What Having ADD ADHD Is Like — ADD Tip O the Day 622

Living With ADD ADHD

One of the painful things about having ADD ADHD is that people who don’t have it can’t understand what it’s like.  They may recognize some of the symptoms and problems and they may know what it’s like to live with someone with ADD ADHD, but-

they can’t imagine what it’s like living with it.

“Sonny, I don’t have time to explain marriage to you, and even if I did, you wouldn’t understand. They tried to explain it to me and I didn’t understand it and if I tried to explain it to you, you wouldn’t understand it either.”

        One petty crook to another younger petty crook, a paraphrased quote from Friends of Eddie Coyle by George V Higgins.  Part played by Robert Mitchum in the movie.

So, I’m saying it’s kind of like that with ADD ADHD too.

But there are some pretty good descriptions we could share with them.  Worth a try?

      What having ADD ADHD is like

      Lisa On Life with ADD  – (First of Three Parts)


Denial of ADD ADHD

This problem of not understanding is related of course to the problem of those who deny the existence of ADD ADHD.  Part of the difference is that it’s hard for me to have any sympathy for those people.


Bonus Link:

Nice collection of ADD ADHD Tips


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About doug with ADHD

I am a psychiatric physician. I learned I have ADHD at age 64, and then wrote two ADHD books for adults, focusing on strategies for making your life better. I just published my first novel, Alma Means Soul. Your Life Can Be Better; strategies for adults with ADD/ADHD available at amazon.com, or smashwords.com (for e books) Living Daily With Adult ADD or ADHD: 365 Tips O the Day ( e-book). This is one tip at a time, one page at a time, at your own pace. It's meant to last a year. As a child, I was a bully. Then there was a transformation. Now I am committed to helping people instead abusing them. The Bully was published in January, 2016. It's in print or e book, on Amazon.
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7 Responses to What Having ADD ADHD Is Like — ADD Tip O the Day 622

  1. Pingback: Traveling with ADHD. Oh, My. — ADHD Tip O the Day 839 | ADDadultstrategies

  2. They definitely don’t understand, but if their defense, it’s pretty hard to understand something you don’t have. My daughter-in-law has BPD, bipolar and MS. I don’t understand how she feels, but every now and then I have a tough day and I imagine that it must be something like that for her everyday. I think the key is trying to understand and accepting it when they tell you they feel a certain way. My husband doesn’t understand ADD but he knows I have it and that it impairs my ability to do certain things. When I say I struggle, he believes me. Even if he doesn’t understand, he believes me and doesn’t try to provide solutions (that work for him!) or convince me I really don’t feel that way or I could help myself if I did certain things. He just believes me and accepts me.

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    • homey – yes, we do need to have empathy and understanding for them, especially since that’s what we want for ourselves. It’s the ones who deny the existence of ADD ADHD, that I have trouble with.
      seems to me that you have married a wonder (I actually said “winner”, but you see how it came out and I decided to leave it.).
      You are both very impressive people.
      Thank you for commenting,, as always.


  3. Jeff says:

    Hi Doug. Was “Lisa On Life with ADD” supposed to be a link? If so, it didn’t work for me. Would be interesting to read.

    This weekend I printed all of my various notes to myself (24 in all) off of my computer, so they look nicer. Some were several years old, of various sizes, and quite the worse for wear. My wife appreciated this, but STILL can’t understand why I need reminder notes – as SHE doesn’t need notes (she remembers what she needs to do). Jeff

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