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Careful — ADD Tip o the day 89

I find that I am careful sometimes.  We toured a glass factory and then were led into an incredible showroom filled with art pieces, very expensive.  I had on a back pack and realized that it was not safe, i … Continue reading

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Asking directions — ADD Tip o the day 88

I had to ask for directions several times yesterday.  That is hard for men to do.  First, we are supposed to be on top of everything and show no weakness.  Second, research, which I didn’t understand, shows that some part … Continue reading

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coordinated, not — ADD Tip o the day 87

Last night I reached for the wine glass, and instead of grasping it, I knocked it over.  Red wine on the white tablecloth, tho I guess it didn’t matter too much since I’d already spilled a lot of pizza sauce … Continue reading

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Check, check, check —- ADD Tip o the day 86

Left my blue sports jacket hanging on the back of the chair at the restaurant at JFK airport.  It was hot and stuffy there,  no air conditioning on in the airport.  Leaving the jacket there wasn’t so bad except my … Continue reading

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Frustration ADD Tip o the day 85

Computers are wonderful, aren’t they?  We can do so many things with them that we never could do before we had them.  This blog is just one example.  So I guess we just put up with the fact that they … Continue reading

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Laugh —- ADD Tip o the day 84

Well, this is not just for ADD, but we do tend to to get down or frustrated more often than other people, don’t we? A recent New Yorker had an article on a doctor who has made an industry out … Continue reading

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disorganized —- ADD Tip o the day 82

I run into people who are too disorganized to get organized.   They don’t have time to learn how to manage time.   I hope they will read the book, but one of my fears is that people with ADD won’t get … Continue reading

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Plan B — ADD Tip o the day 81

It is good to have a plan B, or maybe its a plan C.  We get anxious about the future. Life is full of uncertainty.  We are often worried about a problem or a decision. So it is good to … Continue reading

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enjoy the good —ADD tip o the day 62

Life can be hard sometimes, for anyone, though it tends to be harder for those of us coping with ADD or ADHD.  I think one of ways we can cope with that is to enjoy the good times.  We need … Continue reading

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Advantages part 2 — ADD Tip o the day 79

One of the advantages of having  ADD is that we tend to be good in a crisis.  Probably it is because a crisis does turn on our focus center and we can hyper-focus.  I have found this in my own … Continue reading

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Lots to do — ADD Tip o the day 80

“I have lots to do today”, I’m saying to myself, and I’m feeling overloaded.  So why am I telling myself this lie?  I only have one thing to do- finish this blog post. When I’m finished, I can look at … Continue reading

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checking — ADD Tip o the day 78

Last night I tried out facebook, which I don’t understand. I found out what “status” does, tho why is it called that?  Then I tried “links”.  That worked!  Of course, since I was kind of excited and have ADD, I … Continue reading

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Advantages of ADD — ADD Tip o the day 77

In writing this book, I was surprised as I became aware of some advantages that ADD conveys.  See Pete Quilly’s links to the right of this message.  One of the advantages is creativity.  Most of us coping with ADD or … Continue reading

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pressure — ADD tip o the day 76

I was feeling a lot of pressure to get the book finished by the end of April.  Two separate very wise women pointed out that this pressure was self imposed.  There really is no pressure.  There is no real deadline. … Continue reading

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scraps of paper –ADD Tip o the day 75

“Let me find a scrap of paper to write that down on.” I don’t do that anymore.  Never could find that scrap after I’d written something down.   Carry index cards in my pocket, with an organized system for using … Continue reading

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Brain freeze —ADD Tip o the day 74

Have any of you experienced brain freeze? I’m not sure it’s part of ADD.  It’s certainly related to anxiety. When your brain freezes you are doing well if you can remember your own name.  The synapses are not firing.  It … Continue reading

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Anchors — ADD Tip o the day 73

Anchors are reminders to do something that I need to remember to do pretty often.  It could be to check my blood sugar, or to say a special prayer, or to do a special exercise, or to tell my beautiful … Continue reading

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Know Thyself –ADD Tip of the day 72

“He who knows and knows he knows, he is wise,                    follow him. He who knows and knows not he knows, he is asleep,          wake him. He who … Continue reading

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You are special —ADD Tip o the day 71

As an old friend of mine always used to say, “I never cease to be amazed that —-“, we are all so different and we are all so much alike.  That applies to humans on the grand scale, and to … Continue reading

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Symptoms or consequences — ADD Tip o the day 70

This is something of a puzzle.  Our basic problem is that our focus center (attention center) in our brain is wired differently.  Some of the symptoms that come from that are distractibility, procrastination, difficulty starting, and so on.  Probably impulsiveness … Continue reading

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Stuck again —– ADD Tip o the day 68

Here’s one of the ways we get stuck: we feel overwhelmed by a big important task, so we procrastinate.  Just can’t get started.  But we have a lot of other things to do.  But instead of doing them, we are … Continue reading

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Listen —— ADD Tip o the day 67

I was just at a retreat where we did a candle light service.  They gave each of us a small white candle with a circle of paper to put around it to catch the wax.  Then, one by one, we … Continue reading

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vulnerable — ADD Tip o the day 65

A fellow ADDer commented that when we are tired we are more vulnerable.  She meant that we are more vulnerable to the symptoms of ADD or ADHD.  When we are tired we are more likely to blurt out, get distracted, … Continue reading

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Genes and ADD or ADHD —- ADD Tip o the day 65

It is estimated that about 4% of adults in this country have ADD.  In men, it is mostly transmitted though the paternal genes.  I have it, and my son Duane had it.  I can come up with a only a … Continue reading

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Thoughtfulness —- ADD tip o the day 63

I did a small nonrequired unrequested kindness for my wife this morning, opening a container that I knew she was going to use later.  She was unaware of this.  I was being thoughtful.  Unfortunately, this was unusual enough that I … Continue reading

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enjoy the good! —-ADD Tip o the day 62

Life can be hard sometimes, for anyone, but especially if we are coping with ADD or ADHD. We manage life by really enjoying the good times; that makes it even out better.  But our ADD, either the symptoms or the … Continue reading

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Can’t do it all —– ADD Tip o the day 61

This is one of our problems; we are blessed with a curious active mind and so many things are appealing.  We are not good at setting priorities.  One reason is that often choosing to do A means that we have … Continue reading

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ADD Symptoms —–ADD Tip o the day 60

Many people who do NOT have ADD or ADHD have told me that sometimes they have  some of the same symptoms- they lose their keys, or forget an appointment, or procrastinate, etc.  I believe them.  I think that’s just human. … Continue reading

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State of mind ——-ADD Tip o the day 59

It is good to be aware of our state of mind – we can be frustrated, overwhelmed, rushed, frantic, mopey, tired, etc.   That would be one part of the practice of awareness, which is good for everyone, but especially if … Continue reading

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Overloaded —— ADD Tip o the day 58

Yesterday I was feeling overloaded.  that is a unpleasant feeling and, the feeling makes it harder to get things done, so then I feel more overloaded.  But that’s exactly what it is, a feeling, a state of mind, a perception, not a … Continue reading

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Time part 2 —– ADD Tip o the day 57

I am usually early for appointments, because I estimate how long it will take me to get there, add 20%, figure out what time I need to leave the house, and then decide to leave 5 to 10 minutes earlier than … Continue reading

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Time and ADD —– ADD Tip o the day 56

When we are young, our life stretches endlessly before us. We can afford to waste a day, or a few, or a week or so. Not every moment is precious, or at least we don’t recognize that it is. One … Continue reading

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ADD and frustration —– ADD Tip o the day 55

A young lady who was recently diagnosed with ADD describes how frustrated she gets with herself when she messes up and recognizes that she is showing an ADD symptom.  Usually once we learn the diagnosis we feel much better, because then … Continue reading

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Many sites ——– ADD Tip o the day 54

You may be amazed to learn that this is not the only ADD site on the net.  It is not even the only good one.  There are many sites on ADD and ADHD, on strategies, tools, coping , managing, thriving, suceeding and so … Continue reading

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Self talk part 2 ——— ADD Tip o the day 53

Every one does self talk.  If we have ADD, it tends to be negative self talk.                         We can call it “the old tapes”.                                                                                               Sometimes we actually hear the parental  voice.                                                 This negativity is destructive.                                              We may be able to stop it, … Continue reading

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Slow down, refocus —— ADD tip o the day 52

  A copy of a small blue book, The Quiet Mind, sits in the book shelf in my office, where I see it every time I go in or out of the door.  The going in or out becomes the anchor that … Continue reading

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Small, small steps ——– ADD Tip o the day 51

well, I got the taxes done, almost had to go thru the credit card statements, and mark the deductions usually I would’ve gotten a glass of brandy and sat myself down and bulled thru them hated it.     especially hard with ADD This … Continue reading

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Slogans ——- Tip o the day 50

I have a lot of slogans that help me. I can just say them thru the day, or when the appropriate situation arises: Do it now, do it right, do the hard part first. You can only do what you … Continue reading

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Lost keys? – FOFA —– ADD Tip o the day 49

I found about a neat gadget and have put it in the book.  It may be the neatest thing for ADD or ADHD since the manila folder.  The find-one-find-all has a flat gadget with buttons on it to carry in … Continue reading

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Unstuck ——- ADD Tip o the day 47

If you’re trapped in the negative feedback loop – vicious cycle –  downward spiral into the ADD demoralized stuck pit   –       You Can Get Out !!  1. check yourself for the negative self  talk .  Identify it and counter it.    2. … Continue reading

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stuck —- ADD Tip o the day 46

Many things in life work in feedback loops, like vicious cycles or whatever the opposite is –     beneficial cycles? When our ADD wins out and we drift away from our track, get distracted, can’t get started,    can’t finish, and so … Continue reading

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It’s not stupid! —– Tip o the day 45

A lot of us with ADD call ourself “stupid” when we mess up.  Or we may say “That was stupid!” No, it wasn’t stupid.  And we’re not stupid, it’s ADD.  Those of us who had a lot of trouble in … Continue reading

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Morals and ADD ———- Tip of the Day 44

I asked a patient about his use of alcohol and drugs,                                                                  he made a comment about his”vices”.      A friend commented on his ADD, said rules don’t work for him because he just rebels against them, said he doesn’t have a  conscience, … Continue reading

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irritable ——– ADD Tip o the day 43

I am very irritable.  I get easily annoyed, often over small things, often over things that really aren’t even annoying.  I thought it was just me, one of my character flaws. I looked up ‘ADD-irritable’ on the net and got … Continue reading

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technology-whine? —- ADHD Tip o the day 42

I have read that many of us with ADD are technologically astute. Not me – technologically challenged. I’m not getting many hits on this blog but I think some people are reading it on facebook. I hope so. I get … Continue reading

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Diagnosis: part 3 -the last part—Tip o the day 35

So, if your’re not sure if you have ADD or not, you can look at all the symptoms I’ve talked about.  You can take some of the free tests on the net.  Then you can see a psychiatrist or a … Continue reading

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Diagnosis part 2 —–Tip of the day 33

Diagnosis Part 2 —-Tip o the day 32Posted on December 28, 2010 by addadultstrategies     procrastination, losing things, forgetting things, arriving late, saying and doing things impulsively and  inappropriately, failing responsibilities and breaking promises.                  lacking patience, can’t finish things, things don’t … Continue reading

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Diagnosis? — Tip o the day 31

Many of us who have ADD are not aware of it.  We may think that’s just the way life is; we may think that everyone lives that way, although if we just look around us we can see that’s not … Continue reading

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Get Through — Tip of the day 29

Some days you wake up and you just don’t have it.  Maybe you didn’t sleep well, or you’re getting a cold, or you feel overwhelmed.  Anyway, you just don’t have it. A reasonable goal for that day is to get … Continue reading

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Shame tip o the day 28

Shame becomes an integral part of our ADD.  It is deep within us and starts deep in our childhood, when we could not meet the expectations of our parents, then our teachers, then others and ultimately ourselves.  Missing appointments, forgetting … Continue reading

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Procrastinating Tip o the day 26

Of course, I intended to write this piece sooner. Procrastinating means to me that I need to do it, and will get to it, just not today.  And so on. Usually it means I think it’s going to be difficult, … Continue reading

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stuck Tip o the day 25

What is the difference between inertia, procrastination, and avoiding? To me, inertia is when I can’t get going on anything.  Usually it is because I am feeling overwhelmed, too many things to do, what I need to do seems too hard, or … Continue reading

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Comment- the hard part Tip of the day 24

Got an excellent comment from E. T. G. about starting: Most interesting.  I can relate to just about everything you wrote.  Doing the hard part first is not always  possible.  Take altering a garment, for example. ( sometimes I   put this off)  … Continue reading

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Overdoing Tip o the day 21

Too much is not enough.  (Texas saying) We ADDers do tend to overdo we get enthused with a new pastime and go full out, until its not new anymore. I was doing well with my exercises, so I increased them and … Continue reading

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ADD & more frustration -tip o the day 10

spent the morning trying to get the blog verified wasnt working finally I found the “save changes” button on the bottom of the page below the window i was looking at. hadn’t been saving them. new rule: always look at … Continue reading

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