I am way too busy – is it life, or me, or ADHD?
I know that “busy” is only a state of mind and not a reality. I truely believe this, although I have found it difficult to sell the concept to other people who find themselves “busy.” The fact is we can only do one thing at a time (in general) and that one thing is the only thing we need to do right now.. When it is done, then we will have another one thing to do.
But there are many factors causing us to feel that or to believe that we are busy, and these factors interrelate and reinforce each other.
With ADHD we have trouble setting priorities. We have many interests and we want to do everything, so we have an impossibly long to-do list, which we probably don’t know how to use (the rule of five.) We have trouble completing things, so there are unfinished tasks hanging over our heads.
Life can be hard, but with strategies to address these things, our lives can be better. But I still feel busy today.
ADHD Strategies for Prioritizing from Doug
How to prioritize – from Margarita
Decide what’s important – from Dana
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ram – too busy:
1. hard to set priorities
2. want to do it all
3. set rules but it’s hard to follow them
4. life is complicated
ram – 1. good on the crossing the negative thoughts. thats a really good strategy.
2. to do lists – what makes it hard for you? suggestion – make a to do list, keep it where you cant miss it, with you all the time, check it several times a day. all that is standard. but for you, maybe make the to – list of only one thing? the thing you really want to be sure to get done today. once you’ve done that, and crossed it off, the day is a success, no matter what else. just be sure the one thing is a small step, not some big project.
3. and good on not letting the guilt take over. its a booger, and a saboteur.
4. when you are focused on the one thing you’re doing, you dont want to be thinking about the other stuff. if you need to, write the other stuff down as it comes to you and set it aside til you’ve done the one thing.
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6. hope some of this may be helpful to you, and as always, thank you for commenting and best wishes
I hear you about being busy! It IS a state of mind, I think. It’s sometimes overwhelming, whether you had a short but good night sleep and have plenty of time or you need more sleep than usual and have less time. And while you’re doing stuff, you keep remembering all the things you keep putting off and then feel guilty about it. And the of course, you have to work on that feeling of guilt right on the spot. It’s chore, sometimes. :p
I still find it so overwhelming that I still don’t have much success with to-do lists – I rarely even make them. But I’m getting good and crossing each negative thought with “Well, but you got THAT other thing done, and that’s great!” so I’m counting my blessings. 🙂
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