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ADHD and the Challenge of Relationships — ADHD Tip O the Day 795

If you think living with ADHD is a challenge, imagine what it’s like living with someone with ADHD. I started to add, “And imagine what it’s like to live with someone who is living with someone who is living with … Continue reading

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Vacation! and ADHD. Vacation? — ADHD Tip o the Day 794

Have been on vacation a week now.  It’s wonderful!  But- I had two goals for this vacation: To relax.  It’s about time, To get some things done, get caught up. Unfortunately, the two goals are incompatible.  And guess what?  I’ve … Continue reading

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“Are We Overdiagnosing and Overtreating ADHD?” – Part Two— ADHD Tip O the Day 786

More from the recent ADHD article in Psychiatric Times  (Jummani, MD, et al, in Psychiatric Times, May 2017, pp 26-28.) To diagnose ADHD formally in children requires at least 6 of 9 inattentive symptoms and /or at least 6 of 9 … Continue reading

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A New Approach to My ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 765

Manila folders are God’s gift to people with ADHD,  and yellow stickies may be his bonus gift. I have used my index card system successfully for many years, and have written and written about it. Quote O the Day: “Whenever … Continue reading

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Be Prepared, if you have ADHD, even if you’re not a Boy Scout — ADHD Tip O the Day 761

What could possibly go wrong, with ADHD? I was recently honored to be a guest, one of many, on Jennifer Friedman’s podcast.  I must confess that I don’t listen to podcasts, don’t have the patience, probably missing out on a … Continue reading

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Using ADHD Strategies On the Job  —  ADHD Tip O the Day 757

ADHD Strategies at Work Probably everyone uses strategies for their work, but it’s more essential if we have ADHD. I like my new job at the pen. I’ve needed to work out the strategies specific to this job. I’m writing complicated orders that have to be written perfectly.  I also need to make sure each patient’s name and the date are correctly put on the order and on each progress note. So I check each chart before I close it. Then, if I have time, I check each one again before I turn it in. I also complete each chart before I see the next patient, so I don’t get behind and feel rushed, and so I don’t need to remember anything about that patient for later. Some officers are fast in bringing the patients to me, so I have the patients wait while I finish the chart before I dismiss them. Then the new patients don’t arrive before I’m ready.  If the officers are slow, I dismiss the patient … Continue reading

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A whole bunch of stuff, including a valuable secret, related to ADHD— ADHD Tip O the Day 753

With ADHD, sometimes our brain gets clogged up.  And we seem to need to justify what we’re doing, like this post, for example.  Some days my brain is crowded with lots of stuff, not all of it relevant but all … Continue reading

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Blessings of ADHD? — ADHD Tip O the Day 751

With our ADHD, we tend to be interested in many things. This is one of the blessings of ADHD. It is also one of the curses. I am working a half time job, trying to keep up two blogs (and … Continue reading

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ADHD and Attitude Adjustment — ADHD Tip O the Day 743

ADHD – Frustrated, Irritable, and Discouraged I get easily frustrated, often over little things, and I’m irritable, which is a symptom of ADHD, and sometimes I get discouraged, tho not often.  But I have a strategy. The Strategy I’ve developed … Continue reading

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Goals and ADHD — ADHD Tip o the Day 731

  With ADHD, sometimes we need to lower the bar. “Ah, but a man’s reach should exceed his grasp, Or what’s a heaven for?”               Robert Browning This is one of the guiding principles … Continue reading

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More and more and more ADHD pictures — ADD Tip O the Day 717

OK, I’m swamped, over my head, behind – does that sound like ADHD? Strategy:              punt. So my post is just some ADHD pictures that are too good to waste but haven’t fit into any … Continue reading

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Does ADHD get you bullied? Criticized? Misunderstood? —ADHD Tip O the Day 713

Who gets bullied? Kids who are different.  That would be us, ADHD. But also kids with autism spectrum disorder (autism, Asbergers), dyslexia and other learning disabilities, physical handicaps, or different physical appearance. And also, any minority, in any group. And also, … Continue reading

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More Apps for ADHD – – – ADD Tip O the Day 710

I am taking the easy way out and just posting Hold’s comment here in case you didn’t see it.  Many cool apps, get what you like: Hey doug, I apologize. In classic ADHD fashion I’m a week late in seeing … Continue reading

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Yes, You read it. But how much do you remember? — ADD Tip O the Day 695

How to read effectively I am blessed with the ability to read fast.  I’ve read a lot of books, and I can get through most books quickly.  But like most gifts, there’s  a downside.  It’s a blessing if I’m reading … Continue reading

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My New Year’s Resolution — ADD Tip O the Day 681

First, I hope you each have a wonderful 2016. Keep identifying problems and working on strategies.  It’s bound to help. My New Year’s resolution is not to make any New Year’s resolution.  They don’t work for me, probably because of my … Continue reading

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Structure and Routine And Strategies for ADD ADHD — ADD Tip O the Day 656

Structure and Strategies Structure is essential.  I don’t consider it a strategy though.  Not quite sure why. Probably because it is so basic. Basics include sleep, structure, exercise, and maybe getting outside, mediation or yoga or something like that.  Basics … Continue reading

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ADD ADHD and My Addictions. What Are Your Addictions? — ADD Tip O the Day 655

Many things can be addicting for us.  I’ve been  addicted to computer war games and to caffeine, but not anymore.  My only current addiction is food. Hall marks of addiction are craving, time and energy and money spent on thinking about … Continue reading

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Flyfishing with ADD ADHD, and LIfe As She Is — ADD Tip O the Day 632

Is fly fishing a metaphor for life with ADD ADHD? I don’t think fly fishing is as hard as they say, but with ADD ADHD it sure can be harder. When you are fly fishing, there are many things that … Continue reading

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“As Soon As —” – An ADD ADHD Time Problem — ADD Tip O the Day 612

“As Soon As—“ There are several things I want to do, “as soon as – — -”                          I want to start Spanish lessons again.                          I want to resume fishing.                          I want to cleanup the disarray in my … Continue reading

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The Rule for ADD ADHD — ADD Tip O the Day 609

The ADD ADHD Problem I keep losing my car in parking lots. (Some of you might note that this problem is not limited to ADD ADHD) The Strategy  When I park the car, say OUT LOUD where it is -“3rd … Continue reading

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Committing With ADD ADHD — ADD Tip O the Day 604

To Commit No, I don’t mean to get someone locked up, unless its myself.  I do try to lock myself into things, where I can’t not do them.  If I walked to the end of the scary high dive, I … Continue reading

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Coping with Turmoil — ADD Tip o the Day 552

Arghhhh!! ADD ADHD and all this too! We’re selling our house and moving to a wonderful community, El Castillo.            We’re excited about it. But at the moment, it’s like living in a hurricane and an earthquake at the same time. … Continue reading

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Women and ADD ADHD — ADD Tip o the Day 506

Too Disorganized I enjoyed meeting again with my friend, the lovely lady who claims that she’s too disorganized to get organized, or to use any of the tips or strategies. She says she doesn’t have shirt pockets, although she guesses she … Continue reading

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Living with ADD ADHD 12 Hours Ahead — ADD Tip o the Day 493

  Living with ADD ADHD My wife said, “Doug, you’re always living twelve hours ahead!” I don’t think she meant it as a compliment. But she’s right, I do. Packing for a trip If I’m going on a trip, I … Continue reading

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“Organizing Clutter” —- ADD Tip o the Day 480

Thought that was an interesting title, assume it means moving the clutter around into different piles? With our ADD ADHD we are indeed prone to clutter, and can’t find stuff, and don’t function as well in disorder and mess.  It’s … Continue reading

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Homey WOW! congratulations

Homey i just saw your fix up project – i can’t do that kind of stuff, I ‘m handyman challenged as well as technologically challenged.  I’m impressed with all you are doing – a lot!! anything i try involves at … Continue reading

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Living Daily With Adult ADD or ADHD — ADD Tip o the Day 471

The new E book, Living Daily With Adult ADD or ADHD, 365 Tips o the Day, hasn’t got many reviews yet, tho it is starting to sell pretty well, thank you all.  So when I got a bad review, it … Continue reading

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Stay On Task In Spite of ADD ADHD — ADD Tip o the Day 469

Seems to me the primary basic problem in ADD ADHD is that we can’t focus when we need to.  Just telling someone to “focus” isn’t all that helpful; in fact, if we could focus, we probably wouldn’t need to reading … Continue reading

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Plan Ahead – Packing — ADD Tip o the Day 430

Is packing for a trip kind of a standing joke for those of us with ADD or ADHD?  Has your significant other learned to ask, ” Did you pack this?  Did your remember that?”   Do you tend to find … Continue reading

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Step Back Part Two — ADD Tip o the Day 428

With ADD or ADHD, how can we try to reduce the sense of pressure and hurry and worry? First, I broke this into two posts, saving myself some time and effort, therefore reducing pressure, and keeping it not too long … Continue reading

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Toxic — ADD Tip o the Day 419

Some people are toxic for us and it is better to avoid or minimize contact.  A christmas card once a year can be a good way to stay in contact.  or not. I also recommend, the Dance of Anger, by … Continue reading

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Routine — ADD Tip o the Day 414

Those of us with ADD or ADHD need routine in our lives.  It is part of structure. It helps me know where I am in the day  and  what I will need to do next. It saves me from some … Continue reading

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Lisa, Life With ADD, part 2 — ADD Tip o the Day 404

“I hear ya on the time management “tips” on the internet in general…I think most of those are written by people who don’t have ADHD or know much about it. It’s like a sighted person writing “tips for seeing” for … Continue reading

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Puryear’s Principles —- ADD Tip o the day 379

This is just human nature, but these issues are more critical if we have ADD or ADHD: 1. we will struggle and struggle with a problem; once we find a solution, we will stop doing it (AA, antidepressants, regular exercise, … Continue reading

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Slips and Failures — ADD Tip o the Day 372

With ADD or ADHD we are plagued by slips and failures.  But AA teaches that slips are to be expected and we need to have a plan for them to help us just get back on the track. I was … Continue reading

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Abhi Has Strategies — ADD Tip o the Day 354

Abhi has ADD or ADHD, and has been struggling with studying  for an important exam.  He has been using the ADDerworld for advice, encouragement and general support.  And he has learned some strategies.  Here is his report (with his permission): … Continue reading

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Stuck, and No Motivation — ADD Tip o the Day 338

We with ADD or ADHD can easily get overwhelmed, demoralized, disorganized, unmotivated and just plain stuck. For the motivation issue, there are many strategies            ( I can’t recall which post I just wrote this on, and I’m not motivated to … Continue reading

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Strategies — The Pills ADD Tip o the Day 328

Just got a new example of the principle -problem, strategy, rule, habit- for those of us with ADD or ADHD. My rule is to take all of my pills the first thing when I get up, every day.  That way … Continue reading

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“Just Try Harder” — ADD tip o the Day 297

If you have ADD or ADHD, didn’t you hear this growing up? Repeatedly?  “You just need to try harder.”  Did you learn the habit of saying this to yourself? There used to be a flyer for ADD or ADHD with a picture … Continue reading

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Topics from ADDerWorld —- ADD Tip o the Day 291

ADDerWorld is a great website – clik here-for us with ADD or ADHD.  Three current topics caught my eye – addiction to games, can’t clean room, and self flogging. I was addicted to computer games, war games, loved them.  Fun, challenging, … Continue reading

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Habits, habits, habits — ADD Tip o the day 288

Habits are so important with ADD or ADHD! I just got half way to the river when I realized my fishing stuff wasn’t in the car.  I had taken it out over the weekend while I went on a hike.  … Continue reading

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Notes — ADD Tip o the Day 286

With ADD or ADHD taking notes is essential, like making lists.  But we need strategies even for that. For notes to be useful, they need to be legible, understandable, and locatable. 1. I use the index cards that are always … Continue reading

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Still sitting —- ADD Tip o the Day 285

The just sitting experiment is back on track after a brief detour.  Hard to do with ADD or ADHD. The strategy of using meal times as anchors to remember to sit did not work, so I’m just doing it when … Continue reading

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Does it really matter? — ADD Tip o the day 281

“Is it really important?”  Our grandson is in the hospital, and we were taking a break by going to a movie (Marigold Hotel – great!).  Looked like we were going to be late, and I noticed myself getting all up tight … Continue reading

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frustration and irritation followup — ADD Tip o the Day 280

Kilian  kindly  pointed out that one of the links on Tip 279 was wrong; took half hour of frustration to fix it, was forgetting to clik the update button after i corrected it.  over and over.  life with ADD or ADHD.  dystechnologica.  was … Continue reading

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Trying too hard? —– ADD Tip o the Day 277

Maybe I’m trying to change too many things at one time (willpower? with ADD or ADHD we tend to overdo): 1.  learning to just sit — making progress 2.  getting on the net only 3 times a day  –slo progress … Continue reading

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The i phone and ADD: an adventure — ADDTip o the day 275

Kids gave me an i phone for christmas, said I needed it.  I didn’t realize that, thought I was doing fine without it.  Dystechnologica can accompany ADD or ADHD.  Steep learning curve.  Why do half my fotos come out upside down?  How do I get … Continue reading

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Willpower #4 —- ADD Tip o the day 267

I’m reading a great book, Willpower, by Baumeister.  We start each morning with a pool of psychic energy, which gets depleted during the day each time we resist a temptation or make a decision.  So we become more and more vulnerable … Continue reading

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Stuck with ADD — ADD Tip o the day 253

With ADD or ADHD we can easily become stuck or paralyzed.  Sometimes I just can’t get started on anything. I wrote about ‘the one fork strategy’;  just pick one very small thing and do it. A man responded, ‘My wife would not be happy at … Continue reading

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Success —- ADD Tip o the day 248

Just reached my morning goal, two miles on the treadmill.  Yea!! It’s important that I pause a few seconds to applaud myself -“Way to go, Doug!  Good job!”  Especially with ADD or ADHD. Why?  Because that’s positive reinforcement for doing … Continue reading

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The ADD coach — ADD Tip o the day 246

this the interview of Anahi Ortiz, MD, a pediatrician who is also an ADHD coach: Q: how did you get interested in ADHD? As a young pediatrician, I attended a conference on MBD, as it was known then, and have … Continue reading

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Sit! —- ADD Tip o the day 243

New idea!  – think it’s gonna be great!  if you have ADD or ADHD, or even if you don’t—– Went to weekend event, wasn’t what I’d expected, but was able to go into chapel by myself and SIT.  prayed a … Continue reading

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Memory aids — ADD TIp o the day 242

With ADD or ADHD our problem is focus and not really memory, so it’s paradoxical that we need memory aids, but we do.  Otherwise, we don’t remember, and then—— I wear a black elastic on my wrist to remind me … Continue reading

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Memory????? What memory? —ADD tip o the day 241

Bonnie Mincu just put up a great post: We think we have bad memories actually we probably don’t, we just have trouble with attention and concentration (ie focus) so it comes out the same.  but we get down on ourselves (a strategy … Continue reading

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Envelope backs —– ADD Tip o the day 238

an insightful comment from Lucy.  I do like using envelope backs for the informal flexible evolving to-do-lists.  With ADD or ADHD we need all the strategies and tools we can find. refers to Tip 236:   “Do you know why … Continue reading

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alone part 2 — ADD Tip o the day 236

People with ADD or ADHD tend to do better if someone else is around. My wife is back home and I’m glad, but I didn’t unravel or fall apart this time.  OK, she wasn’t gone that long, but she was … Continue reading

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Avoiding —- ADD Tip o the day 233

We all do that too, don’t we, if we have ADD or ADHD?  Kind of a special tool to facilitate procrastination.  And anything can be used.  Some other task.  An unimportant project – “I’ll just get all these papers alphabetized … Continue reading

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A review (excerpts) — ADD Tip o the day 231

Let me share a review from Linda, which tells a lot about ADD or ADHD: I’d read only a few pages of Dr. Puryear’s book before I unexpectedly began to recognize myself. It wasn’t the idea of making lists on … Continue reading

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Alone with ADD —- ADD Tip o the day 230

How do you do on your own?  Alone? My wife is leaving (no, not like that)for five days.  I know the script – the first 3 days will be great!  I can do as I please (more or less).  I … Continue reading

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The secret of life — ADD Tip o the day 223

What is the secret of life??  I keep thinking that I’ll finally get it together, maybe this year, certainly by next.   All the little bits of insights that I have, that come and go, will finally fall into place and … Continue reading

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Cause or effect? ADD Tip o the day 206

I see a lot of confusion, even among scientists, about cause and effect.  Recently heard a great lecture on the negative effects of stress on our bodies, brains, and minds.  Dr. said that studies show that people who take short … Continue reading

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Lists don’t work! —ADD Tip o the day 203

Three people have commented that lists don’t work for them.  Lists is a great strategy if you have ADD or ADHD.  But they don’t work, not by themselves.  You need strategies for using the strategy of lists. 1.  make a … Continue reading

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OCD and ADD — ADD Tip o the day 165

OCD and ADD (or ADHD) are different things, but they have some things in common-perfectionism and procrastination, for example.  If we have ADD, a small dose of OCD can be quite helpful – we are more likely to pay attention … Continue reading

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Getting started with ADD — ADD Tip o the day 164

Stuck. Paralyzed. Stagnating. Avoiding. Procrastinating.   All of the above. Procrastinating is one of the hallmarks of ADD or ADHD, but we don’t even always recognize when we are doing it, and even when we do we can still be … Continue reading

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Stay ahead — ADD Tip o the day 159

I try to stay ahead.  We are going to Houston, I will pack the day before.  I try to do the blog and save  it as a draft the day before it’s due.  If I see something that needs doing, … Continue reading

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Overwhelmed again part 2 — ADD Tip o the day 157

There are two main strategies for overwhelmed: 1.  Make the big list, everything you need to do.  Make a short list, the most urgent or important.  Pick one, maybe break it into small steps.  Pick one, usually the hardest, focus … Continue reading

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The small voice — ADD Tip o the day 156

I got instructions off the net of how to fix the computer.  They didn’t work.  I had the necessary installation disc in the disc drive.  I have two disc drives.  I thought of putting it in the other one, but … Continue reading

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Public speaking and ADD -ADD Tip o the day 150

Some just called and asked for a prescription for propranolol for stage fright, anxiety before public speaking.  This is a beta blocker, often used by musicians and other performers before a performance.  It counter acts nor epinephrine and blocks anxiety … Continue reading

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Handwriting — ADD Tip o the day 147

Believe it or not, my handwriting continues to get better.  It is almost semi legible most of the time now.  I just had this fantastic insight- if I want my handwriting to be better I need to focus some of my attention on how … Continue reading

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Will power part 3 — ADD Tip o the day 144

Since we know that if we have ADD or ADHD we are impulsive and impatient and not strong on will power, we have to be careful – the example I’m using is in buying a car, but this applies to … Continue reading

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Will power part 2 — ADD Tip o the day 143

Making decisions depletes our will power, and our capacity to make more decisions. the car salesman knows this.  he gives you lots of options, and makes many offers, and finally goes to talk with his boss – what do you … Continue reading

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Your life can be better — ADD Tip o the day 134

My daughter just told me that one of my reviewers had commented to her that he felt sorry for me after reading the book.  That’s one of the things I was afraid of and I tried to address it and … Continue reading

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Pressure (heed thine own advice) — ADD Tip o the day 117

I got the draft back from the proofreader. Because of my avoidance and denial it was in a form that made it hard to work with.  I had wanted to send the book to the publisher by the end of … Continue reading

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Worst case — ADD Tip o the day 111

When I’m worried about something I have several strategies.  One of them is to ask, “What’s the worst thing that could happen?”  Then I ask, “And what would I do then?” And then I make a plan.  So I am … Continue reading

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We don’t see it — ADD Tip o the day 102

I just finished draft 17 for the book.  I’d thought it would need a little tweaking, maybe a typo here and there, maybe a little polishing at a few points.  Wrong! A lot of tweaking, and several sections needed complete … Continue reading

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Stress — ADD Tip o the day 100

What do we do when things get stressful?  We focus on the problems and forget to do the things that help us handle stress! Our first week of vacation was a little rough; some things weren’t going well.  After a while, … Continue reading

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The power of lists — ADD Tip o the day 99

I like lists.  I need lists.  I make lists all day long. Couldn’t function without them.  It’s not just the list, having it as a guideline and for structure, but it’s also in the making of the list.  To make … Continue reading

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Pecking away —ADD Tip o the day 98

I am not getting to do as much  on the book as I would like right now, but I am pecking away.  I do a little bit every day and it is amazing how it adds up.  So one small … Continue reading

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ADD in women — ADD Tip o the day 97

ADD or ADHD starts in childhood.  Boys tend to have the hyperactive type, so they get diagnosed or punished or expelled, whatever, they get noticed.  Girls tend to have the “inattentive” type, they just sit there and daydream and don’t … Continue reading

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Know your limitations — ADD Tip o the day 95

I think that I’m a good writer.  It’is probably useful to me to think that, but unfortunately, I know, or perhaps better, I know that unfortunately, it is not true.  I am a lousy writer.  I am in the middle … Continue reading

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A new hero — ADD Tip o the day 93

I have a new hero!  Did you ever spend time chasing pickles around in a jar with a fork, or worse yet, a knife, trying to spear one of the little buggers, or somehow get one up and out? Did … Continue reading

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Stay ahead — ADD Tip o the day 92

The other day I noticed I was quite a bit ahead on my to do things, and how good it felt, comfortable and relaxed. The next day was the opposite, I was behind and feeling kind of pressured and overloaded.  … Continue reading

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Time management? —- ADD Tip o the day 91

We tend to underestimate the time it will take to do something or to get somewhere.  We are not good at it.  One of the several reasons is that we estimate based on the assumption that there will be no … Continue reading

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Asking directions — ADD Tip o the day 88

I had to ask for directions several times yesterday.  That is hard for men to do.  First, we are supposed to be on top of everything and show no weakness.  Second, research, which I didn’t understand, shows that some part … Continue reading

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Frustration ADD Tip o the day 85

Computers are wonderful, aren’t they?  We can do so many things with them that we never could do before we had them.  This blog is just one example.  So I guess we just put up with the fact that they … Continue reading

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Perception —– ADD Tip o the day 83

Perception, attitude, self talk – they all run together.  The new agers say that we create our own reality, reality is in the eye of the beholder.   It’s early morning; I can say I have a hard day ahead … Continue reading

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Plan B — ADD Tip o the day 81

It is good to have a plan B, or maybe its a plan C.  We get anxious about the future. Life is full of uncertainty.  We are often worried about a problem or a decision. So it is good to … Continue reading

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enjoy the good —ADD tip o the day 62

Life can be hard sometimes, for anyone, though it tends to be harder for those of us coping with ADD or ADHD.  I think one of ways we can cope with that is to enjoy the good times.  We need … Continue reading

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scraps of paper –ADD Tip o the day 75

“Let me find a scrap of paper to write that down on.” I don’t do that anymore.  Never could find that scrap after I’d written something down.   Carry index cards in my pocket, with an organized system for using … Continue reading

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Anchors — ADD Tip o the day 73

Anchors are reminders to do something that I need to remember to do pretty often.  It could be to check my blood sugar, or to say a special prayer, or to do a special exercise, or to tell my beautiful … Continue reading

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You are special —ADD Tip o the day 71

As an old friend of mine always used to say, “I never cease to be amazed that —-“, we are all so different and we are all so much alike.  That applies to humans on the grand scale, and to … Continue reading

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Stuck again again —-ADD Tip o the day 69

When we are paralyzed, because of the big thing we are procrastinating on, then step two is to break the big thing into the smallest possible steps.  Then do one.  Ideally, do the hardest one first, but it doesn’t have … Continue reading

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Stuck again —– ADD Tip o the day 68

Here’s one of the ways we get stuck: we feel overwhelmed by a big important task, so we procrastinate.  Just can’t get started.  But we have a lot of other things to do.  But instead of doing them, we are … Continue reading

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A new rule —– ADD Tip o the day 66

         I need to carry some medicines with me, so I carry them in a pretty little tin Altoid gum box in my pocket.  Always handy.          I went to my volunteer job at the pen today.  I remembered to take … Continue reading

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vulnerable — ADD Tip o the day 65

A fellow ADDer commented that when we are tired we are more vulnerable.  She meant that we are more vulnerable to the symptoms of ADD or ADHD.  When we are tired we are more likely to blurt out, get distracted, … Continue reading

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Thoughtfulness —- ADD tip o the day 63

I did a small nonrequired unrequested kindness for my wife this morning, opening a container that I knew she was going to use later.  She was unaware of this.  I was being thoughtful.  Unfortunately, this was unusual enough that I … Continue reading

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Can’t do it all —– ADD Tip o the day 61

This is one of our problems; we are blessed with a curious active mind and so many things are appealing.  We are not good at setting priorities.  One reason is that often choosing to do A means that we have … Continue reading

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Overloaded —— ADD Tip o the day 58

Yesterday I was feeling overloaded.  that is a unpleasant feeling and, the feeling makes it harder to get things done, so then I feel more overloaded.  But that’s exactly what it is, a feeling, a state of mind, a perception, not a … Continue reading

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ADD and frustration —– ADD Tip o the day 55

A young lady who was recently diagnosed with ADD describes how frustrated she gets with herself when she messes up and recognizes that she is showing an ADD symptom.  Usually once we learn the diagnosis we feel much better, because then … Continue reading

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Small, small steps ——– ADD Tip o the day 51

well, I got the taxes done, almost had to go thru the credit card statements, and mark the deductions usually I would’ve gotten a glass of brandy and sat myself down and bulled thru them hated it.     especially hard with ADD This … Continue reading

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Unstuck ——- ADD Tip o the day 47

If you’re trapped in the negative feedback loop – vicious cycle –  downward spiral into the ADD demoralized stuck pit   –       You Can Get Out !!  1. check yourself for the negative self  talk .  Identify it and counter it.    2. … Continue reading

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stuck —- ADD Tip o the day 46

Many things in life work in feedback loops, like vicious cycles or whatever the opposite is –     beneficial cycles? When our ADD wins out and we drift away from our track, get distracted, can’t get started,    can’t finish, and so … Continue reading

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It’s not stupid! —– Tip o the day 45

A lot of us with ADD call ourself “stupid” when we mess up.  Or we may say “That was stupid!” No, it wasn’t stupid.  And we’re not stupid, it’s ADD.  Those of us who had a lot of trouble in … Continue reading

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Diversity ——- Tip o the day 41

We are all different, each one an individual. If you need medication, I don’t know which medicine will be best for you or at what dose.   I can make an educated guess, but we have to try them. We all … Continue reading

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Laugh —- Tip o the day 38

There is a new ‘woo woo’ fad, laugh therapy.  There is some research showing that it has both physiological and psychological benefits.  After some more research supports it, it may not be ‘woo woo’ any loonger. We with ADD tend … Continue reading

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Diagnosis: part 3 -the last part—Tip o the day 35

So, if your’re not sure if you have ADD or not, you can look at all the symptoms I’ve talked about.  You can take some of the free tests on the net.  Then you can see a psychiatrist or a … Continue reading

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Detour: the door —Tip o the day 34

I want to finish diagnosis but my last post got messed up and it didn’t get published in the right order, and you need to read diagnosis 2.5 before you read diagnosis 3, or maybe not. AND- I had a triumph.  … Continue reading

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Diagnosis part 2 —–Tip of the day 33

Diagnosis Part 2 —-Tip o the day 32Posted on December 28, 2010 by addadultstrategies     procrastination, losing things, forgetting things, arriving late, saying and doing things impulsively and  inappropriately, failing responsibilities and breaking promises.                  lacking patience, can’t finish things, things don’t … Continue reading

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Frustration # 32 – Tip o the day 32

Scroll down past the bottom of this tip to see the tip 32 that  was supposed to here, or, clik on 32 diagnosis to the right. I just spent 30 minutes trying to get tip o the day  32 just … Continue reading

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Diagnosis Part 2 —-Tip o the day 32

    procrastination, losing things, forgetting things, arriving late, saying and doing things impulsively and  inappropriately, failing responsibilities and breaking promises.                  lacking patience, can’t finish things, things don’t turn out  right.                                         feeling pressured, rushed, frantic, overwhelmed, disorganized.  sometimes demoralized. Well, doesn’t everyone … Continue reading

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addictions —- tip o the day 30

We with ADD are prone to addictions.  I think there are two types, chemical and activity. I have been addicted to coffee, in large amounts.  I changed to decaf. I have been addicted to computer games.  I finally had to … Continue reading

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Get Through — Tip of the day 29

Some days you wake up and you just don’t have it.  Maybe you didn’t sleep well, or you’re getting a cold, or you feel overwhelmed.  Anyway, you just don’t have it. A reasonable goal for that day is to get … Continue reading

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Shame tip o the day 28

Shame becomes an integral part of our ADD.  It is deep within us and starts deep in our childhood, when we could not meet the expectations of our parents, then our teachers, then others and ultimately ourselves.  Missing appointments, forgetting … Continue reading

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Procrastinating Tip o the day 26

Of course, I intended to write this piece sooner. Procrastinating means to me that I need to do it, and will get to it, just not today.  And so on. Usually it means I think it’s going to be difficult, … Continue reading

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stuck Tip o the day 25

What is the difference between inertia, procrastination, and avoiding? To me, inertia is when I can’t get going on anything.  Usually it is because I am feeling overwhelmed, too many things to do, what I need to do seems too hard, or … Continue reading

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Comment- the hard part Tip of the day 24

Got an excellent comment from E. T. G. about starting: Most interesting.  I can relate to just about everything you wrote.  Doing the hard part first is not always  possible.  Take altering a garment, for example. ( sometimes I   put this off)  … Continue reading

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reframing Tip o the day 23

“Reframing” means to change the way I perceive or label something. That is related to “self talk”, the things I say to myself in my head. I can say I have too much work to do today, or I can … Continue reading

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Comment Tip o the day 22

“my most successful tip to myself:   marry a very well organized person and try to remember to reframe “nagging” as loving reminders.”  comment from Peter B. Goldblum, Phd I was going to add, “and you might as well marry a … Continue reading

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Overdoing Tip o the day 21

Too much is not enough.  (Texas saying) We ADDers do tend to overdo we get enthused with a new pastime and go full out, until its not new anymore. I was doing well with my exercises, so I increased them and … Continue reading

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Perception Tip o the day 20

Perception, atttitude, reframing, self talk ‘We create our own reality.’     New Age dictum If I say “I have too much to do today.” then I have too much to do. If I say, “I have a lot to do today.” … Continue reading

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Finishing — Tip o the Day 19

Big problem.  We start full of vinegar and enthusiasm. We get near the end and we stall, out of steam. The novelty has worn off, we have mastered it and the challenge is gone.  Maybe there is no heavy immediate … Continue reading

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Avoiding Tip o the day18

What is the difference between avoiding and procrastinating? It may be  subtle, but for me, procrastinating is putting off starting something that I will eventually need to do, while avoiding is avoiding something that I may never get around to. … Continue reading

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The Book and The List Tip o the day 17

All of the ADD books suggest that you start with an appointment book and a to do list. I think that is good advice. But they are useless if you don’t know how to use them. I have trained myself … Continue reading

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Will power? Tip o the day 16

I don’t have much willpower. That’s one of the reasons that I need strategies. But I think another is that willpower, even if I had it, is not a very effective way to improve focus, concentration, attention.    (Couldn’t hurt though.) … Continue reading

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The Slogan Tip o the day 15

Let’s put them together now. This is my best slogan. I have trained myself so that I think of it whenever I am deciding what to do next. Do it now, Do it right, Do the hard part first. This gets … Continue reading

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Do It Right Tip o the day 14

Because I have ADD, my experience leads me to believe that nothing I do will turn out right. So I don’t want to put too much time or effort into it. So I rush through it sloppily and do it half … Continue reading

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Goals tip o the day 13

yesterday I sat down and wrote down my goals I find it useful to do this every few months. now comes the hard part I need to look at each goal and ask myself If I was really serious about … Continue reading

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keys tip o the day 12

a patient called today to cancel her appointment. she had locked herself out of the house her purse and keys and cell phone were locked inside guess she was calling from the neighbors. I think everybody does this, and everybody … Continue reading

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ADD: even more frustration – tip o the day 11

I was frustrated when the blog changes I made weren’t sticking. because I hadn’t seen the ‘save changes’ button. so I recognized that was a problem, so I made a new rule: Look At The Whole Page ! that’s the … Continue reading

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ADD & more frustration -tip o the day 10

spent the morning trying to get the blog verified wasnt working finally I found the “save changes” button on the bottom of the page below the window i was looking at. hadn’t been saving them. new rule: always look at … Continue reading

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add & frustrations Tip o the day 9

i get frustrated a lot.   and easily. those frustrations add up. but some of them I can do something about. losing the keys.  can’t find the other sock.  recognizing the right address stamper. the first step is recognizing that … Continue reading

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The Very Short List – tip o the day 8

I use a lot of lists the long list, the short list, the list of five, the list of three but the most important list right now is the list of one. I need to do this blog.   now.   that’s … Continue reading

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criticisms tip of the day 6

I am persistent, you are stubborn. I am decisive, you are impulsive. I am laid back, you are sloppy. other: ” you are apathetic and indifferent!” me:”I don’t care.” I mess up a lot, and I get a lot of criticism. … Continue reading

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the Hard Part-tip o the day 5

if I can break the task into small steps, then I have to decide where to start. not easy for us with ADD. Strategy:  do the hard part first. If I do the hard part, then it is done.   It … Continue reading

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I Don’t Have To – Tip O the Day 4

I need to avoid the words “have to” and “should”. They automatically bring up resistance. And make me feel burdened. I need to use “need to” and other phrases instead. doug from: Your Life Can Be Better it would be good … Continue reading

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ONE STEP AT A TIME- tip o the day 3

if a task seems daunting break it into small steps consider each step a separate task tackle one step at a time If I need to “do my taxes” I can’t get started, but if I need to “find last … Continue reading

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tip o the day

focus on one thing. put everything else on your list and then put your list aside. this prevents feeling overwhelmed. doug

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Your Life Can Be Better

This blog is to introduce Your Life Can Be Better: strategies for adults with ADD and those who care about them. book coming out in 2011

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first tip o the day

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strategies for adults with ADD

Your Life Can be Better: strategies for adults with ADD and those who care about them book coming out coming out in 2011

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