My ADD ADHD Problem: Stalled, Stuck, and Overwhelmed — ADD Tip o the Day 531

Stuck

Since I changed my schedule I haven’t been able to get reorganized yet.                       My to do list is way too long, and I’m blocked and stuck.

Strategy

I plan to use a favorite strategy, take a used envelope and  write a calendar on the back. Then I’ll put one of those tasks for each day and I will get that done. If I get more than one done, I’ll rewrite the calendar and adjust. That would be nice.

Result
Surprise, surprise!

Once I decided to do this, the block evaporated and I just did the first task without actually making the calendar.

Question
Do you think that my ADD realized what I was going to do and just gave up?

 

doug

Bonus Question O the Day

Are you an ADDer?  See Oren’s link below. What do you think?

Bonus Links

some controversy from Oren

from Crystal, ADHD parent

stuck, from Doug

iI there something I'm sposed to be doing?
Is there something I’m sposed to be doing?
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My Wife Complains – – – ADD Tip O the Day 530

My wife told me this morning that I’m very difficult to  live with.      I have no reason to doubt her.  She’s  unhappy because I got lost walking in the neighborhood the other day and she was concerned about me.

I explained to her that I was totally safe. I had my cell phone.  If I’d been willing to stop walking I could’ve found my location and a map on my phone, or I could’ve called her.                                         Or even called 911.

I wasn’t willing to stop walking;  that would’ve defeated the purpose and seemed weak.

But getting lost was actually a blessing because I went twice as far as my goal!

My wife says I’m stubborn.

Can you believe that?

Doug

 

RIP

Robin Williams, 63, fellow ADDer

Bonus Note o the Day

With ADD ADHD we tend to substance abuse, with a higher percentage than vanillas.     Our drugs of choice tend to be uppers  –  cocaine, amphetamines. Studies show that we do not tend to abuse our medications if we truly have ADD ADHD and that while addiction can occur, it is rare.

There is a problem with college students misusing the stimulants.

Extra note

The above are my opinions, based on studies I’ve read about. If someone can offer citations and references, I will be happy to  publish them, even if they disagree with me. Thank you.

Brighten up!
Brighten up!

 Bonus link

Melissa Orlov’s new book on ADD ADHD and marriage

 

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ADD ADHD is Messy — ADD Tip o the Day 529

Making a mess:

I previously told you about my struggles with the plastic dish pan for foot soaking. I would have the pan at the sink, fill it with hot water from the teakettle, take it over to the table and put it under the table in front of my chair. I’d slosh some out on way.

Then I would go back to the sink to get some cold water to regulate the temp. When I came back, I would kick the pan, and slosh more out.  Once I  turned it over.

Once I held the pan wrong and the plastic collapsed and everything spilled out.

brilliant new strategy:

The new approach is to put the pan under the table first and then take the teakettle to it. Then I just have to be careful not to kick it when I sit down..

Amazing!  Brilliant!

The principle:

If you can recognize that something is a problem, you can come up with a strategy.

doug

Screw up o the day 

On my last post, I originally had number 258 instead of 528.    

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There’s coordination!

Dyslexia often accompanies ADD ADHD.

 

Quote o the day from Mike Huber:

Our superpower is thinking outside the box (cuz mostly we can’t find the box)–.

 

Bonus Links:

On foot soaking, what can go wrong, etc

ADD ADHD and dyslexia

 

 

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Not Getting Things Done? – – – ADD Tip o the Day 528

On not getting things done:

My sister does not have ADD ADHD, but she sure comes up with some good tips.       Thanks Lucy.

Here’s her email: 

Doug,  

Am trying a new strategy & wonder if it might

be helpful for add/adhd.  

“it’s too HOT (personalize the reason)

to do anything, so I’ll get started later”  

BUT “if I were going to

do something, where would I start?” 

This strategy sometimes leads to the listing stage.  It’s best

to list just one “where would I start” at this point.

Does it work? …….you’re getting this email aren’t you?

my strategies:

1. Try to figure out the real reason I’m not doing it

2. Take a break

3. Make a to do list of one .

4. Break it into the smallest possible steps

5. Make a new list of one

6. Start using Lucy’s strategy when necessary

Links on this very topic:

homey on not doing to do’s

tom nardone on not finishing

How to not finish – Tip o the Day

doug

So what have I accomplished today?
So what have I accomplished today?
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Messed Up Again with ADD ADHD– – – ADD Tip o the Day 527

Confession:

On Friday, I stood up my friend for our monthly breakfast appointment.

I felt badly about that plus I really enjoy our meetings.

At our last meeting, I’d written the next  appointment time in my appointment book, but I’d only written the time, 8:30.

I’ve been looking at that 8:30 Friday for a month, trying to figure out what it was about. Never got it. I do this fairly often, plus when I do write down the information, often I can’t read it later.

Strategy:

New rules – always write down the whole thing and make sure it’s legible.  Double check it  before I close the appointment book.

It’s like I double check that I put the credit card back in my billfold every time I use it. This has become a habit, and it works.

Doug

bonus link

homey on dealing with schedule changes

crap o the day:

more discussion on misinformation and “facts”

this is actually very interesting, be sure to read the discussion to see what’s really going on!

question o the day:

Which ADD ADHD symptom causes you the most trouble?

I’m trying to figure out my answer; there’s so many.

rules,ADD,ADHD,adult ADD,adult ADHD,attention,deficit,strategies, attention deficit,

There’s gotta be a better way!

 

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Messed Up Again with ADD ADHD– – – ADD Tip o the Day 527

messed this up too, this was not supposed to be posted yet.

Don’t get upset, I’ll post it in a few days.

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Rules: Friend or Enemy? – – – ADD Tip O the day 526

Some of my current rules – these are essential:

1. When I write an appointment in my appointment book, put down both the time and the activity; either one without the other is not very useful.

Double check to make sure that it’s complete,accurate and legible.

2. When I’m getting gas, hang my keys on the gas tank door, so I won’t drive off with the gas hose – again.

3. When I’m backing out of the driveway, check carefully behind me before I start.

4. Keys only on front table; nowhere else, ever.

Are rules bad?

Routine

Routine

Some people are concerned that rules will be too constricting and burdensome. Not for me. Without them, my life would be chaos, which would be worse, and, once they become a habit, they’re not really rules anymore. I don’t have to think about them or apply them, I just do them.

Nobody’s perfect

But sometimes, I start slipping and  have to regroup. Especially after a change in schedule or routine.

doug

Bonus links:  

Homey’s Tips for Living with ADD ADHD

Structure

Rules

Quote o the Day:

“I believe that every problem has a solution. That obviously is not totally true, but I find it to be a very useful belief.”

From Doug

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