Decrease the Pressure – ADHD Tip O the Day 999

With my ADHD, I tend to feel pressured all the time.  I don’t like that. I work to avoid that feeling.

1. Limit your to-do list to five items.

2. Cut everything into small steps.

3. Spread your tasks out.

4. Ask “Is this necessary?”  If so, is it urgent?

Additional Tidbits O the Day:

20% of ADHDers hoard.

Other comorbidities:

depression, anxiety, dyslexia, dyspraxia (clumsiness), insomnia,bipolar,dyscalcula, dystechnologica, rejection sensitive dysphoria. Just to name a few.

(meaning, I think, these occur often along with ADHD, and more often than in vanillas.)

A miswired brain is a miswired brain.


Writer Doris Lessing on how to choose what to read:

“There is only one way to read, which is to browse in libraries and bookshops, picking up books that attract you, reading only those, dropping them when they bore you, skipping the parts that drag – and never, never reading anything because you feel you ought, or because it is part of a trend or a movement. Remember that the book which bores you when you are twenty or thirty will open doors for you when you are forty or fifty-and vise versa. Don’t read a book out of its right time for you.”

Source: The Golden Notebook


How to change a habit

Strategies and habits




Quotes O the Day:

“You can’t go wrong with flowers, gold, or diamonds.”

my wife

“Bigger pile, smaller shovel.”

Someone who is getting older.

Personal note O the Day:

This is my next to last post.  I’m trying to think of what to post for Tip number 1000.  It ought to be special, spectacular.  I considered posting a nude selfie but my wife said she didn’t think it would go over well.

Too Much Pressure!


Ha ha ha!


Short Term Goals


The ADHD Mind












#ADHD, #adultADHD, @dougmkpdp,  @addstrategies, @adhdstrategies

About doug with ADHD

I am a psychiatric physician. I learned I have ADHD at age 64, and then wrote two ADHD books for adults, focusing on strategies for making your life better. I just published my first novel, Alma Means Soul. Your Life Can Be Better; strategies for adults with ADD/ADHD available at, or (for e books) Living Daily With Adult ADD or ADHD: 365 Tips O the Day ( e-book). This is one tip at a time, one page at a time, at your own pace. It's meant to last a year. As a child, I was a bully. Then there was a transformation. Now I am committed to helping people instead abusing them. The Bully was published in January, 2016. It's in print or e book, on Amazon.
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10 Responses to Decrease the Pressure – ADHD Tip O the Day 999

  1. Dee says:

    Thanks Doug! I needed this. Being a homemaker (for over 20 Years), my husband was used to me managing and holding it all together. The food pantry, grocery list, finances, social calendar, pets, kids, Marine Corps events, vacations, bdays.
    Today, post-menopausal and VERY active ADHD brain, I’m blessed to remember to check both my shoes before I walk out the door to make sure they match! One day I left and got down our country road to notice I still had slippers on, had to turn around and fix that and of course, it made me late.
    How do you keep only 5 things on your day, but keep only small steps and still feel like you are getting things on that to-do list done. It seems items get on the list faster then I can get small steps done.
    LOVE the tips on reading books. I have a hugs stack I want to read, but read so slow, my stack just grows too. Hmm, I think I will use these tips and declutter that stack!!

    I really look forward to your emails each week, they are a bright spot amidst my chaos. Keeps me grounded. You will be greatly missed. Maybe a star appearance sometimes???

    Peace be with you,
    Dee in Durango


    • Dee says:

      PS I used to have great routines, calendars and check lists to manage it all, but today I have a lot of “eh, it will all work out somehow” 🙂


      • Dee- you have a what??
        thank you for commenting.


      • dee
        i am mystified by technology. i got to read your posts on my phone, tho they are cut off here. how do list etc? have a long list of todos, it will keep growing, usually faster than you can keep up.pick five to do’s. breakthem inot smaller steps, then make a new list of five from those. then start on one, break it into even smaller steps if you need to. just keep plugging away and you will get things done, finishing your to do list is not one of them tho. its like never ending treadmill, one step at time, but it never ends. still, you do get a sense of accomplishment. one trick is to focus on the one step, or maybe at most the short list, never on the big list or the project – that would be overwhelming .forget them. good luck and thank you for the kind comments.
        best wishes


        • Dee says:

          Hi Doug, Thanks so much. Sorry for the delay. I am fasting from the internet through Lent except for 2 days a week.
          Thank you for breaking that down. That is helpful. You made me laugh out loud when you said the never ending treadmill.
          I hope you got to read the PS comment. If not here it is:

          I used to have great routines, calendars and check lists to manage it all, but today I have a lot of. Eh, it will all work out somehow

          Please tell your wife thank you for me. For she seems so supportive and that allows you to help folks like me.

          Liked by 1 person

    • Dee
      glad this was helpful. both your comment and your ps seem cut off? i would love to see the rest of them. best wishes


      • Dee says:

        Just a side note Doug, when I get overwhelmed, which is easy now as I am aging, your tips of the 3 things – what am I doing now, what am I doing next and what will I do after that – have pulled me out of some crazy chaos moments.
        So helpful. I think every person with ADHD, especially menopausal women, should be taught this.

        Liked by 1 person

  2. Martha Puryear says:


    Sent from my iPhone


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