I have ADD ADHD — ADD Tip o the Day 491

I have ADD ADHD,

my attention span is short, I’m not good at passive, I’m impatient,

so I don’t:

-read long posts

-watch u tubes

-listen to comcasts

-participate in webinars

-always document my sources when I post

-always check my posts carefully enough before I post them


-I have gotten pretty competent with my i phone (the new one after I ran the other one through the wash).

-I’m not ashamed to acknowledge my diagnosis or label, or my limitations.

- I try to focus on my strengths, not my weaknesses.

-I find that making lists of things helps me organize.

I wonder which of these things you resonate with and which are different for you?


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Simplify and focus

 bonus links from Terry Matlen and Oren Mason

on getting things done

Oren Mason on dangers of treatment and long discussion



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Labeling? Do you want to be labeled? — ADD Tip o the Day 490

New Controversy

More recent controversy about ADD ADHD – about the harm of “labeling”.  

Is there a difference between a label and a diagnosis?

Boy, when I got a label I grabbed it and held on – “Oh, I have ADD!  Now I understand why all the index cards, why I couldn’t make model planes, why I killed the pregnant guppy.”

It was such a relief to make sense of it, and it gave me a more focused approach to making things better once I knew what I was dealing with.


Everyone is labeled, automatically

When I worked in the emergency room, I taught that everyone gets labelled but we can chose with what:  “He’s not the suicidal patient; he’s the temporarily unemployed carpenter.” or   “He’s not the neglectful father, he’s the hardworking fisherman.”

Then we would use metaphors from the labels to work with people.


My labels:

“I’m not the guy who never finishes things; I’m the guy who is learning to cope successfully with ADD.”


From Oren on labeling:

  • Oren Mason

    Author and Educational Speaker

    “Doug, some parents in my practice were conferring with their son’s teacher about a recommendation to undergo diagnosis for an apparent attention problem. The parents objected, “But we don’t want anyone to label our son.” The teacher responded, “He’s already collecting a lot of labels that you might not like, such as “lazy”, “unmotivated”, “class clown” and “weird”. Wouldn’t you prefer that his issues receive a label from someone who has his best interest at heart and can help him deal with the issues?””

    I love it!!


    Moral o the Day : The more of us who come out, the less stigma there will be.

    Quote o the Day:  “People tend to act the way we expect them to act.”

    on labeling theory

    If you missed Jerry Bair’s good tips on improving

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    “A rose is a rose is a — Look! – is that an orchid?”


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ADD ADHD Improvement!!

More good stuff from Jerry Bair:


10 Ways ADHD Adults Can Improve Themselves In Just 10 Minutes A Day


Like many adult ADHDers, there are a million things I want to do or improve in my life. Eat healthier. Work out more. Clean up my inbox. Make a million dollars. Sometimes, I want to do them all at the same time.

Unfortunately, changing ten things at the same time never works. Why? Like many ADHDers know, this only leads to overwhelm, anxiety, and the epic FAIL.

A more sustainable approach is to start small and work your way up. By small, I’m talking ten minutes a day. Think it can’t be done? Below are ten ways you can improve an area of your life in just ten minutes a day.

1. Get fit, feel better, and gain more energy using Tony Horton’s 10-minute Trainer or with 10 minutes of your own favorite workout.

2. Control your impulses & reduce anxiety using Headspace Focus 10 Meditation.

3. Plan your days either first thing in the morning or the night before so you’re not creating unnecessary work for yourself.

4. Spend ten minutes a day playing the Email Game, a speedy, timed method for cleaning up your GMail inbox.

5. Go outside. Spending regular time outdoors is not only more mentally stimulating, but it also provides an outlet for releasing boundless energy. To add to that, it can reduce stress and help improve concentration.

6. Eat breakfast to give you more sustainable energy throughout the day. I’m a huge fan of oatmeal and pop tarts. Tim Ferriss’ has a cool YouTube video on how to make a healthy breakfast in less than 3 minutes. Check it out here.

7. De-clutter. You can tackle many messes in no time if you just dedicate a little time to them each day. I’ve done this with files on my PC as well as my filing cabinet. It saves time and stress when you’re looking for important things.

8. Train your brain with Lumosity. Lumosity’s games are geared toward cognitive development, take very little time, and can be used to boost working memory, focus, impulse control, attention span, and peripheral vision.

9. Simplify. I firmly believe in “work smarter, not harder.” If you can do something an easier way or delegate it, then do so. I automated my PC file cleanup using Belvedere, which deletes unused/unopened files after a specified time frame.

10. Use your natural gifts. ADHDers are intuitive, resilient, creative, and spontaneous. If you can find a continuously-stimulating career that allows you to use your gifts on a regular basis, you’ll be much, much happier.

The recurring theme here is to start small. Over time, small changes yield massive results. Plus, they help build consistency.

If you can put aside 10 minutes a day, even once or twice a week, on a consistent basis, you’ll be amazed at how much improvement you can make in your life.

For ADHD adults, consistency really is key. Start with 1 or 2 changes, get into a pattern, and either slowly add in additional changes or build on existing ones (e.g., workout for 15 minutes instead of 10). This is the surest way to prevent overwhelm.

Want to dominate your ADHD and use it to take your life to the next level? Check out ADHD Domination, a new video course designed to restore your focus, motivation, and self-control in less than 10 minutes a day for the next 30 days.



Good Tips




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To Do Lists? — ADD Tip o the Day 489

“Lists don’t work for me!”

Some people with ADD ADHD have told me that to do lists don’t work for them.  That may be so, because we are each unique, but my guess is they aren’t using them properly.  Then they won’t work.

Here are a few tips on lists, but then I suggest you read Pete Quily’s whole post on the subject.  Lots of details.

A Few Tips:

1. One list, where you can always reach it -cards in my pocket, i Phone, purse, whatever

2. Short – 5 items max.  You can make another longer list, move items off it to the short list

3. Check it 5 times a day.

4. Make sure you have “small steps“, not  a project.  You can keep another project list.

(My favorite example:  “1. find the cancelled checks”   not   “1. do the taxes“)

5.  Some days I need to make a list of one and work from that.  Some days are like that.

The Link:

Pete Quily on to do lists   

Bonus Links:

Lynne on time management

The List of One


Request # 2:

(I suspect most of you already know about this, but just in case-)

If you like a post , please clik “like” button below, and share it by cliking the buttons that you have – facebook, twitter, etc.

Notice that there is no button for “hate this”, etc, but you can leave a comment.

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What’s stopping you?

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More On Esquire Article — ADHD Tip o the Day 488

The Esquire article was lengthy,                                                                                         but I was finally able to focus enough to read the whole thing, word by word, by reading it during breaks in the championship basket ball game. I have trouble reading anything of length on the computer  or i Phone.

The loving  positive behavioral approach                                                                         of the guru was featured.   I really liked it.  I’m sure this approach is helpful to some;         for some may be all that’s needed.  Some may need medicine to be able to respond.           I’d like to see this approach more widely applied, and some data on the results.
However, the article implies that this is The Answer to ADD ADHD and should always be used instead of meds.  Bull.

I agree                                                                                                                                                with some things in the article:

1.  There are many things that can help with ADD ADHD.  A common error is to think that if something helps, the lack of it must be the cause.  Bad logic.  Biggest example is the French flap, with people noting that structure helps ADHD, therefore these children suffer not from ADHD at all, merely from a lack of structure.  Oh, my!                                                  
2.  I totally agree that twelve minutes is not long enough to diagnose ADD ADHD,  let alone diagnose and prescribe.  I suspect this twelve minute idea is just part of the  stereotyping exaggerated sensationalizing approach of the article, but I have some fear that it may not be. Has anyone had experience with this?

Diagnosing ADHD
requires time and attention, with a history, details of current problems, and ideally a review of records, information from another person,  and a test.

I have never diagnosed ADHD in less than fifty minutes, and usually longer.

may sometimes help people without ADHD ADD, but I remain doubtful, even though  some data supports this.  I think that if a trial of the medicine yields significant improvement, that helps support the diagnosis.

disagree                                                                                                                                               with the misinforming, slanted, biased, sensationalizing approach.
1. The article repeatedly calls the medicines, and specifically ritalin, “highly addictive”.  I don’t think so.  Some people can become addicted, sometimes with very bad results, but I think it is a very small percent, especially if the diagnosis is correct.                                 Note that many children have “drug holidays”, skip the weekends or even the summer – this is not addiction.

2. The article portrays the medicines as very medically dangerous; again I think not so.

I believe that misleading articles like this do harm.


David’s comment:

David Pomeroy MD  Private Practice in Diagnosis and Treatment of ADHD

  • “Doug, I am with you 100%. It makes me sick to see articles and books about ADHD which claim it does not exist, or kids are being “drugged” to be normal, with “dangerous addicting drugs”. These have no basis in fact, science, or common sense. Are stimulants the drug of choice for some addicts? yes. Does using them in doses which help ADHD cause addiction? No. To those who say they do not believe in ADHD, I agree with Ned Hallowell; it’s not a question of faith. It’s a question of whether one understands and accepts the scientific method, and the facts about the neurobiology of ADHD (which are not “invented” by pharma companies; in fact the basic science research on brain structure and function in ADHD was done at the National Institutes of Health).”

Gina’s comment:

Pieces such as those in Esquire are so transparent. Do a Google search, and you’ll find that egregious title repeated ad infinitum. Sensation sells on the Internet, and nothing sells it better than a “drugged” piece on ADHD.

No matter if it’s poorly researched and cherry-picked, full of fear-mongering hyperbole.

Oren’s comment on side effects

Other links on ritalin:

clik 1      clik 2

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Weaving a web of misinformation.


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Beliefs, Where Do They Come From? — ADD Tip o the Day 487

According to research, we all do this, ADD ADHD or not:

Most of our beliefs come from our emotional responses; we then dig up data to support them.

If we come across information that refutes or doesn’t support our belief, we either don’t notice it or we refute it, often attacking the messenger.

I believe that the Bible is frequently misused this way. People choose their belief, then they go find a verse to support it, often by distorting the meaning and/or taking it out of context.  They ignore all the other verses that go against their belief.  Then they sincerely believe that their belief is based on the Bible.

If someone argues against our belief, we dig up everything we can to defend it and in the process, our belief becomes more firmly held.

We often confuse our beliefs with fact.

Tip of the Day:  Question your beliefs.  Examine what you have based them on.

Bonus Tip o the Day: It can be useful to discuss beliefs with someone to understand where they’re coming from; it is usually useless to argue with someone if you’re hoping to change their mind.


Quote o the Day:   “A mind made up is a mind made up.”

(I made that up myself, so is it really a quote?)

Bonus Quote o the Day“I’m not arguing with you; I’m just trying to help you understand why I’m right.”

Bonus links:  

Free treatment information from Melissa Orlov

Advice from Tom- avoid commitments, they only lead to grief

Bonus bonus tip: I never promise to do anything; I say, “I’ll try.”

Series on Science or Hash?     


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Minds can be like that- set in stone.

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Errors About ADD ADHD? — ADD Tip o the Day 486

Re recent outburst of sensationalized articles against the diagnosis and the treatment of ADD ADHD:

“Kids are being given medicines to control their behavior.”

No, kids are given medicines so that they can control their behavior – not get in trouble for blurting out or being unable to stay in their seat; turning in their homework instead of losing it, not forgetting the assignment, or just not being able to do it at all; not losing their books, not failing because they can’t pay attention in class, not having trouble on the playground because they can’t follow the rules of the game, not being an outcast because they are too different and inappropriate, etc.  If a child prefers to have these kind of problems, there is no medicine that will make them do differently, but few children want to be like this.

“The medicines constrict them so they can’t climb trees or enjoy sports.” 

I remember sadly watching my son Duane in a soccer game, standing in the middle of the field watching the birds or the clouds and maybe sticking out a foot if he noticed the other boys running past him with the ball. How great it was later to watch him when he seemed to understand the concept and actually participated in the game.

“You are diagnosing boys who are just being boys.”

Most boys are not in trouble all the time and are able to focus enough to do their work and pass to the next grade.”

“Everyone has some ADHD.”

I just addressed this  (see link below).  “Maybe, but we have a lot of it all of the time.”

“Children are being drugged.” 

Maybe it’s just semantics, but to me drugged means being given something sedating, becoming zombie like.  Being given a stimulant or antidepressant that allows us to focus and function just doesn’t seem like “drugging”.

“You are trying to ‘normalize’ them.” 

To turn them all into cookie cutter identical robots, right?  Or rather, to allow them to choose to be themselves and function in any normal ways that they would choose to?

Esquire’s pieceThe Drugging of the American Boy

Have you read the article?  What do you think?

If you will please give your opinion, please also indicate whether you or your child has ADHD or not.


comment from andrew kinsella MD

My personal note:

Personally, I had few problems in school except for fights and social inadequacy (somehow got away with blurting out a lot) until I hit the brick wall of college – never had to study before, didn’t know how and couldn’t focus.  I finally learned how to study, but still had trouble focusing.  If only I had had some Ritalin, or the Daytrana that I use now.

More links:

ADD does not exist

ADD myths 

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