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Patience? With ADD, Not So Much —- Add tip o the Day 434

With ADD or ADHD, are we short on both willpower and patience?   Aren’t they related somehow? I was looking for some information on a website and was forced to sit thru the first part of a video to be able … Continue reading

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Toxic — ADD Tip o the Day 419

Some people are toxic for us and it is better to avoid or minimize contact.  A christmas card once a year can be a good way to stay in contact.  or not. I also recommend, the Dance of Anger, by … Continue reading

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Sit and Be — ADD tip o the day 360

Getting better at this.  Just sitting takes discipline (willpower, self control) which is not a strong point with ADD or ADHD.  I say, “Oh, yeah, I will sit right after I finish this blog.” and then I jump right into something else instead.  … Continue reading

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meds and foods — ADD Tip o the Day 309

There is a lot of controversy around medications and food, especially in ADD and ADHD. Although there are strong believers, I don’t think there is any really good evidence that additives or diet have much effect on ADD or ADHD. … Continue reading

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Get outdoors —- ADD Tip o the Day 308

Why does getting out doors help with ADD or ADHD? It’s  a big help, up there with getting enough sleep and exercising.  I don’t know why.  Maybe it helps clear our mind for awhile, like sitting.  My sitting works best when I … Continue reading

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Criticism reviews —ADD Tip o the day 307

Are you excessively sensitive to criticsm?  I don’t know that ADD or ADHD makes us extra sensitive, but maybe it does – our self esteem can be pretty fragile. I’ve had two negative reviews so far.  I’ve been told that … Continue reading

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“That won’t work for me.” —- ADD Tip o the Day 306

Sometimes I hear that when I suggest a strategy for ADD or ADHD – “That won’t work for me.”  Seems like four possibilities: 1.  they’ve never tried it. 2. they tried it, but not in an effective way. 3. if … Continue reading

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The Principle — ADD Tip o the Day 301

The principle is :  identify the problem, make a strategy, make it a rule, make it a habit. Magpie did just this when she suggested a holder to hold my keys onto the gas pump, so I wouldn’t keep driving … Continue reading

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Things that are good for ADD or ADHD — ADD Tip o the Day 300

(ADD tip o the day 300!  imagine!!!) These things are good for ADD or ADHD: sleep, exercise, structure, get out of doors Someone just posted that taking the ritalin just before bedtime helped him calm his mind enough that he … Continue reading

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“Just Try Harder” — ADD tip o the Day 297

If you have ADD or ADHD, didn’t you hear this growing up? Repeatedly?  “You just need to try harder.”  Did you learn the habit of saying this to yourself? There used to be a flyer for ADD or ADHD with a picture … Continue reading

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Hard days — ADD Tip o the day 295

Some days are hard.  I  feel overloaded, not at my best, disorganized, and I can’t get started.  That’s all part of ADD or ADHD, and we need strategies. 1.  if I have more than 5 things on my list of … Continue reading

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Self flogging — ADD Tip o the Day 293

I don’t know if self flogging is a  part of ADD or ADHD, or if we  just have more occasions to do it.  Roni posted about this on ADDer World, and she plans to stop  it, which is good.  Self flogging … Continue reading

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Topics from ADDerWorld —- ADD Tip o the Day 291

ADDerWorld is a great website – clik here-for us with ADD or ADHD.  Three current topics caught my eye – addiction to games, can’t clean room, and self flogging. I was addicted to computer games, war games, loved them.  Fun, challenging, … Continue reading

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Numbers, numbsers, numners!! — ADD Tip o the Day 289

Well, I type letters better than I type numbers, or dial them (or write them down).  With my ADD (or ADHD), I need to carefully double check when I write down a phone number or when I dial one.  Especially … Continue reading

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The Have Done Non List — ADD Tip o the Day 287

This just in from my sister, Lucy, who does not have ADD or ADHD, but has been supportive of my struggles and was one of the  courageous reviewers of the terrible early drafts of the book: “A hint for the … Continue reading

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Notes — ADD Tip o the Day 286

With ADD or ADHD taking notes is essential, like making lists.  But we need strategies even for that. For notes to be useful, they need to be legible, understandable, and locatable. 1. I use the index cards that are always … Continue reading

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Still sitting —- ADD Tip o the Day 285

The just sitting experiment is back on track after a brief detour.  Hard to do with ADD or ADHD. The strategy of using meal times as anchors to remember to sit did not work, so I’m just doing it when … Continue reading

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OCD and ADD — ADD Tip o the Day 284

Remember the movie, As Good As It Gets?  Jack Nicholson with OCD.  That’s the disorder, with symptoms.  But there is a spectrum, from style, traits, personality disorder, to (neurosis) disorder.  The majority of American males have obsessive-compulsive style, which doesn’t really … Continue reading

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Expectations — Add Tip o the Day 282

We with ADD or ADHD tend to overexpect, of ourselves.  We underestimate how long something will take to do and overestimate how much we can get done in a day.  Then we get disappointed with ourself and tend to feel … Continue reading

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Does it really matter? — ADD Tip o the day 281

“Is it really important?”  Our grandson is in the hospital, and we were taking a break by going to a movie (Marigold Hotel – great!).  Looked like we were going to be late, and I noticed myself getting all up tight … Continue reading

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The i phone and ADD: an adventure — ADDTip o the day 275

Kids gave me an i phone for christmas, said I needed it.  I didn’t realize that, thought I was doing fine without it.  Dystechnologica can accompany ADD or ADHD.  Steep learning curve.  Why do half my fotos come out upside down?  How do I get … Continue reading

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Sitting ???? —- ADD Tip o the day 274

Still trying the experiment.  Two surprises:  One, how hard it is to get myself to do it.  I say, “After I do this, I’ll sit.”  Finish this, find myself doing something else.  Repeat the process.  Then when I finally sit, … Continue reading

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The stress of coping with ADD — ADD Tip o the Day 273

She had read the book, and said, “It seems like you try so hard, it might be easier to just have ADD.”         or ADHD. Well, no. A) if I didn’t have strategies and keep working at it, my whole life … Continue reading

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Bookkeeping?— ADD Tip o the Day 272

Do I hate bookkeeping because I’m no good at it, or am I no good at it because I hate it?  Or because I have ADD? (can you think of any other word in English with kk in it?) Maybe it … Continue reading

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Tidbits — ADD Tip o the Day 271

1. the blog has reached 9000 hits!  thank you all!  The book has sold over 1800 copies, the majority on kindle.  Thank you again! Very surprised and very pleased. 2.  I am reading and recommending 3 books: Willpower – baumeister Thinking, … Continue reading

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Exercise and ADD — ADD Tip o the day 270

Exercise and sleep help us function better if we have ADD or ADHD.  Strategies for exercise:  A: Make sure it’s not a chore, an unpleasant task.                             B: Make it a priority.                                                                                  C: Make it a routine, a habit. … Continue reading

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Being and ADD —- ADD Tip o the day 269

I’m trying a new discipline (strategy, skill) which is quite difficult with ADD or ADHD, of just being three times a day.  I will sit and just be for a few minutes.  This is not meditation, which requires not getting … Continue reading

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Comorbid: ADD and addiction —- ADD Tip o the day 260

We with ADD or ADHD are  more prone to addictions: alcohol, pot, stimulating drugs because they make us more focused, sedating drugs because they calm us, gambling, exercise, the internet -email, facebook, freecell, porn, etc – because these help us escape … Continue reading

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Willpower #4 —- ADD Tip o the day 267

I’m reading a great book, Willpower, by Baumeister.  We start each morning with a pool of psychic energy, which gets depleted during the day each time we resist a temptation or make a decision.  So we become more and more vulnerable … Continue reading

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Is this really necessary? —- ADD Tip o the day 266

With my ADD, it’s important that I learn to ask that question before I start something and even while I’m doing something.  Is this really necessary?  What’s the payoff?  What will happen if I don’t do it?  How does it … Continue reading

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Psychology of ADD: Defenses — ADD Tip o the day 264

With or without ADD or ADHD, we couldn’t survive without defenses.  But some are more healthy and functional than others.  Healthy – humor, sublimation, altruism, et al.  Unfortunately we tend to some others, like denial and avoidance. denial – I … Continue reading

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Psychology of ADD: Perfectionism — ADD Tip o the day 263

So we with ADD or ADHD tend to a big dose of shame, and often we coped by trying to be perfect.   “I’ll show them; they’ll see I am worth something.”  and “If I do it perfectly, then nobody … Continue reading

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Psychology of ADD: Shame —– ADD Tip o the day 262

Shame is a deep core emotion, which we with ADD or ADHD tend to carry with us, from childhood failures, inadequacies and criticisms.  Shame involves other people; it’s the way we feel when we think our bad stuff is exposed … Continue reading

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Comorbid: Dyslexia et al — ADD Tip o the day 261

With ADD or ADHD we are more likely to have learning problems – dyslexia, dyscalcula, dysgraphia.  I have a touch of each.  These are not actually part of ADD or ADHD, they just seem to frequently travel together. I read … Continue reading

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Anxiety and ADD —- Tip o the day 259

30-50% of us with ADD or ADHD have a comorbid anxiety disorder also.  Many people with anxiety problems turn out to also have ADD.  Anxiety alone can produce some of the symptoms of ADD, but I doubt if it can … Continue reading

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Comorbid: Depression and ADD —- ADD Tip o the day 258

We with ADD and ADHD have a 2.7 times higher rate of depression than the general public where the rate is about 10%. Reasons: 1. Childhood abuse, shame, failures  make us vulnerable to depression.  2. our continued failures and poor … Continue reading

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Comorbid —- ADD Tip o the day 257

Comorbid refers to conditions that go along with the primary problem, in our case  ADD or ADHD.  This is not a list of our problems, but of diagnoses that often accompany them: 1. Depression – our problems set us up … Continue reading

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Impulse spending —- ADD Tip o the day 256

With ADD or ADHD this can be a big problem.  How big a problem is it for you, and how much do you want to control it?  You need strategies: 1. cut up your credit cards.  You have eight good … Continue reading

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Budget and impulse buying — ADD Tip o the day 255

I was asked to comment on budget and impulse buying.   I might not be the best person for this, but – will offer a few thoughts: We were never able to keep a budget and spent a lot of … Continue reading

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Reading with ADD – Tip o the day 254

I love reading.  But do I have dyslexia, which often accompanies ADD or ADHD?  In general I don’t have a reading problem – maybe.  I do reverse numbers all the time, rarely letters.  I read fast, have no patience to … Continue reading

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Stuck with ADD — ADD Tip o the day 253

With ADD or ADHD we can easily become stuck or paralyzed.  Sometimes I just can’t get started on anything. I wrote about ‘the one fork strategy';  just pick one very small thing and do it. A man responded, ‘My wife would not be happy at … Continue reading

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How to change — ADD Tip o the day 252

Change is hard for anyone, not just for people with ADD or ADHD.  First, we have to make up our mind to change; the payoff has to be worth the effort to us (usually someone else wanting us to change is not enough). … Continue reading

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Podcasts and ADD — ADD Tip o the day 251

Do you watch or listen to podcasts? I never have, but there’s some appealing topics  on facebook, some on ADD or ADHD.  I assumed that I wouldn’t have the time or the patience for them, but decided to check it out. Learned … Continue reading

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– ADD Tip o the day 249

Bonnie Mincu’s blog came up with a concept new to me, that some of us ADDers or ADHDers think that using a calender is a cop out.  They pride themself on their memory.  Would this fit this any of my … Continue reading

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good links ADD Tip o the day 247

here’s links for some particularly good blogs we all struggle with the same stuff, and we can find strategies that help us make our lives better.  then we can share them. bonnie mincu clik here anahi ortiz clik here for those … Continue reading

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criticism with ADD —- ADD Tip o the day 245

just got the first NEGATIVE REVIEW! on amazon, by J. well, I had anticipated it sooner or later – some people don’t like flan, i don’t like broccoli, not everyone is going to like the book.  that’s life.  isn’t that … Continue reading

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Succeeding —- ADD Tip o the day 244

Anahi Ortiz Md, pediatrician and ADHD coach interviewed me for her blog, about how I’ve managed in spite of ADD.  you might find it interesting :   clik here and it looks like i’ve learned how to do the “clik here” … Continue reading

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Sit! —- ADD Tip o the day 243

New idea!  – think it’s gonna be great!  if you have ADD or ADHD, or even if you don’t—– Went to weekend event, wasn’t what I’d expected, but was able to go into chapel by myself and SIT.  prayed a … Continue reading

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Memory aids — ADD TIp o the day 242

With ADD or ADHD our problem is focus and not really memory, so it’s paradoxical that we need memory aids, but we do.  Otherwise, we don’t remember, and then—— I wear a black elastic on my wrist to remind me … Continue reading

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Memory????? What memory? —ADD tip o the day 241

Bonnie Mincu just put up a great post: We think we have bad memories actually we probably don’t, we just have trouble with attention and concentration (ie focus) so it comes out the same.  but we get down on ourselves (a strategy … Continue reading

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Motivation and add —– ADD Tip o the day 240

A comment from Ken  “What I was able to do was ‘start again’ and consider myself to be rock bottom at everything and be ok with this. From then on, rather like the “glass half-full” idea, I took anything and … Continue reading

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Envelope backs —– ADD Tip o the day 238

an insightful comment from Lucy.  I do like using envelope backs for the informal flexible evolving to-do-lists.  With ADD or ADHD we need all the strategies and tools we can find. refers to Tip 236:   “Do you know why … Continue reading

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Not good enough —- ADD Tip o the day 237

With ADD or ADHD we tend to get critical and down on ourself.  That’s demoralizing. I play the guitar – usually I would have  put a self depreciatory comment here, or  put “play” in quotation marks, but not today.   … Continue reading

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alone part 2 — ADD Tip o the day 236

People with ADD or ADHD tend to do better if someone else is around. My wife is back home and I’m glad, but I didn’t unravel or fall apart this time.  OK, she wasn’t gone that long, but she was … Continue reading

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Robin’s comments ADD Tip o the day 235

 Robin, a professional specialist on ADD, commented: ‘That’s a common thing in adults who are not diagnosed until adulthood – grief.  I could get by for a really long time by doing things in my screwy Robin way – I remember … Continue reading

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Putting it off — ADD Tip o the day 234

Most of you are too young to know the song The Arkansas Traveler.  The traveler finds an old man sitting in his flooded cabin playing his fiddle in a downpour while the roof is leaking. The traveler asks why the … Continue reading

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Avoiding —- ADD Tip o the day 233

We all do that too, don’t we, if we have ADD or ADHD?  Kind of a special tool to facilitate procrastination.  And anything can be used.  Some other task.  An unimportant project – “I’ll just get all these papers alphabetized … Continue reading

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Self abuse — ADD Tip of the day 232

OK, let’s be honest, we all do it, right? especially if we have ADD or ADHD. Linda spoke about it in her review (Tip 231) , she called it berating.  Some of us refer to The Critic, others to the … Continue reading

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A review (excerpts) — ADD Tip o the day 231

Let me share a review from Linda, which tells a lot about ADD or ADHD: I’d read only a few pages of Dr. Puryear’s book before I unexpectedly began to recognize myself. It wasn’t the idea of making lists on … Continue reading

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Alone with ADD —- ADD Tip o the day 230

How do you do on your own?  Alone? My wife is leaving (no, not like that)for five days.  I know the script – the first 3 days will be great!  I can do as I please (more or less).  I … Continue reading

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“Out of bounds” —– ADD tip o the day 229

The waitress was young, nice, and attractive ( I still notice such things sometimes).  She didn’t do a very good job. When she returned with the check, I asked her how long she had been waitressing.  She was a little … Continue reading

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Want to — ADD tip o the day 228

“want to” can be a booger when it overwhelms “need to”, but it can also be a great helper.  Recent posts showed the dangers of “have to” and “should” and the advantages of “need to” and “could”.  But even better … Continue reading

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Need to, want to —– ADD Tip o the day 227

Hope you got the concept of the importance of language, and of the dangers of the “have to”s and the “should”s.  This is especially important if we have ADD or ADHD. Linda shared a great comment from her daughter – … Continue reading

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Have to, need to, want to — ADD Tip o the day 225

Have to, need to, want to – can you tell the difference?  That can be difficult if we have ADD or ADHD, but its important. Have to- in reality, there is very little that we “have to” do.  If the … Continue reading

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Slogans —- ADD Tip o the day 224

We all have self talk, don’t we? It can harm us or be a useful tool. These are some slogans I’ve found useful in self talk: 1. Do it now, do it right, do the hard part first. 2. I … Continue reading

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The secret of life — ADD Tip o the day 223

What is the secret of life??  I keep thinking that I’ll finally get it together, maybe this year, certainly by next.   All the little bits of insights that I have, that come and go, will finally fall into place and … Continue reading

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Other views — ADD Tip o the day 222

My family has been exposed to the book – One son in law tells me that his ADD problems are mostly resolved by taking st johns wort, 5 H tryptophan, and tyrosine.  These are natural chemicals which increase dopamine and nor … Continue reading

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Too much and too many —— ADD Tip o the day 221

Does this apply to you at all? The New Yorker articles say that everytime we make a choice it uses up some of our limited willpower.  This is especially important to those of us who have ADD or ADHD; we … Continue reading

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ADD and spirituality —- ADD Tip o the day 220

What do we mean by spirituality?  (forget Webster).  Spirituality means to me at least an acknowledgement that there is something beyond our direct recognition that has an influence in our lives and which in some way we can pay attention to and … Continue reading

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ADD and rule number 7 —ADD tip o the day 219

A businessman was sitting in the office of a CEO when the secretary burst in – ” Excuse me for interrupting but there’s a big problem!  Joe just called and he said -so and so and so on–“ The CEO listened … Continue reading

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Facebook? — ADD Tip o the day 217

Do you get frustrated with facebook or is it just me?   Is it ADD or ADHD? A lot of things don’t work the way I want, and maybe I need a separate page for the blog/book?  People have given … Continue reading

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We’re all different —- ADD Tip of the day 218

“We are all more human than otherwise.”  HS Sullivan, speaking of his work with people with schizophrenia.  True, but we are all unique too, including those of us with ADD or ADHD.  Several people have told me that the book … Continue reading

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Expectations — ADD Tip o the day 216

“Doug, we surely don’t feel brilliant most of the time. Those “extra gifts and talents”, you mentioned, are where we shine, but it is usually obscured by years of false expectations (by other as well as by ourselves) to do … Continue reading

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Watch this — ADD Tip o the day 214

just got this from bonnie mincu at http://www.thrivewithADD.com it’s great watch this!!!  http://www.theattentionmovie.com doug

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Dithering —- ADD Tip o the day 213

Do you sometimes get in a dither?  A few days ago I was dithering (is that a word?)  Had a lot to do, tho no more than usual.  Couldn’t get going.  Couldn’t decide where to start.  Went this way, then … Continue reading

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Ritalin?????? — ADD Tip o the day 212

new article in new york times – by prof of psychology.  raises lots of questions about using ritalin or other stimulants in children. (doesnt say anything about adults). i would have to dig a lot deeper to grasp  all he … Continue reading

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Some things I am not good at — ADD Tip o the day 210

I am not good at: (at least partly related to ADD or ADHD) 1. facebook- and I even tried reading the directions, which i rarely do.  mess every thing up 2. linked in – dont understand the concept, how to … Continue reading

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See the beauty — ADD Tip o the day 208

Do you see the beauty?  It’s part of what makes life worth living , but often I miss it.  When I lived in Baltimore, and was depressed, I would walk down the street surrounded by these gorgeous old buildings, architectural and historical … Continue reading

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Irritability — ADD Tip o the day 207

Did you know that irritability is part of ADD?  So its not just me.    I get annoyed by little things, and have some pet peeves. 1. The waiter says, “No problem.”  This is a resturant.  You’re a waiter.  Why in … Continue reading

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Whining — ADD Tip o the day 204

Life can be hard.  Life with ADD or ADHD is harder than without it.  There are lots of things worse tho.  So, is this whining or just acknowledging facts? But life with ADD or ADHD can become a lot easier … Continue reading

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Lists don’t work! —ADD Tip o the day 203

Three people have commented that lists don’t work for them.  Lists is a great strategy if you have ADD or ADHD.  But they don’t work, not by themselves.  You need strategies for using the strategy of lists. 1.  make a … Continue reading

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Safe medicines? — ADD Tip o the day 201

I mentioned the studies on Ritalin and possible heart problems. Here are the articles: ADHD Drugs Not Linked to Increased Heart Risks in Adults Study May Calm Fears That the Stimulant Drugs Can Lead to Heart Attacks BySalynn Boyles WebMD Health … Continue reading

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Side effects —ADD Tip o the day 202

When I recommend a medication to someone (with or without ADD or ADHD), they often ask a very reasonable question, “What are the side effects?”    If I tell you the potential side effects, you are more likely to get them.   So I … Continue reading

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Ritalin etc, Safe? — ADD Tip of the day 200!

This week  both a friend and a patient told me that their doctors had advised that they stop taking Ritalin because of fear of long term effect on their heart.  Ritalin can sometimes increase blood pressure and pulse rate, but there … Continue reading

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More Good Free Stuff! —– ADD Tip o the day 199

OK, here’s another great web site- Bonnie Mincu, ADD coach.  Now that the book is out I’m having enough time to start looking at other sites, and have subscribed to this one.  She gives good tips about dealing with clutter, and … Continue reading

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Eat desert first —– ADD Tip o the day 198

That’s my new years resolution for 2012.  And Happy New Year by the way. Eat desert first because you never know what’s going to happen.  We can make all these plans and schedules and then boom!  something unexpected pops up.  Thats why … Continue reading

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inattentive — ADD Tip o the day 197

One reader of the book commented that I didn’t say much about the inattentive type of ADD. Because I have the mixed type.  Most females with ADD have the inattentive type, so its not ADHD.  Like in so many other things, … Continue reading

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Good stuff — ADD Tip o the day 197

There is good free stuff on Pete Quily’s site.  He is an ADD coach in Canada who helped me with the book.  He offers a free coaching session and an e magazine.  check it out. http://www.addcoach4u.com/whoispetequily.html I haven’t used my free … Continue reading

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ADD and Learning Disablities ADD Tip o the day 196

Are learning disabilities a part of ADD? No, but we have more than our share of them, which makes sense since it is all about how the brain is wired, or miswired in this case (that’s another topic, could lead to … Continue reading

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Can you believe yet another overwhelmed? — ADD tip o the day 195

The book is out -Yea!! and in three bookstores – double Yea!! and of course on amazon.  OK.  Now its time to get the E book out.  Paid John to format it, task seemed too overwhelming to try myself.  He … Continue reading

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Overwhelmed part 4 —- ADD Tip o the day 194

So the third type of overwhelmed I might call “frantic”.  My wife called me, “Come on, Doug, let’s go, we’re going to be late.  And would you make sure the doors are locked and take out the gargbage.”  I was … Continue reading

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Overwhelmed again, part 3 —ADD tip o the day 193

I just realized (pretty late in the game, huh?), that there is more than one form of overwhelmed.  1. the typical, “Oh my gosh, I have so much to do and I can’t even decide where to start and this … Continue reading

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“Just try harder” — ADD Tip of the day 192

If we have ADD or ADHD we have probably heard that all our life.  We probably say that to ourself too.  That is a strategy – just try harder.  It doesn’t work!  As  strategy, it stinks.  It is just a … Continue reading

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“Just a behavioral problem —-” ADD tip of the day 191

Arrrrgh!!!   That drives me right up the wall.  Research show differences in the brains of those of us with ADD or ADHD.  The patterns of problems that we have are quite consistent and don’t match those of people with “just … Continue reading

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The book is here! — ADD Tip o the day 190

At last!  We folks with ADD or ADHD are not noted for our patience.  But the book is now available on amazon. com.  Type in “your life can be better” using the quote marks.  It has a nice cover and big … Continue reading

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ADD and journaling — ADD Tip o the day 189

Journaling has a lot of benefits for anyone.  Probably the important ones for those of us with ADD or ADHD are that it is stress relieving and it also enhances awareness.  It helps us to get things that are bugging … Continue reading

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Coping with The Critic —-ADD Tip o the day 188

Our inner critic can really sabotage us, especially if we have ADD or ADHD and there are so many opportunities for criticism and it falls on such fertile ground.  But we can use strategies to cope: 1.  spotting – this is … Continue reading

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The Critic — ADD Tip o the day 187

Many people carry an internal critic, but for those of us with ADD or ADHD it is usually extra harsh and critical.  It’s even worse since many of us developed perfectionism as a way of trying to cope with our … Continue reading

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Remember strategies — ADD Tip o the day 186

There was not  a lot of response to the request for strategies to help us remember to use our strategies, but Marc came up with some good ones: sticky notes, tell a friend, and journaling, which will help the weak … Continue reading

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Using structure — ADD Tip o the day 185

Structure includes having a routine, or schedule, or guidelines, or requirements.  If we have ADD or ADHD, we do better with structure.  This can include getting up and going to bed at about the same time each day (with reasonable … Continue reading

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ADD and outdoors — ADD Tip o the day 184

When I am stressed, worried, feel overloaded, I look at the mountains and remark that they were here long before I came and they will be here long after I’m gone.  It helps put things in perspective. When I am … Continue reading

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Willpower again — ADD Tip o the day 183

New York Times article, different take on willpower.  New research says that will power is not as limited as previously reported.  Now they say that people who believe that willpower is limited are easily depleted in willpower, but those that … Continue reading

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ADD and “drugs” — ADD Tip o the day 182

warning: this is something of a rant, about my personal viewpoint.  Yours may be different. I am old fashioned; at my age I am entitled to that.  I am a physician, not a “provider” or a “vendor”, and I see … Continue reading

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Request for ideas — ADD Tip o the day 181

If we have ADD or ADHD we need strategies. There are a lot of good strategies that will make our life better. They are not hard to use. But if we have ADD or ADHD it can be hard to … Continue reading

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ADD and extroversion — ADD Tip o the day 180

At Clafutti’s, our great French bistro, the kids sitting next to us looked like college kids.  I said, “Excuse me, I’m doing some marketing research. May I ask you a question?”  They said yes and I asked them about social … Continue reading

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Ritalin for adult ADD? — ADD tip of the day 179

Most of my ADD or ADHD patients use Ritalin and find it very helpful.  Some need quite low doses and some quite high doses; everybody is different.  I am not using it.  When I tried it the small benefits (slightly … Continue reading

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Yoga and ADD —– ADD Tip of the day 178

Yoga seems particularly beneficial for ADD.  Have never tried it personally but have seen others benefit from it.  It is suggested to relieve stress and to make one more aware of and in control of the body, which might help … Continue reading

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Prayer, meditation, yoga, massage —- ADD Tip o the day 177

What do these four things all have in common? They are all good for ADD and ADHD, and– they reduce stress, lower blood pressure, and have antidepressant effects. there is variable amounts of scientific evidence supporting each of these, most … Continue reading

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Don’t sweat the small stuff —- ADD Tip o the day 176

—– and it’s all small stuff! Heard that all my life, but am only now beginning to understand it – I think. Having ADD or ADHD we tend to be irritable, and maybe even a little over sensitive.  But most … Continue reading

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Exercise and ADD — ADD Tip o the day 175

We all know that exercise is good for us, for our general physical and mental health, but did you know that it specifically helps for ADD and ADHD?   Why is that? Exercise lowers stress and is an antidpressant, so that helps, … Continue reading

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ADD and sleep — Tip o the day 174

I don’t think that sleep is particularly a problem with ADD or ADHD (although it can be if you take the ritalin too late in the day), but if we don’t get adequate sleep it makes our ADD worse.  So … Continue reading

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Ten things that help — ADD Tip o the day 173

If we have ADD or ADHD, here are some things that are helpful: 1. adequate sleep 2. exercise 3. meditation (tho it’s hard to do) 4. massage 5. journaling 6. yoga 7. structure 8. spend some time outdoors 9. prayer … Continue reading

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ADD meltdown — ADD Tip o the day 172

At the Kairos weekend I was suddenly appointed music leader.  Suddenly.  No preparation time.  I had my song book but I thought the page numbers in the songbooks the guys had were different than in mine, so I had to transpose.  … Continue reading

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ADD and crisis —ADD Tip o the day 171

We were having a steak lunch at a Kairos weekend and the guy to my left lifted both hands up in the air.  Strange.  Then he put his hands around his neck.  The guy to his left asked if he was OK … Continue reading

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The brain in ADD — ADD Tip o the day 170

The November 2011 issue of The American Journal of Psychiatry has an interesting article on ADD, a meta-analysis of brain imaging studies (lumping together the data from all of the subjects from well done studies and analyzing the group).  It shows that  … Continue reading

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Did you know??? — ADD Tip o the day 169

You probably already know: 1. This blog is just about to record the 4000 th hit – it could be you! 2.  You can subscribe so you’ll get an e mail each time there is a new post.  Unfortunately, I … Continue reading

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Make up your mind — ADD tip o the day 168

Feeling overwhelmed again, lots to do, long to do list.  Those of us with ADD or ADHD have trouble setting priorities, but I was able to make a list of five, the five top things.  Good strategy, but it didn’t … Continue reading

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Inattentive — ADD Tip o the day 167

I just did a blog on how I don’t really read what I’m reading, but just kind of skim thru and maybe don’t read the last bit at all.  I do not recommend this!   Now I noticed that I just … Continue reading

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Delegate —- ADD Tip o the day 166

The computer got messed up so I had to buy a new one.  I’m technologically challenged, so I hired a high school student to set it up.  I could have done the first part, but there were lots of complicated issues … Continue reading

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OCD and ADD — ADD Tip o the day 165

OCD and ADD (or ADHD) are different things, but they have some things in common-perfectionism and procrastination, for example.  If we have ADD, a small dose of OCD can be quite helpful – we are more likely to pay attention … Continue reading

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How can I speak if I have ADD? — ADD Tip o the day 163

Someone just called and asked for a prescription for propranolol for stage fright, anxiety before public speaking.  This is a beta blocker, often used by musicians and other performers before a performance.  It counter acts norepinephrine and blocks anxiety symptoms. There … Continue reading

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Getting started with ADD — ADD Tip o the day 164

Stuck. Paralyzed. Stagnating. Avoiding. Procrastinating.   All of the above. Procrastinating is one of the hallmarks of ADD or ADHD, but we don’t even always recognize when we are doing it, and even when we do we can still be … Continue reading

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Do I have ADD? — Tip o the day 162

Why are you asking?  Do you think you have it or has someone else told you you do?  Why? Do you have trouble getting started on things or trouble finishing them?  Are you impatient, irritable, impulsive?  Do you start out … Continue reading

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Is this really necessary? —- ADD Tip o the day 161

Those of us coping with ADD or ADHD can get bogged down in unnecessary work or projects.  I got the proof of the book back, on the net, and after going through 27 drafts, I still found over 80 errors!  … Continue reading

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Hurry! Hurry! Hurry! — ADD Tip o the day 160

I feel like there is a big fly wheel turning inside, and it never stops.  The sound it makes is Hurry! Hurry! Hurry. My wife and I were on vacation, and I was waiting for her to get ready so … Continue reading

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Stay ahead — ADD Tip o the day 159

I try to stay ahead.  We are going to Houston, I will pack the day before.  I try to do the blog and save  it as a draft the day before it’s due.  If I see something that needs doing, … Continue reading

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ADD and reading — ADD Tip o the day 158

I read one of the paragraphs in the little blue book nearly every time I come in or out of the office.  It helps me keep on track and it’s uplifting.  I just noticed that I tend to rush through … Continue reading

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Overwhelmed again part 2 — ADD Tip o the day 157

There are two main strategies for overwhelmed: 1.  Make the big list, everything you need to do.  Make a short list, the most urgent or important.  Pick one, maybe break it into small steps.  Pick one, usually the hardest, focus … Continue reading

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The small voice — ADD Tip o the day 156

I got instructions off the net of how to fix the computer.  They didn’t work.  I had the necessary installation disc in the disc drive.  I have two disc drives.  I thought of putting it in the other one, but … Continue reading

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Do something!—Add tip o the day 155

Computer crashed! Bummer!  Fortunately can use my wifes.  Found out how to fix it on internet.  Great!  Two hours effort, doesn’t work.  Bummer!  This kind of thing can ruin my whole day and my mental outlook.  Can do this blog … Continue reading

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Overwhelmed – again —- ADD Tip o the day 154

A young man called for help today, he was “overwhelmed”.  He had so many things he needed to do and he just couldn’t get started.  He was paralyzed. I didn’t point out to him that “overwhelmed” is simply a state … Continue reading

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Ask for directions? —- ADD Tip o the day 153

Men don’t like to ask for directions.  Research has shown that’s at least partly related to a difference in our brain wiring.  Maybe that’s doubly or more true of men with ADD or ADHD.  If I ask for directions, I … Continue reading

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ADHD diagnosis – too much or not enough? — ADD Tip o the day 152

There is a lot of controversy about diagnosing and treating kids for ADHD.  The teacher calls the parents and asks them to get the doctor to get the kid some ritalin, because he is driving her crazy.  Meanwhile, the girl … Continue reading

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Does ADD Get Better? —- Tip o The day 151

People sometimes ask if ADD or ADHD gets better. Well, there are some programs that are supposed to help, like balancing and coordination exercises, and someone just told me that the memory program at cogmed.com has helped them.  And the … Continue reading

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Public speaking and ADD -ADD Tip o the day 150

Some just called and asked for a prescription for propranolol for stage fright, anxiety before public speaking.  This is a beta blocker, often used by musicians and other performers before a performance.  It counter acts nor epinephrine and blocks anxiety … Continue reading

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The Book! and slow down — ADD Tip o the day 149

The book came (on the net) from the publisher yesterday.  Now I need to proof read it.  Big job, finding a lot of errors to correct.  I am eager, excited, and in a hurry.  I want to get it done … Continue reading

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Decide the night before — ADD Tip o the day 148

The list of five is a crucial strategy.  Then we need to pick one. For many of us coping with ADD or ADHD it is good to make the list and pick one the night before.  When we wake up … Continue reading

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Handwriting — ADD Tip o the day 147

Believe it or not, my handwriting continues to get better.  It is almost semi legible most of the time now.  I just had this fantastic insight- if I want my handwriting to be better I need to focus some of my attention on how … Continue reading

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Avoid decisions — ADD Tip o the day 146

It is impressive how the new research on decision making confirms the ADD or ADHD strategies in the book.  Having rules to follow minimizes the need to make decisions, just follow the rule.  For example, I never have to decide … Continue reading

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Will power – Summary — ADD Tip o the day 145

Do those of us with ADD or ADHD lack will power? I don’t know, but we sure could use some more.  We tend to be impulsive, to blurt out, to procrastinate, to not finish, and so on.  All of those … Continue reading

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Will power part 3 — ADD Tip o the day 144

Since we know that if we have ADD or ADHD we are impulsive and impatient and not strong on will power, we have to be careful – the example I’m using is in buying a car, but this applies to … Continue reading

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Will power part 2 — ADD Tip o the day 143

Making decisions depletes our will power, and our capacity to make more decisions. the car salesman knows this.  he gives you lots of options, and makes many offers, and finally goes to talk with his boss – what do you … Continue reading

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Will power? — ADD tip o the day 142

A great article in the August 21, 2011 NY Times magazine, To Choose Is To Lose.  Scientific. We each have limited will power. It can get depleted by: 1. using it    2. making decisions    3. low blood sugar … Continue reading

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Driven — Tip o the day 141

One of the worst things about ADD is feeling driven so much of the time, like there is giant fly-wheel inside that won’t stop, that I have so much to do, so much pressure and have to keep going and … Continue reading

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“Bill”, the lazy slob — ADD Tip o the day 140

How many of you read today’s Annie’s mailbox (the new Ann Landers), “Husband’s laziness irritates his wife”?  How many of you figured it out? “I have to remind him frequently to pick up after himself and finish what he started. … Continue reading

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ADD and loving it — ADD Tip o the day 138

That’s the title of the show my wife and I watched on PBS last night.  It is highly recommended for anyone who is trying to cope with ADD or ADHD, and for their significant other.  Like the ADD coach Pete … Continue reading

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Hurry!! — ADD Tip o the day 136

I sent the book to the publisher and they sent me back a sample chapter so I could check and revise the way they had set it up, the chapter headings etc.  I was very excited.  I was in a hurry … Continue reading

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Distraction — ADD Tip o the day 135

My wife and I had a running disagreement about my colleges grades, she thought I was putting myself down and saying they were worse than they were.  So I ordered my transcript.  I didn’t know that I had ADD when … Continue reading

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Your life can be better — ADD Tip o the day 134

My daughter just told me that one of my reviewers had commented to her that he felt sorry for me after reading the book.  That’s one of the things I was afraid of and I tried to address it and … Continue reading

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Forgiving part 2 — ADD Tip o the day 133

We humans are not programmed for forgiving, it is one of the hardest things to do.  It may be that we need to forgive ourselves first if we are to learn how to forgive others.  If we are struggling with … Continue reading

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