I am not The Expert on ADD ADHD and marriage, that would be Melissa Orlov and Martha Puryear. I do have some years in the field, but only from one side. My expertise would be in How to Live With A Partner Who is Extremely Frustrated with You.
But that’s not the book I’m writing right now.
But you and your partner can identify the behaviors that are most frustrating for them, and can come up with strategies to make those go better.
I worked with one man whose marriage vastly improved when he found a way to get to dinner on time. Mine improved when I learned how to stop losing my keys.
Ideally, your partner will help you work on the issues – help you devise a strategy, remind you when you forget, monitor things. I just have to remember that this is in the category of helping, not bossing or criticizing.
A good first step, if you haven’t already done it, is to get Orlov’s book and you and your partner read and discuss it together. Take small steps.
Your life can be better, and so can theirs.
Orlov’s new book – The Couples Guide to thriving with ADHD
melissa orlov great website on marriage link
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