that was completely annoying.

There was the time she went sledding with me and my friends and not paying attention, as usual, she ended up in the creek. Or the time she didn’t get off the wobble horse at the park when a swarm of bees descended upon us. She was in bad, bad shape with tons of bee stings.

Had she paid attention and kept up with us, I don’t know how many incidences she would’ve been spared. But I was always the one who got blamed for these “mishaps”. So, there you go. I’ve spent my whole life painted the mean big sister, because, I know, this sounds so terrible of me. How could I have been so cold?

Well, I didn’t understand what I was dealing with. And worse, she didn’t understand either. It always seemed like something she could have controlled but just didn’t.

In Middle School she began having panic attacks. My parents never spoke to me about it and so again, it just seemed like more weird behaviors that she just “got away with”. She missed a lot of school!

Fast forward thirty years and here we are. In training to coach this specific population, I’ve learned a lot about the brain through my undergrad studies, earning my Bachelor’s of Science on Psychology.

I went on to graduate from ADDCA, The ADD Coach Academy where I learned specifically about ADHD exclusively from folks that have all been diagnosed with it. I I like to say the former taught me about ADHD from the outside looking in and the latter gave me lessons from the inside view.

And that’s what I want to share with the world. I’ve learned, as someone without ADHD, to get it, to see in ADHD.

My sister’s gabbiness is because she verbally processes information. Her tendency to drop everything in her life in order to help a friend, isn’t people pleasing out of innate insecurity. It’s more that she has challenges with boundaries and impulsivity as well as she doesn’t think ahead to potential consequences. Plus, she’s just the most loyal person you’ll ever meet.

And her anxiety is due to the design of her nervous system, not because she’s lazy or trying to get out of responsibilities.

So, again, how could I have been so cold?

Next time you find yourself feeling misunderstood, maybe share what ADHD is all about. When Doug asked me to write a guest post, I was excited to share a free resource I’ve created. It’s a free app in the app store with direct access to my podcast called See in ADHD.

I want everyone to learn as I did and see what’s really going on. That way we can lose the judgement and get to the business of just loving one another.

I think this ran long, Doug, feel free to edit as you see fit.

Thanks again for the opportunity to share my voice.

I mentioned the app so you don’t need to worry about links.

Unless you want to through in somewhere my website is www.seeinadhd.com and email is jennie@seeinadhd.com

Best,

Jennie

I liked it so much I decided to just post the whole thing and not do any editing, not that any was really needed. Jennie is a great ADHD resource. My only other comment is, Jennie, if you are still beating up on yourself (“cold”) maybe it’s time to let up on yourself. You were a kid and you had no way to know and now you are providing a service to all of us ADHDers.  So how about at least calling it even?
Thank you so much for all you do and for this post.
doug

 

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Oh, my! Did I do it again?

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Comments About ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 822

Do you read the comments?  I hope so.  They are often better than the post.  And contributing  upgrades the blog.

Here’s two of my responses to good comments: 

Scott
Good to hear from you.
The boating sounds great. Two things, non medication, that can be really helpful with our ADHD symptoms are exercise and getting out of doors – you’ve made a good combination. I need to get myself to go fishing more often -unfortunately we are in a drought which limits it anyway.
My little voice is enormously helpful, and I am working on getting myself to listen to it more – I still make the mistake of ignoring it, often to my regret. But sometimes it says, “Don’t say that!” a second after I’ve already said it.
I think for most people the exercise is a great help but not a substitute for medications, it’s a supplement to them. Still, for some people it may be enough help by itself.
Hope you and jm read each others comments – they support each other.
As always, I appreciate your commenting
doug

JM very good comment.

There are many things that can look like ADHD but I think a careful professional evaluation can make the correct diagnosis – at least if the professional really knows about ADHD. But I also think a knowledgeable layperson can often tell if it’s not ADHD, as you have done about your manager.

Everyone has their own individual response to any kind of medication. And the ADHD medications are not for everyone. I would guess that the hyper people you describe may not actually have ADHD, but who knows? Your experience with meds, like mine, is much more typical.

“Huge misconceptions” may be underestimating it!

doug

Personal Note O the Day:

I just finished my autobiography after four long years.  Published the 44th draft, which is a mess, but I couldn’t get motivated to do anymore. It’s for my descendants, hoping that at least some of them will be interested.  I would’ve loved to have something from my ancestors.  Now, hopefully, I’ll have more time to keep up better with this blog.

Question O the Day:

Do you read the comments on these posts?       

Follow up O the Day:

Science update:  Children with ADHD who receive medication are less likely to abuse drugs than those who don’t.

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This should work.

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Update on ADHD Science and Controversies- ADHD Tip O the Day 821

Controversies in ADHD

In my opinion, science can be flawed, but it is more trustworthy than opinions. In the following, my opinions are italicized.

  1.  There really is no controversy about whether or not ADHD exists.  There are more and more studies showing differences in our brains – connections to frontal lobe; basal ganglia; cerebellum.  Dopamine, norepinephrine.  And genes that predispose to ADHD.                                                                                                                                                   
  2. There are people who have the opinion that ADHD doesn’t exit.  There are people who believe that the earth is flat.  Or that vaccinations cause autism.  Or that – I started to get into politics here, probably not appropriate.  But when have I ever been appropriate?  But this time, I did listen to the little voice.  This time.                                                   

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I wouldn’t be surprised if  there are more varieties of ADHD, beyond hyperactive, inattentive , and mixed.  Based on different sets of genes, and maybe other things.

2.  Studies show that stimulants do not help with studying in vanillas, just make the students think they did better on the test than they actually did.  But some recent studies show they do help.

Who knows?  I lean to the first concept, although that may be wishful thinking.

3. Some studies show that treatment with stimulants have no long term benefits for ADHD.

But clearly with ADHD we have more accidents, substance abuse, divorces, arrests, and these are reduced by stimulant.  The difference in percentage is very significant.  How could they not have long term benefit?  If you are alive, sober and not incarcerated, that seems pretty beneficial.

4.  Some studies are suggesting that a small percentage of ADHDers are adult onset.  But Further evaluation show that most of those people are having ADHD symptoms from other causes – substance abuse, traumatic brain damage, anxiety and stress, thyroid disease and others.

I think by definition ADHD starts at conception. It’s a  neurodevelopmental disorder.  Other factors may make it less severe or worse.  Sometimes the symptoms aren’t revealed until things get hard – I had obvious symptoms beginning in fourth grade, but had no scholastic difficulty until college, when I hit the wall.  I don’t believe in adult onset.  Some of this is semantic – if you have ADHD symptoms caused by thyroid disease, do you have ADHD?  I don’t think so.  And you probably wouldn’t meet carefully evaluated DSM criteria.

5. All the studies show that people who do have ADHD do not abuse their medication. But there is a lot of misuse, especially in college.  ADHDer are hit on by friends  to get their meds, or a few may be selling it.

There are surely some cases of abuse and addiction in ADHDers, especially with amphetamines, but these seem rare, and I question if the person really had ADHD in the first place.

doug

Question O the Day:

Would you be willing to contribute your opinions?  They will make the site more interesting and I would appreciate them.

Two Quotes O the Day:

  1.  “Not proven is not the same as proven not.”
  2.  “Many people, including some scientists, confuse correlation with cause.”

                         These two brilliant quotes are from Doug Puryear his own self.

Personal Note O the Day:

I think this is one of my better posts, but we will have to wait and see what my wife comments, if she does.

 

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Living with ADHD (or trying to) — ADHD Tip O the Day 820

Life can be hard.  It can be harder with ADHD.

The day runs away from you.

You have a list of things to do today. They all seem important. You realize that you’re no good at setting priorities. Possibly some of them could be a waste of time.

The pressure keeps growing because you’re not getting them done and it seems that the list is getting longer, more important, and more out of reach with every hour that passes. 

Its getting later and later.

The day is running away from you. 

doug

Question O the Day:

Do any of you know what I’m talking about?

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Some days are like that with ADHD.

 

 

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Plan O the Day

I really do intend to do the next post on updates on ADHD science.  I really do!

OK, So what’s going on?

I quit my job,even though I loved it,  because administration was increasingly making it impossible for me to do it well, throwing up more and more obstacles.  I’m spending a lot of time job hunting.  And since I’m off work, I decided to make a big push and finish writing my autobiography, which I’ve been messing with for four years.  It’s for my descendants.  I’m on draft 40.  Hope to finish this week, then publish it on create space next week. That’s the part I’m dreading.  So the blog has been suffering.  Plan to get it going again in a couple of weeks.

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Some Days Are Like That

 

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A New ADHD Strategy, Working So Far — ADHD Tip O the Day 819

Puryear’s Principles of Human Nature, number one (or something)

 We struggle with a problem until we find something that works. The next thing we do is we quit doing it.  

My ADHD Strategies 

These strategies make my life immensely better. But sometimes I’ll quit using one of them, for no reason I can explain. Maybe it’s the novelty wears off? Or maybe I’m uncomfortable if I’m too comfortable? Anyway, I change some of my strategies from time to time.  So, here’s my newest one.

ADHD Strategy – Schedule One

I’ve been a little stagnant lately, less effective, more procrastinating. Now I take one of my many calendars, and using a green marker, I put one to do in for each day. That’s on top of whatever may be scheduled for that day. Of course, I tried to remember to break the to do into small steps if necessary and just put one per day.

Now I focus on that one task for the day and commit myself to getting it done. Once it’s done, I heave a big sigh of relief and give myself a big pat on the back.

Then I may move on to doing other to dos. And that may be easier, because my morale is up and I have this sense of competence and confidence. But if I don’t do another one that day, the day has been a success.

And, if I can do enough single to do’s, one at a time, one per day, they will add up. And I am moving, not stagnant.

It is easier get myself to do one thing than it is to work on a to do list, even when I have limited it to a maximum of five.

doug

Links:

The Principle

One At a Time

The Power of One

Personal Confession O the Day

Sometimes I have to rediscover something I had already rediscovered before.

 

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The ADHD calendar of ONE

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Life With ADHD, With and Without Medicine, by Ram — ADHD Tip O the Day 818

I am grateful to Ram for her many good contribution to the ADHD blog.  I don’t know if you read all the comments, so I’m posting her last one here.  Lots of good stuff in it.

doug

Great post, as usual. I didn’t know the New York Times was on a campaign against certain drugs. I am well aware that there is a big problem with prescription drugs in the USA, but campaigning against drugs that don’t even really get you high is really nonsense. I’ve been on anti-depressants for a while now. When my doctor tried to wean me out, it didn’t take long for me to have a bad reaction. I think I’ll eventually be able to be off them for a while (I have been before) but I already know how I will feel when I need them again, and it’s awful. It’s like going through the motions. You can laugh, you can smile, you can work, you look normal. But you’re overly pessimistic and whenever you laugh or have fun, that “high” you get from your body’s endorphines doesn’t last longer than 5 minutes and you just feel…. nothing. 😐 Why would anyone think that living like that with no drugs is better than risking medication?
As for chrildren, the more I think about it, the more I’m in favour of medicating children for ADHD. I’m a grown woman so my perception is a lot wider than a child’s. I notice what comes easy to others and doesn’t come easy to me. Little things, like ducking under a table to retrieve something. Normal people do this without worries and are usually fine. I duck under a table to retrieve something, and my brain almost instantly forgets that I’m under a table. The chance that I’m gonna get right up and knock my head is huge. And then there it comes: “you have to be more careful”. No one is careful when ducking under a table! Don’t they even realize that they don’t need to be careful? That if someone needs to be careful about something no one else has to be careful about, maybe there’s something wrong with the wiring? With my ADHD drugs (Medikinet = Ritalin), it doesn’t come natural, but when I’m retrieving the object from under the table, my brain flashes “remember there’s a table above your head”, and I get to dodge it when getting up. A child hardly has the life experience and vocabulary to explain this – heck, some children will say they have a headache when they mean a tooth-ache.
Incidentally, my meds also help me focus better on my private time: pay more attention to people, pay more attention to my hobbies, playing the guitar, etc. Which is why I frown a bit upon the idea of children only taking ritalin when they go to school and be off the meds on the weekend. It’s like only grades and career matter from childhood on. ADHD causes more havoc that at school. I wish parents and doctors would give it a try to at least medicate the child one day of the weekend and see how it plays out. They might be surprised. But not having been medicated as a child, having children of my own or a doctor’s degree, this is just a semi-educated guess. I wonder: how do you stand on having ADD/ADHD-kids off their meds on the weekends, Doug?

Comments from doug:

The antidepressants are very useful in moderate and severe depressions, not quite as much in mild. Just as I recommend strategies, coaching and therapy along with the medication for ADHD, I highly recommend therapy and activity along with medication for depression.
There are many other similarities between the two, including having a lot of misinformation being printed in the media and posted on the net
My medication is Daytrana, Ritalin in a skin patch which avoids the side effects. The only side effect I have is insomnia if I forget to take it off in time.

Future Posts:

I am trying a new strategy of One. Eager to write about it.

May write about John Rosemond, a well known (I think) columnist who calls himself a psychologist (does not have a PhD- is that OK?) and has a lot of nonsense about ADHD in our newspaper. He’s a denier. Arrghh!

Plan an update on the latest ADHD scientific research findings.

Now that I’ve joined the ranks of the (almost) unemployed,  hoping to do better on keeping up with the blog, and to get the images fixed so they show up right on Facebook – at last.

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You are dissing us ADHDers

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You don’t believe in ADHD?

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Medicines for ADHD?— ADHD Tip O the Day 817

 ADHD medicines – alway a controversy!

My View:

  1. The medicines – Ritalin, Adderal, Vyanse,Concerta, Daytrana, et al – are miracle workers for some, very helpful to others, somewhat helpful to some, and worthless or even detrimental to some. You will never know until you try it.
    2. All children with ADHD deserve a trial of medication. If it doesn’t help, that raises some question about the diagnosis.
    3. The medications do not lead to drug abuse. In fact, they reduce the frequency of drug abuse in people with ADHD.
    4. The medications do not improve school or test performance in students who do not have ADHD; however, it gives them the impression that they have done better than they really have.  Diversion of the stimulants is a real problem, especially in colleges.
    5. Especially in children, the medications can sometimes cause problems, particularly with insomnia, reduced appetite, or slow growth. The growth will catch up with time. Other side effects can usually be managed by changing the dose, the timing, or the form of the medication.
    6. The New York Times has been on a campaign against ADHD and against the medicines. They seem now to have switched to a campaign against antidepressants, which I believe is equally misinforming. However, the antidepressants are indeed more problematic than the stimulants.
    7. As helpful as the medicines can be, I believe that strategies are at least as important. Dr. Goodwin stated that the purpose of the medicines is to help us focus enough to be able to use the strategies.

 

From the ADDA insider:

 

There’s a raging debate about medication for ADHD. 

Some people are against it.

 They feel “we shouldn’t be drugging our kids.” (I’m not sure if they’re fine with drugging our adults with ADHD or not.) I hope no one in their family is ever diagnosed with diabetes! 

Others think it’s a “gateway drug” and will lead to addictions. Most ADHDers I know do struggle with their medications! Their biggest struggle is remembering to take them! (Doesn’t sound like much of an addiction to me.)

 Some people are for it. 

When you get an ADHD diagnosis the first thing we ask about is medication. (I’m speaking from personal experience for myself and for my daughter.) We’re hoping the right medication will “cure” the ADHD! Of course, once we get our medication, we discover “pills don’t teach skills.” 

No pill will cure ADHD. (With luck and hard work, most of will become grateful for all the traits that make us unique.) 

ADDA is neither for nor against medication for ADHD. We are for consulting your doctor. We are for taking only your prescribed medication. And we are for following professional advice at all times. Medication is not right for everyone. And medication is not the entire solution for anyone.

 In today’s Insider, we have two articles dealing with ADHD medications. 

In Highway to Hell: Untreated Depression, Anxiety & ADHD Drove Me to Addiction, we share the all-too-common story of James. James struggled with addictions for years, addictions that started when he was self-medicating.

 

In ADHD Stimulants: Medication Diversion in the Real World, we share a podcast. Jeff Copper of Attention Talk Radio interviews a college student about his arrest. Caught diverting his ADHD medication, he suffered serious consequences.

 No matter which side of the debate you fall on, don’t miss today’s articles. 

Warmest Regards, 

Patti Schwab

Editor

Various Personal Notes O the Day:
I am struggling with procrastination on many fronts, especially on this blog, my autobiography, my other ADHD book, and my book, The Bully. I am concerned about the attack on antidepressants which are very useful medications and fairly effective, especially in moderate or severe depression. There is a lot of distorted misinformation out there. Many of us ADHDers have depression.  I should have a lot of free time in May, and hope to catch up. One trap I hope to avoid is expecting too much. I need to get back to fishing regularly.

Strategies:
1. Keep the to do list short and realistic.
2. Focus on one thing at a time and forget about the others. That is one of the purposes of the lists.
3. Try to be careful about the sources of the information you are taking in. But, be skeptical of even reputable sources.
4. Be aware that my views and opinions are simply that. They are based on personal experience and wide reading.

doug

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Life with ADHD

Life with ADHD can be hard

Life with ADHD can be hard

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“You Don’t Listen to Me!” — ADHD Tip O the Day 816

Have you ever heard that?

Miscommunication is a standard part of normal human life. So is the frustration with it. 

But who ever said that ADHD is normal human life?  So we have a lot more of it.

Feeling not listened to is very painful.

“You don’t listen to me!”

There are several possible explanations:

  1. You had a very clear idea in your head and thought that your words had clearly conveyed it to me, but I didn’t get the idea the way you were thinking it.  This is life.
  2. I wasn’t listening to you. I was stressed and/or had so many ideas going at once that your message just got lost in the shuffle.
  3. I was listening to you. I heard you.  But then I got distracted and/or forgot it. Sorry.

 

Strategies:

1. Write it down.

2.Try not to take the mistake or the frustration personally. Its life.

3. Love.

doug

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Links:

Relationships and ADHD

Distraction and ADHD

Listening and Hearing with ADHD

 

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Rhinocerantes. What does this have to do with ADHD?

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ADHD and Irritiable — ADHD Tip O the Day 815

What Still Drives Me Up the Wall, I Mean Up The Flipping Wall:

Politics

The minority “president.”   It is not appropriate to go into that here. I probably                 shouldn’t even have said it. But then I do tend to say things I probably should not have   said.

Technology in general and my computer in specific. Sometimes I think it may be the work of the devil.

“Thank you for your patience.”

People who think we shouldn’t “drug” our children and we should “Let boys be boys.”

Arrogance in ignorance.

Conspiracy theories, especially against vaccinations.

You may notice there is some overlap in these.

 

I try to keep The Serenity Prayer in mind.  It helps. Somewhat. When I remember to think of it.

God, give me grace to accept with serenity
the things that cannot be changed,
Courage to change the things
which should be changed,
and the Wisdom to distinguish
the one from the other.

doug

 

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Did I really just say that?

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I AM CALM, DAMN IT!!!!

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Don’t put up with it.

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No one is more certain in their views than the one who has no idea what they’re talking about.

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Stuck again – ADHD Tip O the Day 814

Well here I am again, writing about being stuck, because I’ve been stuck. Many reasons, will spare you the excuses.

In Mexico, on vacation, but still have a to do list of about six things that need doing pretty soon. Wasn’t doing any of them. One was this blog.

Made a list.  Made a four day calendar and spread them out across it. That helped a little bit.  Said I would do the first one. I didn’t. Ate some ice cream instead, which I’d said I wouldn’t do. But then I did one. Putting the reward before the achievement, probably a mistake.  But could be a new strategy?

Then I did another one, but not the next one high on the list. Trying to use my “do the hard part first“ strategy, but I’m not. The hard part can’t be broken into small steps. Well, actually, I haven’t tried that. It’s a good idea if it’s possible.  That’s my next strategy.

I have some links for you to make this post more useful than my dithering.

But at least I’ve done something now, which is better than nothing.

doug

Links

Hyperfocus

ADHD and Marriage

Distractions

 

Note: I did have a lot of distractions while doing this blog, and I wasn’t quite hyperfocused, but I committed to finishing it and did not follow any of the distractions.  It wasn’t easy.

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Oaxaca dinner

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oaxaca art rhinocerantes

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Oaxaca patio where I am typing this

Oaxaca breakfast

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Oaxaca

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Goals for 2018 – With ADHD?! — ADHD Tip O the Day 813

Yes, even with ADHD, goals can help make our lives better.

I didn’t make any New Year’s resolutions, but I set ten goals for 2018.

These were spiritual, health, financial, professional, recreational, and educational goals.

They are each very specific and measurable, and achievable. These three characteristics are essential for success.

But that is not enough. If I left it there, I would have just set myself up for failure and demoralization.

Steps

The next necessity is to take each goal and write down the specific steps I will need to take to reach the goal.  And again, to make each separate step specific, measurable, and achievable – small steps

This is going to work.

If I can do it, you can do it.  Or do you have another other plan?

Doug

PS O The Day:

I did not make a goal to do two posts a week. It would be doomed to failure in my current situation. I did not make a goal to do one post a week, although I would hope to do that.  But making it a goal would be too much pressure and again, too likely to be a failure. I can hope, but I need goals that I can achieve.

Bonus Links

Goals

Goals – More Tips

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Make Your Life Better in 2018 — ADHD Tip O the Day 812

I  continually try to make my life better, make things easier, simpler.
One of the ADHD principles is to identify a problem. Sometimes we don’t think of it as a problem, but just as a part of life. But –.

Here are some recent examples from my life:

1.On the days I go to work, I need to leave early. I usually don’t have time to finish my coffee. That’s a loss of pleasure and a waste of coffee. And a problem.

Strategy: Make my coffee first thing. Then I can drink it while I’m fixing the rest of my breakfast, and I’ll be able to finish it by time to leave.

2. I need to take my Daytrana patch off by about 4 PM, or I’ll have trouble sleeping.  I set my iPhone alarm for four, but sometimes I just turn it off and never get around to taking off the patch. And I can’t take my iPhone into my job, so I don’t have an alarm on those days.

Strategy: I use an “anchor” – going to the bathroom. I’ve made the habit of checking my chest every time I go to the bathroom, checking to see if the patch is still there. If it’s after 4 PM, I take it off. This strategy only works because I check every time.

3. I keep tripping over the wire connecting my earphones to the computer, and my earphones keep getting in my way  when I’m not wearing them.

Strategy: I’ve found a perfect place to hang my earphones when I’m not using them. Just follow the rule of always putting them there when I take them off, and no more problem.

4.When I take the dog for her potty break, I need to take off my glove to tie up the poop bags. But I keep dropping my glove and have to go back and try to find it. A hassle.

Strategy: New rule. When I take my glove off I put it in my pocket immediately, before I try to tie the bag, and not in my other hand or under my arm. In my pocket.

It is amazing how these little things make a big difference – more efficient, more effective, less frustrated. Less ADHD ish.  My 2018 is going to be better. In many ways, I hope.

You can make your life better.

doug

Advanced Note O the Day

Setting the iPhone alarm for 4 PM is a great strategy. Nothing wrong with it. It just didn’t work for me. So when the strategy isn’t working, it’s time to try a new strategy.

Link:

Principles for ADHD 

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More Research on ADHD (Supporting My Previous Opinions) — ADHD Tip O the Day 811

 

New Research On ADHD

Lots of important research comes from Scandinavia because they apparently keep very good detailed statistics on everyone from birth to death. That is a very valuable bank of data, but the concept probably would not go over well here. Anyway,a recent study  found that ADHD patients had significantly higher rates of both attempted and completed suicide and higher mortality rate in general, with accidents being the most common cause of death.
Previous research did not produce surprises – we have an increased proclivity to risk-taking behaviors, substance abuse, criminality, and risky sexual behavior, as well as accidents. It all fits together.
The important finding is that ADHD patients taking medication still had increased risk over vanilla’s, but a significant reduction of risk compared to ADHD patients without medication.

My Opinion

Everyone with ADHD, especially children, deserves a trial of medication. Medication doesn’t help everyone and not everyone can take it, because some get side effects. For some, medication is a life-changing miracle; for many, it is just a very significant help. I think it is always worth a try.

More ADHD Research

A study from Amsterdam showed that boys with ADHD significantly improved their sleep with Ritalin. They fell asleep earlier, quicker, and slept longer, compared to their findings before the Ritalin and compared to control boys who did not get Ritalin.
As you can see, this is important because sleep difficulties are a significant symptom with ADHD and poor sleep makes symptoms and general health worse and parents often are concerned that Ritalin will interfere with their child’s sleep.
The study indicated that the child needed to be on Ritalin for eight weeks before the positive effects on sleep were clearly significant.

doug

Another Silly Life with ADHD Story

It was time to take the dog for a walk and it was cold outside. Really cold. So I wanted my sweater in addition to my jacket. But of course, I couldn’t find my sweater. Looked everywhere that it might possibly be. No sweater. Looked everywhere that it couldn’t possibly be. No sweater.
Gave up. Started to put on my jacket. Found my sweater. I was wearing it under my shirt.
What?!?
Actually, in retrospect, I can explain that, I think. But why bother?

Bonus Links

Medication for ADHD?

Non-medication treatment for ADHD

ADD, ADHD, science, research, medication, Ritalin, sleep

What?

We all need a dog

We all need a dog

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ADHD– Strategies -Do They Really Work? Three Tips — ADHD Tip O the Day 810

  1.  I have a fairly new strategy.  Whenever I park my car, I say, out loud, where it is.  “Second row, facing out, in line with the  I in the LIQUORS  sign.”

2.  It works. It’s a good ADHD strategy.  I spend much less time searching for the car now.

3. That is, as I learned again today, it works if you do it.  But only if you do it

doug

Bonus ADHD Links:

Memory Aids

Memory???

Memory Strategies

 

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Ouch! Hypersensitivity and ADHD – – – Tip O the Day 809

I know I am hypersensitive.

Am I hypersensitive as a symptom of my ADHD? Or have my ADHD problems, including so many screw ups, just made my self-esteem fragile? So is the hypersensitivity an ADHD symptom or a consequence?

I am hypersensitive and overreactive to:
Put downs– Being laughed at, ridiculed, poked fun at, especially in a group.
Criticisms – although I think I handle constructive criticism  well.

I am also hypersensitive and overreactive to unrequested advice, supervision, instructions, and commands.
Is this because they imply that I’m not competent, not able to do it myself? That would certainly connect to my ADHD, wouldn’t it?
I have worked well with some bosses, those who left me alone to do my job my own way unless there was a problem. I have read that we ADHDers tend to do better working for ourselves.

And of course our actual incompetence, screw ups, forgetfulness, etc., invite people to feel they need to provide us with advice, direction, supervision and  also invite criticism, more than most people get.  Which is toxic when you’re hypersensitive. 

I am also hyper sensitive to certain noises, and a high level of noise drives me up the wall.  That may be another post (not a promise.)

So, are these problems of ADHD , or is it just me?

Strategies:

  1. Recognize that I am hypersensitive, overreacting, and often misinterpreting.
  2. Ask, ” Is that a criticism?”
  3. Breathing techniques.
  4. Try to think of the big picture, and realize that these incidents are not really significant (although large doses may be significant even though the individual ones are not).
  5. Escape the situation.
  6. Keep my mouth shut, offering less of  a target.
  7. Never promise anything.
  8. Direct my attention to something else rather than ruminating on the hurt.

How well does this work?

Somewhat.  I’m still working on it.  The good part is that I usually get over something pretty quickly

doug

Questions O the Day?

  1. Are you hypersensitive, too?
  2. If so, how does it connect with ADHD?
  3. If so, how do you handle it?

Note O the Day

Happy Thanksgiving.  I am thankful for so many things, have been blessed far more than I ever deserved.  And thankful for you, the readers of the ADHD blog, and especially those of you who have contributed so much with your comments.  Thank you.

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Whipping Procrastination? With ADHD? — ADHD Tip O the Day 808

 It just seemed like too much, so I kept putting it off.  Hanging over my head for six long months.

Does that sound like ADHD to you?

I want a job in Maine.  I really really want a job in Maine.

But the first step required filling out an application to a head hunting company, so they can find me a job.  Many pages to fill in.  Many documents to find and copy ,many of them  from long ago,  many of them obscure. And many questions, also about long ago and obscure.  What was my address ten years ago?

Then if they find me a  job, I’ll need to do it again for the state of Maine, and then again for the hospital. They will all require pretty much the same information but they will each want it on their own forms.  And each one will also require some other obscure document that the other ones hadn’t thought of yet.

See, I’ve done this many times before.

So why in the world, you might ask, if he’s done it before, doesn’t he have all the necessary papers in one place, and just fill out the forms, copy the papers, and send them?  Have I mentioned that I have ADHD?

I do have all, or most, of the papers in one place, but they aren’t organized.  And often I have to search through them to find some obscure piece of information.

And why, you might ask, don’t the head hunting companies and the states and the hospitals use the same forms, and why, you might ask, if the state says I’m OK, isn’t that good enough for the hospital?  Or why, you might ask, can’t the head hunters send their files to the state and to the hospital, and that will take care of it?

Yes, indeed, you might ask.

But-

Yesterday, I sat down and filled out the forms and found and copied the papers.  I did.  And I was only distracted once – got tired and said, “Oh, I can finish the rest of this tomorrow.” But I got myself to pick up the next page and keep going til I was done.

Took the entire flipping morning.  Then rewarded myself with a nice lunch and then took the fifty pages to the UPS store and faxed them to the headhunters. (Fifty pages.) (Fifty.) 

Done!

Point

Besides just sharing my lament, the point is that if you let something keep hanging over your head, it seems to grow bigger and bigger and harder and harder to do.  And it hangs there and drains energy from you.  So just do it.  Do it now.  Get it over with.

Easy to say.

Strategy

I used a strategy to finally get started. I said that I need to just start. I don’t have to finish right away; I can spread it out over several days.  That lightened the size of the perceived burden.  But once I was able to start, I pushed myself and just finished the SOB.

Done! Done! Done!

In spite of ADHD.

doug

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In ADHD, Attitude Makes the Difference – But Then, There is Word Power — ADHD Tip O the Day 807

With ADHD, Everything Can Be Difficult

But

there are strategies to make things less difficult.

Last post, I said that my job is difficult, but I love it.

What helps me is using the power of words and keeping focus on my attitude.

ADHD and the Power of Words

Today is Saturday.  I get to go to work on Monday.  I get to.  I never say to myself, or to anyone else, “I have to go to work.” No, I get to go. 

Research shows that ceertain words – “have to,” “must,” “should,” evoke powerful unconscious anti-authority resistance in most of us.  This makes it harder to do the task. ‘Don’t you be telling me what to do!’

ADHD and Attitude

I think that’s enough for today.  Next time I plan to write about how to work with attitude to make your tasks, like my job, for example, more enjoyable.  Hope you’ll enjoy it.

doug

Link

You don’t have to say “have to.”

Bonus Link

New Research Refutes Myths About ADHD

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Problems in ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 806

Your Life Can Be Better, and so can mine –

if we recognize problems, and then apply the formula:  recognize, strategy, rule, habit. 

My job is difficult, but I love it.

One of my many frustrations was dealing with a bunch of different forms as I move from office to office and patient to patient. I spent so much time shuffling through stacks of papers trying to find the specific one I needed at the moment.  Frustrating!

So, if you’ve read the book or been paying attention as we go along, the solution is already obvious to you, right?

It took me a year

to finally realize that this was not only an ongoing frustration and waste of time, but it was also A Problem.  That means, in my philosophy, there must be a solution.  And I found it.

 

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The Answer

 

I got two of these suckers, one green and one purple.  The green one holds the routine papers- encounter forms, order sheets, handouts, etc – each in its own pocket.   The purple one holds the consent forms the patients need to sign, assorted according to the different types of medications.

Finding the right paper is a breeze.  My life is better.

 

If something is frustrating you, or wasting your time, or interfering with your efficiency, your comfort, your satisfaction, then it probably is not just life as she is, but it’s probably A Problem.

Your life can be better!

doug

Next ADHD Project

New rule:  I will not lay my iPhone down anywhere except on my desk, bedside table, or bathroom counter.  Nowhere else. Only one of those places.  

Let’s see how that works.

Bonus Links

On Rules with ADHD – The ADHD Formula

Applying the ADHD Formula

More on Distractions

 

 

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ADHD Plus Anxiety – The Podcast — ADHD Tip O the Day 805

Do you have ADHD?  Then you know about anxiety:     

Am I going to screw this up, too? Am I going to get my to do list done?  Am I going to get anything done?  Am I going to blurt out the wrong thing?  What am I forgetting? And where in the world are my keys?

Anxiety!

Jennie is an ADHD maven, coach and podcast producer.  And she raises bees in her back yard!  Inadvertently.

This is the podcast we did for ADHD Awareness Month, October.

I was anxious about doing the podcast, but I didn’t do as poorly as I feared.

For  many reasons, anxiety goes hand in hand with ADHD, and it can be a booger. But, there are good strategies to help deal with anxiety.  I discuss three of them in the podcast.

Jennie Friedman’s Podcast

Jennie’s blog

Hope you enjoy.

doug

Very Excited Note O the Day:  I am learning how to use Dino’s ingenious strategy for making the Facebook images come out right instead of getting chopped off.  This is the first trial run.  Hoping.  And many thanks to Dino.

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Is It Distraction? Or Something Else? -An ADHD Dialog with Scott — ADHD Tip O the Day 804

I fear that some people may not read all the comments, which are over to the right on the site.  You are missing something.  Here are some great issues that Scott brings up (slightly edited):

Hi Doug,
I just realized, in one of those duh moments, that I actually seek out distractions as a way to feel a high, almost like drugs. It is so ingrained in me I’m not sure how to deal with it, but acknowledging it is a good first step. I’m starting to see that a lot of my other problems, not getting work done, piles of stuff that I can’t seem to organize, and not paying attention when listening and at other times, are caused by this getting high off of distraction problem.
So now I’m looking for ways to gently turn this habit in a much better direction.
Any ideas?

All the best,
Scott

Scott is right on.  Sometimes just recognizing there is a problem is a great step, and then identifying it even better.  (Everything in italics is my current comments on the dialog.)

Scott – late getting back to you – procrastination? Not exactly. Didn’t have enough info to address your question. It’s a new concept to me. So, OK, I was procrastinating.

Are you getting high off the distraction thing you are doing? Or are you getting high off the action of distracting?

So not sure yet if my ideas would fit?
1. focus on specific problems, one at a time. which one is most important now? piles or listening or getting work done? then strategies for that one. harder to do much about the general problem of distractability
2. thus also a change of focus and framing, from “I’m distractable” to “I have trouble completing a task,”  for example. There are many strategies for that.

If you let me know, maybe I can come up with more specific ideas
This is a great topic and I’ll use it as a post if it’s OK with you.
thank you for your comments as always
doug

I tend to procrastinate when I’m not sure I can do something, or not sure I can do it well.

  Thanks Doug,
I tend to get really excited about “the next thing” whether it is solving some problem with the house or garden or learning about violin varnish or a boat building project or making the ultimate alcohol stove for backpacking. There are millions of “next things” out there and they are way more entertaining than the thing that may be right in front of me. There is so much information available on the internet, especially through YouTube and Amazon, and it is fun to look stuff up and then play with it in my head trying to figure it out. That often leads me to buying books and materials and starting new projects. I don’t always finish those projects or read those books before I’m off on the “next new thing” and the books and materials have tended to pile up in the physical space and the ideas and problems to solve have piled up in my mental space to where it is difficult to get work done or even concentrate without running into the physical or mental stuff of it all. The positive spin on it is the quest for learning and solving problems, the creative impulse. The negative is the mess and distraction.
Then there is the seeking for escape, which often happens by dreaming up a new project, searching YouTube or Amazon,… and the cycle continues.One thing I learned, on a YouTube video of all places, is how the internet, in only sometimes rewarding us in our searches, sets us up in an addictive cycle. We get a bigger dopamine response when we might find what we are looking for than when we know we will find what we are looking for. I think that is a big part of the high I get in searching for distractions.My latest strategy has been, just for today, no YouTube or Amazon. It is helping.Yes, use any of this for your blog or whatever.All the best, ScottScott is already coming up with good strategies.  What he describes here is typical ADHD.  The newer thing is the addictive power of technology. I am diligently studying Spanish on a great app, Duolingo (you can get any language on it.)  I don’t have any problem starting, it is scheduled and a daily habit.  But I have trouble getting off of it and moving on.We are interested in so many things, and so creative.  Blessings of ADHD, and part of the curse.

 

In reply to Scott Marckx.

Scott – lots of things going on. One suggestion – make a rule – you will not buy anything the same day, rule is to sleep on it before ordering.

other ideas: utilize the basic strategies – how to finish a task, how to manage distractions. use the search function on the site.

are you using two to do lists?

some things that may help:
1. pick one task to be sure to accomplish each day,a small step, and put it on the calendar. Schedule a week at a time.
2. schedule specific times to work on the task, and limit to 45 minutes per time.
3. schedule specific time for distractions. enjoy.
4. ditto for face book and u tube. schedule. and maybe a couple of days per week with no time for them.
5. Make sure you are not saying “have to” or “should” to yourself. Then distraction would be a rebellion against being controlled.

Again, strategies will be more helpful if you pick one area or problem to work on at a time.
the buying, the getting started, the finishing, the piles, not listening, the internet, whatever.

Most people at this point will be saying, “Yes, but -.” Are you hearing that from yourself?

One key point: You seem to have labeled your problem “a problem with distractions.” As you can see, I am suggesting these are actually multiple problems, where distraction may play a secondary part.

Look forward to hearing from you. Thank you for contributing

doug

I see that I’m being repetitive here, but these are basic ADHD strategy principles.  And often, whether or not a problem can be solved depends a lot on how you define the problem.

Links

Distractions

Distractions -“Do This.”

Procrastination – “I can always find something easier and more fun to do instead.”

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Just About Everything About Coping with ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 803

ADHD is about coping – you don’t cure it, you don’t overcome your symptoms, you learn to cope, to minimize the effect they have on your life.

Today I’m feeling lazy, kind of stuck, hard to get moving.  To be honest, I’m not feeling  highly motivated to do this blot post.  But it is time for one.  So instead of trying to force myself to do a post, to try harder, to overcome my inertia, I’m using a strategy, a coping strategy if you will.  I’m punting.  

This link below is pretty amazing, with so much information and so comprehensive.  Can’t say I agree with everything in it, but it’s well worth your checking out.  You’ll find a good tip that’s new to you, I’m sure, or at least you’ll be reminded of one that you’ve been forgetting to use.

Check it out!

doug

Just about everything about coping with ADD ADHD

Note O the Day: Some of the most astute among you will recognize that I actually have done a blog post.  But I was using the strategy of fooling my brain, a good common strategy.  I told myself I wasn’t doing one, which enabled me to get going and do this.  But, please, don’t tell my brain.

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A Tool for ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 802

ADHD and Stress.

With ADHD, we experience a lot of stress.  With more stress, our ADHD symptoms intensify. This makes it harder to function, which creates more stress.  Can you see where this is going?

Some years ago, I saw a post from Dr. Weil on 4-2-6-2 breathing.  I wasn’t impressed.  More woo woo stuff.  But, I thought I’d try it.  Tried it.  No benefit.  Wasn’t surprised.

More recently, I learned another breathing technique, for very specific situations of distress:

Breathe in, through your nose,  what you need, from God, or nature, or the universe – wherever your good stuff might come from.  Breathe in peace, or calmness, or equanimity, or optimism, etc.

Breathe out, through your mouth,  what you need to get rid of- anger, frustration, despair, hopelessness, etc.

Repeat several times.

Tried it.  To my surprise, nay, amazement, it worked.

Back to Dr Weil

So then I tried the 4-2-6-2 technique.  Guess what?  It worked, too.

So now I have two new good tools to help me deal with stress, one for specific situations, at the moment, and one for use in general, daily.  For ADHD, we need tools.

Will these work for everyone?  I have no idea.  Do you have to believe in them for them to work?  Apparently not.  I have found that for them to be effective you do need to repeat them at least several times, and you need to keep practicing them.  They become more effective with practice.

To learn the 4-2-6-2 technique, clik the link

doug

Link

Dr Weil on breathing (Here he shows a different 4-7-8 pattern.  I don’t know where I got     4-2-6-2, but it works.)

To go to sleep, return to sleep, decrease anxiety, if angry, if craving, daily.

Question O the Day:

Do you have experience with breathing tools, or with other stress relieving approaches?

PS O the Day:  There are of course many other tools for reducing stress, both ongoing and immediate, for specific situations  and in general:  exercise, prayer, meditation, get outside, breaks, and on and on.

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What Helps with ADHD? —ADD Tip o the Day 801

Lots of things help with ADHD

Some are a little complicated: medications, strategies, tools, coaching, therapy, mindfulness, yoga, education.

They can be extremely helpful.

But there are some basic simple things that help.

  1. exercise
  2. healthy eating
  3. good sleep
  4. get outside

I’m going fishing tomorrow.  Yea!  First time this year.  And only a few times last year.  I used to go twice a week during the season.

What happened?

My ADHD snuck up on me.  I got into the attitude of “too busy”, “too much to do.”  Ugh!  I hate that.

Strategies:

  1. Make getting outdoors – in this case, fishing – a priority.
  2.  Realize and keep reminding myself – that attitude of busy, pressure, is only an attitude.  It is not a reality.  This can be hard to believe, but it’s true.
  3.  Schedule one task a day, the most important one, and count the day a success when I get it done. I will probably get more done, but one a day will cover seven things in a week.  Except:
  4. I have started taking Sunday off.  This is partly religious, but it is also a part of healthy living.  Will probably blog on this soon.  Probably.  So anyway, it’s getting six things done a week. 

doug

Personal Note O the Day:  Hoping to catch some fish tomorrow, but it’ll be a great day anyway.  It’s beautiful out there.  But I really do like to catch some.

Links:

Ratan Shetty on close to nature clik here

ADHD and fishing

Vitamin N

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ADHD, Listening, Hearing, Oh,my — ADHD Tip O the Day 800

“You just don’t listen to me!”

Have you ever heard that?  If you have, then does that mean you were listening?

Yes, I was listening to you.  I could repeat every word you said.  But that doesn’t necessarily mean I heard.  And if I heard, that doesn’t mean I remembered.  Or that I can recall it.

It’s all in the brain.  

Working memory –   I can remember a telephone number long enough to dial it (“dial???”); then it’s gone.

Short term memory – I can remember it for a while.

Long term memory – I remember it a long time.  However,  what I recall is not necessarily accurate.  It’s stored as a group of high points and when recalled, our imagination fills in the gaps.  However, we experience it as totally accurate, the way it really happened.  Further, each time we recall and then restore a memory it is changed, so when we recall it again, it will be different but still seem totally real and accurate.

Anatomy – Working memory in prefrontal cortex.  Requires transfer to hippocampus to become long term.  Probably the amygdala has to label it important for this to occur.  Requires the basal ganglia to recall it.

Note:  This is extremely oversimplified and probably wrong, but the best I can understand it now.

But with ADHD

  1. These are exactly the areas that are miswired.  Therefore, guess what—?
  2.  Our mythical focus center does not turn on like vanillas, but requires special circumstances.
  3. We are generally over loaded, overwhelmed, and distracted at any given minute.
  4. My best guess is that I store and can recall things that have a big emotional impact on me or that my unconscious labels as essential to my survival or that for some reason I have an intense personal interest in.   Otherwise, they are in and out.
  5. Thus, if you tell me you are going to the grocery store, although you are extremely important to me, that fact is not.  But if you told me you were going to a Raven’s football game, or to visit the doctor to see if you have heart disease, bet I would remember that.
  6. But I was listening; my failings lie in what happens after that.
  7. See Note above.

Oh, my.

doug

 

The Brain 

Great post from Terry – how to listen

The brain

Two Brain Areas

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ADHD and a Fleeting Moment of Fame — ADHD Tip O the Day 799

Who’d Have Ever Thought My ADHD Would Bring Me Fame, Other Than From An Horrendous Accident Or A Terrible Crime 

I am honored, and excited, within reason of course, to be a guest on a podcast recorded last Thursday.   It’ll show in October 2, for ADHD month.

The hostess is Jennie Friedman, a genuine ADHD maven and coach.  She has a good web site, ‘See in ADHD’ where I’ll also have a guest post in early September. Jennie is a very active member of the ADHD tribe.

Our topic will be ADHD and Anxiety, and it made me nervous just to think about it. The first podcast I ever did, I filled with verbal tics – “Uh”, “You know.”, etc.   You know?  I was appalled when I heard it, thought I had gotten over those.

The next one, I sounded like I was at the bottom of a well. Well, that’s not my fault, it’s the mike on my laptop, I guess.

Fortunately, you can’t see how I look in the podcast; that’s not my fault either.  Unless you insist on bringing up all those years of dissipation.

Since I am extremely technologically challenged, I was anxious about getting logged in, and afraid I might miss the whole thing while trying to figure out how to connect. But like last time, Jennie held my hand and walked me through it.  It went alright.

So, obviously you want to be sure to tune in October 2nd and see how I screwed it up this time. And you’ll meet Jennie, if you don’t already know her.  And you might learn something new that will make it worth your while.  

We’ll be talking about anxiety and ADHD.

Reserve the time, but you can check out her stuff before that.

Hope you enjoy.

Strategies:

  1. If you’re anxious about doing something, do it anyway.
  2. Ask, “What’s the worst thing that can happen?”
  3. Then ask, “So what?  What will it matter 10 years from now? Five?”
  4. Then make a plan B – “Assuming the worst does happen, what would I do then?”  
  5. Use breathing techniques.  I used to think that these were woo woo nonsense, but I’ve learned they do work for me.  Very useful.

Doug

Jennie’s See in ADHD website

The Previous Podcast

Fantasy O the Day:  When I get back to my regular computer, I’m going to figure out how to make these pictures come out right on Facebook.

Yeah, right.

Half Serious Suggestion O the Day, Just to Make a Point About ADHD:

Mark the date on your calendar.  You know you’ll never remember it.

Addendum To Half Serious Suggestion:

If you do write it on your calendar, write it legibly so you can read it later.  Just saying.

Jennie’s  Links:

https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/see-in-adhd/id1096987579?mt=2

www.seeinadhd.com

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Losing Things – Living with ADHD and Three Strategies — ADHD Tip O the Day 798

  1. Losing thing on a trip with ADHD 

If you’re on a trip, oh, say like to Maine, for example, and you’re out in the boondocks with very limited shopping opportunities around, and you can’t find some really essential items that you’re sure you packed, you could call Amazon and order them and pay an exorbitant price for two day delivery.

But it might be better to look in your suitcase again.  In all of the pockets.

After that, if they don’t deliver in the two days, you can send the box back and you don’t have to pay, thank goodness.

2. Losing Things On the Job

Working in the hospital, my badge opened the doors to units 200 and 300, to let me in and out.  I left unit 300 and went to 200, but when I came back to 300,  I couldn’t find my badge.  It stays clipped to my shirt pocket and must’ve gotten knocked loose when I pulled out a pen.

I went back to 200 and the nurse let me in. I searched everywhere I had been; no badge. So the nurse let me out.  It must be on 300.  The nurse let me in and  I searched 300, everywhere I’d been.  No badge. 

Are you following this?

Embarrassed, I had to tell Chris, the wonderful 3oo unit clerk, that I’d lost my badge, and ask if she could order a replacement.

Chris asked me, ” So you went into 200?”

Yes.

“So you got out of 200 OK?”

Yes. 

“Then you couldn’t get into 300?”

Right.

“And you looked in the hall?”

Yes, yes.

“Have you looked in your pockets?”

No.

Now, that was silly, ’cause my badge is clipped to my shirt and I would never ever put it in my pocket.  At work in Santa Fe, I have my car keys in my back pocket and have made a habit of putting my work keys in my side pocket so I know where they are, but I would never, ever put my badge in my pocket.

Do you see where this is going?

I use frantic searching, whereas Chris uses logic.  That is a strategy!

3. Losing things everywhere

If you lose your glasses, that’s bad.  But before you go running around looking for them, you might want to check the top of your head.  And if they aren’t there, you might want to check your face, like sitting on your nose.

Just saying.

doug

Obvious Comment O the Day:

That’s living with ADHD!

Weird Comment O the Day:

If you have ADHD, and don’t have a wife around, a good unit clerk is the next best thing.

Bonus Posts:

On Losing the Cell Phone

On Losing the Tags

A Video!       You need to watch this, especially Martha.

Question O the Day:

Does this stuff happen to anyone else? 

 

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ADHD and Accident Prone? — ADHD Tip O the Day 797

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There’s gotta be a better way!

With ADHD We Need to Be Aware of These Things

Perhaps it would be better not to set it down right on the edge?

Just saying.

doug

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Blurting out with ADHD. Did I Just Do It Again? — ADHD Tip O the Day 796

ADHD: Impulsiveness, Distractability, Poor Social Judgement, Blurting Out

Impulsivness is one of the defining criteria for ADHD.  Products of ADHD impulsivity include both distractability  – I get a  distraction and I impulsively follow it, off task – and also blurting out. I get a thought and impulsively say it, sometimes even when I know better, but the impulse fires a microsecond before the alarm bell.  OK, let’s be honest.  Sometimes the alarm bell sounds soon enough and I go ahead and say it anyway.

When my wife kicks me under the table, that’s an external warning signal, but often I go ahead anyway, although sometimes I ask her to stop kicking me.  She doesn’t like this. But sometimes I pause and decide she’s probably right and I change the subject.  Sometimes.

I’m having trouble thinking of a good recent example, but here’s an old one:  

We were dining with good friends, very nice people, although bigotted (an oxymoron?  People can’t help where they were born?). They started in on some racist stuff and I interrupted them to deliver an educational lecture on the topic.  My wife kept kicking me but I just kept going.  They got very quiet and when I finished they started a different topic, and my wife stopped kicking me. (I am aware that people’s opinions are not affected by facts, but they had stated theirs, and I couldn’t just let it stand.  Could I?)

You know, that’s not a good example of blurting out, although I didn’t stop to consider before I started the lecture.  But I would do it again.

Anyway, I just asked my wife and although she agrees I blurt out all the time, she couldn’t think of an example either.  Maybe it’s not a bad as I think?  Maybe I can post an example next time.  She does point out that sometimes I post things that she thinks would go better unposted. Did I impulsively push the publish  button or is this an example of poor judgement, which I also have?

Strategies:

I don’t really have a strategy for this.

‘Stop and think before you speak?’ Seems like that’s like saying, “Just try harder.”  Could I really make that a habit, or is it that if I could do that, I wouldn’t have ADHD?

‘Stop talking when I’m getting kicked?’ But sometimes in my opinion, it’s not inappropriate.  Still, that might be a good strategy, percentage wise.

‘Keep your mouth shut?’  I do this a lot, and surely it keeps me out of a lot of trouble, but sometimes I need to speak.  Can I speak without blurting out?  Is it like all or nothing?

Any suggestions?

doug

 

Bonus Links:

intelligent   Oh, did I say something wrong?

Blurting out, I said it before.

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ADHD and the Challenge of Relationships — ADHD Tip O the Day 795

If you think living with ADHD is a challenge, imagine what it’s like living with someone with ADHD.

I started to add, “And imagine what it’s like to live with someone who is living with someone who is living with ADHD.” but I decided that would be a little too much.

See, I don’t always blurt out. Note: That is a subtle clever segue to what I’m planning for the next post (planning).

 Is therapy the answer?

ADHD and Relationships

Six Secrets for an ADHD Relationship

Question O the Day:

You know that moment when you just pause and ask yourself, “Now what would be the very best thing to say in this situation?”

Me neither.

Quote O the Day:

“The only thing worse than being married is not being married.”

      Unknown Sage

Hopeful Note O the Day:  I plan to really do the third helping tool for ADHD once I get home, and then I plan to do a series on updates on medications.  I plan to.

 

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Vacation! and ADHD. Vacation? — ADHD Tip o the Day 794

Have been on vacation a week now.  It’s wonderful!  But-

I had two goals for this vacation:

  1. To relax.  It’s about time,
  2. To get some things done, get caught up.

Unfortunately, the two goals are incompatible.  And guess what?  I’ve been busy, busy, busy.  Just like at home.  Lots of enjoyment, but no relaxation at all.  Until this morning.

I’ve had things to do:  blogs to write, papers to sort, folders to organize; medications, diagnostic criteria, lab values to learn; books to read.  And songs to polish, calls to make, passwords to update and organize, fotos to take, Japanese beetles to eliminate.  Exercise (gained 10 pounds on last vacation.) And not least of all, fish to catch.  Yes!

And I bought a used guitar, good one, but turns out it’s not playable.  I need to repair it – the action is way too high.  So needed to research on the net how to do that.  Hoping I can manage and not ruin it.

And besides, need to remind myself, this is not just MY vacation.  Martha has places to go and things to see.  So that takes time, too.  And even here, there’s still only 24 hours in the day.

We went to see Christina’s house in Cushing, after seeing an Andrew Wyeth exhibit in Rockland.  It was amazingly impressive and powerful; very glad I went.

Still, busy, busy, busy.

But this morning, I caught myself.  Got a cup of coffee and went out on the deck and just sat.  Well, mostly.  Did take a few fotos, but mostly just sat.  A very good ADHD tool which I haven’t been practicing for quite a while. I need to get back to it.

Strategies:

  1.  Sit every day.
  2. Prioritize my to do list, underline the essentials, and have a goal of one a day.
  3. Use breathing techniques.

Need to be careful about my other goal, which is to catch more fish.  

Want to unhook from the busy,the  pressure, the ever turning internal flywheel.  Isn’t that what vacations are really for?  And also for getting a better perspective.

doug

Fantastic People O the Day:  Martha, Lucy, Jim, Katie, Will.  (wife, hosts – daughter and son in law, extremely generous and hospitable;  granddaughter and grandson in law)

Question O the Day:

Did anyone notice the little pun up above?  Anyone?

Link O the Day:

Christina’s World

Quote O the Day:

‘And you think you got troubles.’  related to Christina (progressive neuro muscular disease)

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ADHD Help Number Three — ADHD TIp O the Day 793

I had finished this post, had it ready to go, and now – wham!  It has vanished.  So, what is my strategy?

I can procrastinate, and maybe it will magically turn up somewhere.

 Wait!  I’m on my laptop, away from home.  Maybe it’s on my home PC, just waiting to be posted.  What a waste it would be trying to recreate it now when it’s already done and just waiting,  So I’ll  wait til I get home and check it out.  That’s not procrastinating.  Is it?

Anyway, it’s a great post and the last of the three part series on ADHD helps.  So you can wait for it.  Can’t you?

In the meantime, you can enjoy this typical example of Life With ADHD.  You’re not the only one, see?

And if I can’t find it, then I will recreate it.  Then you’ll have all three helps and your life will be better.  Your deserve it.

Strategy O The Day:

Keep plugging away anyway.

Doug

 

Anguished Cry O the Day, just to further illustrate the point:

I had this post all set up with great cartoons, then managed to erase them all.  Arggghhhh!  But that’s OK, I managed to salvage these.  This is just life with ADHD.  RIght?

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ADHD Help Number Two — ADHD Tip O the Day 792

Three Basic Ways to Improve Your Life with ADHD

  1.  Sleep  2. Exercise  3. Get Outdoors

Help Number Two — Exercise.

Our son Duane had ADHD and learning disabilities.  He was extremely smart but couldn’t actually function.  The only thing he was good at was theater,  certainly not sports.  But – he finally discovered cross-country running.  He didn’t need to cooperate with anyone, learn any rules or plays, or be organized – all he had to do was run.

He was not a star, but he did well, for the first time in anything except theater.  It was a real help to him in many ways. 

The Dirty Word

Exercise is a dirty word to many people, but there are ways to change that:

Find something you are good at, enjoy, or at least isn’t an abhorrent chore.  Then you’ll be able to stick with it.

Don’t let it be an unpleasant ordeal.  Exercise with music, or TV, or a friend, or in a nice setting.  If you dislike it, don’t do it.  I never do push ups – hate them.

Make a schedule (ie structure).  Then that is a priority – “Sorry, I can’t do it Wednesday morning; that’s my exercise time.”

Set goals to challenge yourself.  Make them reasonable, and achievable.  Use small steps.

It is advised to do moderate exercise at least 30 minutes a day at least 5 times a week.  But, anything is better than nothing.  Do what you can.

Also, be sneaky.  In addition to your regularly scheduled sessions, find occasions to walk, climb stairs, or take a two-minute break and do stretches and isometrics.

Be Knowledgeable:

 You can do cardio-endurance exercises every day, though I don’t recommend it (jogging, walking, treadmill)’ but strength exercise need to be done on alternate days, to give muscles a chance to recover.  Try HIT – high intensity training.  You get the same benefit in less time spent.  Avoid buying expensive equipment or member ships – you’re just setting yourself up for defeat.  Stay on your schedule but maybe schedule different programs for variation.  When you miss or skip or don’t do well, avoid judging yourself.  Just start again. Keep records to give yourself positive feedback.

Benefits of Exercise:

Exercise will make your brain function better and you’ll function with your ADHD better.  That’s the main point here.  But there are so many benefits,  in addition to the obvious general health benefits: Good treatment for depression, anxiety or stress; improves self-esteem, reduces risk of Alzheimer’s.

Questions O the Day:

  1. Can you add some tips about exercising for the benefit of our tribe here?
  2. Did you notice all the applications of ADHD strategies in the above post?

Links:

ADHD and Exercise

Sports Help Children with ADHD, But IMHO, Help Adults Also

Exercise Helps ADHD with or without medication

How Much Exercise Do You Need?

Isometrics

HIT – High Intensity Training

 

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Three Simple Proven Helps for ADHD, or Maybe More — ADHD Tip O the Day 791

Making Your Life Better –  Even With ADHD

Here are the basics of dealing with ADHD:

  1. Get enough sleep, whatever it takes.    Your best bet is to practice sleep hygiene, and/or use melatonin, or whatever.
  2.  Exercise
  3. Get outdoors

More helps for ADHD:

  1. Use strategies.
  2. Omega 3 Fatty Acid ( Fish Oil).

Additional Helps with ADHD:

  1. Coaching
  2. Therapy
  3. Medication

Links:

Sleep hygiene

Melatonin

The instructions say 3-5 mgm, about an hour before bedtime.  Start there, but many people need 10 mgm before it works.  I need 15 mgm.  It doesn’t work like a sleeping pill, just helps you sleep better.  It works for about 70% of people.

Make Sure You Don’t Have Sleep Apnea.  

doug

Looking Ahead:

  1. I plan to expand on the other points above, soon.  I plan to.
  2. The June copy of Psychiatric Annals just arrived, dedicated to the topic of, guess what—“Adult Attention- Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder.”  I hope to glean some interesting stuff to share with you soon.

The State of the Books:

  1. Your Life Can Be Better needs a few typos fixed.  I’m still procrastinating. Should be simple, but guess I’m afraid it won’t be.
  2. The Bully is undergoing significant revision.  I’m not happy with this version and have been incorporating many suggestions.  One more beta copy is out and then it needs  major rewriting.  I’m not looking forward to that, but don’t want to give up on the book.  It’s aimed at helping bullies, parents, teachers, and administrators to understand bullies and how to effectively intervene.  It has morphed somewhat into a book on violence in general.
  3. Living Daily With Adult ADD or ADHD, 365 Tips O the Day, is undergoing major updating.  That’s on hold until the first two projects are done.
  4. Transformations, my autobiography, is in rough form.  It’s primarily for my descendants; who else in the world would be interested?  But I’d love to have had more information from my ancestors, so hopefully it will get completed. It’s the last book on the agenda at the moment.

Grimace O the Day:

Remind me not to shut my finger in my car door please.

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Cross Off Your ADHD —ADHD Tip O the Day 790

The Power Of Positive Reinforcement

We all need positive reinforcement, ADHD or not.

One way to give it to ourselves is crossing off.

That’s one of the side benefits of the to do lists; we get to cross things off.

That builds our self esteem and our confidence, and gives us more motivation to do things.

Go for it!

doug

Sour Note of the Day

You do realize that before you cross it off, you need to have done it?

Links

What is positive reinforcement and how does it work?

Lists

 

 

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Comprehensive Treatment for ADHD: An Update —ADHD Tip O the Day 789

OK, So I Lied – Here Is More From the ADHD Article by Rahil R. Jummani, MD,

This is actually the end of the article I’ve been reviewing, somewhat edited, with my comments in italics:

“CDC surveys have shown that about 17.5% of children with ADHD are not being treated for the disorder. Research demonstrated the superiority of medication for the short-term management of ADHD symptoms.11 However, the long-term effects of treatment, such as therapeutic benefit and adverse effect burden, have been fiercely debated.”

True.  Some studies show that meds really help most people, but that over the years,  there is no long term benefit.  I find this quite unbelievable.  If a boy is in danger of failing a grade, driving his family and teachers crazy and interfering with the learning of other children, turning to drug abuse, turning to delinquency, having trouble making and keeping friends, having depression – or a girl is significantly underperforming, with some similar risks – and medication can help them do better, even if for only a few years, aren’t they going to do better later?  And even if not, what is the value to everyone to have the symptoms abated for those years?

But, in fact, most studies show very significant long term benefits, including lower incidence of drug abuse, for the ADHD children who are treated.

 I won’t go into the benefits of treatment for adults today.

“There is also rising concern about stimulant misuse, especially among adolescents and young adults; they may feign symptoms of ADHD to obtain stimulants for performance enhancement. It is therefore imperative to assess both current and historical symptoms and to clarify the degree of functional impairment. Careful monitoring of treatment and requests for prescriptions is critical.”

True.  Studies show that the stimulants do not actually improve performance in non-ADHD people, but give them the impression that they did.

“Both the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry and the American Academy of Pediatrics have published clinical guidelines for the evaluation and treatment of ADHD.13,14 Treatment should be comprehensive and include psychoeducation for the patient and his or her family, cognitive-behavioral therapies, academic accommodations and services in the school setting, and executive functioning and social skills development. Although medications for the management of ADHD address core symptoms, it is increasingly recognized that they must be paired with other therapeutic interventions to achieve the best prognosis.”

True.  But just the medication alone can give significant help to many, just not the best.  The consensus is that in very young children, the interventions should be tried first.

doug

Bonus Links:

Many Links to ADHD treatment articles, most but not all are negative, the more positive ones are near the bottom.  Not very up to date (unlike my post!)

Reports That Are More Positive 

The Whole Entire Complete Article by Rahil R. Jummani, MD

Notes O the Day:

  1. I think that if the meds help a child with ADHD, that’s a great thing, and if they don’t, there is a fair chance that the diagnosis is not correct.
  2. I plan to go more into the effects of treatment, pro and con, an into treatment of adults.  (I plan to.)  There is a lot of misinformation and misunderstanding out there.

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So try something.

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Enough.

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“Are We Overdiagnosing and Overtreating ADHD?” – Part Three, the Last and Maybe the Best— ADHD Tip O the Day 788

Final Installment On the ADHD Article by By Rahil R. Jummani, MD, highly edited.

My opinions and comments are in italics. For what they’re worth.

Prevalence:

Prevalence estimates have been increasing, with a prevalence in US children of over 8% now and 4% in adults. However, prevalence estimates of ADHD remained static for older adolescents and decreased for children who were multiracial or of other races.  Because?

 Of those diagnosed, 69% were treated with medication—6.1% of US children.

Increasing prevalence

There seems to be a generally increasing prevalence of ADHD in the US. This upward trend may reflect better public and medical education and awareness of the disorder,  increasing recognition of the inattentive subtype, environmental factors such as pollution, prematurity, and food additives, although no clear relationships have been established.  This will not, however, stop some people from having very definite opinions. 

Methodological and criteria changes may also contribute.

There are also realistic concerns that the increasing prevalence of ADHD may be artificial and reflect poor diagnostic practices and that treatment that is increasingly reliant on medication. When child and adolescent psychiatrists  evaluate children, they are less likely to initiate medication management immediately upon diagnosing ADHD. But child and adolescent psychiatrists represent a small percentage of clinicians, and the vast majority of ADHD cases are identified and treated by primary care practitioners.

A study of  pediatricians showed significant variability:

• Parent and teacher rating scales were used in only about half of the cases

• DSM criteria were not universally documented

• 93.4% of patients with a diagnosis of ADHD were treated with medication

• Only 13% received any form of psychosocial intervention

Although rating scales are  sensitive, they lack specificity, leading to a high false-positive rate for the disorder. Rating scales must therefore be combined with a comprehensive assessment of patients, and in the case of children, their parents.

Obtaining information about symptoms in multiple environments with the use of multiple informants is critical. For example, it is good clinical practice to interview teachers and, at times, conduct observations in the classroom before making a diagnosis. This is ridiculous, given the time pressure on physicians.  

Meticulous assessment for ADHD reduces misidentification of the condition when symptoms are caused by another disorder, such as a mood, anxiety, substance use, learning, or disruptive behavior disorder. Conditions that frequently co-occur with ADHD must be a focus of treatment as well.

All true, but of equal concern is the number of undiagnosed and untreated children and adults who suffer from ADHD.

doug

The Whole Entire Complete Article

Another New York Times Attack on ADHD?

On Diagnosis

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Life With ADHD. Oh, My! — ADHD Tip O the Day 787

With ADHD, I need a wife, an iPhone, and strategies.

I had an 8:30 breakfast appointment with my boss at an excellent restaurant. And he was paying. I set the alarm; it worked. I got up on time, got ready and left on time. I had a nice brisk walk, but went past the restaurant.  I soon realized this, turned around, found the restaurant, and was only a few minutes late.

Miraculous for someone with ADHD, right?

The boss and I  had an enjoyable, productive and delicious meeting. At 10:36 my sainted wife, who looks after me, called and asked if I’d forgotten the 11 AM meeting at my other job.

Guess what?  I had.

I wrapped up the meeting, excused myself, walked briskly to my car parked behind the house, and rushed to the meeting.

But the bridge was out. I tried to find  way around, but couldn’t. I called for directions and asked them to tell my colleagues I’d be a little late.

The directions didn’t work. I figured I’d missed the turn so I went  round again.            Same path, same results.

Pulled over, got on the GPS, and although it directed me to the bridge that was out, I was able to figure out what to do. Turns out I hadn’t properly followed the directions.

I drove as fast as I  could and got there at 11:30, only 30 minutes late.  No one was there except the administrator, who gave me a surprised look and asked why I’d come so early.

“Early?”

The meeting was scheduled for 1 o’clock. Not 11 o’clock. It’s the other day’s meeting that’s at 11 o’clock.

No problem.

This gives me time to get a head start on the paperwork, to dictate this blog into my iPhone, and to make some phone calls.  In addition, the kind administrator just brought me a snack so I won’t get hypoglycemic.

So I dictated this blog. Unfortunately, halfway through, it somehow got erased. That’s the way technology treats me. However, I remained calm, and dictated it again. Here it is.

All is well.  Surely the universe is unfolding according to plan.

Just another day in the life of a person with ADHD.

Know what I’m talking about?

doug

Written with SwiftKey Note ( while I waited for the 1:00 pm meeting to start.)

Sent from my iPhone (Which I finally got back on Monday from Springfield, Avis, and FedEx. Thank goodness.  Otherwise, this whole story would’ve been a disaster.)

ADHD Strategy O the Day:

As I said above, we need a caretaker, a smart phone, and strategies.  That’s the strategy.

Heads Up O the Day:

My intention is to finish the article on 

“Are We Overdiagnosing and Overtreating ADHD?”

next time. This is where we actually try to answer the question and look at why the frequency of the diagnosis is increasing.  Any guesses  or opinions you want to offer in advances will be welcome.

Note that this is an intention.  I’ve learned to never make promises. You can count that as a bonus strategy.

Links:

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“Are We Overdiagnosing and Overtreating ADHD?” – Part Two— ADHD Tip O the Day 786

More from the recent ADHD article in Psychiatric Times

 (Jummani, MD, et al, in Psychiatric Times, May 2017, pp 26-28.)

To diagnose ADHD formally in children requires at least 6 of 9 inattentive symptoms and /or at least 6 of 9 symptoms of impulsivity and hyperactivity, present in two or more environments, evident before age 12, not accounted for by other conditions, and        “…clear evidence that the symptoms interfere with, or reduce the quality of, social, academic, or occupational functioning.”

Thus, there are tight rules for making the diagnosis and not just saying someone is a problem in the classroom.  The “let the children be children” advocates don’t know what they’re talking about.  Johnny is failing his classes, spending a lot of time in the principal’s office, shunned or teased or bullied by the other kids, losing his homework if he did it at all and at times his whole backpack, and is a source of extreme frustration to his parents.  Annie is daydreaming through class, barely passing, and largely ignored because she doesn’t cause any trouble.

To make the diagnosis in adults,  the criteria are the same, but only five symptoms are required.

Most adult ADHDers  have less dramatic hyperactivity and impulsivity.  But life is still hard. We need strategies.  And often medication.

In addition, before diagnosing, a good evaluation would include historical data, a rating scale, DSM criteria and additional information from at the least one other person who knows the patient well.  This often does not happen.

Most diagnoses are made by primary care physicians who do not have the training, and more importantly, do not have the time, for this.  They are more likely than psychiatrists to quickly start patients on medication without first starting psychosocial interventions.

I agree with the need for a good evaluation, but sometimes just getting the story and observing the patient in an interview are enough to make the diagnosis pretty clear.  I did also use a rating scale, usually more to help convince the patient more than myself, and got outside information when possible. The recommendations can be impracticable, given the limited time most physicians have and the lack of enough psychiatrists to meet the need.  One recommendation was that the physician go to observe the child in the classroom. Oh, my.

Many psychologists are better trained to make the diagnosis than many physicians, even many psychiatrists, but may lean too far away from recommending medication since most can’t prescribe. Many well trained ADHD coaches could make the diagnosis, although they are not supposed to.

I think most people with ADHD deserve at least a trial of medication to see how it works for them.

The rate of children being diagnosed with ADHD, and often treated with medication, is rising.  There are many possible explanations for this, which I will try to address next time.  Maybe.  This post is already longer than I’d intended. 

doug

News O the Day of Interest to No One But Me:

My iPhone arrived Monday morning.  I really missed it.

Links:

DSM V diagnostic criteria for ADHD,  David Rabiner, Ph.D.

Getting Diagnosed

Medications for ADHD?

 

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The Cell Phone Saga: Another Chapter in My Life with ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 785

My iPhone has a great GPS and since I’m directionally challenged, I use it a lot.  Sometimes it sends me on a wild goose chase, but usually it’s right on.

So I set it in the cup holder of the rental car where I could easily see it and hear it.  Once before, I’d walked out and forgot it there, so the small voice said, “This is not a good idea.”

But I also knew that if I set it in my lap I was likely to forget it and when I got out of the car it would likely fall to the ground and break, so I said, ” Oh, no, I’ll just make a point of remembering it.”

Got to the Springfield Airport just fine.  Turned the car in. Guess what?

But it was early Saturday morning, and no one was in any of the car rental booths.

I left a note with my name and address and explaining the problem in the key drop box , where I’d earlier dropped the keys, which meant I couldn’t get back into the car.

So when I got home, I called the Avis counter at the airport.  See, I couldn’t call before, because I didn’t have my iPhone.  The nice man said he had it, but I would have to call Monday and talk to someone then.

Monday was a holiday, and I didn’t think they’d be there and I kind of forgot it. Know what I mean?  Tuesday I was swamped.  Wednesday I was at work and couldn’t make a call.  So my dear sainted wife made the call for me.

The Avis guy was not very nice and not very helpful, but he said she’d have to call Fed Express.  Could the guy have told me that on Saturday? The Fed Express lady was not very nice and not very helpful.  She insisted that we open a Fed Express account.  Finally my wife got it arranged.  $45 for shipping, $9 for picking it up, and $9 for something else.  

You can do the math.

Supposed to be here tomorrow, Friday.  Supposed to.

You’d think that Avis, the big company who I’ve paid a lot for rentals, could have just generously shipped it.

You’d think that, wouldn’t you?

You’d think by now I would’ve learned to listen to the small voice, wouldn’t you?

ADHD Strategy O the Day:

Listen to the small voice.  It knows better than you do.

doug

Question O the Day:

Is losing your iPhone worse if you have ADHD?  Yes, I know it’s more likely, but is it worse?

Bonus Links:

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FOFA

Oh, My!

Additional Plaint O the Day:

They said it would be here Friday.  Today is Saturday.  Do you think it’s here yet?

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“Are We Overdiagnosing and Overtreating ADHD?” Or Not? Or What? — ADHD Tip O the Day 784

This is the title of a recent ADHD article

in Psychiatric Times (reference below, for the compulsive or curious.)

ADHD was first identified as a syndrome in 1935.

(I didn’t know this, did you?  — Syndrome – “a group of symptoms that consistently occur together or a condition characterized by a set of associated symptoms.”  Usually means we don’t know the cause, and/or that it might have multiple causes.  Whether or not a syndrome can also be called a disease is debatable.)

“Untreated, the condition takes a toll on a child’s self-esteem and self-confidence.”  It ain’t all that helpful in adults, either.

ADHD often co-occurs with other disorders, tics, anxiety,depression, unstable mood, disruptive behavior, substance abuse, and/ or learning disabilities.   Not surprising, given what it’s like living with ADHD.  Don’t know of any studies of the incidence conditions of these in our significant others, but –.

Adults with ADHD have increased rates of divorce, unemployment, traffic violations (and accidents) substance abuse, and arrests.

From the Net:

After adjusting for a range of factors, including age, sex, family history of psychiatric disorders, and employment status, people with ADHD were found to have a mortality rate ratio (MRR) that was more than twice as high as individuals without ADHD (MRR, 2.07; 95% confidence interval [CI], 1.70 – 2.50; P < .0001).Feb 26, 2015

Having a diagnosis of attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) increases the risk of death and reduces overall life-expectancy, a large study published in The Lancet shows. It finds that people with ADHD have a more than doubled risk of premature death – and that accidents are the most common cause.

Well, if that doesn’t cheer you up, I don’t know what.

Can we give ourselves some credit for doing as well as we are?

doug

Heads Up O the Day: I plan to cannibalize this extensive article for a few posts. The rest is not quite so morbid.  Not quite.

Query O the Day: I’ve implied some follow ups on previous posts.  Does anyone remember what, or care, or want to suggest another topic?

Principle O the Day: I’ve learned never to promise anyone anything.

Irrelevant Comment O the Day: I start every morning with a prayer and a laugh. Some days, the laugh is forced.

Comment On the Comment: But the prayer and laugh actually do help. That is the ADHD Strategy O the Day.

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I almost forgot, surprise, surprise. The ‘promised’ reference. Article by R. R.
Jummani, MD, et al, in Psychiatric Times, May 2017, pp 26-28. So there.
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Is My ADHD Messing With Me Again, Or Is It Something Else? —Tip O the Day 783

Is it ADHD or Human Nature?

Puryear’s Principle of Human Nature #2:

Once we find something that helps us  cope with a problem, we will quit doing it.

And this does apply to me.  Oh, my.

The Index Card System for ADHD

I was doing great with my index card system, but gradually I let it slip.  I started putting every new task, or even ideas or phone numbers, on the red to do card, which is supposed to only have 5 things on it – the list of 5.  It was easiest to just pull out the red card, write on it and move on.  Bad.

A New ADHD Strategy

Once I realized this  wasn’t going well, I changed,  But I didn’t go back to the old way, using the yellow index card for new things and then putting them onto the red card or others as appropriate.

Instead, now I use a yellow sticky note on the inside cover of my appointment book.  It is much easier to pull  out the big appointment book than to search for the yellow card among all the other cards in my pocket.  And it’s easier to change the sticky for a new one than it was with the yellow card.

How ADHD Works

With ADHD, we get bored easily and  our focus center gets turned on by novel things.  So maybe after we’ve done something for a while, we need to change it.  Even if it has become a habit, although I hope that’s not true.   So maybe it’s ADHD, or maybe it’s just Puryear’s principle number two.

More on this next time.  Or soon.  Maybe.

doug

ADHD Questions O the Day:

Can you contribute an example of this phenomenon?

How could you use this ADHD strategy with technology instead of index cards or stickys?

Irrelevant ADHD Comments O the Day:

Just for fun, I put ADHD into each heading. More instances of ADHD in a post are supposed to make it come up earlier on google if someone googles ADHD.  Who knows?

I don’t really know if today’s principle is  principle number two or one or three.  With my ADHD I can’t keep the numbers straight.

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Is It Ethical to Diagnose A Public Figure? — ADHD Tip O the Day 782

It is unethical for a psychiatrist to diagnosis a person, either private citizen or public figure, without personally examining him.  If the psychiatrist has indeed personally examined a person, it is then unethical to make that diagnosis public, or even the fact that the examination occurred, except  in some rare exceptional circumstances  which would almost certainly include having the examinee’s consent.

The exception would be in legal cases, where the person examined is informed in advance that the examination is not confidential and will be discussed in court.  Still, the psychiatrist’s information sharing would be confined to the court, not in the general public.

In other words, a psychiatrist cannot ethically comment on the psychiatric status of any other person if they have not examined them, or if they have examined them.

I don’t know what the rules are for psychologists, but suspect they are about the same.  Not my problem.

However, there is no reason that I cannot share my own diagnosis, it’s adult ADHD.

My ADHD causes me a lot of problems in life, with the following symptoms:

Often makes careless mistakes and lacks attention to details
(Examples: overlooking or missing details or handing in work that is inaccurate)


Often has difficulty paying attention to tasks
(Example: difficulty remaining focused during lectures, conversations, or lengthy readings)


Often seems to not listen when spoken to directly
(Example: mind seems elsewhere, even in the absence of obvious distraction)


Often fails to follow through on instructions, chores, or duties in the workplace
(Example: starts tasks but quickly loses focus and is easily sidetracked)


Often has difficulty organizing tasks and activities
(Examples: messy, disorganized work; poor time management; fails to meet deadlines)


Often avoids, dislikes, or is reluctant to participate in tasks requiring sustained mental effort, like preparing reports, completing forms, or reviewing lengthy papers


Often easily distracted by other things, including unrelated thoughts

Often acts as if “on the go” or “driven by a motor”
(Example: is unable to be or uncomfortable being still for an extended time, as in meetings or restaurants)
Often talks excessively,  blurts out an answer before a question has been fully asked, blurts out inappropriate comments. (Examples: completes people’s sentences; cannot wait for next turn in conversation)
Often interrupts or intrudes on others (Examples: butts into conversations, games, or activities; may start using other people’s things without asking or receiving permission; may intrude into or take over)

Often has difficulty keeping commitments.

Often has trouble getting pictures to show properly on facebook or script to line up right on wordpress.

And this just a sample, I have other symptoms as well.

Adult ADHD affects approximately 4% of the US adult population.

But with strategies, and sometimes medication, we can manage to function.  With difficulty.

Oh, well.

doug

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ADHD Strategies 40 Tips — Tip O the Day 781

Living With ADHD, Ain’t It Awful?  No, It’s Not.

Just got a bad book review from Frances.  She said she couldn’t read the book because my life is so awful it made her feel awful to read about it.  She imagined that the “counting things and routines and patterns” made me suffer.  

But these are strategies and I would be suffering if I didn’t have strategies to help me cope with my ADHD.  Not to brag, but I have a great wife, a good job, many interests, a good social network, a good spiritual life, rewarding hobbies, good health, a great family including eight grandchildren, and other benefits. And a new dog.   I am blessed and I am happy.

And things keep getting better.  For example, I think I finally just caught onto the secret to “living in the now,” which had always seemed a meaningless phrase, and it is making things even better.

So I am a big fan of strategies for ADHD.  Strategies are why I can say, “Your Life Can Be Better.”

doug

The Book Review

40 tips

Semi-irrelevant Remark O the Day:

I have heard that bad reviews are much better than no reviews, so I appreciate them.  Someone is paying attention.

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“Hurry!” – An Unpleasant ADHD Attitude— ADHD Tip O the Day 780

Is being in a hurry an integral part of ADHD?

Being in a hurry is unpleasant and inefficient.  It is also not based on reality but it’s an attitude.  The attitude generates the feeling, which generates the behavior, or perhaps the behavior generates the feeling?

Anyway, that’s the way I feel most of the time, in a hurry, even if there is no reason.  I do try to manage situations so that I’m less likely to get that attitude.

Why?

Was in a hurry to get to church this Sunday.  Pressure.  Why?  What if I’m five minutes late?  God won’t be mad and the world will probably keep turning.  There are worse disasters than being five minutes late to church.

doug

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Request O the Day: 

If you’re not in too much of a hurry, could you make a comment about your experience of “hurry”?

 

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The New ADHD Diet — ADHD Tip O the Day 779

Many People Ask or Comment About Diets for ADHD.  Here are Some Insights:

(Actually these insights are a mixture of facts and opinion.  What isn’t these days?)

Research:

The research shows that some people with ADHD benefit somewhat from some diets.  The overall results are not very impressive, and most people find the diets too difficult to follow; the benefits do not  justify the hassle.  That said, since most research is based on averages, surely there are some people with incredible stories about the great success they have had with special ADHD diets.  I would love to hear from you.

Weight Control:

Dieting is a larger issue than ADHD.  Management of weight is a major concern.  That’s where my personal interest lies, as a person with ADHD, minimal will power, and an ongoing weight problem.

The Three C’s Diet:

So I have decided on a new diet, the Three C’s Diet.  It consists of ice cream, chocolate and Courvoisier ( a cognac brandy, if anyone doesn’t know).  And the diet allows an occasional root beer float.

Why not?  Nothing else has worked.  It’s worth a try.

Diets Don’t Work:

It is difficult for anyone to stay on any diet, especially those of us lacking will power.  But some people do manage to lose weight on a diet.  Then they return to their old eating patterns and usually regain more weight than they lost.

How To Control Your Weight (advice from someone who has not been successful.)

Avoid diets.  Change your eating habits and your exercise habits, for the rest of your life. (Easy to say.)

More Research

Research shows that dark chocolate and alcohol are both health promoting, in moderation.  Moderation has never been my strong point. Surely there are also some health benefits from ice cream as well.

doug

 

Suggestion O the Day

If you are serious about controlling your weight, do not spend two weeks lying on the beach at a Mexican resort.

Note O the Day:

Anyone will benefit from a healthy diet and good exercise, ADHD or not.

Links:

ADHD and Foods

Diet may help the hippocampus

Start of a series on will power

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Super Comments from Ram and Sue — ADHD Tip O the Day 778

Lots of people have contributions to help the ADHD tribe

I hope each one of you reads all the comments here, but I’m not sure.  Maybe you don’t read ALL of them?  Here are two recent ones that are too good to miss:

Ram

I’m still not good with lista. But I do use some helpful tips from this page: the list of one. When I catch myself in a Netflix-induced stupor, I think “if you could do something today, what would it be?”.

I improvised a couple new ones for myself: When I’m sitting around, bored and think “I need to try and do xyz soneday”, I immediately think “what’s stopping you know?” (Usually, nothing, so I go ahead and do it).
When I’m procrastrinating on reinforcing a rule I’m trying to learn (like teeth or skin-care) by thinking I don’t feel like it, I stop and think “are you really making the conscious decision of not doing your routine?”
These variations of the list of one have made an impact in my life!

The point I want to emphasize is that Ram came up with her own strategies that work for her.  I offer strategies that many people find useful, but they are examples, or templates, to help you design your own.  Also, this comment gives good examples of using self talk, and in a positive way, and also of what I call “mottoes.”  One of my best mottoes is “Do it now, do it right, do the hard part first.”

Sue  

Sue Williams Brawn
Fresh Start Coaching
Calgary, Alberta Canada
(403) 813-5291

sue.freshstart@gmail.com
www.freshstartcoaching.ca

Great post Doug as always. With regards to my own to-do lists – I tell people I’m like a toddler who can’t stand their food touching – I can’t have say, financial and family obligations on the same list. My brain can’t process that. So I created a word template that divided my to-do list into domains – work, financial, volunteer, family, social, errands. It made it easier for me to figure out what the priority would be during the time I want to focus on work, for instance, and it keeps me from doing other things during that time. If I need to pick the most interesting thing to do because I need a dopamine boost, at least I’m choosing the most interested work-related activity during the time I’ve designated as work time.

I find my ADHD coaching clients abandon lists when they don’t really know how to make them actionable – often it’s a challenge with how to figure out priorities. Once we do that, and we work with their learning styles – ie. big white boards with coloured sticky notes might work for visual learners, notebooks or paper planners for the tactile learners – the list is more likely to be acted upon. I do find a lot of tactile, visual people try to put lists on their phone – but keystrokes don’t help us remember, and the list disappears into the phone and isn’t visual – the phone isn’t always the best place to keep lists if you have ADHD.

Sue is emphasizing some of my favorite points:

Everyone is different, unique, although we ADHDers share many of the same problems.  For example, setting priorities is a booger. You need a strategy that works for you when you are stuck, or that helps you not get stuck – when you “need a dopamine boost.”  Lists are essential, but they don’t work unless you know how to use them.  And, an important point that I have not emphasized, writing things down helps us remember them.  I often take notes during a talk or a lecture, even though I know I will probably never look at them again.  But the writing not only helps me remember the key points, but also helps me keep my focus on the talk.

Thank you Ram and Sue.

I love comments.

doug   

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Send me to the store with ADHD?

 

 

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Some days you’re just not that into it.  (I’ve been trying for years to get this foto to come up right on facebook.  Did this do it????)

Not too effective.

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The Perfect Approach With ADHD (or without) — ADHD Tip O the Day 777

The Perfect Approach to Life With ADHD

OK, I’ll admit I get lazy, and that I’m still behind, but trust me, that’s not the reason for this post.  The link below is just perfect:

The Perfect Approach

Trust me.

doug

Screw Up O the Day:

Just noticed, I have two posts 722 and no 744!

Coincidence?  The work of the devil?  Part of a sabotage plot by vanillas?

You decide!

I don’t think it’s worth the trouble to fix it.  Would not be a good use of my time.  I think.

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Sometimes its too much

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Lists and ADHD, or Not? — ADHD Tip O the Day 776

ADHD and To Do Lists?

Some people have graduated from to do lists.  God bless ’em!  I don’t know how they do it.  I can’t function without to do lists.  The long list. The short list.  The list of five.  Sometimes the list of three and sometimes even the list of one.

But some people say that lists don’t work for them.  It’s my belief that they don’t have the right strategies for using them or else they would work.

So here’s the short course, To Do Lists 101:

 

Lists don’t work with ADHD if you don’t know how to use them

Lists

Lists 2

Lists 3

Lists 4

Lists 5

ADHD Apps

One More List Post

doug

ADHD Ramblings O the Day:

As you can see, there is are a lot of posts about lists on the net.  There are a lot of different strategies and of course a lot of opinions.  The general consensus is that to do lists are essential with ADHD.  Of course, not every one agrees with the consensus.  Everyone is different.

I experimented with the fotos and  facebook.  Made a mess of my facebook page.  Finally got one to work, using one of my favorite fotos, of the little ballerinas.  Now I can’t figure out how I did it.

I’m finally trying out some apps in spite of being severely technologically challenged.

Having lots of fun with Note (thank you Martha B)

 

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One At A Time – – – ADHD Tip O the Day 773

With ADHD, we need to work harder, but it’s more important to work smarter.

When I got back to work after two weeks vacation, there was a huge stack of papers on my desk. I used a very good strategy and started organizing the papers, so I could deal with them more efficiently.  That was very wise, and it was a good strategy. Really, the only thing wrong with it was that it wasn’t working.

It took me a while to realize that I wasn’t accomplishing anything. I was just shuffling papers around. I was beginning to get demoralized, discouraged, and stagnant. So I changed to strategy B. I put all the papers together back into the huge stack. I started on the first paper, did everything that needed doing, and filed it away, finished. Then I went to the next paper.

It might have indeed been more efficient to organize them first. If it had worked. But I wasn’t accomplishing anything.

 from Puryear’s principles of human behavior: When what we’re doing isn’t working, we try doing more of it. 

Tip O the Day: When plan A isn’t  working, shift to plan B.

doug

Bonus Tip O the Day:  If you are going to use something from a bottle, and you loosen the cap and then get distracted and start doing something else instead, and then come back and think it would be a good idea to shake up the bottle before you use the stuff, it’s a good idea to tighten the cap before you start the shaking.   Just saying.

Links: The Power of One

Stuck

Stucker

 

 

 

 

 

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” I Don’t Need Any Medicine!” — ADHD Tip O the Day 772

Learning More About My ADHD The Hard Way

Had a wonderful vacation.  Was amazed to find I didn’t need my Daytrana patch at all, did just fine without it.  Lying on the beach, eating and drinking, and even reading and taking notes.  And did I mention eating and drinking?

 No problem.

An Experiment

Decided when I got home to try going without it except for the days I work.  Maybe I didn’t really need it the other days.

Wrong!

I put on my patch and went back to work the first day back.  Everything went fine.  I was off the next day, no patch.  Lots of catching up to do.

Couldn’t get started, no traction, piddled around all day, minimal accomplishment, if any.

Couldn’t even think of the strategies I know how to use for these times, and it never occurred to me to just put on the patch later. 

A wasted day.

Bummer!

Strategy:

Wear the patch every day.  Makes a big difference.

Was the experiment a failure?  Not at all.  I found out that I need to wear the patch, except maybe not on vacation.  Maybe.

doug

 Bonus Links:

ADHD Medications?

Am I A Guinea Pig?

Piddling With ADHD

We Are All Similar and All Different

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Paperwork?

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One of my ADHD problems.

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Procrastination Flowchart

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How shall I spend my time?

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Medication, Science and ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 771

More new ADHD science

From Dr. Wilens and AudioDigest and others:

1. Research shows that the stimulants are not risky for the heart or stroke.  Nonetheless, I probably wouldn’t prescribe them for someone with heart trouble. Kids on stimulants may have a slowing of growth, with lower weight and height, but they eventually catch up.

2. Adding guanfacine, a blood pressure medicine that is calming and sometimes used alone for ADHD,  to a stimulant may sometimes be more helpful than either alone.

3.  Other research shows that the only alternative treatment supported by evidence is omega 3 fatty acid.  Not biofeedback, diet, etc. That doesn’t mean that no one will benefit from alternatives, but the odds are against it.  We are each unique.

4. 50% of children with ADHD will still have it in adulthood.  75 % of adolescents who have ADHD will still have it as adults. Of those who seem to recover, nearly 100% will still show brain abnormalities and have some mild symptoms as adults.

5. People who disbelieve or pooh pooh ADHD will rarely be impressed or influenced by facts. (Personal observation)

Tip O the Day: Don’t bother arguing with them.  Just laugh at them and walk off.

doug

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No one is more certain in their views than the one who has no idea what they’re talking about.

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Who, me?

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At any age.

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ADHD is Not –

Did I ever grow up?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Update: Five Scientific Finding About ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 770

From Dr. Wilens, Mass. General, by AudioDigest, on current ADHD research:

  1. Our ADHD brains are different.  When given a certain task, an extra area of our cortex lights up compared to vanillas.  This makes neural processing less efficient. Studies also found that some of our connecting tracts between brain areas are different in ADHD.  This is more evidence that ADHD is a real and specific condition.

2. In some people, stimulant medications will change these brain alterations to, or towards, normal. 

3. The less good outcomes of having ADHD include mortality, suicide or attempts, substance abuse, smoking, school problems, criminality, motor vehicle accidents, low self esteem, depression, anxiety disorders and conduct disorders, among many other undesirable outcomes.  

4. These outcomes are correlated with untreated ADHD versus treated.  The earlier medication is started and the longer used, the better the outcome.

5. Note that this a correlation and does not prove cause.  For example, maybe the kids that got medication earlier and stayed on it longer had better parents, which may have been the causal factor.  However, the correlation, along with the normalizing of the brain with meds, is highly suggestive of a causal relationship. 

doug

Footnote 1: There are no footnotes.  Use google.

Promise O the Day:  I will try to follow this up next time, with more about ADHD itself,  and both medications and alternative treatments for ADHD.

Tip O the Day: Notice how I said “I will try.” I learned long ago not to make promises.

Question O the Day: I am using medication. Will write more about this also. Are you using medication or not?

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With ADHD, we sometimes have occupational challenges.

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Or it might have to do with the way your brain works. Or doesn’t.

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Some ADHD children don’t outgrow it. Anyone come to mind?

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“I don’t believe in ADHD.”

 

 

 

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Back again with ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 769

 Does this really have anything to do with ADHD?

I’m back.  Sorta.  Swamped.  So here’s some of my favorite clips.  I’m hoping that you will:

1. watch them.

2. enjoy them.

3.  leave a comment on the question, “What do these have to do with ADHD?”  (or any other comments you wish.) I have some ideas about it, and think that at least some of them relate very closely to ADHD.  What do you think? 

pinky 

Street musician 

Whos on first 

The dentist

Two babies 

The elephant 

Tarzan

We don’t care

doug

Feeble excuse o the day:

Struggling to catch up.  Some tips are coming.  But not today.

doug

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ADHD and Relationships – A Followup— ADHD Tip O the Day 768

What are ADHDers like?  What is it like to live with ADHD? What is it like to live with someone with ADHD?

And why are relationships so difficult for ADHDers?  If you would like to understand, this article from Attitude nails it. 

I wish everyone in a ADHD relationship would read this:

The Link – Why is he (she) like that?

Strategy:

Read Orlov’s book The ADHD Effect on Marriage

doug

Quote O the Day:

“You can’t be married and be right.”

        unknown spouse

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Myths and What It’s Like to Live with ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 767

 

Some People Still Do Not Understand ADHD

There are climate change deniers, and flat earthers, and anti-vacine conspiracy theorists, and there are still many people who just do not understand ADHD.

It does no good to get mad at them.  You can’t convince those who are determined to remain ignorant, and you can’t teach a pig to sing, but we still try, don’t we?

doug

The Links:

Myths about ADHD by moshin banday

Eric Tiver’s podcast with Dr Russel Barkley on dealing with family

Quote O the Day:

“The only thing worse than being married is not being married.”

            from unknown veteran of marriage

Bonus Links:

Caring for Someone with ADHD

More on ADHD and Relationships

Repetitive Whine O the Day:

If I put enough pictures in, maybe some of them will come out right on facebook?

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ADHD and Relationships. Is it possible? — ADHD Tip O the Day 766

My long suffering wife  (very, very long) still gets annoyed sometimes when I do ADHD stuff.  For one example, of many, calling her to come help and then doing something to get ready while she’s standing there waiting.

I’m trying to enlist her help, as Melissa Orlov teaches, to figure out together ways to prevent these problems.

We have come up with one strategy – I’ll try to have everything ready before I call her.  But I’m afraid that may just be a strategy of “trying harder.” Which we all know doesn’t work.  We’ll see.

But we have backup strategy: if she’s waiting, I’ll explain to her what I’m doing.  That should help.

It would be great if I could just stop doing ADHD stuff, but we haven’t come up with a strategy for that yet.

doug

 

ADHD relationships by Jenna Knight

Melissa Orlov website

The ADHD Effect On Marriage by Melissa Orlov

 

Bonus note:  This post represents another strategy, locking in.  By publicly saying what I plan to do, I’m more likely to do it.

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A New Approach to My ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 765

Manila folders are God’s gift to people with ADHD,  and yellow stickies may be his bonus gift.

I have used my index card system successfully for many years, and have written and written about it.

Quote O the Day:

“Whenever we struggle and struggle with a problem, and finally find a solution, the next thing we do is stop doing it.”

                 Puryear’s second principle of human behavior

I recently realized I wasn’t using the cards correctly anymore.  I kept pulling out the red card – habit? easier to find? something about red?- and writing all kinds of stuff on it, including my to do’s.  But the red card is only for the list of five to do’s. 

I tried to correct this.  Didn’t work. Kept doing it.

So I made a rule: Cant write anything directly on the red card, need to put it on a yellow card first and then transfer it to the appropriate place.

Didn’t work, kept pulling out the red card and making a mess of it.

My other essential tool is the appointment book, always with me.  So now I keep a long yellow sticky in the inside front cover, and everything goes there first.  Keep the red card for the 5 to do’s.

It’s working, pretty well anyway.  The appointment book is even easier to pull out than the red card. If I keep at it, it will become a habit.

I believe that for every problem, there is a solution (pretty much).

doug

Bonus Link:

Mindful sent the perfect cartoon.  Perfect!

Laments O the Day:

  1.  I have tried to develop the habit of checking each link before I post.  So far, little progress.
  2. I have tried, and tried, and tried to figure out how to get the pictures to fit right in facebook.  So far, less than little progress.  As you can see.

Extraneous Comment O the Day: Of course, you aren’t using cards and appointment books, are you? You’re using smart phones.  Smart.  But then, you’re not as technologically challenged as I am.  So, would these concepts still apply for you somehow?

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Remedies for ADHD. Or Misinformation? — ADHD Tip O the Day 764

ADHD Remedies and Solutions to ADHD

I just found a post that’s an interesting follow up to the last two posts about treatment without medication. It’s an example of unsubstantiated claims and misrepresentations.

Guy almost says that he is curing ADHD, but maybe not quite.  “Remedies” ? And I was unaware that doctors were getting commissions from “Big Pharma.” Many spinnings and erroneous implications.

Only at the very bottom does he reveal that he is not “just” selling herbs.

But:

I like some of his points:  Herbals can also have side effects and need to be researched carefully.   Children should have a good evaluation and diagnosis before medication is considered.  Children need more exercise than most are getting and ADHD kids shouldn’t be made to “sit still.”  And ADHD has no simple explanation and no simple solution. (although is he offering one?)

The Link:

Check it out

Three natural remedies for ADHD

doug

Question O the Day: I wrote recently of a relative who seems to benefit from all the “naturals” he’s taking.  Have you seen significant benefits for your ADHD from diet or herbs?

 

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Mindfullness, Meditation, and ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 763

Non-medication treatments for ADHD – part two 2017

Mindfullness – means pause in what you are doing and take a nonjudgmental inventory of your thoughts, emotions, physical feelings and situation.  The key is nonjudgmental, just be aware, that’s all you do.  Takes maybe 30 seconds?  Can you do this three times a day?  You may need anchors.

Meditation– There are many forms, and it doesn’t come easy if you have ADHD.  But the easy way is doable.  This is the simplest form I’ve been able to find.

Sit, relax (oh, yeah.), focus your attention on your breath.  In and out.  How does it feel?  Your mind will of course wander all over the place, but gently bring it back your breath.  Pay attention to it again.  Over and over.  Non judgmentally practice this, don’t assess or score or grade yourself.  Just do what you can.

Can you do this for 5 minutes?  I have tried this for years, and can finally do it for 15 minutes.  That doesn’t mean I can focus on my breath for 15 minutes, it means I can do what I described above for 15 minutes. I discovered a strategy which made a big difference for me.  I set a timer for my 15 minutes, and then I’m not thinking so much about the time.  It has a limit on it.  Helps a lot.

Three breaths – Stop what you are doing and take three breaths.  I use an anchor – hearing a bell.  That’s all, just stop and take three breaths. You can do this pretty often, especially if you find a good anchor

Results –

I don’t do the mindfullness regularly, but hope to do more.  I find the other two practices to be remarkably helpful.  Meditation makes the whole day go better.  The three breaths clears the mind for a moment and reduces that constant sense of urgency.  (Do you know what I’m talking about?)

The Basics for ADHD –

I must again mention these: Get enough sleep.  Exercise.  Get out of doors. And don’t forget strategies.

Finally –

Of course, eating healthily can’t hurt, tho I’m not sure it actually helps the ADHD.  I do advocate everyone, ADHD or not, take a multivitamin with minerals  and 2 grams of omega 3 fatty acid (fish oil) a day.  I think the fatty acid does help a little with the ADHD.  And I do prayer before my meditation, and find that very helpful, too.

doug

The  Hedging Disclaimer of the Day-

The above are my opinions, but most of them are supported by scientific research – probably not the multi vitamin. I don’t usually give references, but you can google anything you want.

Links:

Mindfulness in ADHD

Meditation and ADHD

Prayer and ADHD    

Prayer and ADHD – part two

 

 

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Non Medication Treatment for ADHD — ADD Tip O the Day 762

How can you treat ADHD without medications?

(I will skip entirely the question, “Why in the world would you want to?”

For today, anyway.)

Some of us self medicate with caffeine.   Omega 3 fatty acids show some benefit.  Some people get some benefit from a very restrictive diet, most find its not worth the trouble.

There is some evidence supporting zinc, iron, vitamin C, magnesium – I suspect these may mostly be of some help when there is a deficiency

Other things that help improve ADHD symptoms:

Exercise, get out of doors, get adequate sleep, have a routine, get a coach.  Meditation with ADHD is almost an oxymoron, but doing just the little that you can will help, and you can improve at it with practice.

Medication, or alternative substances, or diets are not the answer to ADHD, they just can be of some help to some people.

doug

Links:

Extremely good and comprehensive treatise on ADHD and it’s treatment

Non medications approaches to ADHD

Quote O the Day (paraphrased):

‘ The purpose of the ADHD medication is to help you focus enough that you can use strategies.’

Dr. Goodwin  (I can’t find out which Dr. Goodwin, but he is an ADHD expert.)

One approach to non medical alternatives to ADHD:

Here’s what a relative takes at least once daily for his ADHD.  He swears that it helps a lot, and I have no reason to doubt him.  I don’t see obvious signs of ADHD in him and he is a highly effective person.

Question O the Day:

What other things do you find helpful?

 

Anticipation O the Day (including bonus strategy):

Planning to have more on this topic next time.  Hopefully. I have noticed that I don’t always do what I planned to.  I do pretty much do what I have promised to, though, because I have a good strategy for that – I never promise anything.

 

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Be Prepared, if you have ADHD, even if you’re not a Boy Scout — ADHD Tip O the Day 761

What could possibly go wrong, with ADHD?

I was recently honored to be a guest, one of many, on Jennifer Friedman’s podcast.  I must confess that I don’t listen to podcasts, don’t have the patience, probably missing out on a lot, but already have way too much demand on my time  and am not currently looking to add anything.

I was challenged to get things linked up to be part of the program.  But Jennie was a competent patient helper, and we did get connected.

But I had failed to check the sound set up.

My whole piece sounded like I was speaking from the bottom of a deep well.

When I listened to a previous podcast I had been on, I was horrified to hear that I had filled it with “ums”.  I thought I didn’t do that.  But this time I was careful, and don’t think I had any “ums.”

Then I couldn’t remember the right address for this blog, so the website address got into the podcast instead, which would’ve been OK, except when I checked the website, the link to the blog didn’t work.  I tried to fix it but couldn’t get the password right and now I’m locked out of the website for too many wrong password tries.

Oh, well.

After we finished, I’ve had a hard time finding the show on the net.  Somehow the link gets tied up with i tunes and I don’t get it.  But I found a button on the lower left that lets me hear the show, though I can’t see it.  That may be a blessing.

Do you think I may be technologically challenged?  Possibly?

My topic was on to-do lists, and how to use them effectively. Many people don’t like them, or say they don’t work, because they don’t know how to use them.

If you want to check out this podcast it has a lot of good people on it, and we each to give our favorite ADHD tips, so there is good stuff there.

The Podcast

Strategy: Check everything out in advance.

doug

Quote O the Day:

“When you are in a bad situation, it helps to realize that there are other people in the same boat.  But not much.”

             unknown wise source

Bonus Links:

Jennifer’s daily podcasts

Tom Nardone, our cohost on Jennifer’s show, his podcast- one show, I can’t make the link to his site work.  Maybe I am technologically challenged?

To do lists?

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ADHD and Self Esteem? A Plan for the New Year—ADHD Tip O the Day 760

Self-esteem is essential and precarious, especially with ADHD

Our self esteem suffers when we don’t complete something, and that demoralization makes it harder to start the next job.  When we do complete something, the boost in self-esteem helps us move on to the next task.

A bonus tip – when you finish something, stop for a moment to give yourself a pat on the back.  

But there is so much more to it; like everything else, it’s complicated.

Pete Quilly is a Canadian ADHD coach and expert, who helped me get started with this stuff. And I hope he won’t mind if I just copy something from his post without permission, since I am giving full credit to him.

Excerpt from Pete’s recent post:

“What things boost your self-esteem?

  • achievable goals
  • affirmations/positive self-talk
  • avoiding energy vampires
  • being helpful to others (boosts dopamine)
  • belonging to positive people and groups – that you resonate with – that do things you enjoy doing
  • breaking down a big project into smaller parts and getting it done
  • create something physical, making something with your hands
  • doing something creative, physically, artistically, emotionally, or intellectually creative ie, make a meal
  • exercise and meditation
  • faith
  • figure out a script with a problem you are having – start using it in front of the mirror
  • gratitude journal
  • groups that you resonate with, what you like
  • hang around people who appreciate you
  • help someone make something – use your strengths to help others
  • learn what gas lighting is and how to recognize and deal with it
  • learning a new skill
  • notice and celebrate your successes and get curious why –> how can i use that again?
  • recognize manipulation
  • rewarding yourself when deserved
  • short, doable routines
  • spend less time on web/social media
  • stepping outside your comfort zone
  • succeeding at a small goal
  • try something new or challenging
  • try, test, measure, evaluate and adapt

 

Pete Quilly’s post – several good lists

Bonus Links:

Criticism and self-esteem

New Years ADHD Note:

My biggest resolution is to not make any resolutions. Resolutions are just set ups for failure and demoralization.  The Strategy is to just do what you can do and give yourself credit for it.

Happy New Year

doug

 

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Five Disconcerting Facts, Relevant To But Not Limited To ADHD — ADD Tip O the Day 759

Disconcerting Facts:

1. Our decisions are made unconsciously, based on unconscious factors, mostly emotional.  After a decision is made, we think we “decide.”  Then we come up with “facts” to support our decision and make it appear to be rational.

2. Our memories, clear, strong and certain, are inaccurate. And every time we bring up a memory,  we change it from the time before. (Note:  this inaccuracy and certainty of memory can be the source of marital or other conflicts.  Not the only source, though.)

3. Natural substances, marketed for health purposes, are made under uncontrolled conditions, often do not contain what the label says, sometimes contain other substances also, some of which may be harmful, and, of course, these products are chemicals.    (Note: this may or may not disturb you, depending on your viewpoint about medicines.) 

5. Facebook and WordPress are not necessarily designed to enable you to post what you want, looking the way you want it to.  (Note: This is related to something called “formatting”, whatever that is.)

6.  Not everything you read on the internet is necessarily entirely true.  (Note:  We are now officially in the “Post Truth” era, related to “The Age of Ignorance.”)

 
A Small Comfort

It may, or may not, be of some comfort to you to realize that we with ADHD are not the only ones significantly screwed up. 

Strategy:

It will be useful to remain aware of these facts as you stumble through your daily life.

doug

Heads up Note O the Day:

I have decided that the next post will be more information about natural alternatives and medications for ADHD.  (If I remember.)

Bonus Links:

ADHD and Decisions

Avoid Decisions

Decision Fatigue

 

 

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It’s Christmas/Hanuka/Holiday Season -A challenge with ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 758

The Holidays are supposed to be Joyful

But with ADHD, they can be just extra challenging.

Did you procrastinate on getting the gifts or the cards?

Does the prospect of  making choices and decisions terrify you?

Are you having trouble using unscheduled free time?

Are the memories of previous holidays making you feel depressed?

Does the prospect of another ‘joyful gathering’ with your family fill you with dread?

Well, welcome to the group.  The holidays are stressful and distressing to many people, and probably more with ADHD.

Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to you.

doug

Strategy:

  1. Remember to use your basic ADHD strategies – sometimes we forget.
  2. Cut down – set smaller goals, do less.
  3. Remember that you do not Have To do anything you really don’t want to.  Think about it; you really don’t Have To.
  4. Be sure to watch the movie, Home for the Holidays. This is one of our annual traditions.

Very Appropriate Links:

An ADHD night before Christmas by Rick Green

Downsizing Christmas – from Beth

 

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Using ADHD Strategies On the Job  —  ADHD Tip O the Day 757

ADHD Strategies at Work

Probably everyone uses strategies for their work, but it’s more essential if we have ADHD.

I like my new job at the pen. I’ve needed to work out the strategies specific to this job.

I’m writing complicated orders that have to be written perfectly.  I also need to make sure each patient’s name and the date are correctly put on the order and on each progress note.

So I check each chart before I close it. Then, if I have time, I check each one again before I turn it in.

I also complete each chart before I see the next patient, so I don’t get behind and feel rushed, and so I don’t need to remember anything about that patient for later.

Some officers are fast in bringing the patients to me, so I have the patients wait while I finish the chart before I dismiss them. Then the new patients don’t arrive before I’m ready.  If the officers are slow, I dismiss the patient as soon as I can and finish the paperwork while I’m waiting for the next patient.

Usually, I get thru the day’s list of patients. But lots of things can go wrong at the pen. Some days I ‘m waiting a long time for the next patient to come, and sometimes they never do. My strategy to help me not lose patience, of which I have so very little, is a mantra, “I’m getting paid anyway.”   So why get frustrated?  It doesn’t help.  I use the time to prepare charts in advance, and when all those are done I study up on the medications.  And I can just reschedule the patients for next week.  Most of them aren’t going anywhere.

In a real pinch, I can go to the pods and talk  briefly with the patients in their cells.  That’s   unsatisfactory, but I can learn that some I  didn’t really need to see,   and others I do need to schedule for next  week.

I try to get thru the whole day’s list each  time, but sometimes it’s long and a  challenge.  I do some triage, although it seems unfair. For example, I’ll spend more time with a young guy who’s in for the first time, has some intelligence, and will be getting out soon.

 I’ll spend less time with an older guy who  has multiple diagnoses.   

Finally, I have another mantra, “I can only do what I can do.”

It’s taken me time to devise these strategies, and surely I’ll come up with others.  Many of them are specific applications of strategies  I’ve  already been using, like  “Set reasonable goals.”  and “Don’t get into a rush.”, and “Always  double check.”

The point of all this?  Can you identify any problems that come up in your work? Are you using strategies to cope with them?

Doug

Bonus Links:

Best jobs for people with ADHD

Other helpful mantras or slogans

ADHD at work– from Royce Flippin

 

 

 

 

 

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I Whipped My ADHD Procrastination -for the moment. —ADHD Tip O the Day 756

With my ADHD I wasn’t doing what I need to do.

On my to-do list, for a very long time, was “car and tires”.

I needed to get my car to the mechanic for an oil change, and to the tire store to get the tires rotated.  I knew it was necessary, that it could save me a lot of trouble later on, that it was the adult responsible thing to do.  

But I wasn’t doing it.

Well, first, the first step was to call and make the appointments.  Even I could see that.   But I wasn’t.  This stayed on my mind, hung over my head, was unpleasant and uncomfortable.

But I didn’t do it.

I think if there had been a deadline it would’ve helped, because that’s one of things that gets us with ADHD to move, but there wasn’t.  

And I didn’t.

Suddenly, I had an insight.  Have I mentioned the ADHD strategy of small steps before?  Well, I wasn’t using it.  

I didn’t need to get the car and the tires done.  I needed to get the car done.  And then I needed to get the tires done.  I needed to change my to-do list from “car and tires” to “car”,  “tires.”

As soon as I realized this, I called and made the car appointment.  After a few days of procrastinating, I called and made the tire appointment.

Strategies:

  1. Small steps
  2.  Practice what you preach

doug

Personal Question O the Day:

Do you ever find yourself procrastinating?

Bonus Links O the Day:

Good procrastination links

Some strategies for ADHD procrastination

Explanation O the Day:

My wife gave me the gift of the round tuit.    So I can’t say anymore, “When I get a round tuit.” Because  now I’ve got one.

 

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Why Do You Procrastinate, and What Can You Do About It, With Your ADHD? — ADHD Top O the Day 755

 

Procrastination, a major issue with ADHD

I’ve been putting this off, but now I’m going to offer a series on procrastination, and strategies to help you deal with it.

Why do we procrastinate?

  1. The task seems too daunting, it will take too much time and too much effort.
  2. The task seems too daunting, not sure I can actually do it or if I can do it well (perfectionism is a booger.)
  3. The task seems too daunting, I don’t have a clue about how to start it.
  4. The task seems too unpleasant, like anything involving paper work, for example..
  5. I feel like I’m being pushed to do it and I’m resisting.
  6. It may seem like a  linked task; you can’t do A until you’ve done B, which you can’t do until you’ve done C, which you can’t do until you’ve done A.

It may help if you understand why you’re procrastinating, but what you really need are strategies.  Those are coming.

doug

Bonus Links:

James Clear, with another excellent treatise, this one on procrastination

Am I avoiding or procrastinating?

 

 

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Some semi morbid thoughts somewhat related to ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 754

With ADHD, I really like to plan ahead.

Just  finished a funeral and reception. Pretty good as those things go, but funerals are always painful and sometimes can be awful.  This one was pretty good.

You all are invited to mine, but I don’t want anyone to feel obligated. Still, you need to know about it.  I have it pretty much planned, except I’m still struggling with the choice of music because I love so  many songs.  Anyway, you should know some things about it.

First, there will be no sermon or homily, just songs and scripture, mostly Psalms and Isiah.  It should be limited to  an hour although there are a lot of songs and scriptures I really like .  And I don’t want anyone talking about me.  Surely you could find some good things to say about me, but traditionally you would censor all the bad stuff.  And who cares, lets just skip it.  You can talk about me at the reception if you wish.

But the main thing is the reception, which will feature a genuine frozen margarita machine and a mariachi band.  And feel free to skip the service and come to the reception, although that would be a little crude and I’d hope you would enjoy the service with the music, but I don’t want you to feel obligated.  And there will be dress requirements for the service, no formal attire, and anyone who shows up with a tie will be excluded.  Blue jeans will be the basic uniform of the day.

I do ask that you limit yourself to three frozen margaritas.  Can’t figure a system to control that that you cant figure out how to get around, so it will be on the honor system.  I don’t want the party to turn ugly.

Anyway, I will be looking forward to it, and hope you will enjoy it.  And I plan to be watching.

Love,

doug

The Strategy:  Plan ahead, accept the inevitable, and make it good.

Future looking note:

Our church requests that we bring our funeral plans in, and I have been procrastinating on this.  Not sure why, but maybe partly because i want too many songs and verses and am having trouble choosing, not a strong point of ADHD anyway.  And I don’t want the service to be too long, while those frozen margaritas are calling to you. So, here’s the:

Alert O the Day: Next blog will be about procrastinating, if I can get around to it.

doug

 

Bonus Link, Another Alert:  

Christmas is coming this year again, right on December 25That’s about three weeks away, give or take.

Irrelevant note O the day:  Have I figured out how to stop facebook from cropping my fotos?  We’ll see.

 

 

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A whole bunch of stuff, including a valuable secret, related to ADHD— ADHD Tip O the Day 753

With ADHD, sometimes our brain gets clogged up.  And we seem to need to justify what we’re doing, like this post, for example. 

Some days my brain is crowded with lots of stuff, not all of it relevant but all clamoring to get out.  I get upset or preoccupied about the election, or guns, or the pain in my toe, or something. So one of the benefits of having a blog is having a place to put it and release some of the tension.

So here’s some of the other stuff on my mind today, just some of it.

Strategy:

If stuff is clogging up your mind, like you’re stuck in ruminating, discharge it by writing it down.  Works sometimes.

doug

Secret O the Day:

And now I’m going to share with you one of the secrets of life that I recently discovered.  It may not be The Secret Of Life, maybe not the best secret of life, but surely it’s in the top ten. Actually, in the top five.  Anyway, it’s very, very valuable.  And I am sharing it with you.  Here it is:

“It all unfolds.”

That’s it.  I wish I could explain it to you, but I can’t.  You’ll need to think about it.

“It all unfolds.”

Good luck.

Personal Revelation of the Day:

I have a black thumb.  I can’t grow anything.  Anything I plant, or try to nurture (0f the plant world) dies.  It just dies.

And I have black fingers.  Nothing technological will work right for me.  They see me coming, and they conspire to thwart and frustrate me.  Oh, well.

But I am getting better at the guitar.  This is very gratifying to me. Getting better, making progress.  Slowly.

Which is pretty remarkable, when you consider that I have no rhythm.  But one of my gifts is that I can remember songs, the melody and the words, lots of songs for long times.  Is that related to ADHD?  I don’t know but I doubt it.

But maybe it’s related to a specific area of the brain, maybe Wernicke’s area, or it’s analog on the right, or maybe not.  If you really want to pursue it further, here’s a link.

So maybe if one area of the brain, like the connections to the frontal lobe, is all screwed up, like in ADHD for example, then other areas might over develop.

Maybe it’s God’s way of trying to make up for the mess He made out of my frontal lobe connections?

Anyway, I’m grateful for it, and gratitude is a good thing, makes our lives better.  That’s another tip.

Bonus Link:

Life with ADHD

Question O the Day:

Are you grateful for this post?  I think it may be one of my best.  Or not?

 

 

 

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A Book Suggestion, Partly About ADHD, and How We Are Being Gamed — ADHD Tip O the Day 752

I wrote this blog on a plane on a little notebook flying to a funeral and it’s not my best but the best I could do and I wanted to get something in so here it is.  Not even any pictures.  Oh, well.

We are being gamed:

I’m reading Weapons of Math Destruction, by O’Neil.  I highly recommend it because it is so informative, about how we are being manipulated and controlled by algorithms,   computer programs we know nothing about.  It has chapters on college admissions, loans, prison sentences, and other areas of life, some of which probably apply to you. We are  being gamed.

It is very interesting,and well written, and yet I have trouble sticking with it.  It doesn’t  hold my attention for very long.  I think partly because it is somewhat repetitive.  One algorithm screws us in one  area and then another one in another area and then —.  But I’m doing ok reading it in chunks, even tho I can’t always even finish a chapter as a chunk.

Conspiracy Theories

The book provides support to conspiracy theorists, of which I think I may be becoming one.  And I think this program I’m using which puts spaces in strange places may be in conspiracy with facebook, which keeps cutting the tops, or sometimes the sides, off my pictures.

Strategies

So my strategy is to commit to finishing it, because it is valuable information, and  interesting in one sense, and to just keep reading chunks at a time til I’m done.  And try to read a whole chapter as each chunk, but not to worry about it if I can’t.

So this is about ADHD, and how it causes me problems in my life, and about strategies to  cope, but really it is a book recommendation.  I hope you’ll follow it and give some  comments for feedback.

 

doug

Michael Hyatt’s inspirational post just a little late for Thanksgiving Day

Tech challenged, includes some pictures anyway

 

Minimally significant comment o the day:

Well, guess what.  I didn’t have my computer to provide pictures  to put in  but then I realized I could copy one off another post.  So we are not  entirely pictureless anyway.

 

 

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Blessings of ADHD? — ADHD Tip O the Day 751

With our ADHD, we tend to be interested in many things.

This is one of the blessings of ADHD.

It is also one of the curses.

I am working a half time job, trying to keep up two blogs (and failing), working on a book, half working on another and have the 5th draft of another sitting on the back burner.  I am working on the guitar and Spanish.  I have been missing out on my quiet time and my exercise, two very important parts of my life.

I have written about this before.  Now I need to do something about it.

Vacation Time:

Note: One of Puryear’s Principles of human life – When we are stressed, the first thing we do is quit doing the things that help us deal with stress.

I am now on a three day vacation.  My goals, including spending time with my family and sampling various Tex Mex resturants, are to read two books, do at least two blog posts, read up on some medicines and their side effects, and write a handout on panic attacks.  I was also planning to download apps on my new notebook, but then I realized that it would cost me money because I would be roaming.

Do you think I can do this all in three days?  I don’t.  Plus, one of the apps that came preloaded is Freecell, so that’s another problem.

Overall:

I can’t- I don’t want to – continue like this.  I need to change it.  That means giving up some things.  But what?  I don’t want to give up anything.  Plus we ADHDers have trouble with setting priorities, which make it even tougher.

Plus I’m hoping that my loving wife doesn’t read this and decide to direct and remind and help me, which would only make it worse (hint, hint).

So OK, I have identified and acknowledged the problem.  Now it’s time to do something about it.

I’ll let you know.

doug

 

 

 

 

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Do the Hard Part First? — ADHD Tip O the Day 750

Life is complicated, especially with ADHD

One of my favorite  tools, a slogan or motto, is, “Do it now; do it right; and do the hard part first.”  This has been extremely useful for me, and I highly recommend it.

So I was shocked, shocked! when I read Michael Hyatt’s new post. I recognize Michael as someone who gives good advice and good information, and yet here he was, recommending, “Do the easy part first.” Oh, my!

So I read more than the headline, and tried to keep an open mind.  Yes, I did try.

It’s complicated.

If you are stagnated, stuck, and looking at a list of big tasks or projects, it could be a good idea to pick the easiest one first.  But then you break it down into small steps, and then, start with the hardest step first. Okay, if you’re still paralyzed, go to the easiest one. But, in general, always break things into small steps and start with the hardest part first.

The reason is, if you have ADHD, you are prone to procrastination. And, one of the reasons for procrastination is that the task seems too hard and overwhelming. But if you can do that first small step, the hardest one, and get it behind you, get it done, cross it off, then it will seem smooth sailing from then on.

The same principles  would apply to a list of tasks or projects. It can look overwhelming, and that can cause paralysis. But if you can complete the hardest one, life looks easy from then on, and you won’t feel pulled to procrastination.

So, sometimes start with the easiest, if you’re really stuck, but in general, “Do it now; do it right; and do the hard part first.”

That’s my tip.

doug

 

Michael Hyatt

Michael’s explanation

The hard part

Do it now

Whiny Question O the Day:

Can anyone tell me why facebook cuts off my pictures?  Is there a way to fix it?

 

 

 

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More Enthralling Adventures Living With ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 749

A short list to- do, but with ADHD, it’s still challenging

It looked like it was going to be a very good day. Only two things on my to-do list, go vote and go pick up a book at the library. Maybe it was just too easy.

When I got to the court house, without even getting lost, there were signs for early voting on the parking spaces, and there were empty spaces. Amazing! So I pulled into one. Then I noticed there wasn’t a sign in front of my space.  Did I have to feed the meter?  Unclear. But I didn’t have change on me, and digging into the junk box in my car was a daunting and possibly futile task. So I decided to take a chance.

Fortunately, the line for voting was very short, and I got in and out quickly. No ticket! Could’ve ruined my whole day. Still, I was nervous the whole time I was voting.

Off to the library

Didn’t get lost.

Lucky again. Plenty of parking spaces. Locked the car door, walked up to the library, saw the parking tag box, realized I had to pay for a parking tag. Twenty five cents.  A quarter.

Walked back to the car. Unlocked car door. Wound up digging into the junk box after all. Found a quarter. Yea!

Walked back to the tag box, put in my quarter. It worked!

Walked back to the car. Put tag in the window. Locked the car door.

Walked back to the library. They had the book. I had my card. Got the book. Wonder of wonders.

Walked back to the car. Unlocked the car door.  Drove home. Didn’t get lost.

Another ADHD adventure. And so it goes.

Have a good day.

doug

Strategy O the Day:

Remember to plan for everything you do to take twice as long as it should.

Mystery O the Day

I wonder if anyone will really understand this story if they don’t have ADHD?

Information tidbit O the Day:

Swamped, I mean swamped. Of course, a lot is that I do blame on ADHD. My goal is to keep up two posts a week, but honestly, I’ll be doing well to get one a week for a while.

Bonus links:

More ADHD adventures

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Oh, really?

A typical ADHD day

A talk on the ADHD brain – it is different

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Back Again and Still Tech Challenged — ADHD Tip O the Day 748

Have been on an assignment and no internet.  Survived without it, but no blogs.

I was moved by those who expressed concern, for my health or sanity.  thank you

The job had many good points, but the electronic record system, Med Tech, has been a killer.  Steep learning curve.  Just as I think I’m getting it, it thinks up another curve to throw at me.  Thought it was me, but hear complaints from others, and the last two nasty tricks it played took the IT folks who have been baby sitting me hours to figure out.

ARGHHHHH!!!

But now I’m in a nice motel room.

Cannot get the coffee maker to work!

ARGHHHHHH!!!!

Does anyone else have experience with these electronic systems?

Would appreciate comments, but just remember this is a family blog and might be read by children.

doug

Bonus Links:

From Laurie on ADHD in women (they’re different)

From Jerry, there are some good things about tech

Strategies:

  1. curse
  2. call IT again
  3. curse

Question O the Day

Why does facebook insist on messing up my pictures?

Bonus slightly obscene question O the Day

Does a stopped up motel toilet count as technology?

 

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Habits using anchoring, by Jerry Bair — ADHD Tip O the Day 747

jerry bair on what I call anchoring for habits

“To make a new habit part of that automatic mind, all we really need to do is associate the new habit with one that’s already automatic. Some also call this anchoring.
This is what it may look like in practice…
  • After I wake up, I will brush my teeth.
  • After I workout, I will eat a healthy breakfast.
  • After I make my morning coffee, I will plan my to-do list for the day.
  • During my commute, I will listen to motivational audio to get in the right mindset.
Of course, none of this really works if you don’t honestly want the new habit…
Let me know if this works for you, and in the meantime…

 

From doug:
Anchoring is a powerful tool for ADHD.  You can use anything that’s repetitive as an anchor – hearing a bell, hanging up the phone, going to the bathroom, waiting at a stop light, etc etc.  Your choice of the anchor largely depends on how often you want to do the action you’re working on.

 

We want to make habits.  Then we don’t need to remember, make decisions, or rely on willpower, none of which we are very good at.

 

doug

 

Lame Quip O the Day:
I hope this post takes off!

 

Bonus Links:

 

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Busy, Too Busy, Way Too Busy, Life with ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 746

I am way too busy – is it life, or me, or ADHD?

I know that “busy” is only a state of mind and not a reality.  I truely believe this, although I have found it difficult to sell the concept to other people who find themselves “busy.”  The fact is we can only do one thing at a time (in general)  and that one thing is the only thing we need to do right now.. When it is done, then we will have another one thing to do. 

But there are many factors causing us to feel that or to believe that we are busy, and these factors interrelate and reinforce each other.

With ADHD we have trouble setting priorities.  We have many interests and we want to do everything, so we have an impossibly long to-do list, which we probably don’t know how to use (the rule of five.)  We have trouble completing things, so there are unfinished tasks hanging over our heads.

Life can be hard, but with strategies to address these things, our lives can be better.  But I still feel busy today.

doug

Links:

Demonstration

ADHD Strategies for Prioritizing from Doug

How to prioritize – from Margarita

Decide what’s important – from Dana

Keep priorities straight

 

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Things Maybe You Don’t Know About Having ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 745

What is it like to have ADHD?

Frustrated, distracted, looking for things, dealing with people I’ve offended or annoyed, very concerned about time, enjoying things that are a waste of time, forgetting things, making mistakes, irritated with others and with myself, impatient, jiggling, trying to get traction to start doing something at least, look there’s a squirrel –

Oh, Ok, I could go on, and on, and on, but –

Anyway – I like being interested in so many things even tho it’s a handicap, and being creative, and hyperfocus can be great depending on what it’s on.

Don’t we all wish that people would understand us?

doug

Links:

12 Things You Don’t Know About Me and My ADHD     from Attitude

ADHD Irritable

Question O the Day:  Anything you would like to add to the above lists?

Second Question O the Day: Why does facebook cut off part of some of my pictures so that they don’t make any sense?

 

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Bad Attitude with ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 744

The Attitude

I don’t know why I’m rather gloomy today, although to be honest, I do have an idea. But I don’t intend to stay this way and I plan to change it, right after I finish this post.

In the meantime:

“If something can go wrong, it will.”    – Murphy

Puryear’s addendum: – especially if you have ADHD.

 

“It all unfolds.”     -Puryear

 

“Anything can happen to anyone at any time.”     -Puryear

Puryear’s addendum: That, of course, is one of the reasons to eat desert first.

 

“The Moving Finger writes; and, having writ,
Moves on: nor all thy Piety nor Wit
Shall lure it back to cancel half a Line,
Nor all thy Tears wash out a Word of it.” Omar Khayyám

 

“You can’t win, you can’t break even, and you can’t get out of the game.”                          -Ginsberg’s theorem      (“It is possible that the quote originates as a slight misstatement of the opening lines of “You Can’t Win,” by Charlie Smalls”)

 

” We are well and truly screwed.”    – Unknown realist

 

But have a nice day.      🙂

doug 
Note O the Day: I have done the research, and Charlie Smalls got screwed. 

Note O the Day #2: Actually, “It all unfolds” is quite optimistic and one of my current mottoes.  I recommend it.  You can change your attitude.

Bonus Links:

Attitude and ADHD

Some days are just like that with ADHD

 

 

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ADHD and Attitude Adjustment — ADHD Tip O the Day 743

ADHD – Frustrated, Irritable, and Discouraged

I get easily frustrated, often over little things, and I’m irritable, which is a symptom of ADHD, and sometimes I get discouraged, tho not often.  But I have a strategy.

The Strategy

I’ve developed the habit of saying “Thank you.”  Occasionally, I will list all the things I have to be thankful for (unlike some more positive thinkers, I do not include ADHD in this list.)  It’s quite a long list.  I am generally thanking God, but you can do this non-spiritually if you prefer. 

After reciting the list a number of times, a new habit is formed. It’s  stimulus response – now, when I just say “Thank you,” I get the feeling of gratitude and peace that comes with going through the list, without needing to go through the list.  “Thank you” is the stimulus, and the improved state of mind is the conditioned response.

If you  are reading this, you at the least are literate, relatively intact, and have access to the internet.   You are more fortunate than what? – 85% of the human population of the world?

Let us say, “Thank you.”

doug

Bonus Links

12 Things You Don’t Know About Me and My ADHD

ADHD and Irritable

ADHD and Irritable, number two

 

Illustrative Comment O the Day

Now, why did the $%^&^&%$ pictures wind up at the top of the  $&**&*^%$ post?

Idle Question O the Day

Do you know anybody like Tom?

 

 

 

 

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Caring for Someone With ADHD (ambiguous title). Affection or caretaking?— ADHD Tip O the Day 742

Life Is Hard

Life is hard.  Life with ADHD is harder.  Marriage is hard.  Marriage with ADHD is harder.  Being married to someone with ADHD is harder than I can even imagine.

There are strategies that will make our life with ADHD better.

There are strategies that will make living with someone with ADHD better.

Still, it does require the patience of a saint.

doug

When You Care

Tell me what to do?

Bonus Links:

Relationships and ADHD?

Experts on Relationships and ADHD

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Stimulants and ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 741

Stimulants for ADHD

One of the common misconceptions and falsehoods posted on the net are that the stimulants are the same as street drugs.  Not so.

amphetamines vs methamphetamine

Also, I believe that research shows:

  1. Stimulants are rarely abused by people who actually have ADHD.
  2. Stimulants do not give students an unfair advantage.  They do not improve performance in non ADHD  people.
  3. None the less, there is a high rate of stimulant mis use in colleges.  (It just doesn’t help.)
  4. Treatment of ADHD with stimulants does not lead to drug abuse, and some research shows that treatment actually reduces drug abuse.
  5. There is lot of garbage and nonsense on the internet.

doug

Links:

About stimulants

Stimulant abuse

Misrepresentations about ADHD

 

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Do a To- Do List or Don’t Do a To-Do List? — ADHD Tip O the Day 740

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Where’s my ADD ADHD to-do list?

Life with ADHD is a booger, especially without a to-do list.

Your to-do list isn’t guaranteed to make you happy, but if you have ADHD and don’t have a to-do list you’re pretty guaranteed to be unhappy.

Although a to- do list is essential, it’s not very helpful if you don’t know how to use it.

The main key is Five- you can have a long to-do list with a thousand things on it, but your serious working to do- list needs to be limited to five items. Otherwise, you will tend to feel overwhelmed and find it hard to know where to start.  So you won’t.

There are many other tips for making the to-do list actually work for you.  Maybe more later.  I’ll put it on my list.

Homey writes about her to– do list constantly changing during the day as different things come up.

Aint life like that?

doug

Homeys post on the ever evolving to-do list

Just Received:

Simone Biles, US Oympic hero, has ADHD.  Yea for Simone!

Bonus Links:

Some of the Tips

The Card System

Lists Don’t Work for Me – More on the Tips

Anti To- Do List

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Is Your ADHD Brain Mature?— ADD Tip O the Day 739

Delayed maturation, or erroneous maturation as basis for ADHD?

Like everyone else, I have my fixed ideas and opinions, and like most of us ADHDers, I have definite opinions about ADHD.

 Some researchers suggest that ADHD is a delayed maturation of the brain, especially in the executive functions. (See the link below.) That might help explain why about half of the kids seem to outgrow it. But further research shows that even in those people the brain networks remain “abnormal.”

Some people would prefer the term, “different,” rather than “abnormal,” but in my opinion, if the difference occurs in less than 8% of the population and causes significant difficulties  in functioning, it is “abnormal.”   But I digress.

If it is simply a slowness of maturation, then our brain should eventually catch up and we should no longer have ADHD. And 50% of us “outgrow” it. I think for some of us, our brains have matured and we have learned coping skills and  better self-control (over impulsiveness, procrastination, jiggling, etc.) and ADHD seems to have vanished, except in research studies. ( I am not in that 50%.)

Miswiring?

I believe the basis for ADHD is miswiring of the neural networks between the posterior and more primitive parts of the brain and the frontal lobes.  This leads to difficulty  in controlling focus  and  in controlling impulses.  And so we have the symptoms of ADHD, and we need strategies .

doug

Request O the Day:

I would love to get your opinions on this,  especially from our more scientific readers.

Question O the Day:

Did anyone get the joke on the next to last post  or did it fly right over your heads?

 

Maturation and the ADD ADHD brain

The next to last post, containing the joke

Explanation of the joke, in case you still didn’t get it. Oh well, never mind.

 

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Summer’s Over – For ADHD Students and Parents — ADHD Tip O the Day 738

With ADHD,  school can be a booger.

Actually, school was very easy for me – that is, the academic part.  Socially and behaviorally, not so much.  But the work was very easy, until I hit college.  It was like hitting a brick wall.  I didn’t know how to study, and I didn’t know that I didn’t know how to study.  So I just tried harder.  You know how well that works with ADHD.

I did not do well in college.  An understatement.

How to Study and Learn, Even with ADHD

I learned how to study in my second year of medical school.  It was a life changing revelation.  I did well in medical school, from then on.   These days, I think most schools teach kids how to study early on.  I hope so.

I go into what I learned about how to study in depth in the book.  These days, I think most schools teach kids how to study early on.  I hope so.

doug

What every student with ADHD should know    Welcome back to school!

 

What every student with ADHD should know    Welcome back to school!

Bonus Links

Studying and ADHD    The First of  a Series

Helping Concentration

Note On Podcast

I just did a podcast with Jennie Friedman, ADHD coach.  Check it out.

Thank you, Jennie.

 

 

 

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