ADD and relationships — ADD Tip o the Day 448

I am reminded almost daily how hard it is to live with someone with ADD ADHD.               Ok, daily.

So i just asked my wife if she would do a guest post on the subject and she indicated that she is already burdened enough with my ADD, so No (not her exact words).  So its up to me.

It is best if both parties really understand the condition; it is really difficult if the significant other doesn’t even believe in it.

I keep needing to remind myself that when my wife reminds me or checks up on me or warns me, it is not a personal put down or an intrusion, it’s a strategy based on vast past experience.  It’s not being bossy, it’s being helpful.  In truth, I don’t always fully appreciate it, but I think it is actually helpful and probably necessary.

The best tip  is to start by both partners reading Melissa Orlovs’ book, see below.  Plus she has a new ADD ADHD book coming out soon.  Educate yourselves.  Knowledge is power.

doug

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its not all sunshine and roses

Orlov – The ADHD Effect on Marriage   clik

Lynn’s blog  clik

Orlov on turning the relationship around  clik

Orlov on how to manage to stay together  clik

my previous posts   clik and clik  and clik

Not specific to ADD ADHD but excellent article on boundaries from rupa  clik

Lerner  The Dance of Intimacy  clik

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About doug with ADHD

I am a psychiatric physician. I learned I have ADHD at age 64, and then wrote two ADHD books for adults, focusing on strategies for making your life better. Your Life Can Be Better; strategies for adults with ADD/ADHD available at amazon.com, or smashwords.com (for e books) Living Daily With Adult ADD or ADHD: 365 Tips O the Day ( e-book). This is one tip at a time, one page at a time, at your own pace. It's meant to last a year. As a child, I was a bully. Then there was a transformation. Now I am committed to helping people instead abusing them. The Bully was published in January, 2016. It's in print or e book, on Amazon.
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3 Responses to ADD and relationships — ADD Tip o the Day 448

  1. Pingback: Distractions | Living Daily With Adult ADD or ADHD

  2. homey- maybe it would be a little easier if the did understand ADHD, but maybe understanding you is enough? 32 years suggest that you all are doing something right!
    congratulations.
    doug

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  3. homemakersdaily says:

    You made me laugh.

    My husband doesn’t understand ADHD but he understands me. After 32 years together, he knows how I roll. I’m sure he would agree with you that living with someone with ADHD isn’t easy.

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