Understanding ADHD

You just have to experience it for yourself:
   1. Marriage
   2. Childbirth
   3. ADHD

Some people don’t believe ADHD exists.  Some people think we can just try harder, or drink lots of cabbage juice, or watch where we put our feet, or or or —.

The supply of advice and opinions about ADHD from people who don’t have it is enormous;    the demand is quite small.

Trying to convince someone whose mind is made up is like trying to give medicine to a dead man.

Some people are toxic.


  1. Learn all you can about ADHD.  Become an expert.
  2. Keep your BS indicator set on high sensitivity.
  3. Keep identifying problems and making strategies.
  4. Be kind to yourself
  5. Avoid toxic people.

Quote O the Day:

Being a grown-up is not all it’s cracked up to be.

            An ADHDer

Where was I when the executive functions were being passed out?

About doug with ADHD

I am a psychiatric physician. I learned I have ADHD at age 64, and then wrote two ADHD books for adults, focusing on strategies for making your life better. I just published my first novel, Alma Means Soul. Your Life Can Be Better; strategies for adults with ADD/ADHD available at amazon.com, or smashwords.com (for e books) Living Daily With Adult ADD or ADHD: 365 Tips O the Day ( e-book). This is one tip at a time, one page at a time, at your own pace. It's meant to last a year. As a child, I was a bully. Then there was a transformation. Now I am committed to helping people instead abusing them. The Bully was published in January, 2016. It's in print or e book, on Amazon.
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11 Responses to Understanding ADHD

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  2. Cindy Bahl says:

    P.S. – Your added details of humor made me laugh out loud (and snort, but we won’t talk of that). As always, your blog is amazing. Thanks, Cindy


  3. Cindy Bahl says:

    You nailed it. I’ve found others just can’t comprehend what it means unless they have ADHD as well. I’m kind of sick of friends saying (with sincerity) they must also have it because of whatever. Not saying they don’t but I explain to them that being overwhelmed with life can also cause a person (who doesn’t have ADHD) to have a few ADHD symptoms until they get their life back in balance. No one believes me, though. So, I then encourage them to see a specialist (stressing that they should pick a mental health professional that specializes in ADHD) to assess and diagnose them. It’s in their best interest and it helps them understand what all this really means. I suspect some are just convinced if they got a prescription, they’re life would revert back to normal for them. This is another thing they never believe me on (when they ask me about meds) – truth is meds are a tool but not a solution. It’s a lifelong condition due to (basically) the way our brains are wired. We have periods in our lives where the symptoms become mild and years when they get unmanageable. Usually because our brain is overwhelmed by chronic pain, major life stressors, or just trying to exist in today’s world. But it never just disappears forever.
    Thank you for those strategies. Very well articulated and I’ll sure to pass them along to others.
    Doug, thanks again for an amazing blog.

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  4. scott
    that’s us. start out all enthused and then it fizzles. i like your strategy of actually planning to pick it up later. i usually just forget about it, but sometimes will pick it up later. the planning to sounds effective.
    yep, if we could will our enthusiasm or our hyper focus we would be awesome. well heck, we are awesome.
    there are strategies for things we don’t want to do – like making it a challenge using a time limit, or imagining being in a contest, or scheduling chunks and not letting ourselves do more that the planned chunk.
    thank you for your contributions.
    best wishes


    • sfmarckx says:

      Thank you Doug for those extra strategy ideas. That is helpful. I need to re-read your book. So many good ideas and strategies in there.
      Thank you for all your good work!
      All the best, Scott

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      • scott
        glad the refresher was helpful. i hope rereading the book is helpful also. i find it hard to reread things even when i really want to but it’s a very good thing to do because I’m read so fast and don’t retain too much and then forget a lot of that. maybe if you do reread it you can give us an update on that experience?
        thank you for your comments
        best wishes


  5. sfmarckx says:

    Thank you Doug!
    I especially like the supply and demand line you wrote. That is a classic!
    I also like the list of executive functions. That is helpful.
    I recently tried giving myself an extremely limited time (2 weeks) to finish all the woodwork on a quick 5-string violin, just as an experiment. It became very “shiny” in an ADHD sort of way and I really enjoyed it! It wasn’t sustainable, partly because of the difficulty, but also it wouldn’t be “shiny” if I tried to do it again right away. It makes me wonder about other ways to make my work “shiny” and get more done, despite my ADHD. Maybe use the ADHD traits as a benefit?

    All the best, Scott

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    • scott
      sounds great. And i like your idea of making our ADHD traits (symptoms) work as tools for us but I need to think some more about how to do it. please comment if you come up with other ideas.
      as always, thank you for contributing your comments
      best wishes


      • sfmarckx says:

        Hi Doug,
        I know that, if I get excited about something, it is easy to dive in and lose myself in the work…as long as I stay excited about it. Some projects start out with excitement and then it fizzles, but I have found that often the excitement comes back later, sort of like the seasons. If I plan for that and set the project aside with the plan to potentially pick it up again later, it can work.
        I just wish I could drum up the excitement at will, or work on things I’m not excited about anyway. Actually I don’t really want to work on those things! Ha!
        Lots to learn! At least I have a job I enjoy most of the time!
        All the best, Scott


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