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Inattentive — ADD Tip o the day 167

I just did a blog on how I don’t really read what I’m reading, but just kind of skim thru and maybe don’t read the last bit at all.  I do not recommend this!   Now I noticed that I just … Continue reading

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Will power part 2 — ADD Tip o the day 143

Making decisions depletes our will power, and our capacity to make more decisions. the car salesman knows this.  he gives you lots of options, and makes many offers, and finally goes to talk with his boss – what do you … Continue reading

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Worrying — ADD TIp o the day 139

I have some concerns about the book: 1. to some it sounds like my life is very hard with all the rules and strategies.  It is not; they have made my life much easier than it was 2. It may … Continue reading

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Enough is enough! — ADD Tip o the day 120

For those few of you who may not have heard yet – tho I shouted as loud as I could- the book is at the publisher!  Draft 23. draft 21 was still awful, hard to believe after all those revisions.  22 was incorporating the … Continue reading

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strategies — ADD Tip o the day 118

The book is about strategies for coping with ADD or ADHD, to make our lives better. Those without ADD or ADHD don’t understand what it’s like living this way, but those living with us do know what it’s like living … Continue reading

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Pressure (heed thine own advice) — ADD Tip o the day 117

I got the draft back from the proofreader. Because of my avoidance and denial it was in a form that made it hard to work with.  I had wanted to send the book to the publisher by the end of … Continue reading

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denial and avoidance — ADD Tip o the day 116

I think we ADDers might use denial and avoidance more than the average person, though they aren’t integral parts of ADD.   I found a proofreader, and we reached an agreement, and I sent him the book to work on. … Continue reading

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Denial — ADD Tip o the day 115

A while back I got an email from napster, where I had a bunch of music I’d bought. It said something about something they were going to change and something I needed to do to keep from losing my songs.  I … Continue reading

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Worst case — ADD Tip o the day 111

When I’m worried about something I have several strategies.  One of them is to ask, “What’s the worst thing that could happen?”  Then I ask, “And what would I do then?” And then I make a plan.  So I am … Continue reading

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Help — ADD Tip o the day 109

As you may know, I am trying to cope with ADD.  I need a lot of help.  For example, when I pack for a trip, I always forget something, razor, or socks, or medicine or something.  So my wife helps … Continue reading

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Expectations — ADD Tip o the day 108

I have a lot of things I think I will get done today. I will not.  Writing them all down is a good idea; then I need to make a shorter list, five or less.  Then I need to pick … Continue reading

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Write it down — ADD Tip o the day 106

A lot of negative things had piled up, all pretty minor thank God, but I was feeling kind of down.  I was moping around grumbling to myself and not really enjoying it.  So I sat down and made a list … Continue reading

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Vulnerable — ADD tip o the day 104

“steaming” is a poker term.  When you got a really good hand, and you played it perfectly, and then you lost a big pot because some bozo  made an incredibly lucky draw and beat you, you are likely to be … Continue reading

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The power of lists — ADD Tip o the day 99

I like lists.  I need lists.  I make lists all day long. Couldn’t function without them.  It’s not just the list, having it as a guideline and for structure, but it’s also in the making of the list.  To make … Continue reading

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Pecking away —ADD Tip o the day 98

I am not getting to do as much  on the book as I would like right now, but I am pecking away.  I do a little bit every day and it is amazing how it adds up.  So one small … Continue reading

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coordinated, not — ADD Tip o the day 87

Last night I reached for the wine glass, and instead of grasping it, I knocked it over.  Red wine on the white tablecloth, tho I guess it didn’t matter too much since I’d already spilled a lot of pizza sauce … Continue reading

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Frustration ADD Tip o the day 85

Computers are wonderful, aren’t they?  We can do so many things with them that we never could do before we had them.  This blog is just one example.  So I guess we just put up with the fact that they … Continue reading

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enjoy the good —ADD tip o the day 62

Life can be hard sometimes, for anyone, though it tends to be harder for those of us coping with ADD or ADHD.  I think one of ways we can cope with that is to enjoy the good times.  We need … Continue reading

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checking — ADD Tip o the day 78

Last night I tried out facebook, which I don’t understand. I found out what “status” does, tho why is it called that?  Then I tried “links”.  That worked!  Of course, since I was kind of excited and have ADD, I … Continue reading

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Anchors — ADD Tip o the day 73

Anchors are reminders to do something that I need to remember to do pretty often.  It could be to check my blood sugar, or to say a special prayer, or to do a special exercise, or to tell my beautiful … Continue reading

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Know Thyself –ADD Tip of the day 72

“He who knows and knows he knows, he is wise,                    follow him. He who knows and knows not he knows, he is asleep,          wake him. He who … Continue reading

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Listen —— ADD Tip o the day 67

I was just at a retreat where we did a candle light service.  They gave each of us a small white candle with a circle of paper to put around it to catch the wax.  Then, one by one, we … Continue reading

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Thoughtfulness —- ADD tip o the day 63

I did a small nonrequired unrequested kindness for my wife this morning, opening a container that I knew she was going to use later.  She was unaware of this.  I was being thoughtful.  Unfortunately, this was unusual enough that I … Continue reading

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ADD Symptoms —–ADD Tip o the day 60

Many people who do NOT have ADD or ADHD have told me that sometimes they have  some of the same symptoms- they lose their keys, or forget an appointment, or procrastinate, etc.  I believe them.  I think that’s just human. … Continue reading

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Overloaded —— ADD Tip o the day 58

Yesterday I was feeling overloaded.  that is a unpleasant feeling and, the feeling makes it harder to get things done, so then I feel more overloaded.  But that’s exactly what it is, a feeling, a state of mind, a perception, not a … Continue reading

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Many sites ——– ADD Tip o the day 54

You may be amazed to learn that this is not the only ADD site on the net.  It is not even the only good one.  There are many sites on ADD and ADHD, on strategies, tools, coping , managing, thriving, suceeding and so … Continue reading

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Self talk part 2 ——— ADD Tip o the day 53

Every one does self talk.  If we have ADD, it tends to be negative self talk.                         We can call it “the old tapes”.                                                                                               Sometimes we actually hear the parental  voice.                                                 This negativity is destructive.                                              We may be able to stop it, … Continue reading

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Slow down, refocus —— ADD tip o the day 52

  A copy of a small blue book, The Quiet Mind, sits in the book shelf in my office, where I see it every time I go in or out of the door.  The going in or out becomes the anchor that … Continue reading

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Slogans ——- Tip o the day 50

I have a lot of slogans that help me. I can just say them thru the day, or when the appropriate situation arises: Do it now, do it right, do the hard part first. You can only do what you … Continue reading

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stuck —- ADD Tip o the day 46

Many things in life work in feedback loops, like vicious cycles or whatever the opposite is –     beneficial cycles? When our ADD wins out and we drift away from our track, get distracted, can’t get started,    can’t finish, and so … Continue reading

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The ADD strategies book- update —– Tip o the day 46

I am working on the 10th draft of the ADD book, and am waiting for input from two reviewers and finishing from another before I can start on draft 11.  Then I have one more final reviewer and then it … Continue reading

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irritable ——– ADD Tip o the day 43

I am very irritable.  I get easily annoyed, often over small things, often over things that really aren’t even annoying.  I thought it was just me, one of my character flaws. I looked up ‘ADD-irritable’ on the net and got … Continue reading

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technology-whine? —- ADHD Tip o the day 42

I have read that many of us with ADD are technologically astute. Not me – technologically challenged. I’m not getting many hits on this blog but I think some people are reading it on facebook. I hope so. I get … Continue reading

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The State of the Book —– Tip of the Day 37

The book is coming along.  Nearly finished the 9th draft now. Need some of the reveiwers to report in before the next draft starts. Surprising how many things still need changing. In writing about stategies to make your life with … Continue reading

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Goals ——— Tip o the day 36

I’ve written my goals for 2011.  I don’t make resolutions, because I never keep them. Some goals I reach, some I don’t, but I do work on all of them. I also review them occasionally to remind myself and to … Continue reading

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Diagnosis part 2.5 —— Tip of the day 33

Diagnosis Part 2 —-Tip o the day 32 Posted on December 28, 2010 by addadultstrategies     procrastination, losing things, forgetting things, arriving late, saying and doing things impulsively and  inappropriately, failing responsibilities and breaking promises.                  lacking patience, can’t finish things, things … Continue reading

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Avoiding Tip o the day 27

What is the difference between procrastination and avoiding? To me, avoiding means I can procrastinate on it forever, it may never get done. Procrastination means I really need to do it, and will fairly soon. Santa Fe riddle: what does … Continue reading

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reframing Tip o the day 23

“Reframing” means to change the way I perceive or label something. That is related to “self talk”, the things I say to myself in my head. I can say I have too much work to do today, or I can … Continue reading

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Overdoing Tip o the day 21

Too much is not enough.  (Texas saying) We ADDers do tend to overdo we get enthused with a new pastime and go full out, until its not new anymore. I was doing well with my exercises, so I increased them and … Continue reading

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The Book and The List Tip o the day 17

All of the ADD books suggest that you start with an appointment book and a to do list. I think that is good advice. But they are useless if you don’t know how to use them. I have trained myself … Continue reading

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