How do you do on your own? Alone?
My wife is leaving (no, not like that)for five days. I know the script – the first 3 days will be great! I can do as I please (more or less). I can clutter, play music loud, go to bed whenever, without considering anyone elses wishes. Love it! The 3rd day I fall apart, can’t function, can’t focus or get started on anything – fall into the chocolate, booze and TV. Yuck.
Gonna try strategies this time – schedule a task for each evening. Have a couple of Netflix, better than TV. Increase my exercise. Let’s see how that works.
Someone wrote that if we have ADD or ADHD we function better if someone else is around, not necessarily doing anything, just there. If someone else is in the room while we study. or while we start a new project on the computer. or if we’re clearing up clutter. etc. Somehow someone else in the room, or at least in the house, helps. What do you think?
The scripture for a few Sundays ago was about God promising Noah that He would never destroy the earth by flood again, and putting a rainbow in the sky as a sign to help Him remember.
You described me so well there! My wife regularly goes away to audit Clubfoot clinics here in Bangladesh. When she goes, me and the kids have fun for a couple of days and I get tons of work done. Then comes the thick fog of depression where I stare at the laptop or just the walls for HOURS unable to do anything.
She often complains that when she IS here I’m busy doing things – but somehow just her presence makes me able to work and feel comfortable and relaxed enough to be creative. I’m glad I’m not the only one like this! 🙂
yes, we’re clearly in the same boat. Isn’t it strange that just the presence makes a difference. by the way, my wife has the same complaint. they don’t realize how essential and valued they are.
LOL – indeed they don’t. I’m sure we tell them a lot though don’t we 😉
Maybe I need to get my wife reading this!
thanks for your comments. it might be good for the wives (ie sig others) to read this, because the more they understand the better able they are to tolerate and to help us.