Trying too hard? —– ADD Tip o the Day 277

Maybe I’m trying to change too many things at one time (willpower? with ADD or ADHD we tend to overdo):

1.  learning to just sit — making progress

2.  getting on the net only 3 times a day  –slo progress

3.  asking more questions, making fewer statements  — slo progress

4. reduce blogging to twice a week, keep up with billing daily, learn i phone, live in the present, remember to eat the ginger candy after lunch and dinner to prevent the postprandial snacks, stop being critical.— some progress

When we are working on ADD stategies, it is best to work on just one or two at a time until they become habits, then move on to the next.

I know that.


Quote of the day:  expectations are just premeditated resentments. 

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About doug with ADHD

I am a psychiatric physician. I learned I have ADHD at age 64, and then wrote two ADHD books for adults, focusing on strategies for making your life better. I just published my first novel, Alma Means Soul. Your Life Can Be Better; strategies for adults with ADD/ADHD available at, or (for e books) Living Daily With Adult ADD or ADHD: 365 Tips O the Day ( e-book). This is one tip at a time, one page at a time, at your own pace. It's meant to last a year. As a child, I was a bully. Then there was a transformation. Now I am committed to helping people instead abusing them. The Bully was published in January, 2016. It's in print or e book, on Amazon.
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8 Responses to Trying too hard? —– ADD Tip o the Day 277

  1. Joyce Bates says:

    I don’t know if it’s that I’m rebellious or stubborn or undisciplined, but even when I set a timer- seems like the 1st time I get on the computer- I’m on it for… ALL DAY!


    • maybe you are all three, maybe not, but if the problem bothers you enough then the principle is – if what you’re doing isnt working , try something else. so you need a good strategy (and if that strategy doesn’t work, then you need another one).
      an example (which is not a good one, but would be an improvement) – don’t let yourself turn on the computer until 2pm, or until you’ve finished the first three things on your to do list. you’d probably still spend too much time on the computer, but less than you are now?
      it’s best if you come up with your own idea, you need to find what works for you-the timer doesn’t.
      you might check out this book The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business
      what do you think?
      thank you for commenting on the post


      • Joyce Bates says:

        I didn’t realize you replied so I just read this today July 9. I actually (ironically) just went to Amazon to check out The Power of Habit…and proceeded to read the entire sample on line. It’s $14 for the Kindle version-which is the least expensive version…but sadly, I do not have $14 to spare! But it sounds fascinating! I’m hoping to be able to afford it soon. Maybe it’ll even show up as a Kindle freebie!
        I say it’s ironic because I have now just put in I don’t know how long on this silly computer. It’s OK…technically there isn’t a ton of stuff that is absolutely mandatory for me to do today (tonight)- but I do have some stuff I must get to. I always enjoy conversing (?) with you.


        • – and i always enjoy your converse. somewhere i just wrote about the computer problem. but i notice you’re saying ‘mandatory’ and ‘must’. suggestion : try two weeks to say “need to” instead all those other burdensome terms. and think about very short lists.
          thank you.
          ps i think some of the reviews of the Habit book pretty well capture the concepts.


  2. Scott Marckx says:

    Thank you! Your book and posts have really helped me. Now I’m trying to make a habit of getting my work done first thing and I’m trying to piggy back it onto my meditation and prayer rule which is already a fairly stable habit. I was out rowing in the rain the other day after almost not going and a Doll’s porpoise surfaced about 10 feet from my boat and then a few more times behind me! It was such a beautiful, magical thing and I never would have seen it if I hadn’t shown up. So now my saying is: I have to show up to see the miracles. That means showing up for work, consistently, as well as my marriage and all the other things. Mostly it means being present in the moment. I’ve got my work cut out!


    • I am glad you have found the book and blog useful, and appreciate your writing. your comment is wonderful – you have to show up to see the miracles – i will try to use it in a post. another good concept – just show up and do your job.
      thanks for commenting.
      (this is my second reply – where did the first one vanish to??)


  3. needs clarifacation – meaning trying to improve on a problem area, like losing my keys for example. that means using the principle of identifying a problem thats worth working on, making strategy, rule and then habit. so seems like we do best at only trying to make one or two new habits at a time. does this make more sense?
    thanks for responding


  4. betsy davenport phd says:

    Working on just one or two things at a time, hahaha, that’s funny. If I start doing that some day, my family will know I’ve gone round the bend.


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