| In reply to Denise Dion’s comment:.
denise – the ADHD symptoms of the inattentive type, which most ADHD women have, are the same as in men but without the hyperactivity, distractability, procrastinating, for sure. And probably without the impulsivity, blurting out, poor judgement. etc. And like men, often with comorbid anxiety, depression, and maybe substance abuse. etc.
It’s a booger.
Parenthetical note of the day: Because of societal expectations, some women have problems because they are “supposed to be” nice, sweet, loving, understanding, helpful, etc. Well, that can be very nice, but it can be overdone. We all need to be able to protect ourselves and to set limits.
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Interesting T-shirt Quote of the day! My T-shirt quote: “Toilet paper crisis of 2020 – I was there”. I actually have a T-shirt that says that (albeit in German). Everyone loves reading that shirt.
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ram
i love it too. thank you for another great contribution.
best wishes
doug
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I definitely recognise myself in the “not being able to keep the house clean & tidy” bit. I live in creative chaos. And when things get out of sight, they get out of mind. So books I’m reading and want to read, are piled everywhere. Projects and notebooks are always close by, too 😅
But I also want to reply about the hyperactive bit. Because that’s something I had a discussion about with my psychiatrist back when I got diagnosed with ADHD (and Autism). And I asked him : “don’t you mean I have ADD? Because I’m not hyperactive”. And he pointed out, that hyperactivity doesn’t necessarily have to be shown Outwards. You can also be Hyperactive inside (mind & body). Feeling restless, have a racing mind. Which I found a very interesting argument. Because my biggest ADHD problem might just be my insanely busy brain. There is no brake or stop button. It just goes, full time and non stop 🙈🤷🏼♀️😅
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Creative
thank you for the great comment!
in men, our hyperactivity usually diminishes after adolescence, and frequently reverts to simply constant fidgeting , which can be annoying to others (just ask my wife). however, my mind is always busy, like yours, and riding off in twelve different directions at the same time. plus, the giant flywheel inside (do you have one?), spinning fast, and making the sound “Go! Go! Go!”, even when there is nothing particiular I need to be doing (which is rare.) Meditation is helpful, but difficult to do with all of this going on.
You commented, “Because my biggest ADHD problem might just be my insanely busy brain. There is no brake or stop button. It just goes, full time and non stop.”
this sounds pretty much like what I experience?
thank you for your contribution to the group. I’ll probably use this as a post.
best wishes
doug
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I recognise what you mean with the flywheel, I think. It mostly shouts a list of tasks and projects I should be doing, and a list of things I really shouldn’t forget. Which makes sitting still very hard. Like you said, meditation has also helped me in the past. But for some reason I can just never stick with it. Even though I know it helps, I just can’t get myself to sit down and do it. Because *makes chaotic and dramatic arm gestures* “The things! All the things that need to be done!” xD
I also find it hard to finish things. Especially books or projects. Sometimes I can enjoy something so much, my Hyperfocus takes over (I have ADHD & Autism. My hyperfocus can be strong xD), and I finish it in no time. But a lot of the times I get bored, or something new distracts me. Which leads to reading 20 books at once, with usually about 3 or 4 actively (in turns), and about 20 craft projects. Also a few active ones. I struggle with it more, now that I’m trying to start up a small business. And having projects finished frequently (and on time) is kind of a must. So I hope I can work on it, by challenging myself (setting goals to make it interesting), and by taking my meds on time – every time.
Do you struggle with this too?
You’re welcome. And feel free to use it! ^_^
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creative-
you’re ahead of the game because you’ve nailed down some of the specific problems. next step is to ask which one or ones is really a serious significant enough problem to justify working on it. i don’t have much trouble finishing things anymore because of underlying strategies that affect that – handling distractions, focusing on one thing (still working on that one in some areas). good for you on the business and again recognizing what the issues are.
and again, thank you for contributing your comments
best wishes
doug
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Thanks!!!
When I was just diagnosed in 2018, I watched all the videos of the HowtoADHD girl on youtube. She has been a Great help for me on tackling some big issues 😃
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PS: this might help
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creative
PS: I also share, “If I can’t see it, it doesn’t exist.” Especially an issue with the refrigerator.
doug
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haha, same! And the stock cabinet ;-D
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