Late ADHD diagnosis
I got a message from someone recently diagnosed with ADHD. They were struggling with anger that they had been diagnosed late, and thinking how much better their life could’ve been if diagnosed sooner. They asked how I handled the anger when I was diagnosed. (That was at 64, by the way). Here is my response:
Anon -I didn’t have much anger. I was so relieved and excited to get the diagnosis and to finally make sense of all the problems I’d been struggling with, and I jumped into strategies right away.
I did have a little mourning and regret, but briefly and not much. I have seen this response with many psychotherapy patients – when they get better, there is relief and joy, but often it is briefly overwhelmed by the sense of loss and regret at how things might have been. Yet, could things have really been that way, or did they have to go through their stuff to get where they got?
If you get seriously stuck and feel bogged down with the anger and regret, then I would recommend therapy or counseling, with someone who clearly understands ADHD. But if it’s not so bad, I’d suggest focusing on strategies plus learning everything you can about ADHD.
Glad you got the diagnosis. Your future is brighter and your life can be better.
(maybe more on this later)
“My brain is a giant garbage pit, with some good stuff buried in it. As the wind blows over it, constantly shifting the garbage, occasionally it uncovers, however briefly, something of value.”
Question O the Day:
When did you get diagnosed and what was your reaction?
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