What to do about my forgetfulness and absentmindfullness? — ADHD Tip O the Day 975

Answering this question about ADHD:

This is an example of accepting that you can’t change something, but you can make strategies to help you cope with it. (But medication might help somewhat.)

1. Write everything down on a card, folded paper, or notebook, that you have with you at all times, and never leave it in another place. Or put it in your smartphone.                  (Write legibly.)

2. Use smartphone apps – calendar, alarms,etc.

3. Post colored stickeys on mirror, cabinet, refrigerator, etc. Move them often.

4. For very important things, also ask someone to remind you. (Someone without ADHD.)

good luck.

Links:

Productivity

Get Organized (??)

ADHD Toolbox

ADHD and Self Talk

 

Personal Note O the Day:

“Oh, I’ll remember that.”

ha, ha, ha, ha, ha.

 

Poem of the day:

I stopped what I was doing

and stood and looked out the window.

That’s when I saw the hummingbird.

 

Being Productive with ADHD

Focus??

I forgot!!!!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Frustrated and Overwhelmed — ADHD Tip O the Day 974

A couple of weeks ago, I just gave up, just for the week.  I didn’t post, and lots of other things I let go.  Some weeks are like that with ADHD, although fortunately, it’s usually just a day, not a week.

My wife’s i phone stopped working.  Then the internet connections on her i pad and mine got all mixed up together.  

I tried to fix them, in spite of my dystechnologica.  I finally did. After lots of time and frustration.

Then my pc and my laptop went kerfluey, both at the same time. After a lot of time and frustration, I gave up and took them to the shop ($$$).  Two days later they said the lap top was irreparable and the PC problem was a microsoft glitch that was being fixed.  I was four days without a connection – it was hard.

Spent twice as much on a new laptop as I  intended, good saleswoman.

Now the xfinity tv programming isn’t working right.  Haven’t been able to fix it.

My novel, Alma Means Soul, isn’t selling well.  I wasn’t expecting a runaway bestseller, but still –.  Then I noticed that Amazon shows it with the categories of children’s books and religious books.  Arggghh!!  I’ve been bouncing back and forth for a week between Amazon support and KDP support – guess what.  Time and frustration and they tell me it can’t be fixed.

Took a break and went fishing.  Not a single hit, just a lot of algae on my hook with every cast.

Poor me. But when I stop and think about it, we don’t have covid, we’re not trapped in Afghanistan, I can pay for the laptop.  It’s not so bad.

Tips:

  1. It’s important to know when to give up.
  2. Sometimes you need to just take a break.

doug

 

It’s all wrong!

 

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Me and my computer – a strange love affair.

 

Personal Note O the Day:  I cleaned the river 9/2 2021!  Yea, me! 

 

Clean River

 

Links:

ADHD Song    (start at :50, i don’t have the patience for 50 seconds of crap).

Good summary of ADHD, maybe share with the uninformed.  by thomas perth.

Bad ADHD Day

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Procrastinating or Pushing Ahead? — ADHD Tip O the Day 971

Overwhelmed is common with ADHD but strategies can help.

The same is true for procrastination.

I took on the task of clearing the trash in our stretch of the Santa Fe “river“ (even calling it a creek is an exaggeration but I love it).  Every week or two I put on my big rubber boots and go down there and fill up  a trash bag.

Last week this was on my to do list, but I was feeling overwhelmed. There’s no deadline, requirement, or obligation for this task so I just pushed it ahead. I haven’t gotten to it yet, but it looks like I can soon. This helped with the overwhelmed feeling. It’s not procrastination, because I don’t dread doing it and I’m not avoiding it, I just don’t have the time for it right now.

Sometimes there are things to do that just don’t need to be done right now.

doug

Personal Notes O the Day:

1. You maybe noticed that I didn’t do a post last week either. Or maybe you didn’t.  Same issue.

  1.  If you scroll all the way down there’s a big bonus post about procrastination from somebody who deserves credit, but I can’t remember who.

3. Last week was a booger.  We need to take care of ourselves.

Links:

An expert with ADHD

Helping Children with ADHD webinar 

Avoidance or Procrastination?

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Let’s actually do it! Now!

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Truths About ADHD Medications — ADHD Tip O the Day 970

There are many misconceptions about ADHD medications.

The two classes of ADHD meds are the stimulants and the others.  The following truths primarily apply to the stimulants:  methylphenidate – Ritalin, et al, and amphetamine – Adderall, et al.  70% of ADHDers will respond well to either type of stimulant, 20% will respond to one but not the other, and 10% either won’t respond (which indicates the diagnosis needs to be reevaluated to be sure it’s accurate) or are bothered by side effects even after adjustments.

True:

These meds are not addictive (possibly very rarely?) in people who have ADHD.

They are misused at times, especially in colleges.  Patients may be pressured to share them or may sell them.

They don’t help students to study or perform on tests unless they have ADHD.

Thus, they have a different effect on people with ADHD and people without.

They work quickly.  Unless you’re started on a low dose, you’ll probably know in twenty four hours whether they’ll be helpful to you and if you’ll get any of the possible side effects.

You are statistically unlikely to get side effects.  If you do, they can be managed or you can just change meds or stop altogether.

It may take a while to get the best med, best dose, and best schedule for you. It probably won’t.

The stimulant meds will not make anyone a zombie nor change anyone’s personality.

They should help with focus, motivation, inertia, and many other ADHD symptoms, but not all. They are unlikely to help with irritability, losing things, memory, patience, or sleep.  However, Dr. Goodwin states that the purpose of the medication is to help you focus enough to use strategies, and strategies can help with each of those problems.

The meds are not medically dangerous; even people with heart or problems can use them, though  I would  with low doses and monitor carefully.

I believe that anyone with ADHD aged six or over deserves a trial of medication.  They can sometimes have miraculous benefit, sometimes help somewhat, and sometimes don’t help (ten %).  I see no rational reason to not try medication.

doug

Quote O the Day:

They told me, “When you get older, you’ll understand.”

They lied.

Bonus Tip O the Day, from James Clear

“When choosing a new habit many people seem to ask themselves, ‘What can I do on my best days?’

The trick is to ask, “What can I stick to even on my worst days?”

Start small. Master the art of showing up. Scale up when you have the time, energy, and interest.”

Links:

Understand Side Effects

Trying ADHD Medication

Meds in other words and more links

Bonus Links  O the Day:

Math Phobia

Upcoming ADHD Conference

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Could use a little med?

I need ADHD help! Now!

Untreated ADHD

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ADHD and ODD, REVISED— ADHD Tip O the Day 969.1

Morwen made an excellent comment on my original ODD post which leads me to revise the  post and also add new links: 


Hello Doug, I feel as though the information you presented above lacks critical engagement with diagnosis or disorder. There are many important critiques of ODD, particularly in it’s overuse as a label for children of color. There is serious concern that ODD diagnoses also hide other struggles, such as trauma and neurodevelopmental conditions, making the focus behaviour rather than situation or neurology.

Your line about feeling as though you should just say “May god bless you” and move on also plays into the narrative that these children (again disproportionately children of color) aren’t savable, and that they are inherently and irrevocably destined for violence or anti-social behaviour. Considering that less than 30% of diagnosed ODD children progress to having a conduct disorder, and only a minority of diagnosed CD children progress to APD, your glum, hopeless tone of your post is distressing to me.

Note: CD conduct disorder; APD antisocial personality disorder

Revised Post:

“About forty percent of kids with ADHD have or will develop ODD, Oppositional Defiant Disorder. “

I think 40% is too high.

What is ODD?

“A disorder in a child marked by defiant and disobedient behavior to authority figures. The cause of oppositional defiant disorder is unknown but likely involves a combination of genetic and environmental factors. Symptoms generally begin before a child is eight years old. They include irritable mood, argumentative and defiant behavior, aggression, and vindictiveness that last more than six months and cause significant problems at home or school. Treatment involves individual and family therapy.”

When I see a post that starts, ” My son is diagnosed with ADHD and ODD, and —“, my heart sinks.  The parents are having a hard time, as is the child, and I don’t have good advice to give and so I feel inadequate and helpless and unhelpful and pessimistic.  I’m trying to get more information.

There is a support group, and the parents do need support.   The parents need knowledgeable professional help, and to be consistent with a good behavior management program , and to stick with it for a while even when it doesn’t seem to be working.  (This is different from most situations, where if what you’re doing isn’t working, try something else.)

There are successes, but these kids tend to develop serious problems – school drop out,  drugs, incarcerations.  The parents need to learn to protect themselves, and to  avoid enabling. The worst outcomes I’ve seen were where parents kept bailing the kid out of the trouble they were in.

The main point from Morwen is that if  the diagnosis of ODD is being considered, there needs to be a careful look at what else might be going on – truama, dyslexia, depression, etc.  Also that we cannot just give up one these kids and write them off.

doug

Stimulants for ODD

“For co-occurring ODD and ADHD, clinicians often prescribe stimulants to treat ADHD first. Typically, the ADHD stimulant medications greatly reduce ODD symptom severity and frequency. One study also found that patients with ADHD who consistently took medication significantly lowered their risk of developing ODD or CD in later life compared to patients with lower drug adherence3. In practice, clinicians often use liquid formulations to avoid having the patient potentially dispose of tablets.”

Personal Notes O the Day:

  1. Did I have ODD too?  Only a touch.  I was too afraid of consequences, but I tended to automatically  disobey any rule or direct order if I could, even when I realized it was in my best interest.  But, I was a “bad kid.” A bully, lots of fights, and convicted of a serious offense I hadn’t done.
  2. Sometimes parents are, or were, fined if their kid was too much truant. But what if they were just not able to  force the kid to go to school?

Quote O the Day:

“If you tell me I can’t do something, I’ll do it twice, video tape it, and post it on all the social media.”

ODDer?  That was me.

Question O the Day:

Did you have ODD?

Links:

Support group for parents

Comorbid ADHD and ODD

Outcome

From NIMH

Webinar on ADHD kids

ADHD and ODD

Parenting

Mightier – commercial program for ODD?

 

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ADHD Meds

You are stressing me.

 

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The Giant ADHD Flywheel and More — ADHD Tip O the Day 968

With my ADHD, I’m driven.  The pressure is constant. Here is a viewpoint from Creatieve.  I love your comments.

  1. I definitely recognise myself in the “not being able to keep the house clean & tidy” bit. I live in creative chaos. And when things get out of sight, they get out of mind. So books I’m reading and want to read, are piled everywhere. Projects and notebooks are always close by, too 😅

    But I also want to reply about the hyperactive bit. Because that’s something I had a discussion about with my psychiatrist back when I got diagnosed with ADHD (and Autism). And I asked him : “don’t you mean I have ADD? Because I’m not hyperactive”. And he pointed out, that hyperactivity doesn’t necessarily have to be shown Outwards. You can also be Hyperactive inside (mind & body). Feeling restless, have a racing mind. Which I found a very interesting argument. Because my biggest ADHD problem might just be my insanely busy brain. There is no brake or stop button. It just goes, full time and non stop 🙈🤷🏼‍♀️😅

    In reply to doug with ADHD.

    I recognise what you mean with the flywheel, I think. It mostly shouts a list of tasks and projects I should be doing, and a list of things I really shouldn’t forget. Which makes sitting still very hard. Like you said, meditation has also helped me in the past. But for some reason I can just never stick with it. Even though I know it helps, I just can’t get myself to sit down and do it. Because *makes chaotic and dramatic arm gestures* “The things! All the things that need to be done!” xD

    I also find it hard to finish things. Especially books or projects. Sometimes I can enjoy something so much, my Hyperfocus takes over (I have ADHD & Autism. My hyperfocus can be strong xD), and I finish it in no time. But a lot of the times I get bored, or something new distracts me. Which leads to reading 20 books at once, with usually about 3 or 4 actively (in turns), and about 20 craft projects. Also a few active ones. I struggle with it more, now that I’m trying to start up a small business. And having projects finished frequently (and on time) is kind of a must. So I hope I can work on it, by challenging myself (setting goals to make it interesting), and by taking my meds on time – every time.
    Do you struggle with this too?

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    i also share “If I can’t see it, it doesn’t exist.”

    doug

    Links: –

    A Follow Up – How to recognize ADHD in girls

    James Clear

    I just started on meds, and—

    Deficient Emotional Self-Regulation: ADHD Webinar

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    ADHD makes it hard to prioritize, make decisions, choose, select, not over extend, edit, and some other things too

    Getting a lot done. with ADHD???

     

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    ADHD Frantic!

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Self Abuse Makes ADHD Worse — ADHD Tip O the Day 967

(Not that kind)

With ADHD, we have many opportunities to feel shame.  And we often contribute to that be being harshly critical of ourselves.  And we often were subjected to shaming criticism as we were growing up  (and after), so we learned how to do it.

But, if we watch out for it (spotting), we can learn to stop this damaging self abuse.

Instead of saying ‘that wasn’t very smart’, you can say ‘that wasn’t  a good idea.’
A subtle difference, but belittling yourself is destructive.

Self esteem – how we value ourself

Self  image – how we see ourself

Ideal self – how we think we ‘ought to be’

One source and measure of our shame is the distance between our ideal self and our self image.

Sometimes when I see someone playing the guitar well, I think I should just give it up.  But wait, that professional practices or plays eight hours a day, six or seven days a week.  Should I be comparing myself to them?

Question O the Day:

Should any of us be comparing ourself to anyone about anything?  What is the benefit of that?

Tips O the Day:

  1. Be gentle and kind to yourself.
  2. Do not call yourself names.  Dumb, stupid, etc. are words that should never be used about anyone (so is ‘should’).
  3.  Some people think that the harsh approach helps drive them, or others, to do better.  It doesn’t; it causes damage and impairment.
  4. If you are a parent, be careful how you correct your child.  Label the behavior, not the child.
  5. Consider this – what is your ideal self?  Is it realistic?

Links:

A Summary of Helping Yourself with ADHD  from Vanida

ADHD and Marriage

Shame

 

 

Shame and ADHD

SHAME and ADHD

 

Unrealistic goals with ADHD???

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Women and ADHD part two — ADHD Tip O the Day 966

In reply to Denise Dion’s comment:.

denise – the ADHD symptoms of the inattentive type, which most ADHD women have, are the same as in men but without the hyperactivity, distractability, procrastinating, for sure. And probably without the impulsivity, blurting out, poor judgement. etc.

And like men, often with comorbid anxiety, depression, and maybe substance abuse. etc.


Specifically: difficulty getting to work on time, keeping house or room clean and uncluttered, keeping appointments, meeting deadlines, impulse buying. etc.

It’s a booger.


Thank you for bringing this up; think i’ll use it in a post. and thank you for commenting and for all your support.
best wishes
doug

Parenthetical note of the day:

Because of societal expectations, some women have problems because they are “supposed to be” nice, sweet, loving, understanding, helpful, etc.  Well, that can be very nice, but it can be overdone.  We all need to be able to protect ourselves and to set limits.

 

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and click on Comments at the end of the list,  

or

scroll down and find this on the right hand side:

 

I encourage you to check out the comments and to add your own. We’re all in this together.

doug

 

Links:

The previous post on ADHD in women

ADHD is different in women

Bonus Link:

Conquering procrastination

 

T Shirt Quote O the Day:

“You don’t always have to be nice.

Slash their tires”

 

Life with ADHD

We need to learn to say no.

 

Questions can be stressful with ADHD

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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ADHD Handwriting — ADHD Tip O the Day 965

Can you read my ADHD note?

It’s called dysgraphia, another ADHD comorbidity.

This might be related to dyscoordination (basal ganglia, cerebellum), being in a hurry, and trying to get a flood of ideas down on paper before we lose them.

My handwriting caused me lots of trouble.  It’s only in recent years I’ve been able to improve it at all.

Finally I saw that if I wrote an L slanting  over to the right, much more than seemed reasonable, it would actually look like it was supposed to. Then I found that paying extra attention to the L’s slowed me down and that improved it all.  Then I found that I need to draw an R, not write it, and then the same for an S.  So now my handwriting is semi legible (most of the time).

Principles of making your life better even with ADHD:

Recognize that something is problem, not just life as it is.

Assume that every problem has a solution.

doug

Personal Note O the Day:

Now that the handwriting problem is “solved,” I use the computer all the time instead.  If only I could get it to work!  Traded dysgraphia for dytechnologica.

Links:

Clutter

Impulsivity

Habits

Handwriting?

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Sometimes ADHD confuses me?

Sure!

I need ADHD help! Now!

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ADHD in Women is Different — ADHD Tip O the Day 964

 

ADHD in Women is Different (usually)

Most women and girls with ADHD have the inattentive type, ADHD without the hyperactivity.  The result is that as children they are less often diagnosed because they simply underperform instead of causing trouble, unlike the boys, who tend to have the mixed type, including hyperactivity.

Many women do not have symptoms that get attention until adulthood, when a change in the nature of responsibilities – jobs, motherhood, managing a household -begins to highlight their ADHD.

The treatment approaches to both male and female ADHD are  about the same.

Medical research, including on ADHD, has tended to be male focused for several reasons, some misogynistic and some practical.  Thus women have been short changed in getting the proper medical attention and treatment they deserve. (I will not object if this statement provokes some outraged comments.)

doug

Links:

ADHD, Inattentive Type

ADHD in women

RSD is worse in women

Webinar July 8 Inattentive ADHD

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Life with ADHD ain’t easy.

Undiagnosed ADHD

 

ADHD in Women

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 Demons and ADHD —  ADHD Tip O the Day 963

Demons are worse for ADHDers. This explains a lot.

 

You don’t believe in demons?  Really?!?! 

 

How about this: 

 

  1. If you fly fish, how about when you lay your fly rod aside for a minute and turn your back and when you turn around the lines are irretrievably snarled? 

 

  1. Who keeps hiding my cell phone and my eyeglasses if not demons? 

 

  1. I need to put a safety pin in my sweats (don’t ask). When I go to take it out, the head is still on the outside but somehow the tail is on the inside and there is no hole. How does that happen? 

 

  1. And in computers? The demons must be Legion.  Don’t even get me started. 

 

  1. Do demons really like to build a collection of single socks or do they take them just to frustrate us? Do they compete to see who can collect the most socks? 

 

Do demons attack everybody equally or are they particularly attracted to people with ADHD because we’re so vulnerable? 

 doug

Quote O the Day:  

“From ghoulies and ghosties and long-leggedy beasties and things that go bump in the night, Good Lord deliver us.” 

— Scottish prayer 

Links:

ADHD and Moods

Clinician’s View on ADHD

Journaling

ADHD and Messes

 

Let’s see if we can’t do it all!

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Breaks and ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 962

Everyone needs breaks, probably more so with ADHD, but they can be difficult.

Breaks throughout the day, week, and year can be very beneficial, even necessary.  That’s why we have vacations, and why it’s best not to work during them.  We need time to recharge our mental batteries, to let the gunk clear out of our brains, to see things from a distance and in perspective.

Breaks help prevent burnout and increase efficiency.

Most people have an attention span of around an hour and then mental function begins to decline.  We need a break. Speeches, sermons, or lectures longer than an hour lose interest, attention, and effectiveness.  With ADHD our attention span may be shorter, so it’s useful to determine yours and plan your day based on that.

During the day:  Have several breaks for 10 minutes or more where you do nothing, or take a walk, or talk to a friend.  Have mini-breaks , 2 minutes long, every hour. Just stop what you’re doing, pause.  You can practice awareness or not.

We may need strategies to make sure we get back on task and not off on a distraction.  One is to realize what the dangerous break activities might be, perhaps playing a computer game or getting on the internet, and avoid them.

During the week: You need a  minimum of one day off, really more, not filled up with other chores.

During the year: At least one vacation, and one week is not enough.

Personal Notes O the Day:

Working in the psychiatric emergency room was stressful.  I knew I needed time off whenever I changed from “I wonder how we can help this poor soul” to ” I wonder what this SOB wants” whenever a new patient came in.

I had to learn how to take vacations.  For years I would get antsy by the end of a week, but I learned how to do two weeks. It takes me the first week to unwind and begin to relax.

Various reasons breaks can be difficult include the inner flywheel which constantly drives us, the pressure of the long to-do list, and the awareness that many tasks take us longer to do than they do for vanillas.

Now that I’m retired, I’m still busy, especially when I’m working on a book.  I try to take three day “retreats” at home where I don’t use the computer or watch TV or do any tasks.

The next book, another on ADHD, is about 70% done but I’m taking a break from writing for while, now that the novel, Alma Means Soul, is finally published.

doug

 

Links:

Breaks Benefits

Omega 3 Fatty Acid  EPA is the good stuff, DEA not so much.  Be cautious about buying supplements; you don’t really know what they contain.

James Clear

He needs a break.

 

 

 

We need a break NOW!

Oh My, the problems!

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Coping with ADHD Stress — ADHD Tip O the Day 961

Living with ADHD is stressful.

(So is living with someone with ADHD.)

Meditation, breaks, getting outdoors, exercise, are all helpful.

Some of my favorite tools for stress or anxiety  are breathing tools.

Here’s my latest favorite.   Think what you  want to have and what you want to get rid of.  My lists:

Breathe In: Love, Compassion, Equanimity, Patience, Empathy, Peace

Breathe Out: pressure, anxiety, impatience, irritability, resentment, grudges

Do this three times.

I do this early every morning, and it helps.

There are many breathing tools. I also use:

6 in, rest two, 8 out, rest two. Three times.

and – the alternate nostril – in on right, out on left, in on left, out on right.

and – breathe in thru nose, hold it as long as comfortable, breathe out thru mouth very very s l o w l y.  Three times.

Find which one or ones work for you.  They get increasingly better with practice.

doug

Personal Notes O the Day: 

  1. Gripe – The novel was published May 25. I ordered ten copies to my address in Santa Fe. Over the next several days I ordered copies for others.  They began getting them, while I sat anxiously waiting and watching the tracking report:

    Shipped with UPS   Tracking ID: 1ZA288930364013359

    Sunday, June 6  5:29 PM
    Package arrived at a carrier facility.West Columbia, SC US
    Monday, June 7  10:00 AM
    Package arrived at a carrier facility. Hodgkins, IL US
    9:25 PM
    Package has left the carrier facility.
    Hodgkins, IL US
    Mine finally arrived  Wednesday June 9. 
    2. Gripe: Politics – The system is broken.
    3. Gripe: WordPress – it’s free, so what can I say?  But they stuck ads on my posts.  On the other hand, after they screwed up the input system, they fixed an option to use the old one.
  2. Gripe: I didn’t want this numeral two here or the three and four below, but WordPress won’t let me get rid of them.  Ignore them.
  3. Welcome to the new members of the tribe.  Hope you enjoy the posts and find them useful and that you will comment.
    Research  Note O the Day -A recent study in the Journal of Pediatrics found that spanking young children had effects similar to adverse childhood events such as physical or emotional abuse, neglect, parental mental illness or substance abuse, and others.  One result was aggressive and violent behavior.
    Don’t I know it.  The Bully

Links:

Journaling

A Model of the ADHD Brain

Pause

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                                                      Stressed?

Short Term Goals

You are stressing me.

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Ten Cynical Aphorisms O the Day — ADHD Tip O the Day 960

It’s not just about ADHD. Over the years, I have learned these things, often the hard way:

1. Anything involving humans will eventually get screwed up.
2. If you don’t know why a person, institution, or country did something, your best guess is money.
3. It will usually take longer than you expected.
4. The real purpose of any institution is to grow and to protect its turf.
5. Technology tends to not work.
6. Humans are hardwired to divide the world into us and them.
7. People have an innate need to have someone to look down on.
8. No matter how much money someone has it’s not enough.
9. If someone says, “To tell you the truth,” they won’t.
10. “It’s a great life, if you don’t weaken.”

Hope these tips from a lifetime of experience are helpful to you.

doug

 

Nasty Poem O the Day:

Whenever you’re feeling down,

discouraged, less than,

just remember that there’s someone, somewhere,

thinking of you,

of how wonderful you are,

how marvelous,

what a fine person. 

(It won’t be me.)

Links:

ADHD Disorganization, Insomnia, etc.

Pot law

Live Healthy

There’s no ADHD

 

Life with ADHD ain’t easy.

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ADHD and Time – ADHD Tip O the Day 959

If you have ADHD, time is a booger.

  1. We underestimate how long a task will take. It always takes longer.  And if its fixing or maintenance, it’ll take at least two trips to the hardware store.

Strategy: Estimate the time and add fifty per cent.  I can’t find my link to the great post on this.  How long will this take to do?

2. We’re late for appointments and meetings (when we arrive at all.)   

Strategy: Set at time to go and don’t do anything else after that. Set a time to get ready thirty minutes before the time to go.   Getting ready.

3. We think events are further off than they are, so we’re late on getting presents, tickets, reservations, etc.   

Strategy:   Have multiple calendars and a red sharpie.   Do it Way Early.  It’s when ?!?

doug

Links:

Time management

Make your life better and be happy

Keep Healthy Habits webinar

 

Poem O the Day:

I get very very sleepy at night

Until I lay down and turn out the light.

I’m So Excited

 

Getting a lot done. with ADHD???

Planning with ADHD

Remember when —

ADHD challenge

 

 

 

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Novel Published (in spite of ADHD)

Doug Puryear has just published his first novel (seventh book).  Alma Means Soul is the story of an extraordinary woman overcoming her childhood and of her journey towards wholeness.  A spiritual thread runs throughout.  Includes a section on El Camino Real, Santa Fe, and convertidos, You might enjoy the unusual writing style.  Available on Amazon and on Smashwords.  Doug would appreciate any reviews.

New novel, in spite of ADHD

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FAQ about ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 958

I get many AHD questions from various web sites.

Here are some answers (ie my opinions) with links.

What can cure ADHD?  –  Only God.

Does ADHD get worse with aging? – No, age just adds more problems.

Am I a bad mother? – Probably not, if you’re asking that question.

Can someone’s handwriting be improved? – Yes.

What are the side effects of this medicine? – Wrong question.

How should I discipline my ADHD child? – Maybe you shouldn’t?

I don’t want to take medicine.   What naturals will work? – Why on earth not?

What supplements help with ADHD?  – Be careful.

Can you have a relationship if you have ADHD? – If you both work on it.

What causes ADHD? – Genes plus environment, like everything else.

Is ADHD just an excuse, or just made up by doctors and drug companies? – No.

Strategy:  Educate yourself.

Cynical Answer O the Day:

Q: What is the difference between ignorance and apathy?

A: I don’t know and I don’t care.

Second Cynical Answer O the Day:

Q: How can I —?

A: You can’t.

Personal Note O the Day:

Just published my first novel, Alma Means Soul, after two years and 25 drafts.

Strategy:  Persevere.

 

Shoelaces?

ADHD Warning

ADHD Meds

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Some Links For ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 956

These are some good ADHD links for you and that’s about it for today. I’m taking a break. And I plan to do the next post on breaks (“I plan–“).

Enjoy.

doug

Links:

ADHD Brain Differences

ADHD Brain (download)

Shame

ADHD Hereditary?

ADHD and Breaks

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ADHD makes it hard to prioritize, make decisions,choose, select, not over extend, edit, and some other things too

 

Always finish what yo

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Keep It Short — ADHD Tip O the Day 955

My astute wife said the last ADHD post was too long.  So this one will be short.

Strategy O the Day:

Listen to your wife.

doug

Links:

ADHD and Relationships

ADHD and Relationships more

Webinars

Quotes O the Day:

“The only thing worse than being married is not being married.”

“You can’t be married and be right.”

From a married person.

 

 

Marriage and ADHD. Even Possible?

 

 

 

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Assumptions, Premises, and Illusions — ADHD Tip O the Day 954

Now for something different

This will be a philosophical discussion today, not limited to ADHD.   (Had you assumed there would be a Poem O the Day?  Sorry to disappoint you. I hope you’re not heart broken. )

General Strategy O the Day:

Be careful what you think, what your premises and assumptions are, what words are used that could have some other meaning.  And of course, read the small print, which is carefully designed to make sure no one will ever read it. Check what you are thinking and what you are doing, both before and after.

The human mind wants answers, explanations, whys, cause and effect. And we are always seeing patterns, even when they are not there.  This is how our brains are wired, even ADHD brains.

This is good as long as you realize when you are making an assumption.

Example One:

I assumed I knew how to use my granddaughter’s coffee press.  I got a cup of coffee grounds.  When I stopped and looked at the press, the correct way was totally obvious.  Made good coffee.

Example Two:

I put a potato in the microwave and pushed the button marked pizza, but when the bell went off and I opened the door, it was still a potato.

Examples Three and Four:

Modern technology is amazing and fantastic, but we tend to assume it will work. 

My wife just spent over two hours on hold with Southwest trying to make reservations.  I assumed something was wrong and she would never get it but she did (those of us with ADHD tend to be short on patience).

I spent the morning online trying to get CME credits.  I would take a course, take the test, enter the assessment and then half the time the site would tell me something was wrong.   I couldn’t proceed to get the certificate and all of the work was wasted.  

Example Six:

I assumed that the printer ink cartridge I was throwing away was the old dry one and not the new one.

Example Seven:

One of our journalists writes of coming to New Mexico and starting to work with three Hispanic brothers. He said to them, “You’re Mexican but you have no accents.” They all laughed uproariously. “Mexican? Hell, we were here before the Puritans.”

Explanation O the Day (to set up the next section):

A set is a collection of certain things and of nothing else.  The set of all cows is non self- containing because it is not a cow, it is a group of cows. So it can’t be in the set of all cows.  The set of all abstract ideas is an abstract idea, so it is self-containing.  It has to be in there.  The set of all puzzles that make Doug’s head spin is not a puzzle, so it’s non self-containing.  So :

Paradox O the Day:

Premise: (which seems totally logical and obvious) any set is either self-containing or non self -containing.

Let R be the set of all sets that are not members of themselves (non -self-containing, like the set of all cows).

If R is a member of itself, then it is  a self-containing set and thus can’t belong in R, the set of all non self- containing sets, so it cannot be a member of itself.   R cannot be self- containing. 

If R is not a member of itself, then  it belongs in the set R of all non self-containing sets and thus must be a member of itself. So R cannot be non self-containing. 

The contradiction is called Russell’s paradox. 

Conclusion: R, the set of all non self -contained sets cannot exist, since it can be neither self-contained nor nonself contained.

Questions: Does this mean the premise was incorrect? Or the conclusion?

Hunh??

doug

Bonus Links O The Day:

Balls – test your assumptions.  (Don’t assume what I meant by this title.)

Seeing Patterns

Biases

 

Personal Note O the Day:  

The novel is coming along nicely.  It contains a section on illusions, which is closely related to the concepts in this post.  For example, we sustain ourselves with the illusion that we will not die; that’s something that keeps happening to other people.

If you can’t trust your eyes (or your memory), what can you trust?

 

But it ain’t there!

 

Beauty or crone?

 

The dice are loaded. Or is it me?

 

 

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Supplements and Diet for ADHD —ADHD Tip O the Day 953

The research findings have not changed.


1. The only supplement shown to be helpful for ADHD is omega-3 fatty acid (Fish Oil). Zinc and magnesium are somewhat suggested?


2. Nearly half of American adults are deficient in vitamin D, which affects cognitive functioning among other things.


3. Caution is advised in purchasing supplements. You don’t know what you’re getting and some of them contain harmful things.


4. Anyone with a fairly normal diet does not need any supplements. However, I take vitamin D and omega-3. And a multivitamin.

5. You may have noticed some contradiction in the above. That’s life, isn’t it?

6. A special diet may help a few people somewhat. They are hard to stick to.

doug

Personal Notes O the Day:

  1. A relative of mine took large amounts of supplements for his ADHD for years. He has renounced them, saying it was a waste of money, and that Adderall is significantly helping him now.
  2. I hate colds., I hate being passive. I actively fight a cold, taking all kinds of things. Sometimes I wonder if all the stuff I’m taking to fight the cold is making me feel worse than the cold itself would.

Poem O the Day:

This is ridiculous.

Links:

James Clear

Vitamin D Deficiency

Dangers of Supplements

Omega 3 Fatty Acid

Diets

Diet??
Diet??
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ADHD and Estrogen — ADHD Tip O the Day 952

ADHD is Different for Women

Two contributors brought this up and it was a new area for me.  Thank you to Susan and Eva.  You can see their comments on Post 950.  

I knew that typically, girls have Inattentive type ADHD, and quietly underachieve, cause nobody any problems and don’t get diagnosed.  Then in adulthood, they run into new and different demands and start having problems.  

But these articles say that many girls have difficulty in adolescence, which is probably related to hormones and may or may not have anything to do with ADHD.

Then women may have fluctuating symptoms related to their menstrual cycles.  

Then with perimenopause and menopause, there may be a flare of symptoms, again maybe mimicking or exacerbating ADHD.

I think the picture is confusing and the articles say that it is not clear because there has not been much research on this.  Until recently, women have tended not to be included in scientific research.

doug

Links:

“Estrogen and the Prefrontal Cortex: Towards A New Understanding of Estrogen’s Effects on Executive Functions in the Menopause Transition” from Eva

ADHD and Hormones

Hormones and ADHD

 

An ADHD Brain

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Five Things You Will Never Do With ADHD— ADHD Tip O the Day 951

You will never:

  1. Catch up.
  2. Finish your to do list.
  3. Change the mind of an ADHD denier. 
  4.  Keep things uncluttered. 
  5.  Remember something you didn’t write down. 

Sorry, that’s just the way it is. Devise strategies, do the best you can, and learn to live with it.

Good luck.

doug

Links:

ADHD and food Unfortunately, I don’t think the foods make much difference, if any. Eating a reasonably balanced and healthy diet is always a good thing. I take a multivitamin, Vit D, and omega 3 anyway.

Food, Diet, Dyes, etc. and ADHD

To Do Lists

Question O the Day:

Does ADHD get worse with age?

I don’t think so, but the normal slippages of age can make it seem so, memory problems for example. BUT – this process is counter acted as we develop strategies and get better at coping.

Personal Note O the Day:

I’m 100% sure that few things in life are 100%.

Poem O the Day (from Notes On Aging):

I was really sleepy

Until I turned out the light.

 

 

Aging is a booger.
Aging is a booger.

 

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Parenting — ADHD Tip O the Day 950

Being a parent is not easy.

Parenting generally is  difficult and stressful, but it can also be extremely pleasant and rewarding. As they say, they grow up very fast. Look for every opportunity to spend quality time with your children because you won’t have too many opportunities.

There are no perfect parents. A reasonable goal is to be a better parent to your children than your parents were to you. Try your best and don’t feel guilty or like you’re a failure.  

Your parents did many things to you as a child that you swore you would never do to your children, but you will.

Do you need to forgive your parents?

Am I an expert on parenting?  I raised four children, all of whom turned out well anyway. I’ve seen many patients in therapy and observed some of the effects of parenting. Do I know the answers? I do not.

Some  things I do know:

1. Every child,  every parent, and every parent-child combo is different. There’s no one size fits all. If the personalities of the child and the parent mesh well,  good. If they don’t you have to make the best of it.

2. The three basic styles of  parenting:
A.  Authoritation: I’m the parent, the boss, and you’ll do what I say.  (See John Rosemond.  No, don’t.) This doesn’t work well with adolescents.
B. Collaborative: Let’s figure out the best way for us to handle this  situation, but I get the final say.
C. Permissive: Do whatever you want.

I believe the collaborative style usually is best,  but it may depend on the particular parent child combo.

3. The  reality with teenagers is you have as much authority as they are willing to give you.  The challenge is to give the support needed while gradually letting go.

4.  Your child will learn more from what you do than what you say.  This cliche is true.

5. Children need a chance to be children.  And be sure your expectations are age appropriate.

5. There are more important things in life than a orderly room or even  grades.  There are more important things to worry about. Try to avoid struggles, especially non essential ones. Pick your battles- Can I win? Is it worth the effort? You have a long rough road ahead. Conserve your energy. Take care of yourself.

6. Don’t make threats or establish rules that you aren’t prepared to follow through on.

7. I don’t advocate punishment. It’s often counter productive, especially long term.  If you are going to punish, never do it while you’re still angry.  Physical punishment is child abuse.

8. There are many different ways to judge someone  “successful.“ A kind,  honest, relatively happy adult is a huge success, no matter their financial, professional, or social status . Especially if they’re good parents if they have children.

Good luck

doug

Links:

Parents with ADHD

Treating Emotional Symptoms

Update on Marijuana

“Neurodivergent Girls”

Personal Notes O the Day:

  1. I’ve heard parents say I spank (etc.) my child to teach them respect.  I was spanked (etc.) a lot.  It taught me many things.  Respect was not one of them.
  2. This post is in response to many anguished questions I’ve answered on other sites.
  3.  I’m excited about the novel.  I keep doing another draft, always hoping to publish the next one.  On 23.  Maybe 24?
  4. Parenting is hard.  Parenting an ADHD child is much harder.  And if you have ADHD too?  Wow!

Quote O the Day:

“Guilt is a very useful emotion.  For about five minutes.”

An unknown guru.

 

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I’m Very Doubtful — ADHD Tip O the Day 949

Adult Onset ADHD?

Technically, adult onset ADHD isn’t possible, because it’s a neuro developmental disorder, meaning we’re born with it (or at least something interferes with the development of the nervous system early in life).

The DSM requires symptoms to be present before age twelve, but not necessarily fully meeting criteria for diagnosis. Of course, the DSM could  be wrong.

The studies supporting adult onset state these adults did not have ADHD in childhood. That means they didn’t have ADHD in the sense of meeting criteria for the diagnosis, but probably they had ADHD brains, they just didn’t show the full basket of symptoms until they reached the challenges of adulthood.

If they were diagnosed with ADHD as adults, using DSM criteria, that means they had several symptoms before age twelve.  That’s a criteria required for adult diagnosis.

I had many ADHD symptoms in childhood, primarily behavioral, but breezed through school until I hit the wall in college. Then, oh boy!

ADHD symptoms presumably reflect a delay in the maturation of the brain, a lagging behind normal. ( Possibly this is the cause in only some of us?) This explains why about half of children who meet criteria no longer meet criteria as adults, even though their brains still have not fully matured into “normal” brains and still show the abnormalities characteristic of ADHD.

At this time, if we say someone “has ADHD” we mean they meet DSM V criteria.

doug

Links:

Adult Onset?

Adult Onset???

Adult Onset??????DSM V Criteria for ADHD in Adults

DSM V Criteria for ADHD in Children

 

Questions O the Day:

If someone didn’t meet criteria for ADHD in childhood, and so couldn’t be diagnosed then, but now meets criteria as an adult, which means they had several ADHD symptoms as a child, didn’t they have ADHD brains all along? 

They had an ADHD brain but not ADHD?

So did they have ADHD as a child even if they didn’t meet criteria?

So should we say they have “Adult Onset ADHD?”

So do you find this as confusing as I do?

Quotes O the Day:

Me, trying to explain to my wife why her laptop isn’t working properly again:

“It’s technology. That’s the nature of technology.
Or
“It’s part of the innate perversity of inanimate matter.”
Or
“Probably the demons again.”

Oops! Yet again.

Our ADHD Brains Are Different. Surprise!

My ADHD Brain without meds

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I don’t have ADHD!

 
 
 
 
 
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ADHD Medications — ADHD Tips O the Day 948

This article is so good I’m offering it as the ADHD Tip O the Day 

ADHD Medications

Hope you’ll read and enjoy it.

doug

Poem O the Day:

    The Mail

Back in the day, when I was working,

in the days before I retired,

getting the mail was the High Point O the Day,

 or one of them, those were good days.

I got a lot of checks in the mail,

And  lots of other interesting things, too.

Nowadays, I still look forward to getting the mail,

habit I guess,

even though now

it’s all bills and catalogs.

Links:

ADHD Meds

Non medication treatment for ADHD -(Why??)

Webinar 3/25

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Personal Notes O the Day:

  1. Welcome to all the new tribe members.  I hope you enjoy the posts and that they’re useful.  And remember I love comments.
  2. The comments aren’t showing like they used to, so please click “comments” at the very end of the post.
  3. Otherwise, Word Press has added the option of using the old “classic” model instead of the “improved one”. Thank goodness! 

doug

Life with ADHD

 

 

Huh?

 

 

 

ADHD? Me??

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ADHD Excuses — ADHD Tip O the Day 947

We ADHDers are hard to live with.  We cause a lot of frustration.

A comment from T:

“I would love for you to address the issue with people with ADHD trying to justify behavior that is driven by the ADHD and not by necessity. I’m sure you know the “it’ll just take a minute”, the “I was right there so I figured I’d do it”, and the “It NEEDED to be done” excuses. You’ve probably made them yourself.”

Oh my, yes, I do recognize these statements.  But I think of them as explanations, not excuses. We do  need to avoid  using our ADHD as an excuse,  just to avoid doing something we don’t want to do, for example.  

An alcoholic is not responsible for being alcoholic, but they’re  responsible for doing something about it.  Same for ADHD.

T is addressing two issues: 1. not being ready to go on time. 2.  not showing up on time or at all.

 If something bothers your SO (significant other), you need to work on it.  Using a basic ADHD coping principle, identify the very specific problem that bothers your SO the most. Work on one thing at a time. Once the most annoying thing is mastered, go to the next one.

 For example, my wife doesn’t like me to keep her waiting if we’re going somewhere. I enlisted her help. Please be patient  while I’m working on the problem; it’ll take some time and I’ll have some lapses until my rules become habits.  Tell me the target time we need to leave.  I set my alarm for five minutes before.  Give me a five minute cushion. At the alarm, I do what I need to, often save something and shut down the computer, put away my guitar, put on my shoes, etc.   

Rule: When the alarm rings, I can’t start anything else, no ‘one more little thing’, etc.

Agreement: If I’m a less than five minutes late, she won’t get frustrated. 

This is working pretty well for us. Life is better when your SO isn’t frustrated with you.

 Not showing up at all is a different problem, and needs different strategies.

Tip:

If you’re working on making a habit, you need to do it every time, even the times you know you don’t really need to.

Personal Notes O the Day:

  1. I’m blessed with a wife who will work with me on ADHD problems.
  2. Not to brag, but yesterday I went nearly three hours without dropping or spilling anything (and I was awake).
  3. Red Flags: “Oh, I have plenty of time.”  “I’ll just do this.”
  4. I think my posts have been messed up.  I’m trying to catch up by reposting the old one.  Hope it’s working.

Quote O the Day:

“If Mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy.”

doug

 

 

Bonus Links:

ADHD Meds Webinar 3/17/21


ADHD Webinar 3/25/21 or later

 

The ADHD Effect on Marriage 

Sleep – or Not

Missed Appointments

 

 

ADHD Marriage

   

 

A Complaint

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I’m Also Doubtful About — ADHD Tip O the Day 946

  1. John Rosemond — writes syndicated newspaper columns and books on parenting. His style is about using the power differential to control children and seems out of the 40’s and  maybe a little sadistic at times.   He recently had a column denying the existence of ADHD. I wrote a letter to the editor:

John Rosemonds‘s column against ADHD is full of dangerous misinformation and bad advice. He denies the existence of a well proven serious disorder which usually responds well to treatment. An out of date far right conservative, Rosemond advertises himself as a psychologist, although he does not have a PhD. He is a licensed psychological advisor in North Carolina. Parents would do well to avoid his columns as would the New Mexican.

Douglas A Puryear MD
Psychiatrist, Santa Fe, New Mexico
ADHDer 

 Possibly Rosemond’s approach is good for a particular combination of  parent type and child type, but there is no excuse for his attack on ADHD.

2. Genetic Testing to Choose Medication 

This holds great promise, but my reading is that it is not ready for clinical use.  It will sometimes predict which medicines are most likely to cause a person side effects, but that alone isn’t  very useful.

 

Strategies:

1.Hold onto your wallet.

2. Write letters to the editor (within limits).

doug

Rosemond

Rosemond

genetic testing cost

genetic testing

genetic testing 2

Mayo on genetic testing

The FDA Warns Against the Use of Many Genetic Tests with Unapproved Claims to Predict Patient Response to Specific Medications: FDA Safety Communication | FDA

Notice that the links in favor of genetic testing are from companies selling the test, not scientific studies.

 

Personal Notes O the Day:

  1. In my opinion, there are a lot of people out there trying to get a hold of your money.
  2. Some parents say they spank children to teach them respect. I was spanked, a lot. It taught me some things. Respect was not one of them.
  3. Some people say that they were spanked and it didn’t harm them .  How would they know?
  4. My letter sparked several more letters complaining about Rosemond and a couple endorsing him, tho not his ADHD denial.
  5. Please always scroll all the way down to see the comments (I love the comments). And please check post 945, the previous one, and offer suggestions to Joan.  Thanks.

 

ADHD causes confusion

 

 

 

 

ADHD Meds

 

You think What about ADHD ?!?

 

 

 

 

 

 

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A Change in Plans— ADHD Tip O the Day 945

I had today’s blog ready to post, well almost. It’s great to stay ahead. Then I got these two inputs and I have to share them with you. The link needs to be read slowly and with thoughtfulness (With ADHD?-well, try. I’ve read it three time and am trying to absorb it.)

Dealing with it  https://captainscourageous.net/blog/lifechangingsituations

 

From Richard Rohr: This explains a lot about “them” — and us.

People can’t see what they can’t see. Their biases get in the way, surrounding them like a high wall, trapping them in ignorance, deception, and illusion. No amount of reasoning and argument will get through to them, unless we first learn how to break down the walls of bias. . . .

Confirmation Bias: We judge new ideas based on the ease with which they fit in with and confirm the only standard we have: old ideas, old information, and trusted authorities. As a result, our framing story, belief system, or paradigm excludes whatever doesn’t fit.

Complexity Bias: Our brains prefer a simple falsehood to a complex truth.

Community Bias: It’s almost impossible to see what our community doesn’t, can’t, or won’t see.

Complementarity Bias: If you are hostile to my ideas, I’ll be hostile to yours. If you are curious and respectful toward my ideas, I’ll respond in kind.

Competency Bias: We don’t know how much (or little) we know because we don’t know how much (or little) others know. In other words, incompetent people assume that most other people are about as incompetent as they are. As a result, they underestimate their [own] incompetence, and consider themselves at least of average competence.

Consciousness Bias: Some things simply can’t be seen from where I am right now. But if I keep growing, maturing, and developing, someday I will be able to see what is now inaccessible to me.

Comfort or Complacency Bias: I prefer not to have my comfort disturbed.

Conservative/Liberal Bias: I lean toward nurturing fairness and kindness, or towards strictly enforcing purity, loyalty, liberty, and authority, as an expression of my political identity.

Confidence Bias: I am attracted to confidence, even if it is false. I often prefer the bold lie to the hesitant truth.

Catastrophe or Normalcy Bias: I remember dramatic catastrophes but don’t notice gradual decline (or improvement).

Contact Bias: When I don’t have intense and sustained personal contact with “the other,” my prejudices and false assumptions go unchallenged.

Cash Bias: It’s hard for me to see something when my way of making a living requires me not to see it.

Conspiracy Bias: Under stress or shame, our brains are attracted to stories that relieve us, exonerate us, or portray us as innocent victims of malicious conspirators. [1]

Richard again: I don’t know any other way to be free of all these biases except through the contemplative mind. I see almost every one of them within myself–at least at some point in my life. I also believe there are enough good-willed people out there who, if presented with a list of these biases, have the freedom to investigate, “How can I let go of that? How can I move beyond that?” [2]

[1] Brian McLaren, Why Don’t They Get It? Overcoming Bias in Others (and Yourself) (Self-published: 2019), e-book. 

[2] Adapted from Brian McLaren, Jacqui Lewis, with Richard Rohr, “Why Can’t We See?,” October 5, 2020, in Learning How to See, episode 1 (Center for Action and Contemplation: 2020), podcast, MP3 audio.

doug

Quote O the Day:

“It is as it is.”

From The Art of Motorcycle Maintenance

 

Personal Notes O the Day:

  1. Not to brag, but yesterday I went nearly three hours without dropping anything. 
  2. I still plan to address more of my doubts, and T’s question about our making excuses, but I’ve been busy, and I have a sore finger, and my computer isn’t working right, and -.
  3.  Planning to is great, but it’s no substitute for doing.
  4. Doing lots of editing on the novel.  I’m amazed at how much I’m cutting out, unnecessary words especially. On draft twenty one, but it won’t be ready to publish.  Maybe twenty two??
  5.  The new ADHD book is on hold til the novel is done.
  6. I won an argument, once.
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I’m Doubtful About— ADHD Tip O the Day 944

I am doubtful About:

OPC  is being touted as “Miracle Antioxidents.” That alone should raise your suspicions. The supplements contain bilberry, grape seed, red wine, pine bark extract, citrus extract, and flavonoids. Hmmm.  I haven’t seen scientific studies supporting this concept.  I have seen ads for suppplements.  $$$$


Dr. Daniel Amen is an expert on ADHD, and surely knows more than I do.  He has clinics and TV shows.  Dr. Amen  specifies multiple subtypes and I expect is at least somewhat correct. He tailors treatments to the subtypes – I am doubtful, and uses brain imaging  $$$$ to determine the type – I am doubtful.  He sell his own brands of supplements. $$$$  –I am doubtful. His views are outside the professional mainstream (which doesn’t necessarily mean he’s wrong, but —).

The only supplement I’ve seen evidence for is omega 3 fatty acid (fish oil), somewhat helpful for some people.  I use it.  Not expensive. 

I am also doubtful about :

John Rosemond, advice columnist (not Dr. Rosemond)
Diet for ADHD (actually, any kind of diet for anything (except for certain rare genetic diseases)).
Genetic testing to select medication                                                                                            Brain imaging to diagnose ADHD                                                                                                  Adult onset ADHD                                                                                                                  Marijuana for ADHD

More on these later (“I plan”).

Various Notes O the Day:

  1. “The cost of an individual SPECT scan is about $1,300. Insurance companies don’t cover it because they categorize attention deficit as a behavior problem.” (Or because they don’t want to pay.)

2. A comment from T : 

“I would love for you to address the issue with people with ADHD trying to justify behavior that is driven by the ADHD and not by necessity. I’m sure you know the “it’ll just take a minute”, the “I was right there so I figured I’d do it”, and the “It NEEDED to be done” excuses. You’ve probably made them yourself.”

I’m not sure I understand the idea, but I think it means what I say when I’m late.  Plan to respond to this soon.  Thank you T, I love comments and suggestions.

3. Where else in the world could I publish my poems?

Poem O the Day:

A Romantic Encounter

I saw her clear across the room,
couldn’t miss her,
she was gorgeous.

She saw me looking
and she smiled at me.

I smiled back.
Then she pointed at me.

I waved and gave her a thumbs up.
I carefully made my way across the crowded room,

trying not to spill my drink.

When I reached her,
she gently took my hand                                                                                                                   and gazed into my eyes.
Then she leaned in close.
and whispered softly in my ear,
“Your fly is unzipped.”

Links:

Webinar March 2 – Drs. Hallowell and Ratey, genuine experts

OPC ???

OPC for ADHD – I am doubtful

Dr. Amen ???

Dr. Amen

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Images left over from last post, You think WHAT about ADHD?!

 

You think WHAT about ADHD ?!?

You think WHAT about ADHD?!?

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How to Respond to “I don’t believe in ADHD” — ADHD Tip O the Day 943

Many people ask how to deal with “I don’t believe in ADHD”, or with similar comments    (“We all have some of that.” or “That’s just an excuse for laziness.” etc etc).

How to respond?

Appropriate possible responses, choose one.
1. OK.
2. Really?!?!
3. Too bad.
4. What have you been doing with yourself lately?
5. You don’t have to.                                                                                                                                6. Been nice seeing you. 

Possible Appropriate Response, Maybe, Once

Make one small effort -“Maybe you could google it and get a little more information.”

But then return to possible responses number one.

Inappropriate response:
Trying to change their mind.

doug

Personal Notes O the Day:

  1. This dropping things is starting to get out of hand.
  2. I’ve come pretty close to finishing my current draft, draft 20 of Alma Means Soul, primarily focused on looking for unnecessary words that could be very easily done away with without any significant loss of anything of value.  I was extremely surprised at the very large number of those words that I was able to find.
    Or
    I’ve nearly completed draft 20 of Alma Means Soul,  eliminating a surprising number of unnecessary words.

  3. I have some plans. I always have some plans. Planning is easy; it’s doing that’s hard. I plan to do some posts on frequently asked questions – parenting, controversies including the  question of adult onset ADHD, who and when to tell about our ADHD, and others of course.

    Questions O the Day:    
  4. Do you have any suggestions/requests of topics you’d like addressed? I will  appreciate your input.
  5. Why can’t I get rid of the inappropriate numerals (4,5)?  Tech challenged.

Welcome to to the new members of the tribe.

Links:

Arguing and confirmatory bias

Several good Attitude articles

ADHD and Marriage (or relationships, since marriage seems less common these days.)

Arguing with people who don’t know what they’re talking about

 

I’m sorry, you believe what about ADHD?

 

 



Really??

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Miscellaneous ADHD Stuff — ADHD Tip O the Day 942.1

I keep forgetting to mention these underrecognized helps:

1 . Lavender oil – for anxiety. Put two drops on the inside of your wrist and sniff it occasionally.   Works for about 25% of people.  No side effects.  Also put two drops on your pillow for insomnia.

2. Helping someone else – for depression.  Just help somebody.

To Do Lists:

To do lists are key to my being able to function at all, but some people don’t not like them. They can add to the sense of pressure, or to the sense of failure if they don’t get completed, which they rarely do.
Language is a powerful tool and has a powerful effect on us. Maybe it would be good if those people gave up on the  to do list, and changed it to “The things I would like to get done today list.”
They would still need to limit the list five items max and check it often or it won’t work.

Addictions:

We’re more prone to addictions than vanillas are.  Our rate of addiction is lowered by treatment with stimulants.  I’ve been addicted to coffee and to computer games.  I recently had to delete a game off my phone because it was too good, too addictive.  I’m better off with no games but some seem safe. My strategy now is to do vocabulary apps instead of games.  Some fun but not too much. I have a long term addiction to food, and with this quarantine I’ve been lax and let my weight creep up.  Strategy:  Be more careful about what I eat and drink and exercise more, like I was doing before.

The hallmark of addiction is loss of control.

 

Personal Notes:

  1. About writing:  

I got the second edition of Your Life Can Be Better published.  The cover looks good, but Amazon  keeps shifting between showing the first edition or the second.   I finally contacted them today and I think it’s going to be fixed. We’ll see. The second edition is significantly improved over the first.


I just started draft 19 of my first novel, Alma Means Soul. From the 15th draft on I kept thinking I could publish the next draft. Surprise. Drafts 16 and even 17 still had  lot of errors to be fixed. Draft 18 had very few errors and a lot of opportunities for editing to make it better. There were an amazing number of words that were entirely unnecessary, and a few sections that could just be deleted. So maybe draft 20 can be published? Maybe.

Also kind of interesting, I’ve started to actually enjoy the editing, which I used to hate. But not nearly as much as the marketing.

2.  One of my mantras: “If I cant see it, it doesn’t exist.”  For example, things I’d looked forward to eating go bad in the back of the refrigerator because I don’t see them and don’t remember they’re there.  My wife says, “You can’t put everything in the front.”

Also, if it isn’t where I expect it or it doesn’t look like I expected, I cant see it, even if it is in front.  Strange.

3.  Got our second vaccine shot yesterday, arm a little sore, no problems.  Very grateful.


Quote of the day:


“This too will pass.
It may pass like a kidney stone, but it will pass.”

Welcome to the new members of our tribe.

Animated GIF

 

Question O the Day:

Who do we tell about our ADHD and when?

Links:

Addictions

Lavender Oil

Words

I eat when I’m hungry. I eat when I’m not.

 

ADHD makes it hard to prioritize, make decisions,choose, select, not over extend, edit, and some other things too

 

ADHD Trick

 

 

 

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Five Most Important ADHD Tips — ADHD Tip O the Day 941

With ADHD we’re not good at prioritizing or making choices or keeping list short, but here’s some of the most important tips/tools/strategies to help you make your life better:

1. Small steps – Don’t try to write the essay, try to write the first paragraph (or first sentence). Often if you take the first step, you’ll keep going, but that’s not the goal.

2. Specific small chunks  – Don’t try to improve your handwriting, try to improve your L’s.

3. One or at most two things at a time – If you’re trying to reduce your losing things, work on your car keys, but don’t be trying to stop losing your glasses and your phone and improve your forgetting and your handwriting all at the same time.

4. Do the hard part first – Do the hardest small step, then the rest will be easy.  Unless you’ are totally stuck, the do the easiest smallest step first to get unstuck.

5. Set reasonable goals – I’m nearly through the eighteenth draft of my first novel, Alma Means Soul.  My goal is to edit two pages a day.  But usually I do more.

The two pages a day is also an example of the strategy of Pecking Away.

Doug

Scientific Tidbit O the Day:   A recent study shows that the rate of significant problems from marijauna are related to the potency of the weed and the frequency of use, which are also related to each other.  The correlation with psychosis is not very strong, but it is with anxiety disorder.

The study itself is not very strong for a number of reasons.  Watch for the error of confusing correlation with cause – did high dose high frequency cause the anxiety problems or vice versa?  (Or neither?)

Still strong evidence of long lasting brain damage from pot to the developing brain up to about age 25.  I’m guessing the damage also correlates with dose and frequency.

During my years in the emergency room we saw some cases of new onset psychosis in people after smoking pot laced with a certain other substance (which I won’t name).  These cases were characterized by intractability – our treatment had no effect and they spent years in the hospital.  Again, caution in making assumptions- I have no idea how many other people smoked the same combo without that effect- none?  a lot?

Notes O the Day:

What is the difference between stuck, avoiding, and procrastination?

To me:

procrastination – I’ll do it, but certainly not today. And tomorrow doesn’t seem too likely either.  I’ve got all these other things to do.

avoidance – i know I really should do this. Maybe I will.  Someday.  I’ve got all these other things to do.

stuck – I’ve got all these things to do but  I can’t get started on anything except sitting here stewing in frustration. 

 

Welcome to the new members of our tribe. 

 

Links:

Small Steps and Pecking Away

Stuck Again

Stuck Some More

Stuck, Stuck, Stuck

 

Procrastination?

 

ADHD Ain’t Easy
ADHD make it hard to prioritize, make decisions,choose, select, not over extend, and some other things too

 

Procrastination?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Failing with ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 940.1

“I am a failure.”

What a terrible thing to say about yourself.

I often read posts from mothers who say they’re failing, that they must be a bad mother. Often that means they can’t get their child to do what they want them to do. Sometimes their approach is wrong, or their goals are wrong, or what they are trying to do is impossible.

We all fail sometimes, don’t we?  We are not God, not even Angels, nor
Superheroes.

But failing at something does not mean we’re A Failure.  It means we’re human. With ADHD, we will fail more often than vanillas do.  Our ADHD interferes with all our efforts, we have trouble setting reasonable goals and expectations, we want to do everything, and we often have perfectionism(which is a recipe for both procrastination and failure.)

We need strategies to cope with our failures.

Strategies:
1. Reassess the goal. Is it reasonable? Is it worth the trouble?
2.Identify the specific thing that’s  blocking your success.  Then use a strategy.
3. For parents:

1. Take care of yourself first – 1. Get breaks, get help, etc.  2. Educate yourself thoroughly on the problem     3. Reassess:  Is your goal realistic? Can it be made smaller? 4. Pick your targets  carefully (battles?).  Can you win?  Is it worth it?

Puryear’s  First Principle of Human Behavior:

“When what we’re doing isn’t working, we’ll do more of it.”

Book O the Day:  The Spirituality of Imperfection

Old Quote O the Day:
“They said it couldn’t be done,
but with a smile, I went right to it.
I tackled that thing that ‘couldn’t be done’
and found that I couldn’t do it.”

Links:

Oppositional Defiant Disorder and ADHD— – (I think I had a touch of this.) (ODD)

Adult Onset ADHD? — (I don’t think so.)

More on Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria

ADHD and Frustration go together don’t they?

Other Notes O the Day:

40 % of children with ADHD are said to also have ODD- this looks too high to me?

ODD is extremely hard to parent or to treat.

8% of US children have ADHD.  50% of them “outgrow” it in adolescence.

Thus 4% of US adults have ADHD.

And I’m not good at it.

 

How are your New Years Resolutions Going?

 

Frustrating

 

 

 

 

 

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An Old ADHD Principle — ADHD Tip O the Day 939

For every problem, there’s a solution. The trick is to recognize that it’s a problem in the first place.

Problem: At night I put my glasses and my iphone (with the alarm set) on the bedside table and turn out the light.  The next morning I was fumbling for them in the dark and often knocked them off the table. Twice I stepped on the glasses.  This had been going on for quite a while before I realized – it was A Problem.

Solution: I always put the glasses in the nearest corner of the table and the iphone in the far corner.  Habit now.  No more problem.  But Duh!

Problem: I often needed to wrap tape around a round object.  It frequently got tangled up in itself before I got it on.  Argh!

Solution: Now I start wrapping the tape in the center instead of from one end.  Works great (usually).

Problem: I use a heating pad for my back in my computer chair.  I was always getting tangled up in the cord.

Solution: I used a bulldog clip to hold the cord around a table leg. It’s not pretty but it’s off the floor and out of my way.

Problem: Sometimes when I’ve written about this principle someone thought I was telling them where to put their glasses or how to use tape.  No, I’m using these examples to illustrate the principle, “Once you realize it’s a problem, you can find a solution and your life will get better.  These minor annoyances add up.”

Solution: I’ve just finished explaining it.

doug

Question O the Day:

Can you identify any frustrations in your life that you had not recognized as A Problem?

Obvious Note O the Day: 

Of course it’s not totally true that there’s always a solution, but it’s nearly true, and it’s more effective to believe it.  You’ll recognize more problems and find more soluti

Relevant Note O the Day: Please always scroll down and check the comments. They are very good. And please contribute your own comments. In case you missed it tho, here is my response to a lovely comment:

“ulana
thank you! your comment cheered my day. i hope you may contribute more in the future. i love comments. so pleased that the new book was helpful to you. by the way, i just learned that reviews are allowed on amazon even if you didnt buy the book there, but you must have spent at least $50 on anything on amazon in the past year. i love reviews too.
thank you again and best wishes
doug”

Totally Irrelevant Note O the Day:

At the store, I couldn’t find the butter.  I asked the grocer if he had any.

He said, “Yes, but it’s bitter.”

I said, “ I’ll take it.”

 He said, “Wait. I got a new order yesterday. It’s not quite as off.”

I said, “Well, give me that.”

He said, “It’s a small order.  I can’t give you much.”

I said, “ OK, just give me a bit of the batch of better bitter butter.”

Links:

More on Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria

ADHD and Overwhelmed – Bonnie Mincu

Another version of the same point about problems and solutions

Another ADHD Solution
An ADHD Solution?

Oh My, the problems!

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Venting — ADHD Tip O the Day 938

  1. It’s good for us to vent and get things off our chest occasionally. This works best of course if we have an audience. Thank you for being my audience today.

2. Word has decided to revolt and take control. It changes fonts and spacing at random, anytime it wishes, and often resists my efforts to get it back where it belongs.

3. Facebook blocked my post because someone reported some thing as “abusive”??

4. My printer works fine wirelessly off my phone but it won’t recognize my PC. Or vice versa? My PC also made my photo app vanish and it will not reinstall.


Some days I think technology hates me.

5. I have said this before, but it bears repeating. Our whirlpool refrigerator works fine. The only problem with it is the icemaker/dispenser. The only problem with the icemaker/dispenser is that it is a total piece of crap.

Strategy:

Vent when you need to.

doug

You can’t tell me what to do! (adolescent)
Frustration
frustration

 

 

 

Personal Notes O the Day:

  1. I feel a little guilty whining about these minor issues when so many people are suffering from real problems. For one example, I’m complaining about the ice system when many people have no water. Strategy: try to keep everything in perspective.
  2. I may be be learning how to work around the wordpress “improvements”. Maybe. Seems like sometimes the comments show up at the bottom of a post and sometimes they don’t, at random?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Simplistic Oversimplified Simple Version of the Whole Dadgum Thing — ADHD Tip O the Day 937.5

 

We’ve been reviewing the science of ADHD, so to start the New Year (it’s gotta be better), here’s a summary of the neurobiology (as I understand it).

(If this is old stuff to you, please  just scroll down to Personal Notes and below.)

The neurotransmitters (chemicals like dopamine, norepinephrine, serotonin and glutamate) are made in the cell body and carried down the tube to the end of the axon.

When the cell is stimulated by other cells an electrical impulse goes down the tube and the end of the axon releases the neurotransmitters that affect other cells to activate them or slow them down.

Each axon connects to many cells and each cell receives from many axons.

 The brain is organized into specific regions which seem to have specific functions, such as vision, balance, judgment,etc.  (no function is actually carried out by a single region alone).  These regions are connected to each other to form networks, and specific networks have specific functions, such as consciousness, movement, memory, etc. (again, not really solo).

So problems, symptoms, can be caused by a problem in any part of this system, in a networks, a regions, some neurons or a neurotransmitter, and a problem in any one of these generally affects all of these parts of the system.

The manufacture, location, connections and functioning of the different parts of the system are controlled by our genes.

Personal Notes O the Day:

2. For completeness of the science series, I may do posts on DSM and statistics. Whew!

3. Again please use the comment section to correct my errors or add information, ask questions, or for anything else you please.  I love the comments.

4. Welcome to the new member of the tribe.

Special Note O the Day:

doug

Links:

Neurobiology of ADHD– very comprehensive

Networks – a repeat, with other good links

Neurotransmission

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Update on ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 936.1

2021’s gotta be different!

A good way to start the new year will be to update your knowledge of ADHD.

A key strategy for managing our lives with ADHD is to educate ourselves. We can each become an ADHD expert and without too much effort we can know more about ADHD than most professionals.

I want to share three articles. Here’s the edited summary of the first but I encourage you to read the whole article from the link below (Yes, even if you have ADHD).

The next two articles will be in new posts.

Summary:

(aADHD means Adult ADHD)

Emerging evidence indicates there may be 2 subtypes of aADHD: the first arises in childhood and persists into adulthood and the other occurs only in adulthood. Individuals with aADHD have significant educational, social, and occupational impairments in addition to greater rates of morbidity and mortality. There also appears to be a genetic preponderance for aADHD with moderate heritability. Evidence indicates both neurochemical and neurofunctional impairments among individuals with aADHD involving the dopaminergic and noradrenergic systems and the frontal and parietal cortices. Unfortunately, aADHD is often underdiagnosed as this condition shares many clinical characteristics with common psychiatric illnesses including mood and anxiety disorders. Stimulant medications are the treatment of choice with similar efficacy for the amphetamine and methylphenidate groups. Atomoxetine is the only non-stimulant medication approved for aADHD. CBT has the best evidence among non-pharmacological treatments and is beneficial for those individuals who decline medications or have residual symptoms despite adequate medication trials.

 

Dr Tampi chairman, Department of Psychiatry & Behavioral Sciences, Cleveland Clinic Akron General, Akron, OH; Ms Tampi co-founder and managing principal, Behavioral Health Advisory Group, Princeton, NJ. Dr Elahi  program director, Psychiatry Residency Program, Cleveland Clinic Akron General, Akron, OH;

 

Personal Notes:

  1. I still doubt that adult onset ADHD (a neurodevelopmental disorder) exists, but I will follow the science and try to keep an open mind to any more evidence.
  2. I hope your new year will be so much better than this one.
  3. Your Life Can Be Better, second edition, is just published. In early 2021, I expect to publish another ADHD book , Living Well with ADHD, and my first novel, Alma Means Soul. I’m excited.
  4. I wonder why its a lot harder to find funny new year’s memes than Christmas ones? Makes you think.

doug

 

Link:

ADHD Update

Bonus Links:

Books

Overwhelmed Webinar – Bonnie Mincu

New Strategy – Melissa Melov – not just for marriage

So far.
yeah, right!

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Update on ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 936

A good way to start the new year will be to update your knowledge of ADHD.

A key strategy for managing our lives with ADHD is to educate ourselves. We can each become an ADHD expert and without too much effort we can know more about ADHD than most professionals.

I want to share three articles. Here’s the edited summary of the first but I encourage you to read the whole article from the link below (Yes, even if you have ADHD).

The next two articles will be in new posts.

Summary:

(aADHD means Adult ADHD)

Emerging evidence indicates there may be 2 subtypes of aADHD: the first arises in childhood and persists into adulthood and the other occurs only in adulthood. Individuals with aADHD have significant educational, social, and occupational impairments in addition to greater rates of morbidity and mortality. There also appears to be a genetic preponderance for aADHD with moderate heritability. Evidence indicates both neurochemical and neurofunctional impairments among individuals with aADHD involving the dopaminergic and noradrenergic systems and the frontal and parietal cortices. Unfortunately, aADHD is often underdiagnosed as this condition shares many clinical characteristics with common psychiatric illnesses including mood and anxiety disorders. Stimulant medications are the treatment of choice with similar efficacy for the amphetamine and methylphenidate groups. Atomoxetine is the only non-stimulant medication approved for aADHD. CBT has the best evidence among non-pharmacological treatments and is beneficial for those individuals who decline medications or have residual symptoms despite adequate medication trials.

 

Dr Tampi chairman, Department of Psychiatry & Behavioral Sciences, Cleveland Clinic Akron General, Akron, OH; Ms Tampi co-founder and managing principal, Behavioral Health Advisory Group, Princeton, NJ. Dr Elahi  program director, Psychiatry Residency Program, Cleveland Clinic Akron General, Akron, OH;

 

Personal Notes:

  1. I still doubt that adult onset ADHD (a neurodevelopmental disorder) exists, but I will follow the science and try to keep an open mind to any more evidence.
  2. I hope your new year will be so much better than this one.
  3. I wonder why its a lot harder to find funny new year’s memes than Christmas ones? Makes you think.

doug

Link:

Nearly Everything About ADHD

Bonus Links:

Overwhelmed webinar- Bonnie Mincu

New Strategy — Melissa Orlov (not just for marriage)

 

2021’s gotta be different!
So far.
yeah, right!

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Overindulge? With ADHD? — ADHD Tip O the Day 935

With ADHD, we are at risk.

I hope you don’t overindulge over the holidays. All you need to do is use your willpower, self-control, and judgment. Assuming you have some. Not all of us do.

My wife makes wonderful cookies.  And pies. Our friends and neighbors give us good eats.  Oh my.   And there’s parties.  And even with the virus, I’ll admit we have some booze at home and there still is a lot to celebrate.

If I can’t see it, it doesn’t exist.  If I can see it, I’ll eat it. (The first part doesn’t necessarily apply to sweets. If someone hides them I can usually find them.)

Strategies:
1. I tend to over drink at parties, especially if the booze is free. I make a rule before I go: one drink, water, one drink, water. Works pretty well, most of the time.

2. Keep reminding myself that it’s much easier to put weight on than it is to get it off.  This strategy rarely has any effect.

NOTICE: There has been a change for this year. The New Year, 2021, does not start until Jan 20. Please make a note of this change.

Jokes O the Day:

One margarita is never enough.
Two margaritas is too many.
Three margaritas is never enough.

       Courtesy of my late friend and mentor, Bo Kemp 

I said, “It doesn’t matter how many times you fall.  What matters is that you keep getting up.”
He said,“That’s not how a sobriety test works.”

She said, “You’re staggering.”
I said, “You’re pretty cute yourself.”
We laughed and laughed and laughed.
I need bail money.

Freak them out.
Too much?

Were you naughty?
Did you call the cops?

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An ADHD Christmas, et al — ADHD Tip O the Day 934

‘Tis the season to be jolly
Fa La La La La etc. etc.

Bah! Humbug. Even with ADHD?

The holiday season is very stressful for many if not most people (family? shopping?), but more so for us.  We’re supposed to be happy,  but if we’re not “jolly“, we may feel  there’s something wrong with us. Well, there isn’t, not about that anyway. Blame it on the culture.

I have a bad track record on Christmas presents for my wife. I’ve usually been able to get her a really nice present, but often the timing is off. “You mean it’s two days before Christmas already?”

This time I had one of my best ideas ever. My wife is from Louisville, likes horses and the Derby. I found I could buy a micro share in a racehorse very cheap.   But I needed to wait till Christmas morning so she could pick the horse. Unlike my usual foul up, I started this way early.

When I checked recently, suddenly they were sold out of horses and the prices had shot way up. Boogers.

Then  fortunately I checked later and found a place that would work. But for my wife to own  the (microshare) horse, I had to put it in her name, and they required all kinds of personal financial information. So I had to blow the secret and discuss it with her, and we decided it just wasn’t safe.

No horse.

So I got a couple other presents, in time.Trying to find where I hid them is near the top of my to do list now.

Strategies:

  1. Shop early, real early.  I use several calendars and my appointment book to try to stay located in time –  know what I mean?

     2. When you hide presents, make a note of where.

Personal Notes:

1. A big welcome to our new members.
2. Books make a wonderful Christmas or Hanukkah present, don’t they?  Just saying. 

3. Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah, Great Kwanza, etc.  to all the tribe.  

doug

 

Christmas is coming, even if you got ADHD.
Its hard to be good with ADHD. That’s my excuse.

Just forget it!
Good Riddance

Link to books

Have You Heard? Christmas Is Coming

Dates coming up- from Shannon

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An ADHD Christmas, et al — ADHD Tip O the Day 934.1

‘Tis the season to be jolly
Fa La La La La etc. etc.

Bah! Humbug. Even with ADHD?

The holiday season is very stressful for many if not most people (family? shopping?), but more so for us.  We’re supposed to be happy,  but if we’re not “jolly“, we may feel  there’s something wrong with us. Well, it’s not. Blame it on the culture.

I have a bad track record on Christmas presents for my wife. I’ve usually been able to get her a really nice present, but often the timing is off. “You mean it’s two days before Christmas already?”

This time I had one of my best ideas ever. My wife is from Louisville, likes horses and the Derby. I found I could buy a micro share in a racehorse very cheap.   But I needed to wait till Christmas morning so she could pick the horse. Unlike my usual Fowler, I started this way early.

When I checked recently, suddenly they were sold out of horses and and the prices had shot way up. Boogers.

Then  fortunately I checked later and found a place that would work. But for my wife to own it the (microshare) horse, I had to put it in her name, and they required all kinds of personal financial information. So I had to blow the secret and discuss it with her, and we decided it just wasn’t safe.

No horse.

So I got a couple other presents, in time.Trying to find where I hid them is near the top of my to do list now.

Strategies:

  1. Shop early, real early.  I use several calendars and my appointment book to try to stay located in time- know what I mean?

     2. When you hide presents, make a note of where.

Personal Notes:

1. A big welcome to our new members.
2. Books make a wonderful Christmas or Hanukkah present, don’t they?  Just saying.     3. Struggling with getting book covers right.  It ain’t easy.

4.  Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah, Great Kwanza, etc.  to all the tribe.  

doug

 

Christmas is coming, even if you got ADHD.
Its hard to be good with ADHD. That’s my excuse.

Just forget it!

Link to books

Have You Heard? Christmas Is Coming

Dates coming up- from Shannon

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“Science Says —” ADHD Tip O the Day 933

“Science says–.”

What does that even mean?

That means that there have been more than one or two studies supporting this hypothesis and the original findings have been replicated by other scientists in other places. The studies have been reviewed by experts in the field who agree that the studies were well designed and the results valid.  Then the  results have been published in reputable scientific journals.  Thus the findings are substantiated by data and evidence and the majority of scientists agree with the findings. 

So, “Science says —.”

 Notes O the Day:

  1. Most scientists have a PhD in their field and do research.
  2. Many MDs, not nearly the majority, are scientists, and some have a Phd also.
  3. I have done a little research and kind of think of myself a little as a scientist because I think in the scientific method.  I am not a researcher.
  4. There are some people without this education or experience  who believe that their opinions are more valid than those of the scientists.
  5. There is a cultural move towards anti science, anti intellectualism, anti experts, and  anti “elitism.”  This is often accompanied by bitterness and conspiracy theories and frequently by a sense of superiority.
  6. Science says that ADHD is a neurodevelopmental disorder. This is supported by brain imaging and other studies, ie by data and evidence.
  7. Science is not perfect.  That’s a topic for another post.

Strategies:

  1. If someone voices an opinion on something, see if they have evidence or data or a reliable source to base it on.
  2. It is rarely worth the time or effort to try to change someone’s mind about something.
  3. It is best to minimize time around toxic people.

doug

Quote O the Day:

“I respect your right to your opinions,

though they may sound like the ravings of a madman.”

Old Spanish saying

Links:

The Scientific Method

The Scientific Method- Extensive Article

Brain Imaging

Our ADHD Brains Are Different
You think WHAT about ADHD?
You can’t tell me what to do! (adolescent)
Really??

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“Science Says —” ADHD Tip O the Day 933.1

“Science says–.”

What does that even mean?

That means that there have been more than one or two studies supporting this hypothesis and the original findings have been replicated by other scientists in other places. The studies have been reviewed by experts in the field who agree that the studies were well designed and the results valid.  Then the  results have been published in reputable scientific journals.  Thus the findings are substantiated by data and evidence and the majority of scientists agree with the findings. 

So, “Science says —.”

 Notes O the Day:

  1. Most scientists have a PhD in their field and do research.
  2. Many MDs, not nearly the majority, are scientists, and some have a Phd also.
  3. I have done a little research and kind of think of myself a little as a scientist because I think in the scientific method.  I am not a researcher.
  4. There are some people without this education or experience  who believe that their opinions are more valid than those of the scientists.
  5. There is a cultural move towards anti science, anti intellectualism, anti experts, and  anti “elitism.”  This is often accompanied by bitterness and conspiracy theories and frequently by a sense of superiority.
  6. Science says that ADHD is a neurodevelopmental disorder. This is supported by brain imaging and other studies, ie by data and evidence.
  7. Science is not perfect.  That’s a topic for another post.

Strategies:

  1. If someone voices an opinion on something, see if they have evidence or data or a reliable source to base it on.
  2. It is rarely worth the time or effort to try to change someone’s mind about something.
  3. It is best to minimize time around toxic people.

doug

Quote O the Day:

“I respect your right to your opinions,

though they may sound like the ravings of a madman.”

Old Spanish saying

Links:

The Scientific Method

The Scientific Method- Extensive Article

Brain Imaging

 

Sorry about laughing at your ideas, but I actually know what ADHD is.
Controversies,research,science,theories,causes,dysfunctions, symptoms,causes of ADHD,symptoms of ADHD,denial of ADHD
What is it really, ADHD?

Our ADHD Brains Are Different. Surprise!

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Link to Books:

Amazon print or e book

Smashwords e books only

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Stress and ADHD — ADHD Tip O the Day 932.5

Stress and ADHD go together- a lot.

With our ADHD, we experience a lot of stress. Stress is damaging to our brains, our functioning and productivity, and our souls. When it interferes with our functioning, it creates more stress, a damaging feedback loop.

We screw up, make people mad at us, procrastinate, struggle with to do lists and deadlines, and on and on. And of course, this virus mess isn’t helping much.

So we need strategies to cope with stress:

Exercise. Get out of doors (at the moment, we’re on quarantine so this isn’t an option). Meditate (this is hard to do, but do a simple form and don’t judge how you do. Just do what you can and it will be worth it. You need to do it daily for it to work, probably takes a while.) Talk to someone. Music. Journal. Do something productive (just get something done, probably something small and easy. It’ll make you feel better.) Use relaxation tools (There are a multitude of these, and they do help. You need to know which ones work for you.)

I like breathing techniques and use several of them. Here’s the simplest:

Breathe in for a count of six, hold your breath for two, breath out for four, hold for two, breathe in for six, etc. Do this for as long as you wish. It doesn’t require a particular posture or anything and you can do it in any situation. (It’s really nice if someone is starting to annoy you).

More Complex Breathing Techniques I Use:

Same as the 6-2-4-2 above, but I breathe in what I want (compassion, equanimity, patience, for example) and expel what I want to get rid of ( irritation, impatience, resentment, for example).

I Use Also:

Alternate nostrils. Three deep breaths.

There are many other breathing techniques. Find what works for you.

doug

Quote O the Day:

“When I said it can’t get much worse, I didn’t mean it as a challenge.”

Extra Notes O the Day:

Diagnosable anxiety disorders are a frequent accompaniment of ADHD, but so is just plain anxiety, which of course is a traveling partner of stress and also further hampers our functioning.

Struggling with books: Your Life Can Be Better, Second edition I think is set up on Amazon and Smashwords, paperback and kindle. Looks a little funky. Alma is one third thru her fourteenth draft, and surprisingly will need a fifteenth since there were a lot more typos and editorial changes than I expected – amazing how messed up it can be even after thirteen drafts. It’s gonna be good. Working on getting The Bully up on Smashwords, difficult. Then, then will revise 365 Tips O the Day. Someday.

The Books Amazon The Books Smashwords

I’ve been asked how I manage to cope with the pandemic. Well, I prefer a blended scotch, but vodka will do.

Links:

Relaxation Tools

More Tools

A Few Breathing Techniques

Stress

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Sometimes its too much
People are annoying.
People!!

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