Tag Archives: help

ADHD Key Points — ADHD Tip O the Day 1000

Just a few of the key ADHD points.  There are so many, so many ways to make our lives better, so that we are managing our ADHD and it’s not in control.Sadly, this is my last post. I want to … Continue reading

Posted in add, ADD problems or symptoms, ADD strategies, adhd, adhd controversies, ADHD problems, adhd science, ADHD strategies, adhd studies, controversies, controversy, controversy, controversy, diagnosis, educate yourself, educate yourself, medication, medication, medicine, medicine, research, science, stimulants, strategies, tips | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 12 Comments

Decrease the Pressure – ADHD Tip O the Day 999

​With my ADHD, I tend to feel pressured all the time.  I don’t like that. I work to avoid that feeling. 1. Limit your to-do list to five items. 2. Cut everything into small steps. 3. Spread your tasks out. … Continue reading

Posted in add, ADD problems or symptoms, ADD strategies, adhd, adhd and marriage, adhd and relationships, ADHD problems | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 10 Comments

More ADHD Research and Etc.— ADHD Tip O the Day 998

On ADHD and relationships, medications, comorbidity, statistics, and etc.:  My wife said I should post about the most recent disaster, but no, I’m not going to describe the incident where I merely sat down on the sofa next to the … Continue reading

Posted in add, ADD problems or symptoms, adhd, adhd and marriage, adhd and relationships, ADHD problems | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Combinations and ADHD Symptoms — ADHD Tip O the Day 997

I’ve been “putting off” doing this post for years now because it’s confusing to me.  But it’s time, now or never. Ever wonder why we ADHDers look so much alike?-Procrastination, distraction, impulsive, etc, but also we can look so different. … Continue reading

Posted in add, ADD problems or symptoms, adhd, ADHD problems, adhd science, adhd studies, diagnosis, dysfunctions, procrastination, research, science | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 6 Comments

Taking It Easy? — ADHD Tip O the Day 996

An ADHD Strategy: When you need to get something done but can’t dig up the energy, see if you can find an easy way out. Here’s a bunch of quotes for today. “Your first step is just that: the first … Continue reading

Posted in add, ADD problems or symptoms, ADD strategies, adhd, adhd and marriage, adhd and relationships, ADHD problems, ADHD strategies, marriage, relationships, tips | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

Pain and ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 995

We ADHDers tend to be hypersensitive. For example, to certain noises, to feelings of rejection, etc. So it makes sense that we might be hypersensitive to pain. I just wasn’t aware of this before. But I have had struggles with … Continue reading

Posted in add, ADD problems or symptoms, ADD strategies, adhd, ADHD problems, medication, medication, medicine, medicine, strategies | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 8 Comments

Marriage/relationships and ADHD follow up — ADHD Tip O the Day 994

Relationships are very complicated, especially if someone has ADHD I love pens. I have a lot of pens. My wife says I hoard pens. She says I should go through all of my pens and throw away the ones that … Continue reading

Posted in add, adhd, adhd and marriage, adhd and relationships, clutter, relationships | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

New Year’s Resolutions — ADHD Tip O the Day 993

Belated Happy New Year to each of you (happy in spite of our ADHD). I don’t like making resolutions; they just set me up for disappointment and shame. But this year I made some: Lose weight (right, sure) and this … Continue reading

Posted in add, ADD problems or symptoms, ADD strategies, adhd, strategies | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 5 Comments

An Important ADHD Strategy — ADHD Tip O the Day 992

  Small steps explained ( I don’t think the recent review was adequate) We have A Project to do. We feel overwhelmed, not up to it, defeated before we start, and we procrastinate. The strategy is Small Steps.  Break the … Continue reading

Posted in add, ADD problems or symptoms, ADD strategies, adhd, ADHD problems, procrastination | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

Three Most Important ADHD Principles —ADHD Tip O the Day 991

New Year: time for a brief review Three most important ADHD Principles: Identify a Problem, devise a strategy, make it a habit.   2. Small steps.   3. Do it now, do it right, do the hard part first. (After … Continue reading

Posted in add, ADD problems or symptoms, ADD strategies, adhd, ADHD problems, ADHD strategies, dysfunctions | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 8 Comments

Constructive Arguing— ADHD Tip O Day 990

Constructive Arguing: Arguments are a normal and unavoidable part of almost all marriages (intimate relationships).  The trick is to make them productive instead of destructive, and to have them not too often nor too intensively, and to get over them … Continue reading

Posted in adhd, adhd and marriage, adhd and relationships, marriage, relationships | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

Marriage- Part Three — ADHD Tip O the Day 988

With ADHD , everything is much harder, especially relationships. We disappoint, forget, let down. We get preoccupied, don’t finish, don’t get started.  We blurt out, do and say socially inappropriate things.  We run into things, knock things over, drop things. … Continue reading

Posted in add, adhd, adhd and marriage, adhd and relationships, marriage | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 7 Comments

Adult ADHD Revisited — ADHD Tip O the Day 987

A break from the relationship posts, but more to come. The Am. Psychiatric Assoc. is revising the DSM V, including the criteria for diagnosing ADHD.  Many changes are recommended.  The current criteria were written for children and tweaked to apply … Continue reading

Posted in add, ADD problems or symptoms, adhd, ADHD problems, adhd studies, diagnosis, dysfunctions, research, science | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 5 Comments

Marriage/Relationships? Part Two— ADHD Tip O the Day 986

Marriage part two Throughout this series, I use “marriage” “to stand for “marriage and/or relationships.” I understand that marriage is becoming increasingly rare. ADHD and marriage:  Marriage is hard.  With ADHD it’s much harder, especially for the non ADHD partner.  … Continue reading

Posted in add, ADD strategies, adhd, adhd and marriage, marriage, strategies | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 8 Comments

Marriage and Other Strange Relationships, Part 1 — ADHD Tip O the Day 985

Relationships are so complicated, even without ADHD, that this will take two or more posts.  And with ADHD – Whew!! We marry with expectations of what our marriage will be like.  Generally, we expect our marriage to either be like … Continue reading

Posted in ADD problems or symptoms, ADD strategies, adhd, adhd and marriage, ADHD problems | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 6 Comments

How to Be Happy — ADHD Tip O the Day 983

It can be hard to be happy, especially these days, and harder with ADHD.  But- Affirmations:  Every morning, state, “I choose to be happy today.” Learn  to cope with your ADHD. Minimize contact with toxic people. Help someone else. Get … Continue reading

Posted in add, ADD strategies, adhd, ADHD strategies, attitudes, research, strategies | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

Many ADHD Links, Many Choices — ADHD Tip O the 981

  We ADHD ers have difficulty making choices. I’ve collected too many links, so I’m going to dump them now.  You pick and choose.  It’s up to you now. Doug Links:   Outgrow ADHD?   Ages and stages of ADHD … Continue reading

Posted in add, ADD problems or symptoms, ADD strategies, adhd, adhd and marriage, adhd controversies, ADHD problems, adhd science, ADHD strategies, controversies, controversy, dysfunctions, marriage, medication, medication, medicine, relationships, research, science, stimulants, tips | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 6 Comments

Non Stimulant ADHD Meds — ADHD Tip O the Day 980

While stimulants are  the first choice of medication used to treat attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), there are many non-stimulant medications that may be used. Statistically, stimulants are more effective, 85 % of ADHD ers. Straterra (atomoxetine), has the best response rate of the … Continue reading

Posted in add, adhd, adhd science, adhd studies, controversies, controversy, controversy, controversy, medication, medication, medicine, medicine, research, science, stimulants | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

“New” ADHD Science — ADHD Tip O the Day 979

ADHD research continues. That’s good.  There’s actually not much that’s very new, but: The new DSM V Tr is due out March 2022.  I’ll try to find out what it will change about ADHD diagnosis, but that’s probably not available … Continue reading

Posted in add, adhd, adhd science, adhd studies, educate yourself, medication, research, science, stimulants | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

What to do about my forgetfulness and absentmindfullness? — ADHD Tip O the Day 975

Answering this question about ADHD: This is an example of accepting that you can’t change something, but you can make strategies to help you cope with it. (But medication might help somewhat.) 1. Write everything down on a card, folded … Continue reading

Posted in add, ADD problems or symptoms, ADD strategies, adhd, ADHD problems, ADHD strategies, dysfunctions, strategies | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 6 Comments

Frustrated and Overwhelmed — ADHD Tip O the Day 974

A couple of weeks ago, I just gave up, just for the week.  I didn’t post, and lots of other things I let go.  Some weeks are like that with ADHD, although fortunately, it’s usually just a day, not a … Continue reading

Posted in add, ADD problems or symptoms, ADD strategies, adhd, ADHD problems, ADHD strategies, dysfunctions | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 8 Comments

Procrastinating or Pushing Ahead? — ADHD Tip O the Day 971

Overwhelmed is common with ADHD but strategies can help. The same is true for procrastination. I took on the task of clearing the trash in our stretch of the Santa Fe “river“ (even calling it a creek is an exaggeration … Continue reading

Posted in add, ADD problems or symptoms, ADD strategies, adhd, ADHD problems, ADHD strategies, dysfunctions, procrastination, strategies | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 6 Comments

Truths About ADHD Medications — ADHD Tip O the Day 970

There are many misconceptions about ADHD medications. The two classes of ADHD meds are the stimulants and the others.  The following truths primarily apply to the stimulants:  methylphenidate – Ritalin, et al, and amphetamine – Adderall, et al.  70% of … Continue reading

Posted in ADD problems or symptoms, ADD strategies, adhd, adhd controversies, ADHD problems, adhd science, controversies, controversy, dysfunctions, medication, medication, medicine, stimulants | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

ADHD and ODD, REVISED— ADHD Tip O the Day 969.1

Morwen made an excellent comment on my original ODD post which leads me to revise the  post and also add new links:  Hello Doug, I feel as though the information you presented above lacks critical engagement with diagnosis or disorder. … Continue reading

Posted in add, ADD problems or symptoms, adhd, ADHD problems, diagnosis, dysfunctions, medication, medication, medicine, medicine, stimulants | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 10 Comments

The Giant ADHD Flywheel and More — ADHD Tip O the Day 968

With my ADHD, I’m driven.  The pressure is constant. Here is a viewpoint from Creatieve.  I love your comments. Creatieve Creaties says: July 19, 2021 at 11:42 pm I definitely recognise myself in the “not being able to keep the house … Continue reading

Posted in add, ADD problems or symptoms, adhd, ADHD problems, dysfunctions | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

Women and ADHD part two — ADHD Tip O the Day 966

In reply to Denise Dion’s comment:. denise – the ADHD symptoms of the inattentive type, which most ADHD women have, are the same as in men but without the hyperactivity, distractability, procrastinating, for sure. And probably without the impulsivity, blurting out, … Continue reading

Posted in add, ADD problems or symptoms, ADD strategies, adhd, ADHD problems, dysfunctions, procrastination | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 11 Comments

ADHD Handwriting — ADHD Tip O the Day 965

It’s called dysgraphia, another ADHD comorbidity. This might be related to dyscoordination (basal ganglia, cerebellum), being in a hurry, and trying to get a flood of ideas down on paper before we lose them. My handwriting caused me lots of … Continue reading

Posted in add, ADD problems or symptoms, ADD strategies, adhd, ADHD problems, ADHD strategies, clutter, dysfunctions | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 6 Comments

Coping with ADHD Stress — ADHD Tip O the Day 961

Living with ADHD is stressful. (So is living with someone with ADHD.) Meditation, breaks, getting outdoors, exercise, are all helpful. Some of my favorite tools for stress or anxiety  are breathing tools. Here’s my latest favorite.   Think what you  want … Continue reading

Posted in add, ADD problems or symptoms, ADD strategies, adhd, ADHD problems, ADHD strategies, strategies | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

ADHD and Time – ADHD Tip O the Day 959

If you have ADHD, time is a booger. We underestimate how long a task will take. It always takes longer.  And if its fixing or maintenance, it’ll take at least two trips to the hardware store. Strategy: Estimate the time … Continue reading

Posted in add, ADD problems or symptoms, ADD strategies, adhd, ADHD problems, dysfunctions | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

FAQ about ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 958

I get many AHD questions from various web sites. Here are some answers (ie my opinions) with links. What can cure ADHD?  –  Only God. Does ADHD get worse with aging? – No, age just adds more problems. Am I … Continue reading

Posted in add, ADD problems or symptoms, ADD strategies, adhd, adhd and marriage, adhd controversies, ADHD problems, adhd science, ADHD strategies, adhd studies, controversies, controversy, controversy, diagnosis, dysfunctions, educate yourself, educate yourself, marriage, medication, medication, medicine, medicine, research, science, stimulants | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

Some Links For ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 956

These are some good ADHD links for you and that’s about it for today. I’m taking a break. And I plan to do the next post on breaks (“I plan–“). Enjoy. doug Links: ADHD Brain Differences ADHD Brain (download) Shame … Continue reading

Posted in add, ADD problems or symptoms, ADD strategies, adhd, ADHD problems, strategies | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

Assumptions, Premises, and Illusions — ADHD Tip O the Day 954

Now for something different This will be a philosophical discussion today, not limited to ADHD.   (Had you assumed there would be a Poem O the Day?  Sorry to disappoint you. I hope you’re not heart broken. ) General Strategy O … Continue reading

Posted in add, ADD problems or symptoms, ADD strategies, adhd, ADHD problems, ADHD strategies, educate yourself, strategies | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Parenting — ADHD Tip O the Day 950

Being a parent is not easy. Parenting generally is  difficult and stressful, but it can also be extremely pleasant and rewarding. As they say, they grow up very fast. Look for every opportunity to spend quality time with your children … Continue reading

Posted in adhd | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

I’m Very Doubtful — ADHD Tip O the Day 949

Technically, adult onset ADHD isn’t possible, because it’s a neuro developmental disorder, meaning we’re born with it (or at least something interferes with the development of the nervous system early in life). The DSM requires symptoms to be present before … Continue reading

Posted in add, ADD problems or symptoms, adhd, adhd controversies, ADHD problems, adhd science, adhd studies, controversies, controversy, controversy, controversy, diagnosis, dysfunctions, educate yourself, educate yourself, research, science | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 3 Comments

ADHD Medications — ADHD Tips O the Day 948

This article is so good I’m offering it as the ADHD Tip O the Day  ADHD Medications Hope you’ll read and enjoy it. doug Poem O the Day:     The Mail Back in the day, when I was working, in … Continue reading

Posted in add, ADD problems or symptoms, ADD strategies, adhd, ADHD problems, adhd science, ADHD strategies, dysfunctions, medication, medication, medicine, medicine, science, stimulants | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

ADHD Excuses — ADHD Tip O the Day 947

We ADHDers are hard to live with.  We cause a lot of frustration. A comment from T: “I would love for you to address the issue with people with ADHD trying to justify behavior that is driven by the ADHD … Continue reading

Posted in add, ADD problems or symptoms, ADD strategies, adhd, ADHD problems, ADHD strategies, relationships | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 1 Comment

I’m Also Doubtful About — ADHD Tip O the Day 946

John Rosemond — writes syndicated newspaper columns and books on parenting. His style is about using the power differential to control children and seems out of the 40’s and  maybe a little sadistic at times.   He recently had a column … Continue reading

Posted in add, adhd, adhd controversies, adhd science, controversies, controversy | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 16 Comments

Failing with ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 940.1

“I am a failure.” What a terrible thing to say about yourself. I often read posts from mothers who say they’re failing, that they must be a bad mother. Often that means they can’t get their child to do what … Continue reading

Posted in add, ADD problems or symptoms, ADD strategies, adhd, ADHD problems, ADHD strategies, adhd studies, attitudes, dysfunctions, educate yourself, research, strategies | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 3 Comments

Venting — ADHD Tip O the Day 938

It’s good for us to vent and get things off our chest occasionally. This works best of course if we have an audience. Thank you for being my audience today. 2. Word has decided to revolt and take control. It … Continue reading

Posted in add, ADD problems or symptoms, ADD strategies, adhd, ADHD problems, ADHD strategies, dysfunctions, strategies | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 7 Comments

Update on ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 936.1

A good way to start the new year will be to update your knowledge of ADHD. A key strategy for managing our lives with ADHD is to educate ourselves. We can each become an ADHD expert and without too much … Continue reading

Posted in adhd | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

Update on ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 936

A good way to start the new year will be to update your knowledge of ADHD. A key strategy for managing our lives with ADHD is to educate ourselves. We can each become an ADHD expert and without too much … Continue reading

Posted in adhd | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Overindulge? With ADHD? — ADHD Tip O the Day 935

With ADHD, we are at risk. I hope you don’t overindulge over the holidays. All you need to do is use your willpower, self-control, and judgment. Assuming you have some. Not all of us do. My wife makes wonderful cookies.  … Continue reading

Posted in adhd | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 8 Comments

An ADHD Christmas, et al — ADHD Tip O the Day 934

‘Tis the season to be jollyFa La La La La etc. etc. Bah! Humbug. Even with ADHD? The holiday season is very stressful for many if not most people (family? shopping?), but more so for us.  We’re supposed to be … Continue reading

Posted in adhd | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

An ADHD Christmas, et al — ADHD Tip O the Day 934.1

‘Tis the season to be jollyFa La La La La etc. etc. Bah! Humbug. Even with ADHD? The holiday season is very stressful for many if not most people (family? shopping?), but more so for us.  We’re supposed to be … Continue reading

Posted in adhd | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

ADHD Hypersensitivity — ADHD Tip O the Day 929

The post on rejection sensitivity dysphoria (RSD) lead to the post on emotional hypersensitivity but we ADHDers are hypersensitive to many things, not just emotions. I’m hypersensitive to noise in general, and certain noises in particular. Certain smells. Even my … Continue reading

Posted in adhd | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 18 Comments

More on ADHD Emotions — ADHD Tip O the Day 925

With ADHD, we have so many frustrations, disappointments, failures, and negative interactions that it’s no wonder we have a lot of episodes of feeling down. And then there’s RSD too. But there are strategies for dealing with feeling down. Rachel … Continue reading

Posted in adhd | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 7 Comments

ADHD Emotions Part 3— ADHD Tip O the Day 923

Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria as a part of  ADHD Do I have RSD?  I don’t know.  I reread the article, it says usually the crashes just last for hours, mine last a day or two. Still, I’m certainly overly sensitive and … Continue reading

Posted in add, ADD problems or symptoms, adhd controversies, ADHD problems, controversies, controversy, controversy, dysfunctions, marriage, relationships, science | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 6 Comments

ADHD Emotions, Part Two — ADHD Tip O the Day 922

“Rejection sensitive dysphoria is not a formal diagnosis, but rather one of the most common and disruptive manifestations of emotional dysregulation — a common but under-researched and oft-misunderstood symptom of ADHD, particularly in adults.” I read this article and dismissed … Continue reading

Posted in add, ADD problems or symptoms, ADHD problems, dysfunctions, educate yourself, relationships, research, science | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 16 Comments

ADHD and Emotions — ADHD Tip O the Day 921

There is some interesting new research on emotions in ADHD.          I plan to do a series on the topic, interspersed with other subjects. Spoiler Alert: It’s possible this will a little disorganized.  You think? Definitions:(excerpts from … Continue reading

Posted in add, ADD problems or symptoms, adhd, ADHD problems, procrastination | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 10 Comments

Why Use Strategies and Habits for ADHD? — ADHD Tip O the Day 919

Insights on living with ADHD: I finished another retreat and again gained some insights, some of which I’ll share with you. The purpose of the ADHD strategies and the habits is to make your life easier, to decrease pressure and … Continue reading

Posted in add, ADD problems or symptoms, ADD strategies, adhd, ADHD problems, ADHD strategies, attitudes, dysfunctions, educate yourself | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 1 Comment

Marijuana and ADHD? — ADHD Tip O the Day 918

Does Marijauna help with ADHD? I recently answered this question about marijuana (weed, pot) on another website. My answer stimulated a lot of controversy.  My answer began, “I don’t recommend marijuana. “ Apparently some people took this as my being … Continue reading

Posted in add, ADD problems or symptoms, adhd, adhd controversies, controversies, controversy, controversy, controversy, educate yourself, science | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 14 Comments

ADHD and Changing — Tip O the Day 916

Puryear’s Principles of Human Behavior #1 After we struggle and struggle with a problem and finally find some effective way to cope with it, the next thing we do is stop doing it. Maybe one of the reasons is that … Continue reading

Posted in add, ADD problems or symptoms, ADD strategies, adhd, ADHD problems, ADHD strategies, dysfunctions | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Misdiagnosed ADHD? — ADHD Tip O the Day 914

Misdiagnosed ADHD? A friend asked if his bipolar diagnosis could actually be misdiagnosed ADHD. ADHD has many comorbidities,  other problems that frequently occur with it. Bipolar (used to be manic depressive) is a major one. In US adults, 1 to … Continue reading

Posted in add, ADD problems or symptoms, ADHD problems, diagnosis, dysfunctions, educate yourself | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 8 Comments

ADHD Changes — ADHD Tip O the Day 913

Puryear’s Principles of Human Nature – Number One: “If we struggle and struggle with a problem, and we  finally find a solution that works, the next thing we do is to stop using it.” One of my favorite strategies is … Continue reading

Posted in add, ADD problems or symptoms, ADD strategies, adhd, ADHD problems, ADHD strategies, strategies | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 6 Comments

Dystechnologia and ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 912

Dystechnologia is not an official part of ADHD.  But I sure have it, and I think it’s one of the frequently occurring comorbidities.  Could result from our symptoms, lack of focus, etc., or could be related to the same brain … Continue reading

Posted in add, ADD problems or symptoms, ADHD problems, dysfunctions | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

Letting Things Slide — ADHD Tip O the Day 911

It’s a long ADHD story, sad but true, and instructional. I publish my books on KDP, a subsidiary of Amazon. Their authors’ page lists all the books and their status. I looked at it several times, but not carefully. It … Continue reading

Posted in add, ADD problems or symptoms, ADD strategies, adhd, ADHD problems, ADHD strategies, dysfunctions, procrastination | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 10 Comments

ADHD Time — ADHD Tip O the Day 910

How I spend my time; a typical 24 hours: Screwing around on the computer.              2.5 hours Sleeping?                                    … Continue reading

Posted in add, ADD problems or symptoms, ADHD problems | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

Does ADHD Medication Help With —? — ADHD Tip O the Day 909

ADHD Medication Helps with Focus, Motivation, Inertia The medication can be a miracle for some, but it doesn’t seem to help with: irritability losing things memory patience time management sleep   Too bad; sorry.  But what it does help with … Continue reading

Posted in add, ADD problems or symptoms, adhd, ADHD problems, dysfunctions, medicine, medicine, research, science, stimulants | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 17 Comments

Clumsy with ADHD? — ADHD Tip O the Day 907

If ADHD is related to abnormalities of the basal ganglia and the cerebellum, and the circuits connecting them, then what would you expect?  Clumsy. I pull a cereal bowl off the third shelf and on the way down manage to … Continue reading

Posted in add, ADD problems or symptoms, ADD strategies, adhd, ADHD problems, ADHD strategies, dysfunctions, medicine, stimulants | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 6 Comments

ADHD Medication — Tip O the Day 905

The Question Was, “What should I expect when I start ADHD medication?” Between two hours and two days you should notice more focus and more motivation and more follow through. You probably won’t get any side effects, but if you … Continue reading

Posted in add, ADD strategies, ADHD strategies, medication, medication, medicine, stimulants | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Report on My Retreat —ADHD Tip O the Day 904

I finished my five day spiritual retreat, a success.  I got off track some on day five, next time I’ll do four days.  It wasn’t as difficult as I’d expected. I had a little struggle about how to use my … Continue reading

Posted in add, ADD strategies, adhd, ADHD problems, ADHD strategies, distraction, strategies | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Living with ADHD and Corona Virus — ADHD Tip O the Day 903

ADHD and Corona Virus, wouldn’t either one be enough?   I hope you are safe and well and finding some way to make use of this strange time.  Although we’re all waiting for things to return to normal,  I fear that … Continue reading

Posted in add, ADD problems or symptoms, ADD strategies, adhd, ADHD problems, ADHD strategies, attitudes | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

“That won’t work for me.” —- ADD Tip o the Day 306

Sometimes I hear that when I suggest a strategy for ADD or ADHD – “That won’t work for me.”  Seems like four possibilities: 1.  they’ve never tried it. 2. they tried it, but not in an effective way. 3. if … Continue reading

Posted in add | Tagged , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

Notes — ADD Tip o the Day 286

With ADD or ADHD taking notes is essential, like making lists.  But we need strategies even for that. For notes to be useful, they need to be legible, understandable, and locatable. 1. I use the index cards that are always … Continue reading

Posted in add | Tagged , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

Criticism — ADD Tip o the day 126

When we are criticized we usually take one of two approaches, either assess the information and see how we might benefit from it, or else, attack the source. The book has been blessed by many reviewers.  Two reviewers did not … Continue reading

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , | 1 Comment

Clumsy?— ADD Tip o the Day 121

We were enjoying a nice lunch, when I reached for the butter. I was very aware of the danger of knocking over the wine, so I was very careful how I reached.  So I knocked over the water.   At … Continue reading

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , | 1 Comment

strategies — ADD Tip o the day 118

The book is about strategies for coping with ADD or ADHD, to make our lives better. Those without ADD or ADHD don’t understand what it’s like living this way, but those living with us do know what it’s like living … Continue reading

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Balance — ADD TIp of the day 113

One of the measures of mental health is balance, not too much of this or of that.  We who try to cope with ADD or ADHD have trouble with this.  We have to set aside what we would like to … Continue reading

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Expectations — ADD Tip o the day 108

I have a lot of things I think I will get done today. I will not.  Writing them all down is a good idea; then I need to make a shorter list, five or less.  Then I need to pick … Continue reading

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

Perception —– ADD Tip o the day 83

Perception, attitude, self talk – they all run together.  The new agers say that we create our own reality, reality is in the eye of the beholder.   It’s early morning; I can say I have a hard day ahead … Continue reading

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , | 5 Comments

Advantages part 2 — ADD Tip o the day 79

One of the advantages of having  ADD is that we tend to be good in a crisis.  Probably it is because a crisis does turn on our focus center and we can hyper-focus.  I have found this in my own … Continue reading

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Stuck again again —-ADD Tip o the day 69

When we are paralyzed, because of the big thing we are procrastinating on, then step two is to break the big thing into the smallest possible steps.  Then do one.  Ideally, do the hardest one first, but it doesn’t have … Continue reading

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

enjoy the good! —-ADD Tip o the day 62

Life can be hard sometimes, for anyone, but especially if we are coping with ADD or ADHD. We manage life by really enjoying the good times; that makes it even out better.  But our ADD, either the symptoms or the … Continue reading

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Many sites ——– ADD Tip o the day 54

You may be amazed to learn that this is not the only ADD site on the net.  It is not even the only good one.  There are many sites on ADD and ADHD, on strategies, tools, coping , managing, thriving, suceeding and so … Continue reading

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Self talk part 2 ——— ADD Tip o the day 53

Every one does self talk.  If we have ADD, it tends to be negative self talk.                         We can call it “the old tapes”.                                                                                               Sometimes we actually hear the parental  voice.                                                 This negativity is destructive.                                              We may be able to stop it, … Continue reading

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , | 1 Comment

Slow down, refocus —— ADD tip o the day 52

  A copy of a small blue book, The Quiet Mind, sits in the book shelf in my office, where I see it every time I go in or out of the door.  The going in or out becomes the anchor that … Continue reading

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , | 1 Comment

Slogans ——- Tip o the day 50

I have a lot of slogans that help me. I can just say them thru the day, or when the appropriate situation arises: Do it now, do it right, do the hard part first. You can only do what you … Continue reading

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

It’s not stupid! —– Tip o the day 45

A lot of us with ADD call ourself “stupid” when we mess up.  Or we may say “That was stupid!” No, it wasn’t stupid.  And we’re not stupid, it’s ADD.  Those of us who had a lot of trouble in … Continue reading

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

irritable ——– ADD Tip o the day 43

I am very irritable.  I get easily annoyed, often over small things, often over things that really aren’t even annoying.  I thought it was just me, one of my character flaws. I looked up ‘ADD-irritable’ on the net and got … Continue reading

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , | 3 Comments

technology-whine? —- ADHD Tip o the day 42

I have read that many of us with ADD are technologically astute. Not me – technologically challenged. I’m not getting many hits on this blog but I think some people are reading it on facebook. I hope so. I get … Continue reading

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , | 1 Comment

Goals ——— Tip o the day 36

I’ve written my goals for 2011.  I don’t make resolutions, because I never keep them. Some goals I reach, some I don’t, but I do work on all of them. I also review them occasionally to remind myself and to … Continue reading

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , , | 3 Comments

Diagnosis: part 3 -the last part—Tip o the day 35

So, if your’re not sure if you have ADD or not, you can look at all the symptoms I’ve talked about.  You can take some of the free tests on the net.  Then you can see a psychiatrist or a … Continue reading

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Diagnosis Part 2 —-Tip o the day 32

    procrastination, losing things, forgetting things, arriving late, saying and doing things impulsively and  inappropriately, failing responsibilities and breaking promises.                  lacking patience, can’t finish things, things don’t turn out  right.                                         feeling pressured, rushed, frantic, overwhelmed, disorganized.  sometimes demoralized. Well, doesn’t everyone … Continue reading

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , | 3 Comments

Diagnosis? — Tip o the day 31

Many of us who have ADD are not aware of it.  We may think that’s just the way life is; we may think that everyone lives that way, although if we just look around us we can see that’s not … Continue reading

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

addictions —- tip o the day 30

We with ADD are prone to addictions.  I think there are two types, chemical and activity. I have been addicted to coffee, in large amounts.  I changed to decaf. I have been addicted to computer games.  I finally had to … Continue reading

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , | 1 Comment

Shame tip o the day 28

Shame becomes an integral part of our ADD.  It is deep within us and starts deep in our childhood, when we could not meet the expectations of our parents, then our teachers, then others and ultimately ourselves.  Missing appointments, forgetting … Continue reading

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

stuck Tip o the day 25

What is the difference between inertia, procrastination, and avoiding? To me, inertia is when I can’t get going on anything.  Usually it is because I am feeling overwhelmed, too many things to do, what I need to do seems too hard, or … Continue reading

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , | 1 Comment

Comment- the hard part Tip of the day 24

Got an excellent comment from E. T. G. about starting: Most interesting.  I can relate to just about everything you wrote.  Doing the hard part first is not always  possible.  Take altering a garment, for example. ( sometimes I   put this off)  … Continue reading

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

reframing Tip o the day 23

“Reframing” means to change the way I perceive or label something. That is related to “self talk”, the things I say to myself in my head. I can say I have too much work to do today, or I can … Continue reading

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Perception Tip o the day 20

Perception, atttitude, reframing, self talk ‘We create our own reality.’     New Age dictum If I say “I have too much to do today.” then I have too much to do. If I say, “I have a lot to do today.” … Continue reading

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

Finishing — Tip o the Day 19

Big problem.  We start full of vinegar and enthusiasm. We get near the end and we stall, out of steam. The novelty has worn off, we have mastered it and the challenge is gone.  Maybe there is no heavy immediate … Continue reading

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , | 3 Comments

Avoiding Tip o the day18

What is the difference between avoiding and procrastinating? It may be  subtle, but for me, procrastinating is putting off starting something that I will eventually need to do, while avoiding is avoiding something that I may never get around to. … Continue reading

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

The Book and The List Tip o the day 17

All of the ADD books suggest that you start with an appointment book and a to do list. I think that is good advice. But they are useless if you don’t know how to use them. I have trained myself … Continue reading

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Will power? Tip o the day 16

I don’t have much willpower. That’s one of the reasons that I need strategies. But I think another is that willpower, even if I had it, is not a very effective way to improve focus, concentration, attention.    (Couldn’t hurt though.) … Continue reading

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

The Slogan Tip o the day 15

Let’s put them together now. This is my best slogan. I have trained myself so that I think of it whenever I am deciding what to do next. Do it now, Do it right, Do the hard part first. This gets … Continue reading

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

Do It Right Tip o the day 14

Because I have ADD, my experience leads me to believe that nothing I do will turn out right. So I don’t want to put too much time or effort into it. So I rush through it sloppily and do it half … Continue reading

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Goals tip o the day 13

yesterday I sat down and wrote down my goals I find it useful to do this every few months. now comes the hard part I need to look at each goal and ask myself If I was really serious about … Continue reading

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , | 5 Comments

keys tip o the day 12

a patient called today to cancel her appointment. she had locked herself out of the house her purse and keys and cell phone were locked inside guess she was calling from the neighbors. I think everybody does this, and everybody … Continue reading

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , | 3 Comments

ADD & more frustration -tip o the day 10

spent the morning trying to get the blog verified wasnt working finally I found the “save changes” button on the bottom of the page below the window i was looking at. hadn’t been saving them. new rule: always look at … Continue reading

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , | 5 Comments

add & frustrations Tip o the day 9

i get frustrated a lot.   and easily. those frustrations add up. but some of them I can do something about. losing the keys.  can’t find the other sock.  recognizing the right address stamper. the first step is recognizing that … Continue reading

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

tip o the day

focus on one thing. put everything else on your list and then put your list aside. this prevents feeling overwhelmed. doug

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment