criticism with ADD —- ADD Tip o the day 245

just got the first NEGATIVE REVIEW! on amazon, by J.

well, I had anticipated it sooner or later – some people don’t like flan, i don’t like broccoli, not everyone is going to like the book.  that’s life.  isn’t that mature of me?

 my first (normal, human) impulse was to attack J.   Really bad idea.

 my second (normal, human) impulse was to defend the book.  Really bad idea.

see, i said defend the book, not myself, because i realized J hadn’t criticized me at all, he just didn’t like the book.  so it’s nothing personal, no more than if you showed me your new baby and i said “that’s sure one ugly child!”

and i read somewhere that bad publicity is better than no publicity at all (can this be true?)

So I decided to deal with it by writing this blog, because i think when we are wounded and/or angry, it helps to DO SOMETHING,  hopefully using good judgement as to what to do.

i searched all the old posts- five  have been about criticism.  Must be an important topic – i think we with ADD or ADHD are more sensitive to criticism, because we’ve had so much of it and carry so much shame and feelings of inadequacy.  so we need strategies to cope with criticism ( one is to write something).

doug

the posts are tip o the day 6, 126, 131, 133, 188.  clik here for 6 and here for 126, the most relevant to external criticism

do you notice how I’m getting on with links? (hope they work) add, adhd, coping with add, coping with adhd, cope, living with add, life with add, living with adhd

About doug with ADHD

I am a psychiatric physician. I learned I have ADHD at age 64, and then wrote two ADHD books for adults, focusing on strategies for making your life better. Your Life Can Be Better; strategies for adults with ADD/ADHD available at amazon.com, or smashwords.com (for e books) Living Daily With Adult ADD or ADHD: 365 Tips O the Day ( e-book). This is one tip at a time, one page at a time, at your own pace. It's meant to last a year. As a child, I was a bully. Then there was a transformation. Now I am committed to helping people instead abusing them. The Bully was published in January, 2016. It's in print or e book, on Amazon.
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