I am reminded almost daily how hard it is to live with someone with ADD ADHD. Ok, daily.
So i just asked my wife if she would do a guest post on the subject and she indicated that she is already burdened enough with my ADD, so No (not her exact words). So its up to me.
It is best if both parties really understand the condition; it is really difficult if the significant other doesn’t even believe in it.
I keep needing to remind myself that when my wife reminds me or checks up on me or warns me, it is not a personal put down or an intrusion, it’s a strategy based on vast past experience. It’s not being bossy, it’s being helpful. In truth, I don’t always fully appreciate it, but I think it is actually helpful and probably necessary.
The best tip is to start by both partners reading Melissa Orlovs’ book, see below. Plus she has a new ADD ADHD book coming out soon. Educate yourselves. Knowledge is power.
Orlov – The ADHD Effect on Marriage clik
Lynn’s blog clik
Orlov on turning the relationship around clik
Orlov on how to manage to stay together clik
my previous posts clik and clik and clik
Not specific to ADD ADHD but excellent article on boundaries from rupa clik
Lerner The Dance of Intimacy clik
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homey- maybe it would be a little easier if the did understand ADHD, but maybe understanding you is enough? 32 years suggest that you all are doing something right!
You made me laugh.
My husband doesn’t understand ADHD but he understands me. After 32 years together, he knows how I roll. I’m sure he would agree with you that living with someone with ADHD isn’t easy.