Have to, need to, want to – can you tell the difference? That can be difficult if we have ADD or ADHD, but its important.
Have to- in reality, there is very little that we “have to” do. If the robber says to hand over your wallet or he will shoot you, you have a choice. You don’t have to hand it over, although that is probably the wisest choice. You don’t have to pay your taxes, lots of people don’t, although I think it is wiser and more honest and responsible to pay them. Actually the only things we really have to do is to breathe and to die. Everything else is a choice.
“Have to” is a bad choice of language in our self talk because for most of us it automatically and immediately brings up resistance. It turns a task into an externally imposed unpleasant chore, just as soon as we think “have to”. I recommend turning it into “need to”, “it is in my best interest to”, or even “I want to”.
“Have to” does not make it easier to get started on something, it makes it harder. “Important” does not turn on our focus center.
I recommend you give some thought to this; it might be good for you, but- you don’t have to .