We ADDer’s are not renowned for our wisdom. Even so, you would think that by this advanced age I would have learned some things that could be of value to others.
So here is my advice, for what it’s worth. Some of it is specific to ADD ADHD.
- Trust in God. This is very hard to do.
- Do what is right. Be prepared to pay the consequences.
- When you are absolutely sure you are right, consider the possibility that you’re wrong.
- Look for opportunities to help others but take care of yourself and don’t be a patsy.
- Practice saying “No.”
- Meditate. Exercise. Take omega three fatty acids and a multi-vitamin. Do not smoke. Try to keep your weight down – this is very hard.
- Do it now, do it right and do the hard part first.
- Break everything into small steps and focus on one thing at a time.
- Make a long to do list but work off of a short one. Realize that you will never catch up.
- Recognize that the most important things are your relationships, your health and your time. Really!
- Don’t ignore the negative but focus on the positive. Appreciate the beauty that you are surrounded with.
- Remember that we are all more alike than different, yet everyone is unique. And everyone is carrying a wound or a burden that you are not aware of.
Extra Note: There is so much more than we can ever imagine and so much that we cannot ever understand.
Invitation: Will you share your own hard earned wisdom with us here?
Doug
I finally found the lost link!
Just about everything about coping with ADD ADHD from Segal and Smith
With ADD ADHD I get to keep learning the same things over and over.
@addstrategies #adhd #add @dougmkpdp
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And listen to the little voice when it tells you to do or not to do something.
Great advice, Doug.
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homey – that’s a great one! the lesson I learn over and over (one of them).
as always, thank you for commenting
doug
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I took this as inspiration from your book (and your #6, 7, and 8) to try and live by this:
Setting yourself up for success isn’t enough; to succeed you have to set yourself up so that failure isn’t possible.
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dinos -great. part of that is the strategy of “locked in”. but we need to be able to cope with failure too – part of that is “be kind to yourself”
thank you for sharing your wisdom
doug
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Well, my wisdom fits under your nrs 2 and 3, but whenever I stubbornly argue with someone, I go check afterwards who was right. I’ll keep my silence if I find out I was right, but if I find out, the other person was right, I make it a point to go to them, apologize and tell them how I checked out that they were right. Saves me some restlessness, if not all of it. 🙂
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Ram – this is a wise policy. and fits in with Karolyn’s comment. about arguing – i won an argument. once.
thank you for contributing
doug
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Thanks, Doug, for the twelve tips. These will be daily reading…
I’m working on ‘giving up the need to defend my point of view.’ This goes with your #3.
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Karolyn – let’s call yours another tip as well.
thank you for commenting
doug
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jeff – yes, most of my ADD ADHD “wisdom” is in the book, i haven’t learned that much since i wrote it. good for you, very observant
i like your tips – thank you. and we have to stay on top of our own medical care for a lot of reasons, most dr.s are overwhelmed and dont have time to look after you as they should. a shame.
thank you for commmenting
doug
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Hey Doug, Didn’t I read most of these tips in your book? I guess that means I passed the comprehension test! 😉 I’ve been highlighting most of the important tips in your book. Unfortunately, there are so many that I’ve been quickly going through highlighting markers!
My tips to share:
1) Always try to maintain a good attitude! A good attitude can see you through a lot of the adversity in your life!
2) Listen to your doctor’s advice, but keep in mind that he/she may just be trying to cover his/her rear end to avoid a possible malpractice suit. Case in point: My doctor said my recent CT scan revealed that I have cysts on my liver, and wants me to have an MRI to check into this further. Scary situation, as I don’t know if I should be concerned. Does my doctor want me to have an MRI because he is concerned for my health, or is he just trying to protect himself? I guess I’ll never know the answer to this question! Jeff
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