Sometimes I talk to myself out loud, sometimes just inside my head.
“You need to call Verizon.”
I don’t want to call Verizon.
“You need to call Verizon anyway.”
It probably won’t do any good.
“You need to try.”
OK. Let me do one game of free cell first.
“You’ll have plenty of time to play free cell while you’re on hold. Aren’t you always bragging about multitasking?”
No. Anyway, this conversation would make a good blog post. Let me get it down before I forget it.
—- to be continued. How will it turn out?
Does this sound familiar to anyone?
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Oh, yes! I talk to myself constantly.
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homey – yes.
isn’t it helpful?
“now doug, remember to thank homey and then to clik the notify button and then to move the comment to the comment box. that’s good, you’ve replied, now move on, don’t just keep going on and on more than necessary. but be sure to proof read before you clik post, you nearly forgot, and you know what can happen.”
thanks, homey
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It does sound familiar. But “the voice” in me is usually very mean – like a bullying popular girl trying to put me down (had a couple of those in my teens). It sometimes becomes very tiresome to the point of tears because I’m very aware that that negative voice isn’t my real voice – it isn’t anyone’s voice – and it’s false false false. I talk back to it (usually “that’s not true, you’re just upset!”) too. Sometimes it’s mild dialoges like yours. When I’m in a particular good mood, I end up bullying the negative voice back and get a chuckle out of it. 😉
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RAM- that is a lousy voice. Good for you recognize that it’s false. Do you know where it comes from? was it somebody in your childhood before your teens or was it that popular girl? (I know it’s not somebody,, but maybe the ideas came from somebody originally?)
anyway, bullying it back sounds good. Tell it to go take a flying leap.
Our negative self talk is so destructive, we need ways to deal with it
thank you for sharing.
Doug
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Oh I know exactly where it comes from! My mom and a two of my sisters (I have many). They allways put me down and called it “helping”. Like then I was 10 and wanted to do ballet and one of them said “You’re too old already, give it up” or when I was 12 and was so impressed by the flexibility of another girl and told it to my sis and how I wanted to join gymnastics and got a “just because she can do it doesn’t mean you can” back. Sheesh… 😐 It’s a rough struggle to figure out if it’s what I’m thinking is some bully would or what >I’m< telling myself out of fear, but no matter how tired it makes me, I still feel like I'm winning. 🙂 And as allways, thanks for the tips and support Doug. You're a godsend to me!
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ram – with that kind of helpers, you don’t need any enemies.
glad if i can be of any use.
one thought – maybe write each of those “helpers” a letter, that you will burn not send. so let it rip. then maybe do it again later.
another – can you figure out why each of them was so threatened or jealous or competing with you so you can understand their need to sabotage?
best wishes
doug
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Isn’t this good? Doesn’t it show that you can hold more than one point of view in your working memory?
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vicki
– thank you for the positive spin. I don’t think my working memory has ever received a compliment before
thank you for commenting
doug
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Good Mantra
Sent from my iPhone
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thank you martha
i always appreciate your comments.
love
doug
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