With ADHD We Get Embarrassed a Lot (Plus I often embarrass my wife)
I’ve written frequently that I was going to fix my images so that they showed up properly on Facebook. And a very kind follower showed me how to fix them.
It’s very embarrassing that I don’t remember my rescuer’s name and I can’t find it. Anyway, I am appreciative.
Posting that I was going to do it was a strategy. So that it would be embarrassing if I didn’t.
Well, I haven’t and it is.
I definitely want them done. That is not the same as wanting to do them, though.
Reasons for Procrastinating:
- I’m not actually sure that I can do them. I tried to use the method. Sometimes it worked. Sometimes it didn’t
2 The method is complicated so that it takes time and effort. I feel like I don’t have the time. Obviously, that’s just an issue of priorities. With ADHD we are not good at prioritizing.
3. Since it’s complicated, I always feel like there has to be a simpler way, and that I’m wasting time doing it this way. I hate wasting time.
But I’m tired of having this hanging over my head, and I do want the images to be right.
I have Wednesday afternoon, and all day Thursday, Friday and Saturday off next week. I am committing to not do any other tasks until I get this one done.
The ADHD strategy of one.
Plus, I think once I get into it and get familiar with the process it won’t be nearly so hard. Hoping.
Strategy: The basic strategy for procrastination is small steps, but I don’t see how to apply that here. Maybe plan to do just one picture, but that isn’t the issue; the issue is using the technique.
Trouble Making Decisions? from Attitude Magazine
What Does This Link Have To Do With ADHD? Nothing, it’s just my favorite Song O the Day. Maybe of all time. And it’s worth reading the comments. Enjoy!
Update O the day:
Dinos very generously got in touch after this post and again offered his help.
I think Betsy is spot on and I must thank her for incisive reasoning. It certainly chimes with my own experiences when I now frame it with hindsight from her suggestion. A current example is my own forthcoming big wedding anniversary holiday plans. These have been in the pipeline for over a year and yet I have been continually procrastinating until the eleventh hour to put anything into concrete action. I can see that our traits produce a myriad of options and possibilities that fuddle my mind with choice, complication and put off decision making. The required analysis is too much until the necessity to “do something” before my wife is completely let down, finally forces me to do a last minute bodge job under pressure, where the decisions are almost made for me by the late time constraints. Hopefully, I will “wing it” and get away with it and it will all come right “in the end”. It needn’t be like this, but it usually is,…. thanks again Betsy, I hope your suggestion will help me beat this mind block in the future by trying to simplify the areas that I find overly challenging initially. Regards APB (AirPlaneBlues)
I’ve learned that procrastination isn’t the problem, but a response to the problem, which is cognitive inadequacy. Presented with something difficult or complicated or not convenient, thre brain refuses to engage. Probably, it can’t engage. With a precision level of stimulation, most of these tasks are within our ability, but each difficult task may have its own optimal level of stimulation.
I no longer look at procrastination as the thing to be mastered. I look for what cognitive task I’m unable to undertake because my brain isn’t flexible enough with its release of neurochemicals. And then I put effory into solving *that* problem.
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betsy – very interesting. I find that strategies for dealing directly with procrastination often do work, even if that is not the root of the problem. Can you explain more about precision level of stimulation and about identifying the cognitive task you cant do and how you solve that? Maybe an example?
thank you for your contribution.
it’s been about a year since we last spoke about getting the pictures the way you like so nobody could ever blame you for not remembering the exact process. there’s nothing to be embarrassed about–technology isn’t always intuitive. that’s what drives me crazy about it. often whoever makes/designs it doesn’t take the time to make using it intuitive.
sorry for the ramble. if you ever want to catch up and review how to do it again let me know, I would be happy to. in the meanwhile I’ll look and see if there is an easier way than what i showed you last year
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thank you. good to hear from you. I still have the directions you gave me, so let me give it a try. will get back to you if it doesnt work. you are very generous.