I know I am hypersensitive.
Am I hypersensitive as a symptom of my ADHD? Or have my ADHD problems, including so many screw ups, just made my self-esteem fragile? So is the hypersensitivity an ADHD symptom or a consequence?
I am hypersensitive and overreactive to:
Put downs– Being laughed at, ridiculed, poked fun at, especially in a group.
Criticisms – although I think I handle constructive criticism well.
I am also hypersensitive and overreactive to unrequested advice, supervision, instructions, and commands.
Is this because they imply that I’m not competent, not able to do it myself? That would certainly connect to my ADHD, wouldn’t it?
I have worked well with some bosses, those who left me alone to do my job my own way unless there was a problem. I have read that we ADHDers tend to do better working for ourselves.
And of course our actual incompetence, screw ups, forgetfulness, etc., invite people to feel they need to provide us with advice, direction, supervision and also invite criticism, more than most people get. Which is toxic when you’re hypersensitive.
I am also hyper sensitive to certain noises, and a high level of noise drives me up the wall. That may be another post (not a promise.)
So, are these problems of ADHD , or is it just me?
- Recognize that I am hypersensitive, overreacting, and often misinterpreting.
- Ask, ” Is that a criticism?”
- Breathing techniques.
- Try to think of the big picture, and realize that these incidents are not really significant (although large doses may be significant even though the individual ones are not).
- Escape the situation.
- Keep my mouth shut, offering less of a target.
- Never promise anything.
- Direct my attention to something else rather than ruminating on the hurt.
How well does this work?
Somewhat. I’m still working on it. The good part is that I usually get over something pretty quickly
Questions O the Day?
- Are you hypersensitive, too?
- If so, how does it connect with ADHD?
- If so, how do you handle it?
Note O the Day
Happy Thanksgiving. I am thankful for so many things, have been blessed far more than I ever deserved. And thankful for you, the readers of the ADHD blog, and especially those of you who have contributed so much with your comments. Thank you.
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