Tag Archives: Your Life Can Be Better
ADHD Key Points — ADHD Tip O the Day 1000
Just a few of the key ADHD points. There are so many, so many ways to make our lives better, so that we are managing our ADHD and it’s not in control.Sadly, this is my last post. I want to … Continue reading
Decrease the Pressure – ADHD Tip O the Day 999
With my ADHD, I tend to feel pressured all the time. I don’t like that. I work to avoid that feeling. 1. Limit your to-do list to five items. 2. Cut everything into small steps. 3. Spread your tasks out. … Continue reading
More ADHD Research and Etc.— ADHD Tip O the Day 998
On ADHD and relationships, medications, comorbidity, statistics, and etc.: My wife said I should post about the most recent disaster, but no, I’m not going to describe the incident where I merely sat down on the sofa next to the … Continue reading
Combinations and ADHD Symptoms — ADHD Tip O the Day 997
I’ve been “putting off” doing this post for years now because it’s confusing to me. But it’s time, now or never. Ever wonder why we ADHDers look so much alike?-Procrastination, distraction, impulsive, etc, but also we can look so different. … Continue reading
Taking It Easy? — ADHD Tip O the Day 996
An ADHD Strategy: When you need to get something done but can’t dig up the energy, see if you can find an easy way out. Here’s a bunch of quotes for today. “Your first step is just that: the first … Continue reading
Pain and ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 995
We ADHDers tend to be hypersensitive. For example, to certain noises, to feelings of rejection, etc. So it makes sense that we might be hypersensitive to pain. I just wasn’t aware of this before. But I have had struggles with … Continue reading
Marriage/relationships and ADHD follow up — ADHD Tip O the Day 994
Relationships are very complicated, especially if someone has ADHD I love pens. I have a lot of pens. My wife says I hoard pens. She says I should go through all of my pens and throw away the ones that … Continue reading
New Year’s Resolutions — ADHD Tip O the Day 993
Belated Happy New Year to each of you (happy in spite of our ADHD). I don’t like making resolutions; they just set me up for disappointment and shame. But this year I made some: Lose weight (right, sure) and this … Continue reading
An Important ADHD Strategy — ADHD Tip O the Day 992
Small steps explained ( I don’t think the recent review was adequate) We have A Project to do. We feel overwhelmed, not up to it, defeated before we start, and we procrastinate. The strategy is Small Steps. Break the … Continue reading
Three Most Important ADHD Principles —ADHD Tip O the Day 991
New Year: time for a brief review Three most important ADHD Principles: Identify a Problem, devise a strategy, make it a habit. 2. Small steps. 3. Do it now, do it right, do the hard part first. (After … Continue reading
Constructive Arguing— ADHD Tip O Day 990
Constructive Arguing: Arguments are a normal and unavoidable part of almost all marriages (intimate relationships). The trick is to make them productive instead of destructive, and to have them not too often nor too intensively, and to get over them … Continue reading
Marriage- Part Three — ADHD Tip O the Day 988
With ADHD , everything is much harder, especially relationships. We disappoint, forget, let down. We get preoccupied, don’t finish, don’t get started. We blurt out, do and say socially inappropriate things. We run into things, knock things over, drop things. … Continue reading
Adult ADHD Revisited — ADHD Tip O the Day 987
A break from the relationship posts, but more to come. The Am. Psychiatric Assoc. is revising the DSM V, including the criteria for diagnosing ADHD. Many changes are recommended. The current criteria were written for children and tweaked to apply … Continue reading
Marriage/Relationships? Part Two— ADHD Tip O the Day 986
Marriage part two Throughout this series, I use “marriage” “to stand for “marriage and/or relationships.” I understand that marriage is becoming increasingly rare. ADHD and marriage: Marriage is hard. With ADHD it’s much harder, especially for the non ADHD partner. … Continue reading
Marriage and Other Strange Relationships, Part 1 — ADHD Tip O the Day 985
Relationships are so complicated, even without ADHD, that this will take two or more posts. And with ADHD – Whew!! We marry with expectations of what our marriage will be like. Generally, we expect our marriage to either be like … Continue reading
How to Be Happy — ADHD Tip O the Day 983
It can be hard to be happy, especially these days, and harder with ADHD. But- Affirmations: Every morning, state, “I choose to be happy today.” Learn to cope with your ADHD. Minimize contact with toxic people. Help someone else. Get … Continue reading
How to Make Decisions — ADHD Tip O the Day 982
With ADHD we have trouble making choices and decisions. Do I really need to make this decision? Does it matter?- is it worth the the time and effort? Does it have to be me? Gather data List pros and cons … Continue reading
Many ADHD Links, Many Choices — ADHD Tip O the 981
We ADHD ers have difficulty making choices. I’ve collected too many links, so I’m going to dump them now. You pick and choose. It’s up to you now. Doug Links: Outgrow ADHD? Ages and stages of ADHD … Continue reading
Non Stimulant ADHD Meds — ADHD Tip O the Day 980
While stimulants are the first choice of medication used to treat attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), there are many non-stimulant medications that may be used. Statistically, stimulants are more effective, 85 % of ADHD ers. Straterra (atomoxetine), has the best response rate of the … Continue reading
“New” ADHD Science — ADHD Tip O the Day 979
ADHD research continues. That’s good. There’s actually not much that’s very new, but: The new DSM V Tr is due out March 2022. I’ll try to find out what it will change about ADHD diagnosis, but that’s probably not available … Continue reading
What to do about my forgetfulness and absentmindfullness? — ADHD Tip O the Day 975
Answering this question about ADHD: This is an example of accepting that you can’t change something, but you can make strategies to help you cope with it. (But medication might help somewhat.) 1. Write everything down on a card, folded … Continue reading
Frustrated and Overwhelmed — ADHD Tip O the Day 974
A couple of weeks ago, I just gave up, just for the week. I didn’t post, and lots of other things I let go. Some weeks are like that with ADHD, although fortunately, it’s usually just a day, not a … Continue reading
Procrastinating or Pushing Ahead? — ADHD Tip O the Day 971
Overwhelmed is common with ADHD but strategies can help. The same is true for procrastination. I took on the task of clearing the trash in our stretch of the Santa Fe “river“ (even calling it a creek is an exaggeration … Continue reading
Truths About ADHD Medications — ADHD Tip O the Day 970
There are many misconceptions about ADHD medications. The two classes of ADHD meds are the stimulants and the others. The following truths primarily apply to the stimulants: methylphenidate – Ritalin, et al, and amphetamine – Adderall, et al. 70% of … Continue reading
ADHD and ODD, REVISED— ADHD Tip O the Day 969.1
Morwen made an excellent comment on my original ODD post which leads me to revise the post and also add new links: Hello Doug, I feel as though the information you presented above lacks critical engagement with diagnosis or disorder. … Continue reading
The Giant ADHD Flywheel and More — ADHD Tip O the Day 968
With my ADHD, I’m driven. The pressure is constant. Here is a viewpoint from Creatieve. I love your comments. Creatieve Creaties says: July 19, 2021 at 11:42 pm I definitely recognise myself in the “not being able to keep the house … Continue reading
Self Abuse Makes ADHD Worse — ADHD Tip O the Day 967
(Not that kind) With ADHD, we have many opportunities to feel shame. And we often contribute to that be being harshly critical of ourselves. And we often were subjected to shaming criticism as we were growing up (and after), so … Continue reading
Women and ADHD part two — ADHD Tip O the Day 966
In reply to Denise Dion’s comment:. denise – the ADHD symptoms of the inattentive type, which most ADHD women have, are the same as in men but without the hyperactivity, distractability, procrastinating, for sure. And probably without the impulsivity, blurting out, … Continue reading
ADHD Handwriting — ADHD Tip O the Day 965
It’s called dysgraphia, another ADHD comorbidity. This might be related to dyscoordination (basal ganglia, cerebellum), being in a hurry, and trying to get a flood of ideas down on paper before we lose them. My handwriting caused me lots of … Continue reading
Breaks and ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 962
Everyone needs breaks, probably more so with ADHD, but they can be difficult. Breaks throughout the day, week, and year can be very beneficial, even necessary. That’s why we have vacations, and why it’s best not to work during them. … Continue reading
ADHD and Time – ADHD Tip O the Day 959
If you have ADHD, time is a booger. We underestimate how long a task will take. It always takes longer. And if its fixing or maintenance, it’ll take at least two trips to the hardware store. Strategy: Estimate the time … Continue reading
FAQ about ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 958
I get many AHD questions from various web sites. Here are some answers (ie my opinions) with links. What can cure ADHD? – Only God. Does ADHD get worse with aging? – No, age just adds more problems. Am I … Continue reading
Some Links For ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 956
These are some good ADHD links for you and that’s about it for today. I’m taking a break. And I plan to do the next post on breaks (“I plan–“). Enjoy. doug Links: ADHD Brain Differences ADHD Brain (download) Shame … Continue reading
Keep It Short — ADHD Tip O the Day 955
My astute wife said the last ADHD post was too long. So this one will be short. Strategy O the Day: Listen to your wife. doug Links: ADHD and Relationships ADHD and Relationships more Webinars Quotes O the Day: “The … Continue reading
Assumptions, Premises, and Illusions — ADHD Tip O the Day 954
Now for something different This will be a philosophical discussion today, not limited to ADHD. (Had you assumed there would be a Poem O the Day? Sorry to disappoint you. I hope you’re not heart broken. ) General Strategy O … Continue reading
ADHD and Estrogen — ADHD Tip O the Day 952
ADHD is Different for Women Two contributors brought this up and it was a new area for me. Thank you to Susan and Eva. You can see their comments on Post 950. I knew that typically, girls have Inattentive type … Continue reading
Parenting — ADHD Tip O the Day 950
Being a parent is not easy. Parenting generally is difficult and stressful, but it can also be extremely pleasant and rewarding. As they say, they grow up very fast. Look for every opportunity to spend quality time with your children … Continue reading
I’m Very Doubtful — ADHD Tip O the Day 949
Technically, adult onset ADHD isn’t possible, because it’s a neuro developmental disorder, meaning we’re born with it (or at least something interferes with the development of the nervous system early in life). The DSM requires symptoms to be present before … Continue reading
ADHD Medications — ADHD Tips O the Day 948
This article is so good I’m offering it as the ADHD Tip O the Day ADHD Medications Hope you’ll read and enjoy it. doug Poem O the Day: The Mail Back in the day, when I was working, in … Continue reading
ADHD Excuses — ADHD Tip O the Day 947
We ADHDers are hard to live with. We cause a lot of frustration. A comment from T: “I would love for you to address the issue with people with ADHD trying to justify behavior that is driven by the ADHD … Continue reading
I’m Also Doubtful About — ADHD Tip O the Day 946
John Rosemond — writes syndicated newspaper columns and books on parenting. His style is about using the power differential to control children and seems out of the 40’s and maybe a little sadistic at times. He recently had a column … Continue reading
Five Most Important ADHD Tips — ADHD Tip O the Day 941
With ADHD we’re not good at prioritizing or making choices or keeping list short, but here’s some of the most important tips/tools/strategies to help you make your life better: 1. Small steps – Don’t try to write the essay, try … Continue reading
Failing with ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 940.1
“I am a failure.” What a terrible thing to say about yourself. I often read posts from mothers who say they’re failing, that they must be a bad mother. Often that means they can’t get their child to do what … Continue reading
Venting — ADHD Tip O the Day 938
It’s good for us to vent and get things off our chest occasionally. This works best of course if we have an audience. Thank you for being my audience today. 2. Word has decided to revolt and take control. It … Continue reading
Simplistic Oversimplified Simple Version of the Whole Dadgum Thing — ADHD Tip O the Day 937.5
We’ve been reviewing the science of ADHD, so to start the New Year (it’s gotta be better), here’s a summary of the neurobiology (as I understand it). (If this is old stuff to you, please just scroll down to … Continue reading
Update on ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 936.1
A good way to start the new year will be to update your knowledge of ADHD. A key strategy for managing our lives with ADHD is to educate ourselves. We can each become an ADHD expert and without too much … Continue reading
Update on ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 936
A good way to start the new year will be to update your knowledge of ADHD. A key strategy for managing our lives with ADHD is to educate ourselves. We can each become an ADHD expert and without too much … Continue reading
Overindulge? With ADHD? — ADHD Tip O the Day 935
With ADHD, we are at risk. I hope you don’t overindulge over the holidays. All you need to do is use your willpower, self-control, and judgment. Assuming you have some. Not all of us do. My wife makes wonderful cookies. … Continue reading
An ADHD Christmas, et al — ADHD Tip O the Day 934
‘Tis the season to be jollyFa La La La La etc. etc. Bah! Humbug. Even with ADHD? The holiday season is very stressful for many if not most people (family? shopping?), but more so for us. We’re supposed to be … Continue reading
An ADHD Christmas, et al — ADHD Tip O the Day 934.1
‘Tis the season to be jollyFa La La La La etc. etc. Bah! Humbug. Even with ADHD? The holiday season is very stressful for many if not most people (family? shopping?), but more so for us. We’re supposed to be … Continue reading
“Science Says —” ADHD Tip O the Day 933.1
“Science says–.” What does that even mean? That means that there have been more than one or two studies supporting this hypothesis and the original findings have been replicated by other scientists in other places. The studies have been reviewed … Continue reading
ADHD Clumsiness — ADHD Tip O the Day 931
Are you clumsy? I am. We have ADHD. Did you know that clumsy is a part of ADHD, even if it’s not in the criteria for diagnosis? It’s not a criteria because the criteria are chosen to distinguish a diagnosis … Continue reading
ADHD Brain Net Works — ADHD Tip O the Day 930
Our ADHD Brains Are Different Networks connect Regions which function using Neurotransmitters. Because we ADHDer have problems in the neworks, downstream our regions are deficient in the neurotransmitters dopamine and norepinephrine. The stimulant medications work to correct and normalize this. … Continue reading
ADHD Hypersensitivity — ADHD Tip O the Day 929
The post on rejection sensitivity dysphoria (RSD) lead to the post on emotional hypersensitivity but we ADHDers are hypersensitive to many things, not just emotions. I’m hypersensitive to noise in general, and certain noises in particular. Certain smells. Even my … Continue reading
ADHD and Science part one— ADHD Tip O the Day 926
There’s a big anti-science movement today, with some people being born knowing all there is to know and not having to study or learn like the rest of us. I’m still a fan of science, as opposed to ignorance, conspiracy … Continue reading
More on ADHD Emotions — ADHD Tip O the Day 925
With ADHD, we have so many frustrations, disappointments, failures, and negative interactions that it’s no wonder we have a lot of episodes of feeling down. And then there’s RSD too. But there are strategies for dealing with feeling down. Rachel … Continue reading
ADHD Emotions Part 3— ADHD Tip O the Day 923
Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria as a part of ADHD Do I have RSD? I don’t know. I reread the article, it says usually the crashes just last for hours, mine last a day or two. Still, I’m certainly overly sensitive and … Continue reading
ADHD Emotions, Part Two — ADHD Tip O the Day 922
“Rejection sensitive dysphoria is not a formal diagnosis, but rather one of the most common and disruptive manifestations of emotional dysregulation — a common but under-researched and oft-misunderstood symptom of ADHD, particularly in adults.” I read this article and dismissed … Continue reading
ADHD and Emotions — ADHD Tip O the Day 921
There is some interesting new research on emotions in ADHD. I plan to do a series on the topic, interspersed with other subjects. Spoiler Alert: It’s possible this will a little disorganized. You think? Definitions:(excerpts from … Continue reading
James Clear on Habits – ADHD Tip O the Day 920
James Clear’s excellent book, Atomic Habits, covers the same material I’ve been writing about for years; how you can make good habits and get rid of bad ones. However, since his focus is solely on habits and mine just includes … Continue reading
Why Use Strategies and Habits for ADHD? — ADHD Tip O the Day 919
Insights on living with ADHD: I finished another retreat and again gained some insights, some of which I’ll share with you. The purpose of the ADHD strategies and the habits is to make your life easier, to decrease pressure and … Continue reading
Marijuana and ADHD? — ADHD Tip O the Day 918
Does Marijauna help with ADHD? I recently answered this question about marijuana (weed, pot) on another website. My answer stimulated a lot of controversy. My answer began, “I don’t recommend marijuana. “ Apparently some people took this as my being … Continue reading
ADHD and Changing — Tip O the Day 916
Puryear’s Principles of Human Behavior #1 After we struggle and struggle with a problem and finally find some effective way to cope with it, the next thing we do is stop doing it. Maybe one of the reasons is that … Continue reading
Misdiagnosed ADHD? — ADHD Tip O the Day 914
Misdiagnosed ADHD? A friend asked if his bipolar diagnosis could actually be misdiagnosed ADHD. ADHD has many comorbidities, other problems that frequently occur with it. Bipolar (used to be manic depressive) is a major one. In US adults, 1 to … Continue reading
ADHD Changes — ADHD Tip O the Day 913
Puryear’s Principles of Human Nature – Number One: “If we struggle and struggle with a problem, and we finally find a solution that works, the next thing we do is to stop using it.” One of my favorite strategies is … Continue reading
Dystechnologia and ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 912
Dystechnologia is not an official part of ADHD. But I sure have it, and I think it’s one of the frequently occurring comorbidities. Could result from our symptoms, lack of focus, etc., or could be related to the same brain … Continue reading
Does ADHD Medication Help With —? — ADHD Tip O the Day 909
ADHD Medication Helps with Focus, Motivation, Inertia The medication can be a miracle for some, but it doesn’t seem to help with: irritability losing things memory patience time management sleep Too bad; sorry. But what it does help with … Continue reading
The Brake and the Accelerator — ADHD Tip O the Day 908
A Little ADHD Science: We have one amygdala deep in each side of the brain, a small group of nerve cells very involved with emotions. The frontal lobe is a whole section of the brain, guess where? Basically, the amygdala … Continue reading
Clumsy with ADHD? — ADHD Tip O the Day 907
If ADHD is related to abnormalities of the basal ganglia and the cerebellum, and the circuits connecting them, then what would you expect? Clumsy. I pull a cereal bowl off the third shelf and on the way down manage to … Continue reading
The ADHD Brain — ADHD Tip O the Day 906
An Excellent Article from Dr. Nigg on the ADHD Brain (link is below) The new focus is on networks, not just the neurotransmitters on which they work. The networks link different discrete areas of the brain. I suspect there may … Continue reading
ADHD Medication — Tip O the Day 905
The Question Was, “What should I expect when I start ADHD medication?” Between two hours and two days you should notice more focus and more motivation and more follow through. You probably won’t get any side effects, but if you … Continue reading
Report on My Retreat —ADHD Tip O the Day 904
I finished my five day spiritual retreat, a success. I got off track some on day five, next time I’ll do four days. It wasn’t as difficult as I’d expected. I had a little struggle about how to use my … Continue reading
Living with ADHD and Corona Virus — ADHD Tip O the Day 903
ADHD and Corona Virus, wouldn’t either one be enough? I hope you are safe and well and finding some way to make use of this strange time. Although we’re all waiting for things to return to normal, I fear that … Continue reading
Genes and ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 899
New ADHD Research This study is over my head, but I’m trying to summarize it as best I can. For the many of you more astute than me, the link for the whole study is below. A new very large … Continue reading
ADHD and Legs — ADHD Tip O the Day 898
Continuing with Sleep, Science, and ADHD: As if we didn’t have enough problems, we ADHDers often have leg problems. These include restless legs syndrome (RLS), paroxysmal abnormal leg movements (PALM, aka ‘the jerks’) and leg cramps. The book says these … Continue reading
More ADHD Science —ADHD Tip O the Day 897
We’re all tired of the virus thing. I just ask that you pay attention to the scientific experts, especially those willing to admit they don’t really know, and ignore the blathering and BS. Here’s more ADHD science: 1. Sleep problems … Continue reading
Virus, Science, and ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 896
Virus, virus, virus and ADHD What else is there to talk about? We are blessed with leadership from someone who was born with innate understanding of science so that, despite his being apparently illiterate, he knows more about scientific things … Continue reading
Virus and ADHD, Science, and a Brilliant New Insight — ADHD Tip O the Day 895
The virus and ADHD It would be strange not to write about the virus today, but I think I mostly said it last time. How could I connect the virus with the topic of ADHD? Well, maybe. We’re under semi … Continue reading
Sleep and ADHD, and Now, the Virus — ADHD Tip O the Day 894
Virus I meant this post to be solely about sleep and ADHD. After all, what does the virus have to do with ADHD? Well, not much, except we’re impulsive and impatient, and prone to take risks. So, wash your hands … Continue reading
Changes. ADHD in Transition — ADHD Tip O The Day 893
I thought that once I retired, life would get easier. Hah! “There’s been a change in the weather and a change in the sea From now on, there’ll be a change in me. My walk will be different, my talk … Continue reading
Too Busy? — ADHD Tip O the Day 892
With ADHD, I’m Always “Too Busy” Since I retired, I figured I wouldn’t feel too busy all the time anymore. Wrong. I suddenly had a brilliant insight. Maybe if I didn’t try to do so many things all the time, … Continue reading
“It Just Got Away From Me” — ADHD Tip O the Day 891
ADHD is a booger Mon 2/17/2020 11:36 AM What I’m about to tell you is true. This is the way it really happened. You can’t make this stuff up. We were to leave for our trip on Thursday. We’d spend … Continue reading
Another ADHD Moment—ADHD Tip O the Day 890
“I can’t find it.” Living with ADHD My wife asked me to bring her some pistachios from the cupboard. I was happy to do so. But I couldn’t find them. I looked all through the cupboard. I was pretty sure … Continue reading
Pause — ADHD Tip O the Day 889
Pause – a help with ADHD Pause is a simple strategy I’m trying to turn into a habit. I haven’t figured out what rule to make yet. But the strategy is just to pause several times a day, or even … Continue reading
ADHD Pathology — ADHD Tip O the Day 887
Here is a long article again documenting the reality of the ADHD diagnosis. I was slightly surprised to see in the final paragraph how much traumatic brain injury can mimic ADHD. Or, does it in fact, produce ADHD? I think … Continue reading
Ramblings and Ruminations — ADHD Tip O the Day 886
Life with ADHD I wanted to be sure that the tube was the right length, so I measured it carefully before I cut it. It looked too short. I measured it again to be sure; it was correct, so I … Continue reading
Frustrated— ADHD Tip O the Day 885
ADHD is a Natural Recipe for Frustration Yesterday I fixed my iPhone, got the library book for Martha she’s been waiting for, learned a little bit of guitar, and lost almost two pounds. I “should’ve” been happy. But – OK, … Continue reading
Natural Treatments for ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 884
Treat ADHD without medicines? I’ve done several posts on this. I use supplements and Daytrana and strive for a healthy life style, a good idea for everyone. But I do believe the healthy things do specifically help with ADHD : … Continue reading
Happy New Year Even with ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 883
I hope you have had a good 2019 and that 2020 will be even better for you. It will as you learn new ADHD strategies and improve your coping. One of the problems we ADHD folk struggle with is time. … Continue reading
An ADHD Christmas — ADHD Tip O the Day 882
Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah, and a blessed whatever. Since Christmas, and everything else, sneaks up on me – “Wait! That can’t be this week can it?” But this year i was on top of it. i ordered my wife’s … Continue reading
The Scientific Method and ADHD Research — ADHD Tip O the Day 881
Statistics can be confusing. This is from a report on research showing that exposure to antibiotics early in childhood did not lead to ADHD (although there is a “but” at the end.): “Risk of developing ADHD was estimated using Cox … Continue reading
Too Busy with ADHD — Tip O the Day 879
Why Am I “Too Busy?” Ram is on a roll; this comes from comments and discussion: Too Busy, part one: With ADHD – 1. It’s hard to set priorities. 2. I want to do it all. 3. I set good … Continue reading
Ram’s Comment —ADHD Tip O the Day 878
Ram makes good comments, and this one raises issues about structure and routine, skimming instead of reading, and our ADHD difficulty of picking one thing. Great post! I laughed out loud at your “skimming” comment. I did read your whole … Continue reading
ADHD Research — ADHD Tip O the Day 877
There is new ADHD research, but nothing that new. The stimulants sometimes cause insomnia. (This can usually be fixed by changing dose, schedule, or medication. I need to get my Daytrana patch off by 5:10 PM and I usually … Continue reading
Structure, Schedule – The Secret to ADHD?— ADHD Tip O the Day 876
Flopping around with ADHD Retired. Again. Haven’t found my groove yet. Too busy. Writing two books, one on ADHD, Living Well with ADHD, and a novel, Alma Means Soul, both about ready to publish, which I dread; Create Space has … Continue reading
A New Use for Index Cards — ADHD Tip O the Day 875
Index Cards and Manila Folders (and smartphones?) God’s Gifts to ADHDers I keep the stack of index cards on my desktop just to the right of center, where I can’t miss it. Each one has a “Saying O the Day” … Continue reading
Ram’s Saga-Writing with ADHD — ADHD Tip o the Day 874
I asked for volunteers to write posts for the ADHD blog and Ram stepped up. This started a journey with a long period of correspondence, some of which is lost, which looks like the makings of a novel. I’ve recreated … Continue reading
Ram’s Mindball Post — ADHD Tip O the Day 873
This Post Is Gift From Ram on One Aspect of ADHD Last Spring I took a trip to Portugal to visit my family. While we were there, one of my sisters (a pharmacist with a college degree and a deep … Continue reading
ADHD Strikes Again! — ADHD Tip O the Day 872
ADHD continues its devious works to screw up our lives. You all know my friend Tom, who missed three straight appointments with me? The good news is that this stimulated him to look at how he was managing his calendar … Continue reading
Distracted, Derailed, Off the Track — ADHD Tip O the Day 871
Distractable = ADHD I’ve been working on a revision of the 365 Tips O the Day book and I got about 65% finished on the final draft, number 11. When it’s done I can publish it. Well, writing is the … Continue reading
A Day with ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 869
What is a typical day with ADHD like? Here’s an example of how I spend my time: Trying to find my glasses: 20 minutes Trying to find my i phone, twice: 45 minutes Trying to find the thing that was … Continue reading
Pause – An ADHD Strategy — ADHD Tip O the Day 868
Trying a new strategy to help with my ADHD. Maybe it’s not so new; I may have tried it before? Maybe it’s a form of mindfulness? Anyway, it’s pretty simple. I occasionally stop whatever I’m doing wherever I am and … Continue reading
Defective — ADHD Tip O the Day 863
Who’s defective??! My patient sat with her head down, looking morose. I asked her why. “I’m defective,” she answered.” Just defective.” “What do you mean?” “Well, I have anxiety disorder and phobias. I’m just defective. I tried reassurance. “You’re not … Continue reading
Dinos On ADHD and Technology part 2 — ADHD Tip O the Day 862
Dinos is a high tech person. I’m not. He’s contributing some good tips. “A Smart Home Makes A Smarter You Have you ever found yourself doing something like cooking or washing dishes and wish you could tell somebody something like, … Continue reading
Goals and ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 861
Is It Good To Set Goals If You Have ADHD? I’m a big fan of setting goals, but it’s hard for us ADHDers. We always overestimate what we can do and underestimate how long it will take, don’t we? And … Continue reading
Using Technology To Outsmart ADHD —ADHD Tip O the Day 860
Dinos has helped me with technology before, one of my many weak spots. He has generously agreed to contribute some posts. Enjoy! doug Using Technology To Outsmart ADHD I’m not sure how many other people can relate to this, but … Continue reading
A Radical Change — ADHD Tip O the Day 858
Maybe ADHD Pushes Us Too Hard? I started school when I was five and started working when I was eleven. I’ve always liked working. And I was always competing, with myself and others. Now I’ve reached a certain age, and … Continue reading
Medicine for ADHD? — ADHD Tip O the Day 857
Some people are on too much medicine and too many meds and some on not enough. Meds are helpful to some people and not to others. For some people meds are miracles and for some not helpful at all, or … Continue reading
Efficient with ADHD. Huh??—ADHD Tip O the Day 856
I’m trying to get more done in less time and with less effort. Tthat sounds like trying to be more efficient, not one of my strong points. So I asked for advice from my son-in-law, Bruce, who is sharp and … Continue reading
Best ADHD Blogs of 2019 — ADHD Tip O the Day 855
The Link: I can’t swear these are the best blogs, they may have left out some (snicker, snicker), but I’ll admit these are darn good. I’m not posting often enough for one thing. I can give several reasons. I’m not … Continue reading
There Is a Solution to the Problem— ADHD Tip O the Day 848
My job put me up in a beautiful big old house. When I come in in the evening, and when I leave in the morning, there are no lights. It is dark. Very dark. It is a big beautiful old … Continue reading
Ram’s Comment—ADHD Tip O the Day 844
Repeating a good comment from Ram. I do love the comments. “I guess we’re all guilty of thinking about what could have been. I certainly am, as I dropped out of college to take the hard road of becoming a … Continue reading
Stuck again – ADHD Tip O the Day 814
Well here I am again, writing about being stuck, because I’ve been stuck. Many reasons, will spare you the excuses. In Mexico, on vacation, but still have a to do list of about six things that need doing pretty soon. … Continue reading
More Research on ADHD (Supporting My Previous Opinions) — ADHD Tip O the Day 811
New Research On ADHD Lots of important research comes from Scandinavia because they apparently keep very good detailed statistics on everyone from birth to death. That is a very valuable bank of data, but the concept probably would not … Continue reading
ADHD– Strategies -Do They Really Work? Three Tips — ADHD Tip O the Day 810
I have a fairly new strategy. Whenever I park my car, I say, out loud, where it is. “Second row, facing out, in line with the I in the LIQUORS sign.” 2. It works. It’s a good ADHD strategy. I spend … Continue reading
ADHD and the Challenge of Relationships — ADHD Tip O the Day 795
If you think living with ADHD is a challenge, imagine what it’s like living with someone with ADHD. I started to add, “And imagine what it’s like to live with someone who is living with someone who is living with … Continue reading
Comprehensive Treatment for ADHD: An Update —ADHD Tip O the Day 789
OK, So I Lied – Here Is More From the ADHD Article by Rahil R. Jummani, MD, This is actually the end of the article I’ve been reviewing, somewhat edited, with my comments in italics: “CDC surveys have shown that about … Continue reading
“Are We Overdiagnosing and Overtreating ADHD?” – Part Three, the Last and Maybe the Best— ADHD Tip O the Day 788
Final Installment On the ADHD Article by By Rahil R. Jummani, MD, highly edited. My opinions and comments are in italics. For what they’re worth. Prevalence: Prevalence estimates have been increasing, with a prevalence in US children of over 8% … Continue reading
“Are We Overdiagnosing and Overtreating ADHD?” – Part Two— ADHD Tip O the Day 786
More from the recent ADHD article in Psychiatric Times (Jummani, MD, et al, in Psychiatric Times, May 2017, pp 26-28.) To diagnose ADHD formally in children requires at least 6 of 9 inattentive symptoms and /or at least 6 of 9 … Continue reading
Is My ADHD Messing With Me Again, Or Is It Something Else? —Tip O the Day 783
Is it ADHD or Human Nature? Puryear’s Principle of Human Nature #2: Once we find something that helps us cope with a problem, we will quit doing it. And this does apply to me. Oh, my. The Index Card System … Continue reading
A New Approach to My ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 765
Manila folders are God’s gift to people with ADHD, and yellow stickies may be his bonus gift. I have used my index card system successfully for many years, and have written and written about it. Quote O the Day: “Whenever … Continue reading
Remedies for ADHD. Or Misinformation? — ADHD Tip O the Day 764
ADHD Remedies and Solutions to ADHD I just found a post that’s an interesting follow up to the last two posts about treatment without medication. It’s an example of unsubstantiated claims and misrepresentations. Guy almost says that he is curing … Continue reading
Some semi morbid thoughts somewhat related to ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 754
With ADHD, I really like to plan ahead. Just finished a funeral and reception. Pretty good as those things go, but funerals are always painful and sometimes can be awful. This one was pretty good. You all are invited to … Continue reading
A whole bunch of stuff, including a valuable secret, related to ADHD— ADHD Tip O the Day 753
With ADHD, sometimes our brain gets clogged up. And we seem to need to justify what we’re doing, like this post, for example. Some days my brain is crowded with lots of stuff, not all of it relevant but all … Continue reading
A Book Suggestion, Partly About ADHD, and How We Are Being Gamed — ADHD Tip O the Day 752
I wrote this blog on a plane on a little notebook flying to a funeral and it’s not my best but the best I could do and I wanted to get something in so here it is. Not even any … Continue reading
Blessings of ADHD? — ADHD Tip O the Day 751
With our ADHD, we tend to be interested in many things. This is one of the blessings of ADHD. It is also one of the curses. I am working a half time job, trying to keep up two blogs (and … Continue reading
ADHD and Attitude Adjustment — ADHD Tip O the Day 743
ADHD – Frustrated, Irritable, and Discouraged I get easily frustrated, often over little things, and I’m irritable, which is a symptom of ADHD, and sometimes I get discouraged, tho not often. But I have a strategy. The Strategy I’ve developed … Continue reading
Is Your ADHD Brain Mature?— ADD Tip O the Day 739
Delayed maturation, or erroneous maturation as basis for ADHD? Like everyone else, I have my fixed ideas and opinions, and like most of us ADHDers, I have definite opinions about ADHD. Some researchers suggest that ADHD is a delayed maturation … Continue reading
Diagnosis of ADHD Can Be Upsetting — ADD Tip O the Day 725
Late ADHD diagnosis I got a message from someone recently diagnosed with ADHD. They were struggling with anger that they had been diagnosed late, and thinking how much better their life could’ve been if diagnosed sooner. They asked how I … Continue reading
Is It Really ADHD? DSM V and ADHD — ADD Tip O the Day 720
“Why do you call it ADHD. Can’t you just let kids be kids?” Drives me up the wall. Total ignorance of ADHD. If the kid is floundering, it’s not just being a kid. You don’t just label a … Continue reading
Does ADHD get you bullied? Criticized? Misunderstood? —ADHD Tip O the Day 713
Who gets bullied? Kids who are different. That would be us, ADHD. But also kids with autism spectrum disorder (autism, Asbergers), dyslexia and other learning disabilities, physical handicaps, or different physical appearance. And also, any minority, in any group. And also, … Continue reading
Amphetamines!? And ADHD— ADHD Tip O the Day 711
Research on amphetamines for ADHD For many people, amphetamine is a scary word. Some of the anti-ADHD folks have preyed on this fear and promoted mis-information. Here is some research on amphetamines for ADHD for children and adolescents. Presumably it … Continue reading
More Apps for ADHD – – – ADD Tip O the Day 710
I am taking the easy way out and just posting Hold’s comment here in case you didn’t see it. Many cool apps, get what you like: Hey doug, I apologize. In classic ADHD fashion I’m a week late in seeing … Continue reading
Opinions About ADHD — ADD Tip O the Day 702
Everyone Has An Opinion (I’ll skip the joke) Opinions can be based on many things, such as sound scientific study in depth, delusions, or ‘My cousin told me that someone told him’, ‘My gut tells me’, ‘I think I read … Continue reading
My New Year’s Resolution — ADD Tip O the Day 681
First, I hope you each have a wonderful 2016. Keep identifying problems and working on strategies. It’s bound to help. My New Year’s resolution is not to make any New Year’s resolution. They don’t work for me, probably because of my … Continue reading
Structure and Routine And Strategies for ADD ADHD — ADD Tip O the Day 656
Structure and Strategies Structure is essential. I don’t consider it a strategy though. Not quite sure why. Probably because it is so basic. Basics include sleep, structure, exercise, and maybe getting outside, mediation or yoga or something like that. Basics … Continue reading
Helpful Things for ADD ADHD – Meditation Light??? – – – ADD Tip O the Day 611
Three Helpful Things for ADD ADHD Everyone agrees that certain things are helpful for anyone but especially helpful for those of us with ADD ADHD: Exercise Sleep Meditation And I would add, getting out-of-doors. Meditation I’ve been practicing a simple … Continue reading
The Rule for ADD ADHD — ADD Tip O the Day 609
The ADD ADHD Problem I keep losing my car in parking lots. (Some of you might note that this problem is not limited to ADD ADHD) The Strategy When I park the car, say OUT LOUD where it is -“3rd … Continue reading
ADD ADHD and Eating Mangoes??? — ADD Tip O the Day 574
ADD ADHD and No Patience I love mangoes but I rarely eat them. Peeling a mango is a hassle. Don’t we all want instant gratification with minimal effort? A Revelation Then I had a … Continue reading
Do It Now — ADD Tip o the Day 496
This is a follow up on the “ADD ADHD and living 12 hours ahead” post. If I can do it now, I won’t need to do it then. There are a lot of strategies related to this: 1. It is … Continue reading
Unrestrained — ADD Tip o the Day 396
Has anyone noticed that all of my recent posts are too long? Not this one. doug spouting off?
FREE BOOK — ADD Bonus Tip o the Day
thanks to bryan hutchinson, you can win a free copy of Your Life Can Be Better, signed ( if that matters) clik here and scroll down a little. offer ends in November. thats right – a FREE copy of YOUR … Continue reading
OCD and ADD — ADD Tip o the Day 284
Remember the movie, As Good As It Gets? Jack Nicholson with OCD. That’s the disorder, with symptoms. But there is a spectrum, from style, traits, personality disorder, to (neurosis) disorder. The majority of American males have obsessive-compulsive style, which doesn’t really … Continue reading
Good stuff — ADD Tip o the day 215
there’s a lot of good stuff for ADD or ADHD on the web (so I’m flattered that you check this blog), as well as of course a lot of junk. here’s some good stuff: http://adhdmanagement.com good tips, and … Continue reading
Excerpt? — ADD Tip o the day 209
thought I’d post an excerpt from the book. Is this a good idea? or not so much? Chapter 3 Our focus center Our focus center is different. This is the hypothetical spot in our brain that has to be turned … Continue reading
Latest on willpower — ADD Tip o the day 205
Another NY Times article just out, agreeing that willpower is limited. The people who do best with willpower are those who use it least. They avoid temptation as much as possible. If you have a problem with food, then put your … Continue reading
Side effects —ADD Tip o the day 202
When I recommend a medication to someone (with or without ADD or ADHD), they often ask a very reasonable question, “What are the side effects?” If I tell you the potential side effects, you are more likely to get them. So I … Continue reading
Overwhelmed part 4 —- ADD Tip o the day 194
So the third type of overwhelmed I might call “frantic”. My wife called me, “Come on, Doug, let’s go, we’re going to be late. And would you make sure the doors are locked and take out the gargbage.” I was … Continue reading
The book is here! — ADD Tip o the day 190
At last! We folks with ADD or ADHD are not noted for our patience. But the book is now available on amazon. com. Type in “your life can be better” using the quote marks. It has a nice cover and big … Continue reading
Coping with The Critic —-ADD Tip o the day 188
Our inner critic can really sabotage us, especially if we have ADD or ADHD and there are so many opportunities for criticism and it falls on such fertile ground. But we can use strategies to cope: 1. spotting – this is … Continue reading
Did you know??? — ADD Tip o the day 169
You probably already know: 1. This blog is just about to record the 4000 th hit – it could be you! 2. You can subscribe so you’ll get an e mail each time there is a new post. Unfortunately, I … Continue reading
Delegate —- ADD Tip o the day 166
The computer got messed up so I had to buy a new one. I’m technologically challenged, so I hired a high school student to set it up. I could have done the first part, but there were lots of complicated issues … Continue reading
Does ADD Get Better? —- Tip o The day 151
People sometimes ask if ADD or ADHD gets better. Well, there are some programs that are supposed to help, like balancing and coordination exercises, and someone just told me that the memory program at cogmed.com has helped them. And the … Continue reading
Forgiving part 2 — ADD Tip o the day 133
We humans are not programmed for forgiving, it is one of the hardest things to do. It may be that we need to forgive ourselves first if we are to learn how to forgive others. If we are struggling with … Continue reading
Enough is enough! — ADD Tip o the day 120
For those few of you who may not have heard yet – tho I shouted as loud as I could- the book is at the publisher! Draft 23. draft 21 was still awful, hard to believe after all those revisions. 22 was incorporating the … Continue reading
Denial — ADD Tip o the day 115
A while back I got an email from napster, where I had a bunch of music I’d bought. It said something about something they were going to change and something I needed to do to keep from losing my songs. I … Continue reading
Just stop! — ADD Tip o the day 107
It started off as one of those days, early, when I stubbed my toe on a middle of the night bathroom run. Then the paper hadn’t come yet. And I’d forgotten to set up my breakfast things the night before. … Continue reading
Stress — ADD Tip o the day 100
What do we do when things get stressful? We focus on the problems and forget to do the things that help us handle stress! Our first week of vacation was a little rough; some things weren’t going well. After a while, … Continue reading
Laugh —- ADD Tip o the day 84
Well, this is not just for ADD, but we do tend to to get down or frustrated more often than other people, don’t we? A recent New Yorker had an article on a doctor who has made an industry out … Continue reading
stuck —- ADD Tip o the day 46
Many things in life work in feedback loops, like vicious cycles or whatever the opposite is – beneficial cycles? When our ADD wins out and we drift away from our track, get distracted, can’t get started, can’t finish, and so … Continue reading
The State of the Book —– Tip of the Day 37
The book is coming along. Nearly finished the 9th draft now. Need some of the reveiwers to report in before the next draft starts. Surprising how many things still need changing. In writing about stategies to make your life with …