Urgency!
1. I did the hard work – reviewed the records, made notes, and then dictated the report and edited it. It’s ready to go, except there’s two documents I’m missing. I don’t think they’ll make any difference, but I don’t have them.
Still, even though there’s no deadline, I’m fighting the urge to submit the report, the incomplete report, right now.
2. I’m working pretty hard on the book, plugging away, making progress, but still feel this pressure to hurry up and get it done. Why? There’s no deadline. Nobody is going to get this published ahead of me. What’s the hurry?
Questions:
Do I just want to get things done, so I can cross them off and they’re not hanging over my head?
Do I want the reward, the satisfaction of completing something?
Am I simply impatient?
Is this the opposite of procrastination??????
Your ideas?
doug
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Relax! Slow and easy.
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Or is it perfectionism? The choices are vast for what it is. Can you just sit with the thing? Then you can let your subconscious do the heavy lifting. Or not.
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newnoz
i like your approach, although I’m not good at just sitting or letting things sit.
thank you for commenting
best wishes
doug
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When working solo, it is more difficult to set realistic expectations, so as an antidote to the fear of inertia one gets very demanding of oneself. One needs an outsider, a friend
, an editor, or just someone to talk to. Unless one is actually writing a similar book, it is hard to set realistic expectations. If one is making some headway regularly, i.e. Daily or every other day, maybe that is as much as one can expect. One is often ones best critic. On some days, just “piddling” will suffice because the breathing time may be the recharge that gets things done. I fail to see how lacerating oneself is a benefit.
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marina-I certainly agree on the lack of benefit of self lacerating, it just demoralizes and makes everything worse.
Maybe I can find an editor to help me as I go instead of waiting for the end, good suggestion.
Thank you for commenting. keep em coming
Doug
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Sometimes I want to submit a project when I still have time to work on it so I won’t forget to submit the info. If I have too many projects underway, I can forget to push the Send button.
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Gail
oh my, too many projects underway. Boy, that’s it.
As always, thank you for commenting.
Best wishes,
Doug
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If it’s not done and submitted, it’s hanging over your head. It’s still on your to-do list and thus in your mind. When I have something like that, the only way I can get it out of my head is to break it down into smaller steps and write those steps down. Then, even though I’m not finished, I only have to focus on one step at a time and it doesn’t feel like it’s hanging over my head.
But that’s just me. It could also be fear you’ll forget it or get distracted and not finish or even forget to turn it in. But once it’s turned in, you can let it go. It’s kind of like while it’s in process you’re holding your breath but once you submit it, you can breath again. Does that make sense?
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