Mother’s Day and ADHD, or, Living with an ADHDer —ADD Tip O the Day 715

With ADHD, Nothing Is Easy

Hope you had a great Mother’s Day, whether you’re a mother or not.  You deserve it.

I took Martha, the mother of my kids, and Laura, the mother of my grandson, to a nice restaurant.  I had remembered to make reservations, had the right day and right time, didn’t knock anything over or get any food on my clothes.  I got Martha a nice card, which went over well, even though I had neglected to pick up the envelope for it.

Overall,  it was more pleasant than frustrating. That’s an accomplishment with ADHD, isn’t it?

Strategy:

Recognize that we are hard to live with and try to remember to do things to compensate for it.

doug

Link:

from June Silny  It’s hard when you love someone with ADHD

Bonus Link:

from Jacinta – Harmful myths we have about vanillas

@addstrategies  #adhd  #add  @dougmkpdp

Note:

For what it’s worth, I had invited Martha to tomorrow’s “concert” that I’m playing in Monday. But I had told her it was on Tuesday.  See what I mean?

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Trying to juggle it all with ADHD.

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About doug with ADHD

I am a psychiatric physician. I learned I have ADHD at age 64, and then wrote two ADHD books for adults, focusing on strategies for making your life better. Your Life Can Be Better; strategies for adults with ADD/ADHD available at amazon.com, or smashwords.com (for e books) Living Daily With Adult ADD or ADHD: 365 Tips O the Day ( e-book). This is one tip at a time, one page at a time, at your own pace. It's meant to last a year. As a child, I was a bully. Then there was a transformation. Now I am committed to helping people instead abusing them. The Bully was published in January, 2016. It's in print or e book, on Amazon.
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2 Responses to Mother’s Day and ADHD, or, Living with an ADHDer —ADD Tip O the Day 715

  1. Jeff says:

    Hi Doug. You may not realize how LUCKY you are to have Martha for a wife! (hear that Martha?) She appears to be somewhat understanding about your ADD. My wife is NOT! Today I had an appointment to take the car in for an oil change, but was running 5 min late due to an important phone call. Seconds after getting on the freeway I realized I took the wrong ramp, which took me in the opposite direction from the car dealer – meaning I would NOW be 20-25 min late! I asked my wife to call the dealer and inform them that I’d be late, and WOW did she lay into me! I’m not allowed to make mistakes! But, apparently, what’s good for the goose is not good for the gander. Turns out only SHE is allowed to make mistakes! And, when SHE makes a mistake, I just attempt to help her feel better! Unfortunately for ME, she gets angry at me upon learning of my mistake (she would prefer if I was perfect), and proceeds to crucify me!!! Jeff

    PS I didn’t see any replies to your recent posts about bullying. Is it too late to write a reply?
    PSS I see her angry at my ADD-caused mistakes as a form of bullying. Do you agree?

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    • The Bully says:

      jeff-yes, I am very lucky. I make a lot mistakes, and she does get frustrated, but rarely nasty. It is hard for anyone without ADHD to understand it, and hard to put up with it, even if they do understand.
      I do try to be supportive of her mistakes, but often my efforts seem just to annoy her. Of course, when I was commenting, “could happen to anyone.” She may have thought she detected a wee tiny bit of sarcasm there. Maybe I can find a new approach.
      You may need a strategy for dealing with the crucifying- that is not helpful at all.
      It is never too late to reply to a post, and I would appreciate it.
      I believe I will pass on your last question.
      Thank you for contributing
      Doug

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