Defective — ADHD Tip O the Day 863

Who’s defective??!

My patient sat with her head down, looking morose. I asked her why. “I’m defective,” she answered.” Just defective.”

“What do you mean?”

“Well, I have anxiety disorder and phobias. I’m just defective.

I tried reassurance. “You’re not defective; you just have some problems.”

“Well, those are psychiatric problems. They’re diagnoses. So I’m defective.”

I took a chance. “Well, I have ADHD. Does that mean I’m defective?”

She thought a moment. “No, you’re not defective.”

“Why not?”

“Because you’ve mastered it.”

“No, I don’t think I’ve mastered it. I think I’ve just learned to cope with it.”

“Well, you’re a lot more successful than I am.”

“I guess that’s true. At least so far. But if I’m not defective, neither are you.”

She sat and looked at the floor, morose as ever.

Later, I reflected.  I hadn’t come up with any brilliant answers. It didn’t seem like I’d been any help.  Then I realized, she is defective. And so am I. And if you’ll pardon me for saying, so are you, aren’t you?

Who is perfect? Isn’t that what defective means, not perfect? I’ll  try this line next time we meet. Although to be honest, I’m not that optimistic. It’s not easy to change peoples’ thinking.

But ADHD is an official disorder. A psychiatric diagnosis. A malfunction of our brains. Not just a difference, but since it so much interferes with our  functioning in life, a malfunction.

We are all defective. We need to learn how to cope. Strategies. And for most of us, medication helps. So let’s just embrace our defectiveness and move on.


Medication for Children (or Adults)?

Quote O the Day:

You pee on a jellyfish sting, not on a jelly stain.

My apologies to the the waitress the Waffle House.



My ADHD Brain

About doug with ADHD

I am a psychiatric physician. I learned I have ADHD at age 64, and then wrote two ADHD books for adults, focusing on strategies for making your life better. I just published my first novel, Alma Means Soul. Your Life Can Be Better; strategies for adults with ADD/ADHD available at, or (for e books) Living Daily With Adult ADD or ADHD: 365 Tips O the Day ( e-book). This is one tip at a time, one page at a time, at your own pace. It's meant to last a year. As a child, I was a bully. Then there was a transformation. Now I am committed to helping people instead abusing them. The Bully was published in January, 2016. It's in print or e book, on Amazon.
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2 Responses to Defective — ADHD Tip O the Day 863

  1. Tom Woodward says:

    Perfection may not be what anyone would really want in one’s life. When an opponent in duplicate bridge starts in on himself for not being perfect, I always remind him that if he was perfect at bridge he would most likely end up as a professional spending all his time going from tournament to tournament with no time for friends, family, and the host of trivial pursuits he now enjoys. God, save me from the delusion of perfection.


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