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Marriage- Part Three — ADHD Tip O the Day 988

Posted on December 11, 2021 by doug with ADHD

With ADHD , everything is much harder, especially relationships. We disappoint, forget, let down. We get preoccupied, don’t finish, don’t get started.  We blurt out, do and say socially inappropriate things.  We run into things, knock things over, drop things. … Continue reading →

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Marriage/Relationships? Part Two— ADHD Tip O the Day 986

Posted on November 13, 2021 by doug with ADHD

Marriage part two Throughout this series, I use “marriage” “to stand for “marriage and/or relationships.” I understand that marriage is becoming increasingly rare. ADHD and marriage:  Marriage is hard.  With ADHD it’s much harder, especially for the non ADHD partner.  … Continue reading →

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Marriage and Other Strange Relationships, Part 1 — ADHD Tip O the Day 985

Posted on November 3, 2021 by doug with ADHD

Relationships are so complicated, even without ADHD, that this will take two or more posts.  And with ADHD – Whew!! We marry with expectations of what our marriage will be like.  Generally, we expect our marriage to either be like … Continue reading →

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Keep It Short — ADHD Tip O the Day 955

Posted on May 10, 2021 by doug with ADHD

My astute wife said the last ADHD post was too long.  So this one will be short. Strategy O the Day: Listen to your wife. doug Links: ADHD and Relationships ADHD and Relationships more Webinars Quotes O the Day: “The … Continue reading →

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ADHD Excuses — ADHD Tip O the Day 947

Posted on March 15, 2021 by doug with ADHD

We ADHDers are hard to live with.  We cause a lot of frustration. A comment from T: “I would love for you to address the issue with people with ADHD trying to justify behavior that is driven by the ADHD … Continue reading →

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ADHD Emotions Part 3— ADHD Tip O the Day 923

Posted on September 29, 2020 by doug with ADHD

Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria as a part of  ADHD Do I have RSD?  I don’t know.  I reread the article, it says usually the crashes just last for hours, mine last a day or two. Still, I’m certainly overly sensitive and … Continue reading →

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A Bad Habit — ADHD Tip O the Day 829

Posted on September 1, 2018 by doug with ADHD

I have a bad habit. No, it’s not sexual, no matter what you may have been imagining. Still, it’s too embarrassing to tell you. It’s just a bad habit which causes me some discomfort. I don’t like it. I’ve tried … Continue reading →

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“You Don’t Listen to Me!” — ADHD Tip O the Day 816

Posted on March 20, 2018 by doug with ADHD

Have you ever heard that? Miscommunication is a standard part of normal human life. So is the frustration with it.  But who ever said that ADHD is normal human life?  So we have a lot more of it. Feeling not … Continue reading →

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ADHD, Listening, Hearing, Oh,my — ADHD Tip O the Day 800

Posted on September 4, 2017 by doug with ADHD

“You just don’t listen to me!” Have you ever heard that?  If you have, then does that mean you were listening? Yes, I was listening to you.  I could repeat every word you said.  But that doesn’t necessarily mean I … Continue reading →

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Blurting out with ADHD. Did I Just Do It Again? — ADHD Tip O the Day 796

Posted on August 12, 2017 by doug with ADHD

ADHD: Impulsiveness, Distractability, Poor Social Judgement, Blurting Out Impulsivness is one of the defining criteria for ADHD.  Products of ADHD impulsivity include both distractability  – I get a  distraction and I impulsively follow it, off task – and also blurting … Continue reading →

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Back again with ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 769

Posted on March 10, 2017 by doug with ADHD

 Does this really have anything to do with ADHD? I’m back.  Sorta.  Swamped.  So here’s some of my favorite clips.  I’m hoping that you will: 1. watch them. 2. enjoy them. 3.  leave a comment on the question, “What do … Continue reading →

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ADHD and Relationships. Is it possible? — ADHD Tip O the Day 766

Posted on January 31, 2017 by doug with ADHD

My long suffering wife  (very, very long) still gets annoyed sometimes when I do ADHD stuff.  For one example, of many, calling her to come help and then doing something to get ready while she’s standing there waiting. I’m trying … Continue reading →

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Five Disconcerting Facts, Relevant To But Not Limited To ADHD — ADD Tip O the Day 759

Posted on December 26, 2016 by doug with ADHD

Disconcerting Facts: 1. Our decisions are made unconsciously, based on unconscious factors, mostly emotional.  After a decision is made, we think we “decide.”  Then we come up with “facts” to support our decision and make it appear to be rational. 2. … Continue reading →

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Relationships, Including Marriage, and ADD ADHD — ADD Tip O the Day 636

Posted on August 18, 2015 by doug with ADHD

For ease, I’ll talk about marriage  but this applies to all intimate relationships. Things they don’t tell you Marriage is hard work. Especially if one of you has ADD ADHD. Quote O the Day The only thing worse than being … Continue reading →

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A Typical Day With ADD ADHD: Where in the world does the time go? — ADD Tip O the Day 633

Posted on August 3, 2015 by doug with ADHD

My Typical ADD ADHD Day Sleeping 6 hrs      Trying to sleep 2 hrs Quiet time   .5 hr Exercise  1 hr Shower shave dress teeth bathroom  1hr Eating 3 hrs                                       Thinking about eating – all the time Looking for something … Continue reading →

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ADD ADHD and Marriage or Similar Relationships — ADD Tip O the Day 629

Posted on July 14, 2015 by doug with ADHD

With ADD ADHD, Relationships Are Hard In older couples, the divorce rate is twice that of vanillas.  According to Melissa Orlov, the major problem is undiagnosed and untreated ADD ADHD. Quote O the Day: “You have to be a superwoman … Continue reading →

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What Having ADD ADHD Is Like — ADD Tip O the Day 622

Posted on June 20, 2015 by doug with ADHD

Living With ADD ADHD One of the painful things about having ADD ADHD is that people who don’t have it can’t understand what it’s like.  They may recognize some of the symptoms and problems and they may know what it’s … Continue reading →

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ADD ADHD Poem —ADD Tip O the Day 593

Posted on March 3, 2015 by doug with ADHD

Ode of an ADDer to a neat wife Please don’t put my stuff away. Please don’t move it, just let it lay. If I can’t see it, it doesn’t exist. I’ll forget to do something and we’ll both be pissed. … Continue reading →

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Why Valentines Day Is important With ADD ADHD — ADD Tip O the Day 586

Posted on February 12, 2015 by doug with ADHD

Valentines Day is February 14, this Saturday, that’s this coming Saturday, two days off, this Saturday, day after tomorrow. With ADD ADHD: 1. We forget all about it. 2. We think it’s a long way off and don’t buy a … Continue reading →

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Increase Self Control — ADD Tip o the Day 495

Posted on May 2, 2014 by doug with ADHD

Ritalin May Increase Self Control If it does, this would presumably apply also to the other stimulants, Adderall, etc, as well as possibly to Straterra. This could be another hole poked in my belief that these medications do not help … Continue reading →

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Happy Valentines Day, to Everyone Who Loves Someone with ADD or ADHD — ADD Tip o the Day 468

Posted on February 14, 2014 by doug with ADHD

My wife has stuck with me with my ADD all these years.  OK, she has had some complaints sometimes, but she has been very helpful.  I couldn’t have made it without her. She picks up a lot of the slack, … Continue reading →

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Losing It – and Relationships Maybe You Need To Lose? — ADD Tip o the Day 422

Posted on September 11, 2013 by doug with ADHD

Well, I haven’t lost anything else since the credit card – yet – but my Kindle went blooey – not from anything I did, though with ADD or ADHD you’re never quite sure, are you?  Thanks for all the comments … Continue reading →

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Toxic — ADD Tip o the Day 419

Posted on September 4, 2013 by doug with ADHD

Some people are toxic for us and it is better to avoid or minimize contact.  A christmas card once a year can be a good way to stay in contact.  or not. I also recommend, the Dance of Anger, by … Continue reading →

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