With ADD ADHD we have so many things we’re interested in and it’s hard to say no to any of them. It’s hard to say no to ourselves.
My daily routine includes brushing my teeth, quiet time, and exercise. I was missing the quiet time occasionally but then my spiritual adviser told me it was “non-negotiable.” I’ve used “non-negotiable” as my motto ever since and rarely miss a day.
I actually can’t exercise every day either, but by having that as a goal I get in at least 4 times a week.
I had a goal of doing some guitar, Spanish, book marketing and writing every day. At bedtime I would record in my notebook – E,G,Sp,Mkt,Wrt – or whichever ones I had gotten done.
It’s taken me several years to realize that this is absolutely impossible. My expectations were just unrealistic.
With ADD ADHD we not only want to do everything, we also expect way too much of ourselves.
Goals need to be reasonable and achievable. Otherwise we just set ourselves up for frustration and demoralization.
It works better to set goals too low rather than too high. Then we can feel good about achieving them and maybe we can go on and do more – “Wow! I not only got it done but I exceeded my goal!”
Instead of trying to do each one of those every day (guitar, Spanish, book marketing, and writing) I’m scheduling one of them each day and trying to be sure that that one gets done at least.
I titled this “expectations” because that’s really the focus of it and I’ve written a lot on goals recently.
Multitasking – one of the ADD ADHD gifts?
A whole bunch of other posts on goals (or expectations). Do you really expect to check them all out?
I am a psychiatric physician.
I learned I have ADHD at age 64, and then wrote two ADHD books for adults, focusing on strategies for making your life better.
Your Life Can Be Better; strategies for adults with ADD/ADHD
available at amazon.com, or smashwords.com (for e books)
Living Daily With Adult ADD or ADHD: 365 Tips O the Day ( e-book).
This is one tip at a time, one page at a time, at your own pace. It's meant to last a year.
As a child, I was a bully. Then there was a transformation.
Now I am committed to helping people instead abusing them.
The Bully was published in January, 2016.
It's in print or e book, on Amazon.