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“That won’t work for me.” —- ADD Tip o the Day 306

Sometimes I hear that when I suggest a strategy for ADD or ADHD – “That won’t work for me.”  Seems like four possibilities: 1.  they’ve never tried it. 2. they tried it, but not in an effective way. 3. if … Continue reading

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Notes — ADD Tip o the Day 286

With ADD or ADHD taking notes is essential, like making lists.  But we need strategies even for that. For notes to be useful, they need to be legible, understandable, and locatable. 1. I use the index cards that are always … Continue reading

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Criticism — ADD Tip o the day 126

When we are criticized we usually take one of two approaches, either assess the information and see how we might benefit from it, or else, attack the source. The book has been blessed by many reviewers.  Two reviewers did not … Continue reading

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Clumsy?— ADD Tip o the Day 121

We were enjoying a nice lunch, when I reached for the butter. I was very aware of the danger of knocking over the wine, so I was very careful how I reached.  So I knocked over the water.   At … Continue reading

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strategies — ADD Tip o the day 118

The book is about strategies for coping with ADD or ADHD, to make our lives better. Those without ADD or ADHD don’t understand what it’s like living this way, but those living with us do know what it’s like living … Continue reading

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Balance — ADD TIp of the day 113

One of the measures of mental health is balance, not too much of this or of that.  We who try to cope with ADD or ADHD have trouble with this.  We have to set aside what we would like to … Continue reading

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Expectations — ADD Tip o the day 108

I have a lot of things I think I will get done today. I will not.  Writing them all down is a good idea; then I need to make a shorter list, five or less.  Then I need to pick … Continue reading

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Perception —– ADD Tip o the day 83

Perception, attitude, self talk – they all run together.  The new agers say that we create our own reality, reality is in the eye of the beholder.   It’s early morning; I can say I have a hard day ahead … Continue reading

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Advantages part 2 — ADD Tip o the day 79

One of the advantages of having  ADD is that we tend to be good in a crisis.  Probably it is because a crisis does turn on our focus center and we can hyper-focus.  I have found this in my own … Continue reading

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Stuck again again —-ADD Tip o the day 69

When we are paralyzed, because of the big thing we are procrastinating on, then step two is to break the big thing into the smallest possible steps.  Then do one.  Ideally, do the hardest one first, but it doesn’t have … Continue reading

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enjoy the good! —-ADD Tip o the day 62

Life can be hard sometimes, for anyone, but especially if we are coping with ADD or ADHD. We manage life by really enjoying the good times; that makes it even out better.  But our ADD, either the symptoms or the … Continue reading

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Many sites ——– ADD Tip o the day 54

You may be amazed to learn that this is not the only ADD site on the net.  It is not even the only good one.  There are many sites on ADD and ADHD, on strategies, tools, coping , managing, thriving, suceeding and so … Continue reading

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Self talk part 2 ——— ADD Tip o the day 53

Every one does self talk.  If we have ADD, it tends to be negative self talk.                         We can call it “the old tapes”.                                                                                               Sometimes we actually hear the parental  voice.                                                 This negativity is destructive.                                              We may be able to stop it, … Continue reading

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Slow down, refocus —— ADD tip o the day 52

  A copy of a small blue book, The Quiet Mind, sits in the book shelf in my office, where I see it every time I go in or out of the door.  The going in or out becomes the anchor that … Continue reading

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Slogans ——- Tip o the day 50

I have a lot of slogans that help me. I can just say them thru the day, or when the appropriate situation arises: Do it now, do it right, do the hard part first. You can only do what you … Continue reading

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It’s not stupid! —– Tip o the day 45

A lot of us with ADD call ourself “stupid” when we mess up.  Or we may say “That was stupid!” No, it wasn’t stupid.  And we’re not stupid, it’s ADD.  Those of us who had a lot of trouble in … Continue reading

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irritable ——– ADD Tip o the day 43

I am very irritable.  I get easily annoyed, often over small things, often over things that really aren’t even annoying.  I thought it was just me, one of my character flaws. I looked up ‘ADD-irritable’ on the net and got … Continue reading

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technology-whine? —- ADHD Tip o the day 42

I have read that many of us with ADD are technologically astute. Not me – technologically challenged. I’m not getting many hits on this blog but I think some people are reading it on facebook. I hope so. I get … Continue reading

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Goals ——— Tip o the day 36

I’ve written my goals for 2011.  I don’t make resolutions, because I never keep them. Some goals I reach, some I don’t, but I do work on all of them. I also review them occasionally to remind myself and to … Continue reading

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Diagnosis: part 3 -the last part—Tip o the day 35

So, if your’re not sure if you have ADD or not, you can look at all the symptoms I’ve talked about.  You can take some of the free tests on the net.  Then you can see a psychiatrist or a … Continue reading

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Diagnosis Part 2 —-Tip o the day 32

    procrastination, losing things, forgetting things, arriving late, saying and doing things impulsively and  inappropriately, failing responsibilities and breaking promises.                  lacking patience, can’t finish things, things don’t turn out  right.                                         feeling pressured, rushed, frantic, overwhelmed, disorganized.  sometimes demoralized. Well, doesn’t everyone … Continue reading

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Diagnosis? — Tip o the day 31

Many of us who have ADD are not aware of it.  We may think that’s just the way life is; we may think that everyone lives that way, although if we just look around us we can see that’s not … Continue reading

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addictions —- tip o the day 30

We with ADD are prone to addictions.  I think there are two types, chemical and activity. I have been addicted to coffee, in large amounts.  I changed to decaf. I have been addicted to computer games.  I finally had to … Continue reading

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Shame tip o the day 28

Shame becomes an integral part of our ADD.  It is deep within us and starts deep in our childhood, when we could not meet the expectations of our parents, then our teachers, then others and ultimately ourselves.  Missing appointments, forgetting … Continue reading

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stuck Tip o the day 25

What is the difference between inertia, procrastination, and avoiding? To me, inertia is when I can’t get going on anything.  Usually it is because I am feeling overwhelmed, too many things to do, what I need to do seems too hard, or … Continue reading

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Comment- the hard part Tip of the day 24

Got an excellent comment from E. T. G. about starting: Most interesting.  I can relate to just about everything you wrote.  Doing the hard part first is not always  possible.  Take altering a garment, for example. ( sometimes I   put this off)  … Continue reading

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reframing Tip o the day 23

“Reframing” means to change the way I perceive or label something. That is related to “self talk”, the things I say to myself in my head. I can say I have too much work to do today, or I can … Continue reading

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Perception Tip o the day 20

Perception, atttitude, reframing, self talk ‘We create our own reality.’     New Age dictum If I say “I have too much to do today.” then I have too much to do. If I say, “I have a lot to do today.” … Continue reading

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Finishing — Tip o the Day 19

Big problem.  We start full of vinegar and enthusiasm. We get near the end and we stall, out of steam. The novelty has worn off, we have mastered it and the challenge is gone.  Maybe there is no heavy immediate … Continue reading

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Avoiding Tip o the day18

What is the difference between avoiding and procrastinating? It may be  subtle, but for me, procrastinating is putting off starting something that I will eventually need to do, while avoiding is avoiding something that I may never get around to. … Continue reading

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The Book and The List Tip o the day 17

All of the ADD books suggest that you start with an appointment book and a to do list. I think that is good advice. But they are useless if you don’t know how to use them. I have trained myself … Continue reading

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Will power? Tip o the day 16

I don’t have much willpower. That’s one of the reasons that I need strategies. But I think another is that willpower, even if I had it, is not a very effective way to improve focus, concentration, attention.    (Couldn’t hurt though.) … Continue reading

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The Slogan Tip o the day 15

Let’s put them together now. This is my best slogan. I have trained myself so that I think of it whenever I am deciding what to do next. Do it now, Do it right, Do the hard part first. This gets … Continue reading

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Do It Right Tip o the day 14

Because I have ADD, my experience leads me to believe that nothing I do will turn out right. So I don’t want to put too much time or effort into it. So I rush through it sloppily and do it half … Continue reading

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Goals tip o the day 13

yesterday I sat down and wrote down my goals I find it useful to do this every few months. now comes the hard part I need to look at each goal and ask myself If I was really serious about … Continue reading

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keys tip o the day 12

a patient called today to cancel her appointment. she had locked herself out of the house her purse and keys and cell phone were locked inside guess she was calling from the neighbors. I think everybody does this, and everybody … Continue reading

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ADD & more frustration -tip o the day 10

spent the morning trying to get the blog verified wasnt working finally I found the “save changes” button on the bottom of the page below the window i was looking at. hadn’t been saving them. new rule: always look at … Continue reading

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add & frustrations Tip o the day 9

i get frustrated a lot.   and easily. those frustrations add up. but some of them I can do something about. losing the keys.  can’t find the other sock.  recognizing the right address stamper. the first step is recognizing that … Continue reading

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tip o the day

focus on one thing. put everything else on your list and then put your list aside. this prevents feeling overwhelmed. doug

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