“I am a failure.”
What a terrible thing to say about yourself.
I often read posts from mothers who say they’re failing, that they must be a bad mother. Often that means they can’t get their child to do what they want them to do. Sometimes their approach is wrong, or their goals are wrong, or what they are trying to do is impossible.
We all fail sometimes, don’t we? We are not God, not even Angels, nor
But failing at something does not mean we’re A Failure. It means we’re human. With ADHD, we will fail more often than vanillas do. Our ADHD interferes with all our efforts, we have trouble setting reasonable goals and expectations, we want to do everything, and we often have perfectionism(which is a recipe for both procrastination and failure.)
We need strategies to cope with our failures.
1. Reassess the goal. Is it reasonable? Is it worth the trouble?
2.Identify the specific thing that’s blocking your success. Then use a strategy.
3. For parents:
1. Take care of yourself first – 1. Get breaks, get help, etc. 2. Educate yourself thoroughly on the problem 3. Reassess: Is your goal realistic? Can it be made smaller? 4. Pick your targets carefully (battles?). Can you win? Is it worth it?
Puryear’s First Principle of Human Behavior:
“When what we’re doing isn’t working, we’ll do more of it.”
Book O the Day: The Spirituality of Imperfection
Old Quote O the Day:
“They said it couldn’t be done,
but with a smile, I went right to it.
I tackled that thing that ‘couldn’t be done’
and found that I couldn’t do it.”
Oppositional Defiant Disorder and ADHD— – (I think I had a touch of this.) (ODD)
Adult Onset ADHD? — (I don’t think so.)
ADHD and Frustration go together don’t they?
Other Notes O the Day:
40 % of children with ADHD are said to also have ODD- this looks too high to me?
ODD is extremely hard to parent or to treat.
8% of US children have ADHD. 50% of them “outgrow” it in adolescence.
Thus 4% of US adults have ADHD.
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