Four Great ADHD Tips, Number Three — ADHD Tip O the Day 707

ADHD Vocabulary:

I highly recommend editing your vocabulary and eliminating the words “should” and “have to.”  As soon as we say one of these bad words to ourselves, we develop automatic unconscious resistance to doing the task. We really don’t need anything to foster our procrastination.

An ADHD Strategy:

I have recommended saying, “need to” or, “it would be good for me to.”

A Better ADHD strategy:

But this approach, of being determined to eliminate the bad words, often leads to awkward sentence construction. I recently ran across a better approach.  Eliminate the bad words, “should” and “have to,” and substitute  “I get to.”  This changes the whole thing.

I get to carry out the garbage. I get to pay my bills. I get to write tomorrow’s blog.

It’s a positive outlook. Your life will be better.

Doug

Questions O Question the Day:

Can you tell me where I saw this “get to” strategy, so I can give credit?

Can you tell me how I can get the pictures to be side-by-side on Facebook?

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 Bonus Links:

More on “have to”

Procrastination

 

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With ADHD, we don’t usually start easily – unless it’s impulsive, of course.

 

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About doug with ADHD

I am a psychiatric physician. I learned I have ADHD at age 64, and then wrote two ADHD books for adults, focusing on strategies for making your life better. Your Life Can Be Better; strategies for adults with ADD/ADHD available at amazon.com, or smashwords.com (for e books) Living Daily With Adult ADD or ADHD: 365 Tips O the Day ( e-book). This is one tip at a time, one page at a time, at your own pace. It's meant to last a year. As a child, I was a bully. Then there was a transformation. Now I am committed to helping people instead abusing them. The Bully was published in January, 2016. It's in print or e book, on Amazon.
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18 Responses to Four Great ADHD Tips, Number Three — ADHD Tip O the Day 707

  1. rammkatze says:

    As someone who was raised by a ton of negative reinforcement – and deals with a lot of it at work, I find it hard to focus on language – and turn it completely around, for that matter. I think it mostly depends on the amount of information you have to deal with. If someone tells me “Don’t do it this way, because then ‘that’ happens and that’s not good” I usually respond pretty well to it. If someone tells me “Do it this way because it’s prettier” and they say it 10 times in the space of 10 minutes, my patience is shot to hell! I try to keep negativity in my vocabulary in small amounts, although I do realize the helpfulness of being positive most of the time.

    And this blog certainly was a turning point for me, I have to say. Recently I’ve found that in bad situations, even though my knee-jerk reaction is still negativity, it comes to me naturally to thing “but still, it’s so great that…”

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  2. Reblogged this on ADHD Just Like Me and commented:
    This is a super awesome idea, and super important to do when it comes to managing your day-to-day life with ADHD. Give it a quick read, I promise you won’t regret it!

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  3. This is awesome! I read a study once in college that our brain can’t process/remember tasks that we use “negative” words to describe. I’ve never heard of/tried using the words “I get to” before. I am definitely going to try it. Thank you so much for sharing!

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  4. Beverly Grabow says:

    Who is sending these out.?

    On Mon, Apr 11, 2016 at 2:57 PM, ADDadultstrategies wrote:

    > The Bully posted: “ADHD Vocabulary: I highly recommend editing your > vocabulary and eliminating the words “should” and “have to.” As soon as we > say one of these bad words to ourselves, we develop automatic unconscious > resistance to doing the task. We really don’t need an” >

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