My long suffering wife (very, very long) still gets annoyed sometimes when I do ADHD stuff. For one example, of many, calling her to come help and then doing something to get ready while she’s standing there waiting.
I’m trying to enlist her help, as Melissa Orlov teaches, to figure out together ways to prevent these problems.
We have come up with one strategy – I’ll try to have everything ready before I call her. But I’m afraid that may just be a strategy of “trying harder.” Which we all know doesn’t work. We’ll see.
But we have backup strategy: if she’s waiting, I’ll explain to her what I’m doing. That should help.
It would be great if I could just stop doing ADHD stuff, but we haven’t come up with a strategy for that yet.
The ADHD Effect On Marriage by Melissa Orlov
Bonus note: This post represents another strategy, locking in. By publicly saying what I plan to do, I’m more likely to do it.