Frustrated— ADHD Tip O the Day 885

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ADHD Frustration. I give up!

ADHD is a Natural Recipe for Frustration

Yesterday I fixed my iPhone, got the library book for Martha she’s been waiting for, learned a little bit of guitar, and  lost almost two pounds. I “should’ve” been happy.

But –

OK, here’s more frustration.  I started this post a couple of weeks ago and was saving it.  Now I can’t remember what I was frustrated about that day.  That’s frustrating.

Ken just made a good comment on scheduling strategies.  A good schedule is a big help, but part of his trick is to be gentle with himself, lower expectations; if he gets 80% done, it’s a good day.  This approach will lower frustration.

Today I am pleased that after two days of trying, I finally got the Grammarly app to work again.  But I cannot get my Dagonspeak to work; it will not recognize my microphone, even though Microsoft’s speech recognition does, but is not working well at all. I think I need to reinstall Dragonspeak but I’m not sure I know how or have the right disc or codes or whatever and am afraid I will lose it forever.  Can you see that this could be a little frustrating?

Any suggestions from you less technologically challenged folks will be appreciated, as will just sympathy from the rest of you.

More Personal Note:

I’m still working on the new ADHD book and I think now maybe April would be a realistic target date.  But I’m also working on the novel, which has captured my interest and sidetracked me, and also on a gun violence book, using posts from a blog. And then I have a health book on the back burner.  Maybe it’s a little much??

And I dread the actual process of publishing the book on create space. It’s a booger.

That’s life with ADHD.

Strategies for Dealing with Frustration:

  1. complain and whine, as I’m doing here.
  2. try to be more reasonable, expect less – not doing well at this
  3. take a break and relax – OK, as soon as I finish this post.
  4. Focus on the positives- OK, Grammarly is working.



Get Out of a Bad Mood


Frustration and other emotions that are difficult for us with ADHD to handle.  Who would’ve guessed?

@addstrategies  #adhd  #add  @dougmkpdp


About doug with ADHD

I am a psychiatric physician. I learned I have ADHD at age 64, and then wrote two ADHD books for adults, focusing on strategies for making your life better. I just published my first novel, Alma Means Soul. Your Life Can Be Better; strategies for adults with ADD/ADHD available at, or (for e books) Living Daily With Adult ADD or ADHD: 365 Tips O the Day ( e-book). This is one tip at a time, one page at a time, at your own pace. It's meant to last a year. As a child, I was a bully. Then there was a transformation. Now I am committed to helping people instead abusing them. The Bully was published in January, 2016. It's in print or e book, on Amazon.
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13 Responses to Frustrated— ADHD Tip O the Day 885

  1. Pingback: Failing with ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 940.1 | ADDadultstrategies

  2. Ken Powell says:

    Thanks for the mention Doug! I hope you’ve managed to fix your problems and you’re getting on with your writing 🙂


  3. rammkatze says:

    Good one, Doug!
    I very much like that you listed whining as the first strategy against frustration. That is my go-to move! At work, I’m always known for “bitching and moaning” but always doing my job. Whining while I do stuff I don’t want to do always seems to help me get through things – especially if it’s an “aggressive” whining, when I channel my bit of rage into the task I’m making.
    I will always remember fondly how a few years back, we were all sitting in the recreation room at work and a colleague smiled and said loudly “Rammkatze will blow up and get pissed off in a second, but she always does everything she’s told!” and another smiled fondly and complete “Rammkatze is super!”. This was before my diagnose and my meds. It is a strategy that really has been working for a long time 🙂

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    • ram
      sometimes letting off steam is a good strategy. I’m glad you’re holding onto the “Ramkatze is super” remark. That’s a valuable treasure to remember
      as always, thank you for the comment and best wishes


  4. holdthatthought says:

    Doug. if you need help with the dragonspeak thing shoot me an email. life’s too short to stay frustrated

    Liked by 1 person

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