ADD or ADHD, Or Just An Excuse? — ADD Tip o the day 345

It may be hard for our partner or our boss or our teacher or even our friend, to believe that ADD or ADHD really exists, or that it’s what’s behind our behavior, what we do or what we fail to do.  We do have to be careful to not really use it as an excuse, for avoiding something we just don’t want to do, for example.  But it hurts to be accused when we were really doing our best.

So is ADD or ADHD real?   Most of us who have it think so.  And the current science shows differences in our brain, structurally and in how it responds to stimuli.

It’s kind of like marriage or childbirth, you can’t really describe it to someone who hasn’t been there.

I regret that I must have missed many cases before realizing that I have  it and then becoming very sensitive to it; since then have recognized a lot of cases which  has been really helpful to those patients.

There’s lots written on this; see bonus links below.

doug   add, adhd, coping with add, strategies for add, audlt add,adult adhd

from Dr. Charles Parker  :

“- it’s quite safe to say that:

  1. far too many ADHD diagnostic opportunities are missed,

  2. thus, many individuals who could be helped are often remarkably overlooked,

  3. and misidentified,

  4. and mistreated,

  5. indeed neglected.

The prevalence statistics, oft quoted by almost every ADHD paper do not adequately address the profound challenges with millions.”

johnathon-is adhd real? clik

lynne on debunking  clik

elizabeth on diagnosis clik

discussion of family problems from jason clik

lynne on what is ADHD?  clik

lynn’s short diagnosis test clik here

lynne on stigma clik

About doug with ADHD

I am a psychiatric physician. I learned I have ADHD at age 64, and then wrote two ADHD books for adults, focusing on strategies for making your life better. I just published my first novel, Alma Means Soul. Your Life Can Be Better; strategies for adults with ADD/ADHD available at, or (for e books) Living Daily With Adult ADD or ADHD: 365 Tips O the Day ( e-book). This is one tip at a time, one page at a time, at your own pace. It's meant to last a year. As a child, I was a bully. Then there was a transformation. Now I am committed to helping people instead abusing them. The Bully was published in January, 2016. It's in print or e book, on Amazon.
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2 Responses to ADD or ADHD, Or Just An Excuse? — ADD Tip o the day 345

  1. that’s a mistake i used to make -“you say he can sit and play a video game or watch a tv show for an hour? he cant have ADD.” wrong! if our focus center is turned on we can do amazing things. and thank you for the great description of the huge effort sometimes. and thank you for commenting. i live for comments!


  2. Lisa says:

    Yep…I’ve sure heard “that’s just an excuse” from my mother (a retired elementary school teacher!) many times about the struggles my children and I have. It doesn’t help that many of us CAN overcome our issues some of the time…people get the idea that we could do it if we really wanted to. It’s true…if I have a 7:30 meeting that I need to be there for and I know it will have a significant impact on my employment if I’m late, I will most likely be there. Same with needing to get my daughter to school early on the day of a class trip so the bus doesn’t leave without her. Folks see that and say, “If you can get to school by 7:30 for a field trip, why can’t you get to school by 8:00 every day?” Which seems logical, and I get why they don’t understand. What they don’t realize is the level of preparation and stress, and the yelling “Let’s go!” every few minutes it took. It’s exhausting, and I just can’t do it every day.


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