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Relationships, Including Marriage, and ADD ADHD — ADD Tip O the Day 636

For ease, I’ll talk about marriage  but this applies to all intimate relationships. Things they don’t tell you Marriage is hard work. Especially if one of you has ADD ADHD. Quote O the Day The only thing worse than being … Continue reading

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ADD ADHD and Marriage or Similar Relationships — ADD Tip O the Day 629

With ADD ADHD, Relationships Are Hard In older couples, the divorce rate is twice that of vanillas.  According to Melissa Orlov, the major problem is undiagnosed and untreated ADD ADHD. Quote O the Day: “You have to be a superwoman … Continue reading

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ADD ADHD and Marriage?- Is It Possible??? —ADD Tip o the Day 545

 Marriage Experts I am not The Expert on ADD ADHD and marriage, that would be Melissa Orlov and Martha Puryear.  I do have some years in the field, but only from one side.  My expertise would be in How to … Continue reading

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“Hurry!” – An Unpleasant ADHD Attitude— ADHD Tip O the Day 780

Is being in a hurry an integral part of ADHD? Being in a hurry is unpleasant and inefficient.  It is also not based on reality but it’s an attitude.  The attitude generates the feeling, which generates the behavior, or perhaps … Continue reading

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Lists and ADHD, or Not? — ADHD Tip O the Day 776

ADHD and To Do Lists? Some people have graduated from to do lists.  God bless ’em!  I don’t know how they do it.  I can’t function without to do lists.  The long list. The short list.  The list of five. … Continue reading

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ADHD and Relationships – A Followup— ADHD Tip O the Day 768

What are ADHDers like?  What is it like to live with ADHD? What is it like to live with someone with ADHD? And why are relationships so difficult for ADHDers?  If you would like to understand, this article from Attitude … Continue reading

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Myths and What It’s Like to Live with ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 767

  Some People Still Do Not Understand ADHD There are climate change deniers, and flat earthers, and anti-vacine conspiracy theorists, and there are still many people who just do not understand ADHD. It does no good to get mad at … Continue reading

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ADHD and Relationships. Is it possible? — ADHD Tip O the Day 766

My long suffering wife  (very, very long) still gets annoyed sometimes when I do ADHD stuff.  For one example, of many, calling her to come help and then doing something to get ready while she’s standing there waiting. I’m trying … Continue reading

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Caring for Someone With ADHD (ambiguous title). Affection or caretaking?— ADHD Tip O the Day 742

Life Is Hard Life is hard.  Life with ADHD is harder.  Marriage is hard.  Marriage with ADHD is harder.  Being married to someone with ADHD is harder than I can even imagine. There are strategies that will make our life with … Continue reading

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Tips for Surviving with ADD ADHD — ADD Tip o the Day 730

What can we expect of ourselves, or of someone else, with ADHD? “Life can be hard, and with ADHD, it’s even harder.” “Some days, just surviving is a triumph.”             Doug Puryear The great cell … Continue reading

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Diagnosis of ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 719

(If you know about diagnosing ADHD and the DSM, you might skip down to the good bonus links.) To Diagnose ADHD: Sometimes I can talk to and observe a patient for just a few minutes and it’s obvious that they have … Continue reading

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Willpower – with ADD ADHD? Who are you kidding? — ADD Tip O the Day 685

I recently posted Willpower #2  with ADD ADHD, which was supposed to come right after this one.  But somehow, this one never got posted.  Imagine that!  How in the world could such a thing have happened?   Willpower?  What’s that? … Continue reading

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Is ADHD A Disorder? — ADD Tip O the Day 647

I found this on the net.  The link is below if you want to watch it.  I didn’t. “ADHD As A Difference In Cognition, Not A Disorder: Stephen Tonti at TEDxCMU” Well, it is a difference.  It’s a difference that … Continue reading

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A Typical Day With ADD ADHD: Where in the world does the time go? — ADD Tip O the Day 633

My Typical ADD ADHD Day Sleeping 6 hrs      Trying to sleep 2 hrs Quiet time   .5 hr Exercise  1 hr Shower shave dress teeth bathroom  1hr Eating 3 hrs                                       Thinking about eating – all the time Looking for something … Continue reading

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What Having ADD ADHD Is Like — ADD Tip O the Day 622

Living With ADD ADHD One of the painful things about having ADD ADHD is that people who don’t have it can’t understand what it’s like.  They may recognize some of the symptoms and problems and they may know what it’s … Continue reading

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Ten Basic “Facts” About ADD ADHD — ADD Tip O the Day 601

I just did a guest post for Naill of Ireland.  Here it is: “Ten” Basic “Facts” About ADD ADHD ADD ADHD exists. Our brains function differently than other peoples. This has been shown by brain imaging.  Our main difficulty is … Continue reading

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Why Valentines Day Is important With ADD ADHD — ADD Tip O the Day 586

Valentines Day is February 14, this Saturday, that’s this coming Saturday, two days off, this Saturday, day after tomorrow. With ADD ADHD: 1. We forget all about it. 2. We think it’s a long way off and don’t buy a … Continue reading

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ADD ADHD and Goals-Can We Use Them? — ADD Tip O the Day 578

Goals are important, whether we have ADD ADHD or not In prison ministry, we notice that many of the men do not have the concept of goals other than short term “I want this now”. Goals help us with focus, … Continue reading

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Free ADD ADHD Training from Bonnie Mincu

free training clik here– free video, and webinar is tomorrow jan 8 recommended doug

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Have You Heard? Christmas Is Coming! — ADD Tip O the Day 566

Not this time, ADD! With my ADD ADHD, Christmas usually sneaks up on me and I’m rushing to try to find a gift for my wife.  But this time I’m ahead.  Why, it’s two whole weeks away, and I’m already … Continue reading

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Moving with ADD ADHD – – – ADD Tip O the Day 562

Are we having fun yet? Nothing tests a marriage quite like moving. Probably even more so with ADD ADHD. Strategies: 1. Recognize that your life is in turmoil. Your structure is gone. Your schedule is in disarray. You will barely … Continue reading

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Coping with Turmoil — ADD Tip o the Day 552

Arghhhh!! ADD ADHD and all this too! We’re selling our house and moving to a wonderful community, El Castillo.            We’re excited about it. But at the moment, it’s like living in a hurricane and an earthquake at the same time. … Continue reading

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My Wife Complains – – – ADD Tip O the Day 530

My wife told me this morning that I’m very difficult to  live with.      I have no reason to doubt her.  She’s  unhappy because I got lost walking in the neighborhood the other day and she was concerned about me. … Continue reading

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ADD ADHD Tips From Homey— ADD Tip o the Day 514

Fresh out of ideas: Although we with ADD ADHD are supposed to be blessed by extra creativity, I am totally out of ideas this week, so I am just posting some of Homey’s great tips. thanks again, Homey. from Homey: … Continue reading

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Increase Self Control — ADD Tip o the Day 495

Ritalin May Increase Self Control If it does, this would presumably apply also to the other stimulants, Adderall, etc, as well as possibly to Straterra. This could be another hole poked in my belief that these medications do not help … Continue reading

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Beliefs, Where Do They Come From? — ADD Tip o the Day 487

According to research, we all do this, ADD ADHD or not: Most of our beliefs come from our emotional responses; we then dig up data to support them. If we come across information that refutes or doesn’t support our belief, … Continue reading

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Overcoming Overwhelmed — ADD Tip o the Day 484

Structure: Routine,Schedule With my ADD ADHD I need structure, which comes from routine and schedule.  Some people don’t like routine and schedule; it makes them feel confined and they prefer free wheeling and spontaneous.  For me, that is not freedom, … Continue reading

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Overwhelmed!! Living with ADD or ADHD – ADD Tip o the Day 477

I’m pretty good at seeing other people’s ADD ADHD problems and offering good advice; it’s very hard for us to see ourselves. Finally got the message I finally read the signals: 1. Rerun of old dream about college – haven’t … Continue reading

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Happy Valentines Day, to Everyone Who Loves Someone with ADD or ADHD — ADD Tip o the Day 468

My wife has stuck with me with my ADD all these years.  OK, she has had some complaints sometimes, but she has been very helpful.  I couldn’t have made it without her. She picks up a lot of the slack, … Continue reading

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How to Use Cards, etc, for ADD ADHD — ADD Tip o the Day 460

Momma has suggested more details about using cards, lists, small steps and priorities for adult ADD ADHD.  And some other questions. This will take a few posts. CARDS: the red card, list of five, things to be attempted today. Limit … Continue reading

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More on Structure, Routine, and Schedule for ADD ADHD -ADD Tip o the Day 458

With ADD or ADHD, we need routine and schedule, in order to have structure in our lives.  Maybe this is less important for vanilla people, who are free to live in the moment and be spontaneous and just follow any … Continue reading

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Did It Again, Again — ADD Tip o the Day 453

Life with ADD ADHD! It was the same thing again, but different.  This time it wasn’t about losing my glasses. We were volunteering at the shelter; my job was to take care of the name tags. They gave  me a … Continue reading

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New York Times on ADD ADHD part 2 – ADD Tip o the Day 451

First, blessed Christmas to all, ADD ADHD or not. I recall the advent of Xanax (alprazolam), a very dangerous med that exploded onto the market, and which differs from the safer meds of its class (benzodiapine anti anxieties) only in … Continue reading

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ADD and relationships — ADD Tip o the Day 448

I am reminded almost daily how hard it is to live with someone with ADD ADHD.               Ok, daily. So i just asked my wife if she would do a guest post on the … Continue reading

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Coach and Therapy for Anger — ADD tip o the Day 386

A response to Holly on ADDerworld, who is concerned about her anger, and says that she know all the things she should be doing but is having a hard time doing them: “Holly, you recognize the problem, that it is … Continue reading

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ADD and Relationships — ADD Tip o the day 378

It is hard to live with someone with ADHD or ADD.  We let down and disappoint -when I said I would do it, I meant it, but I just forget.  We are late for engagements or don’t show up at … Continue reading

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Procrastination? — or Not? — ADD Tip o the Day 351

With ADD or ADHD, you’ll know about procrastination, one of our main symptoms.  But I think this is about a problem with time, not procrastination.  I wasn’t putting off getting my wife’s Christmas present, it’s just that Christmas seemed so … Continue reading

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A New Problem and More Disorganization — ADD Tip o the Day 346

well, I was committed to posting 3 times a week, and I was doing a good job of sticking to it, but it was hard and took a lot of time and I noted that sometimes I didn’t really have … Continue reading

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ADD or ADHD, Or Just An Excuse? — ADD Tip o the day 345

It may be hard for our partner or our boss or our teacher or even our friend, to believe that ADD or ADHD really exists, or that it’s what’s behind our behavior, what we do or what we fail to … Continue reading

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You Are Unique — ADD Tip o the Day 320

Having ADD or ADHD means we have a lot of things in common, but we are each a unique (and special) individual.  We need  to find what works for US. The Your Life Can Be Better book is about learning to … Continue reading

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Choices part 2 — ADD Tip o the day 319

Too many choices, especially with ADD or ADHD – we tend to be creative and curious and have an interest in everything.  Have to choose – I did give up chess.  Want to do this blog, check out facebook and … Continue reading

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Expectations — ADD Tip o the day 216

“Doug, we surely don’t feel brilliant most of the time. Those “extra gifts and talents”, you mentioned, are where we shine, but it is usually obscured by years of false expectations (by other as well as by ourselves) to do … Continue reading

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“Bill”, the lazy slob — ADD Tip o the day 140

How many of you read today’s Annie’s mailbox (the new Ann Landers), “Husband’s laziness irritates his wife”?  How many of you figured it out? “I have to remind him frequently to pick up after himself and finish what he started. … Continue reading

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Slow down, refocus —— ADD tip o the day 52

  A copy of a small blue book, The Quiet Mind, sits in the book shelf in my office, where I see it every time I go in or out of the door.  The going in or out becomes the anchor that … Continue reading

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