Goals — ADD Tip o the Day 363

With ADD or ADHD having goals is very helpful, but like most of the tools and strategies, we need to learn how to use them.

When I decided to practice the sitting and just being, I was initially very enthusiastic and I overcommitted (I have ADD).  So my goal was three time daily.  I did that a little while (more or less)  and then my enthusiasm waned; it was very hard to do.  I was failing at it and I stopped.

(The underlined are key features of ADD or ADHD.)

I have reset the goal to once a day, and am using the strategy of having lunch as an anchor – my signal that’s its time to sit.  Also I’m using my        i-phone timer and trying to make it 9 minutes (another goal).  Often I make it; sometimes I go longer.  It is harder to do when it’s too cold to go outside.

Strategy – we need to make goals, and make them realistic, and modify them if they aren’t working.  Otherwise we will get discouraged and quit.     ( I decided against trying for 10 minutes.)

doug

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About doug with ADHD

I am a psychiatric physician. I learned I have ADHD at age 64, and then wrote two ADHD books for adults, focusing on strategies for making your life better. Your Life Can Be Better; strategies for adults with ADD/ADHD available at amazon.com, or smashwords.com (for e books) Living Daily With Adult ADD or ADHD: 365 Tips O the Day ( e-book). This is one tip at a time, one page at a time, at your own pace. It's meant to last a year. As a child, I was a bully. Then there was a transformation. Now I am committed to helping people instead abusing them. The Bully was published in January, 2016. It's in print or e book, on Amazon.
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  5. I have learned what several of you have learned, that it’s very personal and we each have to follow what works for us. Congrats on being able to do 30 minutes! And thanks to the good doctor for this blog…it’s very helpful…

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  6. always
    meditating is great, and i applaud your getting up to 30 min, i meditate in the am and it is difficult, i am up to 9 minutes and i do find it helpful.
    no, by sitting I mean just sitting and just being, not meditating, sleeping, praying or doing anything. just sitting. i find that helpful too and can do it longer, especially if i’m outdoors and can look at the birds and the clouds..
    thank you for commenting
    best wishes
    doug

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    • meditating does not have to been a struggle or even an effort…it is about mindfulness. there is no right or wrong, just sit down, close your eyes and breathe and focus on the breathing if you can…in a few minutes, open your eyes and realize that you did it right!

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      • tina – i like that! especially “if you can”. that’s about what i’m doing, but i thought more than a few minutes would be more helpful. still, we can only do what we can do.
        thank you for commenting
        doug

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  7. alwaysartify says:

    By sitting I guess you mean meditating? There are lots of ways to do it. I find that I do best flat on my back in a sunny spot in the house if possible. I started with recorded, guided DVD’s– and have been able to work up to 30 mins. I have learned to set no agenda for meditation, other than sit and breath, I know when I’m done, when I’ve had enough and feel refreshed.

    Meditation has been one of the best things I’ve done for my ADD self. But it took a long time to find my way.

    Namaste,

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